Speaker 1: Apodhake Production. Welcome back to another episode of Am I
Speaker 1: A Bad Mom?
Speaker 2: Podcast?
Speaker 1: Oh something happened the other day and I was like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, I'm causing my kids trauma. I know,
Speaker 1: we talk about that word all the time, like we've
Speaker 1: all got it, we're all causing it, We've all had
Speaker 1: it from our parents and all the rest of it.
Speaker 1: But we were having a go at Holly because she
Speaker 1: goes to bed really late. And I know she doesn't
Speaker 1: have school at the moment, but still I'm finding she
Speaker 1: will go to bed really really late, and then she's
Speaker 1: tired the next day, and then she sleeps in too
Speaker 1: long and then she misses the day. Like It's like
Speaker 1: you go from one extreme to the other as parents,
Speaker 1: like you go from really really early rises, yes, kids
Speaker 1: waking up super early in the morning, and then putting
Speaker 1: them to bed early, and then it goes to the
Speaker 1: other extreme where they just want to be night hours.
Speaker 1: They want to be up until Honestly, if we let her,
Speaker 1: she would god knows what time she would go to bed. Anyway,
Speaker 1: We'll tell her her off. She's tired the next day,
Speaker 1: what time did you go to bed? Like we woke
Speaker 1: up in the morning after we'd gone to bed and
Speaker 1: all of a sudden, you've got nail polish on, and.
Speaker 2: She's been up all night.
Speaker 1: She's been up doing stuff in her bedroom all night.
Speaker 1: And she then turns around and go, no, I did
Speaker 1: go to bed, And she's like arguing it because that's
Speaker 1: what teenagers do. Jay turned around and went, no, you didn't.
Speaker 1: I know that because we've got a camera in your room.
Speaker 2: We don't.
Speaker 1: Have a camera in her room. She turns around and goes, well,
Speaker 1: I've got a camera in your room. Jay, quick off
Speaker 1: the beat, goes, oh really, you don't want to see
Speaker 1: what happens in there.
Speaker 2: No, Oh my gosh, I knew that he was going
Speaker 2: to say that.
Speaker 1: She was absolutely disgusted. I was like, oh my god,
Speaker 1: why would you say that? Horrified?
Speaker 2: Yeah, she's horrified.
Speaker 3: Now she's like, oh my gosh, even having that thought remotely.
Speaker 2: Crossed my mind. At that age, you're like, oh, that
Speaker 2: is just horrid. Yeah, oh my gosh, Jay, parenting I know.
Speaker 1: And I take around today and when you wish that
Speaker 1: happened to.
Speaker 3: Am I a bad mum for almost drowning my kids?
Speaker 1: Oh my goodness.
Speaker 3: It was actually a sibling sort of altercation between myself
Speaker 3: and my brother and we all go when we were
Speaker 3: all carrying on, it's all fun until someone takes it
Speaker 3: too far. Yeah, and you've always got that one sibling
Speaker 3: that's just going to push the little envelope a little
Speaker 3: bit too, like not too far.
Speaker 2: Don't get me wrong. I was having a good go too.
Speaker 3: But you forget when you're in such playful state, eat
Speaker 3: with your siblings, or you know, like in the swimming
Speaker 3: pool and everyone's having fun and you're like sun and
Speaker 3: all the rest. We hadn't even been drinking, so don't
Speaker 3: worry about that. And my brother's like after me, right,
Speaker 3: and he's just trying to literally drown me.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's funny. How you go back to being like
Speaker 1: ten again?
Speaker 2: And I did. I had moments of flashbacks going.
Speaker 3: I remember at the swimming pool when we as kids
Speaker 3: at ten, when my brother still tried to drown me,
Speaker 3: but it was much deeper.
Speaker 1: Still to this day, my step brother and I as
Speaker 1: kids would do headstand competitions. Oh yeah, and every time
Speaker 1: we'd get together, it'd be like who does the best
Speaker 1: headstand for longer? And I like to think that I
Speaker 1: was always the winner. But to this day as adults
Speaker 1: we catch up. I go, how's your headstands? And I'll
Speaker 1: do one. So I'll just do one.
Speaker 2: Because I want to show off.
Speaker 3: I was like, don't even get me started. That's a
Speaker 3: complete side story, but you'd be impressed. There was a
Speaker 3: little bit of that happening Christmas Day night. There was
Speaker 3: a few parents trying to do headstands and it was
Speaker 3: a horrible, horrible steak.
