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Speaker 1: This podcast is recorded on gadigal Land Always was, always

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Speaker 1: will be Aboriginal Land.

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Speaker 2: Hey chicks, I'm sou and I'm here and this is

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Speaker 2: two broke chicks to show that shares life lessons and

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Speaker 2: tips to help make you rich in life.

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Speaker 3: And we are so big.

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Speaker 1: Are So.

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Speaker 2: We're back in the studio for our very first episode

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Speaker 2: of twenty twenty five.

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Speaker 3: What the fuck? Sorry?

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Speaker 1: I just was only a moment when I was like,

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Speaker 1: we first started recording this in twenty twenty one. Yeah, exactly,

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Speaker 1: we first started recording.

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Speaker 3: That was a great tongue pop. By the way, thank you.

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Speaker 3: We first started recording to brow Chicks in twenty twenty one.

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Speaker 1: My god, not raved down record, not the Riverside zero recording.

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Speaker 2: But yeah, so this is our very first record of

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Speaker 2: twenty twenty five. We're so excited to get back into

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Speaker 2: it and back into your ear holes. So we're going

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Speaker 2: to start with cheat codes for twenty twenty five. I

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Speaker 2: love a cheat code, you know, we love a cheat code.

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Speaker 3: How was your holidays?

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Speaker 2: Fabulous? Lots of like family time, very wholesome vibes. So

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Speaker 2: much decluttering, Yeah, yeah, so much. I had a list

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Speaker 2: more than I thought I was going to get through.

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Speaker 2: I like feel so much lighter and like ready to

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Speaker 3: That's the best thing to do over the break. I

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Speaker 3: think the same thing. I made a notion board of a.

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Speaker 1: Twenty twenty five dep clutter and I like shared it

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Speaker 1: with my boyfriend Rob and like assigned him jobs.

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Speaker 3: That's a good idea. How was your holidays? It was good.

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Speaker 1: It was such nice weather and I ended up going

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Speaker 1: up the coast for a little bit also with my fam,

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Speaker 1: which was just so good, and I just read so

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Speaker 3: It was so fun. But yeah, it was just good.

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Speaker 3: I feel like I definitely.

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Speaker 1: Had a bit of like an off the grid holiday

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Speaker 1: which was just nice.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, much needed, Yah needed. And what's your obsession at

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Speaker 2: the moment?

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Speaker 3: Okay, my obsession? You're gonna love this?

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Speaker 1: Okay, Victorian slang that needs to come back in twenty

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Speaker 1: twenty five.

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Speaker 2: I'm here for this.

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Speaker 3: You're gonna love this.

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Speaker 2: He he yee.

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Speaker 1: Bitch, all right, coffee sisters, what do you think that means?

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Speaker 3: Girls who drink coffee together?

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Speaker 1: Best friends? Oh cute, So we're coffee sisters.

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Speaker 3: We are in every sense of the word giggle mug.

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Speaker 1: Oh, I don't know someone who's always giggling, So you're

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Speaker 1: a giggle mug.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, this is my favorite. Half rats, half rats. Is

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Speaker 2: that like half curly hair, you know how you like

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Speaker 2: rat your hair? Close means you're a bit drunk.

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Speaker 1: Ah yeah, so like if we're a bit tipsy, it

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Speaker 3: I like that.

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Speaker 2: Say I love all of these.

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Speaker 1: Okay, chuck a boo, I'm not even gonna guess is

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Speaker 1: a dear friend.

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Speaker 3: Chuck a booga boo.

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Speaker 1: Chuckaboo, come here, chegababe Jacoba mccaffee, sister and my chokaboo.

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Speaker 1: She's such a giggle mug that she is half friends.

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Speaker 1: She's half rats right now. Okay, it's champagne weather.

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Speaker 2: Ooh like nice weather to sit outside and have a champagne.

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Speaker 3: No, it's pouring rain. Oh yeah, well there's nothing to

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Speaker 1: Drink, so champagne champagne showers.

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Speaker 3: You stole it from the Victorian. Oh my god, this

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Speaker 3: Okay, not very well, Okay, what's your obsession?

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Speaker 3: And it's the color cherry red.

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Speaker 3: Cherry red is not going anywhere. It's not going anywhere.

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Speaker 2: The color of twenty twenty five and the term cherry

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Speaker 2: red vibe is up three hundred and twenty five percent

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Speaker 3: Right, because it's already half my wardrobe.

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Speaker 2: I mean, look at the surroundings. Yes, chicks, we have

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and I'm like, I'm here.

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Speaker 1: For I think red is a neutral. Red is a

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Speaker 1: Do you know what was also in that Pinterest report

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Speaker 1: Moments was Fishermen's Core.

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Speaker 1: So it's like cable knit jumpers, overalls, like boxer shorts,

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Speaker 2: I'm so here for this, especially as we get into

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Speaker 1: I was even being like, I'm going to buy a

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Speaker 2: And I'm like, I feel like You've already got so

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Speaker 3: And the other one is Castle Core.

