Speaker 1: Has a friends. It's mouth. It's Monty. Welcome to the show,
Speaker 1: and tell vodkasta.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, hello, everyone's eating Her daughter just made so rude.
Speaker 1: It's so rude. Your daughter just made cookies. And I
Speaker 1: was like, what flavor? Expecting you to go choc chip
Speaker 1: and you said lemon.
Speaker 2: She doesn't eat chocolate.
Speaker 1: Lemon's not even a flavor.
Speaker 2: Yeah, a lemon cookie.
Speaker 1: Never never heard of it.
Speaker 2: They're actually really nice. This is my daughter's personality. When
Speaker 2: she was about three, she decided she didn't like chocolate,
Speaker 2: and that's it. She just won't ever try it again.
Speaker 2: It's just a blanket rule. She hates chocolate, which I mean,
Speaker 2: who cares. It's not like chocolate's great for you.
Speaker 1: But I'm like, oh my god, but chocolate is such
Speaker 1: it's one of wife's greatest joys for me.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but she does that with a lot of things.
Speaker 2: She makes up her mind and then that's how it
Speaker 2: is for eternity.
Speaker 1: I feel like you're like that she gets no.
Speaker 2: I'm actually really impressionable. Like if you and I had
Speaker 2: words about something, I would always I'd say what I think,
Speaker 2: but I'd always go away and think about it and
Speaker 2: then go Actually maybe she was right, so Dom would
Speaker 2: never do that. She's not really, She's too solid in
Speaker 2: her resolve about things. Some would use the words stubborn
Speaker 2: like her father, but I mean, I don't know, head
Speaker 2: stroll at what you will?
Speaker 1: Head strong anyway. I hope you're all well everyone. Thanks
Speaker 1: for joining our podcast today. Thanks, thanks, thanks, thanks is
Speaker 1: good for your back. You know what, I didn't watch
Speaker 1: a lick of the Australian Open that was on a
Speaker 1: little while ago, did.
Speaker 2: You No, it was just on constantly in the background
Speaker 2: because I live with sport loving people.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's such the sound of summer though, like the cricket, yeah,
Speaker 1: on is such the sound of summer, and then the
Speaker 1: tennis on. But we don't have a TV in our
Speaker 1: main living room. Yes, we've got a separate TV room
Speaker 1: for that reason, because otherwise we'd just have the TV
Speaker 1: on all time. Yeah, and it's like, it's just I'm
Speaker 1: not above that, but at the same time I am. Yeah,
Speaker 1: So we've got a separate team room but TV room.
Speaker 1: But every night'sam were like, do you want to come
Speaker 1: watch the tennis?
Speaker 2: I'm like nah.
Speaker 1: I used to love as a kid going to the
Speaker 1: tennis though, Like when I was like sixteen or so.
Speaker 2: We'd get a.
Speaker 1: Ground pass and go and watch all of the tennis.
Speaker 1: It was just so much fun. And then I used
Speaker 1: to enjoy going and watching the games. Oh, you couldn't
Speaker 1: get me to go there. Now I just can't be bothered.
Speaker 1: But I was thinking just the other day, remember when
Speaker 1: Monica Sellas got stabbed?
Speaker 2: Yes, I do, And they were the times that I
Speaker 2: actually did like tennis.
Speaker 1: Same and everyone had get annoyed at her grunts.
Speaker 2: Now everyone grunts. I've watched footage of that. I've gone
Speaker 2: back and watched footage of when she got stabbed, have you. Yeah,
Speaker 2: that's so weird. It was just a random thought one day.
Speaker 2: This are the difference. You had that thought. Remember that
Speaker 2: I have that thought and think, I remember when she
Speaker 2: got stabbed. Let me go through and relive it all. Yeah,
Speaker 2: and then you know, yes, but you know, the guy
Speaker 2: that stabbed her was like a Steffi Graft super fan
Speaker 2: or something, that's right.
Speaker 1: And so he tried to get her out of the game.
Speaker 1: So Steffy because she beat Steffi or something like that. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: but it was so full on because it took her
Speaker 1: out of the game for so long. He stabbed her
Speaker 1: in the shoulder blade.
