1 00:00:05,921 --> 00:00:24,801 Speaker 1: Apod Jake Production. Welcome back to another episode of Am 2 00:00:24,841 --> 00:00:28,001 Speaker 1: I A Bad Mom? Podcast? At am I A Bad 3 00:00:28,081 --> 00:00:29,401 Speaker 1: Mum on Instagram as well. 4 00:00:29,521 --> 00:00:34,521 Speaker 2: Coming in hot today, not even trying. There's four people 5 00:00:34,561 --> 00:00:37,481 Speaker 2: in the office right now, including you and I. Yeah, 6 00:00:37,521 --> 00:00:40,001 Speaker 2: and three out of four. I got denim shorts on. Yeah, 7 00:00:40,120 --> 00:00:42,241 Speaker 2: tell me it's summer without telling me, I. 8 00:00:42,200 --> 00:00:45,880 Speaker 1: Know it's so hot. And actually, although it's freezing in 9 00:00:45,961 --> 00:00:50,041 Speaker 1: here because we've got the airport last, I'm in two minds. 10 00:00:50,120 --> 00:00:53,281 Speaker 1: I'm a little bit excited about a break and Christmas 11 00:00:53,321 --> 00:00:56,441 Speaker 1: and all the rest of it. I'm also feel like 12 00:00:56,721 --> 00:01:01,681 Speaker 1: that duck that's like paddling underwater but getting anywhere, because 13 00:01:01,801 --> 00:01:04,641 Speaker 1: I feel like there's so much still to do. I 14 00:01:04,681 --> 00:01:08,801 Speaker 1: am definitely not on top of work Christmas. I haven't 15 00:01:08,801 --> 00:01:11,241 Speaker 1: even put a Christmas tree up yet. We're in December. 16 00:01:11,560 --> 00:01:13,241 Speaker 1: I know, I always have it up. 17 00:01:13,280 --> 00:01:15,961 Speaker 2: I like you, you know, what have you been doing 18 00:01:16,000 --> 00:01:18,520 Speaker 2: with your spare time? I mean, you've got nothing going on? 19 00:01:19,200 --> 00:01:20,001 Speaker 2: What have you been doing? 20 00:01:21,000 --> 00:01:23,880 Speaker 1: I just feel like I'm just starting to breathe after 21 00:01:24,681 --> 00:01:31,601 Speaker 1: end of school assignments. 22 00:01:28,681 --> 00:01:31,280 Speaker 2: Being chaos for you? Really, hasn't it doing all those. 23 00:01:31,121 --> 00:01:37,280 Speaker 3: Assignments mate up until the end of last week, I 24 00:01:37,321 --> 00:01:39,961 Speaker 3: had a teacher emailing me, going, Katie, just to let 25 00:01:40,000 --> 00:01:42,280 Speaker 3: you know, Amelia still hasn't got this question right for 26 00:01:42,360 --> 00:01:43,321 Speaker 3: her assignment. 27 00:01:43,681 --> 00:01:46,361 Speaker 1: I'm like sat with her, h Like, I was like, okay, 28 00:01:46,441 --> 00:01:48,880 Speaker 1: let me have a look at this, and I'm looking 29 00:01:48,921 --> 00:01:52,241 Speaker 1: through and I'm looking through the email feedback from the teacher. 30 00:01:52,521 --> 00:01:54,881 Speaker 1: I was at the point where I was like almost 31 00:01:54,921 --> 00:01:57,001 Speaker 1: emailed back the teacher going, can you sit down and 32 00:01:57,041 --> 00:01:59,481 Speaker 1: elbow with this? I don't even know what course. I 33 00:01:59,481 --> 00:02:01,561 Speaker 1: don't even know what you're talking about. I don't even 34 00:02:01,601 --> 00:02:04,601 Speaker 1: know what she's doing. Anyway, there were five questions in 35 00:02:04,601 --> 00:02:07,601 Speaker 1: one emais. She said, Okay, you have got four out 36 00:02:07,641 --> 00:02:10,601 Speaker 1: of the five correct. The next one she said, you've 37 00:02:10,601 --> 00:02:14,001 Speaker 1: only now got one correct and four wrong. I'm looking 38 00:02:14,041 --> 00:02:14,641 Speaker 1: through this. 39 00:02:14,881 --> 00:02:17,000 Speaker 2: But hang on, you've got four out of five right. 