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Speaker 2: Welcome back to you another episode of am I Mad
Speaker 2: Mom Podcast? The content that just keeps on giving children.
Speaker 2: I was talking to someone the other day and they
Speaker 2: had I think, like a twenty year old and an
Speaker 2: eighteen year old, and they were like, they need us
Speaker 2: more now and cost us more money than they did
Speaker 2: as kids. In my mind, I'm checking out at eighteen.
Speaker 2: I'm like, that's me done. I've already worked out what's
Speaker 2: the rest of the school fees going to be like
Speaker 2: for one more year and then that's all done.
Speaker 1: Ye No, apparently not.
Speaker 2: They say kids for even longer.
Speaker 3: I know, but I think it's because it comes from
Speaker 3: like our learnings come from exactly that you and I
Speaker 3: at eighteen, tapping out, See you later, Mum and dad.
Speaker 1: I'm out of here. I'm going to take on the world.
Speaker 3: I was moving cities, I was doing I was as
Speaker 3: fast as I possibly could to go and you know,
Speaker 3: just get out there and see what life's all about.
Speaker 3: And then nowadays, I think obviously it's different. They all
Speaker 3: want to stay as long as they can because it's
Speaker 3: cheaper and it's too expensive on the real world part,
Speaker 3: and you just.
Speaker 2: It's also really hard to get rentals now like it
Speaker 2: used to be super easy.
Speaker 1: Now it's hard to get rentals.
Speaker 2: It's more expensive, it's impossible to get on the property ladder,
Speaker 2: like where they.
Speaker 1: Going to be fucking living in our house? And the fish.
Speaker 1: I'm not even joking, absolutely not. Am I a bad
Speaker 1: mum for not knowing when to stop? This would be
Speaker 1: like a insight.
Speaker 3: We talk about it on here a lot, and I'm
Speaker 3: just trying to edge in on the fact that this
Speaker 3: is going to be all about.
Speaker 1: A four of my parenting.
Speaker 3: I get on this role in this spin of like
Speaker 3: my brain can't understand why you're not getting it, no
Speaker 3: matter how many times we've come up with this, and
Speaker 3: no matter how many times I'll say, there's same thing
Speaker 3: over and over again. And I sometimes get to the
Speaker 3: point where I'm so sarcastic or I'm so on a
Speaker 3: spin that I can't stop the spinning, so meaning like
Speaker 3: repetitive over and over, but you're not getting it, but
Speaker 3: you're not getting it, like and just fucking just stop,
Speaker 3: rach it is getting you nowhere. She's actually zoned out.
Speaker 3: She doesn't fucking give a shit at this stage. But
Speaker 3: it's just something in myself, especially solo parenting for you know.
Speaker 1: Ever, ever.
Speaker 3: That it's been a really big eye open few me
Speaker 3: and my parenting.
Speaker 1: That I've gone, oh, I really need.
Speaker 3: Some help with changing that, because I also know where
Speaker 3: it comes from in terms of like my own childhood,
Speaker 3: Like this is like deep like my own childhood, my own.
Speaker 1: Parents, their behaviors.
Speaker 3: Now I look at it and go, fuck, you are
Speaker 3: acting just like said person.
Speaker 1: And so this.
Speaker 3: Comes off the back of and I know that you're
Speaker 3: going to go, ah, yeah, I get it, But this
Speaker 3: comes off the back of week two and high school
Speaker 3: first day back into week two and oh, sorry, lost
Speaker 3: my lunchbox. Now not just the lunchbox, but then the
Speaker 3: cold packs that you've just bought recently because we're going
Speaker 3: into a new year containers and the containers that were
Speaker 3: in there, and then also the bag that it goes
Speaker 3: in because that's brand new.
Speaker 1: It's brand new school like school year, brand new.
Speaker 3: Two weeks in Katie, I was just like, but how
Speaker 3: And she looked at me like, because I just didn't
Speaker 3: have any room in my bag. No, but when you're
Speaker 3: left this morning, you had the same stuff in your
Speaker 3: bag and it fit. Then when I put it in there,
Speaker 3: it fit perfectly actually just sat.
Speaker 1: In there, right nut spot. She goes, well, you know
Speaker 1: it might be in Christie's car. You could check.
Speaker 3: Yeah, sure, how about I go and check to see
Speaker 3: where your fucking lunchbox is because you've lost it.
Speaker 2: Oh we've got a lost lunchbox too. Two weeks in
Speaker 2: to school. And I only noticed. I wasn't told that
Speaker 2: the lunchbox was missing. I only noticed because on the
Speaker 2: kitchen bench before they went to school that morning, Amelia
Speaker 2: as got my bottle bag that I take wine to
Speaker 2: people's houses in and I'm like, what are you taking that?