Speaker 2: I mean, imagine that you're just being there and then
Speaker 2: and you know a lot of people they say when
Speaker 2: they get stabbed, it's like this shock that they feel
Speaker 2: like they've been punched. They don't even register they've been stabbed.
Speaker 1: Stabbed is so full on.
Speaker 2: Imagine how fucking scary that would be. Imagine the fear.
Speaker 1: Oh mate, it would be so full on. Anyway, For
Speaker 1: some reason, at randomly, oh I think because the tennis
Speaker 1: was on, but at randomly came into my mind. I
Speaker 1: was like she says, were the days, and that was
Speaker 1: when there was nothing else on. So it was like
Speaker 1: you would watch the seven Yeah exactly, and you just
Speaker 1: have to wait, Okay, the tennis is on. It thirty
Speaker 1: and you'd sit there and wait, and you'd sit through
Speaker 1: all those ads and.
Speaker 2: Stephan Edinburgh, Stephen ed Glendel never a lover, Yes.
Speaker 1: S Sampres, Andrea Agasy.
Speaker 2: Andrea Agassy with his bike shorts, sundrees. Yes.
Speaker 1: And I remember once I went to the tennis and
Speaker 1: they had it was when Andrea just shaved his head
Speaker 1: because remember he had those flanks, those bleached blonde flanks,
Speaker 1: and they had a like a tent where you could
Speaker 1: go and get your hair shaved. Really yeah, to be
Speaker 1: like agacy random. Anyway, So my son, my thirteen year old,
Speaker 1: has got himself a job, and it's the greatest thing
Speaker 1: that has ever happened to him or us.
Speaker 2: This feels unbelievable.
Speaker 1: It's so wild. And what has not made the holidays
Speaker 1: as bad is he's been getting shifts at his job
Speaker 1: all the time. So a little while ago, I was like,
Speaker 1: because you know how the age has changed from when
Speaker 1: you can work when we were younger, it used to
Speaker 1: be fourteen and nine months.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and just now it's free for all. Yes.
Speaker 1: So he's thirteen, turned thirteen in November, and like a
Speaker 1: couple of months ago, just cold called the bookshop, which
Speaker 1: he loves the bookshop. It's like his favorite place on
Speaker 1: the planet. And he goes into the bookshop all the time,
Speaker 1: so they know him, and the manager there's like, backs,
Speaker 1: you're my favorite customer because he's there so much. Anyway,
Speaker 1: he cold calls and he's like, is there any jobs there?
Speaker 1: Then he makes up the most fancy resume, like it
Speaker 1: was so impressive, went and handed it in. It's got
Speaker 1: himself a little job.
Speaker 2: I feel overwhelmingly proud of him, thank you too.
Speaker 1: And for the first few shifts, for the first say five,
Speaker 1: every time we'd drop him, he'd be like, I wonder
Speaker 1: when I'm going to go and not feel nervous, and
Speaker 1: it's just like so sweet. And then the other day
Speaker 1: Sam picked him up and one of the ladies working
Speaker 1: there's like, I just have to tell you just love
Speaker 1: working with backs. You've done such a great job. And
Speaker 1: as a parent, that's all you want to hear because
Speaker 1: it's such a thankless job you have. You don't really
Speaker 1: know what your kids are like out there in the wild,
Speaker 1: and Sam and I are constantly like, I wonder what
Speaker 1: he's doing there is like I'm always like, don't pick
Speaker 1: up your phone, make sure you always look busy. But
Speaker 1: he's clearly doing such a good job that they're just
Speaker 1: love him. Well.
Speaker 2: Congratulations to you as well as Sam. And also what
Speaker 2: a great first job.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, shop that there is not many people
Speaker 1: that go for their first job, put their resume into
Speaker 1: one place and get it and it be their favorite
Speaker 1: place on earth. But they also obviously it was this
Speaker 1: was a Christmas time, but they had a Christmas party
Speaker 1: and it was in the bookshop, and they moved like
Speaker 1: push the bookshelves back and put along table in there.
Speaker 1: They are all adults at work there. There's one fifteen
Speaker 1: year old that works at the different They own two bookshops,
Speaker 1: so in the other town works at that bookshop, and
Speaker 1: they invited backslong and so he goes and sits at
Speaker 1: the table with all of these adults and then we
Speaker 1: message him at like you know, he went at like six.
