1 00:00:05,881 --> 00:00:13,241 Speaker 1: Apodjay Production. Welcome to the She Rises Podcast. I'm Ashy 2 00:00:13,281 --> 00:00:14,001 Speaker 1: and I'm Tiana. 3 00:00:14,361 --> 00:00:17,320 Speaker 2: This podcast is about female empowerment and encouraging you to 4 00:00:17,361 --> 00:00:20,761 Speaker 2: be your biggest, boldest, and most authentic version of yourself. 5 00:00:20,961 --> 00:00:23,320 Speaker 1: We help you shed the shame, grow to a new level. 6 00:00:23,321 --> 00:00:25,641 Speaker 1: We're gonna laugh and cry and talk about the topics 7 00:00:25,881 --> 00:00:29,041 Speaker 1: everyone else is too afraid to talk about. Get ready 8 00:00:29,241 --> 00:00:33,641 Speaker 1: for your next level of self. Welcome back twenty six 9 00:00:33,760 --> 00:00:37,081 Speaker 1: She Rises Season two with Ashley and Tiana. We're back, 10 00:00:37,321 --> 00:00:40,121 Speaker 1: We're bigger, We're ready. We're so excited to be here. 11 00:00:40,321 --> 00:00:42,960 Speaker 2: We are back and better than ever. We have decided 12 00:00:42,961 --> 00:00:44,521 Speaker 2: that this year we're going to go a little rogue 13 00:00:44,561 --> 00:00:45,601 Speaker 2: and we want you to come with us. 14 00:00:45,681 --> 00:00:47,761 Speaker 1: We're going to talk about things we have never spoken about. 15 00:00:47,801 --> 00:00:49,761 Speaker 1: We're going to take things up a notch, and we're 16 00:00:49,760 --> 00:00:51,601 Speaker 1: really just ready to give it out all. Not that 17 00:00:51,601 --> 00:00:53,161 Speaker 1: we haven't in the past, but we've got just this 18 00:00:53,361 --> 00:00:55,041 Speaker 1: fire in our belly, like this is going to be 19 00:00:55,481 --> 00:00:58,241 Speaker 1: our huge year for the podcast, for our retreats, for 20 00:00:58,361 --> 00:01:01,321 Speaker 1: our new online subscription platform called Rise Inside. It's just 21 00:01:01,321 --> 00:01:03,401 Speaker 1: a really exciting year for us. It absolutely is. 22 00:01:03,441 --> 00:01:05,041 Speaker 2: And you know what we were talking about this last 23 00:01:05,401 --> 00:01:07,081 Speaker 2: and we were talking about how we could feel this 24 00:01:07,121 --> 00:01:10,000 Speaker 2: momentum building within us and as we grew over the 25 00:01:10,081 --> 00:01:13,041 Speaker 2: last year, it was the year of hard conversations. 26 00:01:13,081 --> 00:01:15,520 Speaker 1: I'll tell you that that was our intention last year 27 00:01:15,521 --> 00:01:17,601 Speaker 1: actually was this year, We're really going to practice having 28 00:01:17,640 --> 00:01:20,681 Speaker 1: hard conversations, which is going to help us really solidify 29 00:01:20,840 --> 00:01:23,401 Speaker 1: who is right for our life right now, who's aligned. 30 00:01:23,601 --> 00:01:25,481 Speaker 1: And it's not even that someone does something wrong, it's 31 00:01:25,521 --> 00:01:27,801 Speaker 1: just like, who can meet us where we're at. That 32 00:01:27,920 --> 00:01:31,121 Speaker 1: was our word. Willing. Yeah, it's so crazy. We've been 33 00:01:31,161 --> 00:01:33,761 Speaker 1: having this big conversation around hard conversations because it was 34 00:01:33,801 --> 00:01:36,041 Speaker 1: our theme. But it's like, even if someone can't quite 35 00:01:36,121 --> 00:01:38,161 Speaker 1: have them, it's the willingness to wanting to lean in 36 00:01:38,200 --> 00:01:40,440 Speaker 1: and at least try. We've had moments with each other. 37 00:01:40,441 --> 00:01:42,840 Speaker 1: I know I can speak for myself where I've still 38 00:01:42,881 --> 00:01:45,281 Speaker 1: struggled to have hard conversations. I'm leaning in, but I'm 39 00:01:45,321 --> 00:01:48,681 Speaker 1: still like learning how to do it effectively. But I'm 40 00:01:48,721 --> 00:01:50,921 Speaker 1: so willing because I know that it brings people together 41 00:01:51,121 --> 00:01:53,721 Speaker 1: and it prevents any cracks in the relationships. That builds 42 00:01:53,721 --> 00:01:56,121 Speaker 1: more trust and you get to understand each other more, 43 00:01:56,161 --> 00:01:57,041 Speaker 1: which is so important. 44 00:01:57,121 --> 00:01:59,001 Speaker 2: Absolutely and I think we've just had so much evidence 45 00:01:59,041 --> 00:02:01,520 Speaker 2: that it does bring you closer than it does pull 46 00:02:01,561 --> 00:02:03,880 Speaker 2: you apart. And even though likely you said it doesn't 47 00:02:03,921 --> 00:02:05,001 Speaker 2: mean that it's not uncomfortable. 48 00:02:05,201 --> 00:02:06,241 Speaker 1: We still struggle. 49 00:02:06,241 --> 00:02:08,441 Speaker 2: We're not perfect at it, we make mistakes, we're human 50 00:02:08,561 --> 00:02:11,361 Speaker 2: just as much as anybody else. But that willingness part, 51 00:02:11,481 --> 00:02:13,481 Speaker 2: it comes back to that word every single time. And 52 00:02:13,520 --> 00:02:15,400 Speaker 2: that's kind of been the core theme of our year 53 00:02:15,481 --> 00:02:17,160 Speaker 2: last year. And would you say that's a big part 54 00:02:17,161 --> 00:02:17,960 Speaker 2: of your year this year? 55 00:02:18,041 --> 00:02:21,121 Speaker 1: Hard conversation, No, willingness, Oh, willingness yea one hundred percent. 56 00:02:21,161 --> 00:02:22,761 Speaker 1: But I feel like we're pretty solid on that. We're 57 00:02:22,960 --> 00:02:25,201 Speaker 1: so more than willing, and I feel like the people 58 00:02:25,240 --> 00:02:28,161 Speaker 1: in our life are also very willing. Absolutely, our circles 59 00:02:28,201 --> 00:02:30,321 Speaker 1: almost got a little bit smaller, but it just feels 60 00:02:30,321 --> 00:02:31,961 Speaker 1: good to have people that are just as willing as 61 00:02:32,001 --> 00:02:34,041 Speaker 1: what we are. Yeah, it definitely feels smaller, but more 62 00:02:34,041 --> 00:02:39,321 Speaker 1: intentional quality over quantity. Oh, absolutely absolutely so. Yeah, we're 63 00:02:39,401 --> 00:02:41,840 Speaker 1: very excited. Our first episode today is a really big one, 64 00:02:41,841 --> 00:02:44,201 Speaker 1: I think a very necessary one leading into the year, 65 00:02:44,201 --> 00:02:46,801 Speaker 1: and it's all around mindset and limiting beliefs because we 66 00:02:46,960 --> 00:02:49,001 Speaker 1: all have limited beliefs. We're going to talk about our 67 00:02:49,041 --> 00:02:51,241 Speaker 1: personal ones and how they have held us back in 68 00:02:51,281 --> 00:02:53,441 Speaker 1: the past and may still hold us back. Now, before 69 00:02:53,441 --> 00:02:55,520 Speaker 1: we get into today's episode, what is your Share of 70 00:02:55,561 --> 00:02:57,041 Speaker 1: the week? First one of twenty twenty. 71 00:02:57,081 --> 00:02:59,641 Speaker 2: Ih, my goodness to starting off with the bank. No, so, 72 00:03:00,001 --> 00:03:04,601 Speaker 2: mine is actually a Morphy blush. It's actually called cheek Thrills. 73 00:03:04,641 --> 00:03:06,960 Speaker 2: We tried recently and I just love them. It comes 74 00:03:07,001 --> 00:03:09,520 Speaker 2: with three sections. It's like a powder and then there's 75 00:03:09,520 --> 00:03:12,081 Speaker 2: also like a two creation as well. Yeah, it's so beautiful. 76 00:03:12,081 --> 00:03:14,121 Speaker 2: I just love the color. So it's called cheek Thrills. 77 00:03:14,441 --> 00:03:16,120 Speaker 1: Yeah, very very good. We went to a Morphy event 78 00:03:16,121 --> 00:03:18,801 Speaker 1: in Sydney which was random. I'm really in my blush era. Yes, 79 00:03:19,121 --> 00:03:20,400 Speaker 1: I love blush, just the. 80 00:03:20,441 --> 00:03:22,241 Speaker 2: Color it adds to your face, so like makes me 81 00:03:22,240 --> 00:03:24,280 Speaker 2: feel like real blushed and just alive live. 82 00:03:24,520 --> 00:03:28,921 Speaker 1: Yeah, I love feeling alive. Mine's a meditation. I recently 83 00:03:28,960 --> 00:03:30,921 Speaker 1: have been feeling a little bit more anxious, which I 84 00:03:30,960 --> 00:03:32,521 Speaker 1: want to go into another episode We're going to do 85 00:03:32,561 --> 00:03:35,880 Speaker 1: like a health update episode. We've recently started taking peptides 86 00:03:36,241 --> 00:03:38,081 Speaker 1: and I think I've just had a big workload and 87 00:03:38,081 --> 00:03:41,601 Speaker 1: a lot's been going on and stealing different emotions, and yeah, 88 00:03:41,641 --> 00:03:43,561 Speaker 1: I felt super anxious the other day and I really 89 00:03:43,641 --> 00:03:47,401 Speaker 1: struggled to bring myself back down. End up playing in 90 00:03:47,441 --> 00:03:49,281 Speaker 1: bed with Steve when we both did a meditation. I 91 00:03:49,281 --> 00:03:51,361 Speaker 1: put on the five minute one from Rise and Side 92 00:03:51,361 --> 00:03:53,681 Speaker 1: because that first month was all around nervous and regulation 93 00:03:54,281 --> 00:03:56,041 Speaker 1: and I used to just go onto YouTube and type whatever. 