Speaker 1: Hi, I'm your uncle Matt, and I think you are
Speaker 1: a boy.
Speaker 2: No big bite.
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Speaker 3: So, Matt, where's your head at?
Speaker 1: Welcome Anna to another episode of Where's Your Head At?
Speaker 3: Hello?
Speaker 2: Hello, Hello?
Speaker 1: Where is your head at? Anna?
Speaker 3: My head is in a very excited place because currently
Speaker 3: sitting in front of me is a cupcake. Yes, and
Speaker 3: when you bude into this cupcake, it's going to reveal
Speaker 3: the gender of the baby.
Speaker 1: I've done some some in the mirror like reactions.
Speaker 3: Like practice, practice, so I'll be don't want to let
Speaker 3: us down.
Speaker 1: I don't want to let everyone down. And we want
Speaker 1: the real and the TikTok to look good, so I'll
Speaker 1: I'll do some good reaction.
Speaker 3: Don't do a fake reaction. I actually want to like
Speaker 3: genuine reaction from you.
Speaker 1: Well, when you told me you're pregnant was like a
Speaker 1: genuine reaction. I had no idea find Zero was even
Speaker 1: going on.
Speaker 3: You were like, weren't we talking about this in this episode?
Speaker 4: I really wanted to talk about that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, that was That was a funny one. That
Speaker 1: was good. Oh yeah, I was complaining about we weren't
Speaker 1: talking about I feel like you.
Speaker 3: Need to surprise me, like you're getting a lot of surprises. Okay,
Speaker 3: Zero want some surprises.
Speaker 1: Okay, Well i'll tell you what this is a surprise then, Okay, Okay,
Speaker 1: let's do it.
Speaker 4: I'm excited.
Speaker 1: So I'm obviously very heavily into my American football not playing.
Speaker 1: Don't worry, I'm not trying to surprise for me or
Speaker 1: you for everyone.
Speaker 4: Okay.
Speaker 1: I So we have a league of fantasy football, and we.
Speaker 3: Know describe a listener of the podcast.
Speaker 1: We know you know. Fantasy football is real players play
Speaker 1: a real game for our fake league, winning fake points
Speaker 1: for real winners. It's a hard to examin but there's
Speaker 1: the whole thing to it. I in the second back
Speaker 1: end of the season did very poorly with like the
Speaker 1: wedding and Honeymoon didn't make many trades got at the
Speaker 1: better of me. My players started to flop. I was
Speaker 1: getting really annoyed. Thought I drafted very well. The loser
Speaker 1: of the league's punishment.
Speaker 4: Are you the loser of the league?
Speaker 1: Okay? The loser of the punishment is they need to
Speaker 1: do a stand up act at a like a local
Speaker 1: stand up comic. What the word like?
Speaker 3: A comedy show?
Speaker 1: Comedy show? Yeah, so the loser is so I didn't
Speaker 1: come last. I was in the game, and the loser
Speaker 1: has to do that. I scored one hundred and thirty
Speaker 1: seven point nine eight and my opponent, Trent, scored one
Speaker 1: hundred and thirty six point six eight, So I lost
Speaker 1: by one, sorry, by one point thirty. Now I'm the
Speaker 1: vice commissioner of the league, and I said, to be
Speaker 1: a good sport, I will do an act as well.
Speaker 3: Because you've always wanted to do one. It's not even
Speaker 3: a punishment to you. You've literally you probably came up
Speaker 3: with the punishment knowing that you weren't.
Speaker 4: Going to do well.
Speaker 1: So everybody, it's we've spoken about dates. I'll put it
Speaker 1: on my Instagram, I'll put it on the podcast. It
Speaker 1: would be probably halfway between super Bowl and Draft night,
Speaker 1: I'm going to do a standup act in Melbourne.
Speaker 3: I'll probably be giving birth, so I don't know if
Speaker 3: time to make it.
Speaker 1: I'll try and make it then before you have birth
Speaker 1: or after? Yeah, so I right.
Speaker 3: May ideally okay before really may. So basically my surprise
Speaker 3: is that you're doing a comedy.
Speaker 1: How could you ask for anything else? Because you honestly
Speaker 1: asked for a vetters for happy? I am, I am,
Speaker 1: I'm really happy. I am having going to come down
Speaker 1: one hundred cent. She's excited for it. That's or maybe
Speaker 1: a little bit nervous. I'll be all right.
Speaker 3: I like the thing is is the one thing about
Speaker 3: Matt if I feel like you guys know Matt, but
Speaker 3: just more a little more insight, is he doesn't really
Speaker 3: get embarrassed. And he says to me that I feel
Speaker 3: like other people would get embarrassed about and you just
Speaker 3: have no shame, no nothing like Michael says, you would
Speaker 3: be like great salesman in the eighties.
Speaker 1: Eighties.
Speaker 4: Why is that you're so rogue, so roque?
Speaker 1: Yeah, I probably good time.
Speaker 3: He's got the more going on as well, guys. I
Speaker 3: feel like a.
Speaker 1: Great salesman in the eighties that I was a great
Speaker 1: salesman in like twenty twenty something, I did.
Speaker 3: Well, you are a good salesman.
Speaker 1: Soot it.
Speaker 3: But yeah, no, just a bit roque.
