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Speaker 1: This is the Fitting and Whip with Kate Richie podcast.

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Speaker 2: Children.

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Speaker 3: You have to nurture, you have to listen, you have

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Speaker 3: to approach them with arms wide open. That was just

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Speaker 3: a segue for me to get into a sting from Creed.

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Speaker 2: Everybody, and that's it. Thanks for the break and we're.

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Speaker 3: Going to have James Bay on the show at seven

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Speaker 3: point thirty.

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Speaker 4: You are the best in the business.

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Speaker 2: Both enough Creed on the show. Do we thank you?

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Speaker 4: Oh no, We've had plenty.

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Speaker 3: So it's a little bit nerve wracking parent teaching because

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Speaker 3: you don't know, I mean your kids. They don't tell

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Speaker 3: you how they're going at school. This is the thing.

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Speaker 3: You can see their grades obviously, and you get their reports,

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Speaker 3: but you want to know how they're getting along. Are

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Speaker 3: they disrupting the class? What are they doing there? So

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Speaker 3: last night it's changed up at Hughey's High School because

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Speaker 3: now you've got to go and see every teacher with

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Speaker 3: two and a half hours, I said, I don't do

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Speaker 3: this stuff. I don't do it ain twenty four to ten.

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Speaker 3: What have you seen at a parent teacher night? Because

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Speaker 3: last night, being there for close to three hours opened

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Speaker 3: my eyes on We had to wait around quite a

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Speaker 3: bit for like the next teacher.

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Speaker 5: Oh you love that stuff. You're mad for the hurry

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Speaker 5: up and wait. In fact, I'm going to put it

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Speaker 5: out there.

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Speaker 4: Fits. You're the most patient man I've ever met.

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Speaker 2: Extraordinary patience. I'm never frustrated.

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Speaker 3: Well, one of them was forty minutes between eh I

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Speaker 3: said the bea. I said, I'm going I'm going to

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Speaker 3: go across the road at the shopping said I'm going

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Speaker 3: to get a coffee. I'm out of here. I'm not

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Speaker 3: hanging around waiting.

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Speaker 4: For my child and my family.

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Speaker 3: Do you know what, Well, this is the moment, Kate,

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Speaker 3: that I realized that, you know, you've got to be

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Speaker 3: a little bit more accepting of your children, because you

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Speaker 3: were just as impatient as your child was. And I

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Speaker 3: looked around last night and there was one mom was

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Speaker 3: crying an in a parent teacher interview. And I'm thinking, okay, well,

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Speaker 3: where all right, hue was Huey gets a lot of

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Speaker 3: he gets a lot of he's at a group, he's

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Speaker 3: at a table of boys who like to talk and

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Speaker 3: they like to muck around a bit. But do you

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Speaker 3: know what we got, Kate, which you sort of there's

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Speaker 3: a little bit of a fist pump there, the teacher

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Speaker 3: always said. But you know, if I can tell, if

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Speaker 3: I tell Huie to stop it, he's usually pretty good.

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Speaker 3: And if I move him to another table, he's always

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Speaker 3: prepared to put his hand up because he knows he's

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Speaker 3: not concentrating, and he will go somewhere else.

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Speaker 4: Okay, well that's good.

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Speaker 3: We even had one teacher go, look, the table that

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Speaker 3: Hue's at is disruptive, but your child is not the

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Speaker 3: one that I'm worried about. And I looked at Paja.

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Speaker 2: Yes, we're out of here. Do you know I can't

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Speaker 2: understand this modern day wage teacher that what if you're

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Speaker 2: seeing five or six teachers depending on the subject, amount

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Speaker 2: can't throw it into the old chat GPT and AI

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Speaker 2: can spit out a conclusion. Oh so you don't need

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Speaker 2: to sit face to face with him, and fits you

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Speaker 2: get an email where it's really just summarizing everybody's feedback

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Speaker 2: and into one sentence.

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Speaker 4: I would rather attend.

