1 00:00:00,480 --> 00:00:02,640 Speaker 1: I got our team. I hope you're bloody terrific. Welcome 2 00:00:02,680 --> 00:00:07,600 Speaker 1: to another installment of it's going to say your favorite podcast. 3 00:00:07,640 --> 00:00:10,760 Speaker 1: But that's very fucking presumptuous. You could be a first 4 00:00:10,760 --> 00:00:13,800 Speaker 1: timer and you're thinking, I'm not sure about this. I'm 5 00:00:13,840 --> 00:00:16,640 Speaker 1: going to give it thirty seconds and then I'm out. 6 00:00:16,720 --> 00:00:18,800 Speaker 1: If so, you may already be out. If you're still here, 7 00:00:18,880 --> 00:00:21,160 Speaker 1: welcome if you're a newbie, if you're a first timer 8 00:00:21,280 --> 00:00:24,600 Speaker 1: or a second or third timer. If you're a stallwart. 9 00:00:25,120 --> 00:00:28,560 Speaker 1: What's a store wart? I think it's somebody who's been 10 00:00:28,560 --> 00:00:31,400 Speaker 1: around for a long time. If you're a typ stalwart, 11 00:00:32,240 --> 00:00:37,080 Speaker 1: hey appreciate you. So you will notice the last few 12 00:00:37,159 --> 00:00:42,199 Speaker 1: days have been a solo Greg Anthony Harper, who for 13 00:00:42,280 --> 00:00:45,239 Speaker 1: some strange reason is talking in the third person. And 14 00:00:46,000 --> 00:00:48,000 Speaker 1: so I'm going to give you the snapshot as to 15 00:00:48,360 --> 00:00:51,559 Speaker 1: why that is. So. What happens when you produce a 16 00:00:51,680 --> 00:00:56,400 Speaker 1: daily podcast a three hundred and sixty five days of 17 00:00:56,440 --> 00:01:03,280 Speaker 1: the year show, about three hundred and fifty five to 18 00:01:03,480 --> 00:01:08,720 Speaker 1: sixty of those, generally three hundred and sixty are ones 19 00:01:08,760 --> 00:01:12,080 Speaker 1: that I have recorded, like I'm recording right now today 20 00:01:12,200 --> 00:01:15,920 Speaker 1: Sunday for tomorrow Monday, A few times a year, we 21 00:01:16,000 --> 00:01:19,640 Speaker 1: might replace something that was very popular that's old because 22 00:01:20,280 --> 00:01:24,199 Speaker 1: for a range of reasons, we can't get a new podcast, 23 00:01:24,240 --> 00:01:29,160 Speaker 1: a brand new content podcast up. The practical reality you 24 00:01:29,200 --> 00:01:31,319 Speaker 1: don't need to know this. Some of you might be interested, though, 25 00:01:31,360 --> 00:01:34,600 Speaker 1: But the practical reality of my life is this full 26 00:01:34,640 --> 00:01:38,200 Speaker 1: time work, which is corporate speaking, which is corporate consulting, 27 00:01:38,280 --> 00:01:40,319 Speaker 1: which is a little bit of coaching that I don't 28 00:01:40,319 --> 00:01:43,039 Speaker 1: do much of anymore, which is a little bit of 29 00:01:43,120 --> 00:01:47,400 Speaker 1: what I would call unpaid helping people out stuff as well, 30 00:01:47,440 --> 00:01:52,000 Speaker 1: which is part of my purpose and mission. And on 31 00:01:52,040 --> 00:01:55,120 Speaker 1: top of that, as most of you know, full time 32 00:01:55,400 --> 00:02:00,240 Speaker 1: ish kind of fluctuating between part and full time research 33 00:02:00,040 --> 00:02:04,760 Speaker 1: ch PhD study. At the moments, maybe if you're interested, 34 00:02:04,880 --> 00:02:09,720 Speaker 1: maybe around six months away from submitting my thesis, handing 35 00:02:09,760 --> 00:02:12,320 Speaker 1: that in and in the middle of writing what's called 36 00:02:12,320 --> 00:02:16,919 Speaker 1: a systematic literature review, a couple of empirical papers and 37 00:02:16,960 --> 00:02:20,160 Speaker 1: a thesis, which is about an eighty thousand word kind 38 00:02:20,240 --> 00:02:24,560 Speaker 1: of sixty to eighty thousand word kind of story of 39 00:02:24,600 --> 00:02:31,480 Speaker 1: your PhD journey. So it's called a PhD project my projects, 40 00:02:31,520 --> 00:02:33,640 Speaker 1: So that will be the kind of the story from 41 00:02:34,240 --> 00:02:39,560 Speaker 1: day one November one, twenty nineteen to the end of 42 00:02:39,600 --> 00:02:43,320 Speaker 1: this yearish, early next yearish, and what research I've done, 43 00:02:43,400 --> 00:02:48,600 Speaker 1: what studies I've run, what participants I had, protocol, methodology, 44 00:02:48,680 --> 00:02:51,520 Speaker 1: how we did it, what we discovered, what we looked at, 45 00:02:51,520 --> 00:02:54,360 Speaker 1: why we looked at it, why the world needs his science, 46 00:02:54,400 --> 00:02:59,240 Speaker 1: and so on, and a couple of older parents and 47 00:02:59,680 --> 00:03:01,720 Speaker 1: trying to go to the gym every day, and so 48 00:03:01,800 --> 00:03:05,720 Speaker 1: that adds up to a very busy existence. And the 49 00:03:05,720 --> 00:03:11,480 Speaker 1: podcast is very important to me. And part of the 50 00:03:11,520 --> 00:03:17,000 Speaker 1: reality of our situation is that I'm always trying to 51 00:03:17,000 --> 00:03:23,600 Speaker 1: get good guests for you, and I probably receive emails 52 00:03:23,639 --> 00:03:27,760 Speaker 1: from I don't mean to sound disrespectful, but somewhere between 53 00:03:27,800 --> 00:03:30,200 Speaker 1: ten and fifty people a week who want to be 54 00:03:30,280 --> 00:03:37,240 Speaker 1: on the show, who for a range of reasons, probably 55 00:03:37,280 --> 00:03:40,840 Speaker 1: aren't great choices for the show. They don't want to 56 00:03:40,880 --> 00:03:44,160 Speaker 1: be you know, you can figure it out, you know 57 00:03:44,200 --> 00:03:47,440 Speaker 1: what I'm saying. Anyway, And some people are great and 58 00:03:47,480 --> 00:03:52,040 Speaker 1: some people get through that way, but please don't send 59 00:03:52,040 --> 00:03:54,000 Speaker 1: me an email to be on the show at the moment. 