Speaker 1: The boys are laughing. They're saying, you know, it's not
Speaker 1: just going to be usset. There's going to be like
Speaker 1: people coming to watch a stand up show. I'm going
Speaker 1: to be doing it. So that was my side surprise
Speaker 1: for you. What to give it to.
Speaker 3: Your Do you want to give me the cupcake?
Speaker 2: Okay?
Speaker 3: So should I start by saying that this cupcake is
Speaker 3: a homemade cupcake? Well, it's well not homemade, it's col's bored.
Speaker 3: But for all of my other cupcake reveals, I basically
Speaker 3: put an order into a proper cupcake shop and they
Speaker 3: had either pink or blue in the middle.
Speaker 4: Oh my god, I.
Speaker 3: Almost gave it away.
Speaker 4: I almost said it.
Speaker 3: Okay that I didn't imagin't pick up on xing some
Speaker 3: daydream lancets.
Speaker 1: You were talking.
Speaker 3: Anyway, So this morning I went to cold and got
Speaker 3: some food dye and our producer has kindly done something
Speaker 3: with it. So you need to look like at me,
Speaker 3: and then you're gonna open it and I'm also going
Speaker 3: to do a video, so I'm going to film you
Speaker 3: whilst doing it. So this is how it has to go.
Speaker 3: So do you want to be called uncle Matt? Which
Speaker 3: is Matt?
Speaker 1: Uncle Matt? I sound like I have a kid show.
Speaker 3: So you're gonna say, Hi, I'm your uncle Matt and
Speaker 3: I think you're a and then I buy it. Yeah,
Speaker 3: so you have no You have to say I think
Speaker 3: you're a what do you think is a boy? And
Speaker 3: then you bite it and then show without looking. No,
Speaker 3: you can look and then you'll know the answer.
Speaker 1: Okay, we'll have food die all over my teeth.
Speaker 4: Because it's like a lot of food.
Speaker 1: All right, let's do it now. You made me a little
Speaker 1: bit nervous that it's like all official.
Speaker 3: Here is the cupcake. Let me get my phone ready.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so I'm looking at the cupcake now. There is
Speaker 1: no evidence of any color and it so Blake's done
Speaker 1: a really good job at that.
Speaker 4: Okay are you ready?
Speaker 1: Yes?
Speaker 3: Don't look at the bottom because it's in the bottom. Okay, Hello,
Speaker 3: what do I say You're going to so they say Hi,
Speaker 3: I'm your uncle Matt and I think you're a.
Speaker 1: Okay, Hi, I'm your uncle Matt, and I think you
Speaker 1: are a boy.
Speaker 2: No big bite.
Speaker 1: Spirit for boy. It's a congratulations. Congratulations.
Speaker 3: That is a lot of food die and Matt is
Speaker 3: currently Oh.
Speaker 1: My god, congratulations. I had a feeling in my stomach
Speaker 1: that you were going to have a boy. I don't
Speaker 1: know why, I just saw it. And you want you
Speaker 1: want a boy? I think to as the oldest. Like
Speaker 1: I said in last week's episode.
Speaker 3: It's because you're the eldest and so like your mum
Speaker 3: had a boy first, So I feel like you want
Speaker 3: what you had kind of thing.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I will. Yeah, well I want like I've got
Speaker 1: Wolf obviously as my stepsum but like Wolf is like
Speaker 1: you're mini me exactly. Yeah, And it's like you know
Speaker 1: it's I like, I feel happy for Michael. He's going
Speaker 1: to have that experience.
Speaker 3: Yeah, Staple's name. Let me see your teeth now, it's
Speaker 3: just like a tinge of blue.
Speaker 1: I'm going to finish this.
Speaker 4: Is it good?
Speaker 2: Your tongue is so blue.
Speaker 1: I mean, I don't mind a cupcake in the morning.
Speaker 3: That is fully stuffy with this cupcake. So anyway, it's
Speaker 3: a boy. We were so excited to find out, genuinely
Speaker 3: when we did the gender reveal. So we did it
Speaker 3: and we had a big cake and we did the
Speaker 3: cut the glasses in the cake, and we both said
Speaker 3: before we were like, it's definitely a girl. Like there
Speaker 3: was nothing inside of me that even thought.
Speaker 1: It could be except for the actual baby.
Speaker 3: Except the actual baby.
Speaker 1: I'm a boy.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 3: And then literally when we put it in, I was
Speaker 3: so shocked, Like my reaction was genuine, like when I
Speaker 3: told you that I was pregnant. I had the same
Speaker 3: genuine shock of like, what, it's a boy.
Speaker 1: Really? There was no intuition, no, like.
Speaker 3: No mother's intuition. I mean, I will say that six
Speaker 3: months prior to even trying to get pregnant, I had
Speaker 3: the most vivid dream and I literally saw myself holding
Speaker 3: a baby boy. And I literally woke up that morning
Speaker 3: and was like to Michael, I know that our first
Speaker 3: baby is going to be a boy. But when we
Speaker 3: were trying every month, I was like, it'll be a boy.
Speaker 3: And then the month that we actually got pregnant, I
Speaker 3: said to Michael, if it's this month, I think it.
Speaker 4: Could be a girl.
Speaker 3: So it was boy boy, boy, boy boy, And then
Speaker 3: just randomly I thought it.
Speaker 1: Was a girl, and I do you have names. The
Speaker 1: name's locked in, The name's locked in. Locked won't say
Speaker 1: it on the podcast? Would you tell me? No? No, no,
Speaker 1: you don't want to say. Why is that?
