1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:00,720 Speaker 1: Hi, guys. 2 00:00:00,760 --> 00:00:03,960 Speaker 2: Before we get into today's episode, we are currently doing dilemmas. 3 00:00:04,120 --> 00:00:06,000 Speaker 2: One of the dilemmas that did it touch on an 4 00:00:06,000 --> 00:00:06,800 Speaker 2: eating disorder. 5 00:00:06,880 --> 00:00:07,480 Speaker 3: If this is. 6 00:00:07,480 --> 00:00:10,040 Speaker 2: Sensitive to you, please feel free to come back next 7 00:00:10,119 --> 00:00:12,160 Speaker 2: week or watch at a later time. 8 00:00:12,440 --> 00:00:13,000 Speaker 1: We love you. 9 00:00:13,800 --> 00:00:15,400 Speaker 3: I hear a knock at the door, and then I 10 00:00:15,440 --> 00:00:17,439 Speaker 3: hear it again, like three times. I'm like, oh, just 11 00:00:17,520 --> 00:00:21,919 Speaker 3: answer it. This boy has dropped all flowers to our house. 12 00:00:25,160 --> 00:00:26,480 Speaker 1: Good morning. 13 00:00:26,960 --> 00:00:29,320 Speaker 3: Oh hello, we might not make morning for that. 14 00:00:29,440 --> 00:00:30,240 Speaker 1: It might be afternoon. 15 00:00:30,320 --> 00:00:32,839 Speaker 3: It might be nice. It might be hello, their bedtime 16 00:00:32,880 --> 00:00:34,880 Speaker 3: story before they go to bed. Wouldn't that be nice? 17 00:00:34,920 --> 00:00:36,040 Speaker 3: Hope you have a nice sleep. 18 00:00:36,400 --> 00:00:37,479 Speaker 1: Hope you have a good sleep. 19 00:00:37,520 --> 00:00:38,560 Speaker 3: Do you want me to see your song? 20 00:00:38,720 --> 00:00:40,600 Speaker 1: No, bads of our voices? Imagine that. 21 00:00:40,640 --> 00:00:42,479 Speaker 2: I wonder if anyone's like listen to us going to 22 00:00:42,479 --> 00:00:44,120 Speaker 2: sleep and then like kind of dream about us. 23 00:00:44,640 --> 00:00:47,120 Speaker 3: Probably. I do get dms from guys saying I have 24 00:00:47,240 --> 00:00:48,360 Speaker 3: that I'm in their dream a lot. 25 00:00:48,440 --> 00:00:48,839 Speaker 1: I don't know. 26 00:00:49,000 --> 00:00:52,080 Speaker 3: I want to know what type of dream though. That's cute. 27 00:00:53,680 --> 00:00:55,520 Speaker 3: I want to be in everyone dreams. 28 00:00:55,800 --> 00:00:58,160 Speaker 2: So I'm currently sitting across from a twenty two year 29 00:00:58,200 --> 00:00:58,800 Speaker 2: old woman. 30 00:00:59,240 --> 00:01:02,560 Speaker 3: Yeah, it was my birthday. It will be a few 31 00:01:02,560 --> 00:01:05,000 Speaker 3: weeks when you're listening to this post recording it because 32 00:01:05,000 --> 00:01:07,320 Speaker 3: Easy was in surgery and I'm a fashion week so 33 00:01:07,480 --> 00:01:09,399 Speaker 3: there's like a big break of recording. 34 00:01:09,640 --> 00:01:12,200 Speaker 1: We miss each other when this is coming out. Yeah, 35 00:01:12,240 --> 00:01:13,319 Speaker 1: that's what I have to say. 36 00:01:13,440 --> 00:01:15,640 Speaker 3: I'm gonna get off the plane and I'm gonna come 37 00:01:15,720 --> 00:01:17,000 Speaker 3: visit you on this Saturday. 38 00:01:17,240 --> 00:01:18,800 Speaker 1: Would could you bring me food? 39 00:01:18,920 --> 00:01:19,160 Speaker 3: Yeah? 40 00:01:19,200 --> 00:01:21,120 Speaker 1: Of course, thank you. 41 00:01:21,480 --> 00:01:24,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, that's the only probably's going to be honest to 42 00:01:24,800 --> 00:01:26,600 Speaker 2: go it over me. So I'm saying at my mum's 43 00:01:26,640 --> 00:01:30,680 Speaker 2: house for the two weeks to recover, because they've kind 44 00:01:30,680 --> 00:01:32,600 Speaker 2: of told me, like not to move my arms, just 45 00:01:32,640 --> 00:01:35,200 Speaker 2: to be like bretend you don't have arms, is what 46 00:01:35,200 --> 00:01:37,520 Speaker 2: they've said. I'm like, Mom, can we get a belt? 47 00:01:39,080 --> 00:01:41,120 Speaker 2: Can I ring it down? The end of the whole way, 48 00:01:41,360 --> 00:01:43,039 Speaker 2: She's over it. She hasn't lived with me now for 49 00:01:43,240 --> 00:01:46,560 Speaker 2: probably a year. Yeah, and me come in crashing and 50 00:01:46,560 --> 00:01:49,400 Speaker 2: burning back into their lives, and I'm sure she's dreading it. 51 00:01:49,720 --> 00:01:52,400 Speaker 2: I'm also going to be living with my mum's boyfriend's 52 00:01:52,440 --> 00:01:53,040 Speaker 2: four kids. 53 00:01:53,680 --> 00:01:54,520 Speaker 3: Yeah, good luck with that. 54 00:01:54,760 --> 00:01:56,480 Speaker 1: Yeah, so that'll be interesting. 55 00:01:56,880 --> 00:01:59,240 Speaker 3: They're lovely kids. Cue they're really cute. 56 00:01:59,280 --> 00:02:02,040 Speaker 2: I don't say I'll probably be in the best mood, 57 00:02:02,320 --> 00:02:03,960 Speaker 2: but in regards to everything that's been. 58 00:02:03,840 --> 00:02:06,160 Speaker 1: Going on in the surgery world. 59 00:02:05,800 --> 00:02:07,760 Speaker 2: Because I feel like it is a very interesting topic 60 00:02:07,840 --> 00:02:10,000 Speaker 2: for a lot of people. Yeah, just sat down to 61 00:02:10,080 --> 00:02:11,400 Speaker 2: my click tlock. 62 00:02:11,760 --> 00:02:13,720 Speaker 3: Yeah, it will be out by now, it will be 63 00:02:13,800 --> 00:02:16,600 Speaker 3: up by now a little. In case it's not, we'll 64 00:02:16,639 --> 00:02:18,440 Speaker 3: just like not say what it is, but we'll do 65 00:02:18,480 --> 00:02:21,040 Speaker 3: a whole episode on what you've done. 66 00:02:21,600 --> 00:02:24,400 Speaker 2: When I've done, how it all went, what the recovery was, 67 00:02:24,400 --> 00:02:28,200 Speaker 2: so staging for that. But Sam, Yeah, what happens on 68 00:02:28,240 --> 00:02:28,960 Speaker 2: your birthday? 69 00:02:29,200 --> 00:02:31,960 Speaker 3: Well, it's probably been a few weeks since my birthday, 70 00:02:32,040 --> 00:02:35,280 Speaker 3: but it was a lovely day. Surprisingly. I don't know 71 00:02:35,280 --> 00:02:37,800 Speaker 3: if you guys know, but I actually hate my birthday. 72 00:02:38,080 --> 00:02:40,600 Speaker 3: There's a lot of personal reasons behind why I hate 73 00:02:40,600 --> 00:02:43,480 Speaker 3: my birthday, but like family issues that are probably not 74 00:02:43,760 --> 00:02:47,079 Speaker 3: podcast appropriate to protect my family, but I just take 75 00:02:47,120 --> 00:02:49,800 Speaker 3: my birthday. I feel like I always get disappointed and 76 00:02:49,840 --> 00:02:51,640 Speaker 3: everything like that, so I always go in with super 77 00:02:51,639 --> 00:02:54,600 Speaker 3: low expectations and I almost like don't want to do anything. 78 00:02:54,720 --> 00:02:57,960 Speaker 3: So then if something happens, it's a really nice like, Oh, 79 00:02:58,120 --> 00:03:01,920 Speaker 3: but we had a meeting for the podcast with a 80 00:03:01,960 --> 00:03:03,920 Speaker 3: few of our managers and everything like that, and they 81 00:03:03,960 --> 00:03:06,400 Speaker 3: surprised me with cake. All of them hame a happy birthday. 82 00:03:06,440 --> 00:03:09,000 Speaker 3: It was really nice. I also got a parking ticket, 83 00:03:09,040 --> 00:03:12,519 Speaker 3: which like again classic me, always getting a parking ticket 84 00:03:12,760 --> 00:03:17,000 Speaker 3: another day in the in my life. Yeah, fucking government 85 00:03:17,040 --> 00:03:20,760 Speaker 3: taking my money. But anyway, and then when I got home, 86 00:03:20,880 --> 00:03:23,760 Speaker 3: I was filming a video because Claudia needed something from me, 87 00:03:24,200 --> 00:03:26,239 Speaker 3: and I hear a knock at the door and I'm 88 00:03:26,280 --> 00:03:29,280 Speaker 3: like what. I was like, it's a postman, Like you 89 00:03:29,320 --> 00:03:31,000 Speaker 3: can just drop out of the door like I'm filming, 90 00:03:31,080 --> 00:03:33,600 Speaker 3: like and then I hear it again like three times. 91 00:03:33,680 --> 00:03:37,200 Speaker 3: I'm like, oh, just answer it. This boy has dropped 92 00:03:37,240 --> 00:03:41,160 Speaker 3: old flowers to my house. He had like word of 93 00:03:41,160 --> 00:03:42,760 Speaker 3: mouth as to where I live. It was like friends 94 00:03:42,760 --> 00:03:44,880 Speaker 3: of friends, like he knew people, and he like hand 95 00:03:44,960 --> 00:03:48,080 Speaker 3: dropped a flowers and notes to my house. And then 96 00:03:48,120 --> 00:03:51,080 Speaker 3: this other guy that I'm speaking to also dropped flowers 97 00:03:51,120 --> 00:03:53,200 Speaker 3: to my house. So I got two bunches of flowers 98 00:03:53,360 --> 00:03:56,280 Speaker 3: from two different guys on my birthday when I have 99 00:03:56,480 --> 00:04:00,560 Speaker 3: never received flowers from a boy unless I were a oologizing. 100 00:04:00,760 --> 00:04:02,480 Speaker 3: That's why I have like a bit of a negative 101 00:04:02,520 --> 00:04:05,000 Speaker 3: connotation with flowers because every time I've received flowers and 102 00:04:06,240 --> 00:04:07,840 Speaker 3: done something wrong and they try to make up for it. 103 00:04:07,920 --> 00:04:09,960 Speaker 3: But these people did it out of the kindness of 104 00:04:09,960 --> 00:04:11,960 Speaker 3: their hearts. They didn't let me know what they were doing. 105 00:04:11,960 --> 00:04:13,000 Speaker 3: They dropped flowers. 106 00:04:13,120 --> 00:04:18,000 Speaker 1: It's so like ballsy and sweet and it's like yeah. 107 00:04:18,000 --> 00:04:20,880 Speaker 2: You know what, confidence and like just fuck it, Like 108 00:04:20,960 --> 00:04:23,279 Speaker 2: who's I feel like some boys would be like after 109 00:04:23,560 --> 00:04:25,560 Speaker 2: one date or something, would be nervous to show how 110 00:04:25,640 --> 00:04:28,200 Speaker 2: much they care and like give you. They might be 111 00:04:28,240 --> 00:04:31,600 Speaker 2: too s No, it's not how sweet. 112 00:04:31,839 --> 00:04:33,800 Speaker 3: Like I had met one of the guys who sent 113 00:04:33,800 --> 00:04:36,159 Speaker 3: me flowers, I had met him only once and it 114 00:04:36,200 --> 00:04:37,280 Speaker 3: was it was a guy that I went on the 115 00:04:37,360 --> 00:04:40,360 Speaker 3: hinge day with guys. He sent me flowers to my house. 