Speaker 2: To be in.
Speaker 3: But yeah, my brother was just trying to drown me,
Speaker 3: literally grabbing my leg like you know when you're on
Speaker 3: one leg and you're hopping in the pool, you're trying
Speaker 3: to stay afloat, and he's just like literally getting one
Speaker 3: leg and just drowning me.
Speaker 1: So then the kids seeing so watch it. It looks
Speaker 1: like his daughter my two and they're laughing.
Speaker 2: They think we're all having the best of types.
Speaker 3: Like genuinely, at one stage, I was like, bro, you
Speaker 3: have to stop because I'm actually drowning. And then all
Speaker 3: of a sudden I turn around and they're doing the
Speaker 3: same thing each other, trying to d yep there after
Speaker 3: each other.
Speaker 2: They think it's a game.
Speaker 3: Now we're all inclusive, and you're going, I'm not drowning
Speaker 3: you I'm not going to pick you up by one
Speaker 3: leg and put you under the water.
Speaker 2: You're my child.
Speaker 3: Like as much as I really you know, some days
Speaker 3: probably feel deep down that I'll definitely give it a
Speaker 3: good go. I was like, no, I'm not doing that,
Speaker 3: and they're like, come on, why you're not doing it?
Speaker 2: Uncle Jay, just do that to you. And I was like,
Speaker 2: that does not mean it's okay. Like I don't want
Speaker 2: anyone to do it.
Speaker 3: I'm in the swimming pool, like I haven't got time
Speaker 3: to move house right now, so just I'm not having
Speaker 3: anyone drowned in the swimming pool.
Speaker 2: Please time to move.
Speaker 1: House right now. First thought, if someone drowns in your pool, you.
Speaker 2: Have to have your house. Can't live there anymore.
Speaker 1: We had a birthday party once when the girls were
Speaker 1: about three. It was chaos, yah, a pool party. So
Speaker 1: they had all of these kids and I just said
Speaker 1: to the parents, please just watch your own kids, watch
Speaker 1: your own child, so that I know there's eyes on
Speaker 1: all of them. This little boy in the pool we
Speaker 1: had like the floaties and stuff out, he had got
Speaker 1: caught under the inflatable. This is quite traumatic because it
Speaker 1: was such a non event, like he wasn't thrashing around, splashing,
Speaker 1: It wasn't this great big deal. It was just this
Speaker 1: really quiet and until one of the dads went in
Speaker 1: in his jeans into the pool and grabbed him. We
Speaker 1: were like, fuck, all the kids were just having fun.
Speaker 1: There was no drama anyway. It was so quiet the
Speaker 1: way he was just under it and couldn't get out.
Speaker 3: So we did exactly the same thing, exact same situation
Speaker 3: one of them.
Speaker 2: But I was like, Lisa, you didn't have to move house.
Speaker 1: Else.
Speaker 3: But yeah, I did exactly the same thing. One of
Speaker 3: the girls. It was their birthday party. Invited they wanted
Speaker 3: a pool party, and you think at the time, that's easy.
Speaker 3: Don't have to go and battle indoor play centers and
Speaker 3: all that stuff. So my whole thing was if you
Speaker 3: were bringing your child along, you just have to watch them. Yeah,
Speaker 3: if your child enters that water, you have to be
Speaker 3: in the pool area and watching them. I'm not responsible
Speaker 3: for other people's children that can't swim or can swim
Speaker 3: or anything, because they might be the most comfortable, strongest swimmer,
Speaker 3: and if someone's sitting on that floating it just makes
Speaker 3: me so Yeah. I was always the same because we
Speaker 3: had a few near run ins like that where I
Speaker 3: was like, no, pool parties no longer exist at this
Speaker 3: and then stressful, Yeah, I know, but now they're bigger,
Speaker 3: they just I do more stressful stupid things. And this
Speaker 3: takes me back to like, you know, almost wanting to
Speaker 3: drown them. It's like every time I turn around, they're
Speaker 3: just trying to do backflips.
Speaker 2: And I was like, why are you doing that?
Speaker 3: Stop doing that.
Speaker 2: Don't do that. That's just stupid. You're going to take
Speaker 2: your face off, You're going to hit your head on side.
Speaker 2: I've got time to go to the hospital.
