Speaker 1: And he was like, oh yeah, Like, we were on
Speaker 1: this bus on the way back from the Portsypolla and
Speaker 1: there was this guy who was in this cubicle and
Speaker 1: he like was really drunk and then took a number
Speaker 1: two in a bass and it's stunk.
Speaker 2: It stunk out the whole bus.
Speaker 1: So when he came out of the toilet, everyone was
Speaker 1: like booing him at boo.
Speaker 2: Where's Your Head At? Is a podcast that talks full things.
Speaker 1: Right, hold on a sec, let's give this a refresh.
Speaker 2: Hi.
Speaker 3: I'm Anna and I'm Matt, and we are now too
Speaker 3: newlywed not to each other. Just a female and male
Speaker 3: best friend here for the good, the bad, and the
Speaker 3: ugly times.
Speaker 1: And exploring adulthood, family relationships, dilemmas.
Speaker 3: And whatever else we have the mental capacity to deal with.
Speaker 2: Come get the lowdown.
Speaker 3: This is your male and female perspective.
Speaker 1: So, Matt, where's your head At?
Speaker 3: Good morning, Anna, and welcome to another episode of Where's
Speaker 3: Your Head At? Where's Your Head At?
Speaker 1: I'm currently on maternity lead and I think by now
Speaker 1: I will have a little baby, which is very exciting.
Speaker 1: I honestly I'm like thinking about it. Now, what will
Speaker 1: have been doing right now?
Speaker 3: We're pulling your hair out, stressed as not realizing what
Speaker 3: comes with having a baby.
Speaker 2: No negative vibes from you?
Speaker 3: Shit, what have I done? No, you'll be fine. I'm
Speaker 3: sure you'll fill the mother role. You're very nurturing and caring.
Speaker 2: Yeah, pumping me out.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think you'll be fine. I think that older Spike.
Speaker 2: Will be he's had so many names.
Speaker 3: I think he'll be very chilled at this moment.
Speaker 1: It's all I'm hoping for is a healthy, happy baby,
Speaker 1: and that's all.
Speaker 2: But it is.
Speaker 1: Funny because since doing Where's your Bump Hat, I've spoken
Speaker 1: a lot about how there's a lot of like negative
Speaker 1: vibes out there to mums, like it's gonna be so hard,
Speaker 1: you're going to get no sleep, it's going to be horrible.
Speaker 1: And you know what, maybe when I come back from
Speaker 1: this maternity leave, I'm just going to be so straight up,
Speaker 1: I'm going to tell you exactly how it was. But
Speaker 1: I hope I can have like I hope i'm positive,
Speaker 1: and I hope for myself that I have really happy
Speaker 1: moments and like like we said, I do love my
Speaker 1: straight eight hours of sleep, but since being pregnant, I
Speaker 1: get up in the middle of the night anyway to well.
Speaker 2: That's it's already getting broken up.
Speaker 3: This time you'll be getting old stand up of Stanley
Speaker 3: Stanley alone, I did Snake Snake, snake up and if
Speaker 3: be trying to find the nipple to get breastfed.
Speaker 2: He's really running out.
Speaker 1: He's going with snake for the name, he's really running
Speaker 1: out of uptious.
Speaker 2: You still haven't got.
Speaker 3: It, just really really, this is either way too obvious
Speaker 3: or way too unique unique. I'm not sure what it
Speaker 3: would be.
Speaker 2: How have you been that good?
Speaker 3: I don't don't really know where I'll be right now
Speaker 3: coming out. I have no idea. Just being Matthew, I
Speaker 3: probably would have visited you in the hospital.
Speaker 2: Have you had your hooping cough injection?
Speaker 3: Yeah, I feel like I would have. I saw a
Speaker 3: baby in the hospital a couple of years ago. I
Speaker 3: checked that.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Yeah, because that's actually a conversation I'm having with people
Speaker 1: at the moment where you have to kind of like.
Speaker 3: Oh, gibble check at the doctors.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: The midwife said to me that usually if they've had
Speaker 1: it in the last five years, that's the best because
Speaker 1: then the immunity starts going down.
