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Speaker 1: Tiffany and Cook, Craig, Anthony Harper.

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Speaker 2: Oh look at us, look at us, bloody good luck

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Speaker 2: on unit's just on a sad well on one of

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Speaker 2: us better than the other.

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Speaker 1: One of us.

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Speaker 3: Looks like they've had a bit of a touch up

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Speaker 3: by Bear the cat who you called a I can't

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Speaker 3: say that word. That's I say a lot of words,

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Speaker 3: but that one.

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Speaker 2: Mm, well, all cats are sea words because they're cats,

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Speaker 2: So that's a sea word. Yeah, And I did I well,

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Speaker 2: as I I think I said. I don't know if

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Speaker 2: I've said it on the podcast, but I went the

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Speaker 2: other day to get a skin checked, and they you know,

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Speaker 2: it's like just hey, we'll just have a bit of

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Speaker 2: a squizze and look while we're here, well, we'll fucking

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Speaker 2: attack your face with a chainsaw.

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Speaker 3: You don't know what to remind me of Nicolas Cage,

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Speaker 3: John Revolt his face off. It looks like you've just

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Speaker 3: had that little profit. Is what you're wearing someone else's face?

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Speaker 2: That wasn't you know when I saw face off it

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Speaker 2: must have been nearly twenty years ago. I thought, gee,

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Speaker 2: that's not a bad idea. If you're a crook and

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Speaker 2: you need to get a new face, but anyway, I

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Speaker 2: don't know if that's possible. Yeah, so it ended up

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Speaker 2: being a little more significant that i'd anticipated. And I

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Speaker 2: look like I've been assaulted. I feel like I've been assaulted.

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Speaker 2: And then I had to pay for the privilege.

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Speaker 3: And that just makes it like I feel like you know,

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Speaker 3: when you see someone with a saw face and then

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Speaker 3: you struggle to move your face because I can feel that.

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Speaker 3: I don't want to move the muscles in my jaw

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Speaker 3: because I can see yours and it feels like it's.

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Speaker 1: Sympathy pains.

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Speaker 2: Can you not make me laugh?

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Speaker 3: Now?

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Speaker 2: It's all right? When I showed you before we went live,

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Speaker 1: What's that before you move on from it?

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Speaker 3: What is the sensation like of waiting for the biopsy

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Speaker 3: results even you know.

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Speaker 2: Well, yeah, it's I've done it a few times. It's

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Speaker 2: a little bit nerve wracking, but yeah, you you need to.

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Speaker 2: By the way, everyone, if you don't get your skin

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Speaker 3: Two people on this show I've had shit cut out

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Speaker 3: of their face, well and a million people.

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Speaker 2: And like, the thing that I had cut out of

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Speaker 2: So they cut it like if you think of your

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Speaker 2: then they stitch that shit up anyway, but the bottom

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Speaker 2: The doctor said to me, well, you haven't been there

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Speaker 3: I guess surgical removal. So yeah, it is surgery.

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Speaker 3: How gross is it though that you can't feel the pain,

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Speaker 2: Can feel them cutting into your face.

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Speaker 3: And the sensation of like this. Okay, let's move on.

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Speaker 2: I know. And so I have had a few concerned

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Speaker 2: folk from so we're recording this Saturday ABO four minutes

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Speaker 2: I'm heading up to the thriving metropolis of Bendigo, New York, London, Paris, Munich, Bendigo.

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Speaker 2: I'm heading up there. Well, clearly I love Bendigo because

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Speaker 2: I'm going I'm heading up up there tomorrow tomorrow afternoon,

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Speaker 2: bit of info, inspo and ed Joe, get the fuck along,

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Speaker 2: just go to the website. But I've had about three

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Speaker 2: emails from people going, oh my god, Oh my god,

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Speaker 2: are you still coming to Bendy Go? Are you okay?

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Speaker 2: I'll be there. I might be fucking dribbling on my chest,

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Speaker 3: The good people of Gippsland are on the verge of

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Speaker 3: there too. By the way, you haven't seen that happening online.

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Speaker 2: I do not know what you're talking about. I mean,

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Speaker 2: I'm hearing you, But what what am I missing? What?

