1 00:00:05,921 --> 00:00:07,281 Speaker 1: Apoday production. 2 00:00:10,121 --> 00:00:13,521 Speaker 2: We begin today by acknowledging the traditional custodians of the 3 00:00:13,601 --> 00:00:16,441 Speaker 2: land on which we gather today and pay our respects 4 00:00:16,481 --> 00:00:19,641 Speaker 2: to their elders past and present. We extend that respect 5 00:00:19,721 --> 00:00:22,881 Speaker 2: to Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people's here today. 6 00:00:25,081 --> 00:00:28,801 Speaker 1: Welcome to the Grow and Glow Podcast. I'm Ashy, I'm Kiara. 7 00:00:28,961 --> 00:00:31,321 Speaker 1: This is a podcast where we learn, laugh, and level 8 00:00:31,361 --> 00:00:31,841 Speaker 1: up together. 9 00:00:32,120 --> 00:00:33,201 Speaker 3: Let's go deep, let. 10 00:00:33,040 --> 00:00:36,161 Speaker 1: The emotions flow, and find the lessons to grow and Glow. 11 00:00:36,521 --> 00:00:38,321 Speaker 3: Nothing is off the table with Grow and Glow, and 12 00:00:38,361 --> 00:00:43,201 Speaker 3: we're here to be your expander. 13 00:00:43,921 --> 00:00:46,801 Speaker 1: Hello Gay, Welcome back to Grow and Glow. 14 00:00:46,921 --> 00:00:51,361 Speaker 3: Welcome back, Welcome back, Mabe. We're in a high vibe. 15 00:00:51,400 --> 00:00:55,641 Speaker 3: We've had our decaf coffee ready to go. We're actually 16 00:00:55,641 --> 00:00:58,200 Speaker 3: in a really bad night's sleep and we're both not 17 00:00:58,321 --> 00:00:59,881 Speaker 3: having coffee. But we feel good. 18 00:01:00,001 --> 00:01:01,161 Speaker 1: I feel great, so good. 19 00:01:01,321 --> 00:01:04,280 Speaker 3: If you have not listened to our Addictions episode before 20 00:01:04,321 --> 00:01:05,761 Speaker 3: this one, actually go and listen to that. 21 00:01:05,681 --> 00:01:08,881 Speaker 1: One, Yeah, because it'll make this have so much more understanding. 22 00:01:08,961 --> 00:01:10,681 Speaker 3: Yes, it gives a lot more context as to what 23 00:01:10,681 --> 00:01:12,681 Speaker 3: we're about to talk about. So go listen to that first, 24 00:01:12,761 --> 00:01:15,361 Speaker 3: then come back and hear us today. Yeah, but let's 25 00:01:15,360 --> 00:01:16,961 Speaker 3: get into our share of the week. What have you 26 00:01:17,000 --> 00:01:17,961 Speaker 3: got for us this week? 27 00:01:20,401 --> 00:01:23,560 Speaker 1: This is something I've actually already recommended you aure The 28 00:01:23,721 --> 00:01:27,000 Speaker 1: Voyeurs on Prime. Have you watched it yet? No? The 29 00:01:27,081 --> 00:01:31,360 Speaker 1: movie Oh my gosh. So basically it's got Sydney Sweeney 30 00:01:31,401 --> 00:01:34,001 Speaker 1: in Absolute Babe. By the way, Yeah, I'm like, isn't 31 00:01:34,000 --> 00:01:38,521 Speaker 1: she Her and her boyfriend move into this new apartment. 32 00:01:38,961 --> 00:01:41,560 Speaker 1: They are just such like this series. 33 00:01:41,200 --> 00:01:43,401 Speaker 3: Not a movie, right, it's a movie. I looked it 34 00:01:43,441 --> 00:01:44,921 Speaker 3: up and it was a series. Someone if they've made 35 00:01:44,920 --> 00:01:47,161 Speaker 3: it into a series as well, baby. 36 00:01:47,401 --> 00:01:49,801 Speaker 1: So it's a movie. And then move into this apartment 37 00:01:49,921 --> 00:01:52,800 Speaker 1: and they realize that the view of the apartment across 38 00:01:52,801 --> 00:01:56,361 Speaker 1: the road they can fully see into their apartment and 39 00:01:56,441 --> 00:01:59,001 Speaker 1: their lives are really wild. So they start to like 40 00:01:59,081 --> 00:02:01,881 Speaker 1: spy on them. And it starts off really lighthearted, like 41 00:02:01,921 --> 00:02:03,921 Speaker 1: oh my gosh, like he's a photographer and she starts 42 00:02:03,921 --> 00:02:06,361 Speaker 1: seeing him like bang them off. Yeah, and they're like 43 00:02:06,401 --> 00:02:08,121 Speaker 1: watching like, oh my gosh, it's a heatic. And then 44 00:02:08,121 --> 00:02:10,361 Speaker 1: it starts to get like more and more in depth 45 00:02:10,361 --> 00:02:12,321 Speaker 1: and they start to like do all these different things 46 00:02:12,361 --> 00:02:14,761 Speaker 1: about it. Listening to the conversations and they start to 47 00:02:14,761 --> 00:02:19,761 Speaker 1: get addicted to watching their life unravel. The twizzt at 48 00:02:19,761 --> 00:02:23,361 Speaker 1: the end I would have never expected. And it is 49 00:02:23,481 --> 00:02:25,800 Speaker 1: just one of those shows where like, once you start, 50 00:02:25,960 --> 00:02:28,921 Speaker 1: you just need to keep watching. Wow, you and Steve 51 00:02:28,960 --> 00:02:31,721 Speaker 1: will both love it. Okay, the voy is it's v 52 00:02:31,841 --> 00:02:34,441 Speaker 1: O y e U r S on Prime. 53 00:02:34,520 --> 00:02:36,281 Speaker 3: I think we looked it up, but I swear it's 54 00:02:36,321 --> 00:02:38,721 Speaker 3: that a series. When we're wanting a movie that night. Yeah, 55 00:02:39,001 --> 00:02:41,121 Speaker 3: to look at the game. It's so good, so good. 56 00:02:41,401 --> 00:02:42,561 Speaker 1: Yeah, what's your share of that? 57 00:02:42,841 --> 00:02:44,641 Speaker 3: My share of the week is something Steve shared with 58 00:02:44,680 --> 00:02:46,321 Speaker 3: me that he's been He put like a post it 59 00:02:46,401 --> 00:02:48,240 Speaker 3: note on the front of his computer. It was after 60 00:02:48,281 --> 00:02:50,161 Speaker 3: I found out about my surgery and everything, and I 61 00:02:50,161 --> 00:02:52,601 Speaker 3: think it's a lot for a husband, you know. He 62 00:02:52,641 --> 00:02:54,000 Speaker 3: had stepped up and taken on a lot of my 63 00:02:54,121 --> 00:02:56,280 Speaker 3: roles and just trying to support me emotionally. And it's 64 00:02:56,321 --> 00:02:59,921 Speaker 3: just been a big couple of months. And while he's 65 00:02:59,921 --> 00:03:02,441 Speaker 3: doing this, he's obviously still running Hideaway and he's busy 66 00:03:02,441 --> 00:03:03,800 Speaker 3: being a dad, and he was just having a bit 67 00:03:03,800 --> 00:03:06,521 Speaker 3: of a hard time and he felt like the things 68 00:03:06,520 --> 00:03:09,081 Speaker 3: he was trying to solve just weren't working and he 69 00:03:09,161 --> 00:03:10,521 Speaker 3: listened to something I don't know, it must have been 70 00:03:10,520 --> 00:03:13,361 Speaker 3: a podcast or a YouTube clip, and it's called when 71 00:03:13,401 --> 00:03:15,560 Speaker 3: the day, and when you feel like you're trying to 72 00:03:15,641 --> 00:03:17,921 Speaker 3: juggle a million balls and nothing's working out and you 73 00:03:17,921 --> 00:03:19,960 Speaker 3: can't find solutions to the problems and you feel like 74 00:03:19,960 --> 00:03:22,881 Speaker 3: you're at a dead end, or something really bad happens 75 00:03:22,921 --> 00:03:24,881 Speaker 3: at work and you're like, fuck, this is really going 76 00:03:24,921 --> 00:03:26,400 Speaker 3: to make this hard, or how do I do this? 77 00:03:26,481 --> 00:03:28,761 Speaker 3: And he runs a ship, so it's really lots on 78 00:03:28,800 --> 00:03:32,321 Speaker 3: his shoulders, and it was just basically, every single day 79 00:03:32,441 --> 00:03:34,441 Speaker 3: you can write us to do list or whatever, but 80 00:03:34,601 --> 00:03:37,521 Speaker 3: just whatever you've got on for that day, tick things 81 00:03:37,561 --> 00:03:40,721 Speaker 3: off and feel like you've won the day. Don't focus 82 00:03:40,721 --> 00:03:42,681 Speaker 3: so much on the end goal or the week goal. 83 00:03:43,041 --> 00:03:45,401 Speaker 3: Just every single day, know that you've won the day 84 00:03:45,441 --> 00:03:47,681 Speaker 3: by ticking a few little things off. And he feels 85 00:03:47,721 --> 00:03:51,001 Speaker 3: so much more accomplished when he's actually done this, and 86 00:03:51,041 --> 00:03:53,081 Speaker 3: he can walk away from his desk being like, I've 87 00:03:53,121 --> 00:03:55,041 Speaker 3: won the day because I've got this done and this 88 00:03:55,121 --> 00:03:57,041 Speaker 3: done and this done, Whereas when he was just like 89 00:03:57,241 --> 00:04:00,161 Speaker 3: in the middle of it, in the chaos, in the noise, 90 00:04:00,441 --> 00:04:02,801 Speaker 3: he was walking away feeling really defeated each day, just 91 00:04:02,841 --> 00:04:05,281 Speaker 3: being like, fuck, this went wrong, this happened, I didn't 92 00:04:05,281 --> 00:04:07,881 Speaker 3: hear back from this person, paid all these bills like 93 00:04:08,001 --> 00:04:10,081 Speaker 3: it just was feeling a lot. But he put that 94 00:04:10,121 --> 00:04:11,841 Speaker 3: in front of him, win the day, and he writes 95 00:04:11,881 --> 00:04:13,681 Speaker 3: out us the do list. He crosses it off each day, 96 00:04:13,681 --> 00:04:15,281 Speaker 3: and he can walk away being like, I've won the day. 97 00:04:15,561 --> 00:04:17,761 Speaker 3: And it might not have the solutions to the big 98 00:04:17,801 --> 00:04:21,681 Speaker 3: problems and the end goal isn't there yet, but he 99 00:04:21,721 --> 00:04:24,881 Speaker 3: feels good walking away being like, yes, I've won the day. 100 00:04:25,161 --> 00:04:25,521 Speaker 1: I love. 101 00:04:25,681 --> 00:04:29,001 Speaker 3: It's just a mindset switch for something to focus on 102 00:04:29,081 --> 00:04:31,281 Speaker 3: and something to just pep you up at the end 103 00:04:31,320 --> 00:04:32,321 Speaker 3: of a long, hard day. 104 00:04:32,961 --> 00:04:34,760 Speaker 1: I found that I've