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Speaker 2: I need to text you back. I'm really needing with that.
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Speaker 2: On today's episode of Where's Your Head At, we'll be
Speaker 2: discussing the ick and surviving rejection.
Speaker 3: Stay tuned to hear about all the times the ike
Speaker 3: ruined a perfectly good thing we had going on. Where's
Speaker 3: Your Head At is a podcast that talks all things relationships, breakups,
Speaker 3: reality TV, trending shows, and everything in between.
Speaker 2: This is your new go to destination for laughs, gossip,
Speaker 2: intimate details, advice, and much more.
Speaker 3: Anna Anna, Anna, Matthew, Matthew, Matthew.
Speaker 2: I tell you what I'd really love, and everyone and
Speaker 2: listening would really love.
Speaker 1: What's that?
Speaker 2: Matt for you to tell us about the new relationship
Speaker 2: milestone you've had with your man Michael.
Speaker 1: God, you're going straight into the deep hair I am.
Speaker 2: I'm not here to fuck spiders.
Speaker 1: Who didn't come up with this?
Speaker 3: I mean, yeah, look I have I'm still not over them.
Speaker 3: Related what is it the fucking spiders thing? Yeah, I've
Speaker 3: had another relationship milestone.
Speaker 2: Congratulations, thank you.
Speaker 3: As as you alluded to, there was a love bomb
Speaker 3: dropped by yourself or Michael, Michael dropped the love bomb?
Speaker 2: Okay? Is are you normally the first say it? Or
Speaker 2: is your partner normally.
Speaker 3: I'm never the first to say it, even if I
Speaker 3: feel it, I always wait because I just don't want
Speaker 3: to get ahead of myself because I, as do you
Speaker 3: go a bit headfirst into the deep end, and once
Speaker 3: I do feel it, I just wait for them to
Speaker 3: say it.
Speaker 2: Okay, So what happens everyone's itching to know now?
Speaker 3: Well, basically, we went on a little picnic with two
Speaker 3: of his friends. I met them, We had some cocktails,
Speaker 3: we got a bit tipsy, and after the picnic we
Speaker 3: walked home. The sun was setting all around us. It
Speaker 3: was pretty romantic. Romantic, had a bit of a buzz
Speaker 3: on from the apparol spritzers, and yeah, it was honestly
Speaker 3: so pretty, we'll buy the lake. And he basically told
Speaker 3: me he loved me, and I told him I loved
Speaker 3: him too.
Speaker 2: That's really cute. That is a couple of goals.
Speaker 3: That is.
Speaker 2: But this isn't the first time he said the big
Speaker 2: L word, is it.
Speaker 1: I don't know if he's going to be happy to
Speaker 1: throwing him under the bus like.
Speaker 2: This, sorry mate, but we're going to call you out
Speaker 2: yourself to yourself. Brother.
Speaker 1: God.
Speaker 3: Yes, I think like four or five dates in he
Speaker 3: said it a couple of times when he was quite drunk.
Speaker 1: And then wait.
Speaker 2: Four or five dates, what does that transpire the timing wise, So.
Speaker 1: It was probably like two weeks.
Speaker 3: He said it a couple of times, like maybe three
Speaker 3: or four times, and then all of a.
Speaker 1: Sudden he stopped saying it. And I was like, oh, you.
Speaker 2: Know, they say when you know, you know, so maybe
Speaker 2: he just knew when you know you know?
Speaker 3: I mean hopefully, but I mean I think it is
Speaker 3: probably too early to say.
Speaker 1: At the two week monk, it was like a slip.
Speaker 3: Of the tongue, you know, when you're really drunk and
Speaker 3: you're like really vibing someone.
Speaker 1: And I did say it back though, to be fair,
Speaker 1: but I just.
Speaker 2: You know, look, I'm going to step off my high
Speaker 2: horse and I'm going to say I can vibe with
Speaker 2: Michael on this one here.
Speaker 1: So I'm not surprised.
Speaker 2: On the weekend, me and magical date girl, as if
Speaker 2: we know whereas we're having apparolls oh low and common
Speaker 2: denominator here.