Speaker 1: We message him at like seven, J want us to
Speaker 1: come and pick you up now, and he's like nah, Sam,
Speaker 1: and I are like, what the fuck is He tweeted
Speaker 1: all these adults about, like what is he doing? And
Speaker 1: then he ended up getting dropped home by one of
Speaker 1: the people at like eight thirty and had the time
Speaker 1: of his life.
Speaker 2: But just that right, just when you think about the
Speaker 2: thought of going somewhere where you're potentially going to feel uncomfortable,
Speaker 2: you're with a group of people who are old or whatever,
Speaker 2: that he put himself in that situation where he felt uncomfortable, yes,
Speaker 2: and then thrive.
Speaker 1: So much to the point that he didn't want to
Speaker 1: come home, and we were pissing our pants. We're like,
Speaker 1: what the fuck is he talking about? He got home
Speaker 1: is chatty Kathy just loving it sick. But I'm like,
Speaker 1: what a cracking.
Speaker 2: Job it is?
Speaker 1: The bookshop for your first job is.
Speaker 2: So we picked, so good?
Speaker 1: It has changed him, Like he is so much more
Speaker 1: confident now. That's he's just loving checking his base account,
Speaker 1: like he now has to contribute to his to his
Speaker 1: phone bill and stuff like that. Like it's just in
Speaker 1: so many ways, I'm like, who would have thought, like
Speaker 1: a few years ago with you know, he's been through
Speaker 1: some stuff, my son, that I haven't gone into publicly,
Speaker 1: but he has. And so now as his parents watching
Speaker 1: him just go off to work, hang out with the adults,
Speaker 1: like go up to customers and give them recommendations and stuff,
Speaker 1: I'm like, who is this kid? It is so wild?
Speaker 2: Who says we're negative?
Speaker 1: Hate's a positive story story, wasn't it? What was your
Speaker 1: first job?
Speaker 2: Though? My first job? I was thirteen Just my parents
Speaker 2: had a fruit shop. That's so right, And no, no,
Speaker 2: they know what you're thinking of. They had milk bars
Speaker 2: a fruit shop as well. Yeah, and I would work.
Speaker 2: They hated it. And then when I was fourteen and
Speaker 2: nine months, I got a job at Cole's and I
Speaker 2: was there until I was nineteen.
Speaker 1: That's right. You loved the colds job.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but I didn't work on register. That's why I
Speaker 2: ended up quitting because I always said, Okay, so if
Speaker 2: you are old, you'll remember, like when I started working,
Speaker 2: we'd close at five o'clock on a Saturday, no and
Speaker 2: open on Monday. No way.
Speaker 1: So it was closed on Sundays, do on Sunday, which
Speaker 1: is why milk bars thrived back then.
Speaker 2: Okay, because if you needed shit, you'd go to the
Speaker 2: milk bar, right. But I worked in the variety section,
Speaker 2: so clothes you could buy clothes, plants like Manchester Stationary,
Speaker 2: all that sort of coals. Yes, and I also the
Speaker 2: only serving I did was in layby. I used to
Speaker 2: do lay bys.
Speaker 1: Oh did you were the labor.
Speaker 2: Wrapped in brown paper with a number on it? How
Speaker 2: fucking I know about you? I'm two years older than you.
Speaker 2: I know. This is why I was shocked. I don't
Speaker 2: remember any of this. You know. You'd wrap the their
Speaker 2: order and then you'd put like eight, like a number
Speaker 2: eighty nine on it, and you'd give them it was
Speaker 2: like a raffle like that. You'd give them the eighty
Speaker 2: nine and then they'd come back with the it's unbelievable,
Speaker 2: but the panic. Sometimes someone would come and pick up
Speaker 2: their parcel and there was no fucking parcel there, someone
Speaker 2: like I don't know, maybe one of my shower workers
Speaker 2: was a thief, and then having to go and say
Speaker 2: to that person, I'm sorry, it's not there.
Speaker 1: Shit, And would you give them the money back that
Speaker 1: they'd put down as.
Speaker 2: They can call a manager? What am I going to do,
Speaker 2: fifteen year old, I've got no fucking idea.
Speaker 1: Wow, So would you just wander around and help people
Speaker 1: with the Manchester and stuff like that?
