WEBVTT - 8 Weird Systems I Use For My ADHD Brain (Because Nothing Else Worked) 0:00:00.160 --> 0:00:03.600 So let's save the sock energy for like emails or 0:00:03.880 --> 0:00:06.520 creating an app that will make you and your family 0:00:06.640 --> 0:00:07.240 really rich. 0:00:08.320 --> 0:00:10.480 Hello guys, and welcome back to Stepping Up. 0:00:10.720 --> 0:00:12.920 I have so much good stuff in store for you 0:00:12.960 --> 0:00:17.119 today this episode. I actually created it based off a 0:00:17.320 --> 0:00:20.040 post I did a couple months ago that went viral, 0:00:20.160 --> 0:00:23.560 Like I'm saying, over a million views, and look, we 0:00:23.640 --> 0:00:25.360 know that that's not why we post, like it's not 0:00:25.400 --> 0:00:27.440 always to go viral, but it just showed how many 0:00:27.600 --> 0:00:31.120 people needed this information. And it's funny because a lot 0:00:31.160 --> 0:00:33.320 of the things I put in this viral post where 0:00:34.080 --> 0:00:36.800 I didn't think they were that revolutionary, and I guess 0:00:36.800 --> 0:00:41.360 they're not, but they help so so much. So as 0:00:41.360 --> 0:00:43.879 the title suggests, this is eight weird systems I do 0:00:44.040 --> 0:00:46.960 for my ADHD brain. Now I want to just say 0:00:47.000 --> 0:00:49.879 that this is for everyone, Like, you don't have to 0:00:49.920 --> 0:00:53.960 have ADHD to need these systems. You don't need to 0:00:54.480 --> 0:00:57.480 you know, feel like you need a diagnosis to follow 0:00:57.520 --> 0:00:58.080 these systems. 0:00:58.080 --> 0:00:59.960 This is for people who. 0:00:59.800 --> 0:01:02.240 Live in the world as we do today, where it's busy, 0:01:02.280 --> 0:01:04.480 it's chaotic, where I feel like we're dropping balls all 0:01:04.520 --> 0:01:08.200 the time, and you just constantly are forgetting things as well, 0:01:08.240 --> 0:01:10.080 which is not hard to do when there's just so 0:01:10.160 --> 0:01:12.520 much happening. When you think about it, you know, we 0:01:12.560 --> 0:01:15.520 live in an age of technology, and that is fantastic. 0:01:15.560 --> 0:01:19.000 Obviously this is my job, but at the same time, 0:01:19.120 --> 0:01:22.560 it's very distracting and it can be really overstimulating for everyone. 0:01:22.680 --> 0:01:26.039 So it is very common they're seeing people's attention spans 0:01:26.040 --> 0:01:29.080 are shorter, like we are more forgetful, and it's just 0:01:29.120 --> 0:01:31.959 because we have so many things going on around us. 0:01:32.000 --> 0:01:34.760 So this episode is for any human being who just 0:01:34.840 --> 0:01:37.960 wants some really good life hacks, some systems to make 0:01:38.240 --> 0:01:41.119 your life work with you and also with your brain 0:01:41.160 --> 0:01:43.559 as well. Now, before I get into it, a little 0:01:43.560 --> 0:01:47.160 bit of a life update, So I, of course, as 0:01:47.200 --> 0:01:50.760 this title suggests as well, I'm really into systems and systemaizing. 0:01:50.760 --> 0:01:52.840 And I know that sounds gross because I'm very much 0:01:52.880 --> 0:01:55.960 a creative person and like logistics and systems aren't really 0:01:55.960 --> 0:01:58.400 my thing. Well so I thought, but when you think 0:01:58.440 --> 0:02:01.040 about it, you know, I'm known online for like organization 0:02:01.120 --> 0:02:03.600 and the pantry, all those things, and technically those things 0:02:03.640 --> 0:02:08.960 are systems and I, as you guys know, I am MS. 0:02:09.000 --> 0:02:11.440 I forget, I'd forget my own head. If it wasn't 0:02:11.480 --> 0:02:14.320 attached to my neck, I was gonna say, shoulders, what's 0:02:14.360 --> 0:02:17.679 the saying? I'm this is like side note, I get 0:02:17.760 --> 0:02:23.720 every saying wrong. Like I said the other day down 0:02:23.760 --> 0:02:26.919 the hatchet instead of down the hatch, and. 0:02:26.919 --> 0:02:30.040 Then I said, like, and I just I do get 0:02:30.080 --> 0:02:32.480 a bit self conscious over it because I do feel 0:02:32.560 --> 0:02:33.280 like a bit stupid. 