WEBVTT - A Bit Of A Therapy Session 

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<v Speaker 1>High Scrollers is produced on gadigul Land.

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<v Speaker 2>Welcome to Lizzo Irl High Scrollers Edition. This is close friends,

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<v Speaker 2>Welcome everyone, Happy Friday. Or I know some people save

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<v Speaker 2>these do they and listen on a Tuesday, which I

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<v Speaker 2>think is fucking unhinged.

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<v Speaker 1>We like both episodes at.

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<v Speaker 2>Once, yeah, because then they get a super long high

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<v Speaker 2>Scroller nice, But I mean it's good to listen in context.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe people don't listen to podcasts on Friday because Friday

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<v Speaker 2>is like the end of the week. You know, who

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<v Speaker 2>cares for anything on a Friday.

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<v Speaker 1>So I have no idea because I'm bad. I do

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<v Speaker 1>not listen to a single.

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<v Speaker 2>Podcast neither, honestly.

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<v Speaker 1>So it's an honor that people take the time to

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<v Speaker 1>listen to mine.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm someone who will listen to an episode.

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<v Speaker 1>Of a podcast, like if something goods.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, so if someone puts something out and there's like

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<v Speaker 2>a viral clip of it, you know what I want

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<v Speaker 2>to listen to. Actually is that new podcast episode And

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<v Speaker 2>I can't remember what podcast it is, but it's the

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<v Speaker 2>one Mark Jacobs is on No Jacob Sorry Steve Yea.

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<v Speaker 3>For those of you that haven't seen it, Steve Madden

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<v Speaker 3>has gone on a podcast and it's it's gone viral

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<v Speaker 3>on TikTok.

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<v Speaker 1>There's like the podcast has heaps of clips. I went

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<v Speaker 1>and watched all of those.

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<v Speaker 3>You'll watch that, like, I'll watch all the clips, but

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<v Speaker 3>I won't go and listen to it. But basically, Steve Madden,

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<v Speaker 3>shoe guy since forever, has gone on this podcast and

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<v Speaker 3>basically like done the best pr for himself and his

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<v Speaker 3>business that he could ever do in his whole career.

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<v Speaker 3>And Steve Madden has been around since like ages ago,

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<v Speaker 3>like forever ago or more nineties, I don't know, early

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<v Speaker 3>two thousand, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>Look, we'll have to look it up. But he in

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<v Speaker 1>these few candid clips that have been posted to TikTok

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<v Speaker 1>by the podcast host, she's just asking him, like, I

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<v Speaker 1>did you see the one video where they're going through

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<v Speaker 1>all the shoes that Steve Madden has duped? Yes, but

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<v Speaker 1>like not completely duped, like done their own version on.

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<v Speaker 2>Which I didn't realize that was Steve Madden's whole thing.

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't realize that I think.

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<v Speaker 3>He has like some of his original styles obviously, but

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<v Speaker 3>now they like come out with other trendy shoes as well.

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<v Speaker 3>And so she shows like Chanelle flats for example, and

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<v Speaker 3>then she shows him his and he goes, yeah, there

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<v Speaker 3>are shoes. They're inspired by the Chanelle flats, Like he

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<v Speaker 3>just outwardly says it, but he's not like, yeah, we

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<v Speaker 3>copy them. And then he even like commends the other brands,

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<v Speaker 3>which I found to be really refreshing. Like there was

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<v Speaker 3>one shoe and she said this is Mew Mew or

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<v Speaker 3>something and he's like, I didn't know that because obviously

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<v Speaker 3>he's not like in there designing the shoes, like they

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<v Speaker 3>have whole teams for it. But he's like, meumu, what

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<v Speaker 3>a great business. Yeah, Like he's just like complimenting these

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<v Speaker 3>other businesses, and I just feel like it was really clever.

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<v Speaker 3>But again, this goes into the whole dupe culture as well.

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<v Speaker 3>Matt and like men versus women, because why is everyone

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<v Speaker 3>praising Steve Madden for him just outwardly like saying that

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<v Speaker 3>his shoes are inspired by other brands. But then everyone

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<v Speaker 3>hated Shelley from MC beauty is it because of the

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<v Speaker 3>way she delivered it.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, from my understanding, she was not kind about it.

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<v Speaker 1>She was like, I don't give a shit if I

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<v Speaker 1>get them.