Speaker 2: No, it would be like when orders came in or
Speaker 2: like you know, you'd unpack stock and then you'd have
Speaker 2: to Did you ever work in a supermarket?
Speaker 1: No?
Speaker 2: It was called facing up. So when I worked, like
Speaker 2: say after school from four till nine or whatever, it
Speaker 2: was tidying up for the next day. So you'd go
Speaker 2: through every aisle and have to make sure that everything
Speaker 2: was pushed forward facing the right way, like every aisle.
Speaker 2: I had to because there were plants. I had to
Speaker 2: water plants, make sure all the clothes were put away.
Speaker 2: Because people are fucking animals when it comes to change rooms,
Speaker 2: you know, they just leave their shit everywhere.
Speaker 1: I do that.
Speaker 2: I read a lot of magazines, though I used to.
Speaker 1: My very first job was in the news agency. That
Speaker 1: was a great job.
Speaker 2: That would have been an awesome job.
Speaker 1: I feel like I've had a lot of jobs. So
Speaker 1: I worked at the news agency because my sister was there.
Speaker 1: I also got a job in a gift a job
Speaker 1: in a gift shop, and I would ride my bike
Speaker 1: down after school and they had all plants out the
Speaker 1: back and my job was to water the plants, and
Speaker 1: for some reason, I fucking hated doing that. But then
Speaker 1: I got to work in the shop. It was like
Speaker 1: a knickknack shop. There was so and two men ran it,
Speaker 1: like a guy and his father in law. So they,
Speaker 1: I mean men choosing shit like that straight men as well.
Speaker 1: It was just full of that much shit. Remember beanie babies.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it was you know around beanie babies and a
Speaker 2: Granny Maize. It was like a.
Speaker 1: Granny Maize, but not a great version of it. And
Speaker 1: so then I would have to I was like, I
Speaker 1: was like, yeah, fourteen or fifteen, and I would just
Speaker 1: like style the shop as if at fourteen or fifteen
Speaker 1: year old knows how to do that. Then I worked
Speaker 1: at maccas as well, fucking hated that. Yeah, didn't you
Speaker 1: work in an ice cream shop? Or was that Stacey? No,
Speaker 1: that was Stacey who worked in an ice cream shop.
Speaker 1: My sister also worked in the same ice cream shop,
Speaker 1: and she would get like, what's that called when you
Speaker 1: get saw wrists like arasi rs I.
Speaker 2: How long did she work in the ice cream shop?
Speaker 1: I don't know, but like hours on end. Imagine just
Speaker 1: scooping and scooping and you could have free ice cream
Speaker 1: as well.
Speaker 2: It feels like a high pressure environment to me. I
Speaker 2: don't know my cream.
Speaker 1: Also because she said it wasn't when you would it
Speaker 1: was a till that you could ring it up. So
Speaker 1: she'd just make up the prices on the spot because
Speaker 1: it was too much to figure out the prices.
Speaker 2: I've said this before. My I am not like I
Speaker 2: say this. I sound like I'm big noting myself. I'm
Speaker 2: good with words, right, I can write. I was always
Speaker 2: good at go.
Speaker 1: You wish a brilliant writer.
Speaker 2: Numbers, mate, like I've diagnosed myself. You know there's dyslexia.
Speaker 2: There's a numbers one called dyscalcula. I one hundred percent
Speaker 2: have that. Do you know the feeling I would get
Speaker 2: because there was sometimes I had to go on register
Speaker 2: at the front, and you know, it's the old school.
Speaker 2: You'd put the money in like it was all manual.
Speaker 2: It wasn't like sort of how it is now that
Speaker 2: I'd put it in, like say, they give me fifty
Speaker 2: bucks and then they go, oh, hang on, I've got whatever.
Speaker 2: After I'd put it in, I could never It was
Speaker 2: like a deer in the headlights. And I would still
Speaker 2: be that way now and I would just be like
Speaker 2: looking at them and they'd say, you have to give
Speaker 2: me ten dollars twenty five change, and theyn not just
Speaker 2: give them whatever they said. No, I love a segment,
Speaker 2: You love a segment, bad for a segment, rant and
Speaker 2: rave okay, okay, so you know we're going to counter
Speaker 2: the negative with a positive.
