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Speaker 1: This is the Fits and Whip with Cape Ritchie podcast.

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Speaker 1: I'm just looking at a quote in this story that

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Speaker 1: I'm about to bring to you guys. It says here,

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Speaker 1: divorce is not an accomplishment. It is a personal failure.

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Speaker 1: It's not Oh, divorce isn't trendy or cool. This is

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Speaker 1: so whack, which brings me to the divorce ring And

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Speaker 1: what can I just say? Divorce isn't a failure. I

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Speaker 1: think if you think of it like.

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Speaker 2: That, divorce is a very natural thing.

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Speaker 3: Well, what are the stats we were talking about it.

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Speaker 4: We're up to fifty five percent.

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Speaker 3: You have more than one.

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Speaker 2: Two very brave because it can be hard and you

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Speaker 2: know there's going to be drama as you go through it.

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Speaker 2: So to make a decision that this isn't the right

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Speaker 2: way for the rest of my life, I can live

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Speaker 2: happily without it, then it's a very brave.

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Speaker 1: Well, you don't always live happily without it. It can

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Speaker 1: be very tricky.

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Speaker 2: We've got to move on.

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Speaker 4: And it also sounds like somebody's saying that because obviously

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Speaker 4: there's a big event for you around the corner. With

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Speaker 4: that's case, you're on a glorify it. That's Okay.

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Speaker 1: I was watching a video on Instagram or TikTok or

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Speaker 1: something the other day, and it was it was that

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Speaker 1: it was like, there are so many people in relationships

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Speaker 1: who don't have the maybe the opportunity or to divorce,

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Speaker 1: to divorce. So go, you're you're so, you're so brave.

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Speaker 2: There's a lot of people the stay together too, Katerichie,

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Speaker 2: because it's too expensive to divorce.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and they and they are miserable.

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Speaker 1: And that makes me very sad knowing that people are

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Speaker 1: living in miserable households. Anyway, let's not get bogged down

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Speaker 1: in the actual divorce.

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Speaker 3: There's this thing going on.

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Speaker 1: Years ago we would talk about push presents and you know,

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Speaker 1: when you had a baby, you got a ring.

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Speaker 3: Well, now, the thing is that when you hand.

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Speaker 1: All your jewelry back after a marriage, maybe you don't,

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Speaker 1: but you're not wearing that jewelry anymore. That what you

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Speaker 1: should do is congratulate yourself or at least mark the

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Speaker 1: occasion of a new chapter of your life with something

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Speaker 1: called a divorce ring.

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Speaker 2: What does that look like.

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Speaker 3: Well, the reason, well, it looks like this.

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Speaker 1: I thought i'd get your attention with a photograph of

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Speaker 1: Emily what's her name? I could never pronounce that lovely modern.

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Speaker 2: I have noticed her a couple of times.

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Speaker 1: Splash Star. She was married briefly. Not a failure, Emily,

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Speaker 1: not a failure at all. She was married briefly, had

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Speaker 1: a son, and the rings that her husband gave her

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Speaker 1: she's now remodeled into what she's calling, Yeah.

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Speaker 2: A diamonds.

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Speaker 3: Well, you wouldn't want to get of those.

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Speaker 2: They are massive.

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Speaker 3: He's talking about diamonds.

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Speaker 2: They are massive diamonds. Dimonds like that?

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Speaker 4: Are they shining bright?

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Speaker 2: Oh my god?

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Speaker 3: What a piggre?

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Speaker 4: What is that?

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Speaker 3: There's a pear shape. I'm not a big fan of

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Speaker 3: the pear shape.

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Speaker 1: I have to say, if you do, if you have

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Speaker 1: done this, or maybe it's not even ak it's not

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Speaker 1: a ring, but it's it's a gift that you've given

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Speaker 1: yourself to mark an occasion.

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Speaker 3: I tend to do that.

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Speaker 1: I don't buy myself jewelry necessarily, but i'll buy like

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Speaker 1: when I've done something great, Yeah, yeah, you got to or.

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Speaker 3: Something well that was my that's yeah.

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Speaker 1: Or I bought a when I won a gold LOGI

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Speaker 1: I bought myself a piece of furniture, and it's a

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Speaker 1: piece of fern. I bought a side like a gold

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Speaker 1: couch and a big gold like onesie, so sometimes I

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Speaker 1: can pop it on and watch the reruns of old Logis.

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Speaker 1: I think it was the fiftieth annual Logi event. But see,

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Speaker 1: I kind of like this because I feel bare at

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Speaker 1: the moment because I don't wear any rings anymore.

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Speaker 3: I don't have mys.

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Speaker 2: Did granny have a ring or something?

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Speaker 3: I don't want to pass.

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Speaker 1: I don't really come from a family like that. There

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Speaker 1: is some jewelry floating around that.

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Speaker 3: Is my mum.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, still that, but well there are three daughters, so

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Speaker 1: it is going to have to be divvyr.

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Speaker 3: But I thought you're.

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Speaker 4: From Campbelltown, so there is a I think there's a

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Speaker 4: long line of ankle bracelet's sit there that have been

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Speaker 4: passed there.

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Speaker 2: Well they're different. They come with a sort of a

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Speaker 2: battery and a beeping system and I beg your GPS tracker.

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Speaker 3: No, mate, have you okay, have you ever been to Campbelltown?

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Speaker 4: You know what?

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Speaker 2: When I worked Southern Highlands on the weekend, that is

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Speaker 2: not Campbell No, it's not.

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Speaker 4: But it's fifty.

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Speaker 2: K's out of Campbelltown. I was just reminded how far

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Speaker 2: Campbelltown was from the city.

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Speaker 3: It's sixty ks.

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Speaker 2: And do you know what I thought? I thought of

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Speaker 2: your mum, because your mum drove from Campbelltown to talm

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Speaker 2: Beach just so you could run around chasing Pipper.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, at four am in the morning.

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Speaker 2: That is an extraordinary effort.

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Speaker 4: I know.

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Speaker 1: And she I'm the eldest four children, so when I

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Speaker 1: started home and away, the youngest child, Susan was one

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Speaker 1: years old.

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Speaker 2: Your mother is an angel.

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Speaker 4: She's got an angel you her bling is she is

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Speaker 4: she decked out in any bracelets or she's not a

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Speaker 4: bit she's.

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Speaker 1: Not a big ring where in fact, I don't think

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Speaker 1: she wears any rings at the moment, but she does

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Speaker 1: have a beautiful Her engagement ring was that it's very cool,

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Speaker 1: kind of seventies right style. But I think someone else

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Speaker 1: is getting that in the family.

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Speaker 2: Can I ask, hopefully, what about is that a divorced

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Speaker 2: necklace you're wearing? What's that?

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Speaker 3: I know this was a gift to myself for.

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Speaker 2: Something A lot of self gifting.

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Speaker 1: Do you know what me?

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Speaker 3: Jewelry anymore?

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Speaker 1: But do you know what, go girlfriend, buy yourself a

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Speaker 1: piece of jewelry, because then nobody can ever take it.

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Speaker 2: Away from it.

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Speaker 3: She's fallen over again.

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