0:02:33.320 --> 0:02:38.520 But I just always say very common sayings wrong, even 0:02:38.720 --> 0:02:41.720 things like the sharpest tool in the shed. I said 0:02:41.760 --> 0:02:44.680 the brightest tool in the shed, like it's concerning, and 0:02:44.720 --> 0:02:47.000 when I hear it back, I'm like, that's not right, Steph, 0:02:47.040 --> 0:02:49.280 that's not right. Anyway, now I've already forgotten what I'm 0:02:49.320 --> 0:02:50.799 talking about, so obviously, yeah. 0:02:50.800 --> 0:02:51.080 Sorry. 0:02:51.200 --> 0:02:53.880 So I'm very much into life hacks, you know, I 0:02:53.919 --> 0:02:57.000 love AI all those things and just making life easier. 0:02:57.040 --> 0:02:58.680 And I think for me it's just because you know, 0:02:58.760 --> 0:03:02.560 my whole life, I've really ruggled to do basic tasks. 0:03:02.960 --> 0:03:05.160 So one thing I've noticed, and this is something I've 0:03:05.160 --> 0:03:08.480 only just started paying attention to in my thirties, is 0:03:09.120 --> 0:03:13.520 really working with my cycle. So my mental cycle. This 0:03:13.600 --> 0:03:16.799 is really sexy topic, but it's important. And look, I 0:03:16.840 --> 0:03:19.240 will admit i'm the first one to be like when 0:03:19.280 --> 0:03:21.079 people were saying, like, on this part of my cycle, 0:03:21.120 --> 0:03:23.560 that's why I feel like this. I honestly it was 0:03:23.600 --> 0:03:26.680 a bit silly and I really didn't think much of it. 0:03:26.720 --> 0:03:28.160 I was like, as if it's going to affect us 0:03:28.200 --> 0:03:32.160 that much, But then ten days before my period, I 0:03:32.200 --> 0:03:34.480 feel like the world is ending and I don't even realize, 0:03:34.480 --> 0:03:36.800 Like you don't you kind of because it kind of 0:03:36.840 --> 0:03:39.880 just comes on suddenly, and then you finally get your 0:03:39.880 --> 0:03:41.600 period and you're like, oh, my life doesn't suck. 0:03:41.680 --> 0:03:42.280 It's fine. 0:03:42.440 --> 0:03:45.000 So I started really paying attention to this, and this 0:03:45.040 --> 0:03:46.200 is because I noticed. 0:03:46.920 --> 0:03:48.640 I was like, why is there some weeks where I. 0:03:48.520 --> 0:03:52.160 Feel really good and confident and in some weeks I 0:03:52.200 --> 0:03:54.800 feel like a bag of potatoes and I don't want 0:03:54.800 --> 0:03:56.760 to camera in my face and I don't want to socialize, 0:03:56.760 --> 0:03:59.920 and like even having a conversation with the checkout late 0:04:00.040 --> 0:04:03.000 it will just makes me want to cry. And it 0:04:03.040 --> 0:04:05.160 really does come down to our hormones, like we have 0:04:05.240 --> 0:04:07.720 a twenty eight day hormone cycle. And so this could 0:04:07.720 --> 0:04:09.040 be a whole other podcast. I'm going to try and 0:04:09.040 --> 0:04:11.360 make this quick, but basically what I'm trying to get 0:04:11.400 --> 0:04:13.520 at is I started taking note of where I was 0:04:13.560 --> 0:04:16.720 in my cycle and these certain feelings and emotions I 0:04:16.800 --> 0:04:21.239 was feeling, and I found that, yeah, ten days before 0:04:21.279 --> 0:04:24.680 my period, which is your luteal phase, which sucks, like 0:04:24.920 --> 0:04:26.720 leave me alone lu to your phase is what we'll 0:04:26.720 --> 0:04:30.920 call it. I just don't want to, you know, go 0:04:30.960 --> 0:04:32.640 out and do the things. I don't want to socialize. 