WEBVTT - #2079 A January Pep Talk - Harps & Tiff 0:00:02.040 --> 0:00:05.320 I'll get a team. It's it's the next year, it's 0:00:05.320 --> 0:00:07.320 the year after the last year, it's this year, it's 0:00:07.360 --> 0:00:10.119 twenty twenty six, it's Tiff, it's Jumbo, it's us, it's you, 0:00:10.280 --> 0:00:16.560 It's the fucking the whole kit and kaboodle. And I'm excited. 0:00:16.640 --> 0:00:19.000 I'm just building up to a crescendo, but I'm pretty 0:00:19.000 --> 0:00:21.159 excited about this year. A bit of mayhem going on 0:00:21.280 --> 0:00:23.959 right now, but I hope. I know this is not 0:00:24.000 --> 0:00:27.160 our first showback, but I hope Chrissy was good for you, 0:00:27.320 --> 0:00:30.639 or at the very least not horrible and chaotic. I 0:00:30.680 --> 0:00:33.400 know for a lot of people, Christmas and New Year 0:00:33.479 --> 0:00:37.040 and or New Year can be a time that isn't 0:00:37.080 --> 0:00:39.880 so much fun, that isn't doesn't bring so much joy, 0:00:40.040 --> 0:00:43.760 and for some people even is somewhat traumatic. So I 0:00:43.800 --> 0:00:46.040 hope you got through it okay, and I hope this 0:00:46.159 --> 0:00:52.640 year is amazing for you. Speaking of amazing, she is 0:00:52.760 --> 0:00:53.279 she is. 0:00:53.880 --> 0:00:57.960 I don't want to be presumptuous, but I don't feel 0:00:57.960 --> 0:00:58.840 like that was a calling. 0:01:00.080 --> 0:01:03.280 I wasn't even thinking about you, but all right, hello, 0:01:03.400 --> 0:01:06.200 this is amazing. I'm miss amazing. I should say, how 0:01:06.240 --> 0:01:06.520 are you? 0:01:07.360 --> 0:01:11.400 Very good? Thank you very good. I'm ready for twenty 0:01:11.440 --> 0:01:12.000 twenty six. 0:01:12.080 --> 0:01:16.479 Now have you done well? We haven't done one since 0:01:16.640 --> 0:01:18.880 last year. We haven't done one for probably a couple 0:01:18.959 --> 0:01:20.720 of weeks or a week and a half at least. 0:01:21.160 --> 0:01:22.959 Have you done one of yours? Or is this your 0:01:22.959 --> 0:01:23.679 first one back? 0:01:24.280 --> 0:01:27.959 This is my first one back, and I's been a 0:01:27.959 --> 0:01:31.520 few at least two, if not maybe three weeks. I 0:01:31.560 --> 0:01:35.479 would say. I December was a little bit not the best, 0:01:35.720 --> 0:01:39.720 so I pulled up stumps earlier than what was planned 0:01:39.760 --> 0:01:46.840 on recording podcasts. Yeah, wait till the joy seeped back 0:01:46.880 --> 0:01:47.760 into my world. 0:01:49.720 --> 0:01:52.200 And was it good to have a little bit of 0:01:53.360 --> 0:01:56.400 I don't know, time away from the microphone and the 0:01:56.480 --> 0:01:58.440 studio and to regroup a little. 0:01:59.240 --> 0:02:03.720 It really was, And not not that it always is. 0:02:03.800 --> 0:02:07.000 I just think given what had gone on in my world, 0:02:07.200 --> 0:02:09.040 it very much was because I wasn't in a great 0:02:09.919 --> 0:02:13.239 space to use my mind and really engage and love 0:02:13.320 --> 0:02:16.079 the process of conversation at that time. 0:02:16.960 --> 0:02:17.360 Yeah. 0:02:17.560 --> 0:02:19.760 Yeah, so yeah, but it's been nice. 0:02:19.760 --> 0:02:19.919 You know. 0:02:20.000 --> 0:02:23.240 It was funny, like I work through Christmas. I don't 0:02:23.280 --> 0:02:26.560 really have an attachment to holidays or breaks or anything, 0:02:26.600 --> 0:02:30.840 but something about ticking over new year's into twenty twenty 0:02:30.880 --> 0:02:34.560 six just had this freshness and excitement about it that 0:02:34.639 --> 0:02:37.720 I didn't have before and for no reason. So I 0:02:37.760 --> 0:02:38.720 find that interesting. 