Speaker 1: Good a groovers, hope you bloody terrifics me, It's ups.
Speaker 1: Who else would it be. I want to talk to
Speaker 1: you today about a variable of the changing your life process,
Speaker 1: and that is essentially passion, drive, commitment, want, desire. So
Speaker 1: I'm calling this, I think I'm going to call this
Speaker 1: little conversation how much do you want it? And the
Speaker 1: reason that I find this to be a particularly crucial
Speaker 1: question to ask is because there have been times in
Speaker 1: my life where I just didn't want the thing enough
Speaker 1: and I didn't get it, and I didn't do it.
Speaker 1: I kind of wanted it. I kind of wanted to
Speaker 1: do that or change that, or earn that, or own
Speaker 1: that or address that, or I kind of did but
Speaker 1: three out of ten kind of wanting to do it
Speaker 1: is never going to get me any kind of quality result.
Speaker 1: And over the years, I've worked with lots of people,
Speaker 1: individuals and teams, and invariably at some point it comes
Speaker 1: to do the do you really this is going to
Speaker 1: be hard, probably, this is going to be inconveniently uncomfortable,
Speaker 1: and all of those things. So how much do you
Speaker 1: want to do? You kind of want to do this?
Speaker 1: Do you want to do it? A bit? Do you
Speaker 1: kind of six out of ten want to do it,
Speaker 1: or do you really really want to do this? Because
Speaker 1: if we have everything else, but we don't have the drive,
Speaker 1: we don't have the focus, we don't have the intention
Speaker 1: of doing the work despite the pain, despite all of
Speaker 1: those things that come with building success, Like there needs
Speaker 1: to be a high level commitment despite all of those
Speaker 1: things that could get in our way. And so, you know,
Speaker 1: there's been many times where I've said to people to
Speaker 1: think about it, because I sense that they have the ability.
Speaker 1: I sense that they have good potential. Sometimes I sense
Speaker 1: that they do want to change that thing or overcome
Speaker 1: that thing, or create that thing, or succeed at a
Speaker 1: certain thing. But I also get a really strong sense
Speaker 1: that they don't want it enough. And those big things,
Speaker 1: those life changing those transformational things, those change the direction
Speaker 1: of your life things. Generally, these are not things that
Speaker 1: come quickly, easily or painlessly, and there is an level
Speaker 1: of effort and focus and commitment and courage that is
Speaker 1: required that truthfully, a lot of people just don't have
Speaker 1: or they don't have often. And there been times when
Speaker 1: that's been me. There's been times where I kind of
Speaker 1: wanted something, but I didn't really, really, really fucking desperately
Speaker 1: want that, and I wasn't really genuinely prepared to do
Speaker 1: what was required to create it that you know in
Speaker 1: the back of my mind. And so you know, there's
Speaker 1: a few variables around this. I can only speak while
Speaker 1: I can speak more broadly, but I'll speak for me
Speaker 1: right now. So there came a time in my life
Speaker 1: where and there have come a few times where something
Speaker 1: happened in my life. The first one, obviously they were
Speaker 1: spoken about too many times, was when I was a
Speaker 1: fat kid and I had a little bit of momentary
Speaker 1: trauma around being the fat kid, the fatest kid at school.
Speaker 1: And that, as painful as that was, that was a catalyst.
Speaker 1: That was an emotional tipping point for me to really
Speaker 1: genuinely want to and not only want to, but be
Speaker 1: ready to do whatever was required to change my body,
Speaker 1: to change my thinking, to change my appearance, to change
Speaker 1: my weight, to change my habits, to change my relationship
Speaker 1: with food, to change the way that I looked and
Speaker 1: feeled and functioned and socialized and existed, to create a
Speaker 1: new operating system, to create new habits, to be different,
Speaker 1: do different for me. That all came from an experience
Speaker 1: of pain and for better or worse. Sometimes for many
Speaker 1: of us, often we don't have the level of commitment
Speaker 1: or focus or passion required until the shit hits the fan.