0:04:32.640 --> 0:04:34.800 I don't want to film anything, which is kind of 0:04:34.800 --> 0:04:37.000 hard when you do what I do for work. And 0:04:37.040 --> 0:04:38.480 then I noticed as soon as I got my period, 0:04:38.600 --> 0:04:40.520 I was really good at making decisions, Like I'm really 0:04:40.520 --> 0:04:44.880 good at making decisions where normally I struggle, so I know, 0:04:45.040 --> 0:04:47.240 and I'm also oddly good at decluttering when I have 0:04:47.360 --> 0:04:49.720 my period. So when I have my period, I will 0:04:49.839 --> 0:04:53.240 cull things like I'm ruthless. And then obviously there's other 0:04:53.279 --> 0:04:56.000 parts of your period where it's at your cycle, where 0:04:56.080 --> 0:04:56.680 you are. 0:04:56.560 --> 0:04:58.200 Feeling more confident and things like that. 0:04:58.279 --> 0:05:03.400 So for me making this work around my work, and 0:05:03.480 --> 0:05:05.280 I know we all can't do this, but I'll give 0:05:05.279 --> 0:05:07.800 you an example of what you can do later. Is 0:05:07.839 --> 0:05:10.240 so if it's like a week before my period, I 0:05:10.320 --> 0:05:12.520 will try not to like I won't even record in 0:05:12.560 --> 0:05:14.960 here because I also turn in my brain turns to mush. 0:05:15.600 --> 0:05:18.400 I won't do like videos, none of that. I would 0:05:18.440 --> 0:05:20.800 sit down and do more like admin more just like 0:05:21.279 --> 0:05:23.000 I can still do deep work, but I just don't 0:05:23.000 --> 0:05:26.839 want to be Yeah, just like out there, not like performative. 0:05:26.839 --> 0:05:29.240 But you get what I'm saying. And then when I 0:05:29.279 --> 0:05:32.479 have my period, I will be culling, making big decisions, decluttering, 0:05:32.640 --> 0:05:35.599 doing the things. And then other parts of my cycle, 0:05:35.680 --> 0:05:37.880 I will go and have dinner with friends, or I'll 0:05:38.200 --> 0:05:40.200 you know, be in front of camera or do all 0:05:40.240 --> 0:05:43.800 those things. So for you whose job is different than mine, 0:05:43.839 --> 0:05:45.760 obviously we can't control what we do at work, but 0:05:46.200 --> 0:05:49.320 coming like even going down to like deciding to maybe 0:05:50.080 --> 0:05:52.560 you know, your friends ask you out for dinner. Ten 0:05:52.600 --> 0:05:54.640 day's sweet period, maybe just say hey, let's do it 0:05:54.680 --> 0:05:57.159 next week or when you know you feel good. So yeah, 0:05:57.240 --> 0:05:59.960 just kind of mapping out your life where you can 0:06:00.080 --> 0:06:03.360 hand to work with your cycle. So you know, trying 0:06:03.400 --> 0:06:05.719 a new gym class maybe not the greatest idea to 0:06:05.760 --> 0:06:08.120 do in your ludial phase, but do it, you know, 0:06:08.360 --> 0:06:09.320 after your period. 0:06:09.120 --> 0:06:11.920 Or whatever works for you. So just like tailoring in that. 0:06:11.960 --> 0:06:16.479 To you, which now leads me into these weird systems 0:06:16.480 --> 0:06:19.440 that work for my ADHD brain. Now, as I said, 0:06:19.440 --> 0:06:23.000 I decided to make this an episode because of the 0:06:23.040 --> 0:06:25.000 post that I did that went viral, because I had 0:06:25.000 --> 0:06:27.960 never received so many dms from people saying thank you 0:06:28.000 --> 0:06:31.160 so much for this. And again, we do really underestimate 0:06:31.480 --> 0:06:34.000 little hacks and things that we work out ourselves at home. 0:06:34.040 --> 0:06:36.560 And I think I'm sure you've you know, experienced this 0:06:36.640 --> 0:06:39.080 before where maybe you share a hack with a friend 0:06:39.160 --> 0:06:41.360 and they think it's amazing, and you just assume maybe 0:06:41.360 --> 0:06:43.400 people know that. So this is just really comes down to, 0:06:44.080 --> 0:06:46.320 you know, not being afraid to share things because you 0:06:46.360 --> 0:06:50.760 can really really help other people. Now, this episode is 0:06:50.800 --> 0:06:52.920 going to be really really helpful because like that post, 0:06:53.240 --> 0:06:57.760 you