Speaker 3: Oh I should be fine. That was like two years ago.
Speaker 3: How old it at the hospital?
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know what.
Speaker 1: I had it like two weeks ago. And the hooping
Speaker 1: cough injection actually hurts. It's like getting punched for like
Speaker 1: a week, just like really like tetanus. Yeah, I've had tennis.
Speaker 1: Hooping cough has a bit of tennis in it. I
Speaker 1: had the flu injection fine, it did not hurt it
Speaker 1: all going in.
Speaker 3: Do you remember when I went in to get my
Speaker 3: the Remember we're getting vaccinated for COVID and I had
Speaker 3: to get my second jab. I remember I went in
Speaker 3: and they gave me the flu one and instead and
Speaker 3: I left and I was like no, because remember the
Speaker 3: vaccine was free. And then they started to charge me
Speaker 3: and I was like, oh, you don't have to charge
Speaker 3: for that. And then they were like no, no, you
Speaker 3: got the flu shot. Do you remember no? And then
Speaker 3: I was like I didn't want that, and then they
Speaker 3: they I should be back into the room and then
Speaker 3: chagged me with the thing in the same arm and
Speaker 3: just said we'll give you the flu shot for free.
Speaker 3: And I was like, what.
Speaker 2: Did you not like check it before they're trained people.
Speaker 2: I don't think that, you know, but if you're rocking
Speaker 2: up somewhere. Aren't you just announcing to them, Hey, I'm.
Speaker 3: Happy for a COVID one.
Speaker 1: Anyway, I really, as much as I love this chat,
Speaker 1: like I really gives you the talking about COVID a
Speaker 1: little bit.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know what I mean? Like, I feel like
Speaker 2: it's a memory of like a couple of years. Yes, exactly.
Speaker 2: But I have suppressed and put in a dark room.
Speaker 3: That's not a healthy you know, you should go talk
Speaker 3: to your therapist.
Speaker 2: I don't want to talk about it. Andrew's face. Let
Speaker 2: me cry, Beto, we came on the screen.
Speaker 3: Fuck, that's a throwback on that. Let's move on to
Speaker 3: this article that I had such a.
Speaker 2: Weird chat from us. I'm so sorry, guy, I'm sorry.
Speaker 2: I'm heavily pregnant.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and we're recording episodes to make sure you guys
Speaker 3: can listen, and everyone's like, fuck, what are they talking
Speaker 3: about now?
Speaker 2: I'm dark?
Speaker 3: Yeah? Okay, So I found this article owner.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Woman forgives and marries motorists who accidentally ran her over.
Speaker 2: Wow.
Speaker 3: A twenty three year old Chinese woman was hit by
Speaker 3: a speeding car driven by thirty six year old ling.
Speaker 3: Despite breaking her collar bone, she forgave him and her
Speaker 3: and her family chose to press no charges. Lee visited
Speaker 3: her daily in the hospital and they grew closer. Three
Speaker 3: weeks later, she confessed to her love, though he initially
Speaker 3: declined due to their age GAF, they eventually married.
Speaker 1: Oh my goodness, I mean, you know what I always
Speaker 1: used to think, like, I wonder how I'll meet my
Speaker 1: future husband.
Speaker 2: I want it to be a good story.
Speaker 1: And that is a floody, unbelievable story when you think about.
Speaker 3: It, imagine getting hit by a car, going to hospital,
Speaker 3: breaking your collarbone, and then falling in love with the
Speaker 3: person who hit you.
Speaker 1: The fact that he came to visit her in the
Speaker 1: hospital every day, you feel it's kind of like a
Speaker 1: little romance novel.
Speaker 2: Like I feel like they could make that into.
Speaker 3: A movie that honestly could be a movie.
Speaker 2: And that is a movie.
Speaker 3: I was about to say that it does sound like
Speaker 3: a plot to a movie. What's the movie where? It's like,
Speaker 3: is it? What's a movie? Where is that? A cute
Speaker 3: meat that meets you? Meet you? Ye, meet you?
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think that's it. Well, it's like a very
Speaker 2: aggressive meat cute, but nonetheless it is a meet cute.
