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Speaker 4: But I was a good girl and she was gonna

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Speaker 4: say something about doing it raw.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, go on, Nokay, that's right, I'm going.

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Speaker 4: To behave, I'll be I'll be ho.

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Speaker 1: All right. Shall we get straight into it?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, let's do the damn thing, all right.

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Speaker 1: Dilemma number one. A few weeks ago, my friend group

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Speaker 1: of six went on a girl's weekend away. We rented

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Speaker 1: an airbnb, had wine the usual girls trip vibes. One night,

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Speaker 1: we decided to play one of those anonymous confession gamess.

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Speaker 1: Did jumbody murder No, Where everyone writes something in a

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Speaker 1: notes app and someone reads them out loud. I have

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Speaker 1: never heard of anyone doing this secret meanie game. Most

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Speaker 1: of them were pretty harmless, like bad dates, embarrassing hookups, etc.

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Speaker 1: Then one came up that said something like I hooked

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Speaker 1: up with someone in this group's ex and never told

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Speaker 1: her because I didn't think it would last what The

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Speaker 1: room went very quiet because one of the girls in

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Speaker 1: the group had a pretty serious X last year and

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Speaker 1: that she's still a bit sensitive about. Everyone started asking

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Speaker 1: whose confession it was, and things got awkward pretty fast.

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Speaker 1: Here's the part where I might be the problem.

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Speaker 2: Oh oh would you do?

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Speaker 1: Earlier that night, my best friend had ended me her

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Speaker 1: phone to take some photos, and when I opened it,

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Speaker 1: her notes app was already opened and I saw a

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Speaker 1: draft that was basically the same confession.

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Speaker 5: I didn't Oh my god.

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Speaker 1: I didn't really think much of it at the time,

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Speaker 1: so when everyone started arguing about it, I tried to

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Speaker 1: play it off and continue the game. But apparently I

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Speaker 1: looked suspicious because another friend kept pressing me, asking if

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Speaker 4: Oh no, it was probably written all over a face, But.

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Speaker 1: Have they thought, Oh wait, let me finish, Let me

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Speaker 1: finish I didn't directly say it was my best friend,

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Speaker 1: After that, everyone basically put two and two together and

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Speaker 1: Now the group is kind of divided. Some people are

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Speaker 1: mad at her for hiding the hook up in the

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Speaker 1: feels like I exposed her when I.

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Speaker 5: Should have stayed completely quiet.

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Speaker 1: Technically, I never said it was her, but I also

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Speaker 1: feel like my reaction definitely gave it away. So my

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Speaker 1: dilemma is, do I fully apologize and take the blame

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Speaker 1: hope things calm down. I genuinely didn't mean to blow

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Speaker 1: up the whole trip, and that's basically what happened. Oh

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Speaker 1: my god, Oh my god, come here right now, sit

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Speaker 5: You didn't blow up the trip.

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Speaker 3: No one forced her to submit that anonymous message.

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Speaker 5: The trip she went, she blew up the trip.

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Speaker 3: This has clearly been weighing on her that she was like, Okay,

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Speaker 3: now's my chance to just let it out. Like she

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Speaker 4: Because why else would you put that in there?

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Speaker 5: So did but.

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Speaker 3: Did she so bad for this ship because she's like,

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Speaker 3: it's my fault I ruined the trip.

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Speaker 5: You did not ruin the trip.

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Speaker 1: You did not hook up with your friend's ex, and

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Speaker 4: Go it was Jessica, like.

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Speaker 1: You didn't do anything, and it's not your responsibility to

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Speaker 3: Especially well, yeah, completely, and especially when it's fresh information

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Speaker 1: Well, that's the thing is like if you knew for

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Speaker 5: Still would be like, like if that happened.

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Speaker 1: For us, Like, let's pretend your name is Lily and

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Speaker 1: my name is Poppy, and I know that Lily's hooked

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Speaker 1: up with Gerald. Sorry, then Gerald dated Simo and then

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Speaker 1: I know this, But you decided to go rogue and

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Speaker 3: And also because when you jumped in, you were trying

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Speaker 5: No, it's okay because everyone's being like freaking.