40 00:02:17,041 --> 00:02:19,001 Speaker 2: You need to go back, and but you don't know 41 00:02:19,001 --> 00:02:20,960 Speaker 2: which four out of nie she's not telling us. 42 00:02:21,520 --> 00:02:24,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, So anyway, we're like trying to be strategic 43 00:02:24,841 --> 00:02:26,841 Speaker 1: about it. Okay, well if that one's not right and 44 00:02:26,881 --> 00:02:28,841 Speaker 1: that one is right, and then at this point that 45 00:02:28,881 --> 00:02:31,000 Speaker 1: one was right, and then I just went, okay, let's 46 00:02:31,041 --> 00:02:35,840 Speaker 1: forget about all of those let me read the information 47 00:02:36,520 --> 00:02:39,161 Speaker 1: and let me do the questions, like, let's do the 48 00:02:39,281 --> 00:02:42,720 Speaker 1: questions from scratch, like we haven't beginning any previous feedback. Yeah, 49 00:02:42,841 --> 00:02:44,521 Speaker 1: went through them and I was like, okay, this this, 50 00:02:44,680 --> 00:02:46,840 Speaker 1: this is got to the end. And I went I 51 00:02:46,881 --> 00:02:50,560 Speaker 1: am so sure that that is right, like it literally 52 00:02:50,680 --> 00:02:54,041 Speaker 1: it couldn't be any I've gone through with a fine 53 00:02:54,121 --> 00:02:57,481 Speaker 1: tooth comb. And then Amelia's she's happy with it, but 54 00:02:57,561 --> 00:02:59,561 Speaker 1: she's also like, no, Mum, she told me that that 55 00:02:59,601 --> 00:03:01,761 Speaker 1: one wasn't right, blah blah blah blah. And this email, 56 00:03:02,041 --> 00:03:03,800 Speaker 1: I was like, no, it doesn't matter, like I think 57 00:03:03,841 --> 00:03:06,840 Speaker 1: she is wrong because I am so sure. 58 00:03:06,881 --> 00:03:08,681 Speaker 2: She's a teacher, but she's wrong. 59 00:03:08,800 --> 00:03:12,881 Speaker 1: It's wrong anyway, right, give it to me. She comes 60 00:03:12,921 --> 00:03:15,680 Speaker 1: back one out of five, No, five out of five. 61 00:03:15,680 --> 00:03:19,521 Speaker 1: They're all right now. So at some point in the 62 00:03:19,641 --> 00:03:22,321 Speaker 1: email chain, the teacher has got it wrong. 63 00:03:22,761 --> 00:03:24,961 Speaker 2: Oh, she's just trying to fuck with you. I was like, no, 64 00:03:25,281 --> 00:03:27,521 Speaker 2: she actually knew that she was doing it just to 65 00:03:27,520 --> 00:03:29,520 Speaker 2: mess with you, to see how much longer you could 66 00:03:29,561 --> 00:03:33,520 Speaker 2: spend as the parent on your child's I've got. 67 00:03:33,321 --> 00:03:34,161 Speaker 1: Nothing else to do. 68 00:03:35,201 --> 00:03:36,921 Speaker 2: She hasn't even got a Christmas tree out let's give 69 00:03:36,961 --> 00:03:51,281 Speaker 2: her an assignment. Am I a bad mom for keeping 70 00:03:51,321 --> 00:03:54,361 Speaker 2: it a secret from them? 71 00:03:54,361 --> 00:03:55,281 Speaker 1: Excited for this? 72 00:03:56,481 --> 00:03:59,281 Speaker 2: I think I've been pretty open about how I tend 73 00:03:59,401 --> 00:04:01,961 Speaker 2: to approach things with and I've got another friend who 74 00:04:01,961 --> 00:04:05,561 Speaker 2: does this too. Our girls are say mate, and we 75 00:04:05,881 --> 00:04:12,881 Speaker 2: sort of approach things as more of spontaneous catch ups, 76 00:04:13,521 --> 00:04:15,801 Speaker 2: only so that we don't have to get peppered with 77 00:04:15,841 --> 00:04:18,121 Speaker 2: the questions for two weeks prior to telling them that 78 00:04:18,161 --> 