Speaker 1: Yeah, we've tried this in the past. It was called
Speaker 1: something else clothing, loving and loathing. Okay, so you've just
Speaker 1: taken that and changing the name of it. You love
Speaker 1: a segment, And we usually do it once and then
Speaker 1: it never comes back.
Speaker 2: Yeah, well, I think this one will stay strong. Some weeks.
Speaker 2: We may just have rants, and that I feel like
Speaker 2: we're always.
Speaker 1: Going to have rants.
Speaker 2: I mean is then should you not have a safe
Speaker 2: space to rant? Yeah?
Speaker 1: Okay, but we have to think of a rave, even
Speaker 1: if it's really small, like we've got to counteract, I
Speaker 1: counterbalance our negativity.
Speaker 2: Yes, well, I have one of each? Would you do?
Speaker 2: You have one of each?
Speaker 1: Yep, buck and have one of each?
Speaker 2: Would you like to go first? No? You go first?
Speaker 2: What do you want to start with? Rant? Rant? I
Speaker 2: hate at the moment when you watch someone's Instagram and
Speaker 2: maybe they've showing you a lipstick that they've found that
Speaker 2: they love, and you look at it and you go, wow,
Speaker 2: I love that lipstick. And you look in the description,
Speaker 2: I wonder what that lipstick is, what brand it is?
Speaker 2: And they write comment lipstick in the comments, and I'll
Speaker 2: send you the link to buy the lipstick. Have you
Speaker 2: seen this? O? This is fucking infuriating. I don't even
Speaker 2: understand the concept behind it. Why they even like? You
Speaker 2: know how there's like people like people who just style
Speaker 2: clothes really cool and they might have an outfit and
Speaker 2: you look and you go, oh fuck, they're exactly the
Speaker 2: genes I want. Yes, And then you go to see
Speaker 2: what the genes are and they write comment, you're a
Speaker 2: dickhead in the comment and I'll send you the link
Speaker 2: to the genes.
Speaker 1: I have never seen that.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, I'll send you one. I'll send you
Speaker 2: one on Instagram. But if you frequent Instagram a lot
Speaker 2: like I do, it's it's infuriating. I think it's maybe
Speaker 2: to get engagement, so it looks like you're getting comments
Speaker 2: all the time. Maybe that bumps you up somehow do
Speaker 2: you want? God?
Speaker 1: Could it also be that because it's not a sponsored thing,
Speaker 1: they don't want to put the product on there because
Speaker 1: they haven't been paid for endorsing the product. So they're like,
Speaker 1: fuck you, I'm not doing it. I'll just send you
Speaker 1: individually the link.
Speaker 2: Why would you do that? You also works sis.
Speaker 1: It would take so much extra work.
Speaker 2: To do that. I should have researched why they do it,
Speaker 2: But it has to be something about getting your numbers up.
Speaker 1: Or why don't you. Can you ask one of them
Speaker 1: say why don't you know the link out there?
Speaker 2: No, because once I see that, I'm pissed off, and
Speaker 2: then I don't follow them anymore. I unfollow them if
Speaker 2: I do follow them, because it pieces me off.
Speaker 1: Fair enough, you know what, a lot of people on
Speaker 1: Instagram are doing, which really annoys me, is using white
Speaker 1: text and doing it really small.
Speaker 2: Have you seen this? No? Okay, what lots on stories
Speaker 2: and stuff on stories.
Speaker 1: People will use white text and make it like micro
Speaker 1: micro and I'm like, why are you doing that? I
Speaker 1: can't read it properly. A lot of people are doing it.
Speaker 1: It's like a trend, like the cool thing to do
Speaker 1: is use white text and make it really small, so
Speaker 1: it's really fucking hard to see what people have written.
Speaker 2: This brings me to circle back to a question from
Speaker 2: last year.
Speaker 1: Have you got your asst of them? I went and
Speaker 1: got my eyes tested. Gave me a migraine, which wasn't
Speaker 1: hard last year everyone was giving me a migraine, but.
Speaker 2: Getting my eyes tested.