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Speaker 2: That was my favorite that one.

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Speaker 3: I'm ready. It's like fucking fairy Castle into it.

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Speaker 1: Corsets, they're not going anywhere, They're not to go anywhere,

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Speaker 1: my eyes. But also like chain metallics, all that bar studs, yes, yes,

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Speaker 3: Not yet, don't get to it.

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Speaker 2: Don't get too excited, chicks. Okay, so we've got our

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Speaker 2: obsessions of the week out of the way, but Alijandro,

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Speaker 2: you have some very exciting news for the chicks.

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Speaker 1: So we have launched a second podcast and it is

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Speaker 1: called The Basic Bitch book Club, the book Club for Basic,

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Speaker 1: and it is hosted by one Head Basy Bitch and

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Speaker 1: basically it is a podcast that combines everything book talk,

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Speaker 1: from smart self help, all of the fun stuff, enemies

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Speaker 1: And it launched today that we're recording, so yesterday by

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Speaker 1: the time this episode comes out, and it literally hit

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Speaker 1: number one on the Arts podcast. So I shit my pants.

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Speaker 3: I literally like punch my boyfriend when I woke up,

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Speaker 3: and I was like, wait, but yeah, definitely go give

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Speaker 1: Definitely, And yeah, yeah, I said smut and sex in

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Speaker 2: Kind of sounds like to roache. Yeah, if you love

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Speaker 2: our episodes on books to Read in your twenties, you

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Speaker 2: will absolutely love this podcast. So definitely click the link

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Speaker 3: It's all right, well, very exciting, spooky of.

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Speaker 2: Course, but shall we get into l episode. Our first

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Speaker 2: cheat code of twenty twenty five is to pick a

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Speaker 2: word of the year.

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Speaker 3: I love this me too. It's for breakfast. Nummy nummy

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Speaker 3: numby no nice. What's your word of the year?

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Speaker 1: Okay, my word of the year is less less stress less, stuff, less,

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Speaker 1: Yeah that I know. I thrive in chaos a little bit.

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Speaker 3: So this year I'm just a bit like, let's just

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Speaker 1: little bit less. I'm still going to be the loudest

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Speaker 1: my word is less. So like, if I'm feeling overwhelmed,

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Speaker 1: this to be a little bit less?

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Speaker 3: I like that. There's a reason why they say less

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Speaker 3: is more.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Like it's a classic what you said that, didn't you?

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Speaker 1: No one else said that before you just did less

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Speaker 3: Sally mcmully.

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Speaker 2: Okay, my word of the year is consistency, And I

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Speaker 2: what inspired me to get there. Because we did have

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Speaker 2: so many amazing things happen last year. We were so

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Speaker 2: incredibly busy. I let go of a lot of really

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Speaker 1: And your Sunday Sunday hair mask, face mask.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, things like that, or just like logging off at

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Speaker 3: Now, see, C only knows what I'm like. I'm like,

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Speaker 2: Yes.

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Speaker 3: Do you have any goals this year?

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Speaker 1: Like, I don't really feel like I do, like in

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Speaker 3: Like last year, I had a full vision.

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Speaker 1: you know what I do? Want to write down some goals.

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Speaker 1: I think having an intention for the year is always important,

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Speaker 2: And I think I do have goals for the year,

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Speaker 1: Okay, So how to get the most out of a

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Speaker 3: So Number one is having visual reminders.

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Speaker 1: After doing a vision board last year, it was crazy

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Speaker 3: When we were making them last year, I was like,

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Speaker 1: Because I've never ever ever achieved my goals, Like I've

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Speaker 3: That's why we launched reach in life.

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Speaker 3: And I loved that trend that was like vision board verse.

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Speaker 1: And it's so good because out of sight, out of mind,

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Speaker 1: And we actually did do a whole episode on vision

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Speaker 3: So you can type that.

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Speaker 1: We can link it in the share notes that having

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Speaker 2: also really liberating because you may be like, oh, my

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Speaker 2: it's not hard to do and that it's not a

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Speaker 2: tough conversation to.

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Speaker 3: Have your cycle person.

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Speaker 1: You know, like you say your goal is to save

451
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Speaker 1: for a house, but why you're on deep up every

452
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Speaker 1: day and I'm Mike Sally lower your damn.

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Speaker 2: Pase that's different. You're supporting slow fashion, yeah, sustainability.

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Speaker 1: Sayentrification for everything exactly.

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Speaker 3: Okay. The next way to get.

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Speaker 1: The most out of your word of the year is

457
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Speaker 1: daily reflect So start or end your day by asking

458
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Speaker 1: how can I live my word today?

459
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Speaker 3: And then lastly is check ins.

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Speaker 1: So revisit your word monthly to reflect on how it

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Speaker 1: is influencing your life.

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Speaker 3: And again, like we said, you can change it if

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Speaker 3: you want.