0:02:38.760 --> 0:02:43.760 Hey, yes, yes, I don't know. It's funny, like the 0:02:43.840 --> 0:02:48.120 psychology of time and the psychology of dates and days 0:02:48.120 --> 0:02:51.600 on calendars. And you know, I heard Tim Ferriss talking 0:02:51.639 --> 0:02:54.600 this morning and he goes, no matter what day you start, 0:02:54.720 --> 0:02:57.080 it's the start of a new year, right, And I 0:02:57.120 --> 0:03:00.520 was thinking, so, like today's January five, Well, it's the 0:03:00.520 --> 0:03:02.840 start of a new year, because one year from now 0:03:02.880 --> 0:03:05.800 to be January five, that's a whole year. That's a 0:03:05.880 --> 0:03:09.240 you know, but we have all of these stories which 0:03:09.240 --> 0:03:12.640 are not bad, but they're good to reflect on, you know, 0:03:12.720 --> 0:03:16.200 thinking about thinking metacognition, you think, oh, why do I 0:03:16.360 --> 0:03:19.040 think that? And I know of this is an old 0:03:19.120 --> 0:03:22.480 chestnut I've banged on about too many times, but it 0:03:22.560 --> 0:03:26.519 is an interesting reflection when you genuinely think that your 0:03:26.639 --> 0:03:30.760 chances are better of succeeding if you start on a 0:03:30.840 --> 0:03:34.880 Thursday rather than a Monday, because the Thursday in your 0:03:34.960 --> 0:03:38.080 head on this year happens to be January one or 0:03:38.120 --> 0:03:41.000 whatever it is. And so you have a story that 0:03:41.080 --> 0:03:43.120 this is the right day and the other day is 0:03:43.160 --> 0:03:46.560 not the right day, when in actual fact, it's got 0:03:46.640 --> 0:03:51.160 so little to do with the fucking date, like essentially nothing, 0:03:51.880 --> 0:03:56.040 and perhaps your belief about the date or your idea 0:03:56.120 --> 0:03:58.720 about the date, or your intention around what you're going 0:03:58.800 --> 0:04:02.240 to do when that date, but even then, it isn't 0:04:02.240 --> 0:04:06.240 actually about the date. It's about psychology. It's about your 0:04:06.320 --> 0:04:10.240 preparedness and readiness to do the thing that you say 0:04:10.280 --> 0:04:13.560 you want to do and haven't done for maybe the 0:04:13.640 --> 0:04:16.640 last ten January ones or whatever it was, but that 0:04:17.600 --> 0:04:21.240 you know, just that I'm and this is how I think, right, 0:04:21.279 --> 0:04:23.359 and I'm not really surprised, but part of me is 0:04:23.400 --> 0:04:28.640 surprised that people don't realize what a crock of shit 0:04:28.760 --> 0:04:33.839 resolutions on January one are for the majority, Like if 0:04:33.839 --> 0:04:36.680 it was a drug, it would never get approved by 0:04:36.720 --> 0:04:40.000 the FDA or whoever, right, because most of the time 0:04:40.040 --> 0:04:43.520 when you take that drug in infurt commas, you don't 0:04:43.560 --> 0:04:46.520 get the result you want. You don't get better, or 0:04:46.520 --> 0:04:49.600 you don't improve, or you don't get healthy or you know, 0:04:49.720 --> 0:04:52.200 it doesn't. And it's not that it's a bad day, 0:04:52.920 --> 0:04:56.479 it's just the psychology around this is so fucking silly. 0:04:56.520 --> 0:04:59.680 And so irrational even when people going. 0:04:59.480 --> 0:05:02.360 Part of this psychology that works for it though, because 0:05:02.400 --> 0:05:05.520 it's because there's a break in routine, and the problem 0:05:05.600 --> 0:05:09.440 is where routine habitual creatures. So it's really hard to 0:05:09.520 --> 0:05:11.760 start something new in the middle of the sameness of 0:05:11.800 --> 0:05:14.440 work and this and that, and there's no time or space. 0:05:14.800 --> 0:05:20.839 So in a way, unbeknownst to us, we get out 0:05:20.880 --> 0:05:24.880 of our normal operating system. And that's when those thoughts 0:05:24.920 --> 0:05:27.520 come in. I'll do this differently this time, because something 0:05:27.560 --> 0:05:30.840 about right now feels different, and that. 0:05:30.880 --> 0:05:33.600 Sounds good in theory, right, but if we look at 0:05:33.600 --> 0:05:36.400 the evidence, it doesn't work. Like most people who start 0:05:37.080 --> 0:05:41.040 about to work. No, no, it's no. You can't blame 0:05:41.120 --> 0:05:44.400 work because then you're attributing your failure to something