Speaker 3: I mean, I think I just want it to be
Speaker 3: a bit of a surprise. Maybe I'll tell I think
Speaker 3: it's a bit of more. It's nice as a surprise.
Speaker 3: Maybe I'll give some clues out.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but then someone guesses, but I won't.
Speaker 3: Confirm or deny. Maybe I can confirm if someone says it,
Speaker 3: but not like this is the name.
Speaker 1: It did. So we spoke about this on the phone today.
Speaker 1: Was there any like the wife's tales that you feel
Speaker 1: came true?
Speaker 3: Literally, none of the wives tales came true. Like the
Speaker 3: reason why I was so confident when we did this
Speaker 3: gender reveal is because every single wife's tale, everything that
Speaker 3: I was feeling was girl, girl, girl, girl, girl, Like
Speaker 3: there was nothing. Oh, I think the baby's heart rate
Speaker 3: was one forty five, and they say that under one forty.
Speaker 3: I don't know something along those lines, but it was
Speaker 3: so close to one forty. And it's like lower as
Speaker 3: one gender, higher as another. But yeah, all of the
Speaker 3: wives tales are bre So if you're pregnant and looking
Speaker 3: at the Wife's Tales. None of them worked for me.
Speaker 3: Michael was telling me the whole time. He's like, you
Speaker 3: can't trust these, like they're not scientifically proven. And I
Speaker 3: was like, yes, do you care.
Speaker 1: Did you say an old Greek lady came up to
Speaker 1: you and said you've got a boy?
Speaker 3: Yeah, so our neighbor. Actually I think.
Speaker 1: She's a witch.
Speaker 3: No, I feel like the Greeks just have that intuish shado.
Speaker 3: So yeah, our neighbor. She's this beautiful Greek woman. And
Speaker 3: she came up to me and touched my tummy and
Speaker 3: she's like, congratulations on your little boy. And I was like,
Speaker 3: did I tell you that? And she's like, no, I
Speaker 3: can just tell by the shape of your tummy. And
Speaker 3: I was like, but it's so funny because what the
Speaker 3: internet says about my tummy is that I'm having a girl.
Speaker 3: Like the look of my tummy to me, looks.
Speaker 4: Like a girl.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Look, But even the receptionist here at Nova was like,
Speaker 3: I think I can tell it's a boy by the shape.
Speaker 1: She did say something that.
Speaker 2: I know.
Speaker 3: I know the wives tales, I don't know how true
Speaker 3: they are, guys, I know that we love we love
Speaker 3: old I loved an old wife tale until well.
Speaker 1: We've spoke in the last episode about conspiracy theories. I'll
Speaker 1: get into it, but as soon as someone starts getting
Speaker 1: into it, I'm like, come on, like, there's nothing like.
Speaker 3: It's fun to participate in. I will say that it
Speaker 3: is fun, but when.
Speaker 1: Song gets passionate and actually believes it, You're like, like,
Speaker 1: come on, come on on, the FBI to do with that?
Speaker 4: Literally.
Speaker 3: So yeah, anyway, we're having a little boy. I'm so excited,
Speaker 3: so excited.
Speaker 1: I'm excited for you. Amazing. Yah, I get him into wrestling?
Speaker 3: What am I getting into wrestle? I don't know When's
Speaker 3: uncle Matt takes him to wrestling. That's so crazy though.
Speaker 3: I feel like twenty twenty four we weren't stressed out
Speaker 3: about the baby at all, and then twenty twenty five
Speaker 3: hit and we've been like, is our house speak enough?
Speaker 3: Like we live in a two bedroom house. We like,
Speaker 3: where's the stuff that obviously the baby's nursery is my
Speaker 3: current makeup room. So I'm like, where is all my
Speaker 3: makeup room stuff gonna go? Where's do we have enough
Speaker 3: of space here? We need a new car because we
Speaker 3: share a car. Michael and I and it's a low car,
Speaker 3: and Michael's sister has been like they've hurt that both
Speaker 3: of them have hurt their back from like getting in
Speaker 3: and out of the car. I mean you, Timmy has
Speaker 3: a high car. Will you guys have a high time
Speaker 3: so you wouldn't be breaking your back, But yeah, going
Speaker 3: low to get the bag just like so much. I
Speaker 3: just think that the whole pregnancy feels so much more
Speaker 3: real now that it's a boy. And also now that
Speaker 3: it's this year, the baby comes this year, It's it's
Speaker 3: very close, it's very incoming.
Speaker 1: Very close. Like it's halfway halfway, aren't you. Yeah, well
Speaker 1: about your makeup room though.
Speaker 3: Babies halfway halfway this week.
Speaker 1: Having a child is about sacrifice, So you'll have to
Speaker 1: sacrifice your makeup room.
Speaker 3: Yeah no, I think I'm gonna have to just downside,
Speaker 3: get a smaller one and just put it somewhere random
Speaker 3: in the house.
Speaker 4: We're all fit.
Speaker 1: Do you need a makeup thing?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 3: So we're are we going to do my makeup? I
Speaker 3: sit on there every morning if I'm doing makeup, or
Speaker 3: at least to brush my hair.
Speaker 1: Foreign foreign thing. I don't understand that first. Real problems,
Speaker 1: problems just a girl. Should we get into today's episode.