spoken about this before, but I 105 00:04:34,841 --> 00:04:36,401 Speaker 1: used to find that on a Monday, I used to 106 00:04:36,401 --> 00:04:38,361 Speaker 1: get really frazzled because I felt like I had so 107 00:04:38,481 --> 00:04:40,761 Speaker 1: much to do. So what I've started doing actually is 108 00:04:40,761 --> 00:04:42,961 Speaker 1: at the start of the week, writing at a list 109 00:04:42,961 --> 00:04:44,080 Speaker 1: of things I need to do for the week that 110 00:04:44,121 --> 00:04:46,520 Speaker 1: I have to get done, and I'll try to evenly 111 00:04:46,521 --> 00:04:49,200 Speaker 1: spread them out. Otherwise it gets to Monday and I 112 00:04:49,201 --> 00:04:50,681 Speaker 1: felt pressure at the start of the week, like I 113 00:04:50,721 --> 00:04:52,561 Speaker 1: need to do that. I don't want to forget, so 114 00:04:52,641 --> 00:04:55,161 Speaker 1: I kind of shuffle it through. It's kind of a 115 00:04:55,161 --> 00:04:57,521 Speaker 1: similar thing. It's like shortening the amount of pressure you're 116 00:04:57,521 --> 00:04:58,681 Speaker 1: putting yourself all. 117 00:04:58,641 --> 00:05:01,041 Speaker 3: That day and just saying to yourself, I've won the day. Oh, 118 00:05:01,281 --> 00:05:04,440 Speaker 3: like just giving yourself that positive affirmation and confirmation like 119 00:05:04,481 --> 00:05:07,200 Speaker 3: I've won the day. Yeah, It's really helped, and I've 120 00:05:07,440 --> 00:05:09,681 Speaker 3: since then, I've started writing out to do lists as well, 121 00:05:10,041 --> 00:05:11,961 Speaker 3: and whatever I get through, I'm always going to pick 122 00:05:11,961 --> 00:05:14,041 Speaker 3: out the things that are most important, and then if 123 00:05:14,081 --> 00:05:15,841 Speaker 3: they don't get done, I just write out my next 124 00:05:15,880 --> 00:05:17,201 Speaker 3: to do list for the next day and I put 125 00:05:17,201 --> 00:05:18,441 Speaker 3: it on top of my laptop when I come in 126 00:05:18,481 --> 00:05:20,001 Speaker 3: the next day. That's just what I've got to tackle. 127 00:05:20,401 --> 00:05:22,161 Speaker 3: And it just takes the pressure off too, because you 128 00:05:22,201 --> 00:05:24,601 Speaker 3: can only carry so much information in your brain and 129 00:05:24,681 --> 00:05:27,561 Speaker 3: only remember so much, especially when you are juggling so much. 130 00:05:28,041 --> 00:05:29,681 Speaker 3: And this is all going to change for me pretty soon. 131 00:05:29,721 --> 00:05:30,921 Speaker 3: I don't think we're going to have as much on 132 00:05:30,961 --> 00:05:33,080 Speaker 3: my plate. But if you ask someone who is highly 133 00:05:33,121 --> 00:05:34,601 Speaker 3: stressed and you've got a lot on your plate, a 134 00:05:34,601 --> 00:05:36,841 Speaker 3: lot on your shoulders, it's just a really nice little 135 00:05:36,921 --> 00:05:38,481 Speaker 3: theory to kind of live by each day. 136 00:05:38,761 --> 00:05:42,840 Speaker 1: Beautiful yeah, So today we're going to be talking about 137 00:05:42,880 --> 00:05:46,960 Speaker 1: our digital detox that we had at Eden. Have you 138 00:05:47,081 --> 00:05:49,441 Speaker 1: ever had that long off your phone? 139 00:05:49,841 --> 00:05:52,601 Speaker 3: So back in the day, a long time ago, when 140 00:05:52,601 --> 00:05:55,761 Speaker 3: Taji's little Baby and the trolls were really, really bad, 141 00:05:55,841 --> 00:05:58,001 Speaker 3: I used to have a couple of I titled them 142 00:05:58,041 --> 00:06:01,161 Speaker 3: blackout weeks or blackout days, and it was when I 143 00:06:01,161 --> 00:06:03,161 Speaker 3: would just like go off social media because I just 144 00:06:03,201 --> 00:06:07,001 Speaker 3: mentally wasn't coping. That's probably the last time I'd done it. 145 00:06:07,041 --> 00:06:09,921 Speaker 3: But that was honestly, like eight years ago. 146 00:06:10,001 --> 00:06:13,041 Speaker 1: And I'm obviously in a bad state then, not one 147 00:06:13,121 --> 00:06:15,561 Speaker 1: to like ah and be off your phone. No, I 148 00:06:15,601 --> 00:06:18,841 Speaker 1: was in a highly stressed, like suicidal state. That was 149 00:06:18,880 --> 00:06:22,201 Speaker 1: like my I've got to go off, can't show up. 150 00:06:22,561 --> 00:06:24,361 Speaker 1: So that was a long time ago, and to be honest, 151 00:06:24,361 --> 00:06:27,761 Speaker 1: I haven't felt like I've needed that, But of course 152 00:06:27,761 --> 00:06:30,041 Speaker 1: we all need it. Of course we should not be 153 00:06:30,161 --> 00:06:33,880 Speaker 1: on all the time constantly, like emotionally, having these cords 154 00:06:33,921 --> 00:06:37,601 Speaker 1: plugged into anyone and everyone taking in all this information 155 00:06:37,721 --> 00:06:41,441 Speaker 1: and noise of pages of social media platforms, of staff 156 00:06:41,601 --> 00:06:44,440 Speaker 1: of whoever. We all need to take a break and 157 00:06:44,481 --> 00:06:47,521 Speaker 1: step away from the device. But we just don't schedule 158 00:06:47,561 --> 00:06:49,521 Speaker 1: it in because life's busy and things need to get 159 00:06:49,561 --> 00:06:52,641 Speaker 1: done right until you're forced to. I don't think I've 160 00:06:52,641 --> 00:06:54,561 Speaker 1: ever had a full day off my phone until we 161 00:06:54,601 --> 00:06:57,161 Speaker 1: went to eat and like a full day yeah go. 162 00:06:57,841 --> 00:07:00,241 Speaker 1: But anyways, I said to Ashley Rap before we started 163 00:07:00,241 --> 00:07:03,121 Speaker 1: recording this episode that I've got a crazy statistic that 164 00:07:03,161 --> 00:07:04,841 Speaker 1: I wanted to share with her on the podcast. And 165 00:07:04,841 --> 00:07:07,080 Speaker 1: I think this will make all of us just go like, 166 00:07:07,841 --> 00:07:10,761 Speaker 1: what in the world. Okay, okay, you're ready to blow 167 00:07:10,761 --> 00:07:14,521 Speaker 1: your socks off. I'm ready, the socks are on. Yeah, okay. 168 00:07:14,961 --> 00:07:19,321 Speaker 1: So doctor Adam Alter, one of the top psychology experts 169 00:07:19,361 --> 00:07:23,321 Speaker 1: and professors in the world, share this statistic. On average, 170 00:07:23,321 --> 00:07:27,161 Speaker 1: you will spend twenty years of your life just scrolling 171 00:07:27,241 --> 00:07:31,001 Speaker 1: through your phone. Imagine it's the end of your life 172 00:07:31,161 --> 00:07:34,841 Speaker 1: and someone says, would you like twenty extra years and 173 00:07:34,881 --> 00:07:38,361 Speaker 1: your answer is no, I'd rather have spent twenty years 174 00:07:38,441 --> 00:07:40,241 Speaker 1: scrolling mindlessly. 175 00:07:40,121 --> 00:07:43,001 Speaker 3: On my phone. Wow. 176 00:07:43,041 --> 00:07:46,121 Speaker 1: Twenty years. So if you until you're eighty, that's like 177 00:07:46,161 --> 00:07:47,161 Speaker 1: how much of your life? 178 00:07:47,361 --> 00:07:50,761 Speaker 3: Yeah, that's crazy, like a fourth of your life? Yuck? 179 00:07:51,841 --> 00:07:53,881 Speaker 1: How insane? That's the average person. 180 00:07:54,401 --> 00:07:58,441 Speaker 3: Oh man, doesn't that hit really? Does you? Don't realize 181 00:07:58,481 --> 00:08:00,961 Speaker 3: how much you're on your phone. No, you don't realize 182 00:08:01,001 --> 00:08:03,521 Speaker 3: it until you get to experience not being on it. Yeah, 183 00:08:03,681 --> 00:08:06,681 Speaker 3: and that's what we got to experience, which was really cool. Yeah. So, 184 00:08:06,801 --> 00:08:08,561 Speaker 3: as you guys know, we've that a whole episode on it. 185 00:08:08,601 --> 00:08:11,841 Speaker 3: We went to a beautiful health a treat called Eden Incredible. 186 00:08:12,001 --> 00:08:13,681 Speaker 3: I've been to a few different health to treats, but 187 00:08:13,921 --> 00:08:16,321 Speaker 3: none like this. It's so hard to explain because even 188 00:08:16,321 --> 00:08:18,121 Speaker 3: when I explained to someone, they were like, oh, well, 189 00:08:18,761 --> 00:08:19,961 Speaker 3: you know, I'm not going to pay that money to 190 00:08:19,961 --> 00:08:22,601 Speaker 3: go and relax. I'm like, no, it's not just like 191 00:08:23,001 --> 00:08:25,761 Speaker 3: go and relax. There's so much about it. But one 192 00:08:25,761 --> 00:08:28,041 Speaker 3: of the things is where they're located. They're situated out 193 00:08:28,041 --> 00:08:30,881 Speaker 3: in crumbed and there's no reception. No unless you're at 194 00:08:31,121 --> 00:08:34,481 Speaker 3: the actual reception. Yes, up at your cabin, up at dinner, 195 00:08:34,521 --> 00:08:35,321 Speaker 3: there's no reception. 196 00:08:35,401 --> 00:08:37,160 Speaker 1: Whever you're in a class. Your phone's not just going 197 00:08:37,201 --> 00:08:39,961 Speaker 1: off before. That's the thing that was really cool too. 198 00:08:40,361 --> 00:08:42,641 Speaker 1: When you're waiting in between doing things, you realize how 199 00:08:42,721 --> 00:08:44,001 Speaker 1: much you're just scrolling your phone. 200 00:08:44,081 --> 00:08:47,081 Speaker 3: Yeah, get down, yeah, do this, do that. 201 00:08:47,601 --> 00:08:49,481 Speaker 1: So if we go back to the beginning, how did 202 00:08:49,521 --> 00:08:51,241 Speaker 1: you feel once we found out that there was going 203 00:08:51,281 --> 00:08:52,961 Speaker 1: to be digital detops Because we didn't know right away. 204 00:08:53,401 --> 00:08:55,081 Speaker 1: It came to a point and I remember a message and 205 00:08:55,121 --> 00:08:56,841 Speaker 1: I was like, oh, there's no single out bet. 206 00:08:57,241 --> 00:08:59,841 Speaker 3: I was excited so ready. I just found out that 207 00:08:59,841 --> 00:09:02,601 Speaker 3: wee can had to have brain surgery. Obviously, you guys 208 00:09:02,681 --> 00:09:04,761 Speaker 3: now know I'm closing down baseline on my brain. I 209 00:09:04,841 --> 00:09:07,561 Speaker 3: just well, I felt so burnt out and so ready. 