beyond 0:05:44.440 --> 0:05:49.000 your control. Right, what you're saying makes sense in that Yep, 0:05:49.080 --> 0:05:51.760 it's different. We're not at work. We're in a different space, 0:05:51.839 --> 0:05:55.880 either geographically or mentally or emotionally. And it's a new year, 0:05:56.000 --> 0:05:58.600 so mentally it's a new start. I get all of that, 0:05:58.640 --> 0:06:01.600 and I agree with you all of those points are true. 0:06:02.160 --> 0:06:04.039 But when you stand back and you look at the 0:06:04.160 --> 0:06:07.800 data or the forget opinions and ideas and beliefs. Just 0:06:07.800 --> 0:06:10.760 look at the evidence. The evidence is that most people 0:06:10.760 --> 0:06:13.000 who say they're going to change their life beginning on 0:06:13.120 --> 0:06:17.840 January one don't. That's just true. That's not an idea. 0:06:17.920 --> 0:06:20.800 So you now, does that mean people can't change on 0:06:20.880 --> 0:06:24.280 January one? No, not at all, not at all. But 0:06:24.360 --> 0:06:27.719 you can change on January five. You can change on 0:06:27.760 --> 0:06:32.200 December twenty five. You know. It's just that. But I 0:06:32.240 --> 0:06:34.880 thought we might talk about this a little bit, like 0:06:34.960 --> 0:06:36.960 without doing the whole what are we going to do 0:06:37.080 --> 0:06:39.400 this year? And how are we? You know, I think 0:06:39.440 --> 0:06:42.720 it's been well. I just think you know me, and 0:06:42.920 --> 0:06:45.920 I think my audience knows me, and you of course, 0:06:46.880 --> 0:06:50.559 I think kind of rah rahring people up. It doesn't work, 0:06:51.480 --> 0:06:53.440 and it's good. You know. We talk about the value 0:06:53.600 --> 0:06:56.520 and the lack of value of motivation. We talk about 0:06:56.560 --> 0:06:59.479 discipline and self control and focus and structure and planning 0:06:59.480 --> 0:07:03.719 and timeline and strategy, and we talk about all the things. 0:07:04.279 --> 0:07:07.240 But you know, at some stage we have to go. 0:07:08.960 --> 0:07:11.560 And this ain't a popular thing to say, but we 0:07:11.640 --> 0:07:13.720 have to go. I'm the problem because I'm not doing 0:07:13.720 --> 0:07:15.400 the work, Like the only one who can change my 0:07:15.440 --> 0:07:18.920 life is me, you know, and if my plan is 0:07:18.960 --> 0:07:22.400 that I accidentally succeed or someone's going to save me 0:07:22.480 --> 0:07:26.000 or rescue me, then I'm in trouble. Now. That doesn't 0:07:26.000 --> 0:07:28.400 mean people can't love you or support you or help you. 0:07:28.480 --> 0:07:32.520 Of course they can. But ultimately, ultimately what's going to 0:07:32.600 --> 0:07:35.640 make my life better is my choices and my behaviors, 0:07:35.680 --> 0:07:39.520 and my resilience and my mental toughness, and my ability 0:07:39.560 --> 0:07:41.880 to do the things that I said I would do 0:07:42.840 --> 0:07:46.800 without the cheersquad, without the fans, without the clapping, without 0:07:46.800 --> 0:07:52.720 the recognition, without the approval, without any attention, it still comes, 0:07:53.000 --> 0:07:55.240 you know. And we can slice it and dice it 0:07:55.280 --> 0:07:57.520 a thousand ways, and we can do all the fucking 0:07:57.600 --> 0:08:02.040 self help programs and books and videos and podcasts and 0:08:02.120 --> 0:08:05.040 even including this one. Right, I don't think this is 0:08:05.080 --> 0:08:09.320 the answer to anything, Like I think, like what a 0:08:09.440 --> 0:08:12.680 lot of self help tells you is that we have 0:08:12.840 --> 0:08:15.120 the ten steps, or we have the five steps, or 0:08:15.120 --> 0:08:17.520 we have the model, or we have the structure or 0:08:17.560 --> 0:08:19.720 the process, and all you need to do is follow this. 0:08:19.800 --> 0:08:24.000 And yeah, that the point is to follow this is 0:08:24.040 --> 0:08:29.160 the problem that the do this well, nobody can do 0:08:29.320 --> 0:08:32.320 that