Speaker 1: Let's do it and we're friends.
Speaker 3: We are friends.
Speaker 1: We are friends, but you've got to admit, like with
Speaker 1: like me moving up to the Gold Coast, you've been pregnant,
Speaker 1: me having a fa like literally a family, adopted family
Speaker 1: almost what you can call that? How do you call it?
Speaker 4: Built in?
Speaker 1: Built in family? That's the word. Got built in family.
Speaker 1: Now it does get hard to hang out and socialize with,
Speaker 1: you know, your friends at this age as well. I
Speaker 1: feel like you know, I'm working nine till five each day,
Speaker 1: get home, I want to go gym. You got to
Speaker 1: spend time with your wife, quality time with her and
Speaker 1: the kids and all that. It gets hard to make
Speaker 1: time and prioritize seeing.
Speaker 3: Your friends one hundred percent. I think, how old are
Speaker 3: you now?
Speaker 1: I'm twenty nine, so you're thirty this year thirtieth?
Speaker 3: Are you having a thirtieth?
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's the plan. Nothing a couple of months away.
Speaker 1: I wanted to do what July the fourth. I wanted
Speaker 1: to do white Christmas.
Speaker 3: In July in Gold Coast or in Melbourne.
Speaker 1: I haven't sought that far ahead, but Tammy's.
Speaker 3: Keep in mind.
Speaker 1: I'll be like with a baby, I might have to
Speaker 1: here because it'd be like what my friendship circles here? Yeah,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. Like, but I want to
Speaker 1: do a white Christmas in July.
Speaker 3: It's so fun.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Tammy wasn't two about it, Like as you have
Speaker 1: like white Christmas trees, white Christmas decorations, like we all
Speaker 1: wear Christmas jumpers, have like a roast dinner.
Speaker 3: That sounds fun.
Speaker 1: Yeah that she I don't know, maybe she has something
Speaker 1: else planned. We'll touch on that later.
Speaker 3: We'll touch back on that. But my point is is
Speaker 3: that we are now I'm going to say, you're in
Speaker 3: your thirties now, yeah.
Speaker 4: Them, and you've been saying you're in your thirties for
Speaker 4: about two years.
Speaker 3: Let's just actually accept it because this year you will
Speaker 3: be thirty, will be thirty. I'm thirty two. I'll be
Speaker 3: thirty three in April as well. No, we're getting on.
Speaker 3: So I think friendships in your twenties are so different
Speaker 3: to friendships in your thirties. And I think that we
Speaker 3: both realized that. I think in the past like three
Speaker 3: to four kind of years, we've kind of spoken about
Speaker 3: it here in there. Obviously, I had a friendship breakup
Speaker 3: last year. Which was super challenging and difficult, but I've
Speaker 3: just kind of let that go now and I'm just like,
Speaker 3: you know, it was obviously not meant to.
Speaker 1: Be apart from well, we'll get into all that sort
Speaker 1: of stuff.
Speaker 3: But yeah, you grow apart from friends. But I think
Speaker 3: that there's also different tiers of friends that you have.
Speaker 3: So like, you're kind of and this sounds like bad,
Speaker 3: but you have kind of like your eighteen which is
Speaker 3: the closest of the closest people to you who you
Speaker 3: don't want to lose out of your life. I agree,
Speaker 3: And then you'll have like a B tier of friends,
Speaker 3: the B team.
Speaker 1: I would always I would always say growing up, my
Speaker 1: mates would always say like you'd say, oh, mates for them,
Speaker 1: and you'd be like, they just a disco mate. You
Speaker 1: there's something that you just meet out.
Speaker 5: You might talk to you when you're out your clubbing friend,
Speaker 5: You're not gonna like, you know, you'd say blah blah,
Speaker 5: and you know, he's just a mate that's like a
Speaker 5: Clayton's through mates and you know you chat to him
Speaker 5: at a club or something.
Speaker 1: You know you're not gonna get a coffee with them
Speaker 1: during the week.
Speaker 3: I mean, you might if you were like, but yeah,
Speaker 3: you have to really like force enforce that friendship, make
Speaker 3: it happen, make it happen.
Speaker 1: Yeah. Well, we both had this come up last year
Speaker 1: with our wedding invites, right, we both saw where people
Speaker 1: fall into and what category category frame they are. And
Speaker 1: obviously I had a lot of people that I would
Speaker 1: want to avite and I'm sure you did, but they
Speaker 1: weren't in that original because we obviously half to lose
Speaker 1: to each they weren't in my top like fifty people.
Speaker 1: And I was like, so it's kind of hard, like
Speaker 1: you said, like you've got to figure out that at
Speaker 1: this age as well, where the tears fall.
Speaker 3: And it's also do you know what, I think this
Speaker 3: is such a big thing when you do hit your thirties.
Speaker 3: I feel like you go through these big milestone events
Speaker 3: like Matt was saying, the wedding or the engagement party
Speaker 3: or having a baby, and you kind of look around
Speaker 3: and you have to really evaluate, like am I going
Speaker 3: to pay two hundred dollars for this person's head at
Speaker 3: my wedding? Are they have I spoken to this person
Speaker 3: in the past six months or as someone who's pregnant
Speaker 3: has has this friend checked in on me to see
Speaker 3: how I'm going whilst I'm pregnant or have I not
Speaker 3: really heard from that person, And unfortunately, I feel like
Speaker 3: hard truths come about when you hit your thirties.