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Speaker 3: The fuck out, and you're saying, because if we were

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Speaker 1: That in there, sorry, I'm rammed. Now you're gonna put

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Speaker 1: don't put it in there.

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Speaker 2: Do you think she put it.

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Speaker 4: In there thinking people would be like ha ha, and

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Speaker 1: What was she hoping that the response would be, I

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Speaker 1: want to know I hooked up with someone in this

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Speaker 3: That maybe they would last like the chick who hooked

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Speaker 1: Yeah, But I'm like, how can you not even read

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Speaker 2: How hurtful?

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Speaker 4: Would that be?

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Speaker 2: Such a cop out? X?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: And like if that was me and a friend was

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Speaker 1: like yeah, I've I packed him or I made out

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Speaker 1: I had no idea that he hooked up with one

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Speaker 1: of my friends. Like wow, I would feel so stupid

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but it's a natural response.

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Speaker 1: Sorry, yeah, dog house to this bitch.

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Speaker 4: Like, you don't need to apologize.

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Speaker 3: I think you could explain your side of the story,

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Speaker 3: but say, look, at the end of the day, it

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Speaker 3: was your choice to put it in, and really I

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Speaker 3: conversation about how you can potentially work forward, like and

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Speaker 3: if you can't, like that's between you two.

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Speaker 1: Imagine imagine sitting there and going, oh, yeah, I wrote

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Speaker 1: in this submission, but then getting mad at someone else.

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Speaker 1: So was she We're just gonna sit there and not

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I feel like she was hoping that they.

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Speaker 1: Was already in her notes app. Did she was she

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Speaker 1: the one that suggested playing the anonymous confession game?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, Secret Meani game, Secret Meani game.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: Was She's like, I have this idea for this shit.

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Speaker 1: Because I'm sitting he going, I ain't never heard of

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Speaker 1: anyone anyone played that game before? Why never played that game?

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Speaker 3: It's like the person at the party who would instigate

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Speaker 3: the spin the bottle and it's like you know that

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Speaker 3: and you're gonna flicker the wrist and hope that it

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Speaker 4: Yeah, Like you're bringing up to play that game because

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Speaker 4: you have an air result mode? Yeah? And is that

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Speaker 3: Either that she wanted to like test the waters and

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Speaker 3: they gonna be like ha ha, like that's crazy or

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Speaker 2: Or was she so plagued with guilt.

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Speaker 4: It she just like had to let it out.

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Speaker 1: It sounds like this game where people like ride in

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Speaker 1: going like most likely to blah blah blah, and then

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Speaker 1: they like point to someone and like, but people can

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Speaker 1: be really mean about it, be like most likely to

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Speaker 1: it's like who wins? Yeah, in that's so true, you know,

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Speaker 1: like who wins when you play games like that? And

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Speaker 1: also like it's supposed to be, like she said, most

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Speaker 1: but like that by confessing that really at the end

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I reckon chat to her, and I also think

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Speaker 3: chat to the other girls.

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Speaker 2: I would say I had no idea.

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Speaker 1: I literally found out ten minutes before the game, and

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Speaker 1: I felt really uncomfortable and I didn't know what to do.

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry if you felt like I wasn't honest with you.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: And she also could explain like she'd seen a draft

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Speaker 3: of a message, but it wasn't clear what it was about,

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Speaker 3: because it's not I don't think the message was like

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Speaker 3: I hooked up with Gerald, like or I don't know specifically,

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Speaker 3: Like it seemed like she was confused when she first

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Speaker 2: She didn't know what it was about. And then when

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Speaker 2: the annon was read.

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Speaker 3: Out, she was like, oh my god, one puss Wina Eagles,

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Speaker 3: you fucked her ex.

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Speaker 4: Crazy.

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Speaker 1: I'm I trying to reread it, being like, is there

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Speaker 1: a detail we missed? And I'm like no, yeah.

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Speaker 5: Because as well. Sorry.