Speaker 2: For sure it's got my lunch in it. I was like,
Speaker 2: why because I had lost my lunchbox. Oh, so you
Speaker 2: lost your lunchbox. Now you're taking my stuff so you
Speaker 2: can then lose to school and you're not going to
Speaker 2: tell me about the lunchbox. And what about the containers.
Speaker 2: Containers drive me crazy. I don't know, containers gets all
Speaker 2: the freaking time.
Speaker 3: Yeah. Well, this particular lunch box when I like, it's
Speaker 3: like almost like a bento box.
Speaker 1: But you know, you go out of your way to.
Speaker 3: Be like a nice mom, and I got them for them,
Speaker 3: and they've lasted a year and we're now in the
Speaker 3: second year of having these, and they're good quality ones.
Speaker 3: They're not just a quick disposable one anyway. It's come
Speaker 3: home for a whole year from primary school. But we
Speaker 3: have one weekend to high school. Oh we could try Christy.
Speaker 3: It might be in her car, might have taken it out.
Speaker 2: But it's the like the zero fox given and like
Speaker 2: I was like, I don't ye, will just buy me?
Speaker 1: And I just like having a box of matches.
Speaker 3: I don't know if this is right, but it was
Speaker 3: like she's sitting there just like with the box matches,
Speaker 3: and she's flicking them and throwing them at I mean,
Speaker 3: like just to see how far the fucking fuel of
Speaker 3: the fire could run, like like that analogy.
Speaker 1: It's good.
Speaker 3: And then the fire I just kept burning bigger and
Speaker 3: bigger and bigger and bigger, and all of a sudden
Speaker 3: it's fucking bush fire. And that is me just yelling
Speaker 3: at her in this car, going.
Speaker 1: What the fuck is wrong with you?
Speaker 3: Why can't you just see that it fits when you
Speaker 3: left this.
Speaker 2: Morning fish, she can be bothered to move stuff around
Speaker 2: in there because they don't put stuff back in neatly.
Speaker 1: No, just like when they go for a sleepover.
Speaker 2: I would always and I don't do this now because
Speaker 2: they're old enough, but I would always fold everything nicely
Speaker 2: and it would fit in there neatly.
Speaker 1: Yeah, just fucking screw up.
Speaker 3: Yeah no, So for me, like she always does her
Speaker 3: own bag, but like lunch bag at the moment, I
Speaker 3: have been really cautious of just going like, hey, I'm
Speaker 3: just letting you know that this laptop, she's not going
Speaker 3: to be replaced, and if it does get replaced, it's
Speaker 3: coming out of your account. And I'm just letting you
Speaker 3: know that this is not going to be a drill.
Speaker 3: I'm actually really, really really serious on this. Because cover
Speaker 3: on the laptop, so there's a cover then that goes
Speaker 3: inside the you know, like a laptop bag kind of thing, right,
Speaker 3: and now their school bag has even got a section
Speaker 3: at the back. Would she's a little bit more padded
Speaker 3: that sits flush on their back, but it just all
Speaker 3: you have to do is pull it open and your
Speaker 3: laptop fits straight in there. So then when I open
Speaker 3: the bag up, like it's not in that far, it's
Speaker 3: not even in the fucking case. It's just thrown in again,
Speaker 3: think about that analogy. Now she's got the whole box.
Speaker 3: Imagine just throwing that in. I just like, what is
Speaker 3: wrong with you?
Speaker 1: Like I was on a roll, Katie.
Speaker 3: And now going back to the whole point of this,
Speaker 3: I just needed to stop. I needed to stop going
Speaker 3: on about the same thing. I needed to stop reiterating myself.
Speaker 3: I needed to stop. I just needed to stop. I
Speaker 3: should just pull the car over and got out of
Speaker 3: the car and screamed like an actual psychopath, and then
Speaker 3: just got back in the car and just let it
Speaker 3: sink in as we drove home. Because then she says
Speaker 3: to me, it should be in Christie's car. So then
Speaker 3: I'm ringing Christy and I leave her a message that
Speaker 3: would have been so abrupt, not towards her, but just
Speaker 3: going let me know if Gracie's lunchbox is in there,
Speaker 3: and then no word back from Christy. Something probably not.
Speaker 3: Finally speak to Christy at about like eight o'clock last night.
Speaker 3: She's laughing her head off, which she said, it's not
Speaker 3: in the CARDA. I'm really sorry, she said, but you
Speaker 3: should try Translink tomorrow and they'll have a lost property.
Speaker 3: So you just have to ring Translink. They'll put you
Speaker 3: through to the lost property and then you have to
Speaker 3: drive to the depot to the lost property to.
Speaker 1: Pick it Katie on the bus.