Speaker 1: Yes, And I have to wear glasses when I read,
Speaker 1: but I'm not because as soon as I put them on,
Speaker 1: everything is really blurry. It makes me feel crook. And
Speaker 1: then but when I look at the words on the page,
Speaker 1: it's so much better. But it's also like if I
Speaker 1: even look slightly left of the page, it's really out
Speaker 1: of focus, so it makes me feel really weird.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's it's Yeah, it'll be an adjustment process, but
Speaker 2: you probably should do it because maybe then you maybe
Speaker 2: that text really isn't so small.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, no, no, no, I know you think
Speaker 1: that because I've had to make my text on my
Speaker 1: text messages bigger. But this one that people are doing
Speaker 1: on Instagram's tiny. But I do have to hold things
Speaker 1: far away from me when I read, and I swin.
Speaker 1: I feel so old. But Sam's taken my glasses. He
Speaker 1: can't read without them now.
Speaker 2: Because there's they do say once you get to forty,
Speaker 2: your fast sidedness gets worse, which is like you know,
Speaker 2: if you're sorry, if you're long sightedness. No, short sighted
Speaker 2: is when you can't see far. Yes, but yeah, so yeah,
Speaker 2: so seeing close up long, A lot of stuff is small,
Speaker 2: Like you know, if you want to read, I don't know,
Speaker 2: Like I keep going back to lipstick, but you want
Speaker 2: to read, Like what the color of a lipstick is? However,
Speaker 2: it's like it's the focusing.
Speaker 1: It's the focusing or the b of a jar or
Speaker 1: something like that. Oh my god, I just it's really awful.
Speaker 1: Though it's deteriorated so quickly. It's wild.
Speaker 2: I know, I mean that. Yeah, it's a sign of
Speaker 2: the times, isn't it?
Speaker 1: Isn't it? Yes?
Speaker 2: All right, what's your rave? My rave? Okay, I don't
Speaker 2: know if you've heard of the mal Robins podcast. No,
Speaker 2: you'd know her if you saw her anyway. She's this
Speaker 2: lady you know those people that you know talk about
Speaker 2: living a better life or whatever. But she's good, she's
Speaker 2: no bullshit. She's and she interviews really interesting people. She's
Speaker 2: just come out with this book called The Let Them Theory.
Speaker 2: I listened to the podcast. I think I will buy
Speaker 2: the book. What's a book called the Let Them Theory? Oh? Yes,
Speaker 2: just can't get it for me. If he's got it
Speaker 2: in stock, he won't.
Speaker 1: Give anyone else's discount. My friend told me about this
Speaker 1: and she said it's changed her life.
Speaker 2: I can see it would change your life. You would also.
Speaker 2: I mean there's a level of mindfulness you have to
Speaker 2: have to apply. But it's this idea of if you
Speaker 2: are someone like me who I can get very very
Speaker 2: wrapped up in any decision I make, filtering through my head,
Speaker 2: what someone else is going to think of that? Yes,
Speaker 2: is mum going to approve? Oh? WILLMNTY think I'm being
Speaker 2: an asshole if I do this or say this. She
Speaker 2: gives a really good example of when you go to
Speaker 2: post something on Instagram, the filter that runs through your
Speaker 2: head of ah, what are people going to think if
Speaker 2: I post this? Is this funny? Is this? Whatever? The
Speaker 2: point is if you think it's funny, you can't control
Speaker 2: You can never ever control what someone else thinks of you,
Speaker 2: and you never will. So there's just going to be
Speaker 2: people who might see that Instagram post and go what
Speaker 2: a fucking dickhead? Yes, and unfollow you. You can't control.
Speaker 1: That, so is that them? Let them be?
Speaker 2: So anytime you catch yourself doing that, you have to
Speaker 2: just say, let them. If someone's going to think something
Speaker 2: of you, let them think it, because what does it matter?
Speaker 2: As long as you think you've done the right thing,
Speaker 2: then who fucking cares. Don't let other people control you
Speaker 2: like that. If you get into disagreements with family members
Speaker 2: or whatever about politics or whatever, you have to be
Speaker 2: able to say, let them think that. Yeah, it doesn't
Speaker 2: change what you think, just let them do it. And
Speaker 2: then it's this idea of then let me so let me,
Speaker 2: you know, have the balls to still do the things
Speaker 2: I want. But it's just such a simple concept. But fuck,
Speaker 2: sometimes it's like I need that, Yes, I really need that.