116 00:04:40,360 --> 00:04:42,760 Speaker 3: Oh I love that my birthday. I was like called 117 00:04:42,800 --> 00:04:44,640 Speaker 3: easy straight away. I was like, oh my god, oh 118 00:04:45,120 --> 00:04:47,279 Speaker 3: it was so cute. But yeah, now my house is 119 00:04:47,279 --> 00:04:48,640 Speaker 3: like a full florist. 120 00:04:48,560 --> 00:04:50,480 Speaker 1: My flowers in there. I gave it a flowers. 121 00:04:50,600 --> 00:04:53,360 Speaker 3: This is just your reminder. If they wanted to, they 122 00:04:53,520 --> 00:04:55,600 Speaker 3: completely would. I was talking to my brother that night 123 00:04:55,640 --> 00:04:58,159 Speaker 3: and he's in a new relationship with this girl and 124 00:04:58,200 --> 00:05:00,480 Speaker 3: he was like, I thought I knew what was when 125 00:05:00,520 --> 00:05:02,919 Speaker 3: I was with my past girlfriend, and he was like, 126 00:05:02,960 --> 00:05:04,960 Speaker 3: but there's nothing that I will never want to do 127 00:05:05,080 --> 00:05:07,039 Speaker 3: for my new girlfriend in my life. He was like, 128 00:05:07,120 --> 00:05:09,000 Speaker 3: I just look at her and I want to spoil her. 129 00:05:09,040 --> 00:05:11,640 Speaker 3: I want to love her. Was like, nothing ever seems 130 00:05:11,680 --> 00:05:14,320 Speaker 3: too much, No complaint ever seems too much, Like nothing 131 00:05:14,400 --> 00:05:16,520 Speaker 3: is too much with her. He was like, I literally 132 00:05:16,560 --> 00:05:19,839 Speaker 3: am infatuated by her. She could literally do anything. And 133 00:05:19,880 --> 00:05:22,279 Speaker 3: he's like, I'm obsessed with her and like speaking my 134 00:05:22,520 --> 00:05:24,960 Speaker 3: speaking to my brother about that, like as a single 135 00:05:25,000 --> 00:05:28,440 Speaker 3: girl and I see guys. Yeah, and he was like, literally, 136 00:05:28,640 --> 00:05:30,279 Speaker 3: I always think of her, like what I can do 137 00:05:30,360 --> 00:05:32,680 Speaker 3: to make her day easier, her day life better, Like 138 00:05:32,839 --> 00:05:36,400 Speaker 3: she's a princess to me. And I was because my 139 00:05:36,400 --> 00:05:39,040 Speaker 3: brothers are very much like Sam, like you deserve the world. 140 00:05:39,120 --> 00:05:41,279 Speaker 3: Like but I'm like, you're my brother, and he's like, no, 141 00:05:41,440 --> 00:05:43,520 Speaker 3: Like I am seeing this girl and I want to 142 00:05:43,560 --> 00:05:45,240 Speaker 3: do absolutely everything for. 143 00:05:45,240 --> 00:05:46,440 Speaker 1: That's really nice to hear that. 144 00:05:46,480 --> 00:05:48,360 Speaker 2: See, that's not I don't think i've ever like I'm 145 00:05:48,360 --> 00:05:50,080 Speaker 2: sure there's a lot of guys out there that feel 146 00:05:50,080 --> 00:05:52,479 Speaker 2: like that, but like I've never really heard. Yeah, it's 147 00:05:52,640 --> 00:05:54,480 Speaker 2: laid out like that, and it's so nice to hear 148 00:05:54,520 --> 00:05:55,880 Speaker 2: that people do think that way. 149 00:05:56,120 --> 00:05:58,680 Speaker 3: Yeah. Another thing I saw on TikTok this is I'm 150 00:05:58,720 --> 00:06:00,640 Speaker 3: going off in a bit of attention, but I'm just 151 00:06:00,680 --> 00:06:03,960 Speaker 3: like in this like a state of mind. Recently I 152 00:06:04,000 --> 00:06:06,440 Speaker 3: saw this girl and she does fifty first dates and 153 00:06:06,480 --> 00:06:09,760 Speaker 3: she lives in the UK. Love. Yeah, I love her. 154 00:06:09,800 --> 00:06:12,000 Speaker 3: She's Australian but she lives in the UK and she 155 00:06:12,080 --> 00:06:14,159 Speaker 3: kind of like talks about her dates and gives a 156 00:06:14,160 --> 00:06:16,000 Speaker 3: recap to the date. She goes to the bathroom when 157 00:06:16,000 --> 00:06:18,280 Speaker 3: she's in the dates and like talks about it. And 158 00:06:18,360 --> 00:06:20,400 Speaker 3: she came home from she was like this, I think 159 00:06:20,440 --> 00:06:22,520 Speaker 3: it was date number thirty eight. I was watching it. Yeah, 160 00:06:22,520 --> 00:06:25,440 Speaker 3: I watched it, Yes, And she was like I always 161 00:06:25,480 --> 00:06:27,560 Speaker 3: thought I was going to find my true love, fairy tale, 162 00:06:27,640 --> 00:06:30,159 Speaker 3: someone who would treat me right, But like the little 163 00:06:30,160 --> 00:06:32,279 Speaker 3: things this guy did, Like he held the door open 164 00:06:32,320 --> 00:06:34,760 Speaker 3: for me, he held my jacket and like so I 165 00:06:34,760 --> 00:06:36,400 Speaker 3: could put my arms in my jacket. 166 00:06:36,120 --> 00:06:37,000 Speaker 1: When we were leaving. 167 00:06:37,040 --> 00:06:39,679 Speaker 3: And she was like, that is such a gentleman action. 168 00:06:39,839 --> 00:06:41,880 Speaker 3: But she was like I was so taken back by 169 00:06:42,000 --> 00:06:45,919 Speaker 3: like a small kind gesture. So subconsciously, I probably didn't 170 00:06:45,920 --> 00:06:50,160 Speaker 3: think that I was deserving of these action little kids, yeah, 171 00:06:50,520 --> 00:06:53,640 Speaker 3: just mean everything. Yeah, Like and if you're a boy 172 00:06:53,720 --> 00:06:56,040 Speaker 3: listening to this, like those little things never come off 173 00:06:56,040 --> 00:06:58,680 Speaker 3: that you're too keen that anything like that, Like they're 174 00:06:58,720 --> 00:07:02,320 Speaker 3: little kind gestures. These girls, that's what they tell their 175 00:07:02,360 --> 00:07:04,640 Speaker 3: friends about. Like little things like that is what we 176 00:07:04,720 --> 00:07:06,520 Speaker 3: run to our friends and be like he did this? 177 00:07:06,640 --> 00:07:09,000 Speaker 3: Do you know what I mean? Like you actually do 178 00:07:09,120 --> 00:07:12,040 Speaker 3: deserve those things, and none, none of those little actions 179 00:07:12,040 --> 00:07:13,480 Speaker 3: are too much to ask for. 180 00:07:16,960 --> 00:07:18,880 Speaker 2: Her jacket when she came back from the bathroom so 181 00:07:18,920 --> 00:07:21,520 Speaker 2: she could like slip her arms into it. Like that's 182 00:07:21,520 --> 00:07:23,880 Speaker 2: something so small that that girl is going to think 183 00:07:23,920 --> 00:07:24,600 Speaker 2: about for weeks. 184 00:07:24,720 --> 00:07:26,680 Speaker 3: Yeah, but like you don't ever think that you're like 185 00:07:26,760 --> 00:07:29,800 Speaker 3: deserving of that, which is just so like it's interesting, 186 00:07:29,840 --> 00:07:32,000 Speaker 3: like I don't ever think like, oh yeah, or when 187 00:07:32,000 --> 00:07:34,360 Speaker 3: they offer to do something for me, I'm like, nah, 188 00:07:34,400 --> 00:07:34,880 Speaker 3: it's fine. 189 00:07:34,920 --> 00:07:37,960 Speaker 2: I think guys like to feel like they're also doing 190 00:07:38,000 --> 00:07:39,679 Speaker 2: that for you and like trying to make you feel 191 00:07:39,680 --> 00:07:41,600 Speaker 2: like a princess, Like that's what guys get out of 192 00:07:41,600 --> 00:07:45,880 Speaker 2: it as well, Like yeah, oh it's like good on her, 193 00:07:46,200 --> 00:07:49,040 Speaker 2: good her I felt, So I'm like not fell in 194 00:07:49,040 --> 00:07:52,120 Speaker 2: love it she really liked someone around maybe date twenty six, 195 00:07:52,200 --> 00:07:55,120 Speaker 2: twenty six. Yeah, it was brutal. I think for everyone 196 00:07:55,120 --> 00:07:58,720 Speaker 2: that watches her, it was so sad. Yeah, she got heartbroken, 197 00:07:58,800 --> 00:08:01,680 Speaker 2: but I'm glad she's found Look, no, because then. 198 00:08:01,600 --> 00:08:04,880 Speaker 3: I saw her TikTok this morning. She her uk Be's 199 00:08:05,000 --> 00:08:06,960 Speaker 3: is up, so she has to come back home to Australia, 200 00:08:07,000 --> 00:08:08,560 Speaker 3: so she's never going to see him again. If it's 201 00:08:08,560 --> 00:08:11,040 Speaker 3: meant to be, it'll be. But I'm like, oh are 202 00:08:11,040 --> 00:08:13,680 Speaker 3: you kidding. If it's meant to be, it's meant to be, 203 00:08:13,720 --> 00:08:16,440 Speaker 3: it will be. But if not again, it showed her 204 00:08:16,520 --> 00:08:17,960 Speaker 3: that she's deserving of that. 205 00:08:17,960 --> 00:08:21,240 Speaker 2: And everyone's deserving of that. Love boys as well. 206 00:08:21,200 --> 00:08:24,119 Speaker 3: Yeah, boys as well. But like boys, if you treat 207 00:08:24,120 --> 00:08:27,760 Speaker 3: a girl with respect, they'll do it back. Like love 208 00:08:27,840 --> 00:08:30,280 Speaker 3: is so kind. So love is just great. I love love. 209 00:08:30,480 --> 00:08:31,320 Speaker 1: I love love. 210 00:08:31,520 --> 00:08:34,320 Speaker 3: Yeah, but that's just what I wanted to tell you, guys, 211 00:08:34,360 --> 00:08:37,719 Speaker 3: that you are deserving him and everything more. And there 212 00:08:37,800 --> 00:08:40,280 Speaker 3: will be boys out there that will do nice things 213 00:08:40,280 --> 00:08:41,560 Speaker 3: that you don't have to go back to your fucking 214 00:08:41,640 --> 00:08:51,000 Speaker 3: cheating eggs, the cheating ex. Yeah, I'd out there were 215 00:08:51,240 --> 00:08:52,160 Speaker 3: a nice out there. 216 00:08:52,320 --> 00:08:53,080 Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly. 217 00:08:53,280 --> 00:08:56,120 Speaker 3: Gentlemen like, yeah, all right, do you have a recommendation 218 00:08:56,200 --> 00:08:56,640 Speaker 3: for the girl? 219 00:08:56,640 --> 00:09:00,160 Speaker 2: I do, so my recommendation is thanks to you, the 220 00:09:00,320 --> 00:09:03,880 Speaker 2: Pooh He Got to Be glued hair gel. Yes, honestly, 221 00:09:04,320 --> 00:09:06,040 Speaker 2: I put a fucked ton of it in my hair 222 00:09:06,040 --> 00:09:09,040 Speaker 2: for Coachella on the front pieces. I actually really really 223 00:09:09,080 --> 00:09:10,040 Speaker 2: struggled to get it. 224 00:09:09,960 --> 00:09:10,720 Speaker 1: Out of my hair. 225 00:09:10,800 --> 00:09:12,840 Speaker 2: That's like one thing that I'd say is bad, but 226 00:09:13,400 --> 00:09:16,080 Speaker 2: that isn't. Shit is not moving because sometimes when I 227 00:09:16,160 --> 00:09:18,880 Speaker 2: use the way per maade pomad, every time I say it, 228 00:09:18,880 --> 00:09:19,720 Speaker 2: you guys, tell me I'm. 229 00:09:19,559 --> 00:09:21,480 Speaker 3: Saying pomade, per maade pomade. 