Speaker 3: Yeah, because that's what Grace is how she rounded it
Speaker 3: off to me like it was like a look and
Speaker 3: if it's not with Christy, it could just be on
Speaker 3: the bus.
Speaker 1: That's what she said to me. Worst case scenario, Man,
Speaker 1: it's just on the bus.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we have had AirPods left on the bus. They're
Speaker 2: pretty good. I called them up. They found them, and Katie,
Speaker 2: it's my time.
Speaker 3: I don't have time to sit ringing Translink to go
Speaker 3: to Translink.
Speaker 1: To pick it up from their lost property.
Speaker 2: And the thing is that you want her to care
Speaker 2: enough to be putting in the effort to be doing
Speaker 2: that stuff, and she's not because she doesn't care because
Speaker 2: it's not her money.
Speaker 1: She didn't buy it.
Speaker 3: And that's what all she gave me all the way
Speaker 3: through it. So rounding back to what I needed to do,
Speaker 3: like I said, get out of the car screen, act
Speaker 3: like a psychopath, kick the wheel or something, and then
Speaker 3: get back in and just just stop, Rachel, just stop.
Speaker 2: Where were you when you got out of the current
Speaker 2: screen to tell me it.
Speaker 1: Was a popular place.
Speaker 3: Tell me everyone around I literally think about like literally
Speaker 3: blood boiling, and I just had to stop. I just
Speaker 3: had to Rachel repeating herself is not going to work.
Speaker 3: It's not going to change the situation. It's not going
Speaker 3: to bring the lunch box back. She's actually not giving
Speaker 3: a fuck about this at the moment, but she will
Speaker 3: later went. I just said to her, Okay, if we
Speaker 3: don't get it back, I said, just giving you a
Speaker 3: roundabout figure fifty for the lunchbox ice box would be
Speaker 3: like ten to twelve dollars. If I'm getting it from
Speaker 3: came out in the lunchbox that's inside of it would
Speaker 3: be another forty. I said, So that's one hundred out
Speaker 3: of your account, just letting you know, so I can
Speaker 3: replace it tomorrow.
Speaker 1: Just an if why, She's just like, you're taking out
Speaker 1: on my account.
Speaker 3: I said, well yeah, I said, that's how we learn responsibility.
Speaker 3: You keep banging on about just trust me, mam, I'm responsible.
Speaker 2: Yeah, if it makes you feel any better. My girls
Speaker 2: also don't use their laptop cases, okay. And then they
Speaker 2: walk around over the tiles with a naked laptop and
Speaker 2: I'm like, God, all that takes for you to drop
Speaker 2: that on the floor, Yeah, and it's smashed.
Speaker 3: My thing with Graceie has been I've used your girls
Speaker 3: as an example.
Speaker 1: Sorry.
Speaker 3: Girls might have added a bit of GST on the
Speaker 3: story and said that they paid for their own laptops,
Speaker 3: but I was like, just it's not going to happen. Yeah,
Speaker 3: this is your time to really step up. You want
Speaker 3: to be in high school, you want to be treated
Speaker 3: like a high schooler, you want to do all of this.
Speaker 3: I said, I understand that it's a long day at school,
Speaker 3: but these are the small things that make up the
Speaker 3: big picture.
Speaker 2: Insurance is actually not helpful. I mean it's helpful, but
Speaker 2: it's actually not helpful when you try and teach them
Speaker 2: a lesson because both girls have had their laptops replaced
Speaker 2: over the years, and both were water damage. Liquid damage,
Speaker 2: that's the biggest problem. And then it would cost more
Speaker 2: to fix the laptop than just replace it. Both were
Speaker 2: covered under insurance, which is great but annoying at the
Speaker 2: same time because nothing they get a brand new laptop.
Speaker 3: Yeah, your excess at the end of the day is
Speaker 3: going up. They just go, it's all right, yeah.
Speaker 1: He's with that. Anyway.
Speaker 2: That does whine me up that you claim on the
Speaker 2: insurance that you've paid for you've paid every month for
Speaker 2: your insurance and then the minute you claim, they bung
Speaker 2: it out because.
Speaker 1: More of a high risk.
Speaker 3: Why because my child's built water on their laptop. Yeah,
Speaker 3: speaking of high risk insurance claims. My coffee machine is
Speaker 3: like dead, flat out gone right. Why because the cockroaches
Speaker 3: ate the board that runs it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, ricking, that's claimable.
Speaker 2: No, and you know why I know that's claimable. You
Speaker 2: had the exact same thing happen with our air conditioning units,
Speaker 2: and they went, oh, it was gecko damage, So they'll
Speaker 2: cover for animals.
Speaker 1: They don't cover for animals. What about kids? They fucking animals.
Speaker 1: They broke my laptop, You covered that.