Speaker 1: I think I'm going to read it one day, probably
Speaker 1: not for a while, but yeah, that's so interesting. You
Speaker 1: brought it up because a girlfriend did at lunch the
Speaker 1: other day and she said, it's just she's been having
Speaker 1: problems with her family and she said it's just shifted
Speaker 1: her thinking around it. And she just was told. The
Speaker 1: whole table like stopped and said, I want everyone to
Speaker 1: know about this book I'm reading because it's really worth
Speaker 1: everyone reading.
Speaker 2: It is it is? So it's Mel Robbins. It's called
Speaker 2: the Let Them Theory. Anyway, love it?
Speaker 1: Okay. My rant is Sam, my partner of like twenty
Speaker 1: two years him in Beautiful Man. He's such a beautiful
Speaker 1: man and quite hard to fault, to be honest. It's
Speaker 1: in the bedroom. He flip flips. He's a terrible sleeper.
Speaker 1: Likely he has insomnia. But when he turns from one
Speaker 1: side to the other the way you.
Speaker 2: Just except in the bedroom go he's a premisure ejaculator. Yeah,
Speaker 2: it's nothing to do with that.
Speaker 1: It's just sleeping. So he's this terrible sleeper and he
Speaker 1: keeps it keeps me awake. So when he turns from
Speaker 1: one side to the other, a normal person would just
Speaker 1: slowly turn around it's like he does a fucking backfoot
Speaker 1: to get over there. It's literally like he goes from
Speaker 1: one side and instead of using his arms to just
Speaker 1: turn him over, he uses his whole body to spring
Speaker 1: down on the bed and flip over. So it rocks
Speaker 1: the whole bed and wakes me up, and it goes
Speaker 1: all night, and then I wake up the next day
Speaker 1: very unrefreshed and irritated.
Speaker 2: And here's my thing.
Speaker 1: I get having separate rooms, which I get your you
Speaker 1: working in what you call the apartment at the moment,
Speaker 1: which is a downstairs bedroom, and you just end up
Speaker 1: sleeping there. Yes, which I think he's so it's actually
Speaker 1: really healthy for a relationship.
Speaker 2: I agree. I agree.
Speaker 1: I don't have a spare room. I don't have an
Speaker 1: apartment in my house. So I'm thinking maybe I'm going
Speaker 1: to get a wooden base for my bed, like.
Speaker 2: A futon, like a foot on.
Speaker 1: I think I'm gonna get a foot on, because then
Speaker 1: the mattress won't bounce.
Speaker 2: Hell, nineteen year old of.
Speaker 1: You, I had a futon when I was found a futon. Still.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's in I'm looking right now. There's like a
Speaker 2: cupboard under the stairs. Yeah, that's like storage. I think
Speaker 2: it's still in there, unless maybe it's just the matter
Speaker 2: thing that goes with it.
Speaker 1: The mattresses think it's rock hard. It was all their thousands,
Speaker 1: and then I got it from him. The mattress was
Speaker 1: so hard, and then the bed it was because it
Speaker 1: was like a Japanese thing, wasn't it a foot Yeah?
Speaker 1: Yeah anyway, but I could get like a foot on
Speaker 1: but with my normal sick mattress. And I think that
Speaker 1: that might get rid of the ricocheting of the bed,
Speaker 1: like the rocking.
Speaker 2: It's like when you go on holidays and you say,
Speaker 2: can I have an extra? Have you got like a
Speaker 2: little wheelie bed or something? If you've got someone extra staying? Yeah,
Speaker 2: like also think of I think that would do your
Speaker 2: head in having your bed and then having a foot
Speaker 2: on the floor next to it. The esthetics of it,
Speaker 2: I don't think it.
Speaker 1: Oh, I could never do that. I mean getting rid
Speaker 1: of the base in my bed to replace it, not adding,
Speaker 1: not putting.
Speaker 2: A foot on next to my on hold on.
Speaker 1: So you know how you have a base and then
Speaker 1: you have the mattress. It's not one thing. There's two
Speaker 1: things to a bed.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, yeah, a mattress and bass.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yes, so I'm saying, keep the mattress, but make
Speaker 1: the base more sturdy. I think it could be the
Speaker 1: base that's making the bed rock so much.