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Speaker 3: But when she's playing it off, going no, no, let's

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Speaker 3: move on, let's move on, I was like, fuck, do

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Speaker 3: they think it was her? That's what I thought, because

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Speaker 3: she's trying to cover for a best friend, which I'm

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Speaker 3: so sorry under the bus you go, I'm.

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Speaker 5: Not getting done dirty.

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Speaker 4: It was poppy, it was poppy.

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Speaker 5: It wasn't poppy, it was Lily No I thought.

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Speaker 1: I was like, does it Simon, there's too many we

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Speaker 1: fucked it.

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Speaker 5: All we know is that Gerald's a dirty dog too.

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Speaker 4: Guy, let's bring Gerald into the chat.

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Speaker 1: You know what?

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Speaker 3: Fuck?

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Speaker 5: Gerald?

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Speaker 4: Can air be and b and invite Gerald and time up.

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Speaker 1: There's actually like a full on horror movie called I

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Speaker 1: think Gerald's Games.

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Speaker 4: Stephen King novel, Yeah like that, and it is.

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Speaker 2: It's like in the woods somewhere.

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Speaker 5: It's got nothing to do with this, but we.

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Speaker 3: Can do a reboot because reboots are really in and

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Speaker 3: it's basedoping a completely different story.

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Speaker 4: Love it okay, Oh.

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Speaker 1: I'm like I just want to hug it because it's like,

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Speaker 1: I genuinely didn't mean to blow up the whole trip.

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Speaker 2: You didn't you did it?

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Speaker 1: The fact that you even left with your best friend

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Speaker 1: early the next day shows how good of a friend

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Speaker 1: you are. Like, I try to really back yourself in

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Speaker 1: this scenario and be like, at the end of the day,

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Speaker 1: I didn't do this. Yeah, Like, I'm sorry you felt

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Speaker 1: and I don't know why you That was the scenario

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Speaker 1: to say you fucked Gerald.

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Speaker 3: Oh my god, ha ha, guess what gave Gerald a gobby?

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Speaker 5: Sorry?

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Speaker 1: What? It's not the time, No, God, simone is upset.

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Speaker 5: I can't remember which one?

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Speaker 2: Okay, which one?

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Speaker 3: Wow?

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Speaker 4: Alrighty shall we move on to dilemma?

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Speaker 1: All right? Would you fuck a guy whose name was Gerald?

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Speaker 2: How hod is he?

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Speaker 4: But his name is Jerald Gerald Styles?

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: If Harry changed his name to.

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Speaker 4: Gerald, Harold and Gerald are actually kind of.

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Speaker 2: Would you?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: Jerry, Yeah, let's rebrand to Jerry.

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Speaker 1: Jerry, Oh, Jerry, Oh yes, Jerry right there.

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Speaker 4: No, it doesn't work anyway.

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Speaker 1: Tried trauma best.

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Speaker 2: I sorry to all the Geralds out there.

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Speaker 1: Someone's cup team, Yeah, exactly, Poppies, there's.

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Speaker 4: A whole world of women waiting for you Gerald.

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Speaker 1: All right, dilema numbers about four women just waiting for

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Speaker 1: their Gerald.

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Speaker 5: I'm just a Gerald standing in front of a Lily

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Speaker 5: Poppy or Jessica asking.

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Speaker 4: Your tailor's oldest time.

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Speaker 5: All right, Donnyhill, reboot, let's go. We've got Gerald's game

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Speaker 5: and nodding Jerry, No.

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Speaker 4: That's about as good as the reboots are these.

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Speaker 5: Oh fuck, okay. Dilema number two.

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Speaker 2: Dilemma number two.

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Speaker 3: So my partner male has just moved out with two

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Speaker 3: other guys. He really gets along well with one of them,

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Speaker 3: who also has a girlfriend. So I was keen for

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Speaker 3: double dates. Obviously, let's call this guy John. They seem

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Speaker 3: the other night says, oh, and by the way, John

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Speaker 3: has a girl staying over.