230 00:09:21,559 --> 00:09:25,080 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's still the little side flicky baby hairs flick 231 00:09:25,200 --> 00:09:27,120 Speaker 2: out again, you know, but then they're all straight because 232 00:09:27,120 --> 00:09:30,200 Speaker 2: they're covered in gel. This stuff is like, it is 233 00:09:30,200 --> 00:09:33,040 Speaker 2: not going anywhere. I would recommend it's cheap. I just 234 00:09:33,040 --> 00:09:34,800 Speaker 2: got a lot all you can get. 235 00:09:34,640 --> 00:09:35,400 Speaker 3: A chemist square house. 236 00:09:35,480 --> 00:09:36,640 Speaker 1: Yeah, I think it's really cheap. 237 00:09:36,679 --> 00:09:39,080 Speaker 2: It's a big tube and at last it's great, So 238 00:09:39,880 --> 00:09:41,400 Speaker 2: I would recommend that get on that. 239 00:09:41,760 --> 00:09:44,800 Speaker 3: Yeah, my recommendation. It's a little bit of more of 240 00:09:44,840 --> 00:09:48,360 Speaker 3: an expensive one. But I am kind of on the 241 00:09:48,440 --> 00:09:51,080 Speaker 3: train of like sneakers are out with jeans at the moment, 242 00:09:51,120 --> 00:09:54,320 Speaker 3: like I do love a sample moment, but like little 243 00:09:54,440 --> 00:09:56,880 Speaker 3: I was a hater of ballet flats and I was 244 00:09:56,920 --> 00:09:59,840 Speaker 3: like a hater. I'm a hater of ballet flats. But okay, 245 00:09:59,880 --> 00:10:02,559 Speaker 3: So I saw Jackie Alexander style the shoes that I'm 246 00:10:02,559 --> 00:10:05,400 Speaker 3: wearing around now with blue jeans, and they look so cute. 247 00:10:05,440 --> 00:10:07,880 Speaker 3: They're like little leopard print them. Might they look ugly 248 00:10:07,880 --> 00:10:11,040 Speaker 3: now because my jeans are pulled up, but like with 249 00:10:11,320 --> 00:10:16,040 Speaker 3: long jeans is so cute. They're so cute because I 250 00:10:16,200 --> 00:10:18,319 Speaker 3: just like little Poker at the end of the jeans. 251 00:10:18,559 --> 00:10:20,960 Speaker 3: I just Tony Bianco have some really nice styles at 252 00:10:20,960 --> 00:10:23,960 Speaker 3: the moment. They have like little chunky little shoes and 253 00:10:24,000 --> 00:10:26,280 Speaker 3: everything like that. The loafers there at the moment. I 254 00:10:26,320 --> 00:10:29,160 Speaker 3: picked up another pair from Tony Bianco yesterday. I just think, 255 00:10:29,240 --> 00:10:32,120 Speaker 3: invest in a winter pair of shoes that aren't sneakers, 256 00:10:32,120 --> 00:10:34,360 Speaker 3: that you can wear every day with jeans to elevate 257 00:10:34,400 --> 00:10:36,920 Speaker 3: your outfit. I'm in the winter fashion grind at the moment. 258 00:10:37,000 --> 00:10:38,960 Speaker 3: That's all I'm doing on my phone is shopping, which 259 00:10:39,000 --> 00:10:41,959 Speaker 3: is bad. But just invest in like a pair of loafers, 260 00:10:42,000 --> 00:10:43,600 Speaker 3: a little pair of ballet flats, so you can mix 261 00:10:43,640 --> 00:10:45,440 Speaker 3: it up from your samples, because I think it just 262 00:10:45,480 --> 00:10:47,080 Speaker 3: heightens you and elevates. 263 00:10:46,640 --> 00:10:48,160 Speaker 1: Your fair enough look. 264 00:10:48,440 --> 00:10:51,160 Speaker 3: I do not like malet flats, but I don't I 265 00:10:51,280 --> 00:10:53,360 Speaker 3: like the way that you're wearing them today. 266 00:10:53,400 --> 00:10:54,000 Speaker 1: I like them. 267 00:10:54,480 --> 00:10:57,000 Speaker 2: I would never wear them because of my legs. We've 268 00:10:57,040 --> 00:11:00,280 Speaker 2: discussed this. It looks like judge shoes on me. Something 269 00:11:00,800 --> 00:11:03,600 Speaker 2: you can't see that in the jeans, would never tell. 270 00:11:03,800 --> 00:11:05,600 Speaker 2: It's a mental state. People will look at me and go, 271 00:11:05,720 --> 00:11:06,800 Speaker 2: she's got big cars and. 272 00:11:06,760 --> 00:11:09,719 Speaker 1: She don't wear does that? No one? 273 00:11:09,840 --> 00:11:12,440 Speaker 2: You can tell if someone has skinny legs, even if 274 00:11:12,440 --> 00:11:13,079 Speaker 2: they're wearing it. 275 00:11:15,440 --> 00:11:17,120 Speaker 3: I have never looked at someone and done that in 276 00:11:17,160 --> 00:11:17,720 Speaker 3: my life. 277 00:11:18,559 --> 00:11:22,400 Speaker 2: I've got my chunky new slides, which I've been rocking 278 00:11:22,480 --> 00:11:24,280 Speaker 2: in winter because they pick on my pants up off 279 00:11:24,320 --> 00:11:26,280 Speaker 2: the ground except my twootsies are out. 280 00:11:26,520 --> 00:11:28,480 Speaker 3: I would wear socks with them, like I wear socks 281 00:11:28,520 --> 00:11:30,800 Speaker 3: with sandals all the time. I don't give a fuck. Yeah, 282 00:11:30,880 --> 00:11:33,920 Speaker 3: like the als may like platform ones, they like sandaly. 283 00:11:34,320 --> 00:11:36,560 Speaker 3: Notice I wear socks with them because I'm like, it 284 00:11:36,600 --> 00:11:39,120 Speaker 3: actually doesn't look half bad and it makes me three 285 00:11:39,120 --> 00:11:42,920 Speaker 3: inchesn't even cold. They're just out, you know, But tell 286 00:11:43,000 --> 00:11:44,400 Speaker 3: your toes. Your dog shouldn't be out. 287 00:11:44,600 --> 00:11:47,560 Speaker 1: Your dog shouldn't be out. It's weird. It's like it's 288 00:11:47,679 --> 00:11:49,680 Speaker 1: you know, why have you got your toes? 289 00:11:49,800 --> 00:11:52,559 Speaker 3: Yeah, like your little, poor fucking feet. Some gloves on them, 290 00:11:52,920 --> 00:11:53,400 Speaker 3: some like. 291 00:11:53,600 --> 00:11:54,520 Speaker 1: Black socks white. 292 00:11:55,240 --> 00:11:57,560 Speaker 3: Yeah, anyway, I think I like the white kind of 293 00:11:57,600 --> 00:12:00,559 Speaker 3: pokes out of the shoes. I'll give it a crap. Yeah, 294 00:12:00,720 --> 00:12:03,040 Speaker 3: ballet flats. Won't be venturing into that. But watch me 295 00:12:03,080 --> 00:12:04,560 Speaker 3: by my watch word. 296 00:12:04,760 --> 00:12:05,400 Speaker 1: I will. 297 00:12:05,559 --> 00:12:07,360 Speaker 3: I have said I would never wear ballet flats and 298 00:12:07,360 --> 00:12:08,000 Speaker 3: look at me today. 299 00:12:08,120 --> 00:12:09,720 Speaker 1: No, I'm pretty solid on it. 300 00:12:09,960 --> 00:12:10,240 Speaker 3: Yeah. 301 00:12:10,320 --> 00:12:12,559 Speaker 2: I don't mind ballet core like the Cardi's and the 302 00:12:12,600 --> 00:12:15,040 Speaker 2: wraps and stuff. I just ballet. I think I know 303 00:12:15,080 --> 00:12:17,360 Speaker 2: that they don't suit me. Like sambas. Yeah, I've got 304 00:12:17,400 --> 00:12:17,800 Speaker 2: one pair. 305 00:12:17,880 --> 00:12:20,520 Speaker 1: I like them. I don't really wear them because they. 306 00:12:20,440 --> 00:12:22,959 Speaker 3: Just It's like me with dad shoes. I don't wear 307 00:12:23,040 --> 00:12:26,360 Speaker 3: dad shoes. Yeah, like a shoe. Yeah, all right, it's 308 00:12:26,440 --> 00:12:37,599 Speaker 3: time for question This one that makes me created the 309 00:12:37,679 --> 00:12:39,079 Speaker 3: low key every time. It makes me. 310 00:12:39,040 --> 00:12:40,240 Speaker 1: Cringe every single time. 311 00:12:40,280 --> 00:12:42,440 Speaker 2: The worst time is when there's a guest sitting next 312 00:12:42,480 --> 00:12:44,160 Speaker 2: to us and we're like, I. 313 00:12:44,080 --> 00:12:46,680 Speaker 3: Think morning doing questionion of the Week. 314 00:12:46,840 --> 00:12:49,480 Speaker 2: But I guess I think we both we can't not 315 00:12:49,880 --> 00:12:51,880 Speaker 2: say that. No, I think it would be we need 316 00:12:51,920 --> 00:12:54,240 Speaker 2: to stick to our roots. Yeah, so this is a 317 00:12:54,280 --> 00:12:57,520 Speaker 2: little bit of a it's a bit of more undo one. 318 00:12:57,559 --> 00:13:01,120 Speaker 2: If you had a third ear, yeap, where on your 319 00:13:01,160 --> 00:13:02,160 Speaker 2: body would you put it? 320 00:13:03,280 --> 00:13:05,920 Speaker 3: I don't fucking know. Again, I probably wouldn't put it 321 00:13:06,000 --> 00:13:07,240 Speaker 3: in my ass because I don't want to hear my 322 00:13:07,600 --> 00:13:08,200 Speaker 3: self farting. 323 00:13:08,440 --> 00:13:11,199 Speaker 1: No, No, I didn't think about it. 324 00:13:11,200 --> 00:13:13,640 Speaker 2: In the sense of it can hear things. It's just 325 00:13:13,679 --> 00:13:15,760 Speaker 2: it looks like an ear and it's on your body. 326 00:13:16,000 --> 00:13:16,719 Speaker 1: Fox, are we here. 327 00:13:16,880 --> 00:13:18,840 Speaker 3: I would probably put it at the back of my head, 328 00:13:18,920 --> 00:13:21,000 Speaker 3: just in case, so there's a whole perimeter. But if 329 00:13:21,000 --> 00:13:22,880 Speaker 3: I needed to hide it with my hair, I could. 