00:04:20,681 Speaker 2: they've get you know what I mean. So like we're 79 00:04:20,681 --> 00:04:23,641 Speaker 2: the saying, we sort of go We as adults know 80 00:04:23,761 --> 00:04:26,201 Speaker 2: that our kids are catching up in two weeks, but 81 00:04:26,320 --> 00:04:28,721 Speaker 2: we don't tell them until the day. Yeah, they're on 82 00:04:28,841 --> 00:04:32,080 Speaker 2: cloud nights. They're so excited. I have learned a little 83 00:04:32,081 --> 00:04:35,281 Speaker 2: bit about Elsie of late, because she's obviously ten. She 84 00:04:35,361 --> 00:04:37,921 Speaker 2: can now tell me how she's really She's very good 85 00:04:38,041 --> 00:04:40,601 Speaker 2: articulating how she feels. But she's come out and you know, 86 00:04:40,681 --> 00:04:42,481 Speaker 2: done the whole I need to know a little bit 87 00:04:42,521 --> 00:04:44,921 Speaker 2: more in advance. She handles it better if she knows 88 00:04:44,961 --> 00:04:47,841 Speaker 2: what's going on a little bit more in evans. And 89 00:04:47,921 --> 00:04:50,961 Speaker 2: I'm like, okay, well you can have three days in advance. 90 00:04:50,641 --> 00:04:53,281 Speaker 1: Not you know, don't just bring it on me. I'm 91 00:04:53,320 --> 00:04:54,041 Speaker 1: not prepared. 92 00:04:54,361 --> 00:04:56,841 Speaker 2: Yeah. She doesn't like not knowing, she doesn't like being unprepared. 93 00:04:56,921 --> 00:04:58,201 Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm exactly the same. 94 00:04:58,201 --> 00:05:00,601 Speaker 2: But at the same time, Katie, I really don't need 95 00:05:00,641 --> 00:05:02,921 Speaker 2: to hear about it for a week beforehand. Yeah, I 96 00:05:02,961 --> 00:05:06,681 Speaker 2: don't want to answer the same question thousand times anyway. 97 00:05:06,801 --> 00:05:10,520 Speaker 2: So recapping the start of this year, their dad went 98 00:05:10,561 --> 00:05:12,721 Speaker 2: away off to I'm a slebe, get me out of here. 99 00:05:13,041 --> 00:05:15,601 Speaker 2: He went off to Africa. I told them that he 100 00:05:15,721 --> 00:05:19,321 Speaker 2: was in Sydney and he'd been gone a week. We 101 00:05:19,361 --> 00:05:22,041 Speaker 2: sat down and the surprise for them was surprise, your 102 00:05:22,121 --> 00:05:23,641 Speaker 2: dad's on arm a slabe, get me out of here. 103 00:05:23,641 --> 00:05:27,080 Speaker 2: He's not in Sydney, He's actually in Africa. And it 104 00:05:27,161 --> 00:05:30,201 Speaker 2: went down well, not so much a lead balloon, but 105 00:05:30,361 --> 00:05:32,521 Speaker 2: we went through every emotion physically possible. 106 00:05:33,001 --> 00:05:36,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, kind And it started off with cause I saw 107 00:05:36,521 --> 00:05:41,961 Speaker 1: the video. It started off with Grace going, oh my god, 108 00:05:41,961 --> 00:05:43,281 Speaker 1: this is going to be so embarrassing. 109 00:05:43,521 --> 00:05:46,681 Speaker 2: Yeah, and Elsie, I told you so, I knew it. 110 00:05:47,880 --> 00:05:51,001 Speaker 2: And then so far forward from obviously not learning my 111 00:05:51,121 --> 00:05:54,801 Speaker 2: lesson from January hour in December, I think about maybe 112 00:05:54,841 --> 00:05:58,361 Speaker 2: six or seven weeks, eight weeks ago, I had a 113 00:05:58,401 --> 00:06:02,041 Speaker 2: fuck it moment and just booked a holiday, and so 114 00:06:02,201 --> 00:06:04,801 Speaker 2: I have sat on it, knowing that I had booked 115 00:06:04,801 --> 00:06:07,241 Speaker 2: a whole holiday for Christmas, but I hadn't told them 116 00:06:08,201 --> 00:06:09,881 Speaker 2: because I wanted to use it as part of their 117 00:06:09,961 --> 00:06:12,200 Speaker 2: Christmas present. So I've been waiting for the first of 118 00:06:12,241 --> 00:06:19,601 Speaker 2: December because the elf on the showd. 