Speaker 1: On that though, Okay, so this is where it get interesting.
Speaker 1: On that though, Sometimes you don't talk to people every day,
Speaker 1: but then when you see them, it is like nothing
Speaker 1: has happened, true, and you would still consider them like
Speaker 1: a close close friends. So they easy struggle with that,
Speaker 1: but you've got to like.
Speaker 3: But that's a specific type of friend I feel, and
Speaker 3: I feel like.
Speaker 1: You would know that, Yes, you would know the friendship
Speaker 1: and what the expectations are with that friend, do you
Speaker 1: know what I mean? Like if they are someone that
Speaker 1: like you don't talk to you every day, but then
Speaker 1: when you see them your best friends, yeah, and then
Speaker 1: you would know that then you wouldn't expect them to
Speaker 1: be like handing you and you're pregnant or handing you
Speaker 1: and all that sort of stuff. But like, yeah, there's tears.
Speaker 3: But still it's still a check in. I feel like
Speaker 3: there's a check in and I have and I do
Speaker 3: totally hear what you're saying as well, Like I have
Speaker 3: two friends who now live internationally, one in London, one
Speaker 3: in la and they've both come back into town over
Speaker 3: the Christmas break and they're going to be here in
Speaker 3: Melbourne for the first half of January. So like, now's
Speaker 3: the time for me to see those friends. But they
Speaker 3: have reached out and said how's the pregnancy going, da
Speaker 3: da da, when normally maybe wouldn't have spoken as much. Yeah,
Speaker 3: so I think like knowing that like things are happening
Speaker 3: with people as well, I agree.
Speaker 1: I mean it does. It happens though, like life literally happens,
Speaker 1: and that's sort of what we're going to talk about.
Speaker 1: Like you, life happens, and you've got to figure out.
Speaker 1: Like I remember growing up, I always would be like
Speaker 1: my dad worked like I would say, seven and a
Speaker 1: half days a week, and I'd be like, he doesn't.
Speaker 1: I'd be like, you have no friends. And now that
Speaker 1: I'm older, I realize that it's hard when you have
Speaker 1: family work, you don't get time.
Speaker 3: To see him, and like, yeah, family will always take
Speaker 3: number one priority, like your immediate family, and then you
Speaker 3: have like the extended family, which would be your parents,
Speaker 3: your partner's parents, if you have a partner.
Speaker 1: With sisters and brothers, and.
Speaker 3: Exactly, and then it's like your actual chosen family, which
Speaker 3: is your friends. So it really does start. It gets
Speaker 3: harder because obviously time is limited, people who are working
Speaker 3: long hours.
Speaker 1: Well even me popping down to Melbourne this weekend, like
Speaker 1: I can really prioritize who I was going to see
Speaker 1: and what I was going to do, do you know
Speaker 1: what I mean? Like who was I going to invest
Speaker 1: my time in what I was going to do? Like
Speaker 1: it's that I find that I have a little bit
Speaker 1: difficult as well in that respect.
Speaker 3: Well, you've moved away, so you have. I feel like
Speaker 3: it's hard as it is in your thirties with people
Speaker 3: kind of growing up and moving on and drawing apart
Speaker 3: from each other. But I think moving States brings that
Speaker 3: to a whole different dynamic.
Speaker 1: I was talking to tell me about this, and I
Speaker 1: was saying, I have mates up there, like friends, I
Speaker 1: mean a good friend I've rekindled with is Owen from
Speaker 1: Love Island. We hang out, yeah, is at the wedding. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we hang out like weekly, go for walks, go to
Speaker 1: swaun our train and all that sort of stuff.
Speaker 4: So good.
Speaker 1: Yeah, So I've been hanging out with him a lot,
Speaker 1: but apart from that, I wouldn't say I have many
Speaker 1: friends up there, if not any Like I have friends
Speaker 1: obviously through Tammy.
Speaker 4: I know.
Speaker 1: Some guy from Melbourne who's moved up there that I
Speaker 1: know through people and we were chatting and he was saying,
Speaker 1: come play football like Aussie rules, like you can make
Speaker 1: friends doing that, and I was like, yeah, that's it.
Speaker 1: And I spoke to the boys here are out and
Speaker 1: they're like, that's a really good idea. You should do that,
Speaker 1: just even if you're not doing it all the time.
Speaker 1: Just run down and have a run around and make
Speaker 1: some friends. So there's ways of making friends. But like
Speaker 1: I said, you're busy and you're thirty, and I was
Speaker 1: like I would always say I've got enough friends, but
Speaker 1: now I don't o there no you need now I
Speaker 1: need some friends.
Speaker 3: Don't beat yourself up about it though, Like it is hard,
Speaker 3: and like we said, people in our age rage are
Speaker 3: losing friends. They're not trying to get in anymore. So
Speaker 3: it's not as easy as it used to be. But
Speaker 3: I think, yeah, joining the local footy club is a
Speaker 3: great way to make new friends. Know, if you have
Speaker 3: something that you're interested in, like pottery. I always say
Speaker 3: I want to do pottery. I never do it, but like,
Speaker 3: I feel like people with similar interests.
Speaker 4: Are great new friends.
Speaker 1: That's a starting point.