know, it didn't do these systems justice. It's you know, 0:06:57.839 --> 0:06:59.839 only so many slides. But like today, I'm want to 0:06:59.839 --> 0:07:02.320 be doing a deep dive into every system. Some of 0:07:02.360 --> 0:07:04.039 them don't need to be that deep. Let's be honest 0:07:04.120 --> 0:07:06.440 that there's a sock thing which we will get to. 0:07:06.920 --> 0:07:09.200 But I think this is really really going to help 0:07:09.200 --> 0:07:10.640 you guys. And I would love if you guys, when 0:07:10.680 --> 0:07:13.800 you listen to this, please tag me on Instagram and 0:07:13.800 --> 0:07:15.760 tell me what one of the systems that you loved, 0:07:15.840 --> 0:07:19.080 or even better, take a photo when you're doing this 0:07:19.120 --> 0:07:21.720 system or if you've implemented it and yet tag us 0:07:21.760 --> 0:07:23.560 because I would love love to share and see what 0:07:23.600 --> 0:07:26.520 you guys have been doing so weird. System Number one 0:07:26.720 --> 0:07:29.760 is doing the weekly brain dump, and again not revolutionary, 0:07:29.800 --> 0:07:32.800 but I think once you realize why this is important 0:07:33.400 --> 0:07:35.720 and it's not just me talking for the sake of it, 0:07:35.800 --> 0:07:38.520 which yes I do that as well, and the science 0:07:38.560 --> 0:07:41.320 behind it, you will understand why this is so important. Because, 0:07:41.360 --> 0:07:43.200 as you guys know, I'm not super woo woo. I'd 0:07:43.240 --> 0:07:45.520 love to be more woo woo, but I love to 0:07:45.560 --> 0:07:48.120 know the facts and like the science behind things to 0:07:48.160 --> 0:07:50.040 do them like that really motivates me. 0:07:50.160 --> 0:07:50.960 So if I can get like a. 0:07:50.960 --> 0:07:52.840 Little bit of a stat I'm not going to bore 0:07:52.840 --> 0:07:54.920 you with it, but knowing how your brain works and 0:07:54.960 --> 0:07:57.440 why is going to actually make you start doing weekly 0:07:57.480 --> 0:07:59.920 brain dumps every Sunday or Monday morning or whenever you 0:08:00.080 --> 0:08:02.800 want to do it. So for me, this looks like 0:08:03.160 --> 0:08:06.000 every Sunday afternoon or night, depending on how I'm feeling, 0:08:06.080 --> 0:08:08.120 or sometimes I'll even do it on a Friday afternoon 0:08:08.360 --> 0:08:10.920 because you know, maybe you'll finish work or finish that week, 0:08:11.000 --> 0:08:13.600 and you don't want to forget where you like you're 0:08:13.640 --> 0:08:15.920 left off on Monday. So it is also a really 0:08:15.960 --> 0:08:18.280 good idea if you are forgetful like me, to maybe 0:08:18.280 --> 0:08:20.640 start doing your brain dumps on a Friday afternoon if. 0:08:20.520 --> 0:08:21.400 That works for you. 0:08:22.040 --> 0:08:24.880 So basically, I'll set a timer for ten minutes because 0:08:24.920 --> 0:08:27.040 for me, I work well, all of us we do 0:08:27.120 --> 0:08:30.120 tend to work better under pressure. You will do the 0:08:30.160 --> 0:08:32.240 things much faster. So for me, I was spending too 0:08:32.240 --> 0:08:34.040 long at this, so I started doing a time off 0:08:34.080 --> 0:08:37.840 ten minutes and I will brain dump everything that's in 0:08:37.880 --> 0:08:41.320 my brain, because we need to remember our brains aren't 0:08:41.520 --> 0:08:45.760 really meant for storage. I will have random facts in 0:08:45.800 --> 0:08:48.920 there that do not help me whatsoever, but they're in there, 0:08:49.960 --> 0:08:51.360 and I was like, I would love to like clear 0:08:51.360 --> 0:08:53.400 that space and put something more important in its place, 0:08:53.400 --> 0:08:54.320 but it doesn't work like that. 0:08:54.440 --> 0:08:55.920 So this is where we use. 0:08:55.840 --> 0:08:59.320 Things like planners, notebooks. You know, if you've heard of 0:08:59.360 --> 0:09:02.240 second brain, like