60 00:03:54,120 --> 00:03:57,880 Speaker 1: Thank you, please, and thank you. Generally, I chase people 61 00:03:57,880 --> 00:04:01,320 Speaker 1: that I want to talk to, but also I guess 62 00:04:01,320 --> 00:04:05,440 Speaker 1: the practical reality of that is for every one hundred 63 00:04:05,480 --> 00:04:08,840 Speaker 1: people that we and when I say we generally Melissa 64 00:04:08,920 --> 00:04:12,760 Speaker 1: or Tiff, we send an email to to reach out 65 00:04:12,800 --> 00:04:15,880 Speaker 1: to to be on the show. Of the ninety the 66 00:04:15,880 --> 00:04:18,800 Speaker 1: one hundred emails that we send out, we maybe get 67 00:04:18,880 --> 00:04:24,400 Speaker 1: five to ten responses, so ninety five people don't respond, 68 00:04:25,120 --> 00:04:28,599 Speaker 1: and that we might get somewhere between one and five 69 00:04:28,760 --> 00:04:32,479 Speaker 1: people over the line to now, when you do seven 70 00:04:32,520 --> 00:04:35,880 Speaker 1: shows a week, every week of the year, that's just 71 00:04:35,920 --> 00:04:39,640 Speaker 1: a practical reality that's at times, you know, because this 72 00:04:39,800 --> 00:04:44,680 Speaker 1: is not my primary it's very important to me, but 73 00:04:45,120 --> 00:04:47,559 Speaker 1: obviously there's a lot of moving parts on Planet Craig, 74 00:04:48,360 --> 00:04:51,359 Speaker 1: and so when we can't get like I could have 75 00:04:51,400 --> 00:04:53,520 Speaker 1: a different guest every single day of the year, I 76 00:04:53,520 --> 00:04:56,640 Speaker 1: could probably have three or four, but they wouldn't be 77 00:04:56,680 --> 00:04:59,080 Speaker 1: guests that I would be happy with. They wouldn't be 78 00:04:59,120 --> 00:05:06,720 Speaker 1: guests that would be of value to you. And yes, 79 00:05:06,839 --> 00:05:09,440 Speaker 1: that's a little bit presumptuous, but I've done this for 80 00:05:09,480 --> 00:05:12,200 Speaker 1: a fucking long time, and so I know, and they've 81 00:05:12,279 --> 00:05:15,080 Speaker 1: been a lot of not a lot, but they've been 82 00:05:15,200 --> 00:05:17,599 Speaker 1: quite a number of podcasts that none of you know 83 00:05:17,720 --> 00:05:21,400 Speaker 1: about that I recorded that just were not good enough 84 00:05:22,040 --> 00:05:25,680 Speaker 1: to they didn't meet the standard, and they were not 85 00:05:25,800 --> 00:05:29,960 Speaker 1: something that I would be happy to share anyway, my 86 00:05:30,120 --> 00:05:35,440 Speaker 1: long winded, fucking round about messages. So there are going 87 00:05:35,520 --> 00:05:39,320 Speaker 1: to be periodically there will be weeks where there might 88 00:05:39,400 --> 00:05:43,280 Speaker 1: be seven interviews and there will be weeks where there 89 00:05:43,400 --> 00:05:47,480 Speaker 1: might be two interviews and five solos from me. I 90 00:05:49,480 --> 00:05:53,520 Speaker 1: get different feedback about both. Some people really enjoy the 91 00:05:55,240 --> 00:05:58,760 Speaker 1: me and you coaching format where I'm just sharing essentially 92 00:05:58,760 --> 00:06:03,239 Speaker 1: I'm doing an education or a coaching session. Some people 93 00:06:03,360 --> 00:06:05,520 Speaker 1: enjoy that. Some people are like, Nah, not so much. 94 00:06:05,560 --> 00:06:08,400 Speaker 1: I just want to listen to you talk to interesting people. 95 00:06:08,480 --> 00:06:13,680 Speaker 1: I completely get that either way, whatever your preferences, totally 96 00:06:13,720 --> 00:06:18,200 Speaker 1: get it. Just know that, Just know that I'm always 97 00:06:18,200 --> 00:06:22,479 Speaker 1: doing my best to give you something every day that 98 00:06:22,560 --> 00:06:27,440 Speaker 1: will be of value to you. And sometimes you know, 99 00:06:27,520 --> 00:06:30,760 Speaker 1: there are I can't say for obvious reasons, but sometimes 100 00:06:30,800 --> 00:06:34,960 Speaker 1: there are interviews that, even with some high profile people 101 00:06:35,000 --> 00:06:41,880 Speaker 1: I've done that just were what were the word A 102 00:06:41,920 --> 00:06:44,960 Speaker 1: fucking train wreck. I'll be honest, and I can't use it. 103 00:06:45,120 --> 00:06:47,119 Speaker 1: I can't use it, won't use it. It's not gonna 104 00:06:47,600 --> 00:06:49,760 Speaker 1: not going to do me or you any good. It's 105 00:06:49,800 --> 00:06:52,120 Speaker 1: not going to do that person any good, And so 106 00:06:52,160 --> 00:06:57,000 Speaker 1: we just figure it out. So today is you and me. 107 00:06:57,600 --> 00:06:59,720 Speaker 1: Today is And I know I didn't need to say 108 00:06:59,720 --> 00:07:02,520 Speaker 1: any of that, and clearly I just press the go 109 00:07:02,600 --> 00:07:04,760 Speaker 1: button and start recording and talk. And I think that 110 00:07:05,440 --> 00:07:09,600 Speaker 1: some of you like that organicness, that this is not scripted, 