Speaker 3: Interestingly enough, by the time people hit their thirties, a
Speaker 3: number of their close friends drops by thirty percent compared
Speaker 3: to in their twenties. That's a big drop.
Speaker 1: That's a huge that's yeah, I can. I wouldn't say
Speaker 1: I've lost thirty percent of friends, but I would say
Speaker 1: that I, like I said before, i'd prioritize people.
Speaker 3: In their company a little as strange.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I wouldn't go out of my way for people
Speaker 1: that I don't think fill my cup. Yeah, and I
Speaker 1: don't want to.
Speaker 3: It's not it's not even that I think sometimes it's
Speaker 3: just like you just don't have enough time. Yeah, Like
Speaker 3: there's not ten mats, there's not ten annas, although you
Speaker 3: might want to see someone. I feel like as as
Speaker 3: you get older, like when we were younger, we would
Speaker 3: just see everyone at the club on a Saturday or
Speaker 3: a Friday night and then that box was tipped, or
Speaker 3: like you'd have UNI or maybe a part time job
Speaker 3: and have all this spare time. And I just think
Speaker 3: it's not as easy as its to be. No friendships
Speaker 3: in your thirties often decline. And I know this all
Speaker 3: sounds very negative.
Speaker 1: I was going to say people are in their twenties,
Speaker 1: so it seems.
Speaker 3: Just like far of my life, but they tend to
Speaker 3: become deeper and more meaningful. So your friendships with the
Speaker 3: people who you do keep in contact with are deeper,
Speaker 3: are more meaningful, are more substantial, and you do feel
Speaker 3: like you'll have those friends for life.
Speaker 1: I agree. Okay, I know we've been a little bit negative.
Speaker 4: A little bits.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Nigasaurus rex for a while. What are some ways
Speaker 1: that if we feel like we're drifting from our friends,
Speaker 1: or we feel like we're losing a friendship that we
Speaker 1: want to keep, what are some ways we can so?
Speaker 3: I think just trying to remain in contact with people
Speaker 3: as much as possible, whether that be texting, through social media,
Speaker 3: giving someone a little heart, interacting with our friends's posts.
Speaker 3: I think that unfortunately, people get into this weird kind
Speaker 3: of habit of not engaging with what your friends post
Speaker 3: on social media. I'm the opposite. If I have one
Speaker 3: of my best friends posting story me that you do interacting,
Speaker 3: everyone's the office. Yeah, yeah, but at all it's something
Speaker 3: like that, Yeah, you can see it and you're like, yeah,
Speaker 3: well I've seen it. But I think just like giving
Speaker 3: someone like a little love heart on their story or
Speaker 3: clapping hands if they do something cool, or just interacting
Speaker 3: with their content, it's such a small way to really
Speaker 3: connect with someone. Obviously, social media is so big in
Speaker 3: people's life.
Speaker 1: I tell you what I do. I'll say you, I'll
Speaker 1: reply to someone or reply to something, and then and
Speaker 1: I'm so busy or like occupied, they will reply and
Speaker 1: I just won't reply back, and I feel terrible sometimes
Speaker 1: and I'll come back like six days later and I'll
Speaker 1: be like, oh the fox, like I forgot to reply,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. Yeah, And I'm very guilty
Speaker 1: of that, and I feel like people get offended. But
Speaker 1: it's like, come on, like you know what I mean,
Speaker 1: Like I replied to your story when I was sitting
Speaker 1: on the couch. You reply like three hours later. I'm now,
Speaker 1: you know, back at my desk or you know.
Speaker 3: I think we can all do better with that. I agree,
Speaker 3: Like it is obviously like we're saying, like we all
Speaker 3: live busy lives, but I think you can make time
Speaker 3: for what's important. Yeah, we can all do better.
Speaker 1: I agree. I agree here. Yeah, I'll take that, But no, I.
Speaker 3: Think, like, yeah, interacting with like people who you would
Speaker 3: consider one of your close friends. I think it's such
Speaker 3: an easy way to connect with the people you love,
Speaker 3: and I think people notice it and they appreciate it
Speaker 3: as well.
Speaker 1: I definitely do keep that engagement coming.
Speaker 3: It's not about engagement, it's about friendship connection mat.
Speaker 4: Video calls.
Speaker 3: I think having a little video call with someone, especially
Speaker 3: if you're living in different states. Obviously we now live
Speaker 3: in different states. Having a little video call you feel
Speaker 3: more connected to someone, or if your friend lives overseas,
Speaker 3: great way to connect.
Speaker 1: Hundred percent on that though. Social media is a great
Speaker 1: way to connect with people.
Speaker 3: Yeah, And a poll found that forty nine percent of
Speaker 3: people in their thirties say that they rely on digital
Speaker 3: communication to keep up with friends.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: I agree, I think that, Like, that's probably my main
Speaker 1: point of contact with the Instagram. Yeah, like of talking
Speaker 1: to my friends.
Speaker 3: In that and obviously in person reactions are more meaningful.
Speaker 3: Sixty three percent said that in person interactions felt more meaningful.
Speaker 1: But on that Instagram one, yes, do you have like
Speaker 1: group chats or friends that you just fucking hammer with
Speaker 1: reels all the time, like, that's pretty much you do
Speaker 1: to me. Yeah, that's pretty much my way of communicating
Speaker 1: with people, Just hammering reels, hammering tiktoks to them. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's literally my point of contact. Like I'll get stuck
Speaker 1: in a hole and I.
