Speaker 1: Hi, friends, fans listeners of this podcast called Healthier, Well,
Speaker 1: I hope you are fans. Thanks for tuning in to
Speaker 1: yet another episode of Healthy your podcast and Body and Soul.
Speaker 1: I'm your host of Felicity Haley and joining us well
Speaker 1: on the other side of the screen today. Yes, we're
Speaker 1: in our online studio is our digital editor Holly Berkleman,
Speaker 1: and we are dissecting the three hottest topics in the
Speaker 1: health and uness world this week. Holley, welcome back to
Speaker 1: Healthy Shaw. Was your holiday in Japan?
Speaker 2: Thank you flys. It was a fantastic holiday. We went
Speaker 2: skiing in the Seco, which was amazing. It was like
Speaker 2: the best no, I think I've ever seen. It was
Speaker 2: a great season. Powder up to like your knees. It
Speaker 2: was insane.
Speaker 3: Sounds like a dream to me, like a dream.
Speaker 2: My voice so sorry to all the listeners. I've got
Speaker 2: a little bit of a cold, so I'm kind of
Speaker 2: doing the husky thing today.
Speaker 3: Look it sounds kind of sexy, but.
Speaker 2: Yeah, thank you, That's what I'm going for now.
Speaker 1: Well, what's been happening in the in Body and Soul
Speaker 1: h Q. When you've been away?
Speaker 2: Yeah, I've been away, but we've jumped straight back into
Speaker 2: some bab stories. So my pick for today is Chantelle Otten,
Speaker 2: who's an amazing sex ologist. She's our new resident sexologist
Speaker 2: at Body and Soul for twenty twenty five, which is
Speaker 2: super exciting and one of her first columns, so her
Speaker 2: second one was why intimacy is the missing ingredient in
Speaker 2: the bedroom. I asked her to write this because in
Speaker 2: our Body and Soul sex census last year, there was
Speaker 2: some really interesting research that came out of it was
Speaker 2: that intimacy was the number one thing Australians wanted more
Speaker 2: of in the bedroom, more than stamina, more than crazy
Speaker 2: positions or anything else, even more than more frequency. Is
Speaker 2: that they wanted deeper connection and more intimacy, which I
Speaker 2: found quite surprising. What do you think about that?
Speaker 1: I yes, yes, surprising, but I mean, thank goodness, not
Speaker 1: into the crazy sex positions that we feel like we
Speaker 1: should be doing but perhaps no one's actually doing, and
Speaker 1: that we're getting to the core of what it means
Speaker 1: to connect as humans.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I know, I think it's quite moving actually, So
Speaker 2: I was very keen to hear Chantelle's take on this,
Speaker 2: and she says that she actually sees this all the
Speaker 2: time in clinic as well when she's talking to couples
Speaker 2: or individuals that many couples love each other and they
Speaker 2: do have sex, but they feel like something is missing.
Speaker 2: And part of that is because there are so many
Speaker 2: different kinds of intimacy, She says, there's emotional, physical, sexual, intellectual,
Speaker 2: and experiential, and missing even one kind can make your
Speaker 2: sex life and relationship feel a bit off.
Speaker 3: How do we get it? How do we increase it?
Speaker 2: I don't boost intimacy in your relationship. She's got three
Speaker 2: tips here, the first one being that intimacy starts outside
Speaker 2: of the bedroom. So if you're feeling how disconnected when
Speaker 2: you're having sex, it's probably not about the sex. It's
Speaker 2: probably more about your wider relationship. So have a look
Speaker 2: at how you're interacting throughout the day. Are you just
Speaker 2: talking about bills, schedules, what's for dinner, et cetera, or
Speaker 2: are you actually checking and having meaningful discussions.
Speaker 1: I'd like to throw another one in there, if that's okay.
Speaker 1: I think it is also involves getting off your phone.
Speaker 2: Absolutely get off.
Speaker 1: Putting it down and looking at the person and speaking
Speaker 1: to them just saying.
Speaker 2: I agree, And I think I've read something recently that was,
Speaker 2: like meal times, you should always try and have meals
Speaker 2: together and leave your phone elsewhere, because meals are such
Speaker 2: a good time to like properly connect and kind of
Speaker 2: foster that relationship. So the second one, she says, vulnerability
Speaker 2: is sexy, and being vulnerable is hard, actually, but being
Speaker 2: honest in your relationship is one of the most powerful tools.