94 00:03:56,241 --> 00:03:58,041 Speaker 1: But I was like, oh my gosh, I've got four 95 00:03:58,761 --> 00:04:01,641 Speaker 1: beautiful meditations in here that we created that are just 96 00:04:01,881 --> 00:04:06,241 Speaker 1: so relaxing, and just regulate Mistrader for five minutes, and 97 00:04:06,281 --> 00:04:09,561 Speaker 1: I felt a hundred times better. Like I know this logically, 98 00:04:09,721 --> 00:04:12,521 Speaker 1: but when you're in that anxious state and you start 99 00:04:12,521 --> 00:04:14,921 Speaker 1: to sweat and your heart rates increasing, and you, like 100 00:04:14,961 --> 00:04:18,281 Speaker 1: I felt a bit panicky, you forget how quickly you 101 00:04:18,321 --> 00:04:22,601 Speaker 1: can bring yourself down with breath. And breath is the easiest, fastest, 102 00:04:22,801 --> 00:04:24,361 Speaker 1: it's free, you don't have to pay for it. You 103 00:04:24,401 --> 00:04:25,841 Speaker 1: can do it at any point of the day. Whenever 104 00:04:25,880 --> 00:04:29,320 Speaker 1: you feel overwhelmed and you start to feel those symptoms 105 00:04:29,361 --> 00:04:32,561 Speaker 1: of anxiousness, just know that you can bring it down. So, yeah, 106 00:04:32,561 --> 00:04:34,521 Speaker 1: it was a five minute meditation just the week two one. 107 00:04:34,561 --> 00:04:37,881 Speaker 1: It was incredible, so good, yeah, so good. Honestly, it's 108 00:04:37,880 --> 00:04:39,561 Speaker 1: a game change, it really is. So if you're in 109 00:04:39,641 --> 00:04:42,121 Speaker 1: Rise and Side, you guys can access the previous month's 110 00:04:42,161 --> 00:04:45,081 Speaker 1: meditations whenever you need. Just go inside the school lab 111 00:04:45,121 --> 00:04:47,201 Speaker 1: and it's their push play. Just lay down or sit down, 112 00:04:47,201 --> 00:04:49,760 Speaker 1: even in your car. Five minutes. That's all it took. Yeah. 113 00:04:49,761 --> 00:04:51,041 Speaker 2: The best thing as well is you don't have to 114 00:04:51,081 --> 00:04:53,041 Speaker 2: listen to it just once. This is something we recommend 115 00:04:53,041 --> 00:04:55,520 Speaker 2: listening to over and over again if you make it 116 00:04:55,521 --> 00:04:58,161 Speaker 2: a daily practice. I think just once a day goes 117 00:04:58,201 --> 00:05:00,081 Speaker 2: such a long way when you're in a heightened state. 118 00:05:00,361 --> 00:05:02,281 Speaker 1: If you're doing that regularly long term, it has the 119 00:05:02,320 --> 00:05:05,320 Speaker 1: biggest benefits. You'll feel calmer and more regulated. All I 120 00:05:05,361 --> 00:05:07,520 Speaker 1: love that. I love that it helped. Yeah, so good. 121 00:05:07,761 --> 00:05:11,320 Speaker 1: All right, so let's get into today's episode. So the 122 00:05:11,361 --> 00:05:13,841 Speaker 1: first thing is awareness, Hey, just having an awareness around 123 00:05:13,880 --> 00:05:15,721 Speaker 1: what comes up for you and how that prevents you 124 00:05:15,761 --> 00:05:17,681 Speaker 1: from progressing forward to live the life you want to 125 00:05:17,801 --> 00:05:19,361 Speaker 1: live and to be the person that you want to be. 126 00:05:19,601 --> 00:05:22,081 Speaker 2: Awareness is such an important step because you don't know 127 00:05:22,121 --> 00:05:24,720 Speaker 2: what you don't know. Yeah, and if you can't see 128 00:05:24,880 --> 00:05:27,041 Speaker 2: what is impacting you, you don't actually know how to 129 00:05:27,041 --> 00:05:27,481 Speaker 2: fix it. 130 00:05:27,561 --> 00:05:29,241 Speaker 1: And if you're here listening to this. 131 00:05:29,801 --> 00:05:32,041 Speaker 2: You want to set yourself up really beautifully in the 132 00:05:32,081 --> 00:05:34,281 Speaker 2: new year so that you can actually create the life 133 00:05:34,281 --> 00:05:36,281 Speaker 2: that you want, become the woman that you want, and 134 00:05:36,320 --> 00:05:38,201 Speaker 2: get to live in that place of peace in your 135 00:05:38,201 --> 00:05:40,721 Speaker 2: own mind. And it really does come from being able 136 00:05:40,761 --> 00:05:43,561 Speaker 2: to see kind of like what's underneath the hood of 137 00:05:43,601 --> 00:05:46,161 Speaker 2: your own mind and seeing what's kind of playing out 138 00:05:46,201 --> 00:05:48,080 Speaker 2: for you at the moment. And it can be hard 139 00:05:48,121 --> 00:05:50,681 Speaker 2: to face and hard to confront sometimes. I know I 140 00:05:50,721 --> 00:05:52,801 Speaker 2: feel like that too. Sometimes I'm like Laris, I don't 141 00:05:52,801 --> 00:05:54,601 Speaker 2: want to look at that, or you know, if as 142 00:05:54,641 --> 00:05:56,640 Speaker 2: she sees me in that she's not gonna love me anymore, 143 00:05:56,761 --> 00:05:58,161 Speaker 2: or if my sister sees me that she's going to 144 00:05:58,241 --> 00:05:59,521 Speaker 2: judge me for it, you know. And it's like all 145 00:05:59,561 --> 00:06:02,041 Speaker 2: of these thoughts and fears that keep us from actually 146 00:06:02,521 --> 00:06:06,001 Speaker 2: almost like exposing ourselves to ourselves and being able to 147 00:06:06,001 --> 00:06:08,841 Speaker 2: see what truly happens underneath the hood for us. But 148 00:06:08,921 --> 00:06:10,281 Speaker 2: it is also the most bringing thing. 149 00:06:10,401 --> 00:06:12,921 Speaker 1: It really is. I think you call it blind spots. Yes, 150 00:06:13,081 --> 00:06:16,481 Speaker 1: find finding your blind spots. And you might just think 151 00:06:16,561 --> 00:06:18,601 Speaker 1: that this limited belief is just you might have used 152 00:06:18,601 --> 00:06:20,640 Speaker 1: the language like, oh, that's just who I am. That's 153 00:06:20,681 --> 00:06:23,361 Speaker 1: just how it is, Like, that's the truth. It's actually not. 154 00:06:24,241 --> 00:06:27,520 Speaker 1: We use those stories and those narratives to protect us 155 00:06:27,721 --> 00:06:30,401 Speaker 1: from moving forward in case we fail, in case things 156 00:06:30,401 --> 00:06:33,001 Speaker 1: don't work out, and then also if things don't work out, 157 00:06:33,001 --> 00:06:35,041 Speaker 1: we use it as evidence to make our story even 158 00:06:35,081 --> 00:06:37,921 Speaker 1: more truer. And I did that my whole life, and 159 00:06:38,521 --> 00:06:41,161 Speaker 1: I'm still aware that my limited belief pops up, but 160 00:06:41,201 --> 00:06:43,401 Speaker 1: I don't let it control me anymore. Let's talk about 161 00:06:43,440 --> 00:06:45,801 Speaker 1: personal stories, because that's my favorite way to teach, just 162 00:06:45,801 --> 00:06:47,721 Speaker 1: my favorite way to learn. When someone's vulnerable and talks 163 00:06:47,721 --> 00:06:50,081 Speaker 1: about their experience, I just really connect with that. So 164 00:06:50,201 --> 00:06:53,200 Speaker 1: let's start there. Yeah, so there was something that actually 165 00:06:53,201 --> 00:06:54,961 Speaker 1: came up for you the other week. Oh, you're gonna 166 00:06:54,961 --> 00:06:56,841 Speaker 1: go on straight out. How can I tell them what 167 00:06:56,841 --> 00:06:59,401 Speaker 1: it is? First? Let's yeah, you're gonna hate me for this, 168 00:07:00,681 --> 00:07:02,760 Speaker 1: least slain what it is first, I get context. Okay. 169 00:07:03,001 --> 00:07:05,561 Speaker 1: So my limiting belief and my or that I tell 170 00:07:05,601 --> 00:07:08,321 Speaker 1: myself is that I'm too dumb to do something. And 171 00:07:08,681 --> 00:07:11,121 Speaker 1: this stem from fifteen years of having a step father 172 00:07:11,281 --> 00:07:12,681 Speaker 1: telling me I was done all the time. So it 173 00:07:12,721 --> 00:07:16,041 Speaker 1: became my truth those first seven years of our childhood 174 00:07:16,041 --> 00:07:19,041 Speaker 1: of our life become our imprint years, and then even 175 00:07:19,081 --> 00:07:22,201 Speaker 1: after that it becomes our belief about ourselves, about the world, 176 00:07:22,241 --> 00:07:25,201 Speaker 1: and we really take in and absorb and see and 177 00:07:25,281 --> 00:07:28,161 Speaker 1: feel everything that the adults around us are saying are 178 00:07:28,201 --> 00:07:31,481 Speaker 1: showing up in that way, it's really crucial how our 179 00:07:31,521 --> 00:07:33,441 Speaker 1: parents behave and what they say to us, because we 180 00:07:33,481 --> 00:07:35,921 Speaker 1: really take it on like that is an absolute truth. 181 00:07:36,081 --> 00:07:38,121 Speaker 1: And after hearing that day after day after day, after 182 00:07:38,161 --> 00:07:40,481 Speaker 1: everything that I would do, it just became my truth. 