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Speaker 3: Tour of your there's people in Gippsland that are wondering

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Speaker 2: Well. Yeah, I mean last time I did one in

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Speaker 2: Churchill University College, University Federation.

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Speaker 2: Obviously we didn't do any big public events at all.

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Speaker 2: Tomorrow is not a particularly big event, but just I

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Speaker 2: just figuring it out. You know. It's like, it's really

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Speaker 2: What's interesting is on facie. In the old days, you

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Speaker 2: we need to rethink this. Like you end up doing

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Speaker 2: I'm never going to get rich from running events, but

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Speaker 2: that's not my plan. But I just like running events

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Speaker 2: So the landscape has really changed, and that is why,

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Speaker 3: Do I think what do you think has contributed? What

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Speaker 3: are the all of the things that might have contributed

435
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Speaker 3: to that shift? In this overtime, I.

436
00:24:01,119 --> 00:24:06,399
Speaker 2: Think I've accepted the fact more than ever that some

437
00:24:06,440 --> 00:24:08,240
Speaker 2: people are going to really resonate with me and some

438
00:24:08,359 --> 00:24:14,600
Speaker 2: are not. And it's okay, yeah, and this is going

439
00:24:14,680 --> 00:24:17,400
Speaker 2: to sound silly, but okay, let me preface what I'm

440
00:24:17,400 --> 00:24:20,200
Speaker 2: going to say with I want people to like me

441
00:24:20,440 --> 00:24:24,560
Speaker 2: because I'm human and normal. However, I don't care as

442
00:24:24,640 --> 00:24:26,959
Speaker 2: much as I used to about whether or not people

443
00:24:27,119 --> 00:24:30,760
Speaker 2: like me. Yeah, because if my priority is whether or

444
00:24:30,800 --> 00:24:34,840
Speaker 2: not people like me or being likable, then I can't

445
00:24:34,840 --> 00:24:38,280
Speaker 2: do the best job because I've got the wrong goal.

446
00:24:39,520 --> 00:24:43,680
Speaker 2: If my goal is to be the best person for

447
00:24:43,760 --> 00:24:47,520
Speaker 2: the group, like, because I know that some of the

448
00:24:47,520 --> 00:24:50,680
Speaker 2: things that you know, you get more than two people

449
00:24:50,680 --> 00:24:53,000
Speaker 2: in a room where you're going to fucking ruffle feathers, right,

450
00:24:53,680 --> 00:24:57,880
Speaker 2: So I know that I will say things that might

451
00:24:58,000 --> 00:25:02,600
Speaker 2: not with some people in the room be comfortable for them,

452
00:25:03,080 --> 00:25:06,320
Speaker 2: or what they want to hear might not be well received.

453
00:25:07,040 --> 00:25:11,080
Speaker 2: But you've just got to accept that, you know, and

454
00:25:11,080 --> 00:25:13,520
Speaker 2: and you know. More and more, I just go, look,

455
00:25:13,600 --> 00:25:17,000
Speaker 2: I know that some people will you know, if the

456
00:25:17,040 --> 00:25:20,720
Speaker 2: majority don't, then I'm barking up the wrong tree. But

457
00:25:21,200 --> 00:25:24,040
Speaker 2: more and more, I'm just comfortable with people not liking me,

458
00:25:24,200 --> 00:25:29,679
Speaker 2: although that's not my intentional goal. But you know, one

459
00:25:29,760 --> 00:25:33,040
Speaker 2: of my lectures from university first time round a guy

460
00:25:33,080 --> 00:25:40,040
Speaker 2: who played footy for sin Kilda and Richmond. His name

461
00:25:40,200 --> 00:25:44,560
Speaker 2: is doctor Paul Callery, and he said to me. We

462
00:25:44,560 --> 00:25:46,359
Speaker 2: were having a chat and he said, you know, mister Harper.

463
00:25:46,800 --> 00:25:50,200
Speaker 2: He goes, if you don't want to offend anyone, then

464
00:25:50,240 --> 00:25:53,200
Speaker 2: say nothing, do nothing, be nothing, and stand for nothing.