except the human in the middle, you know. So 0:08:33.120 --> 0:08:35.560 if you've got fucking Tony Robbins in your corner and 0:08:35.640 --> 0:08:38.360 Oprah in your corner and the Dalai Lama and Jesus 0:08:38.480 --> 0:08:41.200 cheering you on, you still need to figure out what 0:08:41.240 --> 0:08:44.040 you're going to eat for breakfast. You still need to 0:08:44.040 --> 0:08:45.640 figure out whether or not you're going to go to 0:08:45.679 --> 0:08:48.079 the gym and not fucking give up. You still need 0:08:48.120 --> 0:08:50.319 to figure out whether or not you're going to make 0:08:50.400 --> 0:08:51.439 smarter decisions. 0:08:52.720 --> 0:08:56.280 What do you think it's missing and where do you 0:08:56.320 --> 0:09:00.800 think people can look and find that? Because a protocol 0:09:00.840 --> 0:09:02.240 is good because you don't have to think, you get 0:09:02.280 --> 0:09:05.040 something to do, you get the thing that works. What's 0:09:05.280 --> 0:09:10.000 the missing piece of the puzzle? It's because this I mean, 0:09:10.040 --> 0:09:12.320 obviously this is easily applied to fitness, but you can 0:09:12.320 --> 0:09:14.600 apply it to anything in life, any behavior change. 0:09:15.679 --> 0:09:21.200 I think the missing piece of the puzzle is that 0:09:22.000 --> 0:09:25.800 we are not willing to do shit that we don't 0:09:26.000 --> 0:09:31.360 want to do. Yeah, like, well, the problem is it's 0:09:31.440 --> 0:09:34.079 like and people can jump up and down right a 0:09:34.240 --> 0:09:38.000 zen pic. So I was talking to somebody the other day. Right, 0:09:38.000 --> 0:09:40.280 I'm not saying don't take a dude, I'm not saying anything, 0:09:40.640 --> 0:09:43.360 but I'm saying, all right, well, how does the zenpic work. Well, 0:09:43.360 --> 0:09:45.240 it works on a range of levels, and it mitigates 0:09:45.320 --> 0:09:49.120 hunger and it reduces if you do. But ultimately, how 0:09:49.160 --> 0:09:52.040 does it, like, how do people actually reduce? Like, what's 0:09:52.080 --> 0:09:56.360 the mechanism. Well, the mechanism fucking sit down, batten down 0:09:56.400 --> 0:10:00.440 the hatches is less calories? Fuck me drunk? 0:10:00.520 --> 0:10:00.600 What? 0:10:01.920 --> 0:10:06.000 And it's because people eat less? Right? And I'm not 0:10:06.040 --> 0:10:10.560 saying again, but well, is it possible that people just 0:10:10.679 --> 0:10:14.480 eat less? Well, yes it is, but it's uncomfortable. But 0:10:14.520 --> 0:10:17.880 ozenpic makes it easier and more comfortable. So I'm not 0:10:18.640 --> 0:10:22.640 anti or pro I'm saying it horses for courses. But 0:10:22.720 --> 0:10:26.400 what I am saying is here's what I know. When 0:10:26.640 --> 0:10:31.800 I do something that is hard, that is also effective 0:10:31.960 --> 0:10:37.160 and also strategically intelligent, then what I like. For example, 0:10:37.240 --> 0:10:39.959 let me give a so we're not talking about fat 0:10:39.960 --> 0:10:43.560 and weight loss and people getting emotional, and I'm not 0:10:43.559 --> 0:10:45.000 going to talk about the you project. I'm going to 0:10:45.040 --> 0:10:47.040 talk about your podcast. What number are you up to? 0:10:48.080 --> 0:10:51.040 Nine seventy eight, maybe. 0:10:50.880 --> 0:10:53.560 Let's say a thousand, So you're up to the best 0:10:53.559 --> 0:10:57.400 part of a thousand podcasts. You've done years, right, and 0:10:57.440 --> 0:10:59.880 you've done good shows, not so good shows. You've had 0:10:59.920 --> 0:11:03.240 interviews where you went, I fucking killed it where I 0:11:03.240 --> 0:11:05.080 don't know, by the way, I'm just correct me if 0:11:05.080 --> 0:11:06.959 I'm wrong, where you fucked up, or you could have 0:11:07.040 --> 0:11:09.280 done it better. Where you look back at things in 0:11:09.480 --> 0:11:11.000 like I had no idea what I was doing and 0:11:11.000 --> 0:11:13.120 blah blah blah. But I developed and I learned and 0:11:13.120 --> 0:11:16.120 