Speaker 1: It's kind of like you know, you would never hear
Speaker 1: anyone who's been in a car accident say I don't
Speaker 1: want to take that back.
Speaker 3: You've never heard someone that says they wish they were
Speaker 3: in that car accident. They always say, you know, I
Speaker 3: don't want to be in a car accident.
Speaker 1: Yeah, like I wish I could take that back in
Speaker 1: my life.
Speaker 3: Yeah, nothing good happen for a car act. But luckily
Speaker 3: in this one, she's met her partner.
Speaker 1: This is the only scenario where she would opt, if
Speaker 1: she could do life again, to be in the car
Speaker 1: accident because she meets the love of her life who
Speaker 1: she then marries.
Speaker 3: It's cute. I mean, it's kind of like.
Speaker 2: The butterfly effect though right everyone's talking about that at
Speaker 2: the moment.
Speaker 3: Effect.
Speaker 1: Doesn't it mean that if you didn't if something didn't
Speaker 1: happen to you, Like for instance, if the car accident
Speaker 1: didn't happen, then they wouldn't have met, and then they
Speaker 1: wouldn't have got married, and then it's like all of
Speaker 1: these things happen. It's kind of like forks in the road.
Speaker 1: Like if you come to a fork in the road
Speaker 1: in your life and you can choose thing a verse
Speaker 1: thing b if you choose the wrong one, then potentially
Speaker 1: you might never meet the love of your life, you
Speaker 1: might never travel the world, you might never I don't know,
Speaker 1: cross paths with someone who is going to be your
Speaker 1: future business partner, whatever it might be.
Speaker 3: Do you ever think to yourself, because I remember I've
Speaker 3: thought this before, have you ever been in the same
Speaker 3: room or being in the same area, how close you
Speaker 3: reckon you got to Michael before you met him.
Speaker 1: Do you know what's so interesting that you're saying this
Speaker 1: is recently we had a conversation and you know how
Speaker 1: everyone used to go to the Portzy Polo and it
Speaker 1: was like a thing. Yeah, I think, yeah, it was
Speaker 1: like it was a real thing for me. I don't
Speaker 1: know if it's still going, but it was a thing
Speaker 1: back in the day. Basically everyone would like get buses
Speaker 1: from Melbourne to Portsy attend the Portzy Polo. It was
Speaker 1: a really fun event. I used to it literally used
Speaker 1: to be one of my favorite events of the year.
Speaker 1: And it was so funny because Michael the other day
Speaker 1: was talking about going to the Portzy Polo and was
Speaker 1: telling me this story and he was like, oh, yeah,
Speaker 1: Like we were on this bus on the way back
Speaker 1: from the Portzya Polo and there was this guy who
Speaker 1: was in this cubicle and he like was really drunk
Speaker 1: and then took a number two in the bus and
Speaker 1: it's stunk.
Speaker 2: It stunk out the whole bus.
Speaker 1: So when he came out of the toilet, everyone was
Speaker 1: like booing him, like boom, and he was telling you
Speaker 1: this story, and I was like, I was there.
Speaker 2: When that happened.
Speaker 3: You're on that bus, like this.
Speaker 1: Was a long time ago, but I remember this story,
Speaker 1: and I don't know, I'm pretty sure, like I would
Speaker 1: have been pretty drunk because it's a full day of drinking.
Speaker 2: It's like going to the races, go to the Portsya Polo.
Speaker 1: But I'm pretty sure I was there for this moment,
Speaker 1: and I'm pretty sure I was booing huge.
Speaker 3: That's a mass If you guys are in the same.
Speaker 2: Class we think, we don't know.
Speaker 1: I need to like go back to that exact time.
Speaker 1: He's pretty good with dates, Michael is, So I'm going
Speaker 1: to go back and see if I can like look
Speaker 1: at the photos from like that time, because.
Speaker 3: Imagine that's I want to stay. Let's let's check in
Speaker 3: on that and see.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, it's like have you seen those photos of
Speaker 1: there's like a couple who are looking this girl was
Speaker 1: looking back at old photos of her when she was little.