465
00:25:54,200 --> 00:25:57,639
Speaker 2: And I went, oh, wow, say nothing, do nothing, be nothing,

466
00:25:57,760 --> 00:26:00,560
Speaker 2: stand for nothing. He goes, that's the only way, and

467
00:26:00,560 --> 00:26:03,040
Speaker 2: he goes and by the way, you'll still offend people

468
00:26:03,920 --> 00:26:07,399
Speaker 2: because people look for reasons to get offended. You can

469
00:26:07,480 --> 00:26:10,160
Speaker 2: have the best motives and tensions and whatever, and there's

470
00:26:10,200 --> 00:26:14,680
Speaker 2: still somebody, you know. So yeah, so it's been. It's

471
00:26:14,680 --> 00:26:17,399
Speaker 2: been an interesting journey of self discovery. And you know,

472
00:26:17,400 --> 00:26:19,240
Speaker 2: you would hope that when you do a PhD in

473
00:26:19,359 --> 00:26:21,800
Speaker 2: self awareness that you might get some along the way.

474
00:26:23,600 --> 00:26:26,080
Speaker 2: You would hope that some of that research might rub

475
00:26:26,119 --> 00:26:30,360
Speaker 2: off and that you might actually you might actually acknowledge

476
00:26:30,400 --> 00:26:33,199
Speaker 2: and accept and you know, do something about some of

477
00:26:33,240 --> 00:26:37,840
Speaker 2: your own bullshit as you try to bring other people's

478
00:26:38,200 --> 00:26:43,359
Speaker 2: bullshit to their own attention, you know. So yeah, it's been. Yeah,

479
00:26:43,359 --> 00:26:44,200
Speaker 2: well isn't it.

480
00:26:44,280 --> 00:26:46,679
Speaker 3: You know, And it's quite divine when you think about

481
00:26:46,720 --> 00:26:50,000
Speaker 3: your area of research. Started out wanting to look at

482
00:26:50,080 --> 00:26:52,720
Speaker 3: motivation and you were you were I was about to

483
00:26:52,720 --> 00:26:55,080
Speaker 3: saying the most motivated guy, but you were someone who

484
00:26:55,760 --> 00:26:59,000
Speaker 3: who exercised what looks like motivation your whole life in

485
00:26:59,000 --> 00:27:00,879
Speaker 3: and have trouble with that, and you've gone into a

486
00:27:00,920 --> 00:27:03,840
Speaker 3: space that's actually allowed you to grow and develop in

487
00:27:03,920 --> 00:27:04,760
Speaker 3: a different area.

488
00:27:05,640 --> 00:27:07,200
Speaker 1: Yes, like how beautiful?

489
00:27:08,040 --> 00:27:11,879
Speaker 2: Yeah, thank you? And I think also, you know, I

490
00:27:11,960 --> 00:27:14,639
Speaker 2: needed to and I probably didn't know I needed to,

491
00:27:16,080 --> 00:27:19,639
Speaker 2: you know, I didn't. You know, it's like when you

492
00:27:19,800 --> 00:27:24,399
Speaker 2: think you're right about stuff. I don't think I was

493
00:27:24,480 --> 00:27:27,600
Speaker 2: overly arrogant because I always had like shit self esteem

494
00:27:27,600 --> 00:27:31,320
Speaker 2: and imposter syndrome. But you know when you think you're right,

495
00:27:31,880 --> 00:27:35,239
Speaker 2: like we all think we're right about certain things, to

496
00:27:35,280 --> 00:27:37,560
Speaker 2: the point where it's like, oh no, I don't think

497
00:27:37,560 --> 00:27:41,840
Speaker 2: I'm right. I fucking know I'm right now. You know,

498
00:27:42,080 --> 00:27:46,960
Speaker 2: that's almost like the ultimate in I don't know, self

499
00:27:47,000 --> 00:27:49,840
Speaker 2: belief arrogance. I don't know, maybe it's a blurry line there,

500
00:27:49,840 --> 00:27:52,280
Speaker 2: but you know, there are things that I used to

501
00:27:52,320 --> 00:28:00,600
Speaker 2: think that I absolutely, positive, positively, unequivocally I thought that

502
00:28:00,720 --> 00:28:04,239
Speaker 2: Not only did I believe that, I thought I knew it.