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<v Speaker 3>But then it's like, do we accept dupe culture if

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<v Speaker 3>the owner is nice about it?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I do think that, or is it because he's

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<v Speaker 2>a guy the whole I think the whole thing is

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<v Speaker 2>like it because this is what we're saying is you

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<v Speaker 2>are the face of your brand is who you are,

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<v Speaker 2>and the face of m CO Beauty to me is

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<v Speaker 2>that Shelley woman who every time she's speaking is unhinged

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<v Speaker 2>or being rude or not answering a question directly, being shady,

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<v Speaker 2>not admitting because she doesn't actually, to my knowledge, come

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<v Speaker 2>out and said she's not even part of the company anymore.

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<v Speaker 2>I think she's sold out of it now, brought out

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<v Speaker 2>of it or how have you whatever terminology that is.

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<v Speaker 2>But what I'm saying is from my understanding, she would

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<v Speaker 2>act like they weren't duping anyone, and no, it wasn't

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<v Speaker 2>a copy. Do you know what I mean? Where Steve Madden.

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<v Speaker 3>He's like, yeah, that's inspired by he'sruthful.

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<v Speaker 2>He's been truthful, and I didn't see that truthfulness when

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<v Speaker 2>I would.

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<v Speaker 1>Watch about the delivery.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, for sure, I reckon. I mean maybe it's got

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<v Speaker 2>a deeper issue of men versus women.

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<v Speaker 3>I think it does because then I think about myself.

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<v Speaker 3>And let's say we come out with a new collection

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<v Speaker 3>at Fate and I said, yeah, so this is inspired

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<v Speaker 3>by Chanelle. Like, let's say we come out with like,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, Chanelle has those like old school classic like

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<v Speaker 3>little I don't fucking know how to describe actually scratch

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<v Speaker 3>actually yeah, you know, those little sets and the.

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<v Speaker 2>Cutesy pastel clueless five.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, if we come out with a collection like that,

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<v Speaker 3>and if I just so candidly said on a podcast

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<v Speaker 3>clip like him, yeah, this is our new collection and

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<v Speaker 3>the interviewer goes, who, like, here's the original, and I went, yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>so that's Chanel and that's ours and it's inspired by it.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know if I would get the praise that

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<v Speaker 1>Steve Madden is getting.

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<v Speaker 2>We should fake that. We should fake that and.

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<v Speaker 1>Do a campaign to a social experiment or a.

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<v Speaker 2>Social experiment and see whether you would get get praise

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<v Speaker 2>and you just make it up.

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<v Speaker 1>We should plan it and do it for April Fools

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<v Speaker 1>next year, a long way away.

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<v Speaker 3>But if I'm actually going to make an item and

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<v Speaker 3>see if I get the praise.

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<v Speaker 2>Even just the social clip going up, and just see

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<v Speaker 2>how the comments react to you saying you're ripping off Chanell.

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<v Speaker 3>But if I say it in a nice way, I say,

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<v Speaker 3>I love Chanelle. I'm so inspired by them, and that's

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<v Speaker 3>why we've come out with this collection that's inspired by Chanell.

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<v Speaker 3>I wonder if as a woman, I would get the

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<v Speaker 3>same praise, because I also, like this topic is so

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<v Speaker 3>relevant to me, Matt because just a shameless plug to

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<v Speaker 3>my other podcast, Big Business, I did an episode recently

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<v Speaker 3>on being a woman in essentially a man's world, and

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<v Speaker 3>also just being a woman in like leadership management, like

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<v Speaker 3>just any women that are in like leadership positions and

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<v Speaker 3>all of the challenges that women face not being taken

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<v Speaker 3>as seriously. And so this is just like got me thinking,

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<v Speaker 3>like talking about Steve Matten, like I loved his those

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<v Speaker 3>clips as well, and that's a podcast that I would

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<v Speaker 3>go and listen to.

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<v Speaker 1>But I wonder if it was a.

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<v Speaker 3>Woman, if it would be any different because everyone's like, yeah, Steve,

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<v Speaker 3>he's for the girls.

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<v Speaker 2>I do have. I do notice with my female friends

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<v Speaker 2>a trend of not for lack of a better term

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<v Speaker 2>having the balls to do things in the workplace that

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<v Speaker 2>I think about that I think I could do with

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<v Speaker 2>absolutely no consequence. Like a lot of my friends who

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<v Speaker 2>are women will say like or they wish they could

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<v Speaker 2>have a pay rise, or they wish they could have

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<v Speaker 2>a new positional or potentially most of the time, what

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<v Speaker 2>the conversations I'm having is they've been hired for one job.