119 00:06:17,041 --> 00:06:20,521 Speaker 1: You know what the amount of times I have not 120 00:06:20,601 --> 00:06:24,721 Speaker 1: booked holidays because I've gone, oh, we should save the money, 121 00:06:24,961 --> 00:06:27,681 Speaker 1: we shouldn't do it, we should wait until we've got 122 00:06:27,721 --> 00:06:30,241 Speaker 1: more savings. The amount of times I've done that. But 123 00:06:30,361 --> 00:06:33,561 Speaker 1: one of the most important things is memories doesn't have 124 00:06:33,641 --> 00:06:37,200 Speaker 1: to be like a super expensive overseas holiday. Even doing 125 00:06:37,201 --> 00:06:39,841 Speaker 1: it like a weekend await or camping or whatever it 126 00:06:39,921 --> 00:06:42,081 Speaker 1: might be. It is with your budget. 127 00:06:41,841 --> 00:06:42,561 Speaker 2: And your family. 128 00:06:42,721 --> 00:06:43,601 Speaker 1: It's about memories. 129 00:06:43,681 --> 00:06:47,681 Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly where I went after you know, like another big, 130 00:06:47,961 --> 00:06:51,321 Speaker 2: you know, shock diagnosis of a close family member in 131 00:06:51,361 --> 00:06:54,721 Speaker 2: my family, I just had this bucket moment and was like, 132 00:06:54,801 --> 00:06:57,880 Speaker 2: oh my god, life is really short. I'm just booking it. Yeah, 133 00:06:58,121 --> 00:06:59,801 Speaker 2: And so I booked it, and now I've sat on 134 00:06:59,841 --> 00:07:03,001 Speaker 2: it for this long that I felt like, finally the 135 00:07:03,001 --> 00:07:06,161 Speaker 2: first of December's here. The l elves have arrived. The 136 00:07:06,201 --> 00:07:09,001 Speaker 2: elves brought a letter from Santa, and the letter from 137 00:07:09,001 --> 00:07:11,761 Speaker 2: Santa tells them, this is your Christmas present. We're going 138 00:07:11,801 --> 00:07:12,521 Speaker 2: on a holiday. 139 00:07:12,801 --> 00:07:13,840 Speaker 1: Yeah, exciting. 140 00:07:14,121 --> 00:07:17,121 Speaker 2: Oh my god. They were like beside themselves because I 141 00:07:17,161 --> 00:07:19,121 Speaker 2: got a bit of feedback, and I was starting to 142 00:07:19,161 --> 00:07:22,161 Speaker 2: get a little bit worried because I hadn't told too 143 00:07:22,201 --> 00:07:25,041 Speaker 2: many people because I didn't want them to accidentally tell 144 00:07:25,081 --> 00:07:27,401 Speaker 2: their kids and then their kids go back to my kids, 145 00:07:27,441 --> 00:07:30,041 Speaker 2: and so I had sort of just held off. Yeah, 146 00:07:30,081 --> 00:07:34,161 Speaker 2: and then my brother had called me for something else 147 00:07:34,201 --> 00:07:36,041 Speaker 2: the other day, and he had this moment where he 148 00:07:36,161 --> 00:07:42,001 Speaker 2: was just like, right, what happens if this plan doesn't 149 00:07:42,321 --> 00:07:45,281 Speaker 2: sort of unfold in your head like as it is 150 00:07:45,401 --> 00:07:48,401 Speaker 2: in your head or happy in la la la. And 151 00:07:48,441 --> 00:07:50,401 Speaker 2: then they actually get the news and they're like, I 152 00:07:50,441 --> 00:07:52,121 Speaker 2: fucking hate it. I don't want to go. 153 00:07:52,561 --> 00:07:56,161 Speaker 1: Well, it's funny because just on your brother for a second. 