503
00:28:04,640 --> 00:28:06,600
Speaker 2: I thought, oh no, I know this to be No,

504
00:28:06,720 --> 00:28:08,920
Speaker 2: this is not a this is not a belief, this

505
00:28:08,960 --> 00:28:13,040
Speaker 2: is knowledge. But then over time I went on, no,

506
00:28:13,119 --> 00:28:15,120
Speaker 2: I didn't know at all. I just thought I knew.

507
00:28:15,359 --> 00:28:20,000
Speaker 2: It's like I thought I knew, and being able to

508
00:28:20,040 --> 00:28:23,080
Speaker 2: be honest enough and brave enough, which I'm not always,

509
00:28:23,160 --> 00:28:28,439
Speaker 2: but to change your mind about things, changing your mind

510
00:28:28,880 --> 00:28:33,919
Speaker 2: saying I was wrong, not oh yeah, but but but

511
00:28:34,160 --> 00:28:37,200
Speaker 2: oh no, not fuck all that just I was wrong

512
00:28:37,520 --> 00:28:41,080
Speaker 2: the end, I was wrong, you were right the end.

513
00:28:41,440 --> 00:28:45,520
Speaker 2: Or I don't know. I don't know. I wish I knew.

514
00:28:46,200 --> 00:28:48,080
Speaker 2: I have an opinion, I have an idea, I have

515
00:28:48,160 --> 00:28:52,680
Speaker 2: some thoughts, but I don't actually know, because people are scared,

516
00:28:53,680 --> 00:28:57,760
Speaker 2: because people don't like the unknown. What do you think

517
00:28:57,800 --> 00:29:01,520
Speaker 2: happens when we die, Craig, I mean that hundreds of

518
00:29:01,560 --> 00:29:04,880
Speaker 2: times or a version of that, life, death, God, eternity,

519
00:29:05,480 --> 00:29:10,720
Speaker 2: you know, blah blah, life after death. You know. I

520
00:29:11,560 --> 00:29:14,520
Speaker 2: spent my life thinking about that. I spent my life

521
00:29:14,520 --> 00:29:20,280
Speaker 2: in church, being taught, told, trained, programmed, educated, fucking manipulated

522
00:29:20,360 --> 00:29:25,360
Speaker 2: coerce to believe a certain paradigm, to to intertwine my

523
00:29:25,520 --> 00:29:29,200
Speaker 2: mind with a certain theology and philosophy. But when I

524
00:29:29,240 --> 00:29:32,280
Speaker 2: step back now and I think about my thinking, I

525
00:29:32,400 --> 00:29:36,560
Speaker 2: open the metacognitive door and I try to remove myself

526
00:29:36,600 --> 00:29:41,160
Speaker 2: from the programming. The truth is I don't know. That's

527
00:29:41,240 --> 00:29:44,080
Speaker 2: the truth. That's the uncomfortable truth. I don't know what.

528
00:29:44,400 --> 00:29:47,560
Speaker 2: I don't know. If there's a god. I wish I

529
00:29:47,560 --> 00:29:51,040
Speaker 2: could go, oh, I know there is, but I'd be lying.

530
00:29:52,360 --> 00:29:55,120
Speaker 2: And anyone who says they know, well, I shouldn't say that.

531
00:29:55,200 --> 00:29:57,760
Speaker 2: But to me it's like, well, if you know, then

532
00:29:57,800 --> 00:30:00,320
Speaker 2: show me the evidence, and nobody's got evidence. If we

533
00:30:00,360 --> 00:30:02,840
Speaker 2: had evidence and we have knowledge, then that would make

534
00:30:02,920 --> 00:30:06,840
Speaker 2: faith redundant. And religion is all about faith, and it's okay.