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<v Speaker 2>They're doing a hundred other jobs, but their title and

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<v Speaker 2>their pay doesn't reflect that. And I say, then say

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<v Speaker 2>something like, why not go in and say this is

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<v Speaker 2>what I'm doing. I'd like that to be reflected.

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<v Speaker 1>Now were they asking are they asking women or men?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, that's it, and they go, you can't do that.

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<v Speaker 2>You can't do In my mind, if I'm doing a

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<v Speaker 2>job and not getting paid for it, you better pay

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<v Speaker 2>me my jues. There's no doubt that I would walk

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<v Speaker 2>into whoever's office and go, I either need to be

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<v Speaker 2>paid correctly or I'm not doing these jobs.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, And as a business owner and boss, I would

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<v Speaker 3>expect my staff to do the same to me, Like

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<v Speaker 3>if they're doing ten people's jobs but only got the

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<v Speaker 3>title of one and getting paid for one, they have

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<v Speaker 3>every right to come to me and say, hey, here's

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<v Speaker 3>all the extra work that I'm doing.

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<v Speaker 1>Can we look at like a title change and a

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<v Speaker 1>pay change.

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<v Speaker 2>But there's a resistance there is from them, and I'm

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<v Speaker 2>trying to say, just go in there and do it.

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<v Speaker 2>But I've noticed that they hold that I don't know,

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<v Speaker 2>that wouldn't work. That wouldn't work. You don't know whether

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<v Speaker 2>you go in and you try and if it doesn't work,

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<v Speaker 2>then you know it doesn't work. But I obviously I

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<v Speaker 2>have no lived experience as a woman, so I don't

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<v Speaker 2>know what it's like. But it's just a pattern that

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<v Speaker 2>I've noticed throughout my friends and family members as well.

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<v Speaker 3>Take it from us, gals, you deserve to be able

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<v Speaker 3>to speak in your workplace. And yeah, it's a very

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<v Speaker 3>interesting topic. Like even from my perspective, I've dealt some

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<v Speaker 3>with some really challenging times over the years when it

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<v Speaker 3>comes to staff, and a lot of the time when

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<v Speaker 3>I've dealt with situations and it's all like we've resolved

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<v Speaker 3>it or it's come to an end or whatever, I've

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<v Speaker 3>had so many moments of reflection afterwards, like thinking about

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<v Speaker 3>like everything that was said, and you know, thinking if

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<v Speaker 3>things like personally have been said towards me or about me.

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<v Speaker 3>I've often thought, I wonder if I was a guy,

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<v Speaker 3>if those things would.

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<v Speaker 2>Have been said, because people, she's a bitch, yes, and

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<v Speaker 2>so such a bitch. But like if it was a guy,

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<v Speaker 2>they go, aj is.

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<v Speaker 1>A bitch, like if do you know what I mean? Like,

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<v Speaker 1>but you know what I mean.

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<v Speaker 3>Like, I've just been having all these thoughts lately, especially

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<v Speaker 3>after doing that episode if you want to go and

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<v Speaker 3>listen to it, But you know, when you do have

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<v Speaker 3>like a female manager or whatever, like it's sadly like

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<v Speaker 3>ingrained in society that women are bitches, like if they're

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<v Speaker 3>in like think of your manager at Macazol whatever, Like

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<v Speaker 3>it's just, yeah, she's such a bitch. But like if

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<v Speaker 3>that manager was a man, would you go, yeah, he's

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<v Speaker 3>such a bitch.

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<v Speaker 1>No, you wouldn't. You'd just be like, that's my manager

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<v Speaker 1>and he's just doing his job.

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<v Speaker 3>Or if you got feedback off your manager if you'd

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<v Speaker 3>fucked up or something.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's say you sent out the wrong fucking.

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<v Speaker 3>Burgher to the wrong car or whatever, and your manager

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<v Speaker 3>called you up on it. If it was a female,

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<v Speaker 3>oh what a bitch for calling me out. But if

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<v Speaker 3>it was a guy. Let's say it was Aj. They

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<v Speaker 3>wouldn't go, oh, AJ's such a bitch. We're telling me

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<v Speaker 3>that I stuffed up that order. Instead they just go yep, okay,

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<v Speaker 3>because it's a guy. And like, sadly, I think this

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<v Speaker 3>is like ingrained into society that like it's our automatic

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<v Speaker 3>response without even realizing that, Like we always look at

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<v Speaker 3>females in power and then being assertive as like a

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<v Speaker 3>negative bad thing and that they're being a bitch.