464
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Speaker 1: If you're like, do you know what I think this

465
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Speaker 1: word reflects better on how I'm feeling now, Like they're

466
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Speaker 1: literally no rules.

467
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Speaker 2: And a free hack. If you're listening to this and

468
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Speaker 2: you're like, how I don't know what to do? I

469
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Speaker 2: have a thousand words going through my head. Here's A

470
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Speaker 2: free tip to help you identify your word of the year,

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Speaker 2: and that's to use chat GPT, So just type in

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Speaker 2: help me choose my word of the year. My goals

473
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Speaker 2: and vision for twenty twenty five include and include a

474
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Speaker 2: list of the things that you want to achieve and.

475
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Speaker 3: Or do or spend more time with.

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Speaker 2: Yeah Yeah, Moving on to cheat code number two for

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Speaker 2: twenty twenty five, say no to permissive thoughts. So what

478
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Speaker 2: are permissive thoughts? These are the things that we tell

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Speaker 2: ourselves to justify the habits or behaviors that we have

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Speaker 2: that are stopping us from achieving our goals. So, for example,

481
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Speaker 2: a permissive thought could be it's only fifty dollars ah,

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Speaker 2: or I know I'm burnt out, but things will slow

483
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Speaker 2: down once his project is over. These are all going

484
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Speaker 2: to be very different for every person. So a good

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Speaker 2: exercise to identify what your permissive thoughts may be is

486
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Speaker 2: to grab a piece of paper and divide it into

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Speaker 2: two columns. On the left side, write down what goals

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Speaker 2: you've wanted to achieve, and then next to those in

489
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Speaker 2: the right column, write down some of the things that

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Speaker 2: you have told yourself that have stopped you from achieving

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Speaker 2: those goals.

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Speaker 5: Like I'll start tomorrow exactly, yeah, or i'm really tired,

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Speaker 5: I'll just sleep in another ten minutes ah ah, or

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Speaker 5: I work.

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Speaker 3: Better under pressure.

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Speaker 2: It just seems like a reader.

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Speaker 3: Nos.

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Speaker 2: A lot of these are things that I wrote down

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Speaker 2: in my right hand column. They're not they're definitely it's

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Speaker 2: not personal. But by defining exactly what these permissive thoughts are,

501
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Speaker 2: in those moments when you don't want to do something

502
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Speaker 2: that's a little bit hard but you know it is

503
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Speaker 2: good for you and will help you achieve those goals,

504
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Speaker 2: something will go off in your brain and you'll say

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Speaker 2: that's a permissive thought and you can swap it with

506
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Speaker 2: something else. So instead of saying to yourself, I work

507
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Speaker 2: better under pressure, so I'll start right before it's due,

508
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Speaker 2: reframe that and say, I know i'll get stressed the

509
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Speaker 2: day before and I'll be able to produce a better

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Speaker 2: piece of work if I give myself more time to

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Speaker 2: work on it.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: And I think it's just being conscious of those things

514
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Speaker 2: and being conscious of those permissive thoughts that are holding

515
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Speaker 2: you back, and because the alternative is that you never

516
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Speaker 2: change them and you keep acting on these permissive thoughts.

517
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Speaker 2: And something that was really hard for me to do,

518
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Speaker 2: but really cemented this and why this is so important

519
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Speaker 2: for me is that it was like, Okay, well, the

520
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Speaker 2: alternative is you don't change them.

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Speaker 3: So what happens?

522
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Speaker 2: You say, I always choose work over spending time with

523
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Speaker 2: my partner. I always choose sitting down and scrolling on

524
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Speaker 2: TikTok instead of reading the book that's on my bedside table.

525
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Speaker 2: I choose to sleep in instead of going to the gym.

526
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Speaker 2: And it's like, you always choose this because I think

527
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Speaker 2: we kind of lie to ourselves that those are our priorities.

528
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Speaker 3: But they're not.

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Speaker 2: And it's these things we tell ourselves because it change

530
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Speaker 2: is really hard, and I think we try and you know,

531
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Speaker 2: ease the blow to ourselves and be like, oh no,

532
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Speaker 2: but it's you know, it'll slow down after the soil.

533
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Speaker 3: I'll do it tomorrow, or it's only fifty dollars.

534
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Speaker 2: All these little things are trying to convince us to

535
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Speaker 2: just stay in these same patterns and habits that we've

536
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Speaker 2: been doing. But it is a difficult exercise, but I

537
00:27:22,480 --> 00:27:24,920
Speaker 2: really do recommend it because it will make you realize

538
00:27:24,960 --> 00:27:29,560
Speaker 2: that your priorities don't currently align with your values and.

539
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Speaker 3: Your actions and something really good to do.

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Speaker 2: I think at the beginning of the year, especially.

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Speaker 1: Next cheat code and last cheat code of this episode, the.

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Speaker 3: Rule of one hundred.