535
00:30:06,880 --> 00:30:09,239
Speaker 2: It's okay that you believe, and it's okay that I

536
00:30:09,320 --> 00:30:13,520
Speaker 2: believe or don't believe, but it's like it's when it

537
00:30:13,560 --> 00:30:17,160
Speaker 2: comes to certain things, we don't like not knowing. We

538
00:30:17,200 --> 00:30:21,959
Speaker 2: don't like being out of control. We don't like the uncertainty,

539
00:30:22,080 --> 00:30:25,680
Speaker 2: we don't like the unfamiliarity of ol. I spent my

540
00:30:25,800 --> 00:30:28,840
Speaker 2: life believing this, and now I'm out here, which is

541
00:30:28,840 --> 00:30:35,280
Speaker 2: why I absolutely fucking loved that book Unfollow that You'll

542
00:30:35,680 --> 00:30:37,560
Speaker 2: have you? Where are you with that? Where are you

543
00:30:37,640 --> 00:30:37,880
Speaker 2: up to?

544
00:30:38,040 --> 00:30:39,240
Speaker 3: I've listened to most of it.

545
00:30:40,880 --> 00:30:43,840
Speaker 2: I loved that book, and I've spoken about it before.

546
00:30:43,920 --> 00:30:47,160
Speaker 2: But it's called Unfollow. It's by Megan Phelps Roper. Listen

547
00:30:47,200 --> 00:30:48,840
Speaker 2: to it on audible if you want to listen to

548
00:30:49,320 --> 00:30:56,560
Speaker 2: talk about somebody absolutely being heroically brave and challenging the

549
00:30:57,440 --> 00:31:03,360
Speaker 2: cult that she grew up inwashing, the manipulation, the control.

550
00:31:03,920 --> 00:31:08,680
Speaker 2: She is so brave, that woman, so brave, so evolved,

551
00:31:08,920 --> 00:31:13,840
Speaker 2: so enlightened, like she inspired me that woman. She's fucking amazing.

552
00:31:14,480 --> 00:31:18,600
Speaker 2: And apart from the fact that it's just a cracking story,

553
00:31:19,160 --> 00:31:21,520
Speaker 2: like just the story, it's worth it listening. It's worth

554
00:31:21,560 --> 00:31:26,280
Speaker 2: listening just for the story, but the magical insights in that,

555
00:31:26,760 --> 00:31:34,200
Speaker 2: Oh my god, about the way that programming, manipulation, control, cognition, metacognition, culture. Family.

556
00:31:34,840 --> 00:31:37,640
Speaker 2: Is so much great shit in there. It's like, that's

557
00:31:37,760 --> 00:31:40,000
Speaker 2: like a PhD of the mind. Just that book.

558
00:31:40,800 --> 00:31:41,000
Speaker 3: Yeah.

559
00:31:41,000 --> 00:31:44,000
Speaker 2: Fuck, if you can listen to that, think about all

560
00:31:44,040 --> 00:31:47,360
Speaker 2: of the myriad of brilliant messages in there, and the

561
00:31:47,400 --> 00:31:51,120
Speaker 2: insights and the truth and the wisdom. Oh my god,

562
00:31:51,560 --> 00:31:53,320
Speaker 2: it's one of the best books I've ever read. And

563
00:31:53,360 --> 00:31:56,800
Speaker 2: I've read definitely more than a thousand books. It's like

564
00:31:56,840 --> 00:32:00,440
Speaker 2: a fucking great book. And I don't know her everyone,

565
00:32:00,480 --> 00:32:02,280
Speaker 2: and I'm not on the payroll.

566
00:32:02,960 --> 00:32:03,760
Speaker 3: You probably should be.

567
00:32:04,280 --> 00:32:06,480
Speaker 2: I probably should because I reckon. I've turned one hundred

568
00:32:06,480 --> 00:32:09,840
Speaker 2: people onto it. So that's what I'm doing tomorrow. TIF.

569
00:32:10,200 --> 00:32:10,760
Speaker 1: I love that.

570
00:32:11,200 --> 00:32:13,280
Speaker 2: If you feel compelled, get in the car and come up.

571
00:32:13,960 --> 00:32:15,840
Speaker 3: Go see Harps. See Uncle Harps.

572
00:32:16,200 --> 00:32:18,080
Speaker 2: Yeah what about you though, you can do five months.

573
00:32:21,600 --> 00:32:25,600
Speaker 3: I'm running a boxing workshop in Port Melbourne on Sunday.

574
00:32:25,760 --> 00:32:28,200
Speaker 2: Now, old mate is going to get mad at me,

575
00:32:28,240 --> 00:32:31,320
Speaker 2: and I apologize to him when I get our fhile. Remember,

576
00:32:31,920 --> 00:32:35,120
Speaker 2: but you know, I always love opening the door for people, right.