330 00:13:24,440 --> 00:13:26,240 Speaker 3: But if I wanted to listen up, I could part 331 00:13:26,320 --> 00:13:29,400 Speaker 3: it just thinking the conversation. If I'm sitting on a 332 00:13:29,400 --> 00:13:31,760 Speaker 3: bus and here the bus behind you. 333 00:13:31,640 --> 00:13:33,760 Speaker 2: And you're walking down the street and the wind's coming 334 00:13:33,800 --> 00:13:37,280 Speaker 2: from the back and it's blowing your hair parted sideways 335 00:13:37,320 --> 00:13:40,000 Speaker 2: and there's just an ear that see it being around 336 00:13:40,040 --> 00:13:41,680 Speaker 2: hair freaks me out. I need it to be on 337 00:13:41,760 --> 00:13:45,480 Speaker 2: clean skin, I reckon. I'm rocking on my tri set 338 00:13:45,800 --> 00:13:46,720 Speaker 2: like under my. 339 00:13:46,640 --> 00:13:49,760 Speaker 3: Eye chafing on That would be a bit annoying though. Yeah, 340 00:13:49,800 --> 00:13:52,120 Speaker 3: but like I imagine if you're doing a bicet press 341 00:13:52,200 --> 00:13:54,880 Speaker 3: up in your fucking ears, just. 342 00:13:54,840 --> 00:13:55,679 Speaker 1: Sitting on your ear. 343 00:13:55,840 --> 00:13:57,640 Speaker 2: If everyone in the world has a third ear, No, 344 00:13:57,679 --> 00:13:59,920 Speaker 2: they don't. It's just us, isn't it. Yes, okay, I 345 00:14:00,200 --> 00:14:01,760 Speaker 2: just wouldn't rock bicep curls. 346 00:14:02,200 --> 00:14:04,360 Speaker 3: What if you're grabbing something from the cover of. 347 00:14:04,480 --> 00:14:07,120 Speaker 2: Long sleeve tops. I don't want to poking out the 348 00:14:07,160 --> 00:14:08,160 Speaker 2: back of my hair. 349 00:14:08,320 --> 00:14:11,080 Speaker 3: I can always just wear a slip and you've got 350 00:14:11,120 --> 00:14:12,960 Speaker 3: an ear rocking in the back of Just won't fuck 351 00:14:13,000 --> 00:14:20,040 Speaker 3: me from behind? They go, fucking problem solved, brother, every No, 352 00:14:20,240 --> 00:14:22,960 Speaker 3: I just I don't pose from behind like you do. 353 00:14:23,680 --> 00:14:26,360 Speaker 1: Maybe I don't like my face as much as you do. 354 00:14:26,480 --> 00:14:28,280 Speaker 3: I don't like my face. I body dis war for 355 00:14:28,320 --> 00:14:31,280 Speaker 3: your baby anyway, So I let me change. 356 00:14:31,400 --> 00:14:33,920 Speaker 2: I don't think I want it on my arm, because yes, 357 00:14:34,480 --> 00:14:36,880 Speaker 2: reaching for things, which happens everyone. 358 00:14:36,680 --> 00:14:40,680 Speaker 3: And you you talk with your arms so conscious with it. 359 00:14:42,160 --> 00:14:45,640 Speaker 3: Maybe on the inner thigh, No, on the inner I know, 360 00:14:45,480 --> 00:14:49,160 Speaker 3: I know God on the inner of my foot, on 361 00:14:49,240 --> 00:14:52,200 Speaker 3: the inside, on the arch like and then you can't 362 00:14:52,200 --> 00:14:53,920 Speaker 3: wear shoes because it's just like bulking, like. 363 00:14:53,880 --> 00:14:57,480 Speaker 2: A little flap, larger size, larger pair. Put a sock on. 364 00:14:57,720 --> 00:14:59,960 Speaker 2: It'll be fine. It will get it'll get some color 365 00:15:00,160 --> 00:15:01,720 Speaker 2: is on it, and it'll get used to the blisters. 366 00:15:01,800 --> 00:15:04,040 Speaker 3: I'm sticking with the back of my hair. Okay, mine's 367 00:15:04,120 --> 00:15:06,280 Speaker 3: the arch. I wear my hair up all the time anyway, 368 00:15:06,400 --> 00:15:09,920 Speaker 3: So yeah, imagine going to the hair. Just sorry, I 369 00:15:09,960 --> 00:15:12,840 Speaker 3: think it just had to be in the back of 370 00:15:12,880 --> 00:15:15,080 Speaker 3: my hair. It gets a be clogged in the Your 371 00:15:15,160 --> 00:15:17,480 Speaker 3: wash hair dryer is too loud for it, so I 372 00:15:17,560 --> 00:15:19,480 Speaker 3: just have to I just put a I just put 373 00:15:19,480 --> 00:15:21,480 Speaker 3: a plug in the noise. 374 00:15:21,560 --> 00:15:23,760 Speaker 1: Fair enough. Well, that's that's our take. 375 00:15:24,080 --> 00:15:26,320 Speaker 3: Yeah, where would you guys do it? We'll put a 376 00:15:26,360 --> 00:15:27,920 Speaker 3: question box on the on the. 377 00:15:28,120 --> 00:15:30,840 Speaker 2: Something great, come up with something great. You know what 378 00:15:30,880 --> 00:15:34,080 Speaker 2: I've thought about before, what I regularly think about this, 379 00:15:34,280 --> 00:15:37,760 Speaker 2: is there somewhere on my body that I have not touched? 380 00:15:37,800 --> 00:15:37,840 Speaker 3: It? 381 00:15:39,840 --> 00:15:42,120 Speaker 2: Is there like a piece of skin that I probably 382 00:15:42,280 --> 00:15:43,800 Speaker 2: have not yet tell. 383 00:15:43,640 --> 00:15:46,440 Speaker 3: It, like somewhere in your ear maybe, or like your scalp. 384 00:15:46,520 --> 00:15:48,280 Speaker 3: I don't think I've touched all airs my skin. 385 00:15:48,600 --> 00:15:50,720 Speaker 2: You're washing your hair, I'm pretty sure you cover almost 386 00:15:50,720 --> 00:15:53,360 Speaker 2: everywhere I don't think there's do you know what I mean? 387 00:15:53,480 --> 00:15:56,560 Speaker 3: Maybe on my back somewhere. Yeah, Like, I don't really. 388 00:15:56,400 --> 00:15:57,200 Speaker 1: Put a fake tan. 389 00:15:57,320 --> 00:16:01,120 Speaker 3: Your whole back's covered in fake fake tan, untouched part 390 00:16:01,160 --> 00:16:03,840 Speaker 3: of skin on my body. I think there would be 391 00:16:03,920 --> 00:16:07,479 Speaker 3: like like a couple of centimeters or somethings. I producers 392 00:16:07,520 --> 00:16:09,320 Speaker 3: just sitting in the corner. It's just looking at his 393 00:16:09,400 --> 00:16:10,920 Speaker 3: body being like, where haven't I touched? 394 00:16:11,040 --> 00:16:12,920 Speaker 1: I actually think there would be nowhere. 395 00:16:13,160 --> 00:16:17,400 Speaker 3: Yeah, like hands, brother, hands, you wash your hands every day. 396 00:16:17,440 --> 00:16:20,080 Speaker 3: There's no way there's a little even an inch a 397 00:16:20,120 --> 00:16:23,360 Speaker 3: millimeter on your hand that you have not touched. I 398 00:16:23,360 --> 00:16:25,960 Speaker 3: don't know that will be my Roman empire for the 399 00:16:25,960 --> 00:16:27,960 Speaker 3: rest of the day. Yeah, it's my It is my 400 00:16:28,040 --> 00:16:30,440 Speaker 3: Roman empire. I think about it regularly. It's very interesting, 401 00:16:33,040 --> 00:16:36,720 Speaker 3: all right. On today's episode, we are doing Dilemmas again. 402 00:16:36,880 --> 00:16:38,600 Speaker 3: You guys love our dilemma episodes. 403 00:16:38,680 --> 00:16:41,320 Speaker 2: We have so many, so many saved up from you 404 00:16:41,400 --> 00:16:43,640 Speaker 2: guys that we just had to do a part two. 405 00:16:43,920 --> 00:16:46,720 Speaker 3: Part two one of my favorite episodes to record as well. 406 00:16:46,760 --> 00:16:48,960 Speaker 3: I just love hearing about your tea and your life. 407 00:16:49,000 --> 00:16:50,640 Speaker 3: It kind of sometimes makes me feel a little bit 408 00:16:50,680 --> 00:16:53,400 Speaker 3: better that I'm also going through shit and yeah, I 409 00:16:53,440 --> 00:16:55,800 Speaker 3: don't know, it's really they're just easy and fun. 410 00:16:56,080 --> 00:16:59,560 Speaker 2: Yeah, love it real, just girls, all right, dilemma one 411 00:17:00,120 --> 00:17:04,359 Speaker 2: Hey Sam Hazy ham Hama, I want my name to. 412 00:17:06,200 --> 00:17:09,240 Speaker 3: Excuse me, Sam, and easy works better? It's not easy 413 00:17:09,240 --> 00:17:10,439 Speaker 3: and Sam, I know, I know. 414 00:17:10,800 --> 00:17:13,200 Speaker 1: Yeah, that's okay, it's so fair. 415 00:17:14,240 --> 00:17:16,119 Speaker 2: My brother and his girlfriend recently asked me if I 416 00:17:16,200 --> 00:17:19,040 Speaker 2: wanted a job doing bottle service. That's when the girls 417 00:17:19,080 --> 00:17:21,360 Speaker 2: walk out with the signs sparklers and bottles and poor 418 00:17:21,440 --> 00:17:24,439 Speaker 2: drinks for people at booths and clubs. My boyfriend has 419 00:17:24,480 --> 00:17:26,359 Speaker 2: been on me for a while about getting myself some 420 00:17:26,440 --> 00:17:28,240 Speaker 2: extra money, so I thought this would help us get 421 00:17:28,280 --> 00:17:30,600 Speaker 2: some extra money, and honestly, it sounded like a fun job. 422 00:17:31,640 --> 00:17:33,719 Speaker 2: So I went for my first shift last Saturday night, 423 00:17:33,800 --> 00:17:35,639 Speaker 2: and my boyfriend went out with his friends while I 424 00:17:35,720 --> 00:17:36,199 Speaker 2: was working. 425 00:17:36,680 --> 00:17:36,840 Speaker 3: Well. 426 00:17:36,840 --> 00:17:38,639 Speaker 1: On our way home, I drove sober. 427 00:17:38,680 --> 00:17:41,080 Speaker 2: Of course, I was going on and on and on 428 00:17:41,119 --> 00:17:43,440 Speaker 2: about how much fun I had. As we're almost home, 429 00:17:43,480 --> 00:17:45,000 Speaker 2: he tells me he doesn't know if he can be 430 00:17:45,040 --> 00:17:46,440 Speaker 2: with me if I keep doing this job. 431 00:17:47,520 --> 00:17:52,360 Speaker 1: Brother, you wanted extra money anyway? 432 00:17:52,720 --> 00:17:54,480 Speaker 2: When I tell you, I've never pulled that car over 433 00:17:54,560 --> 00:17:57,159 Speaker 2: so fast in my life. He told me that he 434 00:17:57,240 --> 00:17:59,240 Speaker 2: knows what those girls are like and he doesn't want 435 00:17:59,280 --> 00:18:01,879 Speaker 2: me to be associate with that type of environment. I 436 00:18:01,960 --> 00:18:04,359 Speaker 2: understand where he's coming from to a certain extent, but 437 00:18:04,920 --> 00:18:07,160 Speaker 2: please don't hate me. I have let that man get 438 00:18:07,160 --> 00:18:10,040 Speaker 2: away with so much shit. I have let him disrespect 439 00:18:10,080 --> 00:18:12,320 Speaker 2: me countless of times. Yet this is where he draws 440 00:18:12,320 --> 00:18:12,720 Speaker 2: the line. 441 00:18:13,000 --> 00:18:13,440 Speaker 3: Yeah. 442 00:18:13,520 --> 00:18:15,320 Speaker 2: From my point of view, I just think that he's 443 00:18:15,359 --> 00:18:17,439 Speaker 2: being a little insecure and he's embarrassed to say that 444 00:18:17,480 --> 00:18:20,320 Speaker 2: his girlfriend does bottle service. I love him. I don't 445 00:18:20,359 --> 00:18:22,040 Speaker 2: ever want to leave him. I really want to do 446 00:18:22,080 --> 00:18:23,840 Speaker 2: bottle service, but I don't want him to be giving 447 00:18:23,880 --> 00:18:26,320 Speaker 2: me fifty percent. Let me know your thoughts because I 448 00:18:26,359 --> 00:18:27,959 Speaker 2: really need some advice on what I should do. 449 00:18:28,280 --> 00:18:31,720 Speaker 3: It's definitely coming from an insecurity standpoint. I do get 450 00:18:31,720 --> 00:18:34,240 Speaker 3: where he's coming from, but I don't get him saying 451 00:18:34,280 --> 00:18:35,800 Speaker 3: I don't know if I can be with you because 452 00:18:35,840 --> 00:18:37,679 Speaker 3: of this. Like, brother, you wanted me to get some 453 00:18:37,720 --> 00:18:39,960 Speaker 3: more money. I probably am busy during the week. This 454 00:18:40,040 --> 00:18:41,919 Speaker 3: is the way I can get some extra money. And 455 00:18:42,000 --> 00:18:44,720 Speaker 3: you're coming from that perspective being in a club as 456 00:18:44,720 --> 00:18:47,120 Speaker 3: well and being around girls who do bottle service I've 457 00:18:47,119 --> 00:18:49,960 Speaker 3: actually never seen slight behavior from that. 458 00:18:50,000 --> 00:18:52,879 Speaker 2: They don't talk to us at all, Like you know, 459 00:18:52,920 --> 00:18:55,680 Speaker 2: I'm a girl, but like being around girls, I haven't 460 00:18:55,720 --> 00:19:00,240 Speaker 2: seen they not his single doing my job to the 461 00:19:00,280 --> 00:19:01,159 Speaker 2: boys at the booth. 