Speaker 2: Now I think the base is pretty sturdy. I think
Speaker 2: the mattress is the issue. It's the one from Koala,
Speaker 2: not long ago, and it's meant to be where you
Speaker 2: get it from. Unless you know what you need. You
Speaker 2: need what my in laws have got, you know, like
Speaker 2: the that it's like a queen bed or whatever, but
Speaker 2: it's really like two singles and they're like the hospital beds.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so you've both got your own sides and it
Speaker 1: can and it also does the temperature and everything else. Yeah,
Speaker 1: apparently they're phenomenal.
Speaker 2: And he can move all he wants because technically he's
Speaker 2: you're still together, but he's on his side and it's
Speaker 2: not bothering your bed.
Speaker 1: In one because yeah, it's messing up my sleep.
Speaker 2: Now. The futon idea is stupid. Don't do the futon.
Speaker 1: That's okay, I was hoping that that might. So you
Speaker 1: think it's a mattress, but it's quite a new mattress
Speaker 1: and it's meant to be like, you know, bouncy resistant,
Speaker 1: but it's not.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's very hard. Yeah, when you're a disruptive sleeper,
Speaker 2: that's oh so hard.
Speaker 1: Keep us.
Speaker 2: I'll keep us up to date.
Speaker 1: Okay. My rave is a new thing that I'm into,
Speaker 1: which is tablecloths. I've never had a tablecloth as a
Speaker 1: grown up, and now I'm really into tablecloths. Slight rant
Speaker 1: on the side of the rave is I just don't
Speaker 1: want anyone to spill anything on it, which can be difficult.
Speaker 2: Listen, you will not remember this, Stacy may remember it.
Speaker 2: I reckon probably ten years ago. I messaged out WhatsApp
Speaker 2: group asking if either of you used tablecloths. You both
Speaker 2: said no. I had a great idea, another business idea.
Speaker 1: Oh that you're there always amazing, just.
Speaker 2: To make awesome tablecloths, because it is hard to find
Speaker 2: a cool tablecloth.
Speaker 1: I think they exist now, now, don't invest in that.
Speaker 1: There's enough around now. I'd got one from Bonnie and Neil.
Speaker 1: Bonnie and Neil do like the cushions and stuff like that.
Speaker 1: Look up Bonnie and Neil and I think it was
Speaker 1: either Bonnie and Neil or Kip and Co. But I've
Speaker 1: got like a cool tartany one that's not the old
Speaker 1: school red tartan color, but like different colors. And then
Speaker 1: I got one that's got that is cream, and then
Speaker 1: around it at the bottom it's got like vines and plums.
Speaker 1: Oh it's a bit small for the table though, it
Speaker 1: just covers it.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I mean that's all right. It's not like
Speaker 2: you've got maybe if you've got people over, it's different.
Speaker 2: I don't know the creamness of it. When Sam and
Speaker 2: I sit and eat because we after the boys, and
Speaker 2: he spills stuff on it.
Speaker 1: Cream, I can't relax.
Speaker 2: Cream seems like a silly color for a table.
Speaker 1: Colored white ones like would only come out at good
Speaker 1: occasions Christmas and stuff. But I'm like, whit, it's a
Speaker 1: terrible color.
Speaker 2: You know what The good thing is with white though,
Speaker 2: that if you get shit on it, you can just
Speaker 2: bleach it true. Ken don ken done.
Speaker 1: I saw my sister had a dinner the other day
Speaker 1: and it's ken Dome from when we were kids.
Speaker 2: I would also say this was also an idea I
Speaker 2: had that everyone, not everyone, everyone that I spoke to
Speaker 2: in my life thought was stupid. You know, sometimes like
Speaker 2: there's always beautiful douna covers and stuff. Tell me you
Speaker 2: couldn't fucking cut a Douner cover and just overlock the
Speaker 2: edges or whatever and make that a tablecloth.
Speaker 1: That's a great idea.
Speaker 2: I'm an ideas woman. That is such a good idea,
Speaker 2: even if you went to Target. I like that.
Speaker 1: Oh my favorite sleep stuff bed stuff is Society of Wonderers.
Speaker 1: It's so expensive, but it's so good really just over time.
Speaker 1: I just stock up and stock up, and it's all clash.
Speaker 1: It all clashes.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I like a class's so great.
Speaker 1: I love it very very much. All Right, we're gonna
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