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Speaker 4: Lol, bit weird.

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Speaker 3: So my immediate reaction is, wait, what is that not

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Speaker 3: So I ask where is she sleeping, knowing they don't

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Speaker 4: John, you dirty dog, there is only one double.

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Speaker 2: Bed in his room.

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Speaker 1: Do I have a blown play on the floor.

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Speaker 3: John, my partner, said, they seem strictly friendly, but they're

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Speaker 3: legit sleeping in the same bed. Is that not so weird?

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Speaker 3: I feel so awkward if I see the girlfriend. What

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Speaker 3: if she doesn't know? I would hate to be in

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Speaker 3: also don't want to put my foot in my mouth

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Speaker 3: and do the wrong thing here. I wish I never

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Speaker 3: got told to be honest.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I feel you.

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Speaker 3: Shit, I do think that is a little bit weird

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Speaker 3: to have, like another woman sleeping in your boyfriend's little

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Speaker 3: consistently little right, somebody's her kill?

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Speaker 5: Pero, there's been a murder.

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 5: Is that how you say his name? I don't know Sherlock.

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Speaker 1: There you go, there's a detective perfect fuck.

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Speaker 4: No, yeah, that's really really weird too.

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Speaker 1: If Chris lived with two other guys and some girl

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Speaker 1: from overseas came and was sleeping bed with him death.

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Speaker 3: Well that's the thing, Like if it was just a

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Speaker 3: friend and it was because no, for me, I would

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Speaker 3: because Chris has a love.

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Speaker 5: Read enough friends to love his books.

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Speaker 1: Okay, no fucking way, You're not sleeping in bed with

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Speaker 1: another girl.

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Speaker 3: No, it was kind of in secret, and it's like

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Speaker 3: an ongoing thing, like why do.

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Speaker 1: You have an exchange student living at your hair girlfriend?

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Speaker 5: No?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it's really really inappropriate.

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Speaker 3: I think you need to put this on your boyfriend

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Speaker 3: to speak to John and be like, hey.

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Speaker 2: John, does your girlfriend know that?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that mate is sleeping in your What if John

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Speaker 1: No, I'm not good at these ones because people are

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Speaker 1: nose where it doesn't belong, Whereas I feel like I am.

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Speaker 5: Not very good at not doing that.

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Speaker 1: And I would be like, yeah, really did you know?

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Speaker 3: Like, because well, do you have a relationship with this

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Speaker 3: girl as well?

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Speaker 2: Like are you guys friends?

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Speaker 3: Now?

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Speaker 1: I know you think you have to work out like

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Speaker 2: Because if you're really.

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Speaker 1: Close and like the boyfriend says, hey, does your girlfriend

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Speaker 1: know that this is happening?

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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: And I feel like you.

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Speaker 1: Could probably float it like be like, oh, have you

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Speaker 1: met insert exchange girl's name here?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: And if she's like oh, not really like bloh and

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Speaker 1: really doesn't seem like she knows anything.

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Speaker 3: I then yeah, try and like press her for more

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Speaker 3: and see how much you knows.

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Speaker 4: I've Yeah, but I probably would say something.

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Speaker 1: I'd probably say something to I just try to know

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Speaker 1: if that's like the right answer.

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Speaker 3: I would just try to get the steps there before

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Speaker 3: immediately jumping in and doing it.

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Speaker 1: Like I think giving people the opportunity to do the

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Speaker 5: Yeah, maybe maybe she's like, oh no, I really know her.

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Speaker 3: Maybe the girl's not even into guys exactly, you know,

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Speaker 3: like maybe the exchange girl isn't like is gay or

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Speaker 3: asexual or whatever, so it's like not weird.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, like that could be the thing there.

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Speaker 1: But yeah, like I think there's there's a big difference

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Speaker 1: it's one hundred percent true. So that's like worth considering

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Speaker 1: as well, Like like what you're saying just because someone

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Speaker 1: might be comfortable with something and someone isn't. You can't

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Speaker 1: rule of thumb as well, because maybe they have had

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Speaker 1: that conversation. But I think it's about like sussing the

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Speaker 1: vibe of whether that has happened. Because if I was

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Speaker 1: I would be very grateful to the person that told me.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly.