183 00:07:40,601 --> 00:07:43,161 Speaker 1: So throughout my teens and until I met Steve, and 184 00:07:43,201 --> 00:07:45,561 Speaker 1: even then it was a fucking battle to try something new. 185 00:07:46,281 --> 00:07:48,641 Speaker 1: I've truly believed that there's no point to me even 186 00:07:48,721 --> 00:07:51,481 Speaker 1: trying to do something because I was so dumb. I'd 187 00:07:51,561 --> 00:07:54,761 Speaker 1: failed high school, I'd failed my driver's licensed tests, I'd 188 00:07:54,761 --> 00:07:57,361 Speaker 1: failed courses that I'd tried at TAVE. I felt like 189 00:07:57,401 --> 00:07:59,921 Speaker 1: everything that I had tried I failed at. So it 190 00:07:59,961 --> 00:08:01,321 Speaker 1: just gave me more and more evidence. I'm like, this 191 00:08:01,361 --> 00:08:03,121 Speaker 1: is true. Tell me where it's not true. It's just stacked. 192 00:08:03,401 --> 00:08:05,921 Speaker 1: It just stacked. When I met Steve and I had 193 00:08:05,921 --> 00:08:09,281 Speaker 1: to do my personal training course, Oh the fights we 194 00:08:09,281 --> 00:08:11,681 Speaker 1: would have about that. And even then I still failed 195 00:08:11,681 --> 00:08:14,321 Speaker 1: that three times until I passed. My mum always says 196 00:08:14,321 --> 00:08:16,601 Speaker 1: to me, you're not dumb. It just might not be 197 00:08:16,681 --> 00:08:19,001 Speaker 1: taught in a way that you understand. You're very hands 198 00:08:19,001 --> 00:08:21,601 Speaker 1: on person, you're a very visual person. Also, if you're 199 00:08:21,641 --> 00:08:23,481 Speaker 1: not super interested in it, that makes it hard to 200 00:08:23,521 --> 00:08:27,121 Speaker 1: take information as well. Good luck focusing on it. Yeah. Yeah. 201 00:08:27,161 --> 00:08:29,201 Speaker 1: And also if you believe that you're dumb, you're almost 202 00:08:29,281 --> 00:08:31,521 Speaker 1: creating that because you're not really giving your all because 203 00:08:31,561 --> 00:08:33,961 Speaker 1: you think you're can a fail anyway. Ye, So upon reflection, 204 00:08:34,401 --> 00:08:37,641 Speaker 1: I can see that story is not entirely true, But yeah, 205 00:08:37,681 --> 00:08:39,401 Speaker 1: it still pops up for me. And I've really had 206 00:08:39,401 --> 00:08:42,321 Speaker 1: to work on letting it be there, seeing it for 207 00:08:42,321 --> 00:08:45,481 Speaker 1: what it is and still doing the thing anyway. And 208 00:08:45,721 --> 00:08:47,561 Speaker 1: even if I go for it and it doesn't work out, 209 00:08:47,721 --> 00:08:49,801 Speaker 1: not to attach myself to that story, Oh that didn't 210 00:08:49,801 --> 00:08:51,561 Speaker 1: work out because I'm dumb. It's like, Okay, that didn't 211 00:08:51,601 --> 00:08:53,921 Speaker 1: work out because something better is around the corner for me, 212 00:08:54,041 --> 00:08:57,441 Speaker 1: or because I didn't study hard enough, or because I 213 00:08:57,441 --> 00:08:59,201 Speaker 1: need to understand it more. I need to put more 214 00:08:59,201 --> 00:09:02,001 Speaker 1: time and effort into it, not just give up in 215 00:09:02,041 --> 00:09:05,521 Speaker 1: that moment. But yeah, it feels so real. And yours 216 00:09:05,601 --> 00:09:07,881 Speaker 1: might be that you know, I'm never going to meet 217 00:09:07,881 --> 00:09:10,201 Speaker 1: anyone because I'm not pretty enough. I'm never going to 218 00:09:10,241 --> 00:09:12,881 Speaker 1: meet anyone because I'm to overweight. No one's going to 219 00:09:12,961 --> 00:09:15,721 Speaker 1: love me because my parents didn't love me. Everyone's going 220 00:09:15,761 --> 00:09:19,521 Speaker 1: to leave because everyone always has left. You know, as 221 00:09:19,521 --> 00:09:21,761 Speaker 1: I'm saying, there's a hope that yours has coming to 222 00:09:21,801 --> 00:09:24,361 Speaker 1: the surface. And it can feel really uncomfortable, but no, 223 00:09:24,441 --> 00:09:26,681 Speaker 1: this is a safe place. Like we said before, having 224 00:09:26,721 --> 00:09:29,081 Speaker 1: awareness is you're like, oh, when it comes up, it's like, Okay, 225 00:09:29,921 --> 00:09:31,401 Speaker 1: I know that's there, but it doesn't have to be 226 00:09:31,481 --> 00:09:32,321 Speaker 1: my truth. Yeah. 227 00:09:32,401 --> 00:09:34,561 Speaker 2: Absolutely, this is such an opportunity for you to have 228 00:09:34,601 --> 00:09:37,241 Speaker 2: a clean slate in twenty twenty six. You get to 229 00:09:37,281 --> 00:09:40,041 Speaker 2: decide what you want this year to look like based 230 00:09:40,041 --> 00:09:43,561 Speaker 2: on how much of yourself you're willing to confront. And honestly, 231 00:09:43,641 --> 00:09:46,161 Speaker 2: it is really uncomfortable. You're going to feel uncomfortable while 232 00:09:46,161 --> 00:09:48,081 Speaker 2: you're doing it. It's not an easy journey. And I 233 00:09:48,121 --> 00:09:52,001 Speaker 2: will say, like, this is a forever journey, forever, forever, Right, 234 00:09:52,001 --> 00:09:54,481 Speaker 2: You're going to constantly be working on these stories, but 235 00:09:54,521 --> 00:09:56,361 Speaker 2: for as long as you are able to face them 236 00:09:56,401 --> 00:09:58,761 Speaker 2: in the beginning, it will feel a lot easier down 237 00:09:58,801 --> 00:10:00,361 Speaker 2: the line. Again, I'm not saying that it's going to 238 00:10:00,361 --> 00:10:02,001 Speaker 2: be perfect and feel easy and you're going to be like, 239 00:10:02,001 --> 00:10:03,641 Speaker 2: oh my god, I can't wait to feel this because 240 00:10:03,641 --> 00:10:07,001 Speaker 2: you're probably not going to. But you become more capable 241 00:10:07,001 --> 00:10:07,641 Speaker 2: of holding them. 242 00:10:07,801 --> 00:10:10,561 Speaker 1: Yes, and you know that's to repair and paster repairing. 243 00:10:10,561 --> 00:10:12,121 Speaker 2: This is exactly what happened the other week when this 244 00:10:12,201 --> 00:10:13,681 Speaker 2: story came up for you. 245 00:10:13,961 --> 00:10:18,801 Speaker 1: I love that you're laughing. You're like, yeah, I kind 246 00:10:18,801 --> 00:10:19,801 Speaker 1: of tens of thousands of pek. 247 00:10:19,881 --> 00:10:21,721 Speaker 2: I say this with love. No, this is the year 248 00:10:21,761 --> 00:10:25,161 Speaker 2: of hard conversations. Yeah, and it like came up for 249 00:10:25,201 --> 00:10:26,561 Speaker 2: you in that moment. Do you want to share a 250 00:10:26,561 --> 00:10:27,801 Speaker 2: little bit about like what that? 251 00:10:28,161 --> 00:10:29,921 Speaker 1: Do you want to share? Yeah, maybe I'll tell it 252 00:10:30,001 --> 00:10:33,521 Speaker 1: differently to what I remember it. No. No, So we 253 00:10:33,561 --> 00:10:35,201 Speaker 1: had a moment. We had a moment. 254 00:10:35,321 --> 00:10:39,841 Speaker 2: We had actual movement sexual not what I mean no 255 00:10:42,681 --> 00:10:46,521 Speaker 2: plodonic wife work wife. Anyway, So we were at the 256 00:10:46,521 --> 00:10:49,441 Speaker 2: office and we were working on a project and we 257 00:10:49,441 --> 00:10:51,561 Speaker 2: were doing something and we had a Google doc out 258 00:10:51,601 --> 00:10:53,201 Speaker 2: ready and there was all this information on it and 259 00:10:53,201 --> 00:10:55,361 Speaker 2: it was something to do with actually our new membership 260 00:10:55,361 --> 00:10:57,481 Speaker 2: called Rise Inside. If you're not in there, or have 261 00:10:57,521 --> 00:10:59,961 Speaker 2: a look, you'll love it. And you know, as she 262 00:11:00,041 --> 00:11:02,721 Speaker 2: was going through this document, and she could see that 263 00:11:02,761 --> 00:11:04,601 Speaker 2: she was getting a little bit overwhelmed, and she started 264 00:11:04,641 --> 00:11:06,601 Speaker 2: to say, Babe, I'm feeling really overwhelmed. It's not really 265 00:11:06,641 --> 00:11:08,361 Speaker 2: making sense to me, Like it's starting to feel really 266 00:11:08,361 --> 00:11:11,161 Speaker 2: really overwhelming, and I just can we simplify it? Can 267 00:11:11,201 --> 00:11:13,241 Speaker 2: we change it? And that was what was coming up 268 00:11:13,241 --> 00:11:16,561 Speaker 2: for her. What I was receiving was actually my story 269 00:11:16,761 --> 00:11:19,681 Speaker 2: and my limiting belief. And when as she was saying, 270 00:11:19,801 --> 00:11:24,041 Speaker 2: this feels really overwhelming, I heard my work is overwhelming. 