Speaker 1: If you have an apparol here might drop for elbow.
Speaker 2: I actually warned her the week before. I said, well,
Speaker 2: we're planning on having a bit to drink here. I
Speaker 2: was like, I'm probably going to say something stupid. I
Speaker 2: know how I feel at the moment, but but we're drinking.
Speaker 2: All my roomies were sitting there. Then she started kissing me,
Speaker 2: and she was like, I really really like you, Like
Speaker 2: I'm so lucky to have you like this sort of stuff.
Speaker 2: And I was and I was like, I was like,
Speaker 2: I think I love you. Did not, oh my god,
Speaker 2: did not did not get the out word back. I
Speaker 2: can't remember exactly what happened, but I remember just fucking
Speaker 2: backtracking that quickly. I was like, I really think that
Speaker 2: I could see myself loving you. Oh no, no, So
Speaker 2: I just fool put myself in reverse.
Speaker 1: So you stepped in it, and then.
Speaker 2: You're just yeah, yeah, so I backpedled quite a bit.
Speaker 2: And to be honest, it hasn't been brought up since.
Speaker 3: So you guys were drunk, you said it, and then
Speaker 3: you work out the next day did mention it?
Speaker 2: Here's the rug? He is only just sweeping it under.
Speaker 2: I will leave that for another day.
Speaker 3: But now you're going to have to have this conversation
Speaker 3: because he just told me and everyone else the story.
Speaker 2: Well, she's she's a die hard listener, so I'm sure
Speaker 2: after this gets released we'll be having that chat.
Speaker 1: So were you unsweeping this under the rug right now? Oh?
Speaker 3: Shit?
Speaker 2: I should probably rethink about what I'm doing here.
Speaker 3: You're probably going to have to have that conversation with
Speaker 3: her and remind her of you you dropping the big album.
Speaker 2: And just say, look, it might have been a little
Speaker 2: bit premature, but that's the only place some.
Speaker 1: Yeah, this is a clean podcast. You're dirty.
Speaker 2: But what the main thing I'm worried about is have
Speaker 2: I given her the ick by saying that? Is it
Speaker 2: too soon? Is that what the ick is?
Speaker 3: Let's jump right into that. I'm ready to talk about
Speaker 3: the IK.
Speaker 2: Let's do that, all right, Let's dive in. All right, So,
Speaker 2: first of all, Anna, what is the ick? The so
Speaker 2: called dreaded eck?
Speaker 3: So Matt's never heard about the ek, which is surprising
Speaker 3: in itself, or hadn't heard of the ik before we
Speaker 3: decided to do this episode.
Speaker 1: But basically, what the ick is.
Speaker 3: Is when you feel instantly repulsed by someone. So you
Speaker 3: might have got on a few dates, you might have
Speaker 3: been on one date, You could be with them for seven, eight,
Speaker 3: nine years, it could be a long term relationship. All
Speaker 3: of a sudden you get the ick and it's something
Speaker 3: specific that they do that you get cringed out by.
Speaker 3: You get this very strong gut reaction. It can be
Speaker 3: based on anything. It can be their mannerisms, the way
Speaker 3: they blink, the way they breathe, the way they tie
Speaker 3: their shoelace. It can literally be anything. So no one
Speaker 3: is safe.
Speaker 2: So yeah, So what you're trying to say is, never
Speaker 2: get comfortable in a relationship.
Speaker 3: Never get comfortable, Never get to be comfortable because you
Speaker 3: don't know when the eck is around the corner.
Speaker 2: Well, like you said, I had never heard of the ick.
Speaker 2: I first heard of it on a TikTok someone said
Speaker 2: something when they hit the eck, and I remember sending
Speaker 2: it to you and I was like, what's this ick
Speaker 2: people talk about? So I looked a little bit into it,
Speaker 2: and yeah, I don't think I've ever had the ick.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so mainly girls get the ick most of the time.