111 00:07:09,720 --> 00:07:13,400 Speaker 1: This is not Craig reading off anything. And like, I 112 00:07:13,440 --> 00:07:16,040 Speaker 1: know what I'm going to talk about today, but between 113 00:07:16,440 --> 00:07:18,760 Speaker 1: pressing the go button and getting to the stuff that 114 00:07:18,800 --> 00:07:20,800 Speaker 1: I'm actually going to talk about and share with you, 115 00:07:21,400 --> 00:07:24,360 Speaker 1: that space could sometimes that could be one minute of 116 00:07:24,360 --> 00:07:28,040 Speaker 1: a ramble or ten minutes of a ramble. But I 117 00:07:28,080 --> 00:07:32,600 Speaker 1: feel that it's important that I give you a peek 118 00:07:32,640 --> 00:07:36,360 Speaker 1: behind the door of what happens at the U Project 119 00:07:36,680 --> 00:07:42,760 Speaker 1: and in my world and the practical, real world reality 120 00:07:42,920 --> 00:07:48,200 Speaker 1: of trying to produce good content three hundred and sixty 121 00:07:48,240 --> 00:07:50,640 Speaker 1: five days of the year while not going insane, while 122 00:07:50,640 --> 00:07:54,840 Speaker 1: doing a PhD, while traveling around the country, while writing 123 00:07:54,880 --> 00:07:57,360 Speaker 1: a bunch of academic papers and a thesis, and all 124 00:07:57,400 --> 00:08:01,440 Speaker 1: of those things. And it's just no complaining or sooking 125 00:08:01,480 --> 00:08:05,120 Speaker 1: here at all. I'm very very privileged, I'm very blessed, 126 00:08:05,160 --> 00:08:10,320 Speaker 1: and I'm very very grateful for my life. However, it's 127 00:08:10,360 --> 00:08:13,080 Speaker 1: a lot. It's a lot, and so you know, so 128 00:08:13,200 --> 00:08:17,760 Speaker 1: every time I sit down to do this, it's one 129 00:08:17,800 --> 00:08:20,880 Speaker 1: it's an honor and a privilege, but also it's something 130 00:08:20,920 --> 00:08:23,600 Speaker 1: that I need to get myself in the right space 131 00:08:24,440 --> 00:08:26,480 Speaker 1: so that when I show up to do what I'm 132 00:08:26,520 --> 00:08:29,120 Speaker 1: about to do now, which is just a really the 133 00:08:29,200 --> 00:08:31,280 Speaker 1: actual content part of this is probably going to be 134 00:08:31,280 --> 00:08:33,880 Speaker 1: somewhere around fifteen to twenty minutes, but is really just 135 00:08:35,559 --> 00:08:37,720 Speaker 1: something of value to you. And it's just a brief 136 00:08:37,720 --> 00:08:41,679 Speaker 1: coaching session, all right, So here we go. So I'm 137 00:08:41,720 --> 00:08:46,040 Speaker 1: about to share with you some of the questions that 138 00:08:46,080 --> 00:08:49,200 Speaker 1: I use on a daily basis. I've covered some of 139 00:08:49,240 --> 00:08:52,080 Speaker 1: these before, but this is probably just a good little 140 00:08:54,640 --> 00:08:58,440 Speaker 1: what is this like, a good little kind of grouping 141 00:08:58,600 --> 00:09:00,440 Speaker 1: of them. That's not the right word. What am I 142 00:09:00,480 --> 00:09:03,280 Speaker 1: calling a good little list? A fucking hate list? But anyway, 143 00:09:03,559 --> 00:09:07,840 Speaker 1: it's a list, I guess of questions that I use 144 00:09:08,040 --> 00:09:12,640 Speaker 1: on a daily basis, if not almost daily basis. And 145 00:09:12,679 --> 00:09:18,400 Speaker 1: I've used these questions since the nineties, or some of 146 00:09:18,440 --> 00:09:22,840 Speaker 1: these questions since the nineties when I was a personal trainer, 147 00:09:23,240 --> 00:09:28,320 Speaker 1: conditioning coach, and more back in that space. But They 148 00:09:28,360 --> 00:09:35,560 Speaker 1: are the kind of questions that kind of transcend just 149 00:09:35,640 --> 00:09:40,480 Speaker 1: fitness and health and they can kind of spill into 150 00:09:40,640 --> 00:09:44,640 Speaker 1: every and any component of your existence. So here we go. 151 00:09:45,360 --> 00:09:49,640 Speaker 1: So question one is Question one is what specifically do 152 00:09:49,679 --> 00:09:52,360 Speaker 1: you want to change? So everyone that comes to me 153 00:09:53,640 --> 00:09:55,599 Speaker 1: for a consult, everyone that came to me over the 154 00:09:55,679 --> 00:10:01,960 Speaker 1: years as a potential client or member or whatever scenario 155 00:10:02,040 --> 00:10:05,400 Speaker 1: I was in. Every person comes to me because there's 156 00:10:05,480 --> 00:10:09,840 Speaker 1: something about their life, their situation, their habits, their body, 157 00:10:09,880 --> 00:10:14,760 Speaker 1: their relationships, their mindset, their outcomes, the real world results, 158 00:10:14,760 --> 00:10:20,959 Speaker 1: their operating system, their habits, their internal dialogue. There's something 159 00:10:21,000 --> 00:10:26,760 Speaker 1: that isn't working, There's something that needs to change. And 160 00:10:27,240 --> 00:10:29,920 Speaker 1: so when I sit down with somebody, I want to 161 00:10:29,960 --> 00:10:34,040 Speaker 1: really dig into what that is that needs to change. 