I evolved. And now you're a thousand shows in and 0:11:16.160 --> 0:11:17.680 you did a lot of shit that was hard, and 0:11:17.720 --> 0:11:19.800 you produced it, and you got guests, and you reach 0:11:19.880 --> 0:11:22.520 out and you got rejected and you got accepted, and 0:11:22.559 --> 0:11:25.000 you sat on the microphone and you asked dumb questions 0:11:25.000 --> 0:11:27.120 and you asked good questions, and you got better and 0:11:27.160 --> 0:11:30.760 you developed. You went through fucking years and a thousand 0:11:30.800 --> 0:11:36.920 episodes of doing shit that now nobody can take from you. 0:11:36.920 --> 0:11:40.760 You have got this intellectual property, you have got this skill, 0:11:41.240 --> 0:11:45.559 You have got this knowledge and understanding and capacity that 0:11:45.600 --> 0:11:52.440 you could never get through a fucking podcast version of ozepic. Right, 0:11:54.160 --> 0:11:58.480 So you did the work. Now you know now if 0:11:58.480 --> 0:12:03.160 you started another podcast tomorrow, your first podcast would be good. 0:12:03.800 --> 0:12:07.440 The first one would be good, right, because you did 0:12:07.520 --> 0:12:10.280 the things now, so too, with building a business or 0:12:10.320 --> 0:12:13.360 building a good relationship, or losing weight or building strength. 0:12:14.400 --> 0:12:17.000 We keep looking for the way to get the outcome 0:12:17.080 --> 0:12:20.960 without hurting. Yep, and it's in the hurting. I'm not 0:12:20.960 --> 0:12:26.240 talking about reckless you know, pain. I'm talking about strategic discomfort, 0:12:26.480 --> 0:12:31.200 like progressive overload in the gym, progressive resistance training. You know, 0:12:31.280 --> 0:12:33.320 you go in and you do something and it's painful. 0:12:33.360 --> 0:12:36.280 It hurts a bit, but in a week or two 0:12:36.320 --> 0:12:38.400 it hurts less, and then it hurts less, and then 0:12:38.440 --> 0:12:41.240 you lift more and it hurts again, but you adapt again, 0:12:41.280 --> 0:12:43.560 and over time, the thing that used to be painful 0:12:43.640 --> 0:12:46.240 now is painless. And the thing that used to create 0:12:46.240 --> 0:12:50.160 a negative hormonal response or biochemical response stress response in 0:12:50.200 --> 0:12:53.160 your body now gives you a dopamine response because you 0:12:53.240 --> 0:12:57.240 fucking love it. Right, So you, the same human being, 0:12:57.360 --> 0:13:01.160 have changed your relationship with this thing in this example 0:13:01.240 --> 0:13:09.880 weight training, you in the podcast example, you've changed your relationship, knowledge, understanding, 0:13:09.960 --> 0:13:14.720 skill capacity, and attitude about stuff. So now you can 0:13:14.760 --> 0:13:20.120 walk into anywhere and you could teach most people on 0:13:20.160 --> 0:13:22.640 the planet how to set up, how to develop, how 0:13:22.640 --> 0:13:25.320 to do a podcast, how to interview all these things right, 0:13:26.000 --> 0:13:32.200 and so at the same time, I'm not against shortcuts 0:13:32.320 --> 0:13:36.200 or if they're healthy and not ridiculous, but I just 0:13:36.280 --> 0:13:40.160 think this aversion that we have to doing the work, 0:13:40.840 --> 0:13:43.520 like we want the reward without the work. And I've 0:13:43.559 --> 0:13:45.400 said it, you know, we want the top of the mountain, 0:13:45.480 --> 0:13:49.080 we just don't want to fucking climb. So it's it's, 0:13:49.600 --> 0:13:51.640 you know. And I'm all for rah rah and dick 0:13:51.720 --> 0:13:55.400 jokes and encouraging people and being silly and I'm all 0:13:55.400 --> 0:13:58.120 for you know, having fun and taking the piss. But 0:13:59.280 --> 0:14:01.320 you know, I was up at full thirty this morning 0:14:01.440 --> 0:14:04.480 and before my coffee, I walked eight kas, you know. 0:14:05.000 --> 0:14:07.199 And I'm not going aunt I great at all, because 0:14:07.240 --> 0:14:09.160 I'm not great. In fact, the reason I do