Speaker 1: And so I'm always suggesting to people, please do not
Speaker 1: wait for the catastrophe someone says to me. So when
Speaker 1: someone says to me, I want to build a brand
Speaker 1: or a business, or I want to open a this
Speaker 1: or open to that, or I want to achieve that
Speaker 1: or change that, or write a book, or you get
Speaker 1: a six pack or whatever the thing is, whatever means
Speaker 1: something to you. Before I go too far down the
Speaker 1: conversational pipeline or the goal setting and the structure and
Speaker 1: all those things, I ask them how much they want it,
Speaker 1: And I'm more interested in their physiology and their energy
Speaker 1: than their words when they respond. Because people can say
Speaker 1: to me, oh, no, I really want it. I know
Speaker 1: they don't. Really, that's that you don't. No, you don't
Speaker 1: like this needs to be something because we're not. Often
Speaker 1: we're not talking about a small thing. Like I said before,
Speaker 1: it's not painless, not quick, not fast, not easy, not sexy.
Speaker 1: Sometimes the shit that we need to do to literally
Speaker 1: reinvent ourselves, to create a new operating system and habits
Speaker 1: and outcomes. It ultimately comes down to how fucking driven
Speaker 1: we are, how passionate, how hard we were work, and
Speaker 1: for how long how often we will roll up our sleeves,
Speaker 1: fall down, get back up, fall down, get back up,
Speaker 1: fuck up, step up, fuck up, step up. I think
Speaker 1: you know this sounds funny, but I feel like, in
Speaker 1: some ways, mediocrity is a gift. I've said this a
Speaker 1: couple of times on air. But for me, not being
Speaker 1: super intelligent, not being super gifted, not having great genetics,
Speaker 1: not being a natural at most things, for me, that
Speaker 1: meant I had to work. So that built in me
Speaker 1: a work ethic, that built in me a mindset of
Speaker 1: being okay with doing hard things and persevering. Because if
Speaker 1: I didn't do hard things and persevere in the middle
Speaker 1: of those hard things, you know, I would not succeed.
Speaker 1: I would not create the things I've created. I wouldn't
Speaker 1: have done you know, I wouldn't have written seven books.
Speaker 1: I wouldn't have traveled all over the world and spoken.
Speaker 1: I wouldn't have worked on Telly and radio, and I
Speaker 1: wouldn't do the things that I've done had I not
Speaker 1: been genuinely ready to do the work and had I
Speaker 1: not wanted it enough. And I don't say any of
Speaker 1: those achievements proudly. I say them because they are just
Speaker 1: consequences of me getting in pain. They are consequences of
Speaker 1: me working really fucking hard and starting as a white belt.
Speaker 1: They are consequences of me stuffing up, fucking up repeatedly, repeatedly, repeat,
Speaker 1: and then eventually developing some awareness and skill and understanding
Speaker 1: and competence and getting better over time. But if it
Speaker 1: was only about success and comfort, I never would have
Speaker 1: got here. And so you know, it comes down to
Speaker 1: what we're prepared to do to get what we want.
Speaker 1: You know, we all have an idea in our head
Speaker 1: of who we want to be and how we want
Speaker 1: to be and what we want to do be, create, change,
Speaker 1: build what we want our life to look like, and
Speaker 1: our relationships and our body and our health and our
Speaker 1: bank balance and all of these components of the human
Speaker 1: experience that we wax lyrical about. We all have an
Speaker 1: idea of what we want. The question is not so
Speaker 1: much what do you want, but what are you prepared
Speaker 1: to do to get what you want? How much do
Speaker 1: you want it? And how hard will you work for it.
Speaker 1: We'll be back in a minute. All right, we're back.
Speaker 1: Thanks for listening. I hope you got something out of that.
Speaker 1: And of course the obvious question for today is what's
Speaker 1: the thing that you want? What do you really want?
Speaker 1: In the words of the Spice girls, tell me what
Speaker 1: you want, what you really really want, and then, more importantly,
Speaker 1: in the words of me, how much do you want it?
Speaker 1: And what are you prepared to do to get it?
Speaker 1: See you next time.