1 00:00:00,520 --> 00:00:03,040 Speaker 1: Good a groovers, hope you bloody terrifics me, It's ups. 2 00:00:03,080 --> 00:00:06,000 Speaker 1: Who else would it be. I want to talk to 3 00:00:06,040 --> 00:00:11,720 Speaker 1: you today about a variable of the changing your life process, 4 00:00:12,400 --> 00:00:19,000 Speaker 1: and that is essentially passion, drive, commitment, want, desire. So 5 00:00:19,120 --> 00:00:21,320 Speaker 1: I'm calling this, I think I'm going to call this 6 00:00:21,440 --> 00:00:23,959 Speaker 1: little conversation how much do you want it? And the 7 00:00:24,040 --> 00:00:27,880 Speaker 1: reason that I find this to be a particularly crucial 8 00:00:27,960 --> 00:00:31,240 Speaker 1: question to ask is because there have been times in 9 00:00:31,240 --> 00:00:34,000 Speaker 1: my life where I just didn't want the thing enough 10 00:00:34,360 --> 00:00:35,879 Speaker 1: and I didn't get it, and I didn't do it. 11 00:00:35,960 --> 00:00:38,159 Speaker 1: I kind of wanted it. I kind of wanted to 12 00:00:38,200 --> 00:00:41,160 Speaker 1: do that or change that, or earn that, or own 13 00:00:41,240 --> 00:00:45,440 Speaker 1: that or address that, or I kind of did but 14 00:00:46,479 --> 00:00:48,600 Speaker 1: three out of ten kind of wanting to do it 15 00:00:48,640 --> 00:00:50,880 Speaker 1: is never going to get me any kind of quality result. 16 00:00:51,320 --> 00:00:53,880 Speaker 1: And over the years, I've worked with lots of people, 17 00:00:53,960 --> 00:00:59,760 Speaker 1: individuals and teams, and invariably at some point it comes 18 00:00:59,800 --> 00:01:02,240 Speaker 1: to do the do you really this is going to 19 00:01:02,240 --> 00:01:04,760 Speaker 1: be hard, probably, this is going to be inconveniently uncomfortable, 20 00:01:04,760 --> 00:01:07,399 Speaker 1: and all of those things. So how much do you 21 00:01:07,400 --> 00:01:08,800 Speaker 1: want to do? You kind of want to do this? 22 00:01:08,840 --> 00:01:09,959 Speaker 1: Do you want to do it? A bit? Do you 23 00:01:10,240 --> 00:01:11,920 Speaker 1: kind of six out of ten want to do it, 24 00:01:12,640 --> 00:01:16,240 Speaker 1: or do you really really want to do this? Because 25 00:01:17,120 --> 00:01:20,559 Speaker 1: if we have everything else, but we don't have the drive, 26 00:01:21,600 --> 00:01:25,440 Speaker 1: we don't have the focus, we don't have the intention 27 00:01:25,760 --> 00:01:29,319 Speaker 1: of doing the work despite the pain, despite all of 28 00:01:29,360 --> 00:01:33,280 Speaker 1: those things that come with building success, Like there needs 29 00:01:33,319 --> 00:01:37,600 Speaker 1: to be a high level commitment despite all of those 30 00:01:37,640 --> 00:01:40,920 Speaker 1: things that could get in our way. And so, you know, 31 00:01:41,000 --> 00:01:44,360 Speaker 1: there's been many times where I've said to people to 32 00:01:44,680 --> 00:01:48,480 Speaker 1: think about it, because I sense that they have the ability. 33 00:01:48,520 --> 00:01:52,120 Speaker 1: I sense that they have good potential. Sometimes I sense 34 00:01:52,160 --> 00:01:57,040 Speaker 1: that they do want to change that thing or overcome 35 00:01:57,080 --> 00:01:59,480 Speaker 1: that thing, or create that thing, or succeed at a 36 00:01:59,520 --> 00:02:03,040 Speaker 1: certain thing. But I also get a really strong sense 37 00:02:03,120 --> 00:02:06,880 Speaker 1: that they don't want it enough. And those big things, 38 00:02:06,960 --> 00:02:12,000 Speaker 1: those life changing those transformational things, those change the direction 39 00:02:12,080 --> 00:02:15,840 Speaker 1: of your life things. Generally, these are not things that 40 00:02:15,880 --> 00:02:20,360 Speaker 1: come quickly, easily or painlessly, and there is an level 41 00:02:20,440 --> 00:02:24,720 Speaker 1: of effort and focus and commitment and courage that is 42 00:02:24,840 --> 00:02:28,840 Speaker 1: required that truthfully, a lot of people just don't have 43 00:02:29,360 --> 00:02:33,520 Speaker 1: or they don't have often. And there been times when 44 00:02:33,600 --> 00:02:37,040 Speaker 1: that's been me. There's been times where I kind of 45 00:02:37,080 --> 00:02:41,640 Speaker 1: wanted something, but I didn't really, really, really fucking desperately 46 00:02:41,960 --> 00:02:45,679 Speaker 1: want that, and I wasn't really genuinely prepared to do 47 00:02:45,760 --> 