162 00:10:34,280 --> 00:10:37,400 Speaker 1: So tell me what you want to change, and I 163 00:10:37,480 --> 00:10:42,480 Speaker 1: need as much detail as possible. The more detail we have, 164 00:10:43,400 --> 00:10:46,040 Speaker 1: the more clarity we have, the more focus we have, 165 00:10:46,160 --> 00:10:49,679 Speaker 1: the more ment, the more momentum we create, the better 166 00:10:49,920 --> 00:10:53,240 Speaker 1: the results we create over the long term. So when 167 00:10:53,280 --> 00:10:56,240 Speaker 1: someone says to me something like, you know, I just 168 00:10:56,240 --> 00:11:00,520 Speaker 1: want to I just want to be healthier. Cool? What 169 00:11:00,600 --> 00:11:03,000 Speaker 1: does that mean though? Does that mean you want to 170 00:11:03,040 --> 00:11:05,120 Speaker 1: be able to run five kilometers. Does that mean you 171 00:11:05,120 --> 00:11:07,199 Speaker 1: want a lower resting heart rate? Does that mean you 172 00:11:07,240 --> 00:11:09,959 Speaker 1: want less back pain? Does that mean you want lower 173 00:11:10,000 --> 00:11:12,200 Speaker 1: blood pressure? Does that mean you want to change your 174 00:11:12,200 --> 00:11:16,360 Speaker 1: body composition? You want more muscle and less fat? Does 175 00:11:16,400 --> 00:11:19,080 Speaker 1: that mean that you want to change the way that 176 00:11:19,160 --> 00:11:21,040 Speaker 1: you eat? Do you want to sleep better? Do you 177 00:11:21,040 --> 00:11:23,280 Speaker 1: want to have more do you want to have more energy? 178 00:11:23,559 --> 00:11:27,920 Speaker 1: And So when we have something which is really broad 179 00:11:27,960 --> 00:11:31,840 Speaker 1: and vague and gray and not black and white, not clear, 180 00:11:32,440 --> 00:11:36,600 Speaker 1: not specific, one, it's very hard to create a plan 181 00:11:36,679 --> 00:11:40,920 Speaker 1: and execute a plan around that because the target is 182 00:11:41,000 --> 00:11:48,960 Speaker 1: so fucking vague and two, the less likely we are 183 00:11:49,000 --> 00:11:52,120 Speaker 1: to actually change anything over the long term. For me, 184 00:11:52,640 --> 00:11:55,120 Speaker 1: I've always found both personally for me but also with 185 00:11:55,120 --> 00:11:57,400 Speaker 1: my clients and the people that I work with, the 186 00:11:57,400 --> 00:12:03,800 Speaker 1: more clarity, the more specificity, the the greater the focus 187 00:12:03,880 --> 00:12:08,600 Speaker 1: on the individual thing or things, then the more likely 188 00:12:08,640 --> 00:12:11,800 Speaker 1: we are to build an operating system around that that's 189 00:12:11,920 --> 00:12:14,960 Speaker 1: actually going to work. So number one is what do 190 00:12:15,040 --> 00:12:17,360 Speaker 1: you want to change specifically? Number two is not going 191 00:12:17,400 --> 00:12:20,640 Speaker 1: to be a shocker, and that is why that's going 192 00:12:20,679 --> 00:12:23,160 Speaker 1: to be why why do you want to do it? 193 00:12:24,400 --> 00:12:27,800 Speaker 1: So in goals, we always talk about the what. That's 194 00:12:27,840 --> 00:12:29,960 Speaker 1: the thing I want. The goal is the thing I want. 195 00:12:30,000 --> 00:12:33,280 Speaker 1: It's my what. But the driver, the reason, the motivation, 196 00:12:34,000 --> 00:12:38,960 Speaker 1: the underlying catalyst, like what actually because the why is 197 00:12:39,000 --> 00:12:43,520 Speaker 1: the real motivator. That's the thing that you really want. 198 00:12:43,559 --> 00:12:47,359 Speaker 1: There's the thing that I say I want. For example, 199 00:12:48,480 --> 00:12:51,920 Speaker 1: i want a job where i earn two hundred grand 200 00:12:51,920 --> 00:12:55,720 Speaker 1: a year and I'm in a different place with a 201 00:12:55,720 --> 00:12:58,560 Speaker 1: better boss. So I'm earning more money, I'm in a 202 00:12:58,600 --> 00:13:02,040 Speaker 1: new new environment, and I've got a better boss. That's 203 00:13:02,080 --> 00:13:07,280 Speaker 1: my goal. That's my what. But it's not totally about 204 00:13:07,360 --> 00:13:10,360 Speaker 1: the new environment or the new boss, or the new 205 00:13:10,840 --> 00:13:16,080 Speaker 1: money or the increased wage. It's about what I think 206 00:13:16,120 --> 00:13:19,400 Speaker 1: all that stuff will do for me. What I think 207 00:13:19,440 --> 00:13:23,880 Speaker 1: it'll do for me. It's the reason behind that particular target. 208 00:13:24,160 --> 00:13:27,840 Speaker 1: So I think I have a belief that if, for example, 209 00:13:27,880 --> 00:13:31,680 Speaker 1: in this theoretical example, if I'm making more dough, if 210 00:13:31,720 --> 00:13:33,880 Speaker 1: I've got a better boss, if I'm in a new environment, 211 00:13:33,880 --> 00:13:37,960 Speaker 1: I'm going to be happier. I'm going to be more content, 212 00:13:38,679 --> 00:13:43,440 Speaker 1: I'm going to sleep better, I'm going to enjoy going 213 00:13:43,480 --> 00:13:47,960 Speaker 1: to work. I'm not going to have the same level 214 00:13:48,080 --> 00:13:53,360 Speaker 1: of stress and overthinking and anxiety and all of that stuff. 215 00:13:54,000 --> 00:13:57,840 Speaker 1: Life will be better. I will be better bibberdy Bobby boot. 216 00:13:58,040 --> 00:14:01,920 Speaker 1: And so what I think is my belief is that 217 00:14:02,160 --> 00:14:05,960 Speaker 1: if I number one, if I get my what, which 218 00:14:06,000 --> 00:14:10,720 Speaker 1: is new job, news, new environment, then my why will 219 00:14:10,720 --> 00:14:14,280 Speaker 1: also be met. That is, when I create that external 220 00:14:14,320 --> 00:14:19,720 Speaker 1: shift new boss, new situation, new wage, then my internal 221 00:14:19,840 --> 00:14:24,920 Speaker 1: situation happiness, joy less anxiety, less stress, more purpose, more contentment, 222 00:14:25,000 --> 00:14:29,000 Speaker 1: blah blah blah, then that that will be fixed or 223 00:14:29,000 --> 00:14:33,200 Speaker 1: that will be resolved, Those internal issues will be resolved 224 00:14:34,080 --> 00:14:37,080 Speaker 1: because I'm going to create some kind of external shift. 