210 00:09:07,641 --> 00:09:09,921 Speaker 3: I needed to reconnect with myself. I needed to have 211 00:09:09,961 --> 00:09:13,161 Speaker 3: slow down time. The noise of life was just too much. 212 00:09:13,201 --> 00:09:16,401 Speaker 3: So I was really excited to actually be almost forced 213 00:09:16,441 --> 00:09:18,281 Speaker 3: to have this time. But I didn't have to look 214 00:09:18,321 --> 00:09:21,201 Speaker 3: after anyone or do anything. So I had a few 215 00:09:21,201 --> 00:09:23,441 Speaker 3: people be like, oh, are you, like, are you nervous 216 00:09:23,441 --> 00:09:25,401 Speaker 3: to not be in contact with the kids, and aren't 217 00:09:25,401 --> 00:09:27,921 Speaker 3: you worried? I'm like, no, I trusted with my life. 218 00:09:28,081 --> 00:09:30,041 Speaker 1: And they also had an emergency number. Yeah, so they 219 00:09:30,041 --> 00:09:32,481 Speaker 1: would let us know they can call them and know 220 00:09:32,481 --> 00:09:33,361 Speaker 1: if anything happened. 221 00:09:33,401 --> 00:09:35,401 Speaker 3: But I trust him with my life, which of course 222 00:09:35,401 --> 00:09:38,401 Speaker 3: I trust him with my children. They absolutely adore him. Yeah, 223 00:09:38,441 --> 00:09:41,321 Speaker 3: so I knew they'd be in safe, very capable hands. 224 00:09:41,321 --> 00:09:43,401 Speaker 3: So now that wasn't a thought of like, oh my god, 225 00:09:43,481 --> 00:09:46,601 Speaker 3: they're going to die without me. I was actually a Okay. 226 00:09:47,001 --> 00:09:51,401 Speaker 1: I was nervous. I have never been this long without 227 00:09:51,441 --> 00:09:54,681 Speaker 1: my phone. I've never been this long without working. To 228 00:09:54,681 --> 00:09:56,841 Speaker 1: be completly honest, I think that's the first time I've 229 00:09:56,881 --> 00:09:59,121 Speaker 1: ever gone a day without jumping on my stories. 230 00:09:59,481 --> 00:10:00,561 Speaker 3: Yeah, probably me too. 231 00:10:00,961 --> 00:10:02,361 Speaker 1: I just had this story in my head that it 232 00:10:02,441 --> 00:10:04,401 Speaker 1: was a daily thing that I just did, and I 233 00:10:04,441 --> 00:10:06,761 Speaker 1: do love it. I genuinely love it, but it was 234 00:10:06,801 --> 00:10:09,281 Speaker 1: also nice to know that I don't have to do 235 00:10:09,321 --> 00:10:11,921 Speaker 1: it every day. But yeah, in the lead up, I 236 00:10:12,001 --> 00:10:15,081 Speaker 1: was nervous. I was like the kid thing was definitely 237 00:10:15,161 --> 00:10:17,521 Speaker 1: a bit of a worry and a story I told myself. 238 00:10:17,521 --> 00:10:19,201 Speaker 1: But once I got there, you can just walk down 239 00:10:19,201 --> 00:10:22,241 Speaker 1: to reception and FaceTime them. Not only that, but you're 240 00:10:22,321 --> 00:10:25,801 Speaker 1: so busy connecting with yourself, connecting with other people, learning, 241 00:10:25,961 --> 00:10:28,961 Speaker 1: doing things that you actually don't want to be on 242 00:10:29,001 --> 00:10:30,641 Speaker 1: your phone. And I would have taken away from the 243 00:10:30,681 --> 00:10:32,521 Speaker 1: experience so much. 244 00:10:32,641 --> 00:10:35,241 Speaker 3: Agree. Yeah, one hundred percent agree, Because even when we 245 00:10:35,281 --> 00:10:37,481 Speaker 3: went down to reception to like call the kids, because 246 00:10:37,481 --> 00:10:39,361 Speaker 3: they both called out husbands and kids every night, and 247 00:10:39,401 --> 00:10:40,841 Speaker 3: I love that. It was so nice to connect with 248 00:10:40,881 --> 00:10:42,761 Speaker 3: them and just tell them about the day and whatever. 249 00:10:43,241 --> 00:10:46,641 Speaker 3: But I remember there was times where I automatically, out 250 00:10:46,641 --> 00:10:49,521 Speaker 3: of habit, went to click to check my Instagram, and 251 00:10:49,561 --> 00:10:52,121 Speaker 3: I was like, eh, I don't want to yuck, Like 252 00:10:52,161 --> 00:10:54,801 Speaker 3: it felt yucky because it takes work and it was 253 00:10:54,841 --> 00:10:56,761 Speaker 3: going to take me out of my experience, out of 254 00:10:56,801 --> 00:10:59,361 Speaker 3: my state. I would then be taking an information I 255 00:10:59,361 --> 00:11:01,881 Speaker 3: didn't want to hear or see or take anything else 256 00:11:01,921 --> 00:11:04,761 Speaker 3: in because I went in intentionally. This was my time 257 00:11:04,801 --> 00:11:06,961 Speaker 3: to get, this was my time to process, This was 258 00:11:07,041 --> 00:11:11,041 Speaker 3: my time to just be and not be doing so 259 00:11:11,121 --> 00:11:13,281 Speaker 3: I didn't even click into it, like I didn't want 260 00:11:13,401 --> 00:11:16,201 Speaker 3: to see what anyone else was doing. Yeah, and it's 261 00:11:16,241 --> 00:11:19,281 Speaker 3: cool because it's like when you're experiencing that, it's like 262 00:11:19,441 --> 00:11:21,281 Speaker 3: do you really care what everyone else is doing? 263 00:11:21,481 --> 00:11:21,561 Speaker 1: Now? 264 00:11:21,761 --> 00:11:24,481 Speaker 3: Does anyone really care? Like why are we so addicted 265 00:11:24,521 --> 00:11:26,161 Speaker 3: to like look and what other people are doing? I 266 00:11:26,241 --> 00:11:28,561 Speaker 3: know I really need to know, not really. 267 00:11:28,961 --> 00:11:31,721 Speaker 1: Yeah, And I've said this before to Ashy and I 268 00:11:31,721 --> 00:11:34,121 Speaker 1: think on the podcast as well. But while being there, 269 00:11:34,481 --> 00:11:37,601 Speaker 1: even work wise, like with love Ellis Rose, you think 270 00:11:37,641 --> 00:11:40,361 Speaker 1: that the world won't keep functioning without you being on 271 00:11:40,401 --> 00:11:43,321 Speaker 1: your phone. But it actually does. But there's this story 272 00:11:43,361 --> 00:11:46,121 Speaker 1: in my head one hundred percent that made me think 273 00:11:46,521 --> 00:11:48,641 Speaker 1: I always have to be at access, I always have 274 00:11:48,721 --> 00:11:49,881 Speaker 1: to have it on me. I always need to make 275 00:11:49,881 --> 00:11:51,521 Speaker 1: sure I'm checking it every half an hour hour. 276 00:11:51,961 --> 00:11:53,681 Speaker 3: It's like, why, Yeah. 277 00:11:53,481 --> 00:11:56,761 Speaker 1: I just went like three days without checking out out 278 00:11:56,801 --> 00:11:58,601 Speaker 1: all throughout the day and just having a look to 279 00:11:58,601 --> 00:12:00,361 Speaker 1: call my husband. And I didn't got on the Instagram 280 00:12:00,401 --> 00:12:02,721 Speaker 1: app once. Yeah, doing on my emails once. 281 00:12:02,801 --> 00:12:07,041 Speaker 3: It's so free. Yeah. So yeah, surprisingly it felt amazing. 282 00:12:07,241 --> 00:12:10,241 Speaker 3: It felt really good. At one point I was like, ah, 283 00:12:10,281 --> 00:12:12,241 Speaker 3: I think I could live like this. Oh gosh, Like 284 00:12:12,281 --> 00:12:13,641 Speaker 3: this would be so nice to be out in a 285 00:12:13,641 --> 00:12:16,601 Speaker 3: farm with my kids and have no social media and 286 00:12:16,601 --> 00:12:19,961 Speaker 3: no internet and just live my life. Yeah. It was 287 00:12:20,081 --> 00:12:22,921 Speaker 3: really really nice to experience. And obviously for a lot 288 00:12:22,961 --> 00:12:26,441 Speaker 3: of us that isn't reality, and I knew that, but 289 00:12:26,521 --> 00:12:29,721 Speaker 3: I also was like, I can take more of this 290 00:12:30,281 --> 00:12:33,601 Speaker 3: energy and implement that more into my life, so I've 291 00:12:33,601 --> 00:12:35,561 Speaker 3: got a more healthy balance, because it's not like, you know, 292 00:12:35,601 --> 00:12:38,001 Speaker 3: you've got that pendulum swing. It's like you all the 293 00:12:38,041 --> 00:12:39,481 Speaker 3: way over there and then you swing it all the 294 00:12:39,521 --> 00:12:41,641 Speaker 3: way the other way. Yeah. It showed us and it's 295 00:12:41,641 --> 00:12:43,881 Speaker 3: now it's like, Okay, there's a happy medium where we 296 00:12:43,921 --> 00:12:46,521 Speaker 3: do love social media. I love connecting with my audience. 297 00:12:46,561 --> 00:12:48,841 Speaker 3: I love sharing. This is why we have a podcast. Yeah, 298 00:12:48,881 --> 00:12:51,321 Speaker 3: we love talking. We love sharing our lessons, sharing the 299 00:12:51,401 --> 00:12:53,801 Speaker 3: ups and downs, and helping to empower other women. And 300 00:12:53,841 --> 00:12:55,761 Speaker 3: we've got this platform, we've got this voice, we've got 301 00:12:55,801 --> 00:12:58,401 Speaker 3: this opportunity where we can make a positive impact. So 302 00:12:58,441 --> 00:13:01,481 Speaker 3: it's not putting down our phones and social media. I 303 00:13:01,521 --> 00:13:04,321 Speaker 3: love it, I live for it. I do, but there's 304 00:13:04,361 --> 00:13:07,441 Speaker 3: got to be about and there's so much more living 305 00:13:07,601 --> 00:13:09,241 Speaker 3: to be had off your phone. 