271 00:11:24,041 --> 00:11:26,321 Speaker 1: Also to give context, so when we plan episodes and 272 00:11:26,361 --> 00:11:28,761 Speaker 1: when we plan content in Rise in Sight all the podcast, 273 00:11:29,081 --> 00:11:31,281 Speaker 1: sometimes I take lead on a certain topic. Yeah, I 274 00:11:31,321 --> 00:11:33,161 Speaker 1: feel more confident and that's a strength of mind, and 275 00:11:33,201 --> 00:11:36,161 Speaker 1: maybe Chiana doesn't feel as strong in that and vice versa. Yeah, 276 00:11:36,161 --> 00:11:38,761 Speaker 1: so this particular topic, it's not something that I have 277 00:11:38,881 --> 00:11:41,241 Speaker 1: ever taught. So Chianna was taking lead and she wrote 278 00:11:41,241 --> 00:11:45,721 Speaker 1: this incredible eighteen page document with all this information, and 279 00:11:45,761 --> 00:11:47,761 Speaker 1: then my job is to read through it and condense 280 00:11:47,801 --> 00:11:49,681 Speaker 1: it down and understand it, and then we talk about 281 00:11:49,721 --> 00:11:51,881 Speaker 1: it together and then we build the content out like that, yes, 282 00:11:52,001 --> 00:11:53,601 Speaker 1: but as I was reading it, I was like, oh 283 00:11:53,641 --> 00:11:56,401 Speaker 1: my gosh, like my story was I'm so fucking dumb. 284 00:11:56,441 --> 00:11:58,721 Speaker 1: I don't know what she's talking about, but yeah, you 285 00:11:58,841 --> 00:12:02,961 Speaker 1: heard that your content wasn't digestible enough. Yeah, too overwhelming, 286 00:12:02,961 --> 00:12:04,961 Speaker 1: Whereas in my head, which I have learned, I need 287 00:12:05,121 --> 00:12:08,881 Speaker 1: communicate better with that, your content's amazing and you're so 288 00:12:09,001 --> 00:12:12,241 Speaker 1: smart and it's so much value. I just need it 289 00:12:12,361 --> 00:12:15,001 Speaker 1: explained in a more simplified way. Yeah, but you can 290 00:12:15,041 --> 00:12:17,801 Speaker 1: see how both our story's there one dreds were just 291 00:12:17,881 --> 00:12:20,841 Speaker 1: so present and so real and actually so valid. 292 00:12:21,561 --> 00:12:23,561 Speaker 2: Yeah, because in that moment, like the story that I 293 00:12:23,641 --> 00:12:25,801 Speaker 2: was telling myself, which is not at all what you said, 294 00:12:25,801 --> 00:12:27,641 Speaker 2: but this is what I heard in my head, based 295 00:12:27,681 --> 00:12:30,201 Speaker 2: on my own triggers and wounds and believes, was that 296 00:12:30,481 --> 00:12:32,921 Speaker 2: my content was overwhelming, and almost in my head was 297 00:12:32,921 --> 00:12:35,081 Speaker 2: like it's not good enough. My story that I've always 298 00:12:35,121 --> 00:12:38,401 Speaker 2: had is that I'm not capable enough. I'm not capable 299 00:12:38,481 --> 00:12:40,481 Speaker 2: enough to achieve the things that I want to do. So, like, 300 00:12:40,761 --> 00:12:42,481 Speaker 2: I think it was almost one of those moments where 301 00:12:42,521 --> 00:12:44,281 Speaker 2: it was like that old belief popped up in the moment, 302 00:12:44,321 --> 00:12:45,761 Speaker 2: it was like, oh see, it's not good enough. See 303 00:12:45,761 --> 00:12:48,201 Speaker 2: you're not capable enough. See you can't do this. And 304 00:12:48,241 --> 00:12:51,361 Speaker 2: it was not necessarily that I was told that growing up, 305 00:12:51,441 --> 00:12:54,201 Speaker 2: but it was more because I was always somebody who 306 00:12:54,241 --> 00:12:56,681 Speaker 2: used to start things and never finish them right, And 307 00:12:56,761 --> 00:12:59,921 Speaker 2: so all the evidence that I had was stacking that 308 00:13:00,321 --> 00:13:02,721 Speaker 2: any time that I wanted to achieve something and set out, 309 00:13:02,801 --> 00:13:05,161 Speaker 2: I would give up, or I would fail and then 310 00:13:05,161 --> 00:13:07,881 Speaker 2: I wouldn't get back up, or I would even have 311 00:13:08,041 --> 00:13:10,801 Speaker 2: let's say, for example, my dad, he was always there 312 00:13:10,841 --> 00:13:13,001 Speaker 2: whenever I would struggle, right, So it was like my 313 00:13:13,081 --> 00:13:15,921 Speaker 2: story was also that I need saving because it was like, well, 314 00:13:16,121 --> 00:13:18,441 Speaker 2: whenever something gets really hard, I'm not the person to 315 00:13:18,441 --> 00:13:19,121 Speaker 2: solve the problem. 316 00:13:19,161 --> 00:13:20,521 Speaker 1: My Dad's the person to solve the problem. 317 00:13:20,521 --> 00:13:24,001 Speaker 2: Block And so because somebody else did it, that automatically 318 00:13:24,001 --> 00:13:25,441 Speaker 2: means that I wasn't capable of doing it. 319 00:13:25,481 --> 00:13:26,561 Speaker 1: Can do it without someone's help. 320 00:13:26,681 --> 00:13:28,881 Speaker 2: Yeah, So I always needed somebody else to be there, 321 00:13:28,881 --> 00:13:31,561 Speaker 2: And I never had that instilled sense of trust in 322 00:13:31,601 --> 00:13:34,601 Speaker 2: myself because every single time along the journey, no matter 323 00:13:34,641 --> 00:13:36,801 Speaker 2: what it was like, even wanting to work on site 324 00:13:36,801 --> 00:13:38,241 Speaker 2: and things like that, I was like, oh my god, I'm. 325 00:13:38,081 --> 00:13:40,001 Speaker 1: Not capable Until I finished it and all the things. 326 00:13:40,001 --> 00:13:40,921 Speaker 1: But like I would stop and. 327 00:13:40,881 --> 00:13:43,921 Speaker 2: Start courses, and I would you know, try new business ventures, 328 00:13:43,921 --> 00:13:45,321 Speaker 2: and I would get a new job, and then I'd 329 00:13:45,361 --> 00:13:47,081 Speaker 2: hate it and I'd leave, and I just I had 330 00:13:47,081 --> 00:13:49,681 Speaker 2: this never ending list of things that I started and 331 00:13:49,721 --> 00:13:52,401 Speaker 2: never finished, and I was just had this overwhelming feeling 332 00:13:52,401 --> 00:13:54,241 Speaker 2: of like feeling disappointed in myself. 333 00:13:53,881 --> 00:13:54,441 Speaker 1: All the time. 334 00:13:54,921 --> 00:13:58,441 Speaker 2: And so really what allowed me to change that was 335 00:13:59,121 --> 00:14:02,721 Speaker 2: really having internal boundaries with myself and having the discipline 336 00:14:02,721 --> 00:14:04,641 Speaker 2: to actually stick to something and go, hey, like, you 337 00:14:04,681 --> 00:14:07,361 Speaker 2: don't need somebody else to solve it or fix it 338 00:14:07,481 --> 00:14:09,801 Speaker 2: or saving. You don't need saving. You're not broken, there's 339 00:14:09,841 --> 00:14:12,041 Speaker 2: nothing wrong with you. You just need to prove to 340 00:14:12,041 --> 00:14:14,401 Speaker 2: yourself that you're actually capable of doing it. And so 341 00:14:14,561 --> 00:14:16,961 Speaker 2: through that repetition of consistently going like, hey, I'm going 342 00:14:17,001 --> 00:14:18,761 Speaker 2: to commit to this because it means something to me, 343 00:14:19,321 --> 00:14:21,641 Speaker 2: and then going hey, like you can do this, and 344 00:14:21,681 --> 00:14:24,121 Speaker 2: not forcing myself into doing it because I hated it, 345 00:14:24,161 --> 00:14:26,841 Speaker 2: but loving myself into the growth. And that was the 346 00:14:26,841 --> 00:14:30,601 Speaker 2: biggest difference. Okay, I have these boundaries and discipline with 347 00:14:30,641 --> 00:14:33,241 Speaker 2: myself because I love myself, not because I'm trying to 348 00:14:33,361 --> 00:14:36,241 Speaker 2: make you hate what you're doing, or feel challenged or 349 00:14:36,281 --> 00:14:38,081 Speaker 2: anything like that. It came from a place of love. 350 00:14:38,681 --> 00:14:40,601 Speaker 2: And so in that moment when Ash and I were 351 00:14:40,601 --> 00:14:43,041 Speaker 2: having that conversation, it was like both of our triggers 352 00:14:43,041 --> 00:14:45,041 Speaker 2: came up in that moment and we were both faced 353 00:14:45,041 --> 00:14:47,001 Speaker 2: with it to sit with it in the discomfort together, 354 00:14:47,441 --> 00:14:49,561 Speaker 2: and we were just like, oh, like. 355 00:14:49,601 --> 00:14:53,121 Speaker 1: Moving through it. Yeah, Yeah, it's really hard. And yeah, 356 00:14:53,201 --> 00:14:55,761 Speaker 1: no matter how old you get and how much work 357 00:14:55,801 --> 00:14:57,201 Speaker 1: you do on this, yeah, I feel like they are 358 00:14:57,241 --> 00:15:00,441 Speaker 1: always going to arise in certain moments because it's like 359 00:15:00,481 --> 00:15:03,321 Speaker 1: that old analogy of a wound, you know, and it heals, 360 00:15:03,721 --> 00:15:04,841 Speaker 1: We've got a band aid on it, but then it 361 00:15:04,881 --> 00:15:07,121 Speaker 1: can recut open, Yeah, and it starts to bleed again. 362 00:15:07,601 --> 00:15:09,801 Speaker 1: And that happened for us. It's like, oh, I thought 363 00:15:10,001 --> 00:15:11,641 Speaker 1: I'd worked through that. I'm dumb story. I know it's 364 00:15:11,641 --> 00:15:13,081 Speaker 1: still always in the back of my head, but I'm 365 00:15:13,081 --> 00:15:15,921 Speaker 1: pretty quickly quick to squash it now. Like I said before, 366 00:15:15,921 --> 00:15:18,281 Speaker 1: I don't let it stop me from doing anything, even this, 367 00:15:18,401 --> 00:15:21,441 Speaker 1: even this whole topic. I was like, I'm willing to learn. Yeah, 368 00:15:21,521 --> 00:15:23,641 Speaker 1: I'm fucking shit scared and I have to understand this 369 00:15:23,681 --> 00:15:25,161 Speaker 1: more and I need it more. Simplified. I need to 370 00:15:25,161 --> 00:15:27,881 Speaker 1: study it more and ask more questions. But in that 371 00:15:27,961 --> 00:15:30,841 Speaker 1: moment that trigger ended up taking over. We really had 372 00:15:30,881 --> 00:15:32,601 Speaker 1: to like regulate and work through that and have further 373 00:15:32,641 --> 00:15:34,961 Speaker 1: conversations on one heart, how it feel good for both 374 00:15:34,961 --> 00:15:36,681 Speaker 1: of us, and also learned to hold each other in 375 00:15:36,721 --> 00:15:38,841 Speaker 1: the triggers. Yes, why are both triggers. 