Speaker 3: It's a girl thing. So girls get the ick. But
Speaker 3: as it's been spoken more and more about, guys have
Speaker 3: been actually I do get the ick. I think I
Speaker 3: might have got the ick here. They just maybe didn't
Speaker 3: know the terminology as well as girls do for it.
Speaker 3: But yeah, most of the time girls will get the
Speaker 3: ick over guys.
Speaker 2: All right, So you're telling me that the ick could
Speaker 2: be from the way you laugh or tell a joke.
Speaker 1: Even Yep, it could be literally anything.
Speaker 2: See, I think that I may have given some girls
Speaker 2: the ick.
Speaker 1: I'm sure you have.
Speaker 2: Math. I'm sure you have, because as we know, I
Speaker 2: have a real dry off the cuff sense of humor,
Speaker 2: and a lot of girls I've noticed that I'm dating
Speaker 2: or seeing really struggle with it.
Speaker 1: Struggle with your sense of humor.
Speaker 2: Yeah, they don't. And I can tell that sometimes when
Speaker 2: I say my jokes off my calf, I can feel
Speaker 2: the energy shift in the room and I'm.
Speaker 1: Say your jokes just aren't landing very well.
Speaker 2: Yeah, some people get it, some people don't. Yeah, so
Speaker 2: some girls don't get it, and I mean I've noticed
Speaker 2: that a lot of them. A lot of girls have
Speaker 2: sometimes been like some of these things. I've said, how
Speaker 2: long does it usually take to catch the ick?
Speaker 3: Well, I mean there's normally five stages. So there's the
Speaker 3: getting to know someone stage, there's dating them, whether that's
Speaker 3: a first date or one hundred dates in. Then there's
Speaker 3: the realization stage, where you just have this gut intuitive
Speaker 3: feeling that something's wrong and you get that intuition that
Speaker 3: you're just a bit repulsed and turned off and a
Speaker 3: bit grossed out by that person, and then they head
Speaker 3: straight to the friends.
Speaker 2: Does that happen a lot in long term relationships?
Speaker 1: I mean, look, I.
Speaker 3: Know a few people in long term relationships who can
Speaker 3: sometimes get the ick. And the problem with the ick
Speaker 3: is it's so hard to shake off once.
Speaker 1: You get it.
Speaker 2: So Anna, have you ever had the ick? Then?
Speaker 3: I mean it, to be honest, I reckon, pretty much
Speaker 3: every guy dated has ended up giving me the ick.
Speaker 3: That's probably why it hasn't worked out. I reckon, you
Speaker 3: just get the ick when subconsciously you know that it's
Speaker 3: not right, but you haven't yet admitted it to yourself.
Speaker 3: So deep down you know that it's not going to
Speaker 3: work out with you and this person, and maybe you
Speaker 3: were still seeing them or still going on dates with them,
Speaker 3: and then intuitively your guts like stop wasting your time.
Speaker 3: Enough's enough, and you just get this sick feeling in
Speaker 3: your stomach and it's just something that you can't look past,
Speaker 3: and you're like, you know what, it's over. But yeah,
Speaker 3: I definitely have lots of different stories about getting the ick. Recently,
Speaker 3: I was dating this guy and we have been seeing
Speaker 3: each other for about one and a half months.
Speaker 2: Okay, so decent time.
Speaker 3: Yeah, super attractive guy, super sweet, super lovely.
Speaker 2: He's your type as well.
Speaker 1: He was my type. Like literally, there was nothing wrong
Speaker 1: with him. He was amazing.
Speaker 3: But I think deep down on you that it just
Speaker 3: wasn't gonna last, just like values wise, we were kind
Speaker 3: of it was a bit off, and I remember I
Speaker 3: remember I was thinking about ending it, but I hadn't
Speaker 3: quite done it yet. And I remember I woke up
Speaker 3: in the morning.
Speaker 1: He was at my apartment and he had a cold,
Speaker 1: which is fine, and he started.
Speaker 3: I sound like a huge bitch right now, But honestly,
Speaker 3: you can't help getting the ick, like you can't help
Speaker 3: it anyway. He obviously was probably not feeling that great.