that 0:14:09.320 --> 0:14:11.640 is because I'm not great. The reason I do that 0:14:11.760 --> 0:14:14.360 is because I get fat as fuck. If I don't 0:14:14.400 --> 0:14:19.040 do it, if I'm not eating well, moving well, lifting weights, 0:14:19.160 --> 0:14:22.960 managing my last style well, making good decisions, doing smart things, 0:14:23.720 --> 0:14:26.440 I would be a morbidly obese sixty two year old 0:14:26.560 --> 0:14:30.120 or a dead sixty two year old. That's absolutely true. 0:14:30.600 --> 0:14:33.160 So what do I do well? Do you want to 0:14:33.160 --> 0:14:36.600 be dead or morbidly obese or unhealthy? No? I don't, Okay, 0:14:36.720 --> 0:14:39.560 what needs to happen. Well, create you need an operating 0:14:39.600 --> 0:14:42.960 system that works for you, and you either do the 0:14:43.040 --> 0:14:45.840 thing or you don't do the thing. And so often 0:14:45.880 --> 0:14:48.520 it comes down to most people just won't do the 0:14:48.560 --> 0:14:54.200 thing because you can always rationalize, oh yeah, but like 0:14:54.280 --> 0:14:57.240 my last six years full time work, full time study, 0:14:58.240 --> 0:15:01.840 you know, full time research, full time work, work, seven 0:15:02.240 --> 0:15:08.960 typically seven podcasts a week, in state, travel, regularly, aging, parents, 0:15:09.120 --> 0:15:11.600 lots of shit going on. And I'm not saying I'm terrific. 0:15:11.680 --> 0:15:14.480 In fact, I'm telling you all the time I'm far 0:15:14.600 --> 0:15:17.800 less than terrific. But what I do is I go, well, 0:15:18.600 --> 0:15:22.760 here's the problem or challenge. How do I solve the problem? 0:15:22.840 --> 0:15:25.920 How do I meet the challenge? What is the best 0:15:26.000 --> 0:15:28.840 thing for me to do? What is the best question 0:15:28.960 --> 0:15:32.280 for me to ask? The best question is not, oh, 0:15:32.360 --> 0:15:34.880 why does all this shit happen to me? It's so unfair. 0:15:35.600 --> 0:15:38.040 The best question is, all right, well this shit has happened. 0:15:39.160 --> 0:15:40.240 How do I navigate this? 0:15:41.840 --> 0:15:44.160 What do you reckon? We have an issue also just 0:15:44.240 --> 0:15:48.960 admitting shit. It's not important to us, Like if we're 0:15:49.000 --> 0:15:52.400 not doing it, it's not a priority. It's not important 0:15:52.400 --> 0:15:55.520 to Why can't we just say that thing that society says, 0:15:55.680 --> 0:16:01.280 is great health or whatever it is or success doesn't 0:16:01.360 --> 0:16:03.360 rank for me because I'm not doing what I should 0:16:03.400 --> 0:16:03.720 be doing. 0:16:04.960 --> 0:16:07.840 That is a really smart question. So you wouldn't have 0:16:07.840 --> 0:16:12.520 asked that in the first episode. You would have gone, 0:16:12.960 --> 0:16:18.000 what color is that T shirt? No? Sorry, I apologize. 0:16:19.960 --> 0:16:23.080 That's a good question. I thought about that the other day. 0:16:23.120 --> 0:16:25.280 That is very insightful because I think a lot of 0:16:25.280 --> 0:16:29.680 people say, you know, when we go, oh, what a values? 0:16:30.160 --> 0:16:32.400 Values are the things that are important to you? Okay, 0:16:32.520 --> 0:16:36.160 so hey, everyone in the room, put up your hand. 0:16:36.160 --> 0:16:38.880 If health is one of your top three values, all 0:16:38.920 --> 0:16:42.520 the hands go up. Yeah, maybe seventy percent of the 0:16:42.560 --> 0:16:45.480 people in the room are not living in a healthy manner. 