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Speaker 1: Guys this morning, if you don't mind me just interrupting

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Speaker 1: for a second. Eight we're doing something special this morning

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Speaker 1: because I've got an update which you might be interesting. Okay,

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Speaker 1: I'm going to take you back to June last year

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Speaker 1: when we got this call from one of our listeners, Brendan.

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Speaker 2: When I was thirteen, I was told I was adopted,

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Speaker 2: and in the last eight years I found that I'm

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Speaker 2: one of ten. Wow, I've met three brothers and one sister.

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Speaker 2: Never never met that. All I've got is a name.

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Speaker 3: Well, right, okay, Shiver's well, you've got to get onto

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Speaker 3: ancestry dot com. We'll see if we can pull a

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Speaker 3: couple of strings here, because.

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Speaker 4: With ancestry dot Com Brendan, we'll see how we go.

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Speaker 2: Oh that'd be great.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so you boy, do you remember that one touching?

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Speaker 1: So yeah, they've been working very hard behind the scenes

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Speaker 1: to get Brendan a little bit more info. Now he's

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Speaker 1: bred from ancestry dot Com and he explains here the

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Speaker 1: research that he did to find Brandan's biological father.

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Speaker 5: With Brendan's story, cousin matches with a key to unlocking

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Speaker 5: this mystery. We were able to look at the cousins

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Speaker 5: that he had work out where they fit it into

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Speaker 5: the family that he knew and the ones that didn't.

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Speaker 5: They held the key to unlocking the mystery.

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Speaker 1: Brendan joins us on the line now with a very

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Speaker 1: exciting update for you guys.

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Speaker 2: Good morning, Good morning, Brendan.

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Speaker 3: Great to chat again, mate. We're fascinated to hear how

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Speaker 3: far you've come with the journey. What's the update?

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Speaker 2: Fellas? A couple of months ago, Ancestry got hold of

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Speaker 2: me and they said they've did a bit of research

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Speaker 2: and the name that I'd given them wasn't the name

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Speaker 2: that sort of came up, and they managed through the

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Speaker 2: DNA tracked down a first cousin of mine, and that

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Speaker 2: night I tracked it down on Ancestry and Center Center

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Speaker 2: Message and said, listen, I've got some news of it

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Speaker 2: at your family. Either your dad or one of your

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Speaker 2: uncles is my dad. And she she messages me back

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Speaker 2: in half an hour and she said, well, listen, I

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Speaker 2: don't think it's my dad, but I'm pretty sure I

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Speaker 2: know who it is, right wow. And she'd give me

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Speaker 2: the phone number of this blake and I sat on

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Speaker 2: it all night, and then next day I was on

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Speaker 2: my way to work, and it was about seven seven

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Speaker 2: point thirty in the morning, and offer my stuff him.

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Speaker 2: I'm going to ring him and get him up. And

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Speaker 2: I just came straight out of it. I said, listen,

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Speaker 2: I'm not going to I'm not going to beat around

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Speaker 2: the bushy. I said, I think you're my father.

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Speaker 4: Oh my gosh.

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Speaker 2: And I said, my mother's name is Mary Marie. You

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Speaker 2: were to matter into your knee and he said to me, listen,

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Speaker 2: it's a bit early in the morning.

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Speaker 3: Like father, like son.

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Speaker 4: It's fair enough.

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Speaker 2: Let me let me get back to you every end

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Speaker 2: of the day. And he rang me at the end

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Speaker 2: of that day. He rang me back and he said, listen,

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Speaker 2: I remember your mother.

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Speaker 4: Yep.

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Speaker 2: And he said, and I'll tell you one thing. It

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Speaker 2: wasn't a one night stand. He said he actually dated

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Speaker 2: for a while. And he said, I'm ninety nine point

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Speaker 2: nine percent sure on his dad.

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Speaker 4: Oh, your heart must have been racing, Brendan. It was,

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Speaker 4: And where it's Where was he Brendan in relation to

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Speaker 4: where you are?

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Speaker 2: So I'm in spring Wood. He's in down at Paul Kember,

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Speaker 2: not far and not far. So then we sort of

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Speaker 2: rang we're going to organize the mate up that weekend,

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Speaker 2: but it didn't happen. We met up the following weekend

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Speaker 2: and I met him at Morellan. I met him halfway

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Speaker 2: and he was already. He got there early the bugger.

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Speaker 2: I thought, I'll give you early and suss him out first,

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Speaker 2: and he did that to me, and soon I pulled

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Speaker 2: up and I was waiting, and I walked over to

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Speaker 4: So, Brenda, did you embrace had a hut?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, we had a We had a little bit of

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Speaker 2: a black cargo, and I think there was a bit.

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Speaker 2: You know, I knew where I was at with it,

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Speaker 2: but I wasn't sure where where Dad was at with it.

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Speaker 2: And you know, later we've been talking every day and

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Speaker 2: he said to me, look, I thought someone was ringing

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Speaker 4: Yeah, Fitz Brendan.

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Speaker 3: So when you looked at him, you obviously knew that

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Speaker 3: it was your dad. And then where did the conversation

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Speaker 3: go from there? Did you did you ask him why

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Speaker 3: he hadn't tried to make contact with Did he know

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Speaker 3: about you part of this? Did he suspect there was

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Speaker 3: something like that out there?

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Speaker 6: No?