00:02:49,560 Speaker 1: what was required to create it that you know in 48 00:02:49,560 --> 00:02:51,799 Speaker 1: the back of my mind. And so you know, there's 49 00:02:51,840 --> 00:02:54,760 Speaker 1: a few variables around this. I can only speak while 50 00:02:54,800 --> 00:02:57,000 Speaker 1: I can speak more broadly, but I'll speak for me 51 00:02:57,240 --> 00:02:59,680 Speaker 1: right now. So there came a time in my life 52 00:02:59,720 --> 00:03:04,280 Speaker 1: where and there have come a few times where something 53 00:03:04,400 --> 00:03:08,320 Speaker 1: happened in my life. The first one, obviously they were 54 00:03:08,360 --> 00:03:10,160 Speaker 1: spoken about too many times, was when I was a 55 00:03:10,160 --> 00:03:12,400 Speaker 1: fat kid and I had a little bit of momentary 56 00:03:12,480 --> 00:03:15,919 Speaker 1: trauma around being the fat kid, the fatest kid at school. 57 00:03:15,960 --> 00:03:20,840 Speaker 1: And that, as painful as that was, that was a catalyst. 58 00:03:20,880 --> 00:03:24,600 Speaker 1: That was an emotional tipping point for me to really 59 00:03:24,919 --> 00:03:27,880 Speaker 1: genuinely want to and not only want to, but be 60 00:03:28,000 --> 00:03:31,959 Speaker 1: ready to do whatever was required to change my body, 61 00:03:33,320 --> 00:03:36,520 Speaker 1: to change my thinking, to change my appearance, to change 62 00:03:36,520 --> 00:03:40,440 Speaker 1: my weight, to change my habits, to change my relationship 63 00:03:40,480 --> 00:03:43,240 Speaker 1: with food, to change the way that I looked and 64 00:03:43,280 --> 00:03:47,400 Speaker 1: feeled and functioned and socialized and existed, to create a 65 00:03:47,440 --> 00:03:51,280 Speaker 1: new operating system, to create new habits, to be different, 66 00:03:51,400 --> 00:03:57,440 Speaker 1: do different for me. That all came from an experience 67 00:03:57,480 --> 00:04:03,560 Speaker 1: of pain and for better or worse. Sometimes for many 68 00:04:03,600 --> 00:04:07,280 Speaker 1: of us, often we don't have the level of commitment 69 00:04:07,520 --> 00:04:11,640 Speaker 1: or focus or passion required until the shit hits the fan. 70 00:04:13,000 --> 00:04:15,800 Speaker 1: And so I'm always suggesting to people, please do not 71 00:04:15,880 --> 00:04:19,279 Speaker 1: wait for the catastrophe someone says to me. So when 72 00:04:19,279 --> 00:04:20,800 Speaker 1: someone says to me, I want to build a brand 73 00:04:20,880 --> 00:04:22,599 Speaker 1: or a business, or I want to open a this 74 00:04:22,800 --> 00:04:25,000 Speaker 1: or open to that, or I want to achieve that 75 00:04:25,160 --> 00:04:28,240 Speaker 1: or change that, or write a book, or you get 76 00:04:28,279 --> 00:04:31,520 Speaker 1: a six pack or whatever the thing is, whatever means 77 00:04:31,520 --> 00:04:35,400 Speaker 1: something to you. Before I go too far down the 78 00:04:35,440 --> 00:04:38,760 Speaker 1: conversational pipeline or the goal setting and the structure and 79 00:04:39,240 --> 00:04:42,800 Speaker 1: all those things, I ask them how much they want it, 80 00:04:43,120 --> 00:04:49,120 Speaker 1: And I'm more interested in their physiology and their energy 81 00:04:49,279 --> 00:04:52,040 Speaker 1: than their words when they respond. Because people can say 82 00:04:52,080 --> 00:04:54,000 Speaker 1: to me, oh, no, I really want it. I know 83 00:04:54,080 --> 00:04:57,719 Speaker 1: they don't. Really, that's that you don't. No, you don't 84 00:04:58,040 --> 00:05:02,080 Speaker 1: like this needs to be something because we're not. Often 85 00:05:02,120 --> 00:05:04,720 Speaker 1: we're not talking about a small thing. Like I said before, 86 00:05:04,760 --> 00:05:08,240 Speaker 1: it's not painless, not quick, not fast, not easy, not sexy. 87 00:05:08,920 --> 00:05:12,600 Speaker 1: Sometimes the shit that we need to do to literally 88 00:05:12,680 --> 00:05:16,839 Speaker 1: reinvent ourselves, to create a new operating system and habits 89 00:05:16,839 --> 00:05:22,520 Speaker 1: and outcomes. It ultimately comes down to how fucking driven 90 00:05:22,600 --> 00:05:26,000 Speaker 1: we are, how passionate, how hard we were work, and 91 00:05:26,080 --> 00:05:30,200 Speaker 1: for how long how often we will roll up our sleeves, 92 00:05:30,279 --> 00:05:33,200 Speaker 1: fall down, get back up, fall down, get back up, 93 00:05:33,279 --> 00:05:36,599 Speaker 1: fuck