225 00:14:38,000 --> 00:14:43,080 Speaker 1: Now that might happen, that might not happen, But it's 226 00:14:43,120 --> 00:14:49,080 Speaker 1: always good to to put that initial goal, that initial what, 227 00:14:49,480 --> 00:14:52,440 Speaker 1: under the spotlights so that we can really unpack it 228 00:14:53,120 --> 00:14:57,080 Speaker 1: to see if we've set our sights on the right target, 229 00:14:57,200 --> 00:15:01,240 Speaker 1: on the right goal. So, for example, when I was 230 00:15:01,280 --> 00:15:06,240 Speaker 1: morbidly obese, my what was my what was lose thirty kilos? 231 00:15:06,280 --> 00:15:10,640 Speaker 1: That was my what? My why was? I want to 232 00:15:10,640 --> 00:15:14,720 Speaker 1: be more attractive to someone. I want to be included socially. 233 00:15:14,760 --> 00:15:16,760 Speaker 1: I don't want to be isolated. I want someone to 234 00:15:18,000 --> 00:15:20,760 Speaker 1: pay attention to me. I want better self esteem. I 235 00:15:20,800 --> 00:15:24,800 Speaker 1: want to be emotionally less broken all of these things 236 00:15:24,840 --> 00:15:27,920 Speaker 1: that all of these internal things that I thought that 237 00:15:28,200 --> 00:15:34,280 Speaker 1: external weight loss would change. It certainly didn't hurt, but 238 00:15:34,400 --> 00:15:37,280 Speaker 1: at the same time, it didn't resolve all of those 239 00:15:37,320 --> 00:15:42,560 Speaker 1: emotional and or psychological and sociological issues. So one is 240 00:15:42,640 --> 00:15:44,520 Speaker 1: what do you want too? Is why do you want it? 241 00:15:44,880 --> 00:15:49,560 Speaker 1: Number three is what happened last time? So last time 242 00:15:49,600 --> 00:15:53,160 Speaker 1: that you tried to do this or do a version 243 00:15:53,200 --> 00:15:58,440 Speaker 1: of this, what happened? Because if we basically just press 244 00:15:58,480 --> 00:16:00,920 Speaker 1: the reset button and do the same thing the same 245 00:16:00,960 --> 00:16:03,920 Speaker 1: way with the same mindset or pretty close to the 246 00:16:03,960 --> 00:16:07,040 Speaker 1: same thing the same way with the same mindset, guess 247 00:16:07,120 --> 00:16:12,040 Speaker 1: what kind of outcome we're going to produce. So the 248 00:16:12,120 --> 00:16:16,080 Speaker 1: question is what did I learn last time? What happened 249 00:16:16,200 --> 00:16:19,880 Speaker 1: last time? What did I do well? And what did 250 00:16:19,960 --> 00:16:24,040 Speaker 1: I not do well? And what will I do this 251 00:16:24,240 --> 00:16:28,320 Speaker 1: time that is different to last time which will produce 252 00:16:28,560 --> 00:16:34,160 Speaker 1: or hopefully help me produce a different outcome. So number 253 00:16:34,200 --> 00:16:35,920 Speaker 1: one is what do I want? Number two is why 254 00:16:35,920 --> 00:16:37,800 Speaker 1: do I want it? Number three is what did I 255 00:16:37,840 --> 00:16:39,680 Speaker 1: do last time or what happened last time? And what 256 00:16:39,720 --> 00:16:42,720 Speaker 1: do I need to do differently this time? Because I'm guessing. 257 00:16:42,720 --> 00:16:44,640 Speaker 1: For a lot of you, the goal that you are 258 00:16:45,360 --> 00:16:48,400 Speaker 1: thinking of or the thing that you want to change. 259 00:16:48,480 --> 00:16:53,400 Speaker 1: If you're in the majority, then you've tried to change this, 260 00:16:53,640 --> 00:16:58,000 Speaker 1: or you've tried to do something like this or achieve 261 00:16:58,480 --> 00:17:01,920 Speaker 1: this goal or a goal like this previously. Yet here 262 00:17:01,960 --> 00:17:05,159 Speaker 1: we are thinking about I better hit the reset button. 263 00:17:05,280 --> 00:17:09,760 Speaker 1: So we need to learn from our previous experiences, good 264 00:17:09,800 --> 00:17:14,080 Speaker 1: or bad. Number four is how uncomfortable will you get? 265 00:17:14,840 --> 00:17:19,359 Speaker 1: And I probably speak about getting uncomfortable every second, third, 266 00:17:19,480 --> 00:17:21,919 Speaker 1: or fourth podcast, and some of you are probably so 267 00:17:22,040 --> 00:17:24,679 Speaker 1: sick of that. But you know, the truth is this 268 00:17:24,840 --> 00:17:29,240 Speaker 1: that the majority of people are somewhat addicted to, or 269 00:17:29,400 --> 00:17:36,640 Speaker 1: enamored with, or in pursuit of comfort and convenience and 270 00:17:36,800 --> 00:17:44,560 Speaker 1: certainty and predictability, and none of those things are empowering 271 00:17:46,320 --> 00:17:48,960 Speaker 1: on an emotional and a psychological level in terms of 272 00:17:49,000 --> 00:17:54,560 Speaker 1: your growth. Where we tend to learn, grow, adapt, evolve, 273 00:17:55,160 --> 00:17:58,360 Speaker 1: become a better version of us is when we are 274 00:17:59,760 --> 00:18:03,840 Speaker 1: in mess, in the mayhem, in the discomfort, in the uncertain, 275 00:18:04,040 --> 00:18:07,640 Speaker 1: in the unknown. And that doesn't mean life spin got 276 00:18:07,680 --> 00:18:11,240 Speaker 1: to be an ongoing shitfest. It just means that sometimes 277 00:18:11,320 --> 00:18:13,640 Speaker 1: we need to lean into the pain a little bit. 278 00:18:14,240 --> 00:18:17,439 Speaker 1: Some short term pain for some long term gain, so 279 00:18:17,640 --> 00:18:20,960 Speaker 1: that not only do we create the outcome that we 280 00:18:21,000 --> 00:18:23,439 Speaker 1: want to create because we're doing the hard things. So 281 00:18:23,480 --> 00:18:27,720 Speaker 1: there's the practical measurable outcome, which is a reward in itself. 