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<v Speaker 1>But when it's men, we never really think that.

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<v Speaker 2>That's why I love walking into a room, especially full

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<v Speaker 2>of men and saying hi girls, how are we? Or

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<v Speaker 2>hi dahs? Because you know, it's like when we say

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<v Speaker 2>hey guys, And I think about that and I think,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, if you walk into a room full of

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<v Speaker 2>girls and you say, hey guys, no I'm back's an eyelid.

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<v Speaker 2>But imagine walking into a room full of men, say

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<v Speaker 2>hey girls, everyone in that room is going to have

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<v Speaker 2>a problem with it, right, And so I love that.

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<v Speaker 2>I love shifting that balance and that power, especially when

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<v Speaker 2>there's more men in the room and you're going in

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<v Speaker 2>a hag girls high girls, how are going?

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<v Speaker 1>They feel a certain way about that.

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<v Speaker 3>Another realization that I've had since doing that episode recently.

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<v Speaker 3>That's so funny that we're just randomly talking about this

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<v Speaker 3>now because this has literally been on my mind. Another

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<v Speaker 3>like personal realization that I've had, and I actually had it.

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<v Speaker 3>I went on Two Broke Chicks last week and I

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<v Speaker 3>had a moment of realization when I was talking to them.

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<v Speaker 1>I've always known that.

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<v Speaker 3>One of the reasons why I'm such a go getter

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<v Speaker 3>and like just take risks and whatever is because like

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<v Speaker 3>I never had my mum and dad around to tell me,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, you should do well in school, or you

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<v Speaker 3>should try and go to UNI, or you should get

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<v Speaker 3>a job like or a career or whatever. Because I

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<v Speaker 3>was like so independent from when I was a teenager.

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<v Speaker 3>I think that's where my drive has come from, which

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<v Speaker 3>I'm so thankful for, because I could have went the

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<v Speaker 3>other way and said, no one's ever told me what

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<v Speaker 3>to do, so I'm going to go into a little hole.

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<v Speaker 3>But instead, the reason why I'm such a go getter

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<v Speaker 3>and why I'm always doing so much and why I

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<v Speaker 3>believe in myself is because no one ever has which

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<v Speaker 3>I've always known that, right, but I realized that because

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<v Speaker 3>in my job, like what a lot of people wouldn't

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<v Speaker 3>know is like I actually do deal with a lot

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<v Speaker 3>of men, even though fate is predominantly female. Like a

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<v Speaker 3>lot of our outside relationships a men, like the real

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<v Speaker 3>estate agents for our nine fucking commercial leases that we have,

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<v Speaker 3>our bin guys, our truck drivers, like everyone is basically

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<v Speaker 3>a man.

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<v Speaker 1>We deal with a lot of men in our business.

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<v Speaker 1>And so I did the whole episode talking about like

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<v Speaker 1>little interactions that I've had with men over the years

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<v Speaker 1>where they haven't taken me seriously, like when I've been

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<v Speaker 1>going to view a Westfield store and they look at

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<v Speaker 1>me like who the fuck are you, or they've been like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>good luck with that and made little comments like that.

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<v Speaker 1>But I made the realization that I don't give a

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<v Speaker 1>fuck what men say, and I never have because my

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<v Speaker 1>dad walked out when I was fourteen. And I only

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<v Speaker 1>had that realization last week when I was on the

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<v Speaker 1>Two Broke Cheeks podcast.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, and I was like, holy fuck, Like I've always

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<v Speaker 3>known that I've got my drive from my parents not

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<v Speaker 3>guiding me. But then I also realized, like I've never

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<v Speaker 3>cared what men say in my career when real estate

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<v Speaker 3>agents have gone on, So what do you do you

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<v Speaker 3>sell clothes?

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<v Speaker 1>Do y'all?

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<v Speaker 3>I've never cared, whereas I know a lot of other

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<v Speaker 3>women would really care and take that to heart and

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<v Speaker 3>get upset by it. Because my dad walked out of

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<v Speaker 3>my life when I was fourteen, and I just.

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<v Speaker 2>Had that like speak epiphany.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, holy shit.

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<v Speaker 2>I think therapy would change your life.

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<v Speaker 1>I think I'm fine.

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<v Speaker 2>Honestly, but I think that therapy.

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<v Speaker 1>Has it can be like liberating.