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Speaker 1: You're gonna like this because this is actually so aligned

544
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Speaker 1: to your word of the year.

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Speaker 3: So I just it was like I just told you

546
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Speaker 3: Sana was coming in the studio.

547
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Speaker 1: I recently read this and became utterly obsessed with it.

548
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Speaker 3: And it's called the rule of one hundred.

549
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Speaker 1: So if you spend one hundred hours a year in

550
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Speaker 1: any discipline, which is only eighteen minutes a day, you'll

551
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Speaker 1: be better than ninety five percent of the world in

552
00:28:10,960 --> 00:28:17,320
Speaker 1: that discipline. Consistency is everything. So this is Jade Bonacoult's quote,

553
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Speaker 1: and it highlights the incredible power of consistency and the

554
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Speaker 1: high impact of small daily efforts over time, because when

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Speaker 1: you break down it down to eighteen minutes, Like if

556
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Speaker 1: I said I want you to spend one hundred hours

557
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Speaker 1: this year learning Italian, you'd.

558
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Speaker 3: Be like, I didn't have one hundred hours.

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Speaker 1: I didn't have one hundred hours a year to spend

560
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Speaker 1: learning how to play a new instrument or journaling or

561
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Speaker 1: learning a new language. But when you realize it's only

562
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Speaker 1: eighteen minutes a day, and think about how many minutes

563
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Speaker 1: a day you scroll on your phone. It's really easy

564
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Speaker 1: to actually achieve one hundred hours a year bettering yourself

565
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Speaker 1: in some way that's not necessarily self development, it's not

566
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Speaker 1: necessarily about that. But I think any way that you're

567
00:28:59,800 --> 00:29:04,400
Speaker 1: spending time that is building consistency in a hobby or

568
00:29:04,400 --> 00:29:08,600
Speaker 1: an interest or journaling or gratitude or whatever it is,

569
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Speaker 1: you're so much better off for that instead of the

570
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Speaker 1: shit dover I mean.

571
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Speaker 3: You get from strolling on your phone.

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Speaker 1: So the key to the rule of one hundred is consistency.

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Speaker 1: Regular daily practice is more effective than sporadic, intensive efforts,

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Speaker 1: and this approach helps build habits and ensures steady improvement.

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Speaker 3: I love that.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, So what would you spend eighteen minutes doing a day?

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Speaker 3: What do you want to spend This is my follow

578
00:29:34,520 --> 00:29:35,959
Speaker 3: up question, follow up, follow up?

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Speaker 1: What do you want to spend one hundred hours doing

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Speaker 1: this year?

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Speaker 3: I think it's walking for me. Did you buy a

582
00:29:45,040 --> 00:29:45,880
Speaker 3: walking pad yet?

583
00:29:46,040 --> 00:29:46,120
Speaker 5: No?

584
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Speaker 3: I haven't mine comes today.

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Speaker 2: Well, I can't wait to hear the full review, obviously,

586
00:29:50,880 --> 00:29:53,880
Speaker 2: but I've made more of an effort to walk instead

587
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Speaker 2: of getting an uber or public transport where I can

588
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Speaker 2: and building that into my routine only.

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Speaker 3: Two weeks in. Right, bad, We're good, We're good.

590
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Speaker 2: But I can already already feel that it's having such

591
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Speaker 2: a positive impact and even again being like, you can

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Speaker 2: just do eighteen minutes.

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Speaker 1: And it's not about I think there's a lot of

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Speaker 1: content and narratives at the start of the year that's

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Speaker 1: about changing the way that you look.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's not about it, and it's.

597
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Speaker 3: Not about that at all.

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Speaker 1: I think it's truly about the way that you feel.

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Speaker 1: And we were talking about this over the break because

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Speaker 1: we were going to the beach and we ended up

601
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Speaker 1: getting a park but it was like a little bit

602
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Speaker 1: far away, but I ended up enjoying walking like from

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Speaker 1: the car to the beach ten times more rather than

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Speaker 1: getting one.

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Speaker 3: Like right there.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, And we're just saying how even when we're on holidays,

607
00:30:43,640 --> 00:30:46,360
Speaker 1: you just walk everywhere. Yeah, like when we were in Europe,

608
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Speaker 1: but when we go to you know, wherever we've been,

609
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Speaker 1: you just walk everywhere and you just feel so much better.

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Speaker 1: My eighteen minutes to day that I want to spend

611
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Speaker 1: is like on hobbies, So I think I need to

612
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Speaker 1: identify and pick which one.

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Speaker 3: But the one that I've been the most consistent with.

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00:31:05,560 --> 00:31:09,920
Speaker 1: I would say is learning Italian, which I'm really excited

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Speaker 1: bye and DUELINGO.

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Speaker 3: And I become a really good friends.

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Speaker 5: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, imagine spending it.

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Speaker 1: Like I get to the end of the year and

620
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Speaker 1: I can be like, I spent one hundred hours learning Italian.