577
00:32:35,200 --> 00:32:38,000
Speaker 2: I love you, know, like you're wanted. Not that you

578
00:32:38,000 --> 00:32:40,560
Speaker 2: would have got there anyway, but I think I helped

579
00:32:40,560 --> 00:32:43,720
Speaker 2: you open the door a little bit, right because I

580
00:32:43,800 --> 00:32:49,280
Speaker 2: recognize in you all the things you know, drive, courage, knowledge,

581
00:32:49,480 --> 00:32:53,840
Speaker 2: good communication, and a desire to be you know, doing

582
00:32:53,880 --> 00:32:56,800
Speaker 2: the things that you're now doing and more. And so

583
00:32:57,480 --> 00:32:59,560
Speaker 2: in my own way, I kind of helped you along

584
00:33:00,040 --> 00:33:02,400
Speaker 2: a little bit. And I love that where I can

585
00:33:02,600 --> 00:33:04,760
Speaker 2: when I meet somebody and I think, oh wow, and

586
00:33:04,800 --> 00:33:07,320
Speaker 2: then I open a door for them, and I don't

587
00:33:07,440 --> 00:33:09,760
Speaker 2: like they take the opportunity just like you did. And

588
00:33:10,160 --> 00:33:12,000
Speaker 2: then it's all about your work and your effort and

589
00:33:12,040 --> 00:33:14,720
Speaker 2: your talent. So there was a young guy who used

590
00:33:14,720 --> 00:33:18,280
Speaker 2: to think he still follows me. But last time I

591
00:33:18,320 --> 00:33:24,880
Speaker 2: went to Bendigo was maybe twenty seventeen maybe, and I

592
00:33:25,000 --> 00:33:29,200
Speaker 2: was kind of over via social media or via messaging,

593
00:33:29,360 --> 00:33:32,120
Speaker 2: just helping him out. He was sending me. He sent

594
00:33:32,160 --> 00:33:33,320
Speaker 2: me a thing going, oh, I want to be a

595
00:33:33,320 --> 00:33:36,360
Speaker 2: stand up comic, and then it done a couple of gigs,

596
00:33:36,440 --> 00:33:42,680
Speaker 2: a few open mics, and yeah, I mean I love

597
00:33:42,840 --> 00:33:47,960
Speaker 2: stand up comedy and we you know, we're going back

598
00:33:48,000 --> 00:33:50,240
Speaker 2: and forth. He sent me like a minute or two

599
00:33:50,280 --> 00:33:52,760
Speaker 2: of his stand up and then a few photos, and

600
00:33:52,800 --> 00:33:57,560
Speaker 2: I was encouraging him and he lived. I don't know.

601
00:33:57,760 --> 00:33:59,600
Speaker 2: I actually think he lives down here. And I don't

602
00:33:59,600 --> 00:34:01,920
Speaker 2: know why I have this idea, but last time I

603
00:34:01,960 --> 00:34:04,280
Speaker 2: went to Bendigo and it was a really big group.

604
00:34:04,360 --> 00:34:09,359
Speaker 2: Last time it was like three hundred, and I said

605
00:34:09,360 --> 00:34:11,799
Speaker 2: to him, how would you like to do stand up

606
00:34:11,840 --> 00:34:16,040
Speaker 2: to three hundred people? And he's like what? And so

607
00:34:16,160 --> 00:34:18,520
Speaker 2: I gave him an invitation where he could come to

608
00:34:18,560 --> 00:34:22,400
Speaker 2: Bendigo and I said, you can open for me, And

609
00:34:22,440 --> 00:34:25,080
Speaker 2: I think I gave him like eight minutes, which is

610
00:34:25,160 --> 00:34:26,200
Speaker 2: an eternity.

611
00:34:26,520 --> 00:34:26,960
Speaker 3: Wow.

