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Speaker 1: Apod Shape Production. Welcome back to another episode of Am

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Speaker 1: I A Bad Mum? Podcast? Now, Rach, we have been

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Speaker 1: doing this podcast for a long time. Yes, I think

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Speaker 1: when we started am I A Bad Mom?

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Speaker 2: Elsie was yeah, baby, I was literally just looking at

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Speaker 2: photos right before we started this, just twenty eighteen, ring

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Speaker 2: a bell because twenty eighteen would make her three. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: that's about right. I mean, look at that photo. Look

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Speaker 2: at that face. That is about three. Yes, so she

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Speaker 2: was about a good eye. Look it was very fresh.

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Speaker 2: Look at you, you look so fresh.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Well it's a long time ago. We've done a

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Speaker 1: lot of mumming since then.

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Speaker 2: I know.

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Speaker 1: It's why we've got gray. We drink too much alcohol.

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Speaker 1: We've got wrinkles.

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Speaker 2: I do say to.

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Speaker 1: My kids hate alcohol like they hate a drinking alcohol.

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Speaker 1: They've got a real problem with it. They really shame us. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: but my answer is always I wouldn't drink alcohol if

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Speaker 1: I didn't have kids, and I really, I really mean it.

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Speaker 2: No, I probably will, No, absolutely will.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: So we've been doing this. I think I think it

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Speaker 2: was like twenty eighteen.

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Speaker 1: We've got an announcement to make next week.

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Speaker 2: It gets a bit emotional. I told you I was

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Speaker 2: having an emotional night last night. I was reminiscing, I

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Speaker 2: was going through our photos.

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Speaker 1: Don't jump to conclusions because this is not a negative thing.

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Speaker 1: It's going to be a positive thing. But we do

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Speaker 1: have an announcement to make next week, which we will

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Speaker 1: chat about how twenty twenty six is going to look

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Speaker 1: for the podcast?

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Speaker 2: Oh, I was gonna say, could you imagine if you

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Speaker 2: didn't take podcasts? At the end of that, people are like,

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Speaker 2: oh my god, Katie is pregnant? You like that would

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Speaker 2: have just set it up beautifully. And how twenty twenty

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Speaker 2: six is gonna look. Oh shit, I'm ragnant, It's.

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Speaker 1: A whole new era. Am I bad mom? Podcast?

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Speaker 2: Here we go? I just won't have another baby so

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Speaker 2: we could start up again with our coltel over again.

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Speaker 1: How can I fuck it up a second time round?

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Speaker 2: Am I a bad mom for throwing them in the

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Speaker 2: deep end?

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Speaker 1: Literally?

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Speaker 2: Literally? And I On the weekend we had been invited

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Speaker 2: and the girls were very clear to tell everyone that

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Speaker 2: Robert Erwin invited them to the Steve Irwin Gala Ball,

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Speaker 2: which is all about supporting the Wildlife Warriors and raising

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Speaker 2: funds to help with wildlife. Obviously, in Australia, but through

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Speaker 2: all of the work that they do, and I'd never

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Speaker 2: been before. Now I've been to a lot of events

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Speaker 2: and understand dress codes and all the rare. But I thought,

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Speaker 2: we can wear short dresses. That's fine to a ball,

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Speaker 2: to a ball, Yeah, yeah, Now the dress code said

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Speaker 2: black tie.

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Speaker 1: Can I just jump in here and guess what happened?

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Speaker 1: So you worked out what you were going to wear

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Speaker 1: last minute, or maybe not even last minute.

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Speaker 2: Because it was like the last thirty seconds of a minute.

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Speaker 1: Yep, yep, and you didn't look at the dress code

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Speaker 1: until you were in the car on the way there.

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Speaker 2: No. I know I'd looked at the dress code numerous

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Speaker 2: times and it was folding into.

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Speaker 1: How many times did you have to read black tie?

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Speaker 2: Well? I just thought I could wear a skirt. I

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Speaker 2: just had one light that was here, and I thought,

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Speaker 2: this is fine, this is black tie. I knew you

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Speaker 2: can make it your own style. Like so, I have

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Speaker 2: this constant battle where I'm like, no, you girls, you

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Speaker 2: do your own style. Don't be sheep. Follow your style right.

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Speaker 1: Don't let them tell you what the dress star is.

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Speaker 2: Let them tell you how you're meant to be.

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Speaker 1: Even though the event and yeah that's the dress Coade.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean it's different if it was fancy dress.

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Speaker 2: And we were really going a rocket. But the week

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Speaker 2: that it was last week prior to this ball, and

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Speaker 2: week before the ball, we're gone find something to where

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Speaker 2: Black Friday was going to be on. So we were

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Speaker 2: like anticipating that we'll be able to just go and

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Speaker 2: get a little frock each and all the rest. Now

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Speaker 2: rewind to what last week was for me. Monday got

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Speaker 2: caught in that massive storm that then proceeded to move

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Speaker 2: and duct tape, and my adrenals were like off, like peeking.

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Speaker 1: Ropes and duct tape sounds like something out.

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Speaker 2: Of and imagine if it was from I would have

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Speaker 2: been fucking all in, but it wasn't. I was on

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Speaker 2: and stress. And then Tuesday then turned into storms Tuesday night,

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Speaker 2: Wednesday night, Thursday, I went through another storm at pickup time,

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Speaker 2: then the car got belted with hail.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: That leads me to Friday. People on the news are

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Speaker 2: saying Saturday night, huge storm. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I don't remember the storms being this frequent. Do you

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Speaker 1: feel like mother Nature is like fucking yeah, punishing?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? Because and then so look, going back to my

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Speaker 2: gala every day was out, I didn't have the opportunity

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Speaker 2: to go and take my kids shopping. And then also

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Speaker 2: at the same time, back in my head, I'm going

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Speaker 2: I'm going on holidays soon. I don't needing a gala dress.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. And also how often do kids need black tie?