306 00:13:09,441 --> 00:13:09,801 Speaker 1: Yeah. 307 00:13:09,841 --> 00:13:12,561 Speaker 3: So that's like what we learned throughout that process. But 308 00:13:12,881 --> 00:13:15,281 Speaker 3: let's go over, like, what was one of the top 309 00:13:15,321 --> 00:13:17,841 Speaker 3: things that you learned without having your phone with you? 310 00:13:17,961 --> 00:13:20,361 Speaker 1: The top thing I learned is that I don't need 311 00:13:20,401 --> 00:13:22,521 Speaker 1: to have it. I kept leaving it everywhere. Yeah, raising 312 00:13:22,521 --> 00:13:24,721 Speaker 1: my phone. I remember, I was just so in the 313 00:13:24,721 --> 00:13:26,561 Speaker 1: habit of like having it on me. So I would 314 00:13:26,601 --> 00:13:28,121 Speaker 1: be sitting somewhere and then i'd have it down. I'd 315 00:13:28,121 --> 00:13:30,001 Speaker 1: be like, oh, where's my phone again? And then I 316 00:13:30,081 --> 00:13:31,521 Speaker 1: go back to somewhere I was four hours ago on 317 00:13:31,561 --> 00:13:33,401 Speaker 1: my phone, be sitting on the bench and I was like. 318 00:13:33,361 --> 00:13:37,281 Speaker 4: Oh, so, yeah, I think it just really showed me 319 00:13:37,961 --> 00:13:42,241 Speaker 4: that it's okay to have that boundary with my phone, 320 00:13:42,681 --> 00:13:45,361 Speaker 4: of I don't need to be so attached to it. 321 00:13:45,481 --> 00:13:48,121 Speaker 3: Yeah, how about you? How much more in tune I 322 00:13:48,321 --> 00:13:51,201 Speaker 3: was with how I feel each day, because I feel 323 00:13:51,201 --> 00:13:54,001 Speaker 3: like I am in a bad habit of getting up 324 00:13:54,001 --> 00:13:55,641 Speaker 3: in ball admit it, call myself out. I get up, 325 00:13:55,681 --> 00:13:57,601 Speaker 3: I check my emails, I clean my DMS, I get 326 00:13:57,641 --> 00:14:00,081 Speaker 3: started for the day. Before I go to bed, I 327 00:14:00,121 --> 00:14:02,241 Speaker 3: do the same thing like I feel like I need 328 00:14:02,241 --> 00:14:04,121 Speaker 3: to be on I don't want to let any staff down. 329 00:14:04,441 --> 00:14:06,481 Speaker 3: I need to check website, I need to check stop. 330 00:14:06,601 --> 00:14:08,841 Speaker 3: I just feel like I need to check everything. So 331 00:14:09,001 --> 00:14:12,081 Speaker 3: while I'm doing all of that, I'm missing moments to 332 00:14:12,201 --> 00:14:14,561 Speaker 3: check in with how I actually feel. So if I 333 00:14:14,601 --> 00:14:17,081 Speaker 3: don't know how I feel each day, how can I 334 00:14:17,121 --> 00:14:20,841 Speaker 3: plan my day and honor myself and give my body 335 00:14:20,881 --> 00:14:23,521 Speaker 3: and my nervous system and my energy and my kids 336 00:14:24,281 --> 00:14:27,441 Speaker 3: what it needs, what they need. I can't I miss 337 00:14:27,521 --> 00:14:31,121 Speaker 3: those opportunities because I'm tuned into my screen. So having 338 00:14:31,161 --> 00:14:33,481 Speaker 3: those days, I actually would just wake up and like 339 00:14:34,161 --> 00:14:35,681 Speaker 3: wake up and smell the roses. 340 00:14:35,481 --> 00:14:37,281 Speaker 1: Literally go to a meditation class. 341 00:14:37,401 --> 00:14:41,321 Speaker 3: Yeah, look outside, smell the air, Listen to a couple 342 00:14:41,401 --> 00:14:43,161 Speaker 3: of birds. Sounds like airy fairy, but this is what 343 00:14:43,201 --> 00:14:47,641 Speaker 3: I do. Take some breaths, take your time, just up, 344 00:14:47,801 --> 00:14:50,521 Speaker 3: take your ice in a row. I felt so calm 345 00:14:50,561 --> 00:14:52,401 Speaker 3: and I could really just tune into what was coming 346 00:14:52,441 --> 00:14:54,961 Speaker 3: up for me. And then I also like journaled a 347 00:14:55,001 --> 00:14:57,041 Speaker 3: lot more because I had that space that I got 348 00:14:57,041 --> 00:14:59,441 Speaker 3: to get really clear on my next chapter and where 349 00:14:59,441 --> 00:15:01,201 Speaker 3: I'm going, what I'm feeling, and I got to write 350 00:15:01,201 --> 00:15:03,121 Speaker 3: it all out and it just made me feel so 351 00:15:03,201 --> 00:15:05,321 Speaker 3: much more connected with myself and so much more like 352 00:15:06,001 --> 00:15:07,521 Speaker 3: not a cocky way, but it's more in love with 353 00:15:07,561 --> 00:15:11,761 Speaker 3: who I am. I really like this slow, calm, regulated 354 00:15:12,121 --> 00:15:15,481 Speaker 3: ashy Yeah, I like her better than the one that's 355 00:15:15,481 --> 00:15:19,321 Speaker 3: always hustling on the go and just attending to everyone 356 00:15:19,321 --> 00:15:21,441 Speaker 3: and anything. And it was like, why am I doing 357 00:15:21,441 --> 00:15:23,041 Speaker 3: all of that? I feel like I need to rescue 358 00:15:23,041 --> 00:15:25,121 Speaker 3: everyone and help everyone and be there for everyone, and yes, 359 00:15:25,161 --> 00:15:27,961 Speaker 3: I love that about me, but I can be better 360 00:15:28,041 --> 00:15:31,321 Speaker 3: at that and do it properly and more intentionally when 361 00:15:31,361 --> 00:15:33,961 Speaker 3: I look after me first, and that needs to be 362 00:15:34,041 --> 00:15:36,001 Speaker 3: to switch off at definitely. 363 00:15:36,201 --> 00:15:38,641 Speaker 1: Yeah, how did you find when you first came out. 364 00:15:39,001 --> 00:15:41,761 Speaker 3: I didn't want to go back on neither. I struggled the. 365 00:15:41,721 --> 00:15:44,281 Speaker 1: First few days. I didn't go on that Sunday at all. 366 00:15:44,401 --> 00:15:44,841 Speaker 3: Yeah. 367 00:15:44,881 --> 00:15:46,681 Speaker 1: Also, i'd been away from my family. I was like, 368 00:15:46,721 --> 00:15:49,201 Speaker 1: I just want to see them. But it was such 369 00:15:49,201 --> 00:15:49,881 Speaker 1: a nice state. 370 00:15:49,961 --> 00:15:52,601 Speaker 3: Hey, it was really Yeah, it was an emotional state, 371 00:15:52,681 --> 00:15:55,601 Speaker 3: a very regulated state. I remember the first when I 372 00:15:55,641 --> 00:15:58,641 Speaker 3: went back, Steve had to go somewhere. I think Taji 373 00:15:58,721 --> 00:16:01,481 Speaker 3: went with him, and just my energy just bounced off 374 00:16:01,481 --> 00:16:03,321 Speaker 3: to Tala. She was just in the best mood, so 375 00:16:03,361 --> 00:16:05,841 Speaker 3: excited to see me. We just had such a calm afternoon. 376 00:16:05,881 --> 00:16:08,321 Speaker 3: I was cooking and I bought all the Ciganex food 377 00:16:08,321 --> 00:16:11,081 Speaker 3: and I just felt so at ease and flowy and 378 00:16:11,161 --> 00:16:14,801 Speaker 3: so feminine. I was so open to like receiving and 379 00:16:14,881 --> 00:16:17,881 Speaker 3: talking and just like, yeah, it was beautiful. I was like, 380 00:16:17,921 --> 00:16:19,881 Speaker 3: I want and I need more of that in my life, 381 00:16:20,321 --> 00:16:23,001 Speaker 3: which is another realization of why I've closed down baseline 382 00:16:23,001 --> 00:16:26,361 Speaker 3: as well. It was like, I physically, emotionally mentally maybe 383 00:16:26,401 --> 00:16:28,241 Speaker 3: don't have the skill set or the boundary. I just 384 00:16:28,281 --> 00:16:31,241 Speaker 3: can't do that while I'm so stressed at work, and 385 00:16:31,281 --> 00:16:33,361 Speaker 3: while I've got so much on my plate and such 386 00:16:33,361 --> 00:16:34,681 Speaker 3: a big to do list. I can't. 387 00:16:34,841 --> 00:16:35,481 Speaker 1: That makes sense. 388 00:16:35,521 --> 00:16:38,281 Speaker 3: I've tried for so long and I can't, and it 389 00:16:38,321 --> 00:16:42,201 Speaker 3: doesn't feel good anymore now that I've experienced that. For 390 00:16:42,241 --> 00:16:43,921 Speaker 3: me to be able to have more of that, I've 391 00:16:43,961 --> 00:16:46,841 Speaker 3: had to pull back and close that and say no 392 00:16:46,921 --> 00:16:48,881 Speaker 3: to different things so that I can be more of that. 393 00:16:49,521 --> 00:16:51,001 Speaker 3: And I know now that's where I want to be 394 00:16:51,041 --> 00:16:53,161 Speaker 3: and how I want to feel, so to do that 395 00:16:53,241 --> 00:16:55,961 Speaker 3: now actually needed to be taken. I needed to swap 396 00:16:56,001 --> 00:16:59,081 Speaker 3: things aroundly that excites me that I can be more 397 00:16:59,081 --> 00:16:59,361 Speaker 3: of that. 398 00:16:59,481 --> 00:17:01,761 Speaker 1: I reckon we should talk about too, like what we've 399 00:17:01,761 --> 00:17:03,921 Speaker 1: implemented now we've come out, because these are probably things 400 00:17:03,921 --> 00:17:05,201 Speaker 1: that everyone listening. 401 00:17:05,361 --> 00:17:08,041 Speaker 3: Yeah, it's easier when you're on a retrain, Yeah. 402 00:17:07,881 --> 00:17:10,041 Speaker 1: Because I have implemented quite a bit, have you as well? 403 00:17:10,241 --> 00:17:12,720 Speaker 3: Yeah? Definitely, I've got some more tips of things that 404 00:17:12,761 --> 00:17:14,801 Speaker 3: like I learn in there, though, I'll go for it. 405 00:17:14,880 --> 00:17:17,640 Speaker 3: Maybe we'll go over those first. One thing that I 406 00:17:17,681 --> 00:17:20,760 Speaker 3: really struggle to find time to do is read. And 407 00:17:20,801 --> 00:17:24,480 Speaker 3: I love reading. I really really do love reading. And 408 00:17:24,521 --> 00:17:26,041 Speaker 3: when I was in there, I read a whole book 409 00:17:26,080 --> 00:17:27,801 Speaker 3: and I just had so much more time and space. 