0:16:46.760 --> 0:16:50.320 And you go, well, why'd you put your hand up, 0:16:50.960 --> 0:16:55.520 because clearly it's not important to you because you're living 0:16:55.560 --> 0:16:59.440 a lifestyle which is inconsistent with, or perhaps the antithesis 0:16:59.520 --> 0:17:04.760 of reducing healthy outcomes. Again, no judgment, no hate, no 0:17:05.359 --> 0:17:09.560 just observation. I said, who's and you put up your hand? 0:17:09.920 --> 0:17:14.000 And also, you know, so I think that we like 0:17:14.119 --> 0:17:17.160 to present ourselves in a way which makes us look 0:17:17.280 --> 0:17:21.119 best or better to the rest of the world, including me. 0:17:22.200 --> 0:17:25.080 I'm not saying, oh, humans do this, but Craig doesn't 0:17:25.119 --> 0:17:30.520 because Craig's fucking outstanding. Craig's a dickhead and insecure. By 0:17:30.560 --> 0:17:34.879 the way, please love me, still an only child. But yeah, 0:17:35.000 --> 0:17:38.159 I think that's like I and I've spoken about this 0:17:38.200 --> 0:17:41.480 before when I went through a stage where I owned 0:17:41.560 --> 0:17:44.480 three gyms at the time, I was in my early thirties, 0:17:45.320 --> 0:17:47.119 and I went through a period of about a year 0:17:47.160 --> 0:17:50.680 where I was just eating like a fucking maniac, even 0:17:50.680 --> 0:17:53.480 though I was educated, even though I was knowledgeable, even 0:17:53.520 --> 0:17:56.480 though I was helping people get in shape, even though 0:17:56.440 --> 0:17:58.760 I was working with elite teams and athletes, even though 0:17:58.800 --> 0:18:02.600 I knew what to do. It was like I was 0:18:03.040 --> 0:18:06.760 an alcoholic who picked up booze again and I just 0:18:06.920 --> 0:18:10.600 opened the door and I just gained thirty kilos. You know, 0:18:11.359 --> 0:18:14.399 think about this. This is just a little aside. So 0:18:15.359 --> 0:18:18.440 I mean, you know, I've got a fair bit of muscle. 0:18:19.480 --> 0:18:22.720 I weighed seventy nine. I weighed myself this morning, seventy nine. 0:18:23.480 --> 0:18:27.080 And when I was in that phase there, I weighed 0:18:27.080 --> 0:18:33.879 one one seven tiff thirty eight kilos. Well, you know 0:18:33.920 --> 0:18:37.439 how big Brad is, you know, six foot four fucking 0:18:38.080 --> 0:18:43.000 bigger than me, bigger than He's about that, right, So 0:18:43.480 --> 0:18:47.280 I was, yeah, and I just my solution was done, 0:18:47.359 --> 0:18:49.600 change the way you eat. Get a bigger tracksuit, bro, 0:18:51.040 --> 0:18:55.239 you know, get some, get them, get some. You know, 0:18:55.800 --> 0:18:58.280 don't wear a singlet because you look like a fucking 0:18:58.400 --> 0:19:02.760 potato in a training out. So just get yourself some big, baggy, 0:19:03.280 --> 0:19:10.040 pucking hoodies. And yeah, it's but I think that, I 0:19:10.080 --> 0:19:13.560 think that, and this is hard to do. But you know, 0:19:13.720 --> 0:19:16.520 over time, when we just really own up to our bullshit, 0:19:16.640 --> 0:19:19.439 and it takes a while to get ready, you know, 0:19:19.520 --> 0:19:21.800 because sometimes it's you know, you don't want to be embarrassed, 0:19:21.800 --> 0:19:24.119 you don't want to be humiliated. I get it. But 0:19:24.160 --> 0:19:27.160 it's like, but is it true though, Craig did you? 0:19:27.560 --> 0:19:30.640 Were you telling people to do one thing and behind 0:19:30.680 --> 0:19:33.240 closed doors doing another? Yeah? I was, I was right. 0:19:33.600 --> 0:19:36.360 But what makes me more comfortable to say this is one, 0:19:36.400 --> 0:19:40.480 it's true, and it aligns with one of my values 0:19:40.560 --> 0:19:43.720 to be as authentic as I can without being inappropriate. 0:19:45.160 --> 0:19:49.639 And two, I've worked with tens of thousands of people 0:19:50.440 --> 0:19:54.840 one on one in this process of physical, emotional, psychological change, 0:19:55.560 --> 0:20:00.520 and virtually everyone lies about something at some stage. The 0:20:00.560 --> 0:20:03.560 amount of people who for my at least the first 0:20:03.600 --> 0:20:07.399 twenty years of my pteen career, all of my clients 0:20:07.400 --> 0:20:11.119 would fill out diaries in the old days before apps, 0:20:11.920 --> 0:20:14.439 so either like a spiral bound book, like a page 0:20:14.440 --> 0:20:21.000 by page diary which would have food, exercise, sleep, you know, coffee, tea, booze, water, supplements, 0:20:21.359 --> 0:20:23.760 you know, medication, blah blah blah. So they'd record everything 0:20:23.960 --> 0:20:25.919 that would have some kind of impact on the outcome. 