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Speaker 2: Also, my girls are right in between an age where

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Speaker 2: which dressed you by them that's age appropriate for their age, right,

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Speaker 2: And they have some beautiful things in their cupboards which

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Speaker 2: they choose not to wear. Let's not try and put

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Speaker 2: ourselves in a pressure cooker here, because I'm already fucking

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Speaker 2: cooked from the pressure I've been in under the week

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Speaker 2: that has been. I said to them, wear what you want,

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Speaker 2: and then I put on a dress that I think

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Speaker 2: I bought maybe eight year zero. Still gone strong. It's

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Speaker 2: a beautiful dress. I fitted a bit differently these days,

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Speaker 2: A bit tighter in certain areas. But on the invite

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Speaker 2: it said, which is probably where my brain gets fixated on,

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Speaker 2: is with a touch of khaki. So it was black

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Speaker 2: tie with a touch of khaki.

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Speaker 1: Oh that's confusing.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, sent me down a spiral. But my dress

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Speaker 2: had khaki through the print of it, so I was like,

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Speaker 2: I'm great, this is good. Yeah. I also didn't get

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Speaker 2: and I was not paying for that.

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Speaker 1: And also it's that whole oh you're so beautiful, you

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Speaker 1: an hour and a half someone.

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Speaker 2: Doing mine and paying, putting your cuddy fillers in underneath

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Speaker 2: my eyeballs, and we've got there. We didn't go the

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Speaker 2: red carpet part. You don't need to be on a

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Speaker 2: red carpet. You've been invited by Robert. That's more than

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Speaker 2: what anyone else could ever wish for, including forty five

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Speaker 2: year old women, because look at him after the Bond's advert, holy, like,

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Speaker 2: we wouldn't want to see that. That again is.

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Speaker 1: Very confusing because I look at Robert Irwin like he's

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Speaker 2: He's not anymore. He's not anymore.

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Speaker 1: Do you have how forcefully you said that he's not anymore?

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Speaker 2: He's got a mad rig on it. For sure. I'm

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Speaker 2: a personal trainer. I can say that his muscles are

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Speaker 2: very big. Okay, that's enough. Anyway, it was such a

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Speaker 2: beautiful night. Everything was great. Now, my girls looks beautiful.

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Speaker 2: And to me, my girls could be in a garbage

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Speaker 2: bag and they could look beautiful. Yeah, but Elsie wore

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Speaker 2: her blue like with white pin striped suit and she

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Speaker 2: looked so beautiful to put in like some diamonde earring.

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Speaker 2: She classically looked Elsie and beautiful. And then Gracie wore

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Speaker 2: her like little seed dress and all the rest, and

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Speaker 2: they just both looked beautiful. But they did as soon

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Speaker 2: as we walk in the door, go mum, everyone is

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Speaker 2: wearing long dresses. And I went, yeah, look at them all,

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Speaker 2: I said, everyone looks the same as I'm like trying

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Speaker 2: I really wanted to say to Gracie was I feel

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Speaker 2: the same way. They don't worry. I'm trying to just

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Speaker 2: We're here, we made it. This is good, you know, like.

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Speaker 1: Well I think it's really Therefore we're saying black tie

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Speaker 1: with a touch of khaki, because it's like it's two

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it was a great night. Maybe next time, if

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Speaker 2: the house hasn't got holes coming through you know, the ceiling,

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Speaker 2: with rain and shit like that, maybe I'll be a

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Speaker 2: bit more prepared.

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Speaker 1: You saw the memo that said black tie. Yes, but

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Speaker 1: it is the organizer's fault for saying it was also

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Speaker 1: a touch of cargo. Mother nature. We can blame her

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Speaker 1: too for the storms.

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Speaker 2: I did also just give them heads up and go like,

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Speaker 2: if there is a massive storm rolling through, I'm not coming.

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Speaker 2: You will find me at home with the buckets underneath,

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Speaker 1: But also, if a big storm had come through, who

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Who wants to be in a floor length gown when

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Speaker 2: When we got home from the gala, it had been

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Speaker 2: a massive day and by the time you're getting home

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Speaker 2: from like a late night, and my girls, I think

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Speaker 2: I'm done. And I said that to them, do not

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Speaker 2: go to sleep. Do not go to sleep in the car.

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Speaker 2: I am not carrying you in. I can't I physically

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Speaker 2: you're both my size, Like, I can't carry you in,

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Speaker 2: And so they were both like why trying to stay awake,

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Speaker 2: and then poor Elsie she gets to the door. Mom,

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Speaker 2: I think that I might, and she's stumbling, I might

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Speaker 2: just take my pants off and my shirt off and

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Speaker 2: just go to bed. And that's fine, baby, you think

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Speaker 2: I just do that in the same time that it's

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Speaker 2: taken me to go to my bedroom. Just take my

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Speaker 2: dress off because it'll rip tight and sort of relieve,

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Speaker 2: you know that feeling of like you'll take your braf,

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Speaker 2: take it, let everything hang out. In that timeframe, I've

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Speaker 2: gone into her room. There she is on her bed.

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Speaker 2: She's like, hasn't even been able to pull her sheets back.

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Speaker 1: Oh, do you know what a luxury that is that

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Speaker 1: your kids do? That went till the teenagers.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that doesn't happen.

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Speaker 1: No, last night rape, I was laying in bed, and

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Speaker 1: I yelled out, Can you guys shut up, have a

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Speaker 1: little bit of respect to your parents who are trying

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Speaker 1: to sleep