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<v Speaker 1>And he was like, oh yeah, Like, we were on

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<v Speaker 1>this bus on the way back from the Portsypolla and

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<v Speaker 1>there was this guy who was in this cubicle and

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<v Speaker 1>he like was really drunk and then took a number

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<v Speaker 1>two in a bass and it's stunk.

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<v Speaker 2>It stunk out the whole bus.

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<v Speaker 1>So when he came out of the toilet, everyone was

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<v Speaker 1>like booing him at boo.

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<v Speaker 2>Where's Your Head At? Is a podcast that talks full things.

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<v Speaker 1>Right, hold on a sec, let's give this a refresh.

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<v Speaker 2>Hi.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm Anna and I'm Matt, and we are now too

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<v Speaker 3>newlywed not to each other. Just a female and male

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<v Speaker 3>best friend here for the good, the bad, and the

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<v Speaker 3>ugly times.

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<v Speaker 1>And exploring adulthood, family relationships, dilemmas.

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<v Speaker 3>And whatever else we have the mental capacity to deal with.

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<v Speaker 2>Come get the lowdown.

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<v Speaker 3>This is your male and female perspective.

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<v Speaker 1>So, Matt, where's your head At?

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<v Speaker 3>Good morning, Anna, and welcome to another episode of Where's

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<v Speaker 3>Your Head At? Where's Your Head At?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm currently on maternity lead and I think by now

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<v Speaker 1>I will have a little baby, which is very exciting.

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<v Speaker 1>I honestly I'm like thinking about it. Now, what will

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<v Speaker 1>have been doing right now?

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<v Speaker 3>We're pulling your hair out, stressed as not realizing what

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<v Speaker 3>comes with having a baby.

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<v Speaker 2>No negative vibes from you?

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<v Speaker 3>Shit, what have I done? No, you'll be fine. I'm

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<v Speaker 3>sure you'll fill the mother role. You're very nurturing and caring.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, pumping me out.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I think you'll be fine. I think that older Spike.

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<v Speaker 2>Will be he's had so many names.

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<v Speaker 3>I think he'll be very chilled at this moment.

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<v Speaker 1>It's all I'm hoping for is a healthy, happy baby,

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<v Speaker 1>and that's all.

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<v Speaker 2>But it is.

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<v Speaker 1>Funny because since doing Where's your Bump Hat, I've spoken

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<v Speaker 1>a lot about how there's a lot of like negative

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<v Speaker 1>vibes out there to mums, like it's gonna be so hard,

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<v Speaker 1>you're going to get no sleep, it's going to be horrible.

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<v Speaker 1>And you know what, maybe when I come back from

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<v Speaker 1>this maternity leave, I'm just going to be so straight up,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to tell you exactly how it was. But

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<v Speaker 1>I hope I can have like I hope i'm positive,

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<v Speaker 1>and I hope for myself that I have really happy

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<v Speaker 1>moments and like like we said, I do love my

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<v Speaker 1>straight eight hours of sleep, but since being pregnant, I

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<v Speaker 1>get up in the middle of the night anyway to well.

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<v Speaker 2>That's it's already getting broken up.

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<v Speaker 3>This time you'll be getting old stand up of Stanley

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<v Speaker 3>Stanley alone, I did Snake Snake, snake up and if

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<v Speaker 3>be trying to find the nipple to get breastfed.

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<v Speaker 2>He's really running out.

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<v Speaker 1>He's going with snake for the name, he's really running

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<v Speaker 1>out of uptious.

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<v Speaker 2>You still haven't got.

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<v Speaker 3>It, just really really, this is either way too obvious

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<v Speaker 3>or way too unique unique. I'm not sure what it

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<v Speaker 3>would be.

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<v Speaker 2>How have you been that good?

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<v Speaker 3>I don't don't really know where I'll be right now

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<v Speaker 3>coming out. I have no idea. Just being Matthew, I

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<v Speaker 3>probably would have visited you in the hospital.

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<v Speaker 2>Have you had your hooping cough injection?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I feel like I would have. I saw a

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<v Speaker 3>baby in the hospital a couple of years ago. I

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<v Speaker 3>checked that.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, because that's actually a conversation I'm having with people

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<v Speaker 1>at the moment where you have to kind of like.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh, gibble check at the doctors.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>The midwife said to me that usually if they've had

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<v Speaker 1>it in the last five years, that's the best because

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<v Speaker 1>then the immunity starts going down.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh I should be fine. That was like two years ago.