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Speaker 3: I'm immediately better than everyone else.

622
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Speaker 2: That little bird I'm due Lingo is going to be

623
00:31:23,800 --> 00:31:25,640
Speaker 2: giving you all the accolades.

624
00:31:25,720 --> 00:31:27,760
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's all you need. Yeah, he's obsessed with me.

625
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Speaker 1: I'm like, stop messaging Meduo and he's like, baby girl.

626
00:31:31,920 --> 00:31:34,520
Speaker 3: You need to continue a streak. And I'm like, okay,

627
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Speaker 3: do it.

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Speaker 1: I'll do it all right.

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Speaker 3: Shall we get into advice with the Chicks?

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00:31:39,240 --> 00:31:40,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, let's do it all right.

631
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Speaker 1: Thank you so much to the Cheeky Chook for emailing

632
00:31:48,560 --> 00:31:50,719
Speaker 1: this into us. If you do want to send anything,

633
00:31:50,760 --> 00:31:52,880
Speaker 1: you can either email us or you can send it

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Speaker 1: to the Broke Chicks Hardline, which will leave the number

635
00:31:57,120 --> 00:31:58,360
Speaker 1: in the description of the episode.

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Speaker 3: All right, strap In is a bit of a tail.

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Speaker 1: Okay, Hi, Shikis, I'm in need of your advice. Am

638
00:32:05,720 --> 00:32:08,960
Speaker 1: I in the wrong for confronting one of my friends? Ooh,

639
00:32:10,960 --> 00:32:13,400
Speaker 1: so myself and my partner went away with some of

640
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Speaker 1: my friends on.

641
00:32:14,040 --> 00:32:15,120
Speaker 3: A holiday midyear.

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Speaker 1: All was well until this one particular friend got a

643
00:32:18,280 --> 00:32:22,000
Speaker 1: bit drunk half rats and cracked it because she was

644
00:32:22,120 --> 00:32:25,560
Speaker 1: losing at an Uno game and threw the cards directly

645
00:32:25,640 --> 00:32:26,520
Speaker 1: at my partner.

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Speaker 3: Oh.

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Speaker 1: Everyone thought it was a bit aggressive, but she thought

648
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Speaker 1: it was and still thinks it's funny. My partner wasn't happy,

649
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Speaker 1: but he shrugged it off. Fast forward to Christmas and

650
00:32:36,360 --> 00:32:39,680
Speaker 1: we had an annual Christmas shindig. There was multiple people

651
00:32:39,720 --> 00:32:41,720
Speaker 1: in the room and she sat there flirting with my

652
00:32:41,800 --> 00:32:45,840
Speaker 1: partner's best friend and also continuously throwing a dog toy

653
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Speaker 1: at my partner's face and a head for over an hour.

654
00:32:49,320 --> 00:32:51,800
Speaker 1: He tried to ignore her, hoping she would stop, but

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Speaker 1: she didn't.

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00:32:52,760 --> 00:32:54,600
Speaker 3: He then made a comment about needing.

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Speaker 1: A shield if she's going to be continuing to throw

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Speaker 1: stuff at him.

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Speaker 3: She didn't get the hint that he wanted her to stop.

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Speaker 1: He didn't want to embarrass her in front of all

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Speaker 1: of our friends, so we let it go after making

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Speaker 1: a hinted joke to stop. During the night, she also

663
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Speaker 1: made a few flirty comments to him, but he shrugged

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Speaker 1: it off.

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Speaker 3: Oh my god. After everyone had left. He mentioned how

666
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Speaker 3: annoying it was and how he.

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Speaker 1: Didn't appreciate having a toy thrown at him continuously. I

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Speaker 1: also had a few of the friends that were there

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Speaker 1: make comments about her behavior. After a couple days of

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Speaker 1: thinking about how to approach it, I sent her a message,

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Speaker 1: as the next time I was going to see her

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Speaker 1: would be in a group setting and I didn't want

673
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Speaker 1: to wait long to confront the issue.

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Speaker 3: That's smart.

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Speaker 1: So a messaged just saying, on a side note, drunk

676
00:33:39,760 --> 00:33:43,960
Speaker 1: slash Tipsy needs oh so like her. So drunk slash

677
00:33:43,960 --> 00:33:46,600
Speaker 1: Tipsy needs to stop throwing things at my partner as

678
00:33:46,600 --> 00:33:48,520
Speaker 1: he doesn't appreciate it and I would hate for him

679
00:33:48,560 --> 00:33:49,200
Speaker 1: to snap.

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00:33:48,960 --> 00:33:51,080
Speaker 3: And have a go at her if it was to continue.

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00:33:51,320 --> 00:33:53,680
Speaker 1: I stated it wasn't a big issue, just needed to

682
00:33:53,760 --> 00:33:56,360
Speaker 1: nip it in the bud and ensure it doesn't continue

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00:33:56,400 --> 00:33:58,080
Speaker 1: to happen as it's happened twice now.