up, step up, fuck up, step up. I think 94 00:05:36,760 --> 00:05:40,840 Speaker 1: you know this sounds funny, but I feel like, in 95 00:05:40,920 --> 00:05:44,840 Speaker 1: some ways, mediocrity is a gift. I've said this a 96 00:05:44,839 --> 00:05:48,839 Speaker 1: couple of times on air. But for me, not being 97 00:05:49,160 --> 00:05:53,720 Speaker 1: super intelligent, not being super gifted, not having great genetics, 98 00:05:54,120 --> 00:06:00,200 Speaker 1: not being a natural at most things, for me, that 99 00:06:00,320 --> 00:06:02,760 Speaker 1: meant I had to work. So that built in me 100 00:06:02,920 --> 00:06:06,120 Speaker 1: a work ethic, that built in me a mindset of 101 00:06:06,160 --> 00:06:10,200 Speaker 1: being okay with doing hard things and persevering. Because if 102 00:06:10,200 --> 00:06:12,720 Speaker 1: I didn't do hard things and persevere in the middle 103 00:06:12,760 --> 00:06:16,960 Speaker 1: of those hard things, you know, I would not succeed. 104 00:06:17,040 --> 00:06:19,640 Speaker 1: I would not create the things I've created. I wouldn't 105 00:06:19,680 --> 00:06:23,520 Speaker 1: have done you know, I wouldn't have written seven books. 106 00:06:23,520 --> 00:06:25,919 Speaker 1: I wouldn't have traveled all over the world and spoken. 107 00:06:25,960 --> 00:06:28,640 Speaker 1: I wouldn't have worked on Telly and radio, and I 108 00:06:28,680 --> 00:06:31,560 Speaker 1: wouldn't do the things that I've done had I not 109 00:06:31,839 --> 00:06:35,960 Speaker 1: been genuinely ready to do the work and had I 110 00:06:36,080 --> 00:06:39,279 Speaker 1: not wanted it enough. And I don't say any of 111 00:06:39,320 --> 00:06:43,919 Speaker 1: those achievements proudly. I say them because they are just 112 00:06:44,040 --> 00:06:49,080 Speaker 1: consequences of me getting in pain. They are consequences of 113 00:06:49,240 --> 00:06:53,120 Speaker 1: me working really fucking hard and starting as a white belt. 114 00:06:53,160 --> 00:06:59,960 Speaker 1: They are consequences of me stuffing up, fucking up repeatedly, repeatedly, repeat, 115 00:07:00,800 --> 00:07:04,320 Speaker 1: and then eventually developing some awareness and skill and understanding 116 00:07:04,400 --> 00:07:08,440 Speaker 1: and competence and getting better over time. But if it 117 00:07:08,520 --> 00:07:11,280 Speaker 1: was only about success and comfort, I never would have 118 00:07:11,320 --> 00:07:16,480 Speaker 1: got here. And so you know, it comes down to 119 00:07:17,280 --> 00:07:19,480 Speaker 1: what we're prepared to do to get what we want. 120 00:07:21,240 --> 00:07:24,080 Speaker 1: You know, we all have an idea in our head 121 00:07:24,840 --> 00:07:26,640 Speaker 1: of who we want to be and how we want 122 00:07:26,680 --> 00:07:29,360 Speaker 1: to be and what we want to do be, create, change, 123 00:07:29,440 --> 00:07:32,040 Speaker 1: build what we want our life to look like, and 124 00:07:32,080 --> 00:07:35,360 Speaker 1: our relationships and our body and our health and our 125 00:07:35,400 --> 00:07:38,200 Speaker 1: bank balance and all of these components of the human 126 00:07:38,280 --> 00:07:41,400 Speaker 1: experience that we wax lyrical about. We all have an 127 00:07:41,440 --> 00:07:46,560 Speaker 1: idea of what we want. The question is not so 128 00:07:46,680 --> 00:07:49,080 Speaker 1: much what do you want, but what are you prepared 129 00:07:49,120 --> 00:07:52,800 Speaker 1: to do to get what you want? How much do 130 00:07:52,840 --> 00:07:55,600 Speaker 1: you want it? And how hard will you work for it. 131 00:07:56,440 --> 00:08:01,440 Speaker 1: We'll be back in a minute. All right, we're back. 132 00:08:01,600 --> 00:08:03,480 Speaker 1: Thanks for listening. I hope you got something out of that. 133 00:08:03,520 --> 00:08:07,720 Speaker 1: And of course the obvious question for today is what's 134 00:08:07,760 --> 00:08:09,840 Speaker 1: the thing that you want? What do you really want? 135 00:08:10,040 --> 00:08:12,000 Speaker 1: In the words of the Spice girls, tell me what 136 00:08:12,040 --> 00:08:14,800 Speaker 1: you want, what you really really want, and then, more importantly, 137 00:08:14,800 --> 00:08:17,680 Speaker 1: in the words of me, how much do you want it? 138 00:08:17,720 --> 00:08:19,560 Speaker 1: And what are you prepared to do to get it? 139 00:08:19,760 --> 00:08:20,520 Speaker 1: See you next time.