WEBVTT - Top food for longevity; scary lube replacements; would you try 'rejection therapy'?

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<v Speaker 1>Hi friends, thank you for tuning into the daily podcast

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<v Speaker 1>and in soul called healthy issh Of course I am

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<v Speaker 1>Felicity Harley and joining us in the hot seat today

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<v Speaker 1>is our fabulous digital editor, Holly Berkeleman, and we are

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<v Speaker 1>talking about the three hottest topics in the health and

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<v Speaker 1>wellness world this week.

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<v Speaker 2>Good day, Holly. How are you No, I'm well, How

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<v Speaker 2>are you well? I'm back.

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<v Speaker 1>I have had a stint hospital, but I'm back.

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<v Speaker 2>Rough so rough.

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<v Speaker 1>Tom slid as well. It was actually quincy, which is

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<v Speaker 1>the worst form. But you know, it's amazing when you're

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<v Speaker 1>actually in the hospital and you just value health so

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<v Speaker 1>much more than ever.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, and you're like, wow, I missed all of the

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<v Speaker 3>days where I could swallow without crying.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yes, And you know what I just I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>I couldn't eat for you know, a couple of days,

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<v Speaker 1>and I just dreamed for the drinks that I could drink,

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<v Speaker 1>like coffee, and I just I craved all these like

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<v Speaker 1>dit cokes and that I don't really drink anymore.

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<v Speaker 2>But it was very bizarre.

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<v Speaker 3>You never realize how lucky you are until suddenly you

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<v Speaker 3>can't swallow for the life of you.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, exactly. Health is good.

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<v Speaker 1>That exact cliche. Well, yeah, thank you, thank you. Nice

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<v Speaker 1>to be back. How are you healthy.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm well, it's my birthday today. Actually, I know, thank you. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>I just thought i'd tell you guys all about have

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<v Speaker 3>a bit of a main moment.

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<v Speaker 2>Go for it. Oh, happy birthday.

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<v Speaker 3>Thank you. I'm like, if I'm working, then I get

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<v Speaker 3>to talk about a bit. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Absolutely, we have to celebrate you exactly.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, Well, let's also celebrate what's been happening on bodyansoult

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<v Speaker 1>dot com dot a you this week, hit us with

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<v Speaker 1>the most intriguing story of the week.

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<v Speaker 3>The most intriguing story is one by contributor Ebony Lee,

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<v Speaker 3>and the headline is five things you should never use

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<v Speaker 3>as loop. Oh no, I know, oh no, indeed, fliss.

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<v Speaker 3>So the reason I found this interesting and intriguing is

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<v Speaker 3>because there are some things on the list that I'm

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<v Speaker 3>so sure that people are still using. So while it's

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<v Speaker 3>like it's an informative but quite an engaging read, it's

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<v Speaker 3>also slightly traumatizing and maybe a good reminder.

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<v Speaker 2>So okay for all, Okay, hit us with some of them.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, so before I tell you the five things, I'm

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<v Speaker 3>actually just gonna say it's quickly. It's we all have

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<v Speaker 3>microbiota in the vagina and it's always keeping its own

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<v Speaker 3>balance down there. That's from gynecologists, is available toura, and

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<v Speaker 3>if you get insert anything external it can cause an imbalance,

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<v Speaker 3>as anyone who's ever had thrush will know. So the

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<v Speaker 3>most shocking one on the list is saliva, which why

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<v Speaker 3>everyone is probably guilty of, which is why we have

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<v Speaker 3>to bring this up.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, why is this the case?

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<v Speaker 3>So it's not a good agent as a lubricant because

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<v Speaker 3>it wears off super quickly and also doesn't bring the

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<v Speaker 3>kind of like easy slidey sensations that are normal lub would,

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<v Speaker 3>so you can get friction, microteres and all sorts of things.

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<v Speaker 3>So while it might be pretty the most convenient thing

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<v Speaker 3>to reach for, it is certainly not the best.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't even know where to respond to that. I

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<v Speaker 1>did love that comment. The easiest thing to reach for anyway,

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<v Speaker 1>carry on.