410 00:17:28,001 --> 00:17:30,360 Speaker 3: But even when I'm reading at home, even with my 411 00:17:30,400 --> 00:17:33,321 Speaker 3: phone being next to me, I'm thinking about work, and 412 00:17:33,321 --> 00:17:35,480 Speaker 3: I'll quickly just pick it up and go, oh, just 413 00:17:35,521 --> 00:17:36,960 Speaker 3: clear a couple of deems because there might be one 414 00:17:37,001 --> 00:17:39,920 Speaker 3: hundred in there. Yeah. Or you're like, I don't have 415 00:17:39,961 --> 00:17:43,241 Speaker 3: any notifications of vibrations on it's ionn't had that in 416 00:17:43,281 --> 00:17:45,360 Speaker 3: a long time. But I'll pick it up and just go, 417 00:17:45,441 --> 00:17:47,441 Speaker 3: I'll just clear this because then I can relax and read. 418 00:17:47,840 --> 00:17:49,521 Speaker 3: And then half an hour's down the track and I'm 419 00:17:49,521 --> 00:17:51,761 Speaker 3: still going, and I'm like, oh, just finish it off, 420 00:17:51,840 --> 00:17:54,120 Speaker 3: and then you know, Tarlow wakes up or whatever, and 421 00:17:54,321 --> 00:17:57,120 Speaker 3: I missed it, missed that opportunity. Now it's even having 422 00:17:57,120 --> 00:17:59,120 Speaker 3: it there. So that was really nice to realize how 423 00:17:59,160 --> 00:18:01,080 Speaker 3: much more I enjoy reading. But I can't have my 424 00:18:01,120 --> 00:18:03,840 Speaker 3: phone near me. So now when she sleeps, like say 425 00:18:03,880 --> 00:18:06,041 Speaker 3: on the weekend or whatever, my phone in the bedroom 426 00:18:06,281 --> 00:18:07,920 Speaker 3: and go read in the loundroom because if it's not 427 00:18:07,961 --> 00:18:10,440 Speaker 3: near me, I don't think about it. Yeah, that was 428 00:18:10,481 --> 00:18:11,041 Speaker 3: really cool. 429 00:18:11,281 --> 00:18:13,720 Speaker 1: I have found, similar to what you've just said, I 430 00:18:13,761 --> 00:18:15,720 Speaker 1: have way more time for things that I thought I 431 00:18:15,761 --> 00:18:18,480 Speaker 1: didn't have time for. I felt like I don't have 432 00:18:18,521 --> 00:18:21,680 Speaker 1: time to cook I've been cooking so many beautiful, yummy, 433 00:18:21,721 --> 00:18:24,321 Speaker 1: healthy recipes from scratch, and I always told myself I 434 00:18:24,321 --> 00:18:25,880 Speaker 1: didn't have time to do that. But now that i 435 00:18:25,880 --> 00:18:28,001 Speaker 1: have this boundary with my phone where I'm not constantly 436 00:18:28,120 --> 00:18:30,840 Speaker 1: checking emails, checking this, or just getting stuck on it 437 00:18:30,840 --> 00:18:33,801 Speaker 1: because it is an addiction, I'm realizing all these things 438 00:18:33,801 --> 00:18:37,001 Speaker 1: that I thought I didn't have time for here and 439 00:18:37,080 --> 00:18:39,080 Speaker 1: you're actually putting your phone down here. Now, how are 440 00:18:39,080 --> 00:18:41,281 Speaker 1: you actually put your phone down? You actually have time 441 00:18:41,321 --> 00:18:44,161 Speaker 1: for it, things that you enjoy, that connect you with you, 442 00:18:44,441 --> 00:18:47,281 Speaker 1: that make you lean more into that regulated nervous system, 443 00:18:47,360 --> 00:18:50,001 Speaker 1: feminine energy. So I feel like a lot of these 444 00:18:50,001 --> 00:18:52,761 Speaker 1: things that I've thought I didn't have time for, it's 445 00:18:52,801 --> 00:18:56,880 Speaker 1: actually me deciding to put that boundary in place to 446 00:18:57,041 --> 00:18:58,440 Speaker 1: create the space and time you. 447 00:18:58,481 --> 00:19:01,200 Speaker 3: Really do make time for what's important in what matters 448 00:19:01,241 --> 00:19:03,561 Speaker 3: to you most. Because we're opposite, they're like, I'll always 449 00:19:03,561 --> 00:19:05,561 Speaker 3: make time to cook and you'll aways make time to read. 450 00:19:05,801 --> 00:19:08,080 Speaker 3: But we both have a story my stories. I don't 451 00:19:08,120 --> 00:19:09,881 Speaker 3: have time to read your stories. I don't have time 452 00:19:09,921 --> 00:19:12,881 Speaker 3: to call it. Is that my oppositeuse? You probably look 453 00:19:12,880 --> 00:19:14,481 Speaker 3: at me and be like, oh, you get up early? 454 00:19:14,561 --> 00:19:19,600 Speaker 3: You can read, you know, sure you can, but we've 455 00:19:19,600 --> 00:19:22,161 Speaker 3: got offices. I just noticed. It's so funny, interesting. You'll 456 00:19:22,160 --> 00:19:24,680 Speaker 3: make time for what's important. Hey, yeah, what matters to 457 00:19:24,721 --> 00:19:27,561 Speaker 3: you most? Yes, so like reading it. It just does so 458 00:19:27,640 --> 00:19:29,481 Speaker 3: much good for you. So you always find time to read. 459 00:19:29,481 --> 00:19:31,561 Speaker 3: And I admire it so much. I wish I had 460 00:19:31,600 --> 00:19:32,481 Speaker 3: a discipline. 461 00:19:32,120 --> 00:19:34,640 Speaker 1: Without the same as cooking. It's healthy meals that you 462 00:19:34,640 --> 00:19:37,161 Speaker 1: can make, and it's just so nice and relaxing. Yes, 463 00:19:37,481 --> 00:19:39,400 Speaker 1: but it's just like all these little pockets at time, 464 00:19:39,441 --> 00:19:41,001 Speaker 1: Like we said, you might go, I'm just gonna quickly 465 00:19:41,041 --> 00:19:44,481 Speaker 1: check this time, get quickly check it. No, you kind 466 00:19:44,481 --> 00:19:47,121 Speaker 1: of sit there for longer than you think. But if 467 00:19:47,160 --> 00:19:50,200 Speaker 1: you just say to yourself, no, this whole hour, how 468 00:19:50,241 --> 00:19:51,761 Speaker 1: much can you get done in an hour if you're 469 00:19:51,801 --> 00:19:53,641 Speaker 1: your phone down and you don't get distracted. 470 00:19:53,321 --> 00:19:56,281 Speaker 3: So productive that when she sleeps, if I don't have 471 00:19:56,281 --> 00:19:58,761 Speaker 3: my phone, I will cook so many meals. The whole 472 00:19:58,761 --> 00:20:01,481 Speaker 3: house is clean. I've read three chapters in my book. Yeah, 473 00:20:01,481 --> 00:20:02,880 Speaker 3: but if on my phone, it goes by like that, 474 00:20:02,921 --> 00:20:04,081 Speaker 3: and I'm like, what did I even do? 475 00:20:04,481 --> 00:20:04,801 Speaker 1: Nothing? 476 00:20:05,120 --> 00:20:09,041 Speaker 3: Wonded to DMS and eat. Oh I gota waited till Monday. Yeah, 477 00:20:09,201 --> 00:20:11,840 Speaker 3: one thing Eden really helped. We keep mentioning this retreat. 478 00:20:11,840 --> 00:20:13,880 Speaker 3: But this is where it all start. Yeah, it started 479 00:20:13,921 --> 00:20:16,400 Speaker 3: for us, and it really changed so much of our life. 480 00:20:16,400 --> 00:20:19,360 Speaker 3: But what I didn't realize I needed was time and 481 00:20:19,400 --> 00:20:22,161 Speaker 3: space to process and grief. I think when I found 482 00:20:22,160 --> 00:20:24,801 Speaker 3: out about my brain aneurysm and came to the decision 483 00:20:24,801 --> 00:20:28,120 Speaker 3: to close down Baseline, I was processing it as much 484 00:20:28,120 --> 00:20:30,561 Speaker 3: as I could. But even the moment I got home 485 00:20:30,561 --> 00:20:32,360 Speaker 3: from the hospital from finding out that news, my kids 486 00:20:32,360 --> 00:20:34,920 Speaker 3: are there, It's like I had to park it. I 487 00:20:34,921 --> 00:20:36,680 Speaker 3: had to park it to the side and get on 488 00:20:36,761 --> 00:20:38,640 Speaker 3: with being a mum. And the next day I had 489 00:20:38,640 --> 00:20:41,480 Speaker 3: to go to work and life just goes on. And 490 00:20:41,521 --> 00:20:43,680 Speaker 3: I was thinking about it, but I wasn't allowing a 491 00:20:43,681 --> 00:20:46,120 Speaker 3: lot of time to process it. So I had the 492 00:20:46,160 --> 00:20:49,321 Speaker 3: time to actually like breathe my old business. Even I 493 00:20:49,360 --> 00:20:51,561 Speaker 3: know it's the right decision, there's still parts and I'm like, oh, 494 00:20:51,681 --> 00:20:53,321 Speaker 3: that's sad, like that has been such a big part 495 00:20:53,360 --> 00:20:56,241 Speaker 3: of my life and it's changed. And then just process 496 00:20:56,281 --> 00:20:58,321 Speaker 3: the fact that I've had this health scare and I'm 497 00:20:58,321 --> 00:21:00,920 Speaker 3: going to go through this surgery and there is risk involved, 498 00:21:01,001 --> 00:21:04,521 Speaker 3: and yeah, I had time to just process that and 499 00:21:04,561 --> 00:21:07,521 Speaker 3: come to peace with it. So I needed that time. 500 00:21:07,521 --> 00:21:09,680 Speaker 3: But if you don't give yourself space, you do just 501 00:21:09,761 --> 00:21:11,640 Speaker 3: park so much to the side, and over the years, 502 00:21:11,640 --> 00:21:14,241 Speaker 3: like how much have we all suppressed? There's so many 503 00:21:14,281 --> 00:21:16,520 Speaker 3: stored files and our brain, our body and our cells 504 00:21:16,521 --> 00:21:19,321 Speaker 3: that were just stored there, and it becomes toxic and 505 00:21:19,360 --> 00:21:21,721 Speaker 3: it comes out in anxiety and stress and other things 506 00:21:21,721 --> 00:21:24,761 Speaker 3: because we're not moving through it. So it's really nice. 507 00:21:24,801 --> 00:21:27,600 Speaker 3: I didn't realize how much I needed that moment, and 508 00:21:27,640 --> 00:21:29,920 Speaker 3: it was just one day on the Saturday, had a 509 00:21:29,961 --> 00:21:32,961 Speaker 3: long bath, I read heaps and I journaled so much, 510 00:21:33,041 --> 00:21:35,080 Speaker 3: and I was sitting in the chair and I actually 511 00:21:35,120 --> 00:21:36,680 Speaker 3: like set up my camera just to get like ten 512 00:21:36,761 --> 00:21:39,880 Speaker 3: fifteen seconds for real of me journaling, and I just cried. 