462 00:19:01,400 --> 00:19:05,000 Speaker 3: Yeah, you know, like yes, and this is probably what 463 00:19:05,040 --> 00:19:07,480 Speaker 3: you have to say, Like I can control what I 464 00:19:07,560 --> 00:19:09,600 Speaker 3: choose to do and how I choose to behave in 465 00:19:09,600 --> 00:19:12,640 Speaker 3: this environment. I can't control other people's behavior, but it's 466 00:19:12,640 --> 00:19:14,960 Speaker 3: then what I do with the information. If I'm coming 467 00:19:15,000 --> 00:19:16,320 Speaker 3: to you and being like, yeah, this guy was all 468 00:19:16,359 --> 00:19:19,040 Speaker 3: over me, YadA YadA, YadA, Like maybe don't rub it 469 00:19:19,080 --> 00:19:20,840 Speaker 3: in his face and be like yeah, like I got 470 00:19:20,880 --> 00:19:23,000 Speaker 3: like hit on so much tonight because that's probably going 471 00:19:23,040 --> 00:19:24,880 Speaker 3: to be but I doubt she would do that. Yeah, 472 00:19:24,920 --> 00:19:27,199 Speaker 3: And that's what I'm saying, Like, if you'd handle it 473 00:19:27,200 --> 00:19:29,640 Speaker 3: well and you're purely looking at it from a job perspective, 474 00:19:29,640 --> 00:19:31,679 Speaker 3: he shouldn't have any issue with it. He's the one 475 00:19:31,720 --> 00:19:34,560 Speaker 3: who's been on your ass about getting a job, like you, 476 00:19:34,760 --> 00:19:36,679 Speaker 3: I'm like, well, I'm doing this. This is how I 477 00:19:36,680 --> 00:19:39,000 Speaker 3: can manage my time, and you just need to say 478 00:19:39,080 --> 00:19:41,359 Speaker 3: you need to look at it as work, like no 479 00:19:41,400 --> 00:19:43,240 Speaker 3: one should have a job your scope of work and 480 00:19:43,240 --> 00:19:44,240 Speaker 3: your line of work, Like. 481 00:19:44,160 --> 00:19:46,040 Speaker 2: Why don't you come to the club one night and 482 00:19:46,280 --> 00:19:49,560 Speaker 2: like see what I'm doing and so you can understand 483 00:19:49,600 --> 00:19:51,119 Speaker 2: it a bit better. I think it needs to be 484 00:19:51,160 --> 00:19:53,760 Speaker 2: also more of a discussion versus like I don't think 485 00:19:53,760 --> 00:19:54,080 Speaker 2: I can. 486 00:19:54,000 --> 00:19:54,760 Speaker 3: Be with you if you do this. 487 00:19:54,840 --> 00:19:57,439 Speaker 2: Be like I'm not super comfortable with this. Yeah, you know, 488 00:19:57,560 --> 00:19:59,720 Speaker 2: maybe you can lay out some rules. Honestly, I think 489 00:19:59,760 --> 00:20:02,240 Speaker 2: heim coming to a night and seeing what you do 490 00:20:02,320 --> 00:20:04,439 Speaker 2: and how little all of the girls probably interact with 491 00:20:04,480 --> 00:20:06,439 Speaker 2: the guys, that might make him feel a little bit 492 00:20:06,480 --> 00:20:08,880 Speaker 2: more comfortable. I would say it's probably not a job 493 00:20:09,040 --> 00:20:11,560 Speaker 2: like working at a cafe. Well, it's probably it's not 494 00:20:11,600 --> 00:20:13,320 Speaker 2: fucking different to working actually, and. 495 00:20:13,280 --> 00:20:15,040 Speaker 3: It coming there to you. Hey, if a boy finds 496 00:20:15,080 --> 00:20:17,080 Speaker 3: you good looking, a boy finds you good looking, whether 497 00:20:17,119 --> 00:20:18,679 Speaker 3: it's in a club or it's in a cafe, like, 498 00:20:18,680 --> 00:20:20,920 Speaker 3: they're gonna hit on you. I would say, you're a 499 00:20:20,920 --> 00:20:23,240 Speaker 3: good looking chick. They're gonna hit on you. 500 00:20:23,080 --> 00:20:26,960 Speaker 2: For advice sake. Don't just quit the job because he's uncomfortable. 501 00:20:27,000 --> 00:20:28,800 Speaker 2: I think if you need money, you need money. He 502 00:20:28,880 --> 00:20:30,879 Speaker 2: needs to understand that. But I think it needs to 503 00:20:30,920 --> 00:20:32,560 Speaker 2: be more of a discussion and maybe get him to 504 00:20:32,600 --> 00:20:36,080 Speaker 2: understand it a bit more by witnessing it and seeing it, 505 00:20:36,640 --> 00:20:38,280 Speaker 2: you know, get him and this friends to come in 506 00:20:38,320 --> 00:20:38,879 Speaker 2: one night. 507 00:20:38,720 --> 00:20:41,560 Speaker 3: And yeah, I think if you act quite casual about 508 00:20:41,560 --> 00:20:44,040 Speaker 3: it and approach the situation quite casually and be like, 509 00:20:44,240 --> 00:20:46,400 Speaker 3: this is just a job. Like the more you make 510 00:20:46,440 --> 00:20:48,280 Speaker 3: it probably a big deal, the more of an issue 511 00:20:48,280 --> 00:20:49,919 Speaker 3: it's going to be in your relationship. But if you 512 00:20:50,000 --> 00:20:51,880 Speaker 3: just approach it and be like, this is just my job. 513 00:20:52,040 --> 00:20:53,600 Speaker 3: I'm doing it for a bit of extra money, like 514 00:20:53,600 --> 00:20:55,520 Speaker 3: you said, babe, Like that's all it is for me. 515 00:20:56,040 --> 00:20:59,600 Speaker 3: It's on a Saturday night. It's easy even drink. I'm driving. 516 00:21:00,760 --> 00:21:02,320 Speaker 3: And then you keep it casual and just be like 517 00:21:02,400 --> 00:21:04,560 Speaker 3: that's it. That's all it is, like whether you like 518 00:21:04,600 --> 00:21:06,280 Speaker 3: it or not, Like that's a problem that you need 519 00:21:06,320 --> 00:21:06,760 Speaker 3: to get over it. 520 00:21:06,840 --> 00:21:08,760 Speaker 2: And if that's what you really wants you to not 521 00:21:08,800 --> 00:21:11,120 Speaker 2: do that job, he can find you another job. 522 00:21:11,160 --> 00:21:12,840 Speaker 3: And he finds you another job and lines you up 523 00:21:12,840 --> 00:21:16,280 Speaker 3: another job. But you guess then maybe then you can 524 00:21:16,400 --> 00:21:16,760 Speaker 3: go to. 525 00:21:16,720 --> 00:21:19,680 Speaker 2: The other job. But don't just quit. It's because he 526 00:21:19,720 --> 00:21:21,560 Speaker 2: doesn't want you to do it unless he's gonna line you. 527 00:21:21,600 --> 00:21:22,240 Speaker 1: Up something else. 528 00:21:22,359 --> 00:21:24,160 Speaker 3: Hold your ground, babe, hold your ground. 529 00:21:24,160 --> 00:21:24,640 Speaker 1: You got this. 530 00:21:27,320 --> 00:21:30,399 Speaker 3: Dilemma. Number two. Hey, girls, here's a dilemma for you, 531 00:21:30,440 --> 00:21:33,159 Speaker 3: and I need some advice. Well, you've called the right people. 532 00:21:34,119 --> 00:21:37,679 Speaker 3: Not really probably, I've been talking to this guy for 533 00:21:37,720 --> 00:21:38,880 Speaker 3: about nine months. 534 00:21:39,520 --> 00:21:40,200 Speaker 1: It's quite a while. 535 00:21:40,280 --> 00:21:43,600 Speaker 3: Red flag. Yeah, we've gone exclusive, We've been on dates, 536 00:21:43,720 --> 00:21:47,080 Speaker 3: and we sleep over all the time, the whole shabam. Okay, 537 00:21:47,680 --> 00:21:50,440 Speaker 3: recently I found out he went to another girl's house 538 00:21:50,480 --> 00:21:52,320 Speaker 3: and hooked up with her while I was out for 539 00:21:52,359 --> 00:21:53,119 Speaker 3: dinner with a friend. 540 00:21:56,840 --> 00:21:57,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, that's cheating. 541 00:21:57,880 --> 00:22:00,879 Speaker 3: Yeah, you've said that you're exclusive, Then you doing anything 542 00:22:00,880 --> 00:22:01,840 Speaker 3: with another person's cheating. 543 00:22:01,920 --> 00:22:04,120 Speaker 2: And that he hasn't asked you to be his girlfriend 544 00:22:04,200 --> 00:22:08,280 Speaker 2: in nine months unless you're like sixteen, is anything myself? 545 00:22:08,359 --> 00:22:13,159 Speaker 3: Yeah? Completely? Also quick interjection here, I've actually never cheated. 546 00:22:13,240 --> 00:22:16,440 Speaker 3: I don't know where the internet has created this, this 547 00:22:16,520 --> 00:22:16,959 Speaker 3: little thing. 548 00:22:17,240 --> 00:22:18,040 Speaker 1: I've never cheated. 549 00:22:18,720 --> 00:22:21,359 Speaker 3: Putting it blankly, I'm telling you right now, I'm not 550 00:22:21,480 --> 00:22:25,080 Speaker 3: giving you context. I have never cheated. Come out of 551 00:22:25,240 --> 00:22:28,080 Speaker 3: the dog's mouth. Never cheated. I don't support it. Easy, 552 00:22:28,119 --> 00:22:29,440 Speaker 3: would fucking kill me if I cheated. 553 00:22:29,560 --> 00:22:31,960 Speaker 1: I don't chet cheated. He never cheated. 