Speaker 3: He started blowing his nose so loudly. When I say
Speaker 3: so loudly, like I can still hear this nose blowing,
Speaker 3: like it cringes me out.
Speaker 1: Like I'm just like, oh, yuck. And in that moment,
Speaker 1: I knew that I had the ick.
Speaker 3: And after that we stopped seeing each other straight away
Speaker 3: or did you keep seeing him straight away like I
Speaker 3: the moment I got the ick and that gut feeling,
Speaker 3: I was just like it's done, Like I can't even
Speaker 3: keep going anymore, like I tried, it's.
Speaker 1: Not gonna work out.
Speaker 3: But just to show you that I'm not actually a
Speaker 3: bad and mean person. If Michael was to blow his
Speaker 3: nose my boyfriend it honestly like I couldn't care less,
Speaker 3: like I don't even hear it. But yeah, just when
Speaker 3: it wasn't right with someone, and I knew that deep down,
Speaker 3: I was just totally turned off.
Speaker 2: So after you're telling these stories and I was spoken
Speaker 2: about the ick, I actually think that I may have
Speaker 2: got it. Really, So I was dating this girl, and
Speaker 2: she was a couple of years younger, okay, And we
Speaker 2: were laying bed until we started chatting and she started
Speaker 2: telling me a story from like school, and I was
Speaker 2: like fuck, and I realized she was she was like
Speaker 2: twenty one, but I realized how young she actually was.
Speaker 3: So it made you feel a lot older because she
Speaker 3: was telling you school story.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and I was like, I was twenty five, So
Speaker 2: I was like school for me was like like what
Speaker 2: eight years ago. I was just sitting there and I
Speaker 2: was like, oh, like, maybe you're a lot younger and
Speaker 2: a lot more immature than I thought you were, do
Speaker 2: you know what I mean? So is that sort of
Speaker 2: the ick? I don't know.
Speaker 3: I think so like if you genuinely feel a bit
Speaker 3: like you just deep down in your gut, no that
Speaker 3: it's not right. So if that's a feeling you got,
Speaker 3: then yeah, maybe you got the ick if this is the.
Speaker 1: Girl that I'm thinking about. Though, didn't she ghost you?
Speaker 3: Ye?
Speaker 2: Nah she did, We're honest here on this podcast. Yeah
Speaker 2: she did. But maybe she got the ick from me
Speaker 2: something I did.
Speaker 3: Maybe she was like this guy's a dinosaur. This doesn't
Speaker 3: even remember the school days.
Speaker 1: So I'm out hat you never, okay, Matt.
Speaker 3: So we asked our as your head out listeners on
Speaker 3: Instagram what gave them the ig, and honestly, the things
Speaker 3: that people came back with were so funny.
Speaker 1: A couple in particular. But we're gonna start.
Speaker 2: I caught a couple of them and I was like, Oh,
Speaker 2: some of these would have even given me the same.
Speaker 3: I was like, actually, now that I think about it,
Speaker 3: that probably would give me the egg.
Speaker 1: Okay.
Speaker 3: So the first one is boys eating pasta and having
Speaker 3: sauce over their mouth after the reason why I chose
Speaker 3: this one, Matt, is because every time I'm with Matt
Speaker 3: and we're having lunch or dinner or whatever, Matt has
Speaker 3: crumbs everywhere. So I thought this one was quite funny
Speaker 3: to start with.
Speaker 2: I really hope my mum isn't listening. The one thing
Speaker 2: I promise her is that I'll have good table managed
Speaker 2: when I'm out, but she's disappointed.
Speaker 1: Okay. The second one we have is bad breath.
Speaker 3: I think that overall, like, I think that gives everyone.
Speaker 1: The eat right.
Speaker 2: Yeah, sometimes you give people benefit of the doubts.
Speaker 1: Open up bit of morning breath.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I feel personally victimized.
Speaker 3: Okay, I feel bad because I feel like this one's
Speaker 3: very relatable to you as well. But said he loved
Speaker 3: me after two weeks.
Speaker 1: That's not one I won.