you can build yourne second brain digital 0:09:02.880 --> 0:09:05.520 and it's just very very helpful because when you think 0:09:05.559 --> 0:09:08.680 about it, For me especially have I get very heightened 0:09:08.720 --> 0:09:11.720 anxiety and stress when I'm trying to remember the things, 0:09:12.160 --> 0:09:14.160 and these are always the weeks if I've forgotten this 0:09:14.360 --> 0:09:17.720 brain dump step, and that's because I'm trying to hang 0:09:17.760 --> 0:09:22.400 on to it all our brain. Like for us to 0:09:22.520 --> 0:09:25.760 feel good and also to be creative, you do need 0:09:25.800 --> 0:09:28.040 to be able to lighten the mental load which is 0:09:28.080 --> 0:09:31.920 remembering the things. So you know this is called brain dumping, 0:09:32.280 --> 0:09:34.319 which I'll go it through my little thing in a minute, 0:09:34.880 --> 0:09:39.000 is actually called cognitive offloading. So research from the University 0:09:39.000 --> 0:09:42.160 of Waterloo shows that writing things down freeze up working memory, 0:09:42.480 --> 0:09:46.320 and people with ADHD we have limited working memory, so 0:09:46.679 --> 0:09:50.000 compared to neurotypical people, we will couldn't say and this 0:09:50.040 --> 0:09:53.000 is obviously not everyone, but as an example, we will 0:09:53.040 --> 0:09:56.160 remember about two to three items where neurotypical can remember 0:09:56.200 --> 0:09:59.120 five to seven. Kind of not fair in my opinion. 0:10:00.120 --> 0:10:02.720 So this is not optional for us. This is essential 0:10:02.840 --> 0:10:04.600 to be doing this cognitive offloading. 0:10:04.640 --> 0:10:05.480 So if you want to call. 0:10:05.360 --> 0:10:07.439 It that, you can, but I think brain dump sounds 0:10:07.480 --> 0:10:10.559 a bit better. I even like if it's before bed 0:10:10.600 --> 0:10:13.679 I'll call it a bedside brain dump. And it just 0:10:13.679 --> 0:10:15.240 helps you kind of turn it into a bit of 0:10:15.240 --> 0:10:17.840 a ritual every day, week or whenever you want to 0:10:17.840 --> 0:10:21.320 do it. And that's why we You know, when you 0:10:21.320 --> 0:10:23.199 think about it, you know, you try to remember the 0:10:23.240 --> 0:10:25.319 things you forget. You're late to an appointment, you forgot 0:10:25.320 --> 0:10:28.720 to pack Johnny's lunch or buy him new sports clothes 0:10:28.760 --> 0:10:31.079 for the next week, and you get angry at yourself 0:10:31.080 --> 0:10:33.000 for that, like you do think Like for me, I 0:10:33.000 --> 0:10:34.319 can get quite angry at myself. 0:10:34.400 --> 0:10:36.520 I think it's a sign of my intelligence, which which 0:10:36.559 --> 0:10:37.600 is it's not at all. 0:10:38.120 --> 0:10:39.960 But you know, your brain is trying to hold forty 0:10:39.960 --> 0:10:42.360 seven things at once, but it's only got the storage 0:10:42.440 --> 0:10:45.480 room for like a few It's like trying to make 0:10:45.800 --> 0:10:47.680 a bunch of people live together in a small room. 0:10:47.679 --> 0:10:50.320 It's going to turn into an absolute shit show. So 0:10:51.200 --> 0:10:54.480 you know, just try to remember that. Okay, maybe maybe 0:10:54.480 --> 0:10:57.440 write it down, don't try and remember it that. You know, 0:10:57.559 --> 0:11:00.520 doing things like brain dumps isn't because you're not it's 0:11:00.520 --> 0:11:03.320 because it's literally not We're not designed to remember all 0:11:03.360 --> 0:11:06.160 the things. We're not a Google drive. Yeah, your brain 0:11:06.240 --> 0:11:08.800 is not a Google drive. So brain dump, let it 0:11:08.840 --> 0:11:10.959 out and then we can move on to the next things. 