554 00:22:32,200 --> 00:22:35,440 Speaker 3: We uploaded a real on just for girls about how 555 00:22:35,440 --> 00:22:37,880 Speaker 3: we think cheatings grows, and everyone's like, that's so rich 556 00:22:37,920 --> 00:22:42,000 Speaker 3: coming from me, Sam, use your brain politely. If I 557 00:22:42,080 --> 00:22:44,840 Speaker 3: uploaded a video saying I run the social media so 558 00:22:44,880 --> 00:22:47,840 Speaker 3: I know what I'm uploading. If I uploaded that, that'd 559 00:22:47,920 --> 00:22:51,560 Speaker 3: be so hypocritical. She would never upload. Would I do that? 560 00:22:51,600 --> 00:22:52,960 Speaker 1: I'll produce it to remove that. 561 00:22:53,280 --> 00:22:55,800 Speaker 3: Yeah, if I cheated, I wouldn't let her sit here 562 00:22:55,840 --> 00:22:59,840 Speaker 3: and say make myself look like, Yeah, I'm making myself 563 00:22:59,880 --> 00:23:01,280 Speaker 3: look a fucking idiot, putting it stray. 564 00:23:01,280 --> 00:23:02,000 Speaker 1: I've never cheated. 565 00:23:02,200 --> 00:23:04,280 Speaker 3: There's just the internet. Want to pake me is another lie? 566 00:23:04,320 --> 00:23:08,680 Speaker 3: But let you do anyway. I digress. Recently I found 567 00:23:08,720 --> 00:23:10,840 Speaker 3: out he went to another girl's house and hooked up 568 00:23:10,880 --> 00:23:12,639 Speaker 3: with her while I was out for dinner with a friend. 569 00:23:12,760 --> 00:23:15,400 Speaker 3: He said they did nothing more. He apologized a number 570 00:23:15,480 --> 00:23:17,600 Speaker 3: of times. Just kind of feel shitty that I've made 571 00:23:17,640 --> 00:23:20,800 Speaker 3: myself unavailable for nine months and he casually went and 572 00:23:20,840 --> 00:23:21,680 Speaker 3: got with another girl. 573 00:23:21,760 --> 00:23:22,840 Speaker 1: What do I do? Yeah? 574 00:23:23,040 --> 00:23:25,000 Speaker 2: No, you you block him and you never speak to 575 00:23:25,080 --> 00:23:27,000 Speaker 2: him again. That what else are you gonna do? You've 576 00:23:27,040 --> 00:23:29,360 Speaker 2: wasted nine months to the guy, said you he said, 577 00:23:29,400 --> 00:23:31,680 Speaker 2: you're exclusive, then he's with someone else. 578 00:23:31,680 --> 00:23:33,240 Speaker 1: That's cheating. That's cheating. 579 00:23:33,359 --> 00:23:34,720 Speaker 2: You do not need to be with a guy like that, 580 00:23:34,800 --> 00:23:36,520 Speaker 2: because he should have asked you out firstly. 581 00:23:36,920 --> 00:23:38,280 Speaker 1: Secondly, he's cheating on you. 582 00:23:38,359 --> 00:23:39,840 Speaker 3: But if you were out for dinner with a friend, 583 00:23:39,880 --> 00:23:41,680 Speaker 3: and the way that you've said this makes it kind 584 00:23:41,680 --> 00:23:44,000 Speaker 3: of sound like he was sober and he went over 585 00:23:44,000 --> 00:23:45,840 Speaker 3: to her house and hooked up with her. What are 586 00:23:45,840 --> 00:23:46,560 Speaker 3: you doing? Brother? 587 00:23:46,840 --> 00:23:49,280 Speaker 2: And that's not just like, oh, hey, nice to meet you, 588 00:23:49,280 --> 00:23:51,040 Speaker 2: come over have sex. No, they would have been chatting 589 00:23:51,080 --> 00:23:53,919 Speaker 2: for a while. Yeah no, bye bye. 590 00:23:54,160 --> 00:23:54,440 Speaker 3: Yeah. 591 00:23:54,480 --> 00:23:57,240 Speaker 2: I know it's going to be hard. We don't say 592 00:23:57,280 --> 00:24:00,359 Speaker 2: this stuff like it's not challenging. But block him, because 593 00:24:00,440 --> 00:24:03,200 Speaker 2: blocking people is the only way I can move on. 594 00:24:03,400 --> 00:24:05,520 Speaker 1: Or I get little, I get. 595 00:24:05,359 --> 00:24:10,119 Speaker 3: Tipsy and my fingers go, hey, no block him. Also, 596 00:24:10,800 --> 00:24:13,640 Speaker 3: I just have everyone's different, but a three month rule, 597 00:24:13,840 --> 00:24:15,880 Speaker 3: I can go I reckon after a month. If you're 598 00:24:15,960 --> 00:24:18,360 Speaker 3: consistently seeing someone two or three times a week, you're 599 00:24:18,400 --> 00:24:21,119 Speaker 3: talking almost every day, you're gone on a few dates. 600 00:24:21,160 --> 00:24:25,280 Speaker 3: If you're not almost exclusive after a month to six weeks, okay, 601 00:24:25,359 --> 00:24:27,160 Speaker 3: But then if you're like that's. 602 00:24:26,960 --> 00:24:28,280 Speaker 1: How I agree with it. 603 00:24:28,640 --> 00:24:30,880 Speaker 3: And then if you're not official and he hasn't said 604 00:24:31,000 --> 00:24:32,359 Speaker 3: do you want to be my girlfriend? 605 00:24:32,640 --> 00:24:35,000 Speaker 1: After three months and months seeing each other. 606 00:24:35,160 --> 00:24:37,040 Speaker 3: He is taking you along for a joy ride. He's 607 00:24:37,119 --> 00:24:38,960 Speaker 3: kind of waiting for the next person to come along 608 00:24:39,000 --> 00:24:41,480 Speaker 3: to see he could do better. He's he's having that 609 00:24:41,600 --> 00:24:44,160 Speaker 3: well you're never my girlfriend as a backup in case 610 00:24:44,160 --> 00:24:46,679 Speaker 3: he fucks up, plain and simple, And that's exactly what 611 00:24:46,760 --> 00:24:48,960 Speaker 3: he's done here. He's going to gaslight you and turn 612 00:24:49,000 --> 00:24:51,440 Speaker 3: around and go, well, you'll never my girlfriend. Anyway. 613 00:24:51,760 --> 00:24:54,520 Speaker 2: We were exclusive, brother, Honestly, that fucking kills me. 614 00:24:54,560 --> 00:24:55,119 Speaker 1: Exclusive. 615 00:24:55,119 --> 00:24:57,720 Speaker 3: He's a stepping stone. Do not wait more than three 616 00:24:57,760 --> 00:24:59,400 Speaker 3: months for that? Do you want to be my girl? 617 00:24:59,480 --> 00:25:02,240 Speaker 2: I also it is for helpful like dating, have a 618 00:25:02,240 --> 00:25:04,320 Speaker 2: one week rull. You better ask me on a date 619 00:25:04,359 --> 00:25:06,119 Speaker 2: within the first week. I don't want to be chatting 620 00:25:06,119 --> 00:25:07,680 Speaker 2: to you and wasting my time for three months and 621 00:25:07,720 --> 00:25:09,800 Speaker 2: I've never met you. Meet you and realize I don't 622 00:25:09,840 --> 00:25:10,120 Speaker 2: like you. 623 00:25:10,200 --> 00:25:12,199 Speaker 3: I don't want an Instagram boyfriend. I've got enough of 624 00:25:12,200 --> 00:25:13,840 Speaker 3: them in my fucking and they're a good text. 625 00:25:14,080 --> 00:25:16,160 Speaker 2: I need you to meet me, so you yeah, so 626 00:25:16,400 --> 00:25:17,720 Speaker 2: you need to go out with them on a date 627 00:25:17,760 --> 00:25:19,440 Speaker 2: in the first week. They need to ask you to 628 00:25:19,480 --> 00:25:22,879 Speaker 2: be exclusive. Sam says within six or so weeks. I 629 00:25:22,920 --> 00:25:24,639 Speaker 2: do agree that it needs to be like do you 630 00:25:24,680 --> 00:25:25,560 Speaker 2: want to be my girlfriend? 631 00:25:25,560 --> 00:25:28,119 Speaker 3: Within like I like, and some people don't have. 632 00:25:28,280 --> 00:25:32,520 Speaker 2: So I got three that months. I because look I waited. 633 00:25:32,640 --> 00:25:36,280 Speaker 2: I'm a fucking idiot. My first relationship, we were hanging 634 00:25:36,280 --> 00:25:40,399 Speaker 2: out for a year. Yeah that's fine, that's disgusting, that's embarrassing. 635 00:25:40,400 --> 00:25:42,359 Speaker 2: So I've learned my lesson and I won't do it again. 636 00:25:42,560 --> 00:25:45,000 Speaker 3: I'm one of those people who do need that reassurance 637 00:25:45,040 --> 00:25:46,679 Speaker 3: of that do you want to be my girlfriend? Some 638 00:25:46,720 --> 00:25:48,720 Speaker 3: people aren't like that, and it kind of just evolves 639 00:25:48,720 --> 00:25:50,960 Speaker 3: over time. I'm not that I do need a label 640 00:25:51,000 --> 00:25:53,159 Speaker 3: to I do need the label. I want someone to 641 00:25:53,200 --> 00:25:54,400 Speaker 3: go that's my girlfriend. 642 00:25:54,400 --> 00:25:56,879 Speaker 1: And people got so you are you boyfriend? Girlfriend? 643 00:25:56,960 --> 00:26:00,000 Speaker 3: People that are like, yeah, how's the assener? No, No, 644 00:26:00,680 --> 00:26:01,560 Speaker 3: I need you. I need that. 645 00:26:01,720 --> 00:26:04,600 Speaker 1: We'll question my girlfriend. Yes, like a proposal, Yes, I 646 00:26:04,640 --> 00:26:05,000 Speaker 1: need it. 647 00:26:05,040 --> 00:26:07,240 Speaker 3: I need that completely. But yeah, I think throw him 648 00:26:07,240 --> 00:26:11,480 Speaker 3: in the trash I can give. Yeah, he doesn't even 649 00:26:11,600 --> 00:26:13,560 Speaker 3: he's not even recyclable. He's trash. 650 00:26:14,040 --> 00:26:19,800 Speaker 2: Trash Dilema number three, Okay, I really need to help 651 00:26:19,840 --> 00:26:21,680 Speaker 2: with this one. I've been with my boyfriend from well 652 00:26:21,720 --> 00:26:24,040 Speaker 2: over a year now. He's literally the sweetest boy and 653 00:26:24,080 --> 00:26:27,040 Speaker 2: he loves me unconditionally. But I've lost my sex drive 654 00:26:27,560 --> 00:26:31,760 Speaker 2: for him. I spoke to him about it just being 655 00:26:31,760 --> 00:26:34,800 Speaker 2: lost in general, and he's still being very supportive. I 656 00:26:34,800 --> 00:26:37,200 Speaker 2: know it's still there, but it's just not with him. 657 00:26:37,400 --> 00:26:38,439 Speaker 2: How do I sustain this? 658 00:26:38,640 --> 00:26:39,600 Speaker 1: Help him? I broken? 659 00:26:40,320 --> 00:26:42,400 Speaker 3: Okay, First question, are you on the pill? 660 00:26:43,320 --> 00:26:48,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, because I have somewhat an understanding in that aspect. Yes, 661 00:26:48,840 --> 00:26:53,520 Speaker 2: I'm on lexapro Any anxiety not something I've ever spoken about, 662 00:26:53,520 --> 00:26:55,600 Speaker 2: but I wouldn't say I have a very high sex drive. 663 00:26:56,600 --> 00:27:00,520 Speaker 2: And it's definitely something that worries me and something that 664 00:27:00,680 --> 00:27:02,760 Speaker 2: I like, I have been meaning to go to the 665 00:27:02,760 --> 00:27:06,360 Speaker 2: doctor about to potentially get things taken, like pills swept over, 666 00:27:06,440 --> 00:27:09,120 Speaker 2: because like it's not a fun or nice experience to have. No, Like, 667 00:27:09,280 --> 00:27:11,720 Speaker 2: I wouldn't say I have no, but it's very situational. 