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<v Speaker 2>It has like a negative connotation that like you need

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<v Speaker 2>to go only if you it just would help you

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<v Speaker 2>discover and learn those sorts of things.

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<v Speaker 3>Because I've literally realized in the middle of the episode.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm sure it's left here the episodes out.

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<v Speaker 2>Broke that only just you know empowers you more because

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<v Speaker 2>now you know more about yourself.

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<v Speaker 3>Like I think, yeah, but how do you even find

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<v Speaker 3>a therapist honestly?

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<v Speaker 1>Like do you have to go?

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<v Speaker 2>Who has the time?

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<v Speaker 3>You go to a doctor and then they refer you

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<v Speaker 3>to someone, or can you like find a therapist and

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<v Speaker 3>contact them?

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know. I don't do therapy.

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<v Speaker 1>Are you telling me to go to therapy?

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<v Speaker 2>Anyway?

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<v Speaker 3>Just a realization that I had my dad walking out

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<v Speaker 3>has been more powerful than I even knew.

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<v Speaker 2>Because your dad walking out was the best thing that

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<v Speaker 2>ever happened to you. Love, because like, imagine what that

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<v Speaker 2>has done for you, Like, you wouldn't be here today, No,

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<v Speaker 2>like I always if you had a supportive father, sorry,

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<v Speaker 2>you would have been supported father.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe I would have went to union. I've been a

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<v Speaker 1>completely different career.

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<v Speaker 3>Maybe I wouldn't be with AJ Like is it like

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<v Speaker 3>the butterfly effect that.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, Like I would be not doing this podcast with you.

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<v Speaker 1>Probably I might have never started YouTube.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, if you might not have even had to be

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<v Speaker 2>working at the makeup shop when we met. Yeah, because

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<v Speaker 2>you wouldn't.

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<v Speaker 1>I would have been UNI at that or I would

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<v Speaker 1>have been finishing year twelve or.

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<v Speaker 2>Just staying at home, living at home with the parents,

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<v Speaker 2>not even having a job. You know that nice? Who

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<v Speaker 2>knows that would to be? No, you know there was

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<v Speaker 2>so I think back to high school and the people

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<v Speaker 2>who like their parents were like, no, you're not having

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<v Speaker 2>a job, will support you because we want you to

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<v Speaker 2>do well in school.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh that would be nice.

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<v Speaker 3>Extremely thankful that I was forced to be independent because

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<v Speaker 3>obviously I owe all of my success to that.

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<v Speaker 1>But if I could just redo it again now for

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<v Speaker 1>a little bit. I would fucking stay at home until

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<v Speaker 1>I'm thirty. Yeah, but I never had that opportunity.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>And I see like some people showing up on my

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<v Speaker 3>TikTok and they're like creating content about like being in

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<v Speaker 3>their thirties or like late twenties and moving back home

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<v Speaker 3>to like save money so they can eventually get their

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<v Speaker 3>own place. And I know that's like shunned on in

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<v Speaker 3>society or like you feel like you're taking a step backwards.

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<v Speaker 1>But I'm all for it. If I had a family,

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<v Speaker 1>I would love to hang out with them at their

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<v Speaker 1>home and like live there and have dinner together. It

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<v Speaker 1>would be nice.

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<v Speaker 2>Ten years ago, it was all right because you could

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<v Speaker 2>go back home and actually save the money. I actually

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<v Speaker 2>think moving back home these days, are you even saving

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<v Speaker 2>that much money? Because your parents are struggling too, you

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<v Speaker 2>know what I mean? Like ten years ago, you new

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<v Speaker 2>home because mom and dad have got it all.

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<v Speaker 1>Get the grocery.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I could just eat them out of house and

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<v Speaker 2>home and you know, sort my life out, get my

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<v Speaker 2>life back on track, and turn it around. Now I'm like,

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<v Speaker 2>you got to move home and pay two fifty a

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<v Speaker 2>week board love just to keep the lights on you know. Hmm,

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<v Speaker 2>So I don't know. I moving back in with the parents.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, obviously to help a little bit, but I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know if it's all that's cracked up to be

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<v Speaker 2>like it used to be, you know, because it used

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<v Speaker 2>to be such a dramatic turn, whereas now these days,

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<v Speaker 2>I think the parents are probably like, yeah, moving, you

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<v Speaker 2>can help us pay the bills. Bloody hell, Well what

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<v Speaker 2>a chat? What a chat? Love? Anything else to say,

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<v Speaker 2>We'll see you next Tuesday.