Speaker 2: Wasn't that you? Wasn't that your boyfriend as well? Didn't
Speaker 2: Did you get the ick?
Speaker 3: No? I didn't get the ick, But lucky for him,
Speaker 3: I was pretty into him, So I mean.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I haven't scared her away yet outside of that.
Speaker 2: Fair enough.
Speaker 3: Okay, this one is we were only talking for forty
Speaker 3: eight hours and he sent me eleven eleven with nothing
Speaker 3: else written at the time.
Speaker 1: Tell everyone the story.
Speaker 3: What didn't you used to like send people eleven eleven,
Speaker 3: but you'd make an alarm clock for it, so you
Speaker 3: knew when to.
Speaker 2: Yeah, my ex was pretty into the eleven eleven things.
Speaker 3: So so basically what Matt would do, he'd set like
Speaker 3: a eleven ten alarm on its phone.
Speaker 2: Not all the time, I do it occasionally, and then
Speaker 2: I'd always send eleven eleven. Make a wish it's meant
Speaker 2: to be.
Speaker 1: I saw it again.
Speaker 2: Cringe.
Speaker 1: Okay.
Speaker 3: The next one is he told me he only puts
Speaker 3: deodran on if he's leaving the house, not after every shower.
Speaker 2: Come on, mate, lift your game. Right, you got to
Speaker 2: put on every time. It gives me the ick.
Speaker 3: Okay, when a guy sits on a chair with his
Speaker 3: legs crossed, do you do that.
Speaker 2: My leg uncross my legs.
Speaker 1: Matt's really getting victimized. Yeah, maybe maybe maybe you give
Speaker 1: people the dick more people than life.
Speaker 3: No, No, okay, I saw how many nose hairs he
Speaker 3: had and couldn't do it anymore.
Speaker 2: I mean, groom yourself. Brother, I feel bad.
Speaker 1: Like that's kind of out of your control.
Speaker 2: Yeah, some blokes don't think about that.
Speaker 1: Like get him a nose hair trimmer for Christmas or
Speaker 1: his birthday.
Speaker 2: Towards it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but I feel like that can be.
Speaker 2: That's somebody that summed up to bag grooming though, like
Speaker 2: he should probably groom himself a bit better.
Speaker 1: That's a ten out of ten groom I should know.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I know. I keep myself well groomed. So that
Speaker 2: one wasn't directed at me obviously.
Speaker 1: Okay, this one I thought was really funny.
Speaker 3: He had really small hands, so when his hand was
Speaker 3: on my thigh, it felt.
Speaker 1: Like a child.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's that's really like grow Yeah, that is that'd
Speaker 2: give me the.
Speaker 1: Yeah thinking about it.
Speaker 3: Okay, there's two left I did save the best to last.
Speaker 2: Am I getting victimized again? Or are these well?
Speaker 1: Actually, yes you are, because it's.
Speaker 2: Maybe maybe I should go over these now and not
Speaker 2: leave it to Anna.
Speaker 3: Okay, second last one, it's from the Magical Date Girl.
Speaker 3: Oh bullshit, the girl that Matt's seeing get excited. She
Speaker 3: has told everyone something that gives her the ick, specifically
Speaker 3: about that.
Speaker 2: Why she done me dirty? Like this, and it goes
Speaker 2: a little something like this, I don't want to hear it.
Speaker 1: When he talks about Star Wars.
Speaker 2: Nah, all right, so I know exactly what she's talking about.
Speaker 2: The other day, she has never seen Star Wars. So
Speaker 2: I pulled up Star Wars episodes on my TV and
Speaker 2: I had her in bed, and I was going through
Speaker 2: and like she was at school, and I was explaining
Speaker 2: the plotline of each one and how they were made
Speaker 2: and what order, and like who the main characters were
Speaker 2: in each one, and like what's what? And now you're
Speaker 2: getting the.
Speaker 1: Ick you have hearing about it?
Speaker 2: Well, I had to. I wanted to give her the
Speaker 2: background before we started on because you'd never seen him.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you wanted to get her up today because you're
Speaker 3: a Star Wars fanatic In case anyone didn't know that
Speaker 3: about Matt.