Speaker 1: She was like literally three, and she's at Disneyland and
Speaker 1: they're taking a photo of her with Minie Mouse and
Speaker 1: literally in the background is her husband as a baby.
Speaker 3: Let's reach out. Le's see if people have that. I
Speaker 3: reckon we do an episode on cute Meat. There's a
Speaker 3: lot more to dive into. Meet cute so and dive
Speaker 3: into that a lot more, because that's a fascinating stuff.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's pretty cool, pretty cool, it's very special if
Speaker 1: it happened.
Speaker 3: Let's let's let's when you're when we're off paternity leave,
Speaker 3: let's look into that.
Speaker 1: Let's yeah, we'll circle back and see if I can
Speaker 1: find any picks.
Speaker 3: Real quick. I almost forgot though. I bought some triggers
Speaker 3: you were I bought some triggered pants, so I'm bringing
Speaker 3: them back. I got the blue ones. They're in the mail. Guys.
Speaker 3: Hopefully by the next record see.
Speaker 2: Online purchase and you went blue.
Speaker 3: I went blue, So hopefully by the next time we record,
Speaker 3: I've got my triggers on.
Speaker 1: You did say you were going to buy some, so
Speaker 1: you followed through bringing them back. You're gonna be wearing
Speaker 1: them all winter. This is actually I'm wearing trackies today.
Speaker 1: This is the first day that I've wore trackies and
Speaker 1: not pants. I've just I just realized in.
Speaker 3: Melbourne I was wearing I put on originally my like
Speaker 3: linen sort of vibe pants, and I realized, no, I'm
Speaker 3: in Melbourne. It's sucking cold, and I put my jeans on.
Speaker 3: Let's get into the hot line, get into Hotland.
Speaker 2: I'm having a Brax and Higgs. Okay, this one is anonymous.
Speaker 4: Hi, guys, be a friend of the podcast. I wanted
Speaker 4: to send a voice not because I had a bit
Speaker 4: of a weird situation happen and I'd love to get
Speaker 4: your opinions on it. So I was having drinks to
Speaker 4: a couple of girlfriends after work in the city and
Speaker 4: I went up to the bar to order and s
Speaker 4: guy came up behind me and put his armor on
Speaker 4: my waist and was like hello, stranger, and I was like,
Speaker 4: oh my god.
Speaker 2: And it was my boyfriend's dad. So we were just talking.
Speaker 4: It was just like funny, Like I did not expect
Speaker 4: to see him at a bar anyway. He was there
Speaker 4: with like some of his coworkers as well, so he
Speaker 4: was having a laugh and then I don't know, it
Speaker 4: just felt a bit off. He was a bit handsy
Speaker 4: to me and genuinely felt like he was flirting with me.
Speaker 2: We've met a few times.
Speaker 4: But my boyfriend and I haven't been together that long,
Speaker 4: so it was like a really really weird, really weird interaction.
Speaker 4: He didn't like make a move on me, but I
Speaker 4: genuinely felt like he was going to.
Speaker 2: So now I'm just in a weird position.
Speaker 4: Should I tell my boyfriend or not? Like I feel
Speaker 4: like I'm keeping a secret from him, but I also
Speaker 4: don't want to cause a drama between the family. I
Speaker 4: don't want to make him mad his dad, and I
Speaker 4: also kind of feel like I don't want to embarrass
Speaker 4: his dad. So let me know what you guys think.
Speaker 4: I don't know if I'm just being weird, but I
Speaker 4: just I don't know what to do.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, that literally just gave me the full
Speaker 2: blown ick. I just had shivers go down.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's icky. What do you do in that situation?
Speaker 2: I think I'm a bit stumped. That is just so uncomfortable.
Speaker 3: You tell him, you tell the partner.
Speaker 1: Someone, Yeah, you tell you tell them, but like in
Speaker 1: a chill way, you're like, oh, your dad was there
Speaker 1: the other night and he was being a bit like
Speaker 1: he's putting his hand on my leg.
Speaker 2: It was a bit weird.
Speaker 1: It's too much, it's too much. But then she's like,
Speaker 1: if this, if her boyfriend is the love of her
Speaker 1: life and they're going to be married, then the family
Speaker 1: is going to be together forever. But in saying that,
Speaker 1: like there needs to be boundaries, and.