Speaker 3: I don't know what you're doing tonight, but I'm not
Speaker 3: at the hospital, and.
Speaker 1: I haven't got time to go to the hospital because
Speaker 1: I'm drowning my brother in the pool.
Speaker 2: Or getting drowned by my brother in the rule.
Speaker 3: And you shouldn't be watching because now you think you
Speaker 3: should do that to your other siblings. And then you know,
Speaker 3: Elsie comes in and that's that three seconds that you
Speaker 3: just stop watching or stop fussing or stop and then
Speaker 3: she comes in and she's like, mom, I've just and
Speaker 3: I looked at her and I was like how, And
Speaker 3: she's scun all there all the skin often nose on.
Speaker 2: The bridge of the step. She was like, I don't know,
Speaker 2: I just wasn't watching. I said, it's stop doing the backflip.
Speaker 1: Stop stop doing the backflips, but also stop watching me
Speaker 1: in the pool. Yeah, getting drowned by my brother.
Speaker 2: Babe, I tried to.
Speaker 3: This is so embarrassing, but I'm going to say it anyway.
Speaker 3: This is just absolutely going back on everything I've just said.
Speaker 3: But I was in the pool with my two it
Speaker 3: was just the three of us, and I could watch
Speaker 3: Elsie and she was trying to do backflips, and because
Speaker 3: I was there, I felt safe, so I was watching her.
Speaker 3: It wasn't anywhere that was of danger, and I was
Speaker 3: sort of going, you need to push out more from
Speaker 3: the side so that you're not even close to the edge.
Speaker 3: You need to do this like little things in my
Speaker 3: head that I remember doing as a kid.
Speaker 2: Katie. I'm giving them tips as to how to do it.
Speaker 2: So then I do, what do you think I do?
Speaker 2: You did it?
Speaker 1: Back?
Speaker 2: I reckon, I can do it. Oh my god. It
Speaker 2: was the biggest.
Speaker 3: Like, the girls laughed so hard at me, and I
Speaker 3: genuinely pride an ego aside a little bit hurt was
Speaker 3: like tears cross. I thought in my head I still
Speaker 3: would look like I did when I was ten doing
Speaker 3: the backflips, but I just literally fucking fell on my back.
Speaker 3: It was so embarrassed backwards, like you watch me and
Speaker 3: like I would be able to do it and.
Speaker 1: You can't get over.
Speaker 2: My body doesn't do it. My body does not do
Speaker 2: that anymore.
Speaker 3: I don't have the flexibility, not that I'm of flexibility cut,
Speaker 3: but I used to be able to do it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and this Katie wasn't even from the edge. This
Speaker 2: was inside the pool, which should mean that I should
Speaker 2: be able to do it, and it should be easier.
Speaker 1: Because you're so much lighter. Yeah, water, what a dick?
Speaker 2: Were you turning? Forty?
Speaker 1: This how embarrassing happens. You can't do backflips anymore. I
Speaker 1: need to stop doing headstands. When I saw a photo
Speaker 1: of me doing a headstand, I was like, wow, you
Speaker 1: know how upside down because of gravity? Jeez, when your
Speaker 1: face drops like that, you look old. My goodness, I
Speaker 1: was so shocked with it upside down. Who ever thought
Speaker 1: that your face would look like that when you do
Speaker 1: a headstand upside down?
Speaker 3: Me?
Speaker 2: Aren't two percent in I like.
Speaker 3: It's kind of those moments where you go, oh wow,
Speaker 3: in my head, I don't look like that I nailed
Speaker 3: that backflip. In my head, I actually look like I'm
Speaker 3: going to the Olympics for backflip, and I actually just
Speaker 3: landed on my back as flat as you can think of.
Speaker 2: Anyway.
Speaker 3: On that note, turning forty this year, I don't need
Speaker 3: to be better at my back flips.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna says, only downhill from here my way.
Speaker 2: We're only going to get better. What is it forty thirty?
Speaker 1: Life begins at forty?
Speaker 2: Life begins at forty. I do believe that, okay, And.
Speaker 1: You know why it begins at forty because forty seems
Speaker 1: to be the age where you realize how fucked up
Speaker 1: you are and start dealing with your traumas that you
Speaker 1: never did in your twenties or thirties.
Speaker 3: Babe, I've been dealing with themiss my late twenties bucket.
Speaker 3: What's another ten years, Let's do it.