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Speaker 5: I'm a bit of a like detailed hard copy person,

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Speaker 5: you know, So don't send me another email because I

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Speaker 5: may not get to it, and then I won't find

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Speaker 5: it in the file, and then I'll have to pretend

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Speaker 5: I've seen it. If I've given a time and I

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Speaker 5: go and I'm face to face, I know that box

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Speaker 5: is tipped.

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Speaker 2: See my parents took it as though, here's my chance

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Speaker 2: to have a go at the teacher. Based on the

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Speaker 2: feedback I'd.

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Speaker 4: Given that they must have loved your.

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Speaker 2: Shows, especially the sports teacher that used to pick on

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Speaker 2: me for being hairy. So take off your shirt, your

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Speaker 2: big ape, and show us what you can do on

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Speaker 2: the on the dumbbell.

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Speaker 3: You obviously made his life hell as well, so.

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Speaker 2: Say that, come here, you're big sweet tringer, that tree swinger,

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Speaker 2: sweet tringer. What's a sweet sweet sweet trimmersh mat in.

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Speaker 4: The kitchen for the old potato peel?

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Speaker 2: Would I'm out from the cupboard?

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Speaker 6: Do you know what?

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Speaker 3: There was a funny moment last night. I'm mates with

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Speaker 3: one of the dads, right, there was a funny moment

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Speaker 3: where I was watching him through the glass with one

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Speaker 3: of the teachers, and he could not concentrate himself, so

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Speaker 3: every time.

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Speaker 2: The teacher was talking, he would be.

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Speaker 3: Looking around to see if he knew anybody.

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Speaker 2: He wasn't even listening to the teacher.

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Speaker 3: And I'm going, what is it?

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Speaker 2: What chance does the kid have.

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Speaker 3: I said to him afterwards, what chance does the kid

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Speaker 5: And I think that's what a lot of the teachers

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Speaker 5: get out of the parent teacher is that if they

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Speaker 5: are having an issue with a particular student to time,

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Speaker 5: they then have the parents sitting in front of them,

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Speaker 5: and in their mind they're thinking, well, his kid's got

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Speaker 5: no hope.

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Speaker 2: Thurteen twenty four to ten.

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Speaker 3: What did you see at the parent teacher interview? I?

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Speaker 3: Amy and glenmore part? What happened? Eames?

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Speaker 7: Hello? My son was in Hindi and they had I'd

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Speaker 7: love to say the experiment where they watched the ducks

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Speaker 7: grow up and they had them in the class. They

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Speaker 7: got five minutes patting their duck and my son's duck

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Speaker 7: went to heaven.

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Speaker 5: He squeezed it today.

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Speaker 2: Ye see, that's quite beautiful, isn't it.

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Speaker 7: But I'm actually also working a school and I've seen

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Speaker 7: the other side of parents.

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Speaker 4: How do you How do you deal with them? Who

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Speaker 4: are your favorites to deal with?

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Speaker 7: Honestly?

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Speaker 6: Like, I actually love the cryers?

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Speaker 2: Do you?

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Speaker 7: We do get criers? I just think it means they

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Speaker 7: actually care. The ones that sit there and look around

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Speaker 7: like you can tell where their kids get it from?

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Speaker 2: Right? Well?

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Speaker 3: Amy, Amy, can I also say as well, because they

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Speaker 3: you get a lot of parents that are defensive and

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Speaker 3: they like to blame you. Do you have any exercises

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Speaker 3: that you have at parents tea to night where you

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Speaker 3: just take a deep breath or do you circle something

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Speaker 3: kind of piece of paper or what do you do

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Speaker 3: just to calm down?

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Speaker 7: We always pretend to write.

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Speaker 2: Doesn't even have any internet.

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Speaker 5: You're gonna have to buy a pencil.

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Speaker 2: What do you write it down?

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Speaker 8: Okay?

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Speaker 3: Well, okay Vanessa in Southerland? What did you see that

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Speaker 3: the parent teacher not?