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<v Speaker 3>Don't use it. Next up, there are a couple here

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<v Speaker 3>that have like similar sort of reasoning. Moisturizers and lotions

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<v Speaker 3>and soaps they upset the vaginal pH and also soaps

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<v Speaker 3>can be quite harsh and very drying, so obviously that's

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<v Speaker 3>not what we want going on down there. I do

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<v Speaker 3>think using moisturizers and lotions is probably more of an

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<v Speaker 3>American thing, which to like grab the lotion. I hate

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<v Speaker 3>that I just said that, but that's I don't think

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<v Speaker 3>it's a really an Australian thing.

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<v Speaker 2>No.

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<v Speaker 3>Massage oil is another one, because it can upset the

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<v Speaker 3>imbalances down there, and also because it's oil based, so

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<v Speaker 3>if you're using regular latex condoms they will erode through,

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<v Speaker 3>which is obviously bad for STIs. And then vasolene, which

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<v Speaker 3>is quite Australian and very puberty blues era, but I

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<v Speaker 3>think some people probably still use it in the bedroom,

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<v Speaker 3>and you shouldn't use that for the same reason as

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<v Speaker 3>massage oils, because it's quite it's oil based, but also

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<v Speaker 3>because it's very thick and hard to remove, so it

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<v Speaker 3>can lead to infections and things like bacterial vaginosis, which

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<v Speaker 3>no one wants.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, that's a great little reminder.

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<v Speaker 1>Thankfully, due to the sexual Wellness Revolution, we've got so

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<v Speaker 1>many more loubs going around, especially ones that are designed

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<v Speaker 1>particularly for women's volves and vaginas, and I think it's

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<v Speaker 1>wonderful that there's so many.

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<v Speaker 2>Out there rather than just the one that you used

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<v Speaker 2>to be able to get. It will worse ll calls.

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<v Speaker 3>I agree. And there's also been a bit of a

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<v Speaker 3>like skin terrification of loubes as well, things like lovers Loube,

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<v Speaker 3>which is really good and it actually has like skin

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<v Speaker 3>care like ingredients in it which are meant to improve

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<v Speaker 3>the health of your vagina rather than cause issues.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that story.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks for reminding us of the importance of lube.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, you're so welcome. Sorry if it was traumatizing, but

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<v Speaker 3>I do think it's important.

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<v Speaker 2>I liked it.

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<v Speaker 1>Now I want to have you had this some Well

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<v Speaker 1>it's a hashtag, this term called rejection therapy.

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<v Speaker 3>I haven't heard of it, but I'm it sounds awful.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, Well, it's had more than fifty five million posts

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<v Speaker 1>on TikTok and I can't stop watching them. It's literally

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<v Speaker 1>your worst nightmare come true. Basically, it's a hashtag that

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<v Speaker 1>features cringe worthy videos where people put themselves in situations

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<v Speaker 1>that are just so embarrassing. If I was in that situation,

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<v Speaker 1>I would be sweating. Basically, the goal is to break

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<v Speaker 1>their fear of being rejected, so and as they get

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<v Speaker 1>ignored or laughed at.

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<v Speaker 2>Or sight eyed or whatever.

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<v Speaker 1>They hope to reduce the feelings of social anxiety and sensitivity.

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<v Speaker 1>So an example a few examples that I saw on

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<v Speaker 1>TikTok asking a barista for a free coffee. No, lying

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<v Speaker 1>down in the middle of the busy street doing yoga.

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<v Speaker 2>No.

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<v Speaker 1>So they're just orc moments.

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<v Speaker 3>That's my nightmare fuel.

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<v Speaker 1>Although there was one where a girl applied to Harvard

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<v Speaker 1>as a joke thinking she get rejected, but she ended

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<v Speaker 1>up being waitlisted, so.

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<v Speaker 2>There are some good ones.

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<v Speaker 1>It's just basically people getting turned down in pretty painful ways.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean the takeaway for these people who are doing

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<v Speaker 1>it as saying that they're getting rejected is really as

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<v Speaker 1>bad as you imagine it to be. And even when

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<v Speaker 1>it is, you will live to see another day, and

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<v Speaker 1>getting rejected makes you stronger. It takes the sting out

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<v Speaker 1>of things next time. So it's not actually an official

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<v Speaker 1>psychological treatment, but it is based on the anxiety management

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<v Speaker 1>technique called exposure therapy.