Speaker 3: Just I send you in Michael reels. Probably.
Speaker 1: Yeah, none of your other friends.
Speaker 3: If it's in relation to them, Yeah, just like No,
Speaker 3: we have group chats and they're just straight fire reels.
Speaker 1: Like sometimes you'll look at you. I've got like thirty
Speaker 1: reels to catch up on from the boys too much.
Speaker 1: It's too much. They're all quality, so you get through
Speaker 1: them and you're laughing by the end.
Speaker 3: I think loneliness is very predominant in thirties, and people
Speaker 3: said that they felt more lonely in their thirties as
Speaker 3: opposed to their twenties and forties, which is really interesting.
Speaker 3: At least we all know that there's a light at
Speaker 3: the end of the tunnel.
Speaker 1: Well, I've got some ways to combat that loneliness. If
Speaker 1: you're feeling lonely, do you want me to tell you
Speaker 1: something please? First, One, you spend more time in public spaces,
Speaker 1: like I mean, some people are embarrassed to go I
Speaker 1: guess sit down and have a coffee by themselves, or
Speaker 1: like a lunch by themselves or something. So maybe go
Speaker 1: to a like a library, or go to a park
Speaker 1: and touch grass. No, seriously, after get grounded, get grounded.
Speaker 3: Waking to the beach and like getting your shoes off
Speaker 3: and putting your feet in the is so lovely grounding.
Speaker 3: The other day, actually this reminds me. I saw this girl.
Speaker 3: She was sitting at a cafe, had a book, and
Speaker 3: she was eating her breakfast and reading a book. And
Speaker 3: I was like, that looks lovely. I want to do that.
Speaker 1: I had an X years ago go get like breakfast
Speaker 1: by yourself, and I also fine not I also flabbergasted
Speaker 1: by it. I was like, you're lying, you're with someone.
Speaker 1: I was like, surely there is just cheating. Oh, there
Speaker 1: is no way you're going to breakfast play yourself. We
Speaker 1: were like twenty something, so you just it wasn't a
Speaker 1: thing back then, Like I felt like that was like
Speaker 1: a more mature, older thing too. Yeah, no one if
Speaker 1: she'd done mesure for me, there is no way that
Speaker 1: you were having breakfast by yourself.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: I couldn't get my head around it. This one goes
Speaker 1: this one goes well, volunteer, do something for charity, be
Speaker 1: around people, and then it can fill your cup as
Speaker 1: well and make you feel, you know, good about yourself.
Speaker 3: At the same time, when I was eighteen nineteen twenty,
Speaker 3: I used to volunteer at the local soup kitchen and
Speaker 3: I made some really good friends. And everyone is so welcoming,
Speaker 3: so lovely, and like there's people. There was people my age,
Speaker 3: there was people older. It was like a very mixed
Speaker 3: bag of people and just people who you might not
Speaker 3: necessarily come across in your daily life. And it was
Speaker 3: honestly so nice. It's actually lovely to connect with other people.
Speaker 3: And then obviously when you would go to like the
Speaker 3: soup kitchen, there'd be a corner where you'd bring all
Speaker 3: the food and then people would come and collect it.
Speaker 3: And just having conversations with people and learning about their life.
Speaker 3: Hear some stories from people living some very interesting stories. Yeah,
Speaker 3: absolutely this one.
Speaker 1: Take yourself on a movie date.
Speaker 3: See, I don't know about that. I don't I think
Speaker 3: that for me gives me a bit like a stressy vibe.
Speaker 1: I've watched a movie by myself once at the cinema. Yeah,
Speaker 1: Tammy felt sick, so she left and it was I
Speaker 1: wanted to watch it, and I was like, well, it don't.
Speaker 1: I've got the ticket. So she said to stay. She
Speaker 1: was like, oh, watch it. She wasn't. I think she
Speaker 1: wasn't really keen for it that one. And I was like, well,
Speaker 1: we're here, like we're literally at the door, and she
Speaker 1: was like, I don't know if I can sit through it.
Speaker 1: And I was like, well, yeah, like I'm going to stay.
Speaker 1: And she's like, fine, you get a movie. Like she
Speaker 1: was cool about it, and it was fine. It was fine.
Speaker 1: She likes to be at the front though, so like
Speaker 1: I was pretty close to the front, so I was
Speaker 1: like this, but it was, yeah, it was fine. I
Speaker 1: enjoyed breaking the neck. Yeah, cook in the neck was fine.
Speaker 1: I nearly that nearly happened again after she had surgery
Speaker 1: and she was like, I can't make it and I
Speaker 1: had the tickets. There's this one going into too much detail.
Speaker 1: You know, I'm a nerd when it comes to horrors.
Speaker 1: It was this one. It was like a screening. There
Speaker 1: wasn't many screenings of it. It was like nine thirty
Speaker 1: at night and I was like, babe, I'm not missing this,
Speaker 1: Like I'm going and Ava ended up coming with me,
Speaker 1: so that was a right. So I nearly went alone,
Speaker 1: but na I didn't.
Speaker 3: I mean, you guys, I will say, go to a
Speaker 3: lot of movies. It's just like once a week you
Speaker 3: go to the movies, the actual movies. Pretty wild. I
Speaker 3: haven't been to the movies in like a year.