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<v Speaker 3>How old it at the hospital?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you know what.

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<v Speaker 1>I had it like two weeks ago. And the hooping

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<v Speaker 1>cough injection actually hurts. It's like getting punched for like

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<v Speaker 1>a week, just like really like tetanus. Yeah, I've had tennis.

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<v Speaker 1>Hooping cough has a bit of tennis in it. I

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<v Speaker 1>had the flu injection fine, it did not hurt it

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<v Speaker 1>all going in.

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<v Speaker 3>Do you remember when I went in to get my

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<v Speaker 3>the Remember we're getting vaccinated for COVID and I had

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<v Speaker 3>to get my second jab. I remember I went in

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<v Speaker 3>and they gave me the flu one and instead and

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<v Speaker 3>I left and I was like no, because remember the

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<v Speaker 3>vaccine was free. And then they started to charge me

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<v Speaker 3>and I was like, oh, you don't have to charge

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<v Speaker 3>for that. And then they were like no, no, you

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<v Speaker 3>got the flu shot. Do you remember no? And then

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<v Speaker 3>I was like I didn't want that, and then they

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<v Speaker 3>they I should be back into the room and then

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<v Speaker 3>chagged me with the thing in the same arm and

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<v Speaker 3>just said we'll give you the flu shot for free.

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<v Speaker 3>And I was like, what.

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<v Speaker 2>Did you not like check it before they're trained people.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't think that, you know, but if you're rocking

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<v Speaker 2>up somewhere. Aren't you just announcing to them, Hey, I'm.

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<v Speaker 3>Happy for a COVID one.

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<v Speaker 1>Anyway, I really, as much as I love this chat,

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<v Speaker 1>like I really gives you the talking about COVID a

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<v Speaker 1>little bit.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you know what I mean? Like, I feel like

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<v Speaker 2>it's a memory of like a couple of years. Yes, exactly.

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<v Speaker 2>But I have suppressed and put in a dark room.

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<v Speaker 3>That's not a healthy you know, you should go talk

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<v Speaker 3>to your therapist.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't want to talk about it. Andrew's face. Let

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<v Speaker 2>me cry, Beto, we came on the screen.

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<v Speaker 3>Fuck, that's a throwback on that. Let's move on to

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<v Speaker 3>this article that I had such a.

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<v Speaker 2>Weird chat from us. I'm so sorry, guy, I'm sorry.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm heavily pregnant.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, and we're recording episodes to make sure you guys

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<v Speaker 3>can listen, and everyone's like, fuck, what are they talking

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<v Speaker 3>about now?

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<v Speaker 2>I'm dark?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah? Okay, So I found this article owner.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>Woman forgives and marries motorists who accidentally ran her over.

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<v Speaker 2>Wow.

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<v Speaker 3>A twenty three year old Chinese woman was hit by

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<v Speaker 3>a speeding car driven by thirty six year old ling.

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<v Speaker 3>Despite breaking her collar bone, she forgave him and her

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<v Speaker 3>and her family chose to press no charges. Lee visited

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<v Speaker 3>her daily in the hospital and they grew closer. Three

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<v Speaker 3>weeks later, she confessed to her love, though he initially

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<v Speaker 3>declined due to their age GAF, they eventually married.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my goodness, I mean, you know what I always

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<v Speaker 1>used to think, like, I wonder how I'll meet my

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<v Speaker 1>future husband.

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<v Speaker 2>I want it to be a good story.

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<v Speaker 1>And that is a floody, unbelievable story when you think about.

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<v Speaker 3>It, imagine getting hit by a car, going to hospital,

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<v Speaker 3>breaking your collarbone, and then falling in love with the

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<v Speaker 3>person who hit you.

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<v Speaker 1>The fact that he came to visit her in the

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<v Speaker 1>hospital every day, you feel it's kind of like a

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<v Speaker 1>little romance novel.

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<v Speaker 2>Like I feel like they could make that into.

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<v Speaker 3>A movie that honestly could be a movie.

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<v Speaker 2>And that is a movie.

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<v Speaker 3>I was about to say that it does sound like

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<v Speaker 3>a plot to a movie. What's the movie where? It's like,

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<v Speaker 3>is it? What's a movie? Where is that? A cute

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<v Speaker 3>meat that meets you? Meet you? Ye, meet you?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I think that's it. Well, it's like a very

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<v Speaker 2>aggressive meat cute, but nonetheless it is a meet cute.