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Speaker 2: Oh shit ah.

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Speaker 1: She then replied saying if I'm such a problem, don't

686
00:34:04,360 --> 00:34:07,800
Speaker 1: bother inviting me to things. Take this as my notice

687
00:34:07,800 --> 00:34:10,600
Speaker 1: for all future invites. Thank you, but no thank you.

688
00:34:12,200 --> 00:34:12,640
Speaker 3: Fuck.

689
00:34:13,400 --> 00:34:15,440
Speaker 1: It was a bit of an overreaction. She could have

690
00:34:15,560 --> 00:34:18,960
Speaker 1: just said shit sorry, didn't realize. Yeah, it's now been

691
00:34:19,040 --> 00:34:22,399
Speaker 1: six weeks since, and her sister, who I'm also friends with, is.

692
00:34:22,360 --> 00:34:24,600
Speaker 3: Now getting involved. When she said, she.

693
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Speaker 1: Didn't want to be in the middle, saying it shouldn't

694
00:34:27,239 --> 00:34:29,879
Speaker 1: have come from me, it should have come directly from

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Speaker 1: my partner if it was an issue, that I hurt

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00:34:32,640 --> 00:34:35,160
Speaker 1: her feelings, and that I'm being stubborn for not messaging

697
00:34:35,200 --> 00:34:38,040
Speaker 1: her since etc. I asked a few friends and they

698
00:34:38,080 --> 00:34:40,160
Speaker 1: all agreed with me, saying that it was the nicest

699
00:34:40,160 --> 00:34:42,160
Speaker 1: way possible and that it makes sense for it to

700
00:34:42,200 --> 00:34:44,920
Speaker 1: come from me, as in a relationship, you stick up

701
00:34:44,920 --> 00:34:46,799
Speaker 1: for your other half. They deal with their friends and

702
00:34:46,840 --> 00:34:49,080
Speaker 1: family and you deal with yours if there's any issues.

703
00:34:49,680 --> 00:34:52,440
Speaker 1: I don't tolerate disrespectful behavior and would have said the

704
00:34:52,480 --> 00:34:55,040
Speaker 1: same thing to anyone and have done so in the past.

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Speaker 1: Some of my friends think her behavior is more primary

706
00:34:57,960 --> 00:35:02,279
Speaker 1: school flirty and that she likes my post partner. Oh

707
00:35:02,480 --> 00:35:06,480
Speaker 1: my god, the issue being we are getting married in

708
00:35:06,520 --> 00:35:08,480
Speaker 1: a few months and she's meant to be one of

709
00:35:08,520 --> 00:35:09,839
Speaker 1: my bridesmaids.

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00:35:09,880 --> 00:35:10,240
Speaker 5: Fuck.

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00:35:10,880 --> 00:35:14,839
Speaker 1: I'm disappointed in her behavior and if she's flirting with him,

712
00:35:14,880 --> 00:35:17,120
Speaker 1: I would be hurt by her actions and she's meant

713
00:35:17,120 --> 00:35:18,920
Speaker 1: to be one of my closest friends.

714
00:35:19,360 --> 00:35:22,000
Speaker 3: No part of me is jealous. I completely trust my partner,

715
00:35:22,200 --> 00:35:25,320
Speaker 3: just disappointed in the friendship. Am I wrong for confronting

716
00:35:25,480 --> 00:35:28,000
Speaker 3: my friend or is she just out of line?

717
00:35:28,640 --> 00:35:32,759
Speaker 2: Oh my god, I know, I know You're definitely not

718
00:35:32,880 --> 00:35:37,120
Speaker 2: in the wrong for confronting her. I think like it

719
00:35:37,280 --> 00:35:41,640
Speaker 2: probably could have been better if your partner was in

720
00:35:41,680 --> 00:35:43,799
Speaker 2: a difficult situation. But it could have been good if

721
00:35:43,800 --> 00:35:45,359
Speaker 2: he was like, okay, like enough now.

722
00:35:45,600 --> 00:35:48,319
Speaker 1: But I was in a room full of people, like

723
00:35:48,400 --> 00:35:53,040
Speaker 1: you know, if that happens, then like there's that awkward silence,

724
00:35:53,440 --> 00:35:56,319
Speaker 1: and then as well, like he did kind of be like, oh,

725
00:35:56,360 --> 00:35:59,439
Speaker 1: I'm gonna need a shield, Like most self aware people

726
00:35:59,480 --> 00:36:01,640
Speaker 1: would pick up most aypful way people wouldn't spend.

727
00:36:01,440 --> 00:36:04,240
Speaker 3: An hour throwing a dog to it at someone ahead. Yeah,

728
00:36:04,280 --> 00:36:06,759
Speaker 3: and that does kind of give the energy of being like,

729
00:36:06,840 --> 00:36:09,560
Speaker 3: oh my god, give me your heart. Yeah, you know totally.