376 00:15:38,521 --> 00:15:41,201 Speaker 2: While we're both Yeah, because we were having this conversation 377 00:15:41,241 --> 00:15:43,721 Speaker 2: the other day, and it's really easy to hold somebody 378 00:15:43,721 --> 00:15:45,481 Speaker 2: in their triggers when you're not triggered, to when you're regular, 379 00:15:45,521 --> 00:15:48,001 Speaker 2: when you're regulated and you're like, babe, I've got you, Like, 380 00:15:48,081 --> 00:15:50,321 Speaker 2: come to me, you can tell me anything. When you're 381 00:15:50,361 --> 00:15:53,161 Speaker 2: also feeling activated and you're having your own internal experience, 382 00:15:53,761 --> 00:15:54,841 Speaker 2: you face a little. 383 00:15:54,561 --> 00:15:55,441 Speaker 1: Bit more challenge. 384 00:15:55,561 --> 00:15:57,921 Speaker 2: Yeah, right, because you're holding your trigger and then you're 385 00:15:57,921 --> 00:16:00,401 Speaker 2: also holding this person too, and you're having your own 386 00:16:00,401 --> 00:16:03,481 Speaker 2: internal experience. So everything that's happening right now feels personal, 387 00:16:03,841 --> 00:16:06,441 Speaker 2: and everything that's happening for the other person also feels personal, 388 00:16:06,801 --> 00:16:09,641 Speaker 2: you know. So we had to navigate that conversation of going, okay, 389 00:16:09,681 --> 00:16:10,641 Speaker 2: like what's coming out for you? 390 00:16:10,721 --> 00:16:11,681 Speaker 1: How does this feel for you? 391 00:16:11,761 --> 00:16:16,281 Speaker 2: And then kind of squashing the conversation, regulating coming back together, 392 00:16:16,401 --> 00:16:19,281 Speaker 2: rehaving the conversation, and then repairing together and coming back 393 00:16:19,321 --> 00:16:19,761 Speaker 2: to each other. 394 00:16:20,121 --> 00:16:23,001 Speaker 1: You have to be super aware in conversations around your triggers, 395 00:16:23,041 --> 00:16:26,241 Speaker 1: because like what you said before, what I heard was yeah, 396 00:16:26,281 --> 00:16:28,601 Speaker 1: that's what she said. Yes, And I think this is 397 00:16:28,601 --> 00:16:32,201 Speaker 1: a really powerful thing in relationship dynamics to say, I 398 00:16:32,241 --> 00:16:33,961 Speaker 1: know this isn't what you're saying, but what I'm hearing 399 00:16:34,001 --> 00:16:36,041 Speaker 1: from you is da da da da da. And then 400 00:16:36,081 --> 00:16:38,041 Speaker 1: it gives the other person opportunity to say, well, that's 401 00:16:38,081 --> 00:16:39,841 Speaker 1: not what I mean. Yeah, I know it can come 402 00:16:39,881 --> 00:16:41,961 Speaker 1: across like that, but I'm going to repeat it in a 403 00:16:42,001 --> 00:16:44,641 Speaker 1: different way. What I mean is da da da and 404 00:16:44,641 --> 00:16:46,281 Speaker 1: make it about you, so it's not about them. But 405 00:16:46,321 --> 00:16:49,041 Speaker 1: when you're triggered, you do take everything personally so true, 406 00:16:49,081 --> 00:16:51,601 Speaker 1: and that's where the nervous system regulation comes in so 407 00:16:51,761 --> 00:16:54,081 Speaker 1: freaking handy, and it's something to always work on. It's 408 00:16:54,081 --> 00:16:56,681 Speaker 1: not easy, but we've got to be super aware of 409 00:16:56,681 --> 00:16:58,921 Speaker 1: the limited beliefs. And it's cool to also reflect too, 410 00:16:58,961 --> 00:17:02,281 Speaker 1: and like where in your life has this story popped up? 411 00:17:02,481 --> 00:17:04,561 Speaker 1: And where has it prevented you from moving forwards? Like 412 00:17:04,600 --> 00:17:06,721 Speaker 1: I know I have said no to job opportunities. Yeah, 413 00:17:06,761 --> 00:17:09,521 Speaker 1: I've said, notice so many opportunities. I've been too scared 414 00:17:09,561 --> 00:17:11,321 Speaker 1: to go to something or to try something new because 415 00:17:11,360 --> 00:17:12,921 Speaker 1: I've just told myself I'm too dumb, so I won't 416 00:17:12,921 --> 00:17:14,920 Speaker 1: even go. I look back, I'm like, oh my gosh, 417 00:17:15,001 --> 00:17:18,001 Speaker 1: I wasted so many opportunities that I could have excelled 418 00:17:18,080 --> 00:17:20,561 Speaker 1: or learned or connected. And I don't know what point 419 00:17:20,561 --> 00:17:22,721 Speaker 1: I got to. I was like, no more. Yeah, even 420 00:17:22,761 --> 00:17:25,201 Speaker 1: if I'm scared, even if I think I'm dumb, even 421 00:17:25,201 --> 00:17:27,440 Speaker 1: if I'm worried what other people think, even if I 422 00:17:27,481 --> 00:17:29,200 Speaker 1: fail and fall flat on my face, I'm going to 423 00:17:29,241 --> 00:17:31,321 Speaker 1: do it anyway. Yeah. And it's really hard, I think, 424 00:17:31,360 --> 00:17:34,721 Speaker 1: to being on a public platform because everyone sees your failures. 425 00:17:35,360 --> 00:17:37,721 Speaker 1: So then when you have an audience of people also 426 00:17:37,721 --> 00:17:40,720 Speaker 1: telling you're dumb and like re confirming that story, you 427 00:17:40,761 --> 00:17:43,001 Speaker 1: have to detach from what other people are thinking too. Yeah, 428 00:17:43,001 --> 00:17:44,561 Speaker 1: because a lot of the time, if they're saying that 429 00:17:44,561 --> 00:17:46,481 Speaker 1: to you, it's also might be their own trigger. Yeah, 430 00:17:46,481 --> 00:17:48,561 Speaker 1: and they're own wound as well projections. 431 00:17:48,801 --> 00:17:51,641 Speaker 2: You're not only dealing with your own internal process, your 432 00:17:51,640 --> 00:17:54,160 Speaker 2: own internal thoughts, You're also dealing with everybody else's experience 433 00:17:54,160 --> 00:17:56,681 Speaker 2: and opinions on what you're actually doing too. 434 00:17:56,880 --> 00:17:58,480 Speaker 1: Yeah, I can see how that would feel. Like it 435 00:17:58,481 --> 00:18:00,481 Speaker 1: adds it. I get called dumb every day online just 436 00:18:00,521 --> 00:18:02,721 Speaker 1: form my spelling. Yeah, and I've had to like flip 437 00:18:02,761 --> 00:18:04,360 Speaker 1: that narrative. And I think my mum helped me with 438 00:18:04,400 --> 00:18:07,001 Speaker 1: this too. And I remember she said to me one day, Yeah, 439 00:18:07,001 --> 00:18:09,321 Speaker 1: you're not the greatest spell and my mom's super smart, 440 00:18:09,321 --> 00:18:12,761 Speaker 1: Like I'm talking super brainy. She is so fucking intelligent. 441 00:18:12,801 --> 00:18:15,041 Speaker 1: You know those who Wants to Be a Millionaire show? Yeah, yeah, 442 00:18:15,120 --> 00:18:16,960 Speaker 1: I don't think she's ever got a question wrong. If 443 00:18:16,961 --> 00:18:18,840 Speaker 1: she was not an introvert, she should go on that show. Like, 444 00:18:18,921 --> 00:18:21,481 Speaker 1: she is so fucking smart. So is Steven. So was 445 00:18:21,481 --> 00:18:23,520 Speaker 1: my older brother. So my mom said to me one 446 00:18:23,561 --> 00:18:25,400 Speaker 1: day when I was saying, oh my gosh, everyone's picking 447 00:18:25,400 --> 00:18:27,161 Speaker 1: of my spelling. Like sometimes I'll send things to mom 448 00:18:27,160 --> 00:18:29,001 Speaker 1: for her to proof. M Like, is there any grammar 449 00:18:29,001 --> 00:18:30,680 Speaker 1: in here? I just can't deal with people's shit today. 450 00:18:31,080 --> 00:18:33,120 Speaker 1: And she's like, yeah, you might not be the greatest speller, 451 00:18:33,201 --> 00:18:35,801 Speaker 1: but you're amazing at this. You're amazing at that. Yes, 452 00:18:35,840 --> 00:18:38,400 Speaker 1: you could spend your time and study the fucking dictionary 453 00:18:38,840 --> 00:18:41,400 Speaker 1: if you wanted to. But you'd rather spend your time 454 00:18:41,561 --> 00:18:44,080 Speaker 1: helping women with their self confidence. You'd rather spend your 455 00:18:44,120 --> 00:18:46,281 Speaker 1: time with your children. Yeah, you'd rather spend your time 456 00:18:46,360 --> 00:18:48,440 Speaker 1: helping women learn how to love their bodies and how 457 00:18:48,441 --> 00:18:50,880 Speaker 1: to eat healthy. She's like me and rather eat a book. 458 00:18:51,880 --> 00:18:54,321 Speaker 1: Everyone's different. So you're really good at some things and 459 00:18:54,360 --> 00:18:56,120 Speaker 1: not really good at others. And it's the same with 460 00:18:56,160 --> 00:18:58,840 Speaker 1: your kids. Like Taj's an incredible swimmer, just at the 461 00:18:58,840 --> 00:19:01,201 Speaker 1: age too. It's taken Tyler a little bit longer. Yeah, 462 00:19:01,281 --> 00:19:03,760 Speaker 1: everyone's got their strengths and weaknesses, and spelling isn't one 463 00:19:03,801 --> 00:19:07,360 Speaker 1: of your strengths. Hey, you're still an amazing person. Doesn't 464 00:19:07,400 --> 00:19:09,240 Speaker 1: mean you're dumb. You're really smarter at things that you 465 00:19:09,241 --> 00:19:10,881 Speaker 1: want to be smart at the things that you're really 466 00:19:10,880 --> 00:19:12,960 Speaker 1: passionate about. And yeah, leaning on that be case. If 467 00:19:12,961 --> 00:19:14,960 Speaker 1: you spell a word wrong, you're helping women's lives. That's 468 00:19:15,001 --> 00:19:16,961 Speaker 1: pretty amazing, and it is amazing, and it changed the 469 00:19:17,041 --> 00:19:18,920 Speaker 1: narrative for me. So now when someone picks in my spelling, 470 00:19:18,961 --> 00:19:21,600 Speaker 1: I'm like, huh, it's okay. Spelling police like, oh, I 471 00:19:21,640 --> 00:19:23,561 Speaker 1: don't mind, I'm not mad about it. I can't spell 472 00:19:23,600 --> 00:19:27,881 Speaker 1: jewelry yeah, or not, Oh my god, or agorism. It's 473 00:19:27,921 --> 00:19:30,641 Speaker 1: so funny when we have a conversation. It's my favorite thing. 