154 00:07:56,441 --> 00:08:00,201 Speaker 1: I know exactly which brother you're talking about. And I 155 00:08:00,281 --> 00:08:05,281 Speaker 1: happened to bump into that brother recently at the shopping center. Yeah, 156 00:08:05,361 --> 00:08:08,481 Speaker 1: and we had a brief chat about your holiday, and 157 00:08:08,561 --> 00:08:10,601 Speaker 1: you know, when are we all catching up over Christmas? No, 158 00:08:10,681 --> 00:08:13,281 Speaker 1: rate is going to be away blah blah blah, And 159 00:08:13,401 --> 00:08:17,601 Speaker 1: actually what he said was, do you think Rachus remembered 160 00:08:17,641 --> 00:08:19,281 Speaker 1: how long she's going to have to spend with her 161 00:08:19,321 --> 00:08:20,321 Speaker 1: husband whilst away? 162 00:08:22,001 --> 00:08:23,001 Speaker 3: Ah? 163 00:08:23,161 --> 00:08:25,961 Speaker 2: Do you know how many people have gone? Are you okay? 164 00:08:26,081 --> 00:08:27,641 Speaker 2: And I was like, what do you mean? And they're like, 165 00:08:28,041 --> 00:08:30,801 Speaker 2: it's a very very long time to be in close 166 00:08:30,801 --> 00:08:32,280 Speaker 2: proximity with your husband and. 167 00:08:32,241 --> 00:08:35,081 Speaker 1: Asking how many weeks are you going for? 168 00:08:35,241 --> 00:08:35,521 Speaker 2: Three? 169 00:08:35,841 --> 00:08:38,081 Speaker 1: You're going for three weeks? Yes, And can we just 170 00:08:38,121 --> 00:08:40,001 Speaker 1: tell people where you're going because this is a big trip, 171 00:08:40,081 --> 00:08:43,601 Speaker 1: like this is a kind of a once in a life. 172 00:08:43,401 --> 00:08:45,761 Speaker 2: All this time. Yeah, well, I mean the fuck it 173 00:08:45,881 --> 00:08:49,721 Speaker 2: moment really gives it away, because we're at that stage where, 174 00:08:49,721 --> 00:08:53,601 Speaker 2: like my girls are about to transition into the next 175 00:08:53,961 --> 00:08:57,121 Speaker 2: group of children that don't believe any longer. 176 00:08:57,361 --> 00:09:00,241 Speaker 1: Yeah, so heading towards teenagers. 177 00:08:59,721 --> 00:09:03,521 Speaker 2: Heading towards we're tweens. Yeah, we're going to go and 178 00:09:03,561 --> 00:09:08,361 Speaker 2: do Lapland, and like I've got rellies in Switzerland and 179 00:09:08,721 --> 00:09:10,401 Speaker 2: so it's just going to be a cold Christmas and 180 00:09:10,401 --> 00:09:13,841 Speaker 2: they've never experienced a cold Christmas. B they've never been 181 00:09:13,881 --> 00:09:17,561 Speaker 2: overseas that far, and it'll just be like a once 182 00:09:17,601 --> 00:09:21,401 Speaker 2: in a lifetime opportunity. It's definitely one location I've never 183 00:09:21,441 --> 00:09:25,681 Speaker 2: been to, so I'm excited also about visiting a new location. 184 00:09:26,041 --> 00:09:28,321 Speaker 2: And it's been a ride of eight weeks. 185 00:09:28,521 --> 00:09:31,521 Speaker 1: What you're going to remember is that you know how 186 00:09:31,601 --> 00:09:36,441 Speaker 1: much planning is involved in this particular trip, how much planning, 187 00:09:36,881 --> 00:09:40,841 Speaker 1: like there's different locations, the preparation you're going to need 188 00:09:40,881 --> 00:09:44,281 Speaker 1: to do, not to mention the money and what you've 189 00:09:44,321 --> 00:09:45,721 Speaker 1: financially into it. 190 00:09:46,081 --> 00:09:47,801 Speaker 2: Yeah right, it's a lot, Yeah, a lot. 191 00:09:48,121 --> 00:09:51,361 Speaker 1: What