0:20:26.840 --> 0:20:30.439 I would say ninety percent of my clients lied. Not 0:20:30.560 --> 0:20:32.960 all the time, but I would look at what was 0:20:33.000 --> 0:20:36.560 in that fucking book and I'd look at them. I'm like, hey, Pinocchio, 0:20:37.400 --> 0:20:39.720 what the fuck is this? This is not what you're eating? 0:20:40.800 --> 0:20:43.800 I go, are you promising me? And they'd look at me. 0:20:43.880 --> 0:20:46.439 I go, look in my fucking eyes and promise me 0:20:46.520 --> 0:20:49.280 that this is what you are eating and there's nothing else. 0:20:50.200 --> 0:20:53.000 And they couldn't because they knew that, because they would 0:20:53.040 --> 0:20:55.879 write what they thought I wanted to hear or read. 0:20:56.640 --> 0:21:00.680 I'm like, what I want is the truth, because when 0:21:00.720 --> 0:21:04.679 we deal with the truth, then we can create a 0:21:04.720 --> 0:21:08.400 real plan and a real strategy. But when I'm training 0:21:08.400 --> 0:21:11.240 you and I'm doing everything that I can do for you, 0:21:11.920 --> 0:21:14.560 and then you're not losing weight or fat and you're 0:21:14.840 --> 0:21:18.040 shrugging your shoulders and saying, but I'm eating perfectly when 0:21:18.080 --> 0:21:21.280 you're not, Then what you're trying to do is make 0:21:21.320 --> 0:21:22.640 it my fault, not yours. 0:21:23.560 --> 0:21:26.040 It's a very funny process, isn't it like that when 0:21:26.080 --> 0:21:29.600 you think about that process. I remember my nutritionists. She's 0:21:29.920 --> 0:21:31.639 one of my best mates. I literally just went and 0:21:31.640 --> 0:21:34.680 had coffee with her, and years ago I got her 0:21:34.760 --> 0:21:36.680 I did a food diary I wanted to gain weight 0:21:36.720 --> 0:21:40.119 for boxing, and I showed her the diary and she goes, wow, 0:21:40.400 --> 0:21:44.959 this is very very detailed. I'm like, do not. She goes, no, 0:21:45.000 --> 0:21:48.639 people lie. I'm like, who pays for a nutritionist and 0:21:48.640 --> 0:21:52.000 then tells lies? You don't? How do you get there? 0:21:52.680 --> 0:21:55.200 How do you get the information you need if you're 0:21:55.280 --> 0:21:59.520 lying about what's happening? This is a funny process to go. Well, 0:21:59.520 --> 0:22:02.119 obviously already in then in your mind you have to 0:22:02.160 --> 0:22:05.040 go to yourself, well, don't you already have some answers 0:22:05.160 --> 0:22:07.840 if you address those first and then just showed up 0:22:07.880 --> 0:22:09.879 with what you say you're already doing, and then you 0:22:09.920 --> 0:22:11.439 might already have a result happening. 0:22:12.400 --> 0:22:14.520 Do you remember my story about the doctor that I 0:22:14.600 --> 0:22:19.080 used to train in the ice cream No, no, okay, 0:22:19.160 --> 0:22:21.360 so this is a true story, and nobody knows who 0:22:21.400 --> 0:22:24.520 this person is, right, so it doesn't matter. And I'm 0:22:24.560 --> 0:22:29.479 pretty sure this person is not a doctor anymore. So 0:22:29.600 --> 0:22:33.359 I was about twenty eight, so i'd been working in 0:22:33.440 --> 0:22:35.680 gyms for ten years. So I didn't know everything, of course, 0:22:35.720 --> 0:22:37.800 but I knew a fair bit. I trained a lot 0:22:37.840 --> 0:22:43.680 of people, maybe I was thirty and so I used 0:22:43.680 --> 0:22:47.679 to train this GP a lady, and she was quite 0:22:50.040 --> 0:22:54.320 what's the word at the start. We ended up with 0:22:54.359 --> 0:22:56.960 a really good relationship, but at the start quite challenging 0:22:57.640 --> 0:23:00.960 and quite By the time she got to me, she'd 0:23:01.000 --> 0:23:03.439 tried a bunch of thems, she'd had a dietitian, and 0:23:03.480 --> 0:23:06.240 she'd had another trainer before me, even though there weren't 0:23:06.240 --> 0:23:08.680