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<v Speaker 1>It's kind of like you know, you would never hear

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<v Speaker 1>anyone who's been in a car accident say I don't

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<v Speaker 1>want to take that back.

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<v Speaker 3>You've never heard someone that says they wish they were

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<v Speaker 3>in that car accident. They always say, you know, I

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<v Speaker 3>don't want to be in a car accident.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, like I wish I could take that back in

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<v Speaker 1>my life.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, nothing good happen for a car act. But luckily

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<v Speaker 3>in this one, she's met her partner.

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<v Speaker 1>This is the only scenario where she would opt, if

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<v Speaker 1>she could do life again, to be in the car

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<v Speaker 1>accident because she meets the love of her life who

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<v Speaker 1>she then marries.

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<v Speaker 3>It's cute. I mean, it's kind of like.

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<v Speaker 2>The butterfly effect though right everyone's talking about that at

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<v Speaker 2>the moment.

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<v Speaker 3>Effect.

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<v Speaker 1>Doesn't it mean that if you didn't if something didn't

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<v Speaker 1>happen to you, Like for instance, if the car accident

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<v Speaker 1>didn't happen, then they wouldn't have met, and then they

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<v Speaker 1>wouldn't have got married, and then it's like all of

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<v Speaker 1>these things happen. It's kind of like forks in the road.

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<v Speaker 1>Like if you come to a fork in the road

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<v Speaker 1>in your life and you can choose thing a verse

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<v Speaker 1>thing b if you choose the wrong one, then potentially

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<v Speaker 1>you might never meet the love of your life, you

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<v Speaker 1>might never travel the world, you might never I don't know,

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<v Speaker 1>cross paths with someone who is going to be your

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<v Speaker 1>future business partner, whatever it might be.

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<v Speaker 3>Do you ever think to yourself, because I remember I've

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<v Speaker 3>thought this before, have you ever been in the same

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<v Speaker 3>room or being in the same area, how close you

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<v Speaker 3>reckon you got to Michael before you met him.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you know what's so interesting that you're saying this

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<v Speaker 1>is recently we had a conversation and you know how

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<v Speaker 1>everyone used to go to the Portzy Polo and it

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<v Speaker 1>was like a thing. Yeah, I think, yeah, it was

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<v Speaker 1>like it was a real thing for me. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know if it's still going, but it was a thing

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<v Speaker 1>back in the day. Basically everyone would like get buses

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<v Speaker 1>from Melbourne to Portsy attend the Portzy Polo. It was

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<v Speaker 1>a really fun event. I used to it literally used

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<v Speaker 1>to be one of my favorite events of the year.

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<v Speaker 1>And it was so funny because Michael the other day

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<v Speaker 1>was talking about going to the Portzy Polo and was

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<v Speaker 1>telling me this story and he was like, oh, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>Like we were on this bus on the way back

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<v Speaker 1>from the Portzya Polo and there was this guy who

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<v Speaker 1>was in this cubicle and he like was really drunk

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<v Speaker 1>and then took a number two in the bus and

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<v Speaker 1>it's stunk.

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<v Speaker 2>It stunk out the whole bus.

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<v Speaker 1>So when he came out of the toilet, everyone was

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<v Speaker 1>like booing him, like boom, and he was telling you

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<v Speaker 1>this story, and I was like, I was there.

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<v Speaker 2>When that happened.

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<v Speaker 3>You're on that bus, like this.

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<v Speaker 1>Was a long time ago, but I remember this story,

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<v Speaker 1>and I don't know, I'm pretty sure, like I would

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<v Speaker 1>have been pretty drunk because it's a full day of drinking.

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<v Speaker 2>It's like going to the races, go to the Portsya Polo.

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<v Speaker 1>But I'm pretty sure I was there for this moment,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm pretty sure I was booing huge.

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<v Speaker 3>That's a mass If you guys are in the same.

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<v Speaker 2>Class we think, we don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I need to like go back to that exact time.

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<v Speaker 1>He's pretty good with dates, Michael is, So I'm going

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<v Speaker 1>to go back and see if I can like look

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<v Speaker 1>at the photos from like that time, because.

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<v Speaker 3>Imagine that's I want to stay. Let's let's check in

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<v Speaker 3>on that and see.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, it's like have you seen those photos of

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<v Speaker 1>there's like a couple who are looking this girl was

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<v Speaker 1>looking back at old photos of her when she was little.

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<v Speaker 1>She was like literally three, and she's at Disneyland and

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<v Speaker 1>they're taking a photo of her with Minie Mouse and

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<v Speaker 1>literally in the background is her husband as a baby.