282 00:18:28,240 --> 00:18:31,320 Speaker 1: But the other reward is who we become in the 283 00:18:31,320 --> 00:18:36,520 Speaker 1: middle of the mess. Who you become when you push back, 284 00:18:36,600 --> 00:18:39,760 Speaker 1: Who you become when you choose to do the thing 285 00:18:39,840 --> 00:18:45,920 Speaker 1: that scares you, when you choose courage, when you choose inconvenience, 286 00:18:46,680 --> 00:18:50,600 Speaker 1: when you choose to delay gratification and not push that 287 00:18:50,680 --> 00:18:56,479 Speaker 1: dopamine button or the dopamine mutton. When you push the 288 00:18:56,520 --> 00:19:02,360 Speaker 1: dopamine button repeatedly while you're giving yourself some short term pleasure, 289 00:19:02,800 --> 00:19:06,359 Speaker 1: you're disadvantaging yourself in terms of your own growth and 290 00:19:06,400 --> 00:19:10,560 Speaker 1: your own capacity to build resilience and competence under pressure. 291 00:19:11,440 --> 00:19:16,359 Speaker 1: Number five is what's your plan? Number five is the 292 00:19:16,480 --> 00:19:21,000 Speaker 1: how how will you get this done? Sure, you're motivated, now, 293 00:19:21,320 --> 00:19:23,320 Speaker 1: you know what you want, You've got some clarity, you've 294 00:19:23,359 --> 00:19:27,360 Speaker 1: acknowledged what happened last time, You've learned through that you're 295 00:19:27,359 --> 00:19:29,919 Speaker 1: going to do something different, and you put up your 296 00:19:29,920 --> 00:19:32,160 Speaker 1: hand and said, yep, it won't be fun, quick, easy, 297 00:19:32,240 --> 00:19:34,800 Speaker 1: or painless. I'm okay with that. I'm going to do 298 00:19:34,880 --> 00:19:39,240 Speaker 1: the work. What is the work? What does the work 299 00:19:39,359 --> 00:19:44,000 Speaker 1: look like? How will you get the job done? The 300 00:19:44,080 --> 00:19:50,960 Speaker 1: emotion of motivation and excitement and inspiration is really good, 301 00:19:51,000 --> 00:19:53,919 Speaker 1: but it's also short term. So I want you to 302 00:19:54,000 --> 00:19:57,600 Speaker 1: acknowledge the emotion, lean into the motivation and the inspiration, 303 00:19:57,720 --> 00:20:02,600 Speaker 1: but also be logical and strategic. What is your plan? 304 00:20:02,960 --> 00:20:06,240 Speaker 1: What is your timeline? What is your structure? How will 305 00:20:06,280 --> 00:20:09,600 Speaker 1: you stay accountable? What is your process? What is the 306 00:20:09,680 --> 00:20:12,680 Speaker 1: protocol that will work for you? Not the other bloke, 307 00:20:12,840 --> 00:20:15,400 Speaker 1: not the other girl, not the dude across the road, 308 00:20:15,520 --> 00:20:19,040 Speaker 1: not the online guy that you saw. What will work 309 00:20:19,080 --> 00:20:22,159 Speaker 1: for you? Because different things work, even to create the 310 00:20:22,200 --> 00:20:25,800 Speaker 1: same outcome, Different things work for different people. So you're 311 00:20:25,840 --> 00:20:29,480 Speaker 1: trying to figure out what is optimal for Craig Harper 312 00:20:29,560 --> 00:20:32,080 Speaker 1: because you ain't me and I ain't you, But what 313 00:20:32,240 --> 00:20:35,880 Speaker 1: is optimal for you? So what's your plan? And when 314 00:20:35,880 --> 00:20:38,280 Speaker 1: you're not motivated, when you're not inspired, and when you've 315 00:20:38,280 --> 00:20:41,000 Speaker 1: forgotten all of these words, which is just a matter 316 00:20:41,080 --> 00:20:45,320 Speaker 1: of time, how will you stay doing the thing that 317 00:20:45,359 --> 00:20:48,520 Speaker 1: you need to do? Number six on my little list 318 00:20:48,600 --> 00:20:51,080 Speaker 1: is what are your barriers. What are your practical, mental 319 00:20:51,240 --> 00:20:54,400 Speaker 1: and or emotional barriers? What are the things that might 320 00:20:54,480 --> 00:20:58,960 Speaker 1: get in the way, What are the things that got 321 00:20:59,040 --> 00:21:05,000 Speaker 1: in the way last time? What historically have you struggled with, 322 00:21:05,119 --> 00:21:08,360 Speaker 1: what's been a hurdle, what's been a mental and or 323 00:21:08,480 --> 00:21:12,440 Speaker 1: emotional or practical issue for you? Will tie this in 324 00:21:12,520 --> 00:21:15,080 Speaker 1: with number seven, and what's your plan to navigate that? 325 00:21:15,119 --> 00:21:19,400 Speaker 1: What's your plan to overcome that stuff or at least 326 00:21:19,400 --> 00:21:22,400 Speaker 1: be able to recognize it and coexist with it. So, 327 00:21:22,880 --> 00:21:26,840 Speaker 1: for example, one of my barriers has been historically I'm 328 00:21:26,840 --> 00:21:31,600 Speaker 1: a little better these days, but self doubt, overthinking, underdoing, 329 00:21:32,840 --> 00:21:41,560 Speaker 1: and so I have learned to navigate situations, circumstances, environments, challenges, 330 00:21:42,640 --> 00:21:46,440 Speaker 1: phases of growth. I've learned to navigate all of those things, 331 00:21:47,200 --> 00:21:52,320 Speaker 1: being able to coexist with my own insecurity and self doubt. 