0:11:11.640 --> 0:11:13.920 So what does a brain dump look like? So again, 0:11:13.960 --> 0:11:16.199 you set your timer you sit down, you got your notebook, 0:11:16.280 --> 0:11:18.679 your SPP planner, whatever you have, and I want you 0:11:18.760 --> 0:11:20.200 to again write everything down. 0:11:20.920 --> 0:11:21.480 If you want. 0:11:21.720 --> 0:11:24.560 You can do categories if you want to put like life, kids, Home, 0:11:24.760 --> 0:11:26.560 But for me, I kind of just like to just 0:11:27.200 --> 0:11:30.760 write whatever comes in my brain. It could sometimes it's 0:11:30.760 --> 0:11:33.040 not even a task. Is this something that I thought 0:11:33.080 --> 0:11:35.360 of and you just let it all out. So once 0:11:35.360 --> 0:11:37.960 you've done your writing, it could even be a couple 0:11:38.000 --> 0:11:42.280 of minutes. It could be you know, by Johnny's sports clothes. 0:11:42.360 --> 0:11:44.679 You know, in a month, I've got this appointment. Oh 0:11:44.720 --> 0:11:46.439 I need to fill in this form like all those 0:11:46.480 --> 0:11:48.959 annoying life admin tasks, but even just other things like 0:11:49.000 --> 0:11:51.839 if you have a really cool idea, or maybe there 0:11:51.920 --> 0:11:53.959 was something on Instagram you saw when you're scrolling and 0:11:53.960 --> 0:11:55.560 you want to check that out later, just dump it 0:11:55.600 --> 0:11:58.280 all down so there's no order, no judgment, just get 0:11:58.320 --> 0:12:00.679 it out and then this is where I sought it. 0:12:00.800 --> 0:12:05.280 So in my planners, I have a monthly brain dump page, 0:12:05.320 --> 0:12:08.440 but again weekly is best. But your monthly brain up 0:12:08.559 --> 0:12:11.720 dump page is very helpful for obviously the big things 0:12:11.760 --> 0:12:14.120 for that month. But what you'll see is what's different 0:12:14.120 --> 0:12:16.600 about my planners is I make them for people like 0:12:16.720 --> 0:12:20.200 me and you know, people who just need little gentle 0:12:20.240 --> 0:12:22.520 nudges and reminding, but also I've got it. So the 0:12:22.559 --> 0:12:25.439 brain dump page is actually broken up into four sections, 0:12:25.480 --> 0:12:28.040 so you can make these sections whatever you want. So 0:12:28.080 --> 0:12:31.240 for me, I usually do life slash personal, and then 0:12:31.280 --> 0:12:33.760 I'll do usually each business so I'll have like SPP 0:12:33.960 --> 0:12:36.480 or have personal brand, and then I also have home. 0:12:36.600 --> 0:12:38.360 So that's how I like to do it. 0:12:38.360 --> 0:12:40.920 But this will change also each month, so sometimes I 0:12:41.000 --> 0:12:43.320 might really need to focus just on YouTube or the 0:12:43.360 --> 0:12:45.840 pod or whatever, and that's what will make my sections. 0:12:45.880 --> 0:12:49.160 So for you, you can break it up into life sections. 0:12:49.559 --> 0:12:51.600 But what you want to do is grab a highlighter 0:12:51.640 --> 0:12:55.720 and then just highlight what's urgent, what's this week, So 0:12:55.760 --> 0:12:57.679 anything that you know is more time sensitive, you want 0:12:57.679 --> 0:13:00.920 to really highlight that, and then also cross out anything 0:13:01.000 --> 0:13:04.760 on that list that you don't need to do or 0:13:04.800 --> 0:13:07.760 you can delegate, So wherever you can delegate or delete, 0:13:07.880 --> 0:13:11.920 do that, So just cross it out. And also, you know, 0:13:12.040 --> 0:13:13.520 this is where it's going to get really good for 0:13:13.600 --> 0:13:15.560 you to learn to ask for help because we don't 0:13:15.600 --> 0:13:16.440 ask that enough. 