513 00:21:40,120 --> 00:21:41,920 Speaker 3: I forgot the camera was even there. But I just 514 00:21:42,001 --> 00:21:45,680 Speaker 3: cried and cried and cried. But it wasn't like a sad, 515 00:21:45,801 --> 00:21:48,761 Speaker 3: no poor me cry, It was just just release. Tears 516 00:21:48,801 --> 00:21:51,240 Speaker 3: were just like energy. It was just this energy that 517 00:21:51,321 --> 00:21:54,200 Speaker 3: I was bottling in because the show must go on. 518 00:21:54,281 --> 00:21:56,001 Speaker 3: But I just I had that space where I didn't 519 00:21:56,001 --> 00:21:57,761 Speaker 3: have to be anywhere, I didn't have to attend anywhere. 520 00:21:57,961 --> 00:22:00,241 Speaker 3: I wasn't going to get interrupted by anyone unless you 521 00:22:00,321 --> 00:22:03,321 Speaker 3: knocked on my door, which you didn't. I keep sleeping 522 00:22:03,880 --> 00:22:05,801 Speaker 3: f in a bath or something, but I just know 523 00:22:05,921 --> 00:22:08,241 Speaker 3: I could just let it or go and release. But yeah, 524 00:22:08,241 --> 00:22:10,681 Speaker 3: that was really really special for me. That's nice. 525 00:22:10,721 --> 00:22:12,481 Speaker 1: It was really perfect timing for you. 526 00:22:12,681 --> 00:22:15,961 Speaker 3: Oh, Like I keep saying, the universe has fully had 527 00:22:15,961 --> 00:22:18,801 Speaker 3: my back, perfect perfect timing. 528 00:22:19,801 --> 00:22:23,081 Speaker 1: I feel like it was one of the only times 529 00:22:23,120 --> 00:22:27,600 Speaker 1: in my life where I actually completely switched off. I 530 00:22:27,600 --> 00:22:30,041 Speaker 1: feel like when I'm at home and even if I 531 00:22:30,201 --> 00:22:33,400 Speaker 1: put even if you put your phone down, there's the 532 00:22:33,561 --> 00:22:35,721 Speaker 1: to do list of the stuff you're looking around the home, 533 00:22:36,160 --> 00:22:39,521 Speaker 1: the mental load, but also having the no mental load, 534 00:22:39,600 --> 00:22:43,561 Speaker 1: everyone looking after everything, and then also no phone to 535 00:22:43,600 --> 00:22:44,240 Speaker 1: distract me. 536 00:22:44,880 --> 00:22:45,401 Speaker 3: I feel like. 537 00:22:45,360 --> 00:22:48,281 Speaker 1: It's one of the only times in my life where 538 00:22:48,321 --> 00:22:54,001 Speaker 1: I've actually completely switched off and just been And it 539 00:22:54,080 --> 00:22:55,200 Speaker 1: was really beautiful. 540 00:22:55,561 --> 00:22:58,041 Speaker 3: One thing that I really really noticed and was one 541 00:22:58,080 --> 00:23:00,201 Speaker 3: of the highlights of our old troop. And we also 542 00:23:00,241 --> 00:23:02,920 Speaker 3: went with our two producers, which we have just grown 543 00:23:03,080 --> 00:23:06,521 Speaker 3: such a nice bond with absolutely adore them, like I 544 00:23:06,521 --> 00:23:08,281 Speaker 3: feel like they've been our friends forever and I feel 545 00:23:08,360 --> 00:23:10,520 Speaker 3: so close with them and so comfortable with them and 546 00:23:10,640 --> 00:23:12,561 Speaker 3: just the people now that I feel like if I 547 00:23:12,721 --> 00:23:15,680 Speaker 3: was stuck with something or upset, like I could go 548 00:23:15,721 --> 00:23:17,441 Speaker 3: to and they would just be there, like you could 549 00:23:17,481 --> 00:23:19,680 Speaker 3: knock on their door and they would just open it up. Yep. 550 00:23:20,241 --> 00:23:22,240 Speaker 3: And we got to spend the four days together and 551 00:23:22,281 --> 00:23:25,760 Speaker 3: I just noticed beautiful conversations, like we have beautiful conversations 552 00:23:25,761 --> 00:23:28,041 Speaker 3: on the podcast through voice note like whenever we see 553 00:23:28,080 --> 00:23:31,001 Speaker 3: each other. But because there was no phones ever there, 554 00:23:31,160 --> 00:23:33,801 Speaker 3: they never got interrupted. You guess someone you're with people 555 00:23:33,840 --> 00:23:35,241 Speaker 3: and they just ran to pick up their phone or 556 00:23:35,241 --> 00:23:37,680 Speaker 3: they quickly replied to someone or get interrupted by a 557 00:23:37,681 --> 00:23:41,321 Speaker 3: phone call. I felt the connection really deepened between you 558 00:23:41,360 --> 00:23:44,401 Speaker 3: and I and Katie and Jay because there was no distractions. 559 00:23:44,801 --> 00:23:46,600 Speaker 3: We really got to go deep. We were all so 560 00:23:46,801 --> 00:23:49,680 Speaker 3: present from not having any phones, and it just made 561 00:23:49,721 --> 00:23:52,080 Speaker 3: me realize how beautiful the connections can be when you're 562 00:23:52,120 --> 00:23:54,960 Speaker 3: not distracted by the outside noise on your phone. And 563 00:23:55,001 --> 00:23:58,721 Speaker 3: that just really filled my heart and filled my cup 564 00:23:58,801 --> 00:23:59,880 Speaker 3: up so much. 565 00:24:00,241 --> 00:24:01,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, and I feel like too, because there were so 566 00:24:02,001 --> 00:24:04,441 Speaker 1: many vulnerable moments that happened while you're there because you're 567 00:24:04,481 --> 00:24:06,960 Speaker 1: not distracted to be able to actually go through all 568 00:24:06,961 --> 00:24:09,281 Speaker 1: that together. It definitely deepens a connection. 569 00:24:08,961 --> 00:24:11,281 Speaker 3: And everyone felt safe because they were so regulated to 570 00:24:11,321 --> 00:24:13,521 Speaker 3: open up. Yeah, it just opened up more and more. 571 00:24:13,921 --> 00:24:19,241 Speaker 3: It was so special. It was so nice. Yeah. The 572 00:24:19,281 --> 00:24:21,760 Speaker 3: other thing that I just noticed was how long and 573 00:24:21,801 --> 00:24:24,960 Speaker 3: slow the days were. Oh yeah. It was like I 574 00:24:24,961 --> 00:24:26,600 Speaker 3: didn't even wear my watch because I didn't want to 575 00:24:26,600 --> 00:24:28,880 Speaker 3: be distracted by steps or time or anything. It was 576 00:24:28,961 --> 00:24:31,561 Speaker 3: just so nice to just not worry about where we're going, 577 00:24:31,561 --> 00:24:33,600 Speaker 3: what we're doing, needing to be anywhere. Like I can't 578 00:24:33,640 --> 00:24:36,321 Speaker 3: tell you as a parent how relaxing that is, because 579 00:24:36,321 --> 00:24:40,041 Speaker 3: with kids it's like school drop off, pick up, school sports, her, 580 00:24:40,120 --> 00:24:43,840 Speaker 3: nap times, feeding times, snack times, like everything's just there's 581 00:24:43,880 --> 00:24:46,321 Speaker 3: so much going on all the time. To be able 582 00:24:46,360 --> 00:24:47,801 Speaker 3: to just go with the flow, and there's up to 583 00:24:47,801 --> 00:24:49,401 Speaker 3: eight activities you can do each day you can pick 584 00:24:49,400 --> 00:24:51,360 Speaker 3: and choose or like those, we just did nothing. It 585 00:24:51,441 --> 00:24:54,761 Speaker 3: was so nice, and that was just really made me 586 00:24:54,801 --> 00:24:58,480 Speaker 3: really just drop in and be so present and just 587 00:24:58,521 --> 00:25:01,360 Speaker 3: soak up every minute and every minute just felt so beautiful. 588 00:25:01,880 --> 00:25:03,761 Speaker 3: And when you stop like that, you can also just 589 00:25:03,961 --> 00:25:06,960 Speaker 3: notice the beauty in the world, world, in nature, in yourself, 590 00:25:07,001 --> 00:25:10,160 Speaker 3: in other people, in like freaking butterfly that flies past 591 00:25:10,241 --> 00:25:12,281 Speaker 3: you just like noticing all those little moments. 592 00:25:12,321 --> 00:25:14,080 Speaker 1: You're not missing them passing by by looking down at 593 00:25:14,120 --> 00:25:14,481 Speaker 1: your phone. 594 00:25:14,640 --> 00:25:17,240 Speaker 3: Yeah, you miss so much. That was really nice, just 595 00:25:17,481 --> 00:25:20,001 Speaker 3: to just enjoy the day and how long they were 596 00:25:20,721 --> 00:25:22,761 Speaker 3: loved it. Even though it went fast, it went slow 597 00:25:22,801 --> 00:25:23,641 Speaker 3: as well. It did. 598 00:25:23,640 --> 00:25:25,201 Speaker 1: I feel like we could fit so much. 599 00:25:25,041 --> 00:25:28,480 Speaker 3: In because ofhis Yeah. And then the last thing for 600 00:25:28,561 --> 00:25:32,120 Speaker 3: me was just how regulated I felt. I felt so calm. 601 00:25:32,201 --> 00:25:36,080 Speaker 3: I've never ever in my life experienced that level of calmness. 602 00:25:36,681 --> 00:25:38,400 Speaker 3: I think it really started for me for my first 603 00:25:38,400 --> 00:25:41,200 Speaker 3: treatment on the first day, which was such good timing, 604 00:25:41,281 --> 00:25:43,481 Speaker 3: Like that massage I had. I've never had a massage 605 00:25:43,521 --> 00:25:46,120 Speaker 3: like that. It was incredible. But you saw me, I 606 00:25:46,201 --> 00:25:47,721 Speaker 3: was like in an altered state. 