332 00:21:53,040 --> 00:21:56,080 Speaker 1: I know that I can't just switch it off. I 333 00:21:56,160 --> 00:21:58,400 Speaker 1: know that, And it's much better these days. And it's 334 00:21:58,400 --> 00:22:01,040 Speaker 1: a one or two out of ten mostly a not 335 00:22:01,119 --> 00:22:04,480 Speaker 1: a kind of paralyzing nine out of ten self doubt. 336 00:22:06,000 --> 00:22:08,959 Speaker 1: But we need to be able to recognize what in 337 00:22:09,000 --> 00:22:14,880 Speaker 1: the past has been a limitation, a hurdle, be that mental, emotional, practical. 338 00:22:14,920 --> 00:22:17,240 Speaker 1: But what has been a thing that is typical? Has 339 00:22:17,240 --> 00:22:20,360 Speaker 1: it just been the fact that you always get two, three, 340 00:22:20,440 --> 00:22:24,080 Speaker 1: four weeks in and you lose focus, you lose motivation. Cool, 341 00:22:24,800 --> 00:22:28,960 Speaker 1: then that's all about, as I said in my previous point, 342 00:22:29,359 --> 00:22:32,840 Speaker 1: that is all about creating some kind of accountability system 343 00:22:33,200 --> 00:22:36,920 Speaker 1: so that next time when you lose focus and motivation 344 00:22:37,040 --> 00:22:40,280 Speaker 1: and inspiration, which is just part of the human experience 345 00:22:40,320 --> 00:22:42,920 Speaker 1: and very normal, doesn't make you bad or weak or 346 00:22:43,000 --> 00:22:45,280 Speaker 1: flawed or broken. It makes you kind of like me, 347 00:22:45,840 --> 00:22:47,879 Speaker 1: makes you kind of like a lot of other people. 348 00:22:48,920 --> 00:22:52,840 Speaker 1: But you need to recognize and realize that I have 349 00:22:52,920 --> 00:22:56,320 Speaker 1: a history of starting things that I don't finish. Why 350 00:22:56,359 --> 00:22:59,399 Speaker 1: are the reasons or the reason? What is the reason 351 00:22:59,640 --> 00:23:02,280 Speaker 1: or reas that I don't finish? And how do I 352 00:23:02,359 --> 00:23:05,320 Speaker 1: plan for that? Now? How do I plan for that? Now? 353 00:23:08,000 --> 00:23:17,080 Speaker 1: Let me do two more so? Is your end game 354 00:23:17,560 --> 00:23:20,480 Speaker 1: is your ultimate? When we go through the what and 355 00:23:20,520 --> 00:23:23,680 Speaker 1: the why, and then we dig even deeper, is the intention? 356 00:23:23,920 --> 00:23:27,679 Speaker 1: Is the goal? Is the hope? Is the aspiration? Happiness? 357 00:23:28,760 --> 00:23:32,240 Speaker 1: Is that the end game for you? And if not? 358 00:23:32,640 --> 00:23:39,600 Speaker 1: Then what? So? I think that we have this? This 359 00:23:39,680 --> 00:23:42,640 Speaker 1: is just me thinking out loud. This is not formal research. 360 00:23:42,720 --> 00:23:47,159 Speaker 1: But I feel like we have this misunderstanding of happiness 361 00:23:47,240 --> 00:23:53,760 Speaker 1: and the practical reality of happiness, and like that we 362 00:23:53,880 --> 00:23:56,840 Speaker 1: will do some things, will create some outcomes, we'll set 363 00:23:56,880 --> 00:24:01,159 Speaker 1: some goals, we'll tick some boxes, and then we And 364 00:24:01,200 --> 00:24:03,080 Speaker 1: I know a lot of you don't think this, because 365 00:24:03,080 --> 00:24:05,960 Speaker 1: you're quite advanced on your personal growth journey. But there 366 00:24:05,960 --> 00:24:09,119 Speaker 1: are a percentage of people who think that happiness is 367 00:24:09,160 --> 00:24:11,199 Speaker 1: a state that we can just get in and stay in. 368 00:24:12,040 --> 00:24:14,879 Speaker 1: And while that seems really good, I see virtually no 369 00:24:15,160 --> 00:24:18,959 Speaker 1: evidence for that. Even some of the happiest people that 370 00:24:19,200 --> 00:24:24,560 Speaker 1: I know still battle self doubt, good days, bad days, 371 00:24:24,560 --> 00:24:32,760 Speaker 1: peaks and troughs, occasional anxiety, occasional stress, occasional sadness, occasional 372 00:24:33,000 --> 00:24:37,840 Speaker 1: emotional distress. Even some of the happier people, and I 373 00:24:37,840 --> 00:24:42,240 Speaker 1: would say that I am typically I don't know. See, 374 00:24:42,280 --> 00:24:45,359 Speaker 1: even the definition of happiness is a funny thing because 375 00:24:46,040 --> 00:24:51,160 Speaker 1: and this is one of the subjective realities of emotions. 