730
00:36:09,800 --> 00:36:14,000
Speaker 1: That is like it is semi attention seeking behavior to

731
00:36:14,040 --> 00:36:14,600
Speaker 1: be doing that.

732
00:36:15,000 --> 00:36:17,719
Speaker 2: Yeah, I agree, And I think that the way that

733
00:36:17,760 --> 00:36:23,880
Speaker 2: she responded was she's clearly embarrassed on the defense, which

734
00:36:23,920 --> 00:36:26,920
Speaker 2: I get that is embarrassing, So you know, I can

735
00:36:27,000 --> 00:36:29,000
Speaker 2: understand why she would be a little bit but hurt

736
00:36:29,040 --> 00:36:32,240
Speaker 2: about it, but the way that she responded is not right,

737
00:36:32,440 --> 00:36:33,880
Speaker 2: Like she should have apologized.

738
00:36:34,200 --> 00:36:37,680
Speaker 1: Also, this saying of take this as my RSVP to

739
00:36:37,760 --> 00:36:39,600
Speaker 1: all invitations, thank you, but no thank you.

740
00:36:39,800 --> 00:36:45,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, like no accountability, no apology, completely putting it back

741
00:36:45,120 --> 00:36:47,480
Speaker 2: on you and making you feel like you're the bad person.

742
00:36:48,280 --> 00:36:53,040
Speaker 2: I wonder if this is a unique instance like these

743
00:36:53,120 --> 00:36:55,200
Speaker 2: last two parties, or if this is the sort of

744
00:36:55,200 --> 00:37:00,279
Speaker 2: behavior that she's shown like throughout their friendship. Because as

745
00:37:00,320 --> 00:37:03,719
Speaker 2: much as I'm like, I can understand if you appreciate

746
00:37:03,760 --> 00:37:06,040
Speaker 2: and value the friendship and you want to reach out

747
00:37:06,080 --> 00:37:08,960
Speaker 2: to her and try and make amends. But I don't

748
00:37:09,000 --> 00:37:11,200
Speaker 2: know if you want somebody like this in your bridal party.

749
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Speaker 3: Oh my god, no, because bridal parties are.

750
00:37:16,400 --> 00:37:20,879
Speaker 2: Notorious for bringing up drama in friendship, throwing a dog

751
00:37:20,920 --> 00:37:23,160
Speaker 2: toy at his head when you're saying you're there exactly

752
00:37:23,320 --> 00:37:28,239
Speaker 2: mid kiss, you may now kiss dog toy right at

753
00:37:28,239 --> 00:37:28,560
Speaker 2: the face.

754
00:37:30,080 --> 00:37:30,440
Speaker 3: Yeah.

755
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Speaker 1: I just I think that her response was quite immature.

756
00:37:36,960 --> 00:37:40,040
Speaker 1: I think she could have been a little bit more understanding,

757
00:37:40,480 --> 00:37:42,800
Speaker 1: And I don't think your partner should have been the

758
00:37:42,800 --> 00:37:44,920
Speaker 1: one to send the message, I think she's your friend.

759
00:37:45,560 --> 00:37:48,680
Speaker 1: I think it would have been weird, uncomfortable and overstepping

760
00:37:48,760 --> 00:37:51,240
Speaker 1: for him to do that. Like if my partner messaged

761
00:37:51,239 --> 00:37:53,400
Speaker 1: a friend of mine and was like, hey, you pissed

762
00:37:53,400 --> 00:37:54,759
Speaker 1: me off, I would probably kick him.

763
00:37:54,880 --> 00:37:57,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, oh my god, we have a seal kaboo.

764
00:37:58,560 --> 00:38:02,240
Speaker 1: Boo, I'd be like, like, I don't, I completely agree.

765
00:38:02,320 --> 00:38:04,920
Speaker 3: I think they deal with their friends and family.

766
00:38:04,960 --> 00:38:07,600
Speaker 1: You deal with your friends and family, Like, I don't

767
00:38:07,600 --> 00:38:09,520
Speaker 1: think you've done the wrong thing with that at all.

768
00:38:10,239 --> 00:38:16,880
Speaker 1: But what I would suggest maybe thinking about and listening

769
00:38:16,920 --> 00:38:20,200
Speaker 1: to it's this new book from Mel Robbins and it's

770
00:38:20,200 --> 00:38:23,359
Speaker 1: called the Let Them Theory, which everyone probably knows at

771
00:38:23,360 --> 00:38:25,880
Speaker 1: this point, like the video Went Violet had nineteen million views.

772
00:38:26,160 --> 00:38:27,880
Speaker 1: But there's a chapter in the book and it's the

773
00:38:27,920 --> 00:38:29,920
Speaker 1: second chapter, so it'll probably.

774
00:38:29,560 --> 00:38:30,319
Speaker 3: Really really help.