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Speaker 3: And that's what I always think, Like, what would I

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Speaker 3: want to know in that scenario? And you'd always want

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Speaker 3: to know the truth.

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Speaker 1: Because the best case scenario is she knows, she's like, wow,

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Speaker 1: what a loyal friend. Yeah, thanks Jessica, And I don't

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Speaker 1: know why every fake scenariojesh cap like that is just yeah,

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Speaker 1: like and then the worst case scenario, she's like what wtf. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: but then she also knows. Yeah, and maybe and you'll

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Speaker 1: probably get in a bit of shit for sticking your

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Speaker 1: nose in it. But at the end of the day,

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Speaker 1: I would think, would I rather be the person that

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Speaker 1: kept a secret from someone that they should have known

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Speaker 1: or the person who probably maybe overstepped a little bit,

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Speaker 1: but I did what I think is the right thing.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, Because like.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's just a bit weird because it's not even

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Speaker 1: like it was like, oh, one time this happens, That's

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Speaker 1: what I'm saying.

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Speaker 3: It's not like, oh, you're on a trip with a

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Speaker 3: group of friends and then like you guys have slept

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Speaker 3: in the same bed one night kind of thing.

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Speaker 2: It's like this.

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Speaker 1: Random personal put a mattress in the living room.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, literally, yeah, get an air mattress, even if she

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Speaker 3: has to sleep in your room, get an air mattress

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Speaker 3: and put it on the floor.

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Speaker 2: Weird vibes.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think it's a good idea of potentially encouraging

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Speaker 1: your boyfriend to talk to John first, though, yeah, being like,

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Speaker 1: hey does blah blah no, because yeah, it does sound

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Speaker 1: like the last season of White Lotus with like there

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Speaker 1: crossing lines. Yeah, and even more complicated because people seem

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Speaker 1: to clock it, but like no one said anything, and

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Speaker 1: so it's just this big thing that's in the air

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Speaker 1: that like gets bigger and bigger and bigger. I always

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Speaker 1: remember this like story book. This is such a niche

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Speaker 1: thing that we got read when I was like in

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Speaker 1: year one. Bear with me, I'm gonna need to try

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Speaker 1: and find it. And it was about this like rock

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Speaker 1: that this kid like keeps pushing around. Yeah, and it's

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Speaker 1: like a ball of mud or something.

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Speaker 2: I think you've told me this story.

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Speaker 1: I told you, And he refuses to let go of

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Speaker 1: this rock. And he keeps pushing it and pushing it

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Speaker 1: and over the book, it becomes this giant boulder that

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Speaker 1: he has to keep pushing and pushing around because he

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Speaker 1: refuses to like let go of it, and it then

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Speaker 1: becomes such a burden to him of something that was

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Speaker 1: small that refusing to do anything about it or let

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Speaker 1: go of it resulted in this weight that I'm like,

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Speaker 1: this sounds super deep for year Wine, by the way,

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Speaker 1: but this was the law of Lisid. I like, as

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Speaker 1: children's books have so much of that, this just reminds

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Speaker 1: me of that that It's like, you know, maybe at

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Speaker 1: the moment it's just this small thing of an exchange

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Speaker 1: student and there's nothing that deep to it. But you know,

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Speaker 1: the more that maybe this behavior happens, like is it

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Speaker 1: going to become that bolder? But that becomes this really

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Speaker 1: uncomfortable thing.

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Speaker 2: Yeah exactly, And that's not your burden.

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Speaker 1: No I toting like I wish I was never told ignorances.

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Speaker 2: Will say, yeah, well that is a rap.

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Speaker 4: That is a wrap.

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Speaker 2: Thanks so much today's chicks.

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Speaker 1: Chat pleasure, as I feel like we potentially dropped the

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Speaker 1: ball in that last one, but your writing was too funny.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, so ten out of ten.

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