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<v Speaker 2>Would you do it?

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<v Speaker 3>I would never. I would never. My fear of rejection

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<v Speaker 3>is so high I just I couldn't. But I do

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<v Speaker 3>like the rationale behind it. I think it's great to

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<v Speaker 3>face your fears and realize that when the worst happens,

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<v Speaker 3>that sometimes it's not as bad as you think it'll be. Yeah, exactly,

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<v Speaker 3>I like you filming one of those videos, and I

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<v Speaker 3>won't be putting myself in those situations. Thanks well.

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<v Speaker 1>As you say, they're pretty low rest situations. So if

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<v Speaker 1>you do want to step out of your comfort zone,

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<v Speaker 1>so to speak, you want to boost your confidence and

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<v Speaker 1>take risks. And I also spotted a video on TikTok

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<v Speaker 1>of Harry Gar's side. He did this one hundred days Challenged,

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<v Speaker 1>so and you know what, we had him on the

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<v Speaker 1>podcast last year, and I wouldn't put it past him.

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<v Speaker 1>I can imagine him doing this kind of.

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<v Speaker 3>Thing for sure. He's great with that sort of thing.

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<v Speaker 3>The uncomfortable challenges is that what he calls them?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I think he does something like that.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I'm good for him. I'm glad you're doing it

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<v Speaker 3>to him.

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<v Speaker 1>Just quickly before we go, give us a quick rundown

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<v Speaker 1>of the most clicked story of the week.

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<v Speaker 3>Most clicked story was adding this one thing to your

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<v Speaker 3>diet could help you live longer. It's funny. We were

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<v Speaker 3>talking just before we started about how much people are

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<v Speaker 3>talking about longevity.

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<v Speaker 2>At the moment obsessed, everyone.

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<v Speaker 3>Obsessed, and everyone in our emails is obsessed with longevity too.

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<v Speaker 3>So it's good to see that this one has resonated

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<v Speaker 3>with people online. So have you got any guesses of

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<v Speaker 3>what you think this one thing could be? Please?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, it must be if I'm thinking of like the

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<v Speaker 1>blue zones, it's got to be about a blue zone somewhere,

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<v Speaker 1>so somewhere that where people live most amount of people

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<v Speaker 1>live over one hundred yep.

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<v Speaker 2>Close, yeah, okay, give us more.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, I'll just tell you it's actually small fish like

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<v Speaker 3>in the blue zones. It's like Scandinavia is a blue zone, right.

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<v Speaker 1>No, well, Ikiara in the Mediterranean. Oh sorry, that's in Japan.

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<v Speaker 1>Sardinia in Mediterranean, so yeah, Japan.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, a lot of fish going on in the med too. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>so actually small fish that includes things like mackerel, whitebait,

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<v Speaker 3>and sardines. And there was a new study out of

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<v Speaker 3>Japan that looked at how often people aged thirty five

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<v Speaker 3>to sixty nine ate these small fish, and it found

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<v Speaker 3>that women who ate them at least one to three

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<v Speaker 3>times a month were less likely to die from cancer

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<v Speaker 3>and other causes compared to women who rarely consume them.

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<v Speaker 3>So this is your sign to add some anchovies to

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<v Speaker 3>your goal lunch this weekend, or stick some sardines in

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<v Speaker 3>a snack box.

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<v Speaker 2>What about someone your birthday cake?

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<v Speaker 3>I'll say no again, once again me rejecting advice on

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<v Speaker 3>this podcast. Yeah no, I think I'll stick to cake today.

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<v Speaker 3>Maybe some of anchovies at dinner.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I like it anyway, Halley, you thank you for

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<v Speaker 1>joining us this week on Healthy.

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<v Speaker 3>Thank you bye.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, if you want to know more about that longevity

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<v Speaker 1>study or anything else we discussed, I will leave links

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