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Speaker 2: Nos, So apparently mum. Mum had just taken off. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: mum left him and he never saw her of her again, right, so.

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Speaker 4: She realized she was pregnant, So he would have been

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Speaker 4: keen to stick around Brendan, Yeah.

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Speaker 2: He said, if I feed no one, he would have

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Speaker 2: still been been together.

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Speaker 4: Well, well, why don't we ask you dad that question,

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Speaker 4: because we've got Philip on the line now I feel you.

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Speaker 6: There, Yeah, I am.

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Speaker 3: Well, this is a phenomenal story. Thank you for sharing

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Speaker 3: it with Fitzing Whipper and the audience here in Sydney.

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Speaker 3: So how old are you, Philip?

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Speaker 6: Twenty one?

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Speaker 4: He's got Brendan's.

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Speaker 3: You had no idea that when your partner at the time,

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Speaker 3: or Brendan's mum left you, that Mary which that she

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Speaker 3: was pregnant.

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Speaker 4: Nah, So there was no question.

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Speaker 3: You never thought maybe I've got another kid out there.

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Speaker 3: That wasn't on your mind.

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Speaker 6: Like as he said, I didn't even know. It wasn't

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Speaker 6: one night stand. It put together for a while and

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Speaker 6: she just up and gone.

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Speaker 4: And so when you get this phone call, fill up

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Speaker 4: and I know that you needed a bit of time

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Speaker 4: to take a deep breath and give Brendan a call back.

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Speaker 4: In the afternoon, but what what was your emotion? What

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Speaker 4: was going through your mind?

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Speaker 6: I said, I thought someth wouldn't help me, you know,

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Speaker 6: And but we'll get in line, like, get in the line,

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Speaker 6: in the line.

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Speaker 4: Please tell me what when you saw Brendan, what was

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Speaker 4: the emotion and the feelings that you had going on

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Speaker 6: Well, we'll start, might I thought I'd better look them any.

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Speaker 3: Okay, okay, Brendan wouldn't agree.

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Speaker 4: But they always resort to humor, which is very good.

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Speaker 4: But you know, it was there.

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Speaker 6: It was a middle emotional and like it's you haven't

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Speaker 6: met any one, you know, the years comes in your life.

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Speaker 6: So how do you expect the person to feel?

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Speaker 3: You know, yeah, Brendan, it must feel special or two

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Speaker 3: just to be able to say Dad, Hey Dad, how

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Speaker 3: a h it does?

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Speaker 2: Because I look, I've had that word before, but I've

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Speaker 2: never had the meaning to it. Does that make sense?

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Speaker 3: Of course?

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Speaker 4: It does?

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Speaker 3: Very powerful word. It's a beautiful connection.

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Speaker 2: Mate, it is, and so I now of you know,

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Speaker 2: I'm saying that word and I've got that connection, and

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Speaker 2: you know, for me it's I think it really still

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Speaker 2: hasn't need a home as yet, because I didn't know

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Speaker 2: where where it was going. So we're on a sort

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Speaker 2: of and I think that's the same. There there's an

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Speaker 2: uncharted ground, but I knew straight away, and you know,

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Speaker 2: there was no no uncomfortable pauses in conversation. And you know,

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Speaker 2: even my kids Dad come down. I went down to

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Speaker 2: Wary Beach for holiday for a week and dad not

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Speaker 2: far from their dad come down and met the kids

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Speaker 2: at the walls and great, you know, he come down

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Speaker 2: and we were that good made. He came down twice,

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Speaker 2: not the first time. It was either we're well good

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Speaker 2: or I cooked a mean barbecue because he came back twice.

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Speaker 2: And the kids, my kids now have pop.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's fantastic, fantastic.

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Speaker 4: Is Mom still around, Brennan or is she gone?

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Speaker 2: Mom? She's gone, mate.

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Speaker 3: I never met her, and Philip just quickly you never

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Speaker 3: ever heard from her again?

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Speaker 6: Never.

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Speaker 4: Gosh, how is this fulfilled your life? Brendan? Like can

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Speaker 4: you tell us is this the last piece of the

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Speaker 4: puzzle for you?

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Speaker 6: Like?

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Speaker 4: How how has it made you feel?

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Speaker 2: It is the last piece of the puzzle. I feel.

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Speaker 7: Complete, I feel you know what to take the call

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Speaker 7: and Stuart and to give Brendan the time, because I

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Speaker 7: would dare say, there'd be a lot of parents out

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Speaker 7: there that haven't had contact with kids I haven't seen

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Speaker 7: for ages that just want to move on and not

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Speaker 7: worry about it.

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Speaker 4: So well, let's say true, true, that is so true,

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Speaker 4: Philip Brendan. Hey Brendan, thanks for sharing your story, buddy.

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Speaker 4: I know this was big to do and appreciate it.

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Speaker 2: Yea. Look, okay, thank you, Thank you so.

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Speaker 3: Much always, Brenda.

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Speaker 2: I love you Dad.

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Speaker 6: At by the end of the day, Well, the end

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Speaker 6: of the day, dude, it's mite.

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Speaker 2: I'll really know it.

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Speaker 6: I'll talk to you, okay, Tom, love you, love you Dad.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, that was magnificent. Boys, jeez, that was good Brendan.

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Speaker 4: I'm welling up myself far out if it's in