Speaker 3: Surely he's embarrassed, so that dad, actually the dad doesn't
Speaker 3: want to see her. Maybe you had a couple of dreams.
Speaker 1: Maybe he was blackout and doesn't remember. It sounds like
Speaker 1: that because who in their right mind would do that
Speaker 1: if he wasn't blackout, that's like a whole not excusing
Speaker 1: it if he was blackout.
Speaker 2: But I feel like it's just like.
Speaker 1: Because because you know how they say, like drunk people's
Speaker 1: actions and words are like what their sober feelings are
Speaker 1: like ugh, and then what do you do do you
Speaker 1: talk to you dad? Like, Oh, it's just like so
Speaker 1: layered and.
Speaker 3: Ugh that someone coming to start.
Speaker 1: It's it's such a hard situation because I feel like
Speaker 1: in the situation, she's probably like trying to like be
Speaker 1: friendly with her father in law obviously because it's her
Speaker 1: father in law and she's trying to make a good impression.
Speaker 1: But in the moment where like the leg goes, the
Speaker 1: hand goes on the leg is the moment where you
Speaker 1: really like.
Speaker 2: Need to be like what are you doing?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 1: But in saying that, I feel like, as women, like
Speaker 1: and I'm just talking personally, it's so hard to not
Speaker 1: be a people pleaser sometimes, Like for me, I'm such
Speaker 1: a people pleaser, especially in like weird situations like that
Speaker 1: or like you know, as women, we often say sorry
Speaker 1: all the time, even when we don't need to. And
Speaker 1: I think in situations like this, you just want to
Speaker 1: kind of get out of it without rustling feathers. And
Speaker 1: I know that that's sometimes not the right thing to do,
Speaker 1: but it's just.
Speaker 3: Like, ugh, it's so ikey, I reckon, don't go to
Speaker 3: any family events. Fuck the dog, But you can't just
Speaker 3: you can touch you feel it's disgusting, it feels, it
Speaker 3: makes you feel, it makes you feel vulnerable, and like icky,
Speaker 3: I agree, And you don't want to put yourself in
Speaker 3: a position where you have to see a guy that makes.
Speaker 1: You feel like that I think Unfortunately, she needs to
Speaker 1: have a conversation with her boyfriend and.
Speaker 3: It's going to be very uncomfortable and it's going to
Speaker 3: be very awkward, But that is conversation you need to
Speaker 3: have with your boyfriend and explain what happened.
Speaker 1: And he probably then needs to have a conversation with
Speaker 1: his dad and say this can never happen again.
Speaker 3: Yep, And it might tear a rip in the family
Speaker 3: and you're not there and you're not in the business
Speaker 3: of breaking families up. But I mean, you have to
Speaker 3: put your safety and your mental health first, make yourself
Speaker 3: feel comfortable in situations. Yeah, you have to be selfish
Speaker 3: in this situation, there's no point And.
Speaker 1: I feel like when people kind of test those boundaries,
Speaker 1: even in this situation it's a father in law, which
Speaker 1: is so icky, but in any situation, I feel like
Speaker 1: sometimes people push boundaries and test boundaries to see how
Speaker 1: far they can get, and maybe things could get like
Speaker 1: a lot.
Speaker 3: Worse anywhere at another family event, it could get even
Speaker 3: worse because you're right, you've now he's pushed a boundary,
Speaker 3: and someone that's.
Speaker 1: Seeing how you've reacted.
Speaker 3: And someone who's willing to push a boundary already like that,
Speaker 3: like we've had this conversation before, is then willing to
Speaker 3: push boundaries and see how far they can keep going?
Speaker 2: Ye, So nip it in the bud. That's our advice.
Speaker 2: That's our advice. Good lufeu.
Speaker 1: We don't wish that situation upon anyone, honestly, Okay, Matt,
Speaker 1: that's all we have time for. As I said, I'm
Speaker 1: still on maternity leave. I hope you guys are all
Speaker 1: having a lovely June. And until next time, Bye bye