Speaker 2: So she says that instead of faking your enthusiasm for sex,
Speaker 2: if it's not exciting you and it doesn't feel quite right,
Speaker 2: then tribing real about what's getting in the way for you.
Speaker 2: And that doesn't mean like being savage of me, like
Speaker 2: I hate this, this sucks. It might just be like
Speaker 2: I still feel a little uncomfortable about my body right now,
Speaker 2: so I'm finding it hard to, you know, feel comfortable
Speaker 2: having sex. Something like that. Don't use my words.
Speaker 3: Carry we get the idea. Yeah, it's all right, you've
Speaker 3: got it, Like.
Speaker 2: Yeah, about one hour time difference. Perfect. Then the third
Speaker 2: one she says is slow down. So if sex has
Speaker 2: started feeling mechanical and like you're just going through the motions,
Speaker 2: and hit the pause button and instead of rushing to
Speaker 2: the main event, explore pleasure at a slower pace and
Speaker 2: try and get back to basics a little bit. But
Speaker 2: she says the bottom line is that if your sex
Speaker 2: life feels off, it's not about the sex, it's about
Speaker 2: the intimacy and it's really important to work on that.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 1: I like this new narrative that we're taking it more around,
Speaker 1: you know, rather than talking about sex so much and penetration,
Speaker 1: we're talking more about intimacy and building the relationship up.
Speaker 3: I like that one, Holly, thanks for.
Speaker 2: Sharvy great and like your relationship might not feel off
Speaker 2: because the sex is off. Yes, sex is off because
Speaker 2: your relationship is off.
Speaker 1: A good reminder to us all now.
Speaker 3: Mine.
Speaker 1: It's a bit of a downer after that one, but
Speaker 1: I just had to share it because I was rather
Speaker 1: alarmed to read this week that Australia has just been
Speaker 1: confirmed as having one of the highest rates of breast
Speaker 1: cancer in the world.
Speaker 2: So it's so so grim.
Speaker 1: Oh and especially when all these studies are coming out
Speaker 1: around younger women in particular getting cancer. But let's just
Speaker 1: focus on the high rates in Australia. So new research
Speaker 1: from the University of Sydney, the University of Queensland and
Speaker 1: Alberta Health Services in Canada analyzed global breast cancer incident
Speaker 1: and death rates across one hundred and eighty five different countries,
Speaker 1: and Australia and New Zealand were revealed to have the
Speaker 1: highest rates of diagnosis in twenty twenty two, with wait
Speaker 1: for this, one in seven women, one in seven and
Speaker 1: one in five hundred and fifty men diagnosed with breast
Speaker 1: cancer in their lifetime.
Speaker 3: That is a lot that is so high, so high.
Speaker 1: And interestingly, breast cancer diagnosises have increased by twenty four
Speaker 1: percent in the past ten years, which so rates are
Speaker 1: going up now death rates have dropped significantly. We actually
Speaker 1: to counteract this. Australia has one of the lowest breast
Speaker 1: cancer mortality rates in the world, so you know, our
Speaker 1: chances of surviving the disease are really strong.
Speaker 2: Many diagnoses, so many dinoses.
Speaker 1: I also wonder, though one hundred and eighty five countries,
Speaker 1: how many of those are in the developing world versus
Speaker 1: the developed world. So I mean, I feel like perhaps
Speaker 1: we could be more attuned to what cancer feels like
Speaker 1: earlier on. I don't know, just just you know, putting
Speaker 1: that out there, but I did. I want to raise
Speaker 1: this because I think it's just a reminder to everyone
Speaker 1: to know you or normal. So you take time to
Speaker 1: get to know how your breasts look and feel in
Speaker 1: different situations when you're showering, getting dressed, putting moisturizer on.
Speaker 1: I mean, you don't need a special technique. Back in
Speaker 1: my women's health days, there was a three finger technique
Speaker 1: and feel around your breast. But you just need to
Speaker 1: make to know what's right for you at different times
Speaker 1: of the months as well, because you know, depends on
Speaker 1: where you are in your cycle or if you impairy
Speaker 1: or wherever, it can make a difference to how your
Speaker 1: breast feels. So tonight, listeners, you know, feel your breast
Speaker 1: under your arm up to your collar bone, all around.