607 00:25:47,921 --> 00:25:49,801 Speaker 1: It looks like you'd had like a forty eight hour sleep, 608 00:25:50,321 --> 00:25:51,921 Speaker 1: or she like had a hair off with her eyes. 609 00:25:52,080 --> 00:25:52,841 Speaker 1: She's like or. 610 00:25:52,801 --> 00:25:55,160 Speaker 3: Taken like a brownie or something. Right. I was just 611 00:25:55,360 --> 00:25:58,960 Speaker 3: like off on another planet. I remember just trying to 612 00:25:58,961 --> 00:26:01,681 Speaker 3: string my sentences together and I was like, I can't 613 00:26:01,681 --> 00:26:06,080 Speaker 3: even express how I feel. I felt so calm, like I. 614 00:26:06,201 --> 00:26:08,600 Speaker 1: Can talk right now, And I was like, that's fine, babe, honestly, 615 00:26:09,321 --> 00:26:11,640 Speaker 1: but I was like this kind of level of vibration, Like, 616 00:26:11,681 --> 00:26:13,321 Speaker 1: this is what I want to be on more much 617 00:26:13,360 --> 00:26:15,401 Speaker 1: if I felt like this calm and happy all the time. 618 00:26:15,400 --> 00:26:18,120 Speaker 3: And obviously that's not reality, but like I keep saying, 619 00:26:18,120 --> 00:26:21,360 Speaker 3: it's just tapping into that more often, to have more 620 00:26:21,400 --> 00:26:23,440 Speaker 3: moments in our day, in our week, in our month 621 00:26:23,600 --> 00:26:26,561 Speaker 3: of that energy. Yeah, but I think so much of 622 00:26:26,640 --> 00:26:28,801 Speaker 3: us are in this go go go hustle. Has a hustle. 623 00:26:29,160 --> 00:26:30,880 Speaker 3: It becomes our normal to be stressed and in a 624 00:26:30,880 --> 00:26:33,481 Speaker 3: shitty state all the time, and then a year goes 625 00:26:33,481 --> 00:26:35,801 Speaker 3: by and it's like, oh, that was a shit. Yeah no, 626 00:26:36,120 --> 00:26:38,240 Speaker 3: we don't want that. It's up to us to be 627 00:26:38,281 --> 00:26:40,280 Speaker 3: conscious and aware. And this is the thing. I know. 628 00:26:40,321 --> 00:26:42,961 Speaker 3: Not everyone can get to a retreat, but if you can, 629 00:26:43,201 --> 00:26:45,441 Speaker 3: it really is a total new reset. 630 00:26:45,961 --> 00:26:47,241 Speaker 1: It really is you what you can do. 631 00:26:47,481 --> 00:26:49,960 Speaker 3: Yeah, it shows you what's possible. It allows you to 632 00:26:50,041 --> 00:26:54,080 Speaker 3: experience those energies, and then you learn so much about 633 00:26:54,120 --> 00:26:57,360 Speaker 3: yourself and about your life. You reevaluate everything. So it 634 00:26:57,441 --> 00:26:59,241 Speaker 3: really is such a good reset. So I feel like 635 00:26:59,281 --> 00:27:02,240 Speaker 3: if you're feeling really lost or stuck or confused, or 636 00:27:02,241 --> 00:27:05,561 Speaker 3: going through a divorce or something really hard finding out 637 00:27:05,600 --> 00:27:07,480 Speaker 3: a health scaree like this has just been such the 638 00:27:07,521 --> 00:27:10,160 Speaker 3: perfect reset for me to be like, Okay, this is 639 00:27:10,160 --> 00:27:12,080 Speaker 3: how I want to enter and how I'm choosing to 640 00:27:12,201 --> 00:27:15,921 Speaker 3: enter into my next season or chapter. That was really cool. 641 00:27:16,600 --> 00:27:19,081 Speaker 3: So what have you implemented since like leaving. 642 00:27:19,001 --> 00:27:22,640 Speaker 1: The biggest thing is obviously being off my phone shitload 643 00:27:22,681 --> 00:27:24,840 Speaker 1: more like so much more. 644 00:27:24,761 --> 00:27:26,281 Speaker 3: So tell us about a boundary, like how have you 645 00:27:26,321 --> 00:27:26,681 Speaker 3: done that? 646 00:27:26,880 --> 00:27:31,841 Speaker 1: I've turned every single notification except for phone calls, even 647 00:27:31,880 --> 00:27:34,561 Speaker 1: text messages. I check them in the morning, I check 648 00:27:34,640 --> 00:27:36,281 Speaker 1: them in the ARVO when I have space and time. 649 00:27:36,761 --> 00:27:38,920 Speaker 1: So rather than it going off and me being like, oh, 650 00:27:39,041 --> 00:27:41,201 Speaker 1: I need to get back to that person, that's who 651 00:27:41,201 --> 00:27:43,080 Speaker 1: I am. Like when I see it and I know 652 00:27:43,160 --> 00:27:45,721 Speaker 1: it's there, it keeps replaying in my mind. But if 653 00:27:45,721 --> 00:27:47,601 Speaker 1: I haven't seen it or opened it yet, then when 654 00:27:47,600 --> 00:27:48,920 Speaker 1: I go to check it, I'm like, oh, these few 655 00:27:48,961 --> 00:27:51,281 Speaker 1: people have messaged me. And then I get back. You know, 656 00:27:51,400 --> 00:27:52,120 Speaker 1: and you're probably. 657 00:27:51,921 --> 00:27:54,200 Speaker 3: More present as well, definitely is you're ready. 658 00:27:53,961 --> 00:27:56,321 Speaker 1: And I have space and time to like really like 659 00:27:56,360 --> 00:27:58,321 Speaker 1: write out a beautiful message back to my girlfriend or 660 00:27:58,400 --> 00:28:00,080 Speaker 1: be present with the things that I want to say 661 00:28:00,120 --> 00:28:02,561 Speaker 1: and really listen as well, So like if you send 662 00:28:02,600 --> 00:28:04,681 Speaker 1: me a voice message about something that's going on, rather 663 00:28:04,761 --> 00:28:06,521 Speaker 1: be like listening and kids screaming in the background and 664 00:28:06,561 --> 00:28:08,281 Speaker 1: trying to do this and trying to do that, I'm 665 00:28:08,360 --> 00:28:11,840 Speaker 1: like upstairs on my own, I'm like, oh my gosh, okay, 666 00:28:12,041 --> 00:28:13,200 Speaker 1: what would I like? You know what I mean? I 667 00:28:13,241 --> 00:28:16,401 Speaker 1: can actually take the time out to really respond. So 668 00:28:16,561 --> 00:28:18,720 Speaker 1: I think that's been a huge one for me, And 669 00:28:18,801 --> 00:28:22,360 Speaker 1: saying with all my email notifications, just every single thing 670 00:28:22,521 --> 00:28:24,761 Speaker 1: on my phone is turned off, but my phone calls 671 00:28:24,761 --> 00:28:27,241 Speaker 1: because I'm like, if anyone desperately needs me, they can 672 00:28:27,281 --> 00:28:30,681 Speaker 1: call me, you know. So that's been a huge one. 673 00:28:30,921 --> 00:28:34,281 Speaker 1: And then other boundaries is just literally leaving it alone 674 00:28:34,360 --> 00:28:38,041 Speaker 1: more and it's hard. I catch myself still. I'm like 675 00:28:38,441 --> 00:28:40,720 Speaker 1: Kiara and like, look at the screen. Time on your 676 00:28:40,721 --> 00:28:42,241 Speaker 1: phone is a really good way to kind of look 677 00:28:42,241 --> 00:28:44,361 Speaker 1: at that, maybe give yourself a goal that you want 678 00:28:44,401 --> 00:28:46,720 Speaker 1: to hit, or even get it down a bit. But 679 00:28:46,961 --> 00:28:50,561 Speaker 1: like for me, it takes away from so much like 680 00:28:50,601 --> 00:28:52,681 Speaker 1: even me trying to tap into that feminine energy or 681 00:28:52,761 --> 00:28:55,200 Speaker 1: like think about the wife I want to be with 682 00:28:55,241 --> 00:28:57,001 Speaker 1: my husband when the kids go down. If I don't 683 00:28:57,081 --> 00:28:59,241 Speaker 1: ring my phone upstairs with me when I'm getting ready 684 00:28:59,281 --> 00:29:02,001 Speaker 1: in the evening. I find it's beautiful. I can go 685 00:29:02,161 --> 00:29:05,241 Speaker 1: up there, take my time in the shower with some 686 00:29:05,321 --> 00:29:08,321 Speaker 1: music on the Google Play, and take my time getting 687 00:29:08,321 --> 00:29:10,881 Speaker 1: all nice and ready for bed, think about my husband, 688 00:29:10,961 --> 00:29:12,681 Speaker 1: think about the things I'm grateful for the day. I'm 689 00:29:12,681 --> 00:29:14,361 Speaker 1: not being distracted by my phone. 690 00:29:14,441 --> 00:29:17,881 Speaker 3: Yeah, I've had my notifications off for a long time, 691 00:29:18,281 --> 00:29:19,761 Speaker 3: and I love that. I love that you've done that 692 00:29:19,841 --> 00:29:21,601 Speaker 3: because I never know if I get to text, message 693 00:29:21,641 --> 00:29:24,241 Speaker 3: and tool, like even on your home screen. I've got 694 00:29:24,241 --> 00:29:26,841 Speaker 3: my Snapchat because Tash is with Tala. Yeah, that's the 695 00:29:26,881 --> 00:29:29,801 Speaker 3: only notification that I've got. I have to actually unlock 696 00:29:29,881 --> 00:29:32,121 Speaker 3: my phone and then like, oh, I've got a message. 697 00:29:32,401 --> 00:29:34,761 Speaker 1: See mine doesn't even show up down there. Oh so 698 00:29:34,801 --> 00:29:37,200 Speaker 1: it's not until I actually click into it now that 699 00:29:37,281 --> 00:29:38,000 Speaker 1: it will come up. 700 00:29:38,201 --> 00:29:40,201 Speaker 3: Yeah, I've got the little red thing on there. That's 701 00:29:40,201 --> 00:29:42,081 Speaker 3: good when you click into a Yeah, because if my 702 00:29:42,121 --> 00:29:43,841 Speaker 3: baby just tried to reach out, I want to make 703 00:29:43,841 --> 00:29:46,561 Speaker 3: sure I can like see that. And something I did 704 00:29:47,081 --> 00:29:49,161 Speaker 3: about six months ago is in the afternoon, I'll leave 705 00:29:49,161 --> 00:29:50,561 Speaker 3: my phone in my room. I've been trying to do 706 00:29:50,641 --> 00:29:53,641 Speaker 3: that more. Yeah, So like whenever I can whenever I 707 00:29:53,641 --> 00:29:55,601 Speaker 3: feel like I just want to keep checking or I 708 00:29:55,601 --> 00:29:57,321 Speaker 3: don't know, I'll just leave it in my room. It's 709 00:29:57,361 --> 00:29:59,161 Speaker 3: on weekends, I've been doing it a lot more. And 710 00:29:59,201 --> 00:30:00,841 Speaker 3: when I go out on the weekends, i've been not 711 00:30:00,881 --> 00:30:01,601 Speaker 3: taking my phone. 