0:13:17.480 --> 0:13:18.640 So yeah, that's what you're going to do. 0:13:19.040 --> 0:13:21.679 Sort it out, and then anything that's urgent or needs 0:13:21.679 --> 0:13:23.080 to be done that week, you do write in your 0:13:23.080 --> 0:13:24.920 planner and I'll do a whole other episode on how 0:13:24.920 --> 0:13:26.400 I plan my week because I think that's going to 0:13:26.480 --> 0:13:29.360 be really, really helpful because one of the biggest dams 0:13:29.400 --> 0:13:31.000 I get is how do I use my planner? And 0:13:31.040 --> 0:13:33.280 I actually have a guide in the planner of course, 0:13:33.800 --> 0:13:35.480 with a QR code on telling you how to use it. 0:13:35.520 --> 0:13:37.320 But if you like to be able to hear it 0:13:37.360 --> 0:13:39.400 and like talk it out, I will do an episode 0:13:39.400 --> 0:13:41.160 on that for you guys. And here's a little hack 0:13:41.200 --> 0:13:43.200 for this. If you're someone like me, if you're out 0:13:43.200 --> 0:13:45.240 and about and you remember something and you don't want to. 0:13:45.160 --> 0:13:48.160 Forget it, I I'll get into another episode. 0:13:48.240 --> 0:13:50.520 Is I like I text myself, So don't be scared 0:13:50.559 --> 0:13:53.120 to text yourself. Use your notes at but please remember 0:13:53.160 --> 0:13:54.720 to go back in there and look at it to 0:13:54.760 --> 0:13:55.880 write into your planneer later. 0:13:56.480 --> 0:13:57.280 Now moving on to. 0:13:57.400 --> 0:14:00.520 Wed system number two, is I only own one type 0:14:00.520 --> 0:14:01.000 of sock? 0:14:02.200 --> 0:14:04.960 It's mind blowing, isn't it. This is just revolutionary content. 0:14:05.080 --> 0:14:08.559 But this is just an example of how to make 0:14:08.559 --> 0:14:09.400 your life easier. 0:14:09.679 --> 0:14:12.120 So seven years ago I threw out all my socks. 0:14:12.160 --> 0:14:14.120 Okay, not all of them, but I kept the ones 0:14:14.160 --> 0:14:17.400 that were just like my favorite ones, which were just white, 0:14:18.040 --> 0:14:22.200 just boring white, and everything else got thrown in the bit. 0:14:22.520 --> 0:14:24.160 Now, the reason I did this. 0:14:24.160 --> 0:14:27.200 Is because I probably was in my alluvial face of 0:14:27.240 --> 0:14:29.960 my period and I was hating life. But I was 0:14:29.960 --> 0:14:31.880 trying to match my socks and I would always lose 0:14:31.880 --> 0:14:34.520 a pair, like lose one half of the pair, and 0:14:34.600 --> 0:14:36.920 it was just something I just hated. And I also 0:14:36.960 --> 0:14:39.280 got over this even more so once I had kids, 0:14:40.080 --> 0:14:42.320 because there's nothing worse than trying to match an adult 0:14:42.400 --> 0:14:45.720 sized pair of socks, but doing a kid's size pair 0:14:45.720 --> 0:14:50.640 of socks is much much worse. So I now have 0:14:50.840 --> 0:14:54.960 I purchased about fifteen pairs of the same type of sock. 0:14:55.280 --> 0:14:56.280 It's all just white. 0:14:56.560 --> 0:14:58.680 So this means when I do the washing and things, 0:14:58.760 --> 0:15:01.960 I compare whoever up together. It's kind of like a 0:15:01.960 --> 0:15:06.240 swinger situation for SoC addition, and I can't tell you 0:15:06.280 --> 0:15:08.800 how much easier it's made laundry, because I think it's 0:15:08.840 --> 0:15:11.520 just going down the path of the least amount of 0:15:11.600 --> 0:15:15.080 micro decisions ever, because you need to think about it, 0:15:15.120 --> 0:15:17.200 the amount of decisions we make every day is a 0:15:17.280 --> 0:15:20.360 substantial amount. So if we can just simplify that down 0:15:20.400 --> 0:15:23.800 to even having the same type of sock in the house, 0:15:24.320 --> 0:15:26.600 even the kids, they all have the same type, like 0:15:26.640 --> 0:15:30.000 in the same size as well for my kids, because 0:15:30.040 --> 0:15:33.320 it just makes life easier. You don't have to add 0:15:33.360 --> 0:15:35.600 the extra steps in there. And there's also the least resistance. 