Speaker 2: Your breasts, and you know what, it might help even
Speaker 2: to make notes or something like if you feel some
Speaker 2: sort of breast can be lumpy, Yeah, if yours are,
Speaker 2: maybe make a note of what you're feeling and then
Speaker 2: you have something kind of like a line in the
Speaker 2: sand to compare back with. Yeah, that's just what I do.
Speaker 2: I like keeping notes of things like that because I
Speaker 2: find it easier. That's impressive, yeah or crazy, but yeah,
Speaker 2: I think make it part of your routine. And your schedule.
Speaker 2: Remember we said late last year as part of a
Speaker 2: story that it's good to put it as part of
Speaker 2: your calendar. So maybe it's a week after your period,
Speaker 2: every monthly habit of checking. But I agree that you
Speaker 2: do need to check at different times of the month too.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, and it changes. I mean for me my breasts.
Speaker 1: You know, as I've moving through life the different times
Speaker 1: of the month that they might be a bit tender
Speaker 1: versus not versus where I'm in my cycle. They do change.
Speaker 1: But just know your normal. Okay, give us, well you
Speaker 1: going to uplift us or warn us? Tell us give
Speaker 1: us a quick rundown on most clicked story of the week.
Speaker 2: Look, I'm not sure if it's uplifting or a warning.
Speaker 2: I think it's quite funny, but I also think it's
Speaker 2: probably good health advice. So this story was the one
Speaker 2: thing you should never do when you pee, any thoughts fly.
Speaker 1: No. I saw this headline and I have no idea.
Speaker 2: My guess would be not to be on your phone
Speaker 2: and the toilet I have also read is not great
Speaker 2: for you. But this one is actually squatting over the
Speaker 2: bowl rather than sitting down, which for jomophobes like me.
Speaker 2: When you go out and about, you might not want
Speaker 2: to sit on the toilet.
Speaker 1: I always squat when I'm out and about. That might
Speaker 1: be am I, but I do. I'm not sitting on
Speaker 1: the toilet seat, and I'm trying my kids to do
Speaker 1: the same.
Speaker 2: Absolutely, And if I do have to sit on it,
Speaker 2: you better believe there's like seventeen layers of toilet paper
Speaker 2: on top of her.
Speaker 3: Yep, yeah right.
Speaker 2: According to doctor Carroll Figures, a professor at Duke University
Speaker 2: School of Medicine, when you don't completely sit down, your
Speaker 2: muscles are not completely relaxed. So in order for the
Speaker 2: blood or to be completely empty, the pelvic floor muscles
Speaker 2: have to be let go. So she says that an
Speaker 2: individual's muscles are usually thirty to tens when squatting, meaning
Speaker 2: a portion of your bladder contents will remain in there.
Speaker 2: So why is that a problem. In the short term,
Speaker 2: she says that carrying around old urine, which is an
Speaker 2: absolutely foul term. But carrying around old urine places you
Speaker 2: at a risk of accidental leak if you sneeze, laugh, jump,
Speaker 2: or cough grim. That depends on your overall pelvic strength.
Speaker 2: Pelvic floor strength too. Then the long term. She says
Speaker 2: that old urine can cause irritation inside the bladder, leaving
Speaker 2: you feeling like you need to urinate more often than
Speaker 2: you usually would.
Speaker 1: Wow, so use that. You know, in some public toilets
Speaker 1: you actually get the liners that you can put on.
Speaker 1: I need to reach for this more often. And also
Speaker 1: when we talk about squatting, we're not talking about squatting
Speaker 1: as you do in Asian countries.
Speaker 3: So just over the seat, just over the seat.
Speaker 2: Sit down, guys, popper down and sit down. Do your
Speaker 2: bladder a favor.
Speaker 1: Okay, helly, you know what, I'm just going to think
Speaker 1: of you every time I go to a public tolet.
Speaker 2: Now.
Speaker 3: I know that sounds weird, but I can't squad anymore.
Speaker 2: It's great for you.
Speaker 1: Well, I hope you feel better soon. Welcome back from
Speaker 1: Japan and we'll see you next week.
Speaker 2: Thanks so much.
Speaker 1: Have a great week everyone, And once again, if you
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