668 00:27:12,200 --> 00:27:15,400 Speaker 2: But I'm like, if you are on any kind of medication. 669 00:27:15,880 --> 00:27:17,560 Speaker 3: I think that's like the first thing to think about. 670 00:27:17,680 --> 00:27:21,280 Speaker 3: I am also not a very sexually driven person. I 671 00:27:21,320 --> 00:27:23,119 Speaker 3: have to be very attracted to you. I have to 672 00:27:23,160 --> 00:27:25,639 Speaker 3: like know you emotionally and be connected to you to 673 00:27:25,680 --> 00:27:28,600 Speaker 3: be wanting to be intimate with you. I don't like 674 00:27:29,040 --> 00:27:32,240 Speaker 3: have a huge sex drive, a high sex drive in general. 675 00:27:33,080 --> 00:27:35,639 Speaker 3: I think I did go through this in my last 676 00:27:35,680 --> 00:27:41,440 Speaker 3: relationship though I lost sexual not attraction, but sexual drive. 677 00:27:42,160 --> 00:27:44,280 Speaker 3: My anxiety was bad, my depression was bad. It's all 678 00:27:44,320 --> 00:27:48,199 Speaker 3: situational for me. I think a tip is I'm going 679 00:27:48,280 --> 00:27:50,600 Speaker 3: to be really open to here. I think you need 680 00:27:50,640 --> 00:27:53,159 Speaker 3: to like almost push yourself out of that headspace and 681 00:27:53,160 --> 00:27:55,000 Speaker 3: give it a go. Mix something up, make it a 682 00:27:55,000 --> 00:27:57,520 Speaker 3: little bit more spicy, like maybe take each other out 683 00:27:57,560 --> 00:27:59,480 Speaker 3: on a date where you're not going to the date together. 684 00:27:59,600 --> 00:28:01,720 Speaker 3: Make it a little bit more of a thing you've 685 00:28:01,720 --> 00:28:04,040 Speaker 3: been dating for a year now, Spice it up, give 686 00:28:04,040 --> 00:28:05,879 Speaker 3: that a go, Like, make it a bit more of 687 00:28:06,040 --> 00:28:08,000 Speaker 3: like a role play kind of thing. You're like, oh, 688 00:28:08,040 --> 00:28:09,560 Speaker 3: you dress up as a teacher and I'll dress up 689 00:28:09,560 --> 00:28:12,120 Speaker 3: as a student. Like you come to my door and yeah, 690 00:28:12,600 --> 00:28:13,920 Speaker 3: pick me up, pick me up. 691 00:28:14,000 --> 00:28:17,360 Speaker 2: And also, don't compare yourself to other people, Like say 692 00:28:17,400 --> 00:28:18,720 Speaker 2: you do get in the swing of things and you 693 00:28:18,720 --> 00:28:20,880 Speaker 2: are having sex like once every couple of weeks or whatever. 694 00:28:21,080 --> 00:28:23,719 Speaker 2: That's fine for you. If that's fine for you, that's 695 00:28:23,760 --> 00:28:25,159 Speaker 2: fine for you. If your friends are having sex with 696 00:28:25,200 --> 00:28:27,360 Speaker 2: their partners every single day, great for them, but it's 697 00:28:27,400 --> 00:28:30,960 Speaker 2: like it can't also be very I think there can 698 00:28:31,080 --> 00:28:33,639 Speaker 2: be a huge comparison with relationships and sex. If your 699 00:28:33,640 --> 00:28:35,320 Speaker 2: friends and stuff are talking about having sex with their 700 00:28:35,359 --> 00:28:37,359 Speaker 2: partners every single day, you don't need to be doing that. 701 00:28:37,480 --> 00:28:40,840 Speaker 2: If that's not something that you're yeah feeling. Yeah, just 702 00:28:40,920 --> 00:28:42,720 Speaker 2: try if you do love him and he's sweet and 703 00:28:42,760 --> 00:28:45,440 Speaker 2: you're definitely still in love with him, yeah. 704 00:28:45,240 --> 00:28:48,040 Speaker 3: Just if a reattraction can grow, and that's what I'm saying, 705 00:28:48,080 --> 00:28:50,880 Speaker 3: I like, give it a go. Like, try switch up 706 00:28:50,920 --> 00:28:53,160 Speaker 3: your environment. Maybe maybe you guys are both just really 707 00:28:53,160 --> 00:28:55,800 Speaker 3: comfortably in your environment that you're not then attracted to 708 00:28:55,880 --> 00:28:58,840 Speaker 3: him because you're just like kind of complacent in like, oh, 709 00:28:58,880 --> 00:29:01,080 Speaker 3: we come over to each other's house. We you know, 710 00:29:01,160 --> 00:29:02,160 Speaker 3: we watch Netflix, we go. 711 00:29:02,120 --> 00:29:05,600 Speaker 2: To bed, that's our routine every day. 712 00:29:05,880 --> 00:29:06,719 Speaker 1: Change up the routine. 713 00:29:06,800 --> 00:29:08,600 Speaker 3: Yeah, maybe have a few days away from each other 714 00:29:08,640 --> 00:29:13,240 Speaker 3: so then when you see him, you're really excited day 715 00:29:13,640 --> 00:29:15,560 Speaker 3: make it, make a thing out of it, so then 716 00:29:15,600 --> 00:29:17,400 Speaker 3: you kind of get excited. 717 00:29:18,040 --> 00:29:20,360 Speaker 2: I ever to try and fix it, because it may 718 00:29:20,400 --> 00:29:22,880 Speaker 2: not just come out of nowhere and be back again. 719 00:29:23,320 --> 00:29:24,640 Speaker 1: You may need to you're aware of it. 720 00:29:25,040 --> 00:29:26,840 Speaker 3: Yeah, you're aware of it. Now you need to act 721 00:29:26,880 --> 00:29:28,840 Speaker 3: on it, and you obviously sound like you want to 722 00:29:28,880 --> 00:29:30,880 Speaker 3: do something to change that. So kind of just like 723 00:29:31,320 --> 00:29:33,800 Speaker 3: experiment a little bit and then if that still doesn't work, 724 00:29:33,840 --> 00:29:35,760 Speaker 3: then consider others. 725 00:29:36,440 --> 00:29:37,200 Speaker 1: Another message. 726 00:29:37,360 --> 00:29:39,440 Speaker 3: Yeah, send us a follow up and we can then 727 00:29:39,800 --> 00:29:48,320 Speaker 3: revaluate our Yeah. Dilemma number four. Hey, girls, I'm really 728 00:29:48,400 --> 00:29:51,640 Speaker 3: hoping you can help me out with this, hopefully. Hopefully. 729 00:29:52,240 --> 00:29:54,680 Speaker 3: I have a friend, let's call her Emily. I've always 730 00:29:54,720 --> 00:29:57,880 Speaker 3: been pretty popular in school and she hasn't. Last year 731 00:29:57,880 --> 00:30:00,360 Speaker 3: we got closer. In December, I introduced her to my 732 00:30:00,360 --> 00:30:03,400 Speaker 3: two male friends, let's call them Josh and Jacob. We 733 00:30:03,480 --> 00:30:05,520 Speaker 3: talked to them all night as me and Emily were 734 00:30:05,520 --> 00:30:08,680 Speaker 3: having a sleepover, and so were Josh and Jacob. A 735 00:30:08,720 --> 00:30:12,280 Speaker 3: few months of flirting, so I thought. Later, Josh asked 736 00:30:12,280 --> 00:30:14,440 Speaker 3: me to be his Valentine, and I said, yes, that's 737 00:30:14,560 --> 00:30:15,360 Speaker 3: so cute. 738 00:30:16,080 --> 00:30:17,000 Speaker 1: Romance isn't dead. 739 00:30:17,440 --> 00:30:21,480 Speaker 3: Romance isn't dead. Fast forward down the track. Jacob had 740 00:30:21,520 --> 00:30:23,240 Speaker 3: been saying to me in front of all of them 741 00:30:23,280 --> 00:30:26,680 Speaker 3: twenty four to seven that I was so fat, what 742 00:30:26,720 --> 00:30:29,800 Speaker 3: the fuck? And all of these insults that really hurt 743 00:30:29,880 --> 00:30:32,080 Speaker 3: me that were kind of embarrassing as he was saying 744 00:30:32,080 --> 00:30:35,000 Speaker 3: them in front of josh. So the guy that asked 745 00:30:35,000 --> 00:30:37,840 Speaker 3: to be he's Valentine, his best mate is going. This 746 00:30:37,920 --> 00:30:38,480 Speaker 3: girl's fat. 747 00:30:38,640 --> 00:30:40,280 Speaker 1: That is so fucked up. 748 00:30:41,400 --> 00:30:44,200 Speaker 2: If your friend and josh An's stepping in, then fucking 749 00:30:44,240 --> 00:30:44,800 Speaker 2: World War two. 750 00:30:45,200 --> 00:30:48,200 Speaker 3: The red flag was that Emily didn't defend me. She 751 00:30:48,240 --> 00:30:51,560 Speaker 3: would laugh. Josh and me ended things very quickly, and 752 00:30:51,600 --> 00:30:54,400 Speaker 3: he told Emily and Jacob that he was only talking 753 00:30:54,440 --> 00:30:56,720 Speaker 3: to me as a joke. And then I'm fat and disgusting. 754 00:30:56,720 --> 00:30:59,520 Speaker 1: Oh my god, it's twenty twenty four. 755 00:30:59,520 --> 00:31:01,400 Speaker 3: Why how can we calling people fat? 756 00:31:01,760 --> 00:31:05,719 Speaker 2: Sorry to this Emily girl like that supposedly wasn't very popular, 757 00:31:05,760 --> 00:31:08,200 Speaker 2: and now maybe you've introduced her friends, She's clearly just 758 00:31:08,280 --> 00:31:10,600 Speaker 2: giggling along because she wants to stay a part of 759 00:31:10,640 --> 00:31:11,400 Speaker 2: this friendship group. 760 00:31:11,480 --> 00:31:15,440 Speaker 3: She is not a friend you need around. Not that 761 00:31:15,480 --> 00:31:17,880 Speaker 3: it's important, but I'm not. Emily still continues to be 762 00:31:17,920 --> 00:31:20,280 Speaker 3: friends with both of them, even though they're horrible to me. 763 00:31:20,800 --> 00:31:23,600 Speaker 3: She just likes the attention. Because of all this bullying, 764 00:31:23,600 --> 00:31:27,280 Speaker 3: I've ended up within the eating disorder believing, oh my god, 765 00:31:27,400 --> 00:31:29,400 Speaker 3: I actually want to like find Jacob and nosh and 766 00:31:29,440 --> 00:31:32,960 Speaker 3: fucking hit them, and she talks to them over me. 767 00:31:33,280 --> 00:31:36,160 Speaker 3: What do I do? She isn't aware of my bulimia. 768 00:31:36,320 --> 00:31:38,840 Speaker 3: All she wants is attention for them, help Asa. 769 00:31:39,040 --> 00:31:41,000 Speaker 1: She's honestly a girl. 770 00:31:41,080 --> 00:31:42,600 Speaker 2: She's just gonna be one of those people that come 771 00:31:42,600 --> 00:31:44,360 Speaker 2: into your life for a really short period of time 772 00:31:44,400 --> 00:31:47,560 Speaker 2: and you leave it like she's not worth your time. 773 00:31:47,680 --> 00:31:49,280 Speaker 3: Those boys are not fucking worth your time. 774 00:31:49,320 --> 00:31:53,080 Speaker 2: But I think you know that Emily is gonna deal 775 00:31:53,080 --> 00:31:54,800 Speaker 2: with her own shit later in life. If she wants 776 00:31:54,840 --> 00:31:56,640 Speaker 2: to say friends with these boys, they'll probably end up 777 00:31:56,640 --> 00:31:58,800 Speaker 2: picking on her too, which isn't I don't condone that, 778 00:31:59,000 --> 00:32:01,520 Speaker 2: and I don't want that. But you just find different, 779 00:32:01,560 --> 00:32:03,480 Speaker 2: better people because they're just they're going to live in 780 00:32:03,480 --> 00:32:04,560 Speaker 2: their own little fucking world. 