Speaker 1: You go twice in a day sometimes, so we'll take
Speaker 1: the kids to one and then we'll go later and
Speaker 1: watch a horror.
Speaker 3: Like I don't know, there's something about the movies, and
Speaker 3: I know this is like very strange, but being in
Speaker 3: a dark room kind of freaks me out and it
Speaker 3: makes me think of like negative things.
Speaker 1: Never would you watch a horror in the movies.
Speaker 4: Absolutely not.
Speaker 1: That one we watched in a violent nature. We were
Speaker 1: the only ones in the cinema and it was about
Speaker 1: like a serial killer going around killing people. Don't I
Speaker 1: don't get scared.
Speaker 3: But anyway, I could not do. I don't think I
Speaker 3: could go to the movies by myself, just like I
Speaker 3: couldn't go ice skating by myself or bowling by myself.
Speaker 3: I feel like it's an activity thing that you're sharing,
Speaker 3: an experience.
Speaker 1: I bowled by myself.
Speaker 4: Have you?
Speaker 3: But you were in a bowling club, so it's different.
Speaker 3: I probably bought your own bowling ball as well.
Speaker 2: Didn't you like it up?
Speaker 1: Yeah? I did. Remember before I met Tammy and I
Speaker 1: did heaps of dates by myself. I went to the
Speaker 1: movies by myself then as well. Yeah, we were dating myself.
Speaker 1: I want to watch a movie. No, I didn't do it,
Speaker 1: but I think I went on walks. I went on
Speaker 1: to the movies by myself.
Speaker 3: You were in the mindset like, I'm not dating anyone
Speaker 3: ever again.
Speaker 1: Well, that's true as well. I was single and I
Speaker 1: obviously met Tammy. Find a new hobby.
Speaker 3: Yeah, we said that before football.
Speaker 1: You meet people. I don't know. You said pottery.
Speaker 3: That's on my I love to do pottery.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and you're gonna meet people around you that want
Speaker 1: the same thing.
Speaker 3: Have a baby and you can join a mother's club.
Speaker 1: Are you doing that?
Speaker 3: I think that when you have the baby, they sign
Speaker 3: you up to a mother's club.
Speaker 1: My mum's best friend, my like now Auntie, she met
Speaker 1: at mother's club.
Speaker 3: They met at mother's club. See, I could be meeting
Speaker 3: one of my future best friends.
Speaker 1: This is a that is a really I was just
Speaker 1: thinking that as you were saying that, Like we're saying
Speaker 1: that losing friends in your thirties, but like you can
Speaker 1: have ways of meeting your friends. You might not even
Speaker 1: know your best friend, like when you die, you might
Speaker 1: not even have met him yet.
Speaker 4: S true.
Speaker 3: I mean it's so crazy, like when obviously I was
Speaker 3: born in the UK and I had growing up in
Speaker 3: the UK the bestest of bestest friends, Like we were inseparable.
Speaker 3: Her name was Nicole and literally we would do everything together.
Speaker 3: We were inseparable. It was always Anna Nicole and on
Speaker 3: social media and I have her on social media, but
Speaker 3: now we like don't talk and I'm like, it's so crazy.
Speaker 3: We were so we were the best of friends and
Speaker 3: it's just crazy. How you know, over your lifetime friendships
Speaker 3: change so much.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean I I have my best friends from
Speaker 1: primary school at my wedding. I'm still mates with them.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 1: My best man I knew when I was nine Dale nine.
Speaker 3: Yeah, a lot of photos on you nine.
Speaker 1: I could probably muscle some.
Speaker 3: Are maybe do it and put it on the face.
Speaker 1: Yeah. I have I have ones with like another mate
Speaker 1: Nathan that I have from like six that I was kicked.
Speaker 3: But then, is there any friends that you were very
Speaker 3: close with in like primary, probably those you're not that
Speaker 3: you're now I'm not.
Speaker 1: Friends with, are that I'm not friends with, Yeah, they
Speaker 1: would be not at the top of my head, Yeah,
Speaker 1: because because I'm not close to them, so I can't
Speaker 1: think of them straight away. But yeah, I'm sure there
Speaker 1: is no but like it's.
Speaker 3: Just that thing is of like, you know, obviously me
Speaker 3: and Nicole living completely different countries and at different ends
Speaker 3: of the world.
Speaker 1: I mean, you go to a different high school in different.
Speaker 3: Circ Yeah, it's different, but obviously it would be nice.
Speaker 1: I sit at the back of the bastace it at
Speaker 1: the front.
Speaker 4: And on that.
Speaker 1: Then, Look, it's not all bleak and grooming out there
Speaker 1: when you're hit thirty. I mean, I've got plenty of friends.
Speaker 1: We're just saying that, you know, people will come and
Speaker 1: go from your life, and you'll start to notice that
Speaker 1: as you grow older and sure, but we do appreciate
Speaker 1: the friends, your close friends that we have now. I
Speaker 1: mean I feel like they're ride or die, and I
Speaker 1: feel like there's nothing that will tear us apart.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and I don't expect to lose any more friends
Speaker 3: in my lifetime. Like I want to be friends with
Speaker 3: these people forever, forever and.
Speaker 1: Ever and ever, saying winning crashes high will find you
Speaker 1: can't go anywhere. You're my friend.
Speaker 3: Okay, guys, until next time, Bye bye,