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<v Speaker 3>Let's reach out. Le's see if people have that. I

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<v Speaker 3>reckon we do an episode on cute Meat. There's a

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<v Speaker 3>lot more to dive into. Meet cute so and dive

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<v Speaker 3>into that a lot more, because that's a fascinating stuff.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it's pretty cool, pretty cool, it's very special if

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<v Speaker 1>it happened.

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<v Speaker 3>Let's let's let's when you're when we're off paternity leave,

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<v Speaker 3>let's look into that.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's yeah, we'll circle back and see if I can

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<v Speaker 1>find any picks.

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<v Speaker 3>Real quick. I almost forgot though. I bought some triggers

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<v Speaker 3>you were I bought some triggered pants, so I'm bringing

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<v Speaker 3>them back. I got the blue ones. They're in the mail. Guys.

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<v Speaker 3>Hopefully by the next record see.

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<v Speaker 2>Online purchase and you went blue.

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<v Speaker 3>I went blue, So hopefully by the next time we record,

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<v Speaker 3>I've got my triggers on.

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<v Speaker 1>You did say you were going to buy some, so

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<v Speaker 1>you followed through bringing them back. You're gonna be wearing

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<v Speaker 1>them all winter. This is actually I'm wearing trackies today.

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<v Speaker 1>This is the first day that I've wore trackies and

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<v Speaker 1>not pants. I've just I just realized in.

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<v Speaker 3>Melbourne I was wearing I put on originally my like

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<v Speaker 3>linen sort of vibe pants, and I realized, no, I'm

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<v Speaker 3>in Melbourne. It's sucking cold, and I put my jeans on.

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<v Speaker 3>Let's get into the hot line, get into Hotland.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm having a Brax and Higgs. Okay, this one is anonymous.

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<v Speaker 4>Hi, guys, be a friend of the podcast. I wanted

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<v Speaker 4>to send a voice not because I had a bit

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<v Speaker 4>of a weird situation happen and I'd love to get

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<v Speaker 4>your opinions on it. So I was having drinks to

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<v Speaker 4>a couple of girlfriends after work in the city and

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<v Speaker 4>I went up to the bar to order and s

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<v Speaker 4>guy came up behind me and put his armor on

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<v Speaker 4>my waist and was like hello, stranger, and I was like,

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<v Speaker 4>oh my god.

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<v Speaker 2>And it was my boyfriend's dad. So we were just talking.

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<v Speaker 4>It was just like funny, Like I did not expect

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<v Speaker 4>to see him at a bar anyway. He was there

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<v Speaker 4>with like some of his coworkers as well, so he

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<v Speaker 4>was having a laugh and then I don't know, it

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<v Speaker 4>just felt a bit off. He was a bit handsy

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<v Speaker 4>to me and genuinely felt like he was flirting with me.

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<v Speaker 2>We've met a few times.

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<v Speaker 4>But my boyfriend and I haven't been together that long,

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<v Speaker 4>so it was like a really really weird, really weird interaction.

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<v Speaker 4>He didn't like make a move on me, but I

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<v Speaker 4>genuinely felt like he was going to.

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<v Speaker 2>So now I'm just in a weird position.

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<v Speaker 4>Should I tell my boyfriend or not? Like I feel

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<v Speaker 4>like I'm keeping a secret from him, but I also

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<v Speaker 4>don't want to cause a drama between the family. I

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<v Speaker 4>don't want to make him mad his dad, and I

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<v Speaker 4>also kind of feel like I don't want to embarrass

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<v Speaker 4>his dad. So let me know what you guys think.

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<v Speaker 4>I don't know if I'm just being weird, but I

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<v Speaker 4>just I don't know what to do.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my god, that literally just gave me the full

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<v Speaker 2>blown ick. I just had shivers go down.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, that's icky. What do you do in that situation?

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<v Speaker 2>I think I'm a bit stumped. That is just so uncomfortable.

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<v Speaker 3>You tell him, you tell the partner.

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<v Speaker 1>Someone, Yeah, you tell you tell them, but like in

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<v Speaker 1>a chill way, you're like, oh, your dad was there

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<v Speaker 1>the other night and he was being a bit like

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<v Speaker 1>he's putting his hand on my leg.

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<v Speaker 2>It was a bit weird.