775
00:38:30,719 --> 00:38:33,759
Speaker 1: And it's not only about let them, but let me,

776
00:38:34,560 --> 00:38:38,440
Speaker 1: So let Them is kind of situating you and being like,

777
00:38:38,520 --> 00:38:40,920
Speaker 1: you know what if she wants to be mad about this,

778
00:38:41,040 --> 00:38:43,919
Speaker 1: if she wants to tell her sister and they don't

779
00:38:43,920 --> 00:38:45,360
Speaker 1: want to talk to me, and she doesn't want to

780
00:38:45,360 --> 00:38:47,680
Speaker 1: come to events, and she doesn't want to.

781
00:38:47,680 --> 00:38:50,759
Speaker 3: Be in my bridal party, anymore. Whatever that is.

782
00:38:51,200 --> 00:38:54,319
Speaker 1: Let them, but don't forget to also follow it up

783
00:38:54,320 --> 00:38:59,520
Speaker 1: with let me, So then let them do that, let

784
00:38:59,560 --> 00:39:02,680
Speaker 1: me continue on with my partner, ensure that I have

785
00:39:02,760 --> 00:39:06,000
Speaker 1: my boundaries, go about my wedding, find a different bridesmaid,

786
00:39:06,040 --> 00:39:08,759
Speaker 1: whatever that is. But have a listen to that, because

787
00:39:08,800 --> 00:39:11,799
Speaker 1: I think it'll really help you decide whether or not

788
00:39:11,840 --> 00:39:14,279
Speaker 1: you want to continue the friendship and if you think

789
00:39:14,280 --> 00:39:19,719
Speaker 1: there's something worth saving, or if you think that it's worth.

790
00:39:19,560 --> 00:39:20,720
Speaker 3: Just walking away.

791
00:39:20,800 --> 00:39:23,560
Speaker 1: Because what would be hard in this situation is it

792
00:39:23,600 --> 00:39:25,920
Speaker 1: wasn't a big blow up. It was something really small

793
00:39:26,840 --> 00:39:29,560
Speaker 1: that obviously they're really close friends, so that's going to

794
00:39:29,600 --> 00:39:31,960
Speaker 1: be hard to just stop being friends because she was

795
00:39:31,960 --> 00:39:33,400
Speaker 1: throwing a dog toy at a boyfriend.

796
00:39:33,560 --> 00:39:36,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, you know, but I don't think it's about that.

797
00:39:36,320 --> 00:39:38,120
Speaker 1: I think it's about the way that it's been handled

798
00:39:38,160 --> 00:39:41,520
Speaker 1: after and how you know, personal and defense ive.

799
00:39:41,480 --> 00:39:42,640
Speaker 3: She got about it.

800
00:39:42,840 --> 00:39:45,399
Speaker 1: Yeah, So I think sit with it a little bit

801
00:39:45,600 --> 00:39:47,399
Speaker 1: and have a think about what you want.

802
00:39:47,520 --> 00:39:47,800
Speaker 3: Yeah.

803
00:39:47,840 --> 00:39:49,800
Speaker 2: I think you went about it in the most mature

804
00:39:49,880 --> 00:39:52,560
Speaker 2: and gentle way that you could while also being honest,

805
00:39:52,719 --> 00:39:53,200
Speaker 2: because I.

806
00:39:53,200 --> 00:39:56,279
Speaker 1: Also don't think it should have been like I think

807
00:39:56,280 --> 00:39:58,360
Speaker 1: even meeting up in person to discuss it would have

808
00:39:58,360 --> 00:40:00,279
Speaker 1: made it a bigger deal than it needed to be. Yeah,

809
00:40:00,280 --> 00:40:01,960
Speaker 1: like I feel like sending a Texas phone. It's been

810
00:40:02,000 --> 00:40:04,880
Speaker 1: like hey, just a heads up, like this wasn't a vibe.

811
00:40:05,719 --> 00:40:06,759
Speaker 1: And then to be like.

812
00:40:06,840 --> 00:40:13,800
Speaker 6: Okay, fine, I'm not coming to anything anymore. I was like, oh, yeah, good, Okay.

813
00:40:13,840 --> 00:40:16,359
Speaker 6: I don't know if that helped, but we made you

814
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Speaker 6: feel better.

815
00:40:18,280 --> 00:40:22,400
Speaker 3: I'd loved that. I've decided that we made you feel better. Okay,

816
00:40:22,600 --> 00:40:25,200
Speaker 3: you feel better? You feel good now? Yeah, you feel good?

817
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Speaker 1: Now?

818
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Speaker 3: That's a rap. That's a rappy doodle.

819
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Speaker 2: On our very first episode of Two Broke Chicks for

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Speaker 2: twenty twenty five, So Glad to be Better remix the

821
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Speaker 2: remix Rember, thanks for having us in your ear holes, chickies,

822
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Speaker 2: we love to be here. We really missed it, And

823
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Speaker 2: thanks to mk made for making today's episode of Two

824
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Speaker 2: Broke Chicks happened.

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Speaker 3: Kisses, smooches, a little tickle