712 00:30:01,681 --> 00:30:02,440 Speaker 1: Well that's nice. 713 00:30:02,521 --> 00:30:04,561 Speaker 3: Yeah, And if I want to capture like a cute 714 00:30:04,641 --> 00:30:06,361 Speaker 3: video thing, I know sed he's got his phone with him. 715 00:30:07,321 --> 00:30:08,921 Speaker 3: I'm with the kids. No one needs to contact me 716 00:30:09,001 --> 00:30:12,001 Speaker 3: that urgently. So I'll leave my phone at home purposely, 717 00:30:12,481 --> 00:30:14,200 Speaker 3: which is really nice because I feel the same like 718 00:30:14,201 --> 00:30:15,481 Speaker 3: I feel like I need to show up on stories 719 00:30:15,481 --> 00:30:17,081 Speaker 3: and be on the all the time, and I enjoy that. 720 00:30:17,441 --> 00:30:19,480 Speaker 3: I love creating content. But I've been leaving it at 721 00:30:19,481 --> 00:30:21,521 Speaker 3: home for parts of the time and go out and 722 00:30:21,521 --> 00:30:23,361 Speaker 3: I'm just so much more present with the kids. 723 00:30:23,401 --> 00:30:25,240 Speaker 1: So good. I feel like too when I'm getting on 724 00:30:25,361 --> 00:30:27,801 Speaker 1: Stories now, I'm going on there with more purpose. I 725 00:30:27,801 --> 00:30:29,401 Speaker 1: don't feel like I need to go on there to 726 00:30:29,481 --> 00:30:31,361 Speaker 1: just be like, you know, check in or do this. 727 00:30:31,401 --> 00:30:32,721 Speaker 1: I'm like going on there when I have somebody to 728 00:30:32,721 --> 00:30:34,760 Speaker 1: share it, or something cute to show, or you know, 729 00:30:34,921 --> 00:30:37,200 Speaker 1: some moment to make another mom feel. 730 00:30:36,961 --> 00:30:39,281 Speaker 3: More valuable to exactly I'm not just going. 731 00:30:39,081 --> 00:30:42,241 Speaker 1: On there fluffing around. And because I'm off my phone, 732 00:30:42,281 --> 00:30:45,081 Speaker 1: I'm experiencing more and I'm learning more about myself. More 733 00:30:45,121 --> 00:30:48,241 Speaker 1: to share, yes, more purpose like purposeful content to share 734 00:30:48,241 --> 00:30:48,681 Speaker 1: when I got on. 735 00:30:49,801 --> 00:30:52,281 Speaker 3: Yeah, just here, stronger boundaries around the phone, and I 736 00:30:52,361 --> 00:30:53,761 Speaker 3: just know how good I felt stuff. I want to 737 00:30:53,841 --> 00:30:56,601 Speaker 3: keep feeling like that. I need to implement more of that. Yeah, 738 00:30:56,601 --> 00:30:58,681 Speaker 3: But it's a fine balance. And like as we're talking 739 00:30:58,721 --> 00:31:00,841 Speaker 3: all of this, Yeah, I won't lie. It's not easy, 740 00:31:01,321 --> 00:31:04,481 Speaker 3: and there is some days and I'm still like, I 741 00:31:04,601 --> 00:31:06,440 Speaker 3: still go on my phone first thing in the morning, 742 00:31:06,481 --> 00:31:09,121 Speaker 3: but I've definitely broken that habits not as often anymore. 743 00:31:09,121 --> 00:31:11,440 Speaker 3: And I think when I don't have baseline, it'll be 744 00:31:11,641 --> 00:31:14,960 Speaker 3: instant easy for me because I won't have the stress 745 00:31:14,961 --> 00:31:17,801 Speaker 3: the pressure of the staff to attend to. Yeah, like 746 00:31:17,841 --> 00:31:19,921 Speaker 3: I do now, I'm really excited for it. 747 00:31:19,921 --> 00:31:21,961 Speaker 1: That does make it really hard when you've got stuff 748 00:31:21,961 --> 00:31:23,561 Speaker 1: and things to darn it. I feel like I was 749 00:31:23,601 --> 00:31:25,480 Speaker 1: regularly checking my phone a lot in the morning when 750 00:31:25,521 --> 00:31:27,161 Speaker 1: we had you know, Heed's going on. 751 00:31:27,321 --> 00:31:28,921 Speaker 3: It's a boss you kind of I don't know if 752 00:31:28,921 --> 00:31:30,641 Speaker 3: it's a story, but you kind of have to be 753 00:31:30,801 --> 00:31:33,481 Speaker 3: on if your staff are waiting for something and you've 754 00:31:33,481 --> 00:31:35,521 Speaker 3: put a deadline and you're not replying. They don't know 755 00:31:35,561 --> 00:31:38,001 Speaker 3: what to do with the website or the stock or 756 00:31:38,281 --> 00:31:40,960 Speaker 3: updating this or prices or anything. 757 00:31:41,041 --> 00:31:41,961 Speaker 1: So on calls and sick. 758 00:31:42,281 --> 00:31:44,921 Speaker 3: Yeah, I know before the dates you have then exactly, 759 00:31:45,321 --> 00:31:48,481 Speaker 3: you do need to be on so much more. So 760 00:31:48,521 --> 00:31:51,041 Speaker 3: I'm really looking forward to not having that, and I 761 00:31:51,161 --> 00:31:52,481 Speaker 3: think it's going to be so much easier for me 762 00:31:52,521 --> 00:31:55,440 Speaker 3: to implement way less phone time as we're sharing all 763 00:31:55,441 --> 00:31:58,081 Speaker 3: of this. It's not easy, but it's possible, and it's 764 00:31:58,121 --> 00:32:00,481 Speaker 3: just taking small steps. So if you find you're definitely 765 00:32:00,521 --> 00:32:02,440 Speaker 3: addicted and you're not having time to meditate or go 766 00:32:02,441 --> 00:32:04,401 Speaker 3: to the gym or whatever, I just look at your 767 00:32:04,441 --> 00:32:06,001 Speaker 3: screen time, catch yourself. 768 00:32:06,161 --> 00:32:08,161 Speaker 1: That's a hard truth when you look at your screen time. 769 00:32:08,121 --> 00:32:10,521 Speaker 3: Even at nighttime, like maybe your phone in your bedroom 770 00:32:10,561 --> 00:32:12,881 Speaker 3: and when you're watching Netflix, like get down and stretch 771 00:32:12,961 --> 00:32:15,201 Speaker 3: or like connect with your partner, like just fill those 772 00:32:15,241 --> 00:32:17,721 Speaker 3: gaps in with more beautiful moments that are more important 773 00:32:17,721 --> 00:32:20,041 Speaker 3: to you. Love that, Yeah, but you've got to be 774 00:32:20,081 --> 00:32:23,081 Speaker 3: so aware. You've got to have so much self awareness. 775 00:32:22,961 --> 00:32:24,921 Speaker 1: And even the connecting part. How you said that when 776 00:32:24,961 --> 00:32:26,641 Speaker 1: I'm going to my shower in that. That's such a 777 00:32:26,721 --> 00:32:29,081 Speaker 1: nice time now that I've found before I used to 778 00:32:29,121 --> 00:32:31,281 Speaker 1: freaking do not what I used to do. I used 779 00:32:31,281 --> 00:32:33,721 Speaker 1: to put YouTube on and stick it on the screen 780 00:32:33,721 --> 00:32:35,240 Speaker 1: in my shower and watch a YouTube video whilest having 781 00:32:35,281 --> 00:32:37,361 Speaker 1: a shower, and I'd be like, oh, I'm watching like 782 00:32:37,401 --> 00:32:39,961 Speaker 1: fun videos and that, and now like I love not anything, 783 00:32:40,161 --> 00:32:42,681 Speaker 1: just connecting with myself. Yes, you know, I have that 784 00:32:42,721 --> 00:32:44,241 Speaker 1: as a moment, and that's kind of like one of 785 00:32:44,321 --> 00:32:47,441 Speaker 1: those anchors in my day. It's an anchor where I'm like, hey, 786 00:32:47,481 --> 00:32:50,761 Speaker 1: bring it all back to you. And I feel like 787 00:32:50,761 --> 00:32:53,361 Speaker 1: the connecting part, Like, you're exactly right, I'm not scrolling 788 00:32:53,401 --> 00:32:55,161 Speaker 1: and checking my phone now when I'm laying and watching 789 00:32:55,241 --> 00:32:57,601 Speaker 1: a TV show or movie with my husband, I'm cuddling 790 00:32:57,641 --> 00:32:59,321 Speaker 1: with him and we're like laughing together and I'm not 791 00:32:59,401 --> 00:33:02,321 Speaker 1: like missing things and half watching and half exactly a present. 792 00:33:02,441 --> 00:33:05,521 Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't have phone at night and family and 793 00:33:05,521 --> 00:33:08,321 Speaker 3: with Steve, it's just not worth it for what, Yeah 794 00:33:08,361 --> 00:33:10,601 Speaker 3: to watch a couple of funny videos or something. Yeah, 795 00:33:10,641 --> 00:33:11,961 Speaker 3: I want to watch a funny video, get up on 796 00:33:12,001 --> 00:33:14,001 Speaker 3: the TV and all snuggling together and watch it together. 797 00:33:14,041 --> 00:33:17,681 Speaker 3: You know have those moments. Yeah, so huge takeaways, huge 798 00:33:17,761 --> 00:33:19,681 Speaker 3: lessons and huge things to implement. So even if you 799 00:33:19,681 --> 00:33:21,440 Speaker 3: can take one or two of these away and trial 800 00:33:21,521 --> 00:33:23,641 Speaker 3: it and just feel the impact it has on you 801 00:33:23,681 --> 00:33:25,881 Speaker 3: and your connection your family, it's so worth it. 802 00:33:25,881 --> 00:33:28,401 Speaker 1: So worth it. And if you do try it, come 803 00:33:28,441 --> 00:33:30,401 Speaker 1: over to the forum and let us know what you're 804 00:33:30,401 --> 00:33:32,881 Speaker 1: doing to make it easier and also how you're feeling. 805 00:33:33,281 --> 00:33:36,521 Speaker 3: M hmm. PS. If someone tells you that you can't 806 00:33:36,521 --> 00:33:40,281 Speaker 3: do something, they are showing you their limits, their beliefs, 807 00:33:40,481 --> 00:33:45,121 Speaker 3: not yours. That's so true you can't do something. It's 808 00:33:45,201 --> 00:33:48,440 Speaker 3: like that's their own projection. Who says you can't do 809 00:33:48,521 --> 00:33:50,761 Speaker 3: something because they say? Someone says that to me, it 810 00:33:50,801 --> 00:33:53,681 Speaker 3: makes me want to do it more. Amena that if 811 00:33:53,681 --> 00:33:55,401 Speaker 3: people told me I couldn't be a personal trainer, I 812 00:33:55,441 --> 00:33:57,881 Speaker 3: was like you watch yeah, I'll show you yeah. 813 00:33:58,001 --> 00:34:04,641 Speaker 1: Ps. Stop chasing distraction, normalize stillness, silence, being alone or bored. 814 00:34:05,121 --> 00:34:09,081 Speaker 1: Sometimes we needed detox from overstimulation, to ground and calm our. 815 00:34:08,961 --> 00:34:13,321 Speaker 3: Body beautiful, very relevant, very relevant, love it. Thanks so 816 00:34:13,441 --> 00:34:14,321 Speaker 3: much for joining us. 817 00:34:14,521 --> 00:34:15,601 Speaker 1: We'll see you Wednesday. 818 00:34:15,761 --> 00:34:20,761 Speaker 3: By bye.