474 00:19:30,681 --> 00:19:31,720 Speaker 1: I just love you for it. 475 00:19:31,721 --> 00:19:34,241 Speaker 2: It's just just so cute, Like every time actually be 476 00:19:34,241 --> 00:19:36,600 Speaker 2: writing a message and then we'll be really quiet sitting 477 00:19:36,600 --> 00:19:39,041 Speaker 2: together and she'll whisper into her friend and she'd be like, aneurysm. 478 00:19:40,521 --> 00:19:42,041 Speaker 1: You think i'd know how to spell it now because 479 00:19:42,041 --> 00:19:44,400 Speaker 1: I've had two brain aneurysms, So it's a tricky word. 480 00:19:44,640 --> 00:19:47,440 Speaker 1: It's really ye spell And it's so funny. My ten 481 00:19:47,521 --> 00:19:49,721 Speaker 1: year olds a better speller than me. Like he's incredible. 482 00:19:49,961 --> 00:19:53,120 Speaker 2: He's so emotionally just so emotionally intelligent the things that 483 00:19:53,160 --> 00:19:55,321 Speaker 2: he watches and learns, And yeah, I can't. 484 00:19:55,201 --> 00:19:56,561 Speaker 1: Wait to see what he's like when he's an adult. 485 00:19:56,600 --> 00:19:58,680 Speaker 1: I know. But the reason I'm talking about all of 486 00:19:58,721 --> 00:20:01,720 Speaker 1: this is because I just I want you to start 487 00:20:01,880 --> 00:20:03,920 Speaker 1: leaning in on what your strengths are and being proud 488 00:20:04,001 --> 00:20:07,440 Speaker 1: of them, and also being super aware of that limiting belief, 489 00:20:07,521 --> 00:20:10,520 Speaker 1: that story, that minds that you have around yourself and 490 00:20:10,600 --> 00:20:14,001 Speaker 1: ask yourself, is it the actual truth? Because nine timescent 491 00:20:14,080 --> 00:20:15,921 Speaker 1: the time, it's not the truth. It's just what you've 492 00:20:15,961 --> 00:20:18,720 Speaker 1: been conditioned to believe about yourself, and I guarantee it 493 00:20:18,761 --> 00:20:22,200 Speaker 1: is holding you back from doing incredible things, meeting new people, 494 00:20:22,281 --> 00:20:25,561 Speaker 1: taking new opportunities, earning more money, making your dreams come true. 495 00:20:25,600 --> 00:20:27,360 Speaker 1: So just be super aware of it. And this is 496 00:20:27,360 --> 00:20:29,281 Speaker 1: why we made a whole month of it in Rise 497 00:20:29,281 --> 00:20:31,960 Speaker 1: and Side because this is such an important thing that 498 00:20:32,041 --> 00:20:34,161 Speaker 1: I wish I learned earlier. Yeah, Like, this is something 499 00:20:34,160 --> 00:20:36,440 Speaker 1: when I see Taj say things about himself, I'm like, no, no, 500 00:20:36,600 --> 00:20:37,880 Speaker 1: hang on, We're going to back up a little bit 501 00:20:37,880 --> 00:20:39,640 Speaker 1: here and I will talk and coach him through it, 502 00:20:39,640 --> 00:20:41,440 Speaker 1: because I'm like, you're not going to grow up believing 503 00:20:41,481 --> 00:20:43,840 Speaker 1: that about yourself because some kid at school has told 504 00:20:43,840 --> 00:20:46,120 Speaker 1: you that. Absolutely not. Because I wish I learned this earlier, 505 00:20:46,160 --> 00:20:48,600 Speaker 1: because if you can learn this earlier, it'll take away 506 00:20:48,761 --> 00:20:52,561 Speaker 1: years of pain and discomfort and missing out on opportunities. 507 00:20:52,600 --> 00:20:55,281 Speaker 2: Absolutely, you're right, And something you mentioned earlier spoke something 508 00:20:55,321 --> 00:20:57,920 Speaker 2: for me. You said, you know, it stopped me from 509 00:20:58,201 --> 00:21:00,961 Speaker 2: achieving things and going after opportunities that were presented to 510 00:21:01,001 --> 00:21:02,961 Speaker 2: me because I just wasn't ready to see it, because 511 00:21:02,961 --> 00:21:05,440 Speaker 2: I had the story. I had that too, the feeling 512 00:21:05,481 --> 00:21:07,681 Speaker 2: of not feeling capable enough it was like, immediately because 513 00:21:07,681 --> 00:21:10,521 Speaker 2: I had that story, I would shut myself down before 514 00:21:10,521 --> 00:21:12,840 Speaker 2: I'd even give myself the opportunity to try, because I 515 00:21:12,840 --> 00:21:14,440 Speaker 2: was like, well, but what if I fail? But then 516 00:21:14,441 --> 00:21:16,521 Speaker 2: I'll just prove to myself that I'm not capable again. 517 00:21:16,600 --> 00:21:19,360 Speaker 2: But when you can be willing to face that discomfort 518 00:21:19,521 --> 00:21:21,880 Speaker 2: of being faced with that fear and being faced with 519 00:21:21,921 --> 00:21:24,200 Speaker 2: that story and not make it mean something about you 520 00:21:24,241 --> 00:21:26,401 Speaker 2: in the moment and just go, you know what, like, actually. 521 00:21:26,160 --> 00:21:28,240 Speaker 1: I'm just going to try. I'm just I'm just going 522 00:21:28,241 --> 00:21:29,640 Speaker 1: to try. So that can happen. What's the worst that 523 00:21:29,761 --> 00:21:30,201 Speaker 1: can happen? 524 00:21:30,241 --> 00:21:32,241 Speaker 2: So say, Wow, i might fall over and graze my knee, 525 00:21:32,241 --> 00:21:33,921 Speaker 2: but I'm going to be fine and I'll get back up, 526 00:21:34,080 --> 00:21:35,881 Speaker 2: Like what you said. You mentioned this the other day. 527 00:21:36,201 --> 00:21:38,401 Speaker 2: Children are not scared of getting back up when they're 528 00:21:38,400 --> 00:21:40,041 Speaker 2: trying to walk and trying to learn how to run, 529 00:21:40,281 --> 00:21:42,521 Speaker 2: They're not scared. They get up every single day till 530 00:21:42,521 --> 00:21:44,080 Speaker 2: they nail it. And it's like, if we can have 531 00:21:44,120 --> 00:21:47,880 Speaker 2: that level of resilience around ourselves and around trying and 532 00:21:47,921 --> 00:21:49,520 Speaker 2: being willing to do the things that we want to do, 533 00:21:49,600 --> 00:21:52,321 Speaker 2: we will eventually get there. And something that's really helped 534 00:21:52,400 --> 00:21:54,400 Speaker 2: me is even in things that I felt like I 535 00:21:54,441 --> 00:21:57,120 Speaker 2: have had weaknesses in now feel like strengths. To me, 536 00:21:57,481 --> 00:22:00,761 Speaker 2: that's cool because not everything, yeah, you know, not everything, 537 00:22:00,801 --> 00:22:03,321 Speaker 2: but they're you know, even in business, that was something 538 00:22:03,321 --> 00:22:06,041 Speaker 2: when I first started, I had zero experience. 539 00:22:06,160 --> 00:22:07,360 Speaker 1: I had no idea what I was doing. 540 00:22:07,441 --> 00:22:09,241 Speaker 2: I felt like I was Bambi being birthed for the 541 00:22:09,281 --> 00:22:11,080 Speaker 2: first time, trying to take her first few steps. 542 00:22:11,201 --> 00:22:13,600 Speaker 1: Everyone does at the start, right, yeah, and you just 543 00:22:13,840 --> 00:22:16,640 Speaker 1: don't know what. You don't know until you learn. 544 00:22:17,041 --> 00:22:19,041 Speaker 2: And you know, there was this saying one time and 545 00:22:19,201 --> 00:22:21,961 Speaker 2: I read it. It's a quote and it's like, jump 546 00:22:22,001 --> 00:22:23,400 Speaker 2: out of the plane and build the plane on the 547 00:22:23,441 --> 00:22:26,281 Speaker 2: way down, right, So terrifying. 548 00:22:25,961 --> 00:22:27,600 Speaker 1: Because that's what life is like. 549 00:22:27,880 --> 00:22:30,401 Speaker 2: Life is like that, business is like that, opportunities are 550 00:22:30,441 --> 00:22:32,961 Speaker 2: like that. People assume that, you know, they're going to 551 00:22:33,041 --> 00:22:34,960 Speaker 2: have all the answers before they start, or they're going 552 00:22:35,041 --> 00:22:37,041 Speaker 2: to have all the confidence or all the self belief 553 00:22:37,080 --> 00:22:39,921 Speaker 2: before they start, but the reality is, no one starts there. 