376 00:24:51,240 --> 00:24:55,760 Speaker 1: Like what I might call contentment, somebody else might be 377 00:24:55,880 --> 00:24:59,920 Speaker 1: experiencing the exact same thing. How would we know, though, 378 00:25:01,560 --> 00:25:05,919 Speaker 1: But they could call that calm. Somebody else could be 379 00:25:06,000 --> 00:25:09,560 Speaker 1: experiencing the exact same thing, And they don't call it 380 00:25:09,600 --> 00:25:14,040 Speaker 1: contentment or calm. They call it joy. Somebody else calls 381 00:25:14,080 --> 00:25:17,159 Speaker 1: it happiness. Anyway, the bottom line is, I guess we 382 00:25:17,160 --> 00:25:19,040 Speaker 1: can all agree that we want to be in a 383 00:25:19,080 --> 00:25:24,200 Speaker 1: good place psychologically and emotionally. Now, whatever label we give 384 00:25:24,280 --> 00:25:29,080 Speaker 1: that good place, that state, that state of joy or 385 00:25:29,119 --> 00:25:36,080 Speaker 1: calm or contentment or happiness or periodic euphoria, we might 386 00:25:36,119 --> 00:25:38,080 Speaker 1: even call that. You know. One of the interesting things 387 00:25:38,119 --> 00:25:40,440 Speaker 1: is I've spoken with many people and over the time, 388 00:25:40,520 --> 00:25:44,760 Speaker 1: when we get through all of the smoke and mirrors 389 00:25:44,800 --> 00:25:49,400 Speaker 1: and all the stuff, they don't want specifically. What they 390 00:25:49,480 --> 00:25:55,760 Speaker 1: do want is they just want less anxiety because their 391 00:25:55,920 --> 00:26:01,760 Speaker 1: constant state, or their semi permanent ste or their regular 392 00:26:02,040 --> 00:26:08,080 Speaker 1: somewhat regular state is one of existing in that anxiety. 393 00:26:08,200 --> 00:26:13,920 Speaker 1: That is, you know, soul destroying, isn't it. So when 394 00:26:13,960 --> 00:26:15,399 Speaker 1: you think about the stuff that you want to do, 395 00:26:15,520 --> 00:26:17,879 Speaker 1: be create change, and you go want to own that 396 00:26:18,040 --> 00:26:21,679 Speaker 1: or earn that, or weigh that or do that, and 397 00:26:21,720 --> 00:26:24,520 Speaker 1: then your why as well, I want that because that 398 00:26:24,600 --> 00:26:27,880 Speaker 1: will change this and I'll feel that and that when 399 00:26:27,880 --> 00:26:31,000 Speaker 1: we get through all of that, what's the end goal 400 00:26:31,040 --> 00:26:34,399 Speaker 1: for you? What is it? What is it that you 401 00:26:34,480 --> 00:26:37,040 Speaker 1: really want for me if you say, well, harps, I 402 00:26:37,080 --> 00:26:39,679 Speaker 1: don't really know what you're talking about for you, So 403 00:26:40,440 --> 00:26:45,040 Speaker 1: I guess I for me that contentment, and I guess 404 00:26:46,359 --> 00:26:52,359 Speaker 1: satisfaction and confidence that I know that I'm doing the 405 00:26:52,520 --> 00:26:55,439 Speaker 1: right thing. And this sounds a bit nap and cheesy, 406 00:26:55,520 --> 00:26:57,679 Speaker 1: so feel free to believe me or not believe me. 407 00:26:57,760 --> 00:27:01,320 Speaker 1: But I've tried, as I've said before, or I've tried selfishness, 408 00:27:01,359 --> 00:27:04,959 Speaker 1: I've tried focusing on me, me being the center of 409 00:27:05,000 --> 00:27:10,119 Speaker 1: my universe. I know that if I don't have somewhat 410 00:27:10,880 --> 00:27:16,320 Speaker 1: transcendent thinking, that is, I don't have bigger than me thinking, 411 00:27:16,920 --> 00:27:19,320 Speaker 1: I don't have a purpose bigger than me, an objective 412 00:27:19,359 --> 00:27:22,119 Speaker 1: bigger than me, and that involves serving and helping and 413 00:27:22,200 --> 00:27:29,080 Speaker 1: loving others. That for me, I never get close to 414 00:27:29,160 --> 00:27:34,600 Speaker 1: that date or that space of being where I feel 415 00:27:34,680 --> 00:27:39,200 Speaker 1: like I am emotionally, mentally and spiritually in the right place. 416 00:27:41,320 --> 00:27:46,119 Speaker 1: And I guess my last question is will you start today? 417 00:27:47,080 --> 00:27:50,240 Speaker 1: Will you start today? And if you won't start today, 418 00:27:51,560 --> 00:27:55,080 Speaker 1: And I'm not trying to leverage you or emotionally blackmail you, 419 00:27:55,160 --> 00:27:58,320 Speaker 1: but think about why that is now? When I say 420 00:27:58,359 --> 00:28:00,600 Speaker 1: will you start today, I'm not talking about your life 421 00:28:00,680 --> 00:28:05,719 Speaker 1: upside down on making massive decisions or you know, creating 422 00:28:05,760 --> 00:28:08,960 Speaker 1: a new protocol. By lunchtime, I'm just talking about will 423 00:28:09,040 --> 00:28:14,280 Speaker 1: you do something today? It could be a really small thing, 424 00:28:14,359 --> 00:28:17,960 Speaker 1: but it could be it could be something that opens 425 00:28:18,000 --> 00:28:21,520 Speaker 1: a door, that creates some momentum that is the beginning 426 00:28:21,680 --> 00:28:28,439 Speaker 1: of that little thing might be the beginning of something bigger. Anyway, Team, 427 00:28:28,800 --> 00:28:32,080 Speaker 1: I hope you got something out of that. I feel 428 00:28:32,119 --> 00:28:34,400 Speaker 1: like I might have waffled a little bit. That's one 429 00:28:34,400 --> 00:28:37,520 Speaker 1: of the challenges of talking to yourself in a room. 430 00:28:37,880 --> 00:28:42,600 Speaker 1: You know. It's funny is it's five thirty three now, 431 00:28:43,960 --> 00:28:47,320 Speaker 1: and when I started, it was bright in this room, 432 00:28:47,320 --> 00:28:50,080 Speaker 1: and now it's getting dark, and now I'm squinting at 433 00:28:50,080 --> 00:28:56,080 Speaker 1: the fucking screen. Ah hallelujah. All right, Team, enough from me. 434 00:28:56,600 --> 00:28:58,640 Speaker 1: You have a great week. See you soon.