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<v Speaker 1>It's too much, it's too much. But then she's like,

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<v Speaker 1>if this, if her boyfriend is the love of her

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<v Speaker 1>life and they're going to be married, then the family

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<v Speaker 1>is going to be together forever. But in saying that,

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<v Speaker 1>like there needs to be boundaries, and.

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<v Speaker 3>Surely he's embarrassed, so that dad, actually the dad doesn't

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<v Speaker 3>want to see her. Maybe you had a couple of dreams.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe he was blackout and doesn't remember. It sounds like

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<v Speaker 1>that because who in their right mind would do that

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<v Speaker 1>if he wasn't blackout, that's like a whole not excusing

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<v Speaker 1>it if he was blackout.

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<v Speaker 2>But I feel like it's just like.

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<v Speaker 1>Because because you know how they say, like drunk people's

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<v Speaker 1>actions and words are like what their sober feelings are

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<v Speaker 1>like ugh, and then what do you do do you

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<v Speaker 1>talk to you dad? Like, Oh, it's just like so

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<v Speaker 1>layered and.

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<v Speaker 3>Ugh that someone coming to start.

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<v Speaker 1>It's it's such a hard situation because I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>in the situation, she's probably like trying to like be

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<v Speaker 1>friendly with her father in law obviously because it's her

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<v Speaker 1>father in law and she's trying to make a good impression.

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<v Speaker 1>But in the moment where like the leg goes, the

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<v Speaker 1>hand goes on the leg is the moment where you

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<v Speaker 1>really like.

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<v Speaker 2>Need to be like what are you doing?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>But in saying that, I feel like, as women, like

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm just talking personally, it's so hard to not

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<v Speaker 1>be a people pleaser sometimes, Like for me, I'm such

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<v Speaker 1>a people pleaser, especially in like weird situations like that

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<v Speaker 1>or like you know, as women, we often say sorry

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<v Speaker 1>all the time, even when we don't need to. And

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<v Speaker 1>I think in situations like this, you just want to

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<v Speaker 1>kind of get out of it without rustling feathers. And

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<v Speaker 1>I know that that's sometimes not the right thing to do,

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<v Speaker 1>but it's just.

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<v Speaker 3>Like, ugh, it's so ikey, I reckon, don't go to

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<v Speaker 3>any family events. Fuck the dog, But you can't just

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<v Speaker 3>you can touch you feel it's disgusting, it feels, it

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<v Speaker 3>makes you feel, it makes you feel vulnerable, and like icky,

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<v Speaker 3>I agree, And you don't want to put yourself in

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<v Speaker 3>a position where you have to see a guy that makes.

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<v Speaker 1>You feel like that I think Unfortunately, she needs to

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<v Speaker 1>have a conversation with her boyfriend and.

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<v Speaker 3>It's going to be very uncomfortable and it's going to

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<v Speaker 3>be very awkward, But that is conversation you need to

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<v Speaker 3>have with your boyfriend and explain what happened.

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<v Speaker 1>And he probably then needs to have a conversation with

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<v Speaker 1>his dad and say this can never happen again.

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<v Speaker 3>Yep, And it might tear a rip in the family

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<v Speaker 3>and you're not there and you're not in the business

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<v Speaker 3>of breaking families up. But I mean, you have to

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<v Speaker 3>put your safety and your mental health first, make yourself

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<v Speaker 3>feel comfortable in situations. Yeah, you have to be selfish

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<v Speaker 3>in this situation, there's no point And.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like when people kind of test those boundaries,

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<v Speaker 1>even in this situation it's a father in law, which

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<v Speaker 1>is so icky, but in any situation, I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>sometimes people push boundaries and test boundaries to see how

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<v Speaker 1>far they can get, and maybe things could get like

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<v Speaker 1>a lot.

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<v Speaker 3>Worse anywhere at another family event, it could get even

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<v Speaker 3>worse because you're right, you've now he's pushed a boundary,

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<v Speaker 3>and someone that's.

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<v Speaker 1>Seeing how you've reacted.

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<v Speaker 3>And someone who's willing to push a boundary already like that,

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<v Speaker 3>like we've had this conversation before, is then willing to

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<v Speaker 3>push boundaries and see how far they can keep going?

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<v Speaker 2>Ye, So nip it in the bud. That's our advice.

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<v Speaker 2>That's our advice. Good lufeu.

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<v Speaker 1>We don't wish that situation upon anyone, honestly, Okay, Matt,

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<v Speaker 1>that's all we have time for. As I said, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>still on maternity leave. I hope you guys are all

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<v Speaker 1>having a lovely June. And until next time, Bye bye