Speaker 2: And I keep alluding to my taking her back to
Speaker 2: my teenage room that I grew up in my mum's
Speaker 2: and how I've got Star Wars memorabilia everywhere. So I'm
Speaker 2: going to hold off on that.
Speaker 1: As a friend. Matt.
Speaker 3: If there's one piece of advice I want to give
Speaker 3: you is do not show her the Star Wars memorabilia.
Speaker 2: A huge Empire Strikes Back poster above my bed, my
Speaker 2: limited edition.
Speaker 1: It could go very bad. Okay.
Speaker 3: And the final one is this isn't related to you.
Speaker 3: This is just I thought personally, this was like like
Speaker 3: the VIP comment, basically the MVP comment.
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, he sent me a.
Speaker 3: Video in the mirror slinging his sick around randomly.
Speaker 1: I was mortified.
Speaker 2: I have never done that, nor sent an unsolicited dick pic.
Speaker 2: So that's not directed at me.
Speaker 1: You know, it's not directed.
Speaker 2: What happens if you'd got that video, then I.
Speaker 3: Would probably like block. It's an instantaneous block from from.
Speaker 2: A random guy. Yeah, obviously from a guy you're seeing.
Speaker 2: What about if your boyfriend sent you on?
Speaker 1: I mean, it's just a bit odd, isn't it.
Speaker 2: Why?
Speaker 1: Why is there like a dick sling video. It's just
Speaker 1: a bit wild, and it's probably preferred that I don't
Speaker 1: get one.
Speaker 2: If you're listening, Yeah, or any guys, if you're out
Speaker 2: there listening, probably don't do any of this stuff and
Speaker 2: take some tips for you, all right, So that's all
Speaker 2: we have time for on though, what gives you the
Speaker 2: ick segment?
Speaker 3: Okay, So the reason why some people might get the
Speaker 3: IG is because we go on a first day and
Speaker 3: we have this expectation of the person that we're going
Speaker 3: at a first date with. We look on their social media,
Speaker 3: we paint this unrealistic picture of.
Speaker 1: Who they are.
Speaker 3: We put them on a pedestal, and sometimes we're let
Speaker 3: down when that person doesn't match up to the person
Speaker 3: that we've created in our own mind. So we have
Speaker 3: to be really mindful to go on a first date
Speaker 3: with someone or go into relationships with people and just
Speaker 3: be open and see them for what they are and
Speaker 3: not create this big image of what you think they
Speaker 3: should be.
Speaker 2: Yeah. I completely agree, Anna, But in the end, it
Speaker 2: is good, though, to accept that gut feeling you have
Speaker 2: and accept it and move on.
Speaker 3: I mean, although we're talking a lot about us getting
Speaker 3: the ink and kind of making fun of the fact
Speaker 3: that we've got the eck over people. We want to
Speaker 3: make sure that we're really clear on this that if
Speaker 3: you give someone the ick, it doesn't mean that you've
Speaker 3: done anything wrong. It's part of dating, and dating can
Speaker 3: be really challenging and really hard.
Speaker 2: And we don't want to scare you away from it.
Speaker 3: So we don't want to scare you away from dating.
Speaker 3: So let's jump into our top tips on how to
Speaker 3: survive rejection. Strong feelings of rejection can happen because your
Speaker 3: brain is wired to see all experiences as either acceptance
Speaker 3: or rejection instead of just regular occurrences that happen.
Speaker 1: So when someone.
Speaker 3: Gets the ick from you, you can take it really
Speaker 3: strongly on board, and you can feel like it's a
Speaker 3: huge rejection. And as we've experienced, dating is all about rejection,
Speaker 3: and every time you get past that next rejection and
Speaker 3: keep moving forward, you're one step closer to finding that
Speaker 3: person that you're potentially going to spend forever with.
Speaker 2: All Right, So I have some tips for facing rejection.
Speaker 2: I mean, I've had my fair share of rejection.