554 00:22:40,441 --> 00:22:43,640 Speaker 1: No one starts there. Everyone figures it out along the way. 555 00:22:44,041 --> 00:22:45,761 Speaker 2: And if you can be willing to know that you're 556 00:22:45,761 --> 00:22:47,761 Speaker 2: going to stumble in the beginning, it's not going to 557 00:22:47,801 --> 00:22:50,200 Speaker 2: feel easy in the beginning, but if you keep persisting 558 00:22:50,281 --> 00:22:52,721 Speaker 2: and pushing through, you will find yourself on the other 559 00:22:52,761 --> 00:22:55,321 Speaker 2: side of that, in the place that you see everybody 560 00:22:55,321 --> 00:22:57,721 Speaker 2: else in. Yeah, you're always wishing and wondering how do 561 00:22:57,801 --> 00:23:00,921 Speaker 2: people believe this about themselves? How she's so confident? How 562 00:23:00,921 --> 00:23:03,400 Speaker 2: does she have such a positive mindset? Because she worked 563 00:23:03,400 --> 00:23:06,120 Speaker 2: for it. Definitely, anyone who has that level of like 564 00:23:06,160 --> 00:23:08,241 Speaker 2: what you want has had to go through an immense 565 00:23:08,241 --> 00:23:11,081 Speaker 2: amount of hardship and pain and discomfort and challenging their 566 00:23:11,120 --> 00:23:14,441 Speaker 2: own thoughts and beliefs and fears and all of those 567 00:23:14,481 --> 00:23:16,641 Speaker 2: things just to get to that other side. And you 568 00:23:16,681 --> 00:23:18,561 Speaker 2: can too, if you're willing to persist through it. 569 00:23:18,801 --> 00:23:21,801 Speaker 1: Yeah, Tarje gets this monthly subscription box and it's from 570 00:23:21,840 --> 00:23:23,880 Speaker 1: this engineer in the US. He's got a massive YouTube 571 00:23:23,961 --> 00:23:26,641 Speaker 1: channel and it's so complicated and it gets so frustrated 572 00:23:26,640 --> 00:23:28,721 Speaker 1: every single month. But I always say to him, the 573 00:23:28,761 --> 00:23:31,480 Speaker 1: biggest mistakes is where you learn the biggest lessons. And 574 00:23:31,521 --> 00:23:33,241 Speaker 1: it's so true in everything in life, Like I would 575 00:23:33,281 --> 00:23:35,680 Speaker 1: not be here today if I didn't fail a million times, 576 00:23:35,721 --> 00:23:37,400 Speaker 1: because it gave me the skill set and the lessons 577 00:23:37,400 --> 00:23:38,521 Speaker 1: to be able to do what I'm doing now. 578 00:23:38,600 --> 00:23:38,840 Speaker 2: Yeah. 579 00:23:39,001 --> 00:23:41,840 Speaker 1: You can't expect yourself or anyone that you follow, anyone 580 00:23:41,840 --> 00:23:44,120 Speaker 1: that you know on life, to walk through life not 581 00:23:44,160 --> 00:23:46,721 Speaker 1: tripping up. Yeah, that's where you learn. That's how you learn. 582 00:23:46,761 --> 00:23:49,200 Speaker 1: How else do you learn by doing the things? It's 583 00:23:49,481 --> 00:23:51,961 Speaker 1: fair by getting back up, and the more you found, 584 00:23:52,001 --> 00:23:54,161 Speaker 1: the more you get back up, it builds your confidence 585 00:23:54,160 --> 00:23:56,120 Speaker 1: and self belief that you can do hard things true, 586 00:23:56,160 --> 00:23:58,361 Speaker 1: and that you can push through those limited beliefs and mindset. 587 00:23:58,521 --> 00:24:00,440 Speaker 2: Yeah, you fall down your grazy knee and you're like, 588 00:24:00,441 --> 00:24:01,761 Speaker 2: I'm good, I just get back up. 589 00:24:01,801 --> 00:24:03,721 Speaker 1: It's okay. Just like babies do when they're trying to 590 00:24:03,761 --> 00:24:06,281 Speaker 1: quarrel and walk, they get so f ah you see them, 591 00:24:06,321 --> 00:24:08,321 Speaker 1: but they go again. There's so determined they really are, 592 00:24:08,360 --> 00:24:10,161 Speaker 1: aren't they. I don't even funck what anyone's looking at them? 593 00:24:10,120 --> 00:24:13,241 Speaker 2: No, they don't being okay, being seen looking stupid, being 594 00:24:13,241 --> 00:24:16,881 Speaker 2: seen looking silly, feeling silly, feeling like a beginner at something. 595 00:24:17,201 --> 00:24:19,281 Speaker 1: It's like, it's okay. Isn't it sad that a lot 596 00:24:19,281 --> 00:24:21,561 Speaker 1: of the time we don't take risks and we don't 597 00:24:21,561 --> 00:24:24,241 Speaker 1: do things because we're so scared of what other people 598 00:24:24,241 --> 00:24:26,001 Speaker 1: will see us in Oh my God, I live like 599 00:24:26,001 --> 00:24:27,640 Speaker 1: that for like my whole Yeah, we're scared to be 600 00:24:27,681 --> 00:24:29,960 Speaker 1: seen as a failure, to be scared as being dumb. 601 00:24:30,360 --> 00:24:31,640 Speaker 1: I remember I used to say no to go on 602 00:24:31,681 --> 00:24:33,440 Speaker 1: panels and podcasts all the time because I used to 603 00:24:33,441 --> 00:24:35,360 Speaker 1: say to Steep, what if they ask me a question 604 00:24:35,880 --> 00:24:38,521 Speaker 1: about I don't know a certain type of food or something. 605 00:24:38,561 --> 00:24:40,361 Speaker 1: I don't know the breakdown of it, and I'm meant 606 00:24:40,360 --> 00:24:42,241 Speaker 1: to be this health and fitness person. It's like, you're 607 00:24:42,241 --> 00:24:44,281 Speaker 1: not meant to know everything. But I was like, no, 608 00:24:44,321 --> 00:24:45,761 Speaker 1: I'm not going on there. And I would say, notice 609 00:24:45,801 --> 00:24:47,960 Speaker 1: so many opportunities because I was so petrified that they 610 00:24:48,001 --> 00:24:50,681 Speaker 1: would ask me a question and I would come across dumb. 611 00:24:50,880 --> 00:24:52,521 Speaker 1: Who's going to want to watch me, who's going to 612 00:24:52,561 --> 00:24:53,880 Speaker 1: want to be involved in my business? Who's going to 613 00:24:53,921 --> 00:24:56,880 Speaker 1: respect me? If I'm quote unquote dumb. I had to 614 00:24:56,880 --> 00:24:59,080 Speaker 1: flip that to be like, well, I'm human. You know, 615 00:24:59,321 --> 00:25:00,920 Speaker 1: I'm human. I'm going to make mistakes and I might 616 00:25:00,921 --> 00:25:03,001 Speaker 1: not know everything, but I'm very open to learning. Yeah, 617 00:25:03,041 --> 00:25:05,160 Speaker 1: you know, and I've got to always see yourself the 618 00:25:05,201 --> 00:25:06,641 Speaker 1: beginner and everything. 619 00:25:06,600 --> 00:25:10,681 Speaker 2: Such a beautiful perspective too. It just allows room for humanness. Yes, 620 00:25:10,681 --> 00:25:12,721 Speaker 2: so we're all human humanness. 621 00:25:12,160 --> 00:25:13,041 Speaker 1: You know, and it's messy. 622 00:25:13,041 --> 00:25:15,400 Speaker 2: The reality is like, even in a picture perfect world 623 00:25:15,521 --> 00:25:18,401 Speaker 2: right now with social media, Instagram and everyone's you know, 624 00:25:18,441 --> 00:25:20,240 Speaker 2: trying to be better and do better and look like 625 00:25:20,241 --> 00:25:22,240 Speaker 2: the perfect image of what society wants us to be, 626 00:25:22,321 --> 00:25:24,000 Speaker 2: it's like, the reality is we're messy. 627 00:25:24,120 --> 00:25:25,080 Speaker 1: Yes, we're messy. 628 00:25:25,241 --> 00:25:29,281 Speaker 2: We're imperfect, We make mistakes, we disappoint people, We all 629 00:25:29,321 --> 00:25:31,440 Speaker 2: of the things, you know. So it's like, okay, like 630 00:25:31,561 --> 00:25:34,400 Speaker 2: allow room for that messiness, so that when you do 631 00:25:34,521 --> 00:25:38,161 Speaker 2: make mistakes, you're not punishing yourself for it. You're not going, 632 00:25:38,160 --> 00:25:39,801 Speaker 2: oh my god, this is the worst thing that's ever 633 00:25:39,801 --> 00:25:42,120 Speaker 2: happened to me. It's like, no, it's okay that that happened. 634 00:25:42,120 --> 00:25:44,121 Speaker 2: What are you going to do moving forward? Yeah, how 635 00:25:44,120 --> 00:25:46,681 Speaker 2: are you seeing that? What's your outlook on your ability 636 00:25:46,681 --> 00:25:49,600 Speaker 2: to make decisions and fail and get back up again, 637 00:25:49,681 --> 00:25:52,841 Speaker 2: and just know that, like the only limitation is literally 638 00:25:52,921 --> 00:25:54,761 Speaker 2: just the way that you think it really is. 639 00:25:55,241 --> 00:25:58,041 Speaker 1: So I hope that you're listening to this. Hopefully yours 640 00:25:58,041 --> 00:25:59,840 Speaker 1: has come to the surface as to what yours is. 641 00:26:00,120 --> 00:26:02,080 Speaker 1: As I said before, this is a whole month inside 642 00:26:02,120 --> 00:26:04,481 Speaker 1: out on my subscription. We have twelve months plan of 643 00:26:04,521 --> 00:26:07,001 Speaker 1: content filmed, ready to go, and as you go by 644 00:26:07,041 --> 00:26:09,441 Speaker 1: each month, it kind of follows on from the previous month. 