you've got to remember is that your kids will 192 00:09:51,361 --> 00:09:55,801 Speaker 1: never really truly appreciate that because they just don't have 193 00:09:55,881 --> 00:10:00,121 Speaker 1: the ability. No, they will have an amazing time regardless, Like, 194 00:10:00,201 --> 00:10:03,201 Speaker 1: they will absolutely love it. And I think with kids, 195 00:10:03,281 --> 00:10:06,161 Speaker 1: just the fact that you're all together and you're present, 196 00:10:06,441 --> 00:10:07,561 Speaker 1: like that's what they need. 197 00:10:07,641 --> 00:10:10,121 Speaker 2: Yeah, I think that's what they'll love. And we really 198 00:10:10,201 --> 00:10:13,921 Speaker 2: haven't spent much time this year really with the four 199 00:10:13,961 --> 00:10:17,281 Speaker 2: of us, so yeah, we've done it. The information was 200 00:10:17,321 --> 00:10:21,401 Speaker 2: received very well, and then you know, like Elsie's response 201 00:10:21,601 --> 00:10:23,761 Speaker 2: was priceless. She's like, what about rivershow? 202 00:10:24,921 --> 00:10:27,961 Speaker 1: What about the camping trip that you've got beforehand? 203 00:10:28,521 --> 00:10:31,521 Speaker 2: What about Rivershow? And I was like, in that moment 204 00:10:31,561 --> 00:10:34,441 Speaker 2: of going like instead of reacting like a three year 205 00:10:34,481 --> 00:10:38,241 Speaker 2: old Rachel just she's just processing. I had to just 206 00:10:38,281 --> 00:10:40,561 Speaker 2: sort of like, oh, yeah, you'll get a night there 207 00:10:40,601 --> 00:10:43,961 Speaker 2: and then we'll have to like we're going to start packing. 208 00:10:44,161 --> 00:10:47,721 Speaker 1: That's the example, right, Let's the example of like the 209 00:10:47,801 --> 00:10:51,681 Speaker 1: amount of times I've said over the years, oh my god, 210 00:10:51,801 --> 00:10:54,921 Speaker 1: you understand how lucky you are to have been able 211 00:10:55,001 --> 00:10:58,241 Speaker 1: to do that. And it will be something like that. 212 00:10:58,721 --> 00:11:00,641 Speaker 1: But what about the camping trip we were supposed to 213 00:11:00,681 --> 00:11:01,641 Speaker 1: go on on the weekend? 214 00:11:01,801 --> 00:11:04,401 Speaker 2: Yeah, and you know, like it's already started and it 215 00:11:04,441 --> 00:11:06,401 Speaker 2: was this morning. Gracie says to me. 216 00:11:06,361 --> 00:11:08,761 Speaker 1: Oh my god, Lady Gaga's here next week. 217 00:11:08,881 --> 00:11:10,161 Speaker 2: She's like, why can't we go? 218 00:11:10,841 --> 00:11:14,121 Speaker 1: Yeah? I know exactly how that feels. 219 00:11:14,201 --> 00:11:15,881 Speaker 2: Do you want me to tell you about your holiday? 220 00:11:16,081 --> 00:11:19,561 Speaker 1: Yeah? Can we just remind you of the holiday? Remember 221 00:11:19,801 --> 00:11:21,201 Speaker 1: you're going to Lapland. 222 00:11:21,361 --> 00:11:24,081 Speaker 2: Before today, I have not been able to use that one. 223 00:11:24,121 --> 00:11:26,561 Speaker 2: I've had to stumble over my words every time they're like, 224 00:11:26,921 --> 00:11:28,841 Speaker 2: can we do this during the holidays? Can I have 225 00:11:28,921 --> 00:11:31,161 Speaker 2: this sleepover? Can I be here? Can I do that? 226 00:11:31,361 --> 00:11:34,881 Speaker 1: And I'm like, no, Yeah, I'm still still going to. 227 00:11:34,801 --> 00:11:37,441 Speaker 2: Be eating two minute noodles for the remainder of the holidays. 228 00:11:37,441 --> 00:11:40,161 Speaker 2: When we get home and of your life, don't be crazy.