Speaker 3: Believe it or not, Anna, I know you can't believe.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm still gobsmacked. But this is the main one.
Speaker 2: Remember that it happens to everyone. Yeah, it never feels
Speaker 2: good to be rejected, but everyone, no matter who they are,
Speaker 2: has been rejected in their life.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: I mean I have you have.
Speaker 3: You're never going to be everyone's cup of tea, right exactly,
Speaker 3: You're never going to be And you've got to accept
Speaker 3: that because someone might not see you for what you are.
Speaker 2: But trust me, there is someone out there that does.
Speaker 2: And once that door closes with that one person that's
Speaker 2: rejected you, it's going to open for someone that will
Speaker 2: appreciate you for who you are.
Speaker 3: Yeah, And I mean, look, I've sometimes after being rejected,
Speaker 3: gotten a bit bogged down in the feeling of not
Speaker 3: being wanted.
Speaker 1: But the moment you.
Speaker 3: Put yourself back out there, you honestly forget about it.
Speaker 2: You move on, jump back on that dating horse, download
Speaker 2: those dating apps that's great for your ego, swipe ride
Speaker 2: a little bit, and just.
Speaker 3: Just and just kept talking to other people, and you know,
Speaker 3: realize that that person who rejected you is not the
Speaker 3: only fish in the sea. There's plenty more salmon's out there.
Speaker 3: And I think also something that's really helped me after
Speaker 3: rejection is positive affirmation.
Speaker 1: Okay, Matt. So we joked briefly before about the fact.
Speaker 3: That you had been ghosted. Obviously, I know that that
Speaker 3: would have hurt you. Tell us how that felt.
Speaker 2: So it obviously felt like shit. But I think it
Speaker 2: more bruised my ego than anything, because I remember one
Speaker 2: of the last messages was inviting them on a date
Speaker 2: and I just didn't get a reply. Yeah, And I
Speaker 2: was sort of like, oh, I was like I didn't
Speaker 2: see this happening, like you know what I mean. I
Speaker 2: was like, I did not see it going this way. Yeah.
Speaker 2: So I really hurt my ego and I was like
Speaker 2: what am I? Like, what did I do wrong? But
Speaker 2: I didn't get too hung up on it. I mean,
Speaker 2: it wasn't like it was a serious thing. It was
Speaker 2: just a couple of dates hanging out here and there.
Speaker 2: So I didn't let it affect me in that thing.
Speaker 2: I compartmentalized and realized what it was.
Speaker 1: Yeah, soap it for what it was.
Speaker 2: Yeah, And I didn't blame myself for anything. I was like,
Speaker 2: it's probably a you problem, not a meat problem.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: And I got back on that dating horse for sale.
Speaker 3: Was there a bit of negative self talk after it
Speaker 3: like I'm not good enough?
Speaker 1: Why didn't she want me?
Speaker 2: No, and my mates laugh about this actually because every
Speaker 2: time it comes off, they say the more and more that,
Speaker 2: the more and more I bring it up, it was
Speaker 2: more my decision and not hers.
Speaker 1: So you've changed the narrative in your own head.
Speaker 2: Yeah, in my own head. I remember. My best mate
Speaker 2: was like, the more and more you tell this story,
Speaker 2: it was more your decision, not hers.
Speaker 3: When you told this story before you actually said that
Speaker 3: she gave you the ick, And then I was like,
Speaker 3: hold on a second, didn't she goes to you?
Speaker 2: Yeah? You see even there, I've done that. So that's
Speaker 2: my way of coping with it. So I don't know,
Speaker 2: I don't really suggest that way of proping with things,
Speaker 2: but it definitely worked for me.
Speaker 1: Okay, guys.
Speaker 3: On next week's episode, we are asking the big question,
Speaker 3: can girls and guys actually just be friends?
Speaker 2: Well? I remember that my ex hot who.
Speaker 1: Well, let's save it for the next episode. Now we've
Speaker 1: got a lot of dead on this one.
Speaker 3: Alright, Let's see you next time, guys.
Speaker 1: Bye,