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Speaker 8: I saw a father on his phone, like he's just

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Speaker 8: so not interested adding phone, they're watching your footing. I

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Speaker 8: had a bit of a giggle just you know, but

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Speaker 8: totally tuned out as to what the teacher was saying,

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Speaker 8: you know, just following his team and realegally enjoying.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you might have had a bed on Vanessa, you

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Speaker 2: know what I mean?

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Speaker 8: Yeah, that's right, you never know. But I just wanted

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Speaker 8: to add just in terms of like how complicated it

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Speaker 8: is to even booking a parent teacher interview, you know,

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Speaker 8: having to go into an app lock it in and

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Speaker 8: then trying to find when you get there on the night.

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Speaker 8: Oh my goodness, what order have I got? Trying to

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Speaker 8: remember the time just really confusing. Tell me to be

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Speaker 8: and you know, lock out an hour, let's do it.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, there was a lot of that. It was confusing,

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Speaker 3: but but do you know what, there was a lot

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Speaker 3: of parents that didn't even rock up. The other thing

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Speaker 3: that we do have to stress here is I recommend

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Speaker 3: teachers like the patients that you need to have for

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Speaker 3: that job. It is a tough, tough job. We even

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Speaker 3: spoke to a teacher last night. He's only had Huey

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Speaker 3: for like four weeks, and he was like, and he

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Speaker 3: was so lovely. He's going, oh, I don't really don't

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Speaker 3: really know your son too will yet, but I've only

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Speaker 3: had this class for four weeks.

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Speaker 2: Do you have the option two fits of still doing

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Speaker 2: it on zoom? No, we do. We don't go to

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Speaker 2: the school, We don't bother. You can do it or

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Speaker 2: do it on zoom.

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Speaker 3: That's not bad, Alison and Norell And you're a teacher,

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Speaker 3: what did you see, Alison.

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Speaker 1: So we've had a number of different things happen, and

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Speaker 1: the last one or the worst one I saw was

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Speaker 1: a student had had such a bad evening with parent

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Speaker 1: interviews that his parents walked out and left him at school.

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Speaker 5: Oh no, it wasn't a boarding school.

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Speaker 1: It was just a normal no, no, no, no, normal school.

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Speaker 1: He was seeing a student, So yeah, sixteen to eighteen.

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Speaker 1: But yeah, he got left behind and they did not

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Speaker 1: come back and get him here. He had to go

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Speaker 1: and catch a train to get home or.

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Speaker 4: Abandoned.

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Speaker 5: And I look, I know it's hard for parents because

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Speaker 5: that sometimes they are pulling their hair out thinking I

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Speaker 5: just don't. I'm like, the tank is.

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Speaker 2: Empty, you can't get through it.

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Speaker 5: What more can I do? But like, sometimes those kids

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Speaker 5: they need you more.

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Speaker 3: We'll see. We've done it with time a couple of

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Speaker 3: times at listener events where we've just left him there

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Speaker 3: and to find his home.

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Speaker 2: That's true Christmas party.

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Speaker 3: I don't blame you, guys, Amy Merrickville, what went down

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Speaker 3: at the parent teacher interview?

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Speaker 6: So it wasn't me, but one of my good friends

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Speaker 6: is a teacher and she'd been seeing a guy who

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Speaker 6: wasn't serious but on the dating app they'd gone on

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Speaker 6: a few dates and she wasn't sure of his last name. Yet,

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Speaker 6: but the the parents rocked up for one of the

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Speaker 6: kids and it was her date with his wife.

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Speaker 2: You little beauty, I'd pay to be there. There's a

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Speaker 2: TV show and that Amy. What happened him?

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Speaker 3: Do you know?

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Speaker 2: Did he take off or did they just play straight back?

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Speaker 6: He was He was very, very awkward and very sheepish.

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Speaker 6: She was professional and just got on with it. And

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Speaker 6: clearly they unmatched as soon as they left the She

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Speaker 6: unmatched him as soon as they.

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Speaker 2: Left them, going on in a badly timed teacher interview,

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Speaker 2: badly time.

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Speaker 4: It's not about the interview.

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Speaker 2: Sorry, other levels to this story.

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