612
00:34:27,160 --> 00:34:31,719
Speaker 2: When you're like somebody who's not a kind of recognized

613
00:34:31,760 --> 00:34:35,439
Speaker 2: professional comic, they call them open micers. So you could

614
00:34:35,440 --> 00:34:38,279
Speaker 2: be an open micer tonight. You could go and they'll go,

615
00:34:38,400 --> 00:34:40,319
Speaker 2: here's two minutes, get up, do your best. Right. You're

616
00:34:40,320 --> 00:34:43,840
Speaker 2: an open micer, you're just learning, you're practicing, and generally

617
00:34:43,840 --> 00:34:46,520
Speaker 2: they're somewhere between shitthouse and not very good. Right but

618
00:34:47,000 --> 00:34:49,640
Speaker 2: now and then you know you're building skill, you're getting time.

619
00:34:50,960 --> 00:34:54,200
Speaker 2: So anyway, he came, he came, and he did. I

620
00:34:54,200 --> 00:34:56,840
Speaker 2: can't remember. It was somewhere between five and eight minutes

621
00:34:56,880 --> 00:34:59,319
Speaker 2: in front of three hundred people, and it was a

622
00:34:59,400 --> 00:35:02,799
Speaker 2: very warm, proud. Yeah he didn't do awesome, but he

623
00:35:02,840 --> 00:35:05,759
Speaker 2: definitely didn't crash and burn. He did for where he

624
00:35:05,920 --> 00:35:09,239
Speaker 2: was at on his comedic journey, he did pretty well.

625
00:35:09,920 --> 00:35:12,720
Speaker 2: And yeah, I just thought of that then while we're talking,

626
00:35:12,800 --> 00:35:15,400
Speaker 2: I thought, yeah, it's so fun. It's fun to be

627
00:35:15,440 --> 00:35:16,480
Speaker 2: able to do that for people.

628
00:35:16,600 --> 00:35:19,880
Speaker 3: Oh, that'd be amazing. The thing with comedy is the

629
00:35:19,960 --> 00:35:24,120
Speaker 3: delivery is actually everything, and the delivery is the thing

630
00:35:24,160 --> 00:35:25,879
Speaker 3: that you are going to be the shittest at when

631
00:35:25,920 --> 00:35:28,560
Speaker 3: you first start getting in front of audiences you've never

632
00:35:28,600 --> 00:35:31,959
Speaker 3: been in front of before. Oh my god, I inge

633
00:35:32,320 --> 00:35:34,640
Speaker 3: on Carl Barron. I think he's my favorite.

634
00:35:35,000 --> 00:35:35,520
Speaker 1: Binge on him.

635
00:35:35,520 --> 00:35:39,399
Speaker 3: I can watch the same jokes over and over and

636
00:35:39,520 --> 00:35:42,360
Speaker 3: over and laugh every time, and I think to myself,

637
00:35:42,400 --> 00:35:44,919
Speaker 3: if he didn't carry on the way he does, they're

638
00:35:44,920 --> 00:35:49,719
Speaker 3: not funny words, No, it's just dumb mannerisms in his

639
00:35:49,800 --> 00:35:53,120
Speaker 3: delivery and everything that's right, that's right.

640
00:35:53,160 --> 00:35:55,920
Speaker 2: Here, here's a brilliant comic. And if you just if

641
00:35:55,960 --> 00:36:00,480
Speaker 2: you didn't have his facial expressions, his energy, his physical humor,

642
00:36:00,760 --> 00:36:03,759
Speaker 2: he's timing his delivery. But if you just looked at

643
00:36:03,760 --> 00:36:08,600
Speaker 2: the words on twenty pages, you went, here's what he said,

644
00:36:08,680 --> 00:36:10,719
Speaker 2: and you looked at it, you go, that's the unfunniest

645
00:36:10,719 --> 00:36:13,920
Speaker 2: shit I've ever seen. But then you put then you

646
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Speaker 2: wrap it around him, and it's fucking hilarious because he's hilarious.

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Speaker 1: I love you so much.

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Speaker 2: But when he talks about his old man, don't be

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Speaker 2: a dickhead, kyl. Yeah, all right, I'm not sure we

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Speaker 2: covered anything today, but that is okay, Tiffany and Cook.

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Speaker 2: I'm going to put some ice on my face.

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Speaker 1: You go on ice, that bad boy.

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Speaker 2: Put my head in a sling. Thanks TIV, Thanks ups