0:15:35.640 --> 0:15:38.480 So for me, I didn't realize, but when I had 0:15:38.520 --> 0:15:41.320 to do washing, subconsciously, I'm thinking about the sock thing, 0:15:41.880 --> 0:15:45.120 I don't want to do this, so I would likely 0:15:45.160 --> 0:15:48.440 not do the washing and then it would get insane, 0:15:48.600 --> 0:15:50.600 where now it's not as hard. 0:15:50.640 --> 0:15:52.200 And I've also got a laundry system now. 0:15:52.240 --> 0:15:54.840 So anything you can do just to make alleviate the 0:15:54.840 --> 0:15:58.680 pressure and the micro decisions do it. And obviously that 0:15:58.720 --> 0:16:01.080 comes down to, as I said, is decision fatigue and 0:16:01.120 --> 0:16:04.320 the micro decisions. So every decision costs mental energy and 0:16:04.360 --> 0:16:07.120 our brain is super lazy. If you didn't realize that already, 0:16:07.400 --> 0:16:09.200 I actually talked about that in an episode called Your 0:16:09.240 --> 0:16:13.320 Brain is a Goal Blocker, So listen to that, because yeah, 0:16:13.360 --> 0:16:15.840 matching socks is a micro decision, and that's dozens and 0:16:15.880 --> 0:16:18.600 dozens of decisions before it's even eight o'clock in the morning. 0:16:19.440 --> 0:16:22.280 So research from the Columbia University found that the more 0:16:22.320 --> 0:16:26.920 decisions people make, the worse the quality of subsequent decisions. 0:16:27.160 --> 0:16:29.840 So by removing sock making, you're banking that energy for 0:16:29.880 --> 0:16:30.920 something actually matters. 0:16:31.480 --> 0:16:33.000 So let's save the sock. 0:16:32.880 --> 0:16:37.000 Energy for like emails or creating an app that will 0:16:37.200 --> 0:16:41.640 make you and your family really rich. So this sock 0:16:41.680 --> 0:16:44.600 thing isn't actually about socks. It's the principle. If a 0:16:44.680 --> 0:16:48.680 system requires too many micro decisions, remove them. So if 0:16:48.720 --> 0:16:51.640 we apply the sock theory to everything in our lives, 0:16:52.040 --> 0:16:55.040 it will be so much easier. And these can look 0:16:55.080 --> 0:16:58.240 like having the same type of drink podole for each child, 0:16:58.280 --> 0:17:00.320 so you know, yet that's Johnny's. You know why I 0:17:00.360 --> 0:17:03.000 keep Johnny's just a really good example. If there's a 0:17:03.040 --> 0:17:04.560 Johnny out there, I should probably give you like a 0:17:04.560 --> 0:17:07.399 discount code for planners or something at this point. So 0:17:07.440 --> 0:17:10.080 you're getting like each child their own type of drink bottle, 0:17:10.080 --> 0:17:11.680 so you know that that's theirs. 0:17:11.400 --> 0:17:12.520 Or another one could be. 0:17:13.760 --> 0:17:15.960 You know, like for me, this is one I do 0:17:16.119 --> 0:17:18.200 is having the same breakfast every single day. Then I 0:17:18.240 --> 0:17:20.720 don't have to think, but I do love having the 0:17:20.760 --> 0:17:23.280 same food every single day as well. But yeah, things 0:17:23.320 --> 0:17:26.840 like that and having the same weekly meals on rotation 0:17:26.920 --> 0:17:27.359 for dinner. 0:17:27.920 --> 0:17:28.360 Sort it. 0:17:28.800 --> 0:17:30.320 And I know I'm gonna get asked this, so I 0:17:30.400 --> 0:17:34.040 buy my socks off Amazon. So there you go, all right, 0:17:34.080 --> 0:17:37.600 So weird system Number three is my planner lives on 0:17:37.720 --> 0:17:41.560 the bench always and open. It always has to be open, 0:17:41.800 --> 0:17:45.840 so not in my bag, not in a drawer, open, 0:17:45.960 --> 0:17:49.520 face up, always visible for me to see. And for me, 0:17:49.640 --> 0:17:53.160 that's because for myself and many people with ADHD, it's 0:17:53.200 --> 0:17:55.439 out of sight, out of mind. If it's literally not 0:17:55.560 --> 0:17:58.719 in my face, I will forget it, and that sadly 0:17:58.720 --> 0:18:01.399 includes people, but that's more of an autism thing. But anyway, 0:18:01.760 --> 0:18:04.199 I digress. So if it's not in front of me, 0:18:04.280 --> 0:18:06.600 I will forget it. That's why people we use walk 0:18:06.600 --> 0:18:09.280