645 00:26:09,481 --> 00:26:11,521 Speaker 1: A month one was nervous system regulation, which is the 646 00:26:11,561 --> 00:26:14,281 Speaker 1: foundation for everything, and then this month is all about 647 00:26:14,321 --> 00:26:17,240 Speaker 1: mindset limiting beliefs because it will hold you back from 648 00:26:17,321 --> 00:26:20,081 Speaker 1: having your dream life. If today you've been like, oh 649 00:26:20,080 --> 00:26:21,920 Speaker 1: my gosh, this is what I need to focus on. 650 00:26:22,001 --> 00:26:23,880 Speaker 1: I want more. This is what it's about. You have 651 00:26:23,921 --> 00:26:25,920 Speaker 1: two trainings from Tiana and I, then we have a 652 00:26:25,961 --> 00:26:28,761 Speaker 1: guest speaker who's a clinical psychologist, and then you have 653 00:26:28,761 --> 00:26:30,240 Speaker 1: a live Q and A with us. Plus we have 654 00:26:30,281 --> 00:26:32,281 Speaker 1: a workbook which has tons of prompts to help you 655 00:26:32,321 --> 00:26:35,440 Speaker 1: actually uncover it and work through it. We have regulating 656 00:26:35,600 --> 00:26:38,360 Speaker 1: meditations that are based around this topic. And then we 657 00:26:38,400 --> 00:26:40,321 Speaker 1: also have little pet talk. So that's a whole month 658 00:26:40,360 --> 00:26:43,680 Speaker 1: where you get to be so plugged in, so focused 659 00:26:43,761 --> 00:26:46,801 Speaker 1: and condense the time to work through this. Because this 660 00:26:46,840 --> 00:26:49,041 Speaker 1: took me years to work through and I wish I 661 00:26:49,120 --> 00:26:51,640 Speaker 1: had a platform like this that it condensed all the 662 00:26:51,681 --> 00:26:53,640 Speaker 1: content to do it the way we're teaching it, because 663 00:26:53,640 --> 00:26:56,201 Speaker 1: it's just doesn't have to be so overcomplicated. We actually 664 00:26:56,201 --> 00:26:58,441 Speaker 1: simplify it and you get to take action and feel 665 00:26:58,481 --> 00:27:01,281 Speaker 1: the change within you quite fast y, which is really cool. 666 00:27:01,281 --> 00:27:03,001 Speaker 1: And that's the feedback we've been having from the girls. 667 00:27:03,120 --> 00:27:04,321 Speaker 1: Yeah inside the membership. 668 00:27:04,441 --> 00:27:06,720 Speaker 2: Yeah, just top of that of everything, actually just said like, 669 00:27:06,801 --> 00:27:08,840 Speaker 2: if you are serious about this being the year that 670 00:27:08,880 --> 00:27:11,761 Speaker 2: you actually find your people, and you find women who 671 00:27:12,041 --> 00:27:14,441 Speaker 2: genuinely want the same outcome as you want to support 672 00:27:14,441 --> 00:27:18,200 Speaker 2: your want to support you, who want connection, who value growth, 673 00:27:18,321 --> 00:27:21,360 Speaker 2: who are ready and willing, willing, willing to do the 674 00:27:21,481 --> 00:27:23,880 Speaker 2: work and to literally look at yourselves just as much 675 00:27:24,001 --> 00:27:26,080 Speaker 2: as they're willing to look at themselves. Come in to 676 00:27:26,241 --> 00:27:29,001 Speaker 2: rise inside the Women Inside. On our welcome post alone, 677 00:27:29,001 --> 00:27:30,640 Speaker 2: there's over five hundred and fifty comments. 678 00:27:30,640 --> 00:27:32,561 Speaker 1: Insane. We like in tears reading the comments. 679 00:27:32,600 --> 00:27:35,240 Speaker 2: It's so beautiful, women inside already meeting up in their 680 00:27:35,281 --> 00:27:38,840 Speaker 2: local areas, connecting with each other. Honestly, if you want 681 00:27:38,880 --> 00:27:41,160 Speaker 2: to find those people, all you were to do is 682 00:27:41,160 --> 00:27:42,681 Speaker 2: put yourself in the room and we'll give you the room. 683 00:27:42,880 --> 00:27:45,840 Speaker 1: And the work doesn't have to feel so deep, heavy 684 00:27:45,840 --> 00:27:48,600 Speaker 1: and dark. It's actually quite light, playful and fun, especially 685 00:27:48,600 --> 00:27:50,481 Speaker 1: when there's over one hundred women and then now doing 686 00:27:50,521 --> 00:27:52,481 Speaker 1: it alongside you. Like you're all doing the same workbook, 687 00:27:52,521 --> 00:27:54,440 Speaker 1: you're a ordering the same classes, and you get to 688 00:27:54,441 --> 00:27:56,041 Speaker 1: talk about it and work on it together. It's so 689 00:27:56,120 --> 00:27:58,600 Speaker 1: cool because we shouldn't be doing this work alone. Absolutely 690 00:27:58,801 --> 00:28:00,561 Speaker 1: feels so dark and heavy when you're alone. You don't 691 00:28:00,561 --> 00:28:02,400 Speaker 1: know where to start. There's so much outside noise, and like, 692 00:28:02,441 --> 00:28:04,001 Speaker 1: I know, I've got this limiting belief. What the puck 693 00:28:04,041 --> 00:28:05,801 Speaker 1: do I do with it? Yeah, just look in the 694 00:28:05,801 --> 00:28:08,080 Speaker 1: mirror and say you are amazing. You're not going to 695 00:28:08,120 --> 00:28:10,400 Speaker 1: believe that. It takes act, true, more deep work. 696 00:28:10,521 --> 00:28:12,200 Speaker 2: I truly believe that you can learn to love yourself 697 00:28:12,201 --> 00:28:14,321 Speaker 2: by how somebody else loves you as well. I really 698 00:28:14,321 --> 00:28:17,080 Speaker 2: think there's an element of that, because when somebody conditionally 699 00:28:17,120 --> 00:28:19,441 Speaker 2: loves you and sees the best in you, it almost 700 00:28:19,481 --> 00:28:21,521 Speaker 2: allows you to see yourself in that light too. And 701 00:28:21,561 --> 00:28:23,840 Speaker 2: that's what we love about Rise Inside, and also everything 702 00:28:23,840 --> 00:28:25,921 Speaker 2: that we do when She Rises is that we don't 703 00:28:25,921 --> 00:28:28,801 Speaker 2: want you to have to journey alone, because when you do, 704 00:28:29,201 --> 00:28:31,240 Speaker 2: you're in your head all the time. You're shaming yourself, 705 00:28:31,241 --> 00:28:34,440 Speaker 2: you're braiding yourself. Your head noise is honestly ten times worse. 706 00:28:34,561 --> 00:28:36,321 Speaker 2: We all know that feeling when you have no one 707 00:28:36,441 --> 00:28:38,881 Speaker 2: watching you what you're doing. It's so easy to hide 708 00:28:38,881 --> 00:28:41,681 Speaker 2: out in your room and tell yourself you're the worst 709 00:28:41,681 --> 00:28:43,881 Speaker 2: and that you're not capable, and that you're doing everything 710 00:28:43,921 --> 00:28:45,641 Speaker 2: wrong and what you did was so bad, and you 711 00:28:45,721 --> 00:28:48,440 Speaker 2: ruminate for three weeks straight. Whereas if you come and 712 00:28:48,481 --> 00:28:50,041 Speaker 2: you tell your bestie about it, you tell somebody that 713 00:28:50,041 --> 00:28:52,200 Speaker 2: you connect with and you're really close with, they're going 714 00:28:52,201 --> 00:28:53,921 Speaker 2: to pull you up on that. Yeah, they're going to 715 00:28:54,001 --> 00:28:56,000 Speaker 2: care about what you're telling yourself. They're going to care 716 00:28:56,001 --> 00:28:58,121 Speaker 2: about how you treat yourself, and they're going to remind 717 00:28:58,161 --> 00:28:59,721 Speaker 2: you of who you are at every step along the way. 718 00:28:59,721 --> 00:29:01,401 Speaker 2: And that's exactly what we do for each other, and 719 00:29:01,441 --> 00:29:03,321 Speaker 2: we want that for you too. It's so cool that 720 00:29:03,321 --> 00:29:04,321 Speaker 2: women can do that for each other. 721 00:29:04,401 --> 00:29:06,761 Speaker 1: Absolutely healing and if you don't want to be in 722 00:29:06,801 --> 00:29:08,480 Speaker 1: the same position this time next year or even this 723 00:29:08,521 --> 00:29:10,601 Speaker 1: time next month, this is the work you've got to do. 724 00:29:10,801 --> 00:29:12,841 Speaker 1: But it gets to be fun. Yeah, I hope to 725 00:29:12,841 --> 00:29:14,681 Speaker 1: see you inside. We'll leave the links in our show 726 00:29:14,721 --> 00:29:16,521 Speaker 1: notes if you've got any questions around it too. Just 727 00:29:16,561 --> 00:29:18,321 Speaker 1: like how it works with the membership, et cetera. Just 728 00:29:18,321 --> 00:29:20,841 Speaker 1: shoot us a message on Instagram with the word rise 729 00:29:20,881 --> 00:29:22,801 Speaker 1: and we can chat with you. Sounds good. Thanks for 730 00:29:22,881 --> 00:29:26,200 Speaker 1: joining us. Welcome to our first episode. Oh also mini announcement, 731 00:29:26,281 --> 00:29:28,961 Speaker 1: we are going down to three episodes a week. We're 732 00:29:28,961 --> 00:29:31,761 Speaker 1: doing Monday, Tuesday, and Wednesday, so we just do one 733 00:29:31,801 --> 00:29:34,521 Speaker 1: best episode a week. We love doing four, but there's 734 00:29:34,561 --> 00:29:36,201 Speaker 1: so much we've got going on this year with our 735 00:29:36,201 --> 00:29:39,121 Speaker 1: retreats and other little projects that we've got happening, so 736 00:29:39,161 --> 00:29:41,561 Speaker 1: we just do three episodes a week. We'll see you 737 00:29:41,561 --> 00:29:43,561 Speaker 1: in the next three. We'll see you in the next three. 738 00:29:44,401 --> 00:29:46,081 Speaker 1: Thanks guys, Bye bye.