781 00:32:04,760 --> 00:32:08,000 Speaker 3: To put it lightly as well, Emily is screaming insecure. 782 00:32:08,200 --> 00:32:10,560 Speaker 3: You were kind of the popular girl. You had lots 783 00:32:10,600 --> 00:32:12,720 Speaker 3: of friends, You had a big group of people that 784 00:32:12,760 --> 00:32:14,640 Speaker 3: you could have hung out with, and Emily was probably 785 00:32:14,640 --> 00:32:16,400 Speaker 3: a little bit lost, so she kind of clung on 786 00:32:16,440 --> 00:32:18,960 Speaker 3: to you, which is so fair. But it wasn't necessarily 787 00:32:19,000 --> 00:32:20,840 Speaker 3: you as a person. It was kind of like who 788 00:32:20,880 --> 00:32:22,840 Speaker 3: you were and like how you had so many friends, 789 00:32:22,880 --> 00:32:24,800 Speaker 3: and she was just she wanted to be a part 790 00:32:24,840 --> 00:32:26,600 Speaker 3: of this group that you were a part of. She 791 00:32:26,720 --> 00:32:28,440 Speaker 3: maybe then didn't have a lot of guy friends. So 792 00:32:28,520 --> 00:32:30,440 Speaker 3: she's been seeing these guys that kind of value her 793 00:32:30,480 --> 00:32:32,880 Speaker 3: and that enjoy her, have banter and everything like that, 794 00:32:33,120 --> 00:32:35,960 Speaker 3: and she's kind of getting validation from that. And because 795 00:32:36,000 --> 00:32:37,719 Speaker 3: it's now kind of put you down, which you were 796 00:32:37,760 --> 00:32:40,040 Speaker 3: once probably on a bit of a higher pedestal in 797 00:32:40,160 --> 00:32:43,680 Speaker 3: society or like around your school area, she's now gone, great, 798 00:32:44,120 --> 00:32:46,320 Speaker 3: this girl's been put down. I haven't been put down. 799 00:32:46,440 --> 00:32:48,280 Speaker 3: I'm it's definitely. 800 00:32:48,160 --> 00:32:50,800 Speaker 1: Like because she wants to lift herself up. 801 00:32:50,960 --> 00:32:55,520 Speaker 3: But like friends shouldn't ever do that. I Like, anytime 802 00:32:55,600 --> 00:32:58,680 Speaker 3: someone's insulted Easy in front of my face, I will 803 00:32:58,720 --> 00:33:01,040 Speaker 3: be like, what the fuck, worry, what the fuck? Like 804 00:33:01,440 --> 00:33:03,920 Speaker 3: guys sometimes will make a joke and that sometimes pin 805 00:33:04,320 --> 00:33:06,720 Speaker 3: Easy and I against each other, like on a night out, 806 00:33:06,760 --> 00:33:09,200 Speaker 3: and I'll be like, don't say that, Like Easy and 807 00:33:09,240 --> 00:33:11,280 Speaker 3: I will be like, don't fucking say that about each other. 808 00:33:11,400 --> 00:33:14,200 Speaker 3: Like boys tend to do that is to like tee 809 00:33:14,280 --> 00:33:15,360 Speaker 3: two best friends up. 810 00:33:15,640 --> 00:33:17,840 Speaker 2: And it's just like because it makes them feel validated, 811 00:33:18,040 --> 00:33:20,000 Speaker 2: like they don't care enough about their friendship. They care 812 00:33:20,000 --> 00:33:24,800 Speaker 2: more about our validation and they like seeing that. It's 813 00:33:24,920 --> 00:33:27,920 Speaker 2: I actually had a really similar situation with two guys 814 00:33:27,960 --> 00:33:30,680 Speaker 2: that were really that were like in my friendship group 815 00:33:30,720 --> 00:33:33,000 Speaker 2: and we were kind of a close, little knit group, 816 00:33:33,040 --> 00:33:35,400 Speaker 2: and they picked on me like you wouldn't fucking believe, 817 00:33:35,440 --> 00:33:39,000 Speaker 2: and like no one said anything, and it got some 818 00:33:39,040 --> 00:33:41,080 Speaker 2: people out of the friends group were like that, they're 819 00:33:41,120 --> 00:33:43,320 Speaker 2: literally bullying you, and I'm like, you know, none of 820 00:33:43,320 --> 00:33:44,400 Speaker 2: my friends are saying anything. 821 00:33:44,480 --> 00:33:45,920 Speaker 1: I'm now no longer friends with any. 822 00:33:45,760 --> 00:33:46,360 Speaker 3: Of those people. 823 00:33:46,600 --> 00:33:49,120 Speaker 2: Yeah, and I've got an incredible group of friends now 824 00:33:49,160 --> 00:33:51,600 Speaker 2: and they're still all there bitching about each other every 825 00:33:51,640 --> 00:33:53,600 Speaker 2: single day, fighting every single day. 826 00:33:53,880 --> 00:33:55,160 Speaker 1: Not my fucking issue anymore. 827 00:33:55,240 --> 00:33:57,400 Speaker 3: You just need to And some fris do you have 828 00:33:57,480 --> 00:33:59,920 Speaker 3: that joking banter where they can kind of poke funny 829 00:34:00,040 --> 00:34:02,360 Speaker 3: each other, But there does become a fine line where 830 00:34:02,520 --> 00:34:05,640 Speaker 3: that stuff isn't okay. And then when you are in 831 00:34:05,680 --> 00:34:07,720 Speaker 3: those friendship groups like what you were in Easy, it 832 00:34:07,840 --> 00:34:09,880 Speaker 3: actually just like people would become immune to it and 833 00:34:09,880 --> 00:34:13,000 Speaker 3: don't even like register. You need to point out that behavior. 834 00:34:13,040 --> 00:34:15,839 Speaker 3: Maybe you and you've said that Emily is aware of it, 835 00:34:15,880 --> 00:34:18,839 Speaker 3: and that Emily's aware of you not liking it. When 836 00:34:18,880 --> 00:34:21,479 Speaker 3: you've made someone aware and they're not defending you, they're 837 00:34:21,520 --> 00:34:23,600 Speaker 3: not a good friend. They're not something that you need 838 00:34:23,640 --> 00:34:25,600 Speaker 3: to surround yourself with it all the time. If I 839 00:34:25,680 --> 00:34:27,640 Speaker 3: wasn't aware of something that someone easy had said to 840 00:34:27,680 --> 00:34:29,279 Speaker 3: my face, and I wasn't aware of it easy boarded 841 00:34:29,400 --> 00:34:31,520 Speaker 3: up to me, I would then be over conscious about it. 842 00:34:31,520 --> 00:34:33,320 Speaker 3: And if they said it again, I would bring it 843 00:34:33,400 --> 00:34:35,120 Speaker 3: up to them straight away. I'm not afraid of conflict 844 00:34:35,120 --> 00:34:38,080 Speaker 3: when it comes to that stuff. Neither should Emily point 845 00:34:38,080 --> 00:34:40,200 Speaker 3: their period. They're not worth it being afraid of conflict. 846 00:34:40,560 --> 00:34:43,000 Speaker 3: And if someone calls your friend that and being afraid 847 00:34:43,040 --> 00:34:46,400 Speaker 3: of conflict against that, that's like, that's beyond that is 848 00:34:46,560 --> 00:34:49,000 Speaker 3: not a challenging thing to go what the fuck why. 849 00:34:48,920 --> 00:34:49,360 Speaker 1: Do you say that? 850 00:34:49,680 --> 00:34:51,719 Speaker 3: And I guess sometimes it can be a bit intimidating, 851 00:34:51,840 --> 00:34:55,840 Speaker 3: like holding your ground against guys, but friends that you 852 00:34:55,960 --> 00:34:57,040 Speaker 3: value are worth more than it. Now. 853 00:34:57,120 --> 00:34:59,759 Speaker 2: Boys like generally they're not going to drop you just 854 00:34:59,760 --> 00:35:02,480 Speaker 2: for saying, well, don't say that, that's not okay? 855 00:35:02,640 --> 00:35:07,440 Speaker 3: Yeah, probably respect no fuck this girl, yeah, but stop? 856 00:35:07,920 --> 00:35:10,520 Speaker 2: Yeah, And isn't that like a better solution? So to 857 00:35:10,560 --> 00:35:11,920 Speaker 2: have your friends stop being picked. 858 00:35:11,719 --> 00:35:13,959 Speaker 3: On in terms of your bolimia. I know it's super 859 00:35:14,000 --> 00:35:16,040 Speaker 3: hard to talk to people and sometimes you don't really 860 00:35:16,080 --> 00:35:17,959 Speaker 3: want to open up. If there's a cousin or someone 861 00:35:18,000 --> 00:35:20,120 Speaker 3: in your close family that you feel close to, maybe 862 00:35:20,200 --> 00:35:22,719 Speaker 3: try talk to them. Sometimes speaking to an adult can 863 00:35:22,719 --> 00:35:24,720 Speaker 3: be really hard. If you're at school, there's a teacher 864 00:35:24,719 --> 00:35:27,400 Speaker 3: that you really like, they're always My parents are both teachers, 865 00:35:27,440 --> 00:35:29,640 Speaker 3: and they always really appreciate it when girls and boys 866 00:35:29,680 --> 00:35:31,719 Speaker 3: would speak to them about that. I definitely think it's 867 00:35:31,760 --> 00:35:33,840 Speaker 3: worth you telling someone about your eating disorder because you 868 00:35:33,840 --> 00:35:35,640 Speaker 3: don't want it to get bad. And trust me, getting 869 00:35:35,640 --> 00:35:37,960 Speaker 3: out of that she is so hard, so take it 870 00:35:38,000 --> 00:35:39,920 Speaker 3: from me. You don't want to get on. 871 00:35:39,880 --> 00:35:40,560 Speaker 1: Top of it, babe. 872 00:35:40,680 --> 00:35:41,719 Speaker 3: Hope that you're okay. 873 00:35:42,080 --> 00:35:47,319 Speaker 2: Fuck them, Fuck the Jack, Jokob and Emily, fuck them 874 00:35:47,320 --> 00:35:51,000 Speaker 2: all right, guys, We absolutely love you. Thank you for listening, 875 00:35:51,040 --> 00:35:53,480 Speaker 2: and thank you for interesting us with your dilemmas. 876 00:35:53,560 --> 00:35:56,120 Speaker 3: Hopefully we helped you guys out or gave you some 877 00:35:56,160 --> 00:36:00,640 Speaker 3: good advice today, some good laughs yeah or not? Yeah, yeah, 878 00:36:00,880 --> 00:36:04,200 Speaker 3: Hopefully we entertained you on this lovely Tuesday. If you're 879 00:36:04,200 --> 00:36:06,120 Speaker 3: listening on time, But we love you and we'll see 880 00:36:06,160 --> 00:36:16,440 Speaker 3: you guys, next week, Bye bye,