Speaker 1: Welcome to the Things you Can't Unhear podcast. I'm your host,
Speaker 1: Maritza Barone. Get ready to hear moments that will help
Speaker 1: you to see the world differently and inspire you to
Speaker 1: become the happiest, healthiest and kindest version of you. Hello,
Speaker 1: my friend, and welcome back to Things you Can't Unhear.
Speaker 1: I hope you are doing well now. I want to
Speaker 1: share a bit of a story with you because I
Speaker 1: recently had one of those random conversations that really stayed
Speaker 1: with me. It was the type of chat that almost
Speaker 1: didn't happen because I felt tired that day and I
Speaker 1: was distracted. I just wasn't in the mood for a chat.
Speaker 1: But then it somehow ended up being exactly the conversation
Speaker 1: that I needed to hear. So my mother in law
Speaker 1: is staying with us the moment from Melbourne and she
Speaker 1: wanted to buy some swimwears, so I took her down
Speaker 1: to the local shop to look for something that she
Speaker 1: liked and as soon as we walked in, we were
Speaker 1: greeted by this very chirpy saleswoman. She was lovely, she
Speaker 1: was super chatty, super friendly, lots of energy. But honestly,
Speaker 1: this day I really couldn't be bothered. As I said,
Speaker 1: I was feeling flat, and it was one of those
Speaker 1: days where I really didn't want to make small talk.
Speaker 1: I just wanted to get in, do the thing, and leave.
Speaker 1: And I was there with my mother in law, as
Speaker 1: I said, and my sixteen year old daughter, and as
Speaker 1: my daughter and I were sitting outside the change room
Speaker 1: while my mother in law was trying things on, we
Speaker 1: had nowhere else to be, and the conversation just continued,
Speaker 1: so I surrendered to it. I surrendered to the conversation
Speaker 1: with the chirpy saleswoman, and funnily enough, it ended up,
Speaker 1: like I said, being one of those chats that made
Speaker 1: a big difference to me. We ended up talking for
Speaker 1: close to half an hour. My mother in law got involved,
Speaker 1: my daughter got involved, and now there were two saleswomen
Speaker 1: chatting to us as well. We spoke about body confidence, age, milestones, life, birthdays.
Speaker 1: One of the women, who was in her early sixties,
Speaker 1: was talking about the plans she wanted to make for
Speaker 1: her seventieth birthday. She wanted to plan a big party
Speaker 1: with friends and family, making it a really big fun
Speaker 1: event as many of us do, and we all said
Speaker 1: how amazing. That sounded We're like, good on, you go
Speaker 1: for it sounds great. Then the other saleswoman said something
Speaker 1: that really struck a chord and it stayed with me.
Speaker 1: She said, don't wait, and we all turned and looked
Speaker 1: at her, and she said, don't wait until your seventieth birthday.
Speaker 1: Have the damn party now. She told us that her
Speaker 1: best friend died at thirty nine and her mum died
Speaker 1: at sixty nine. Neither of them got to celebrate the
Speaker 1: milestone birthdays they thought they would one day reach. And
Speaker 1: she said, life isn't guaranteed. Celebrate it now. Don't wait
Speaker 1: until you're retired, don't wait until the kids grow up,
Speaker 1: don't wait until you lose the weight, don't wait until
Speaker 1: you have more money, more confidence, more time. And we
Speaker 1: all just stopped and thought about what she said, because
Speaker 1: she was right. We spend so much of our lives waiting.
Speaker 1: We tell ourselves things like I'll book the trip next year,
Speaker 1: I'll wear the outfit when I lose five kilos, I'll
Speaker 1: celebrate when I hit that goal. I'll start living when
Speaker 1: life feels a bit easier. But what if life is
Speaker 1: happening right now? What if we are missing it while
Speaker 1: we're waiting for something bigger and better and easier and
Speaker 1: more impressive to show up. She was so right. Life
Speaker 1: is not only meant to be celebrated in the huge
Speaker 1: milestone moments. Of course, we celebrate birthdays and weddings and
Speaker 1: anniversaries and graduations. But joy cannot only exist there. It
Speaker 1: has to exist in the ordinary too. Not everyone gets
Speaker 1: another year, not everyone gets another birth day, not everyone
Speaker 1: gets another chance. And I know this sounds heavy, but
Speaker 1: I actually find it incredibly freeing because it reminds us
Speaker 1: to stop postponing joy, to stop acting like life is
Speaker 1: something that starts later. So how do we celebrate life now?
Speaker 1: I think it starts first thing in the morning. How
Speaker 1: you begin your day matters. For a long time, when
Speaker 1: I was trying to rewire my own brain and become
Speaker 1: more positive, I made a conscious effort to protect my mornings,
Speaker 1: no news, no social media, and instead I would listen
Speaker 1: to five minutes of something uplifting, and for me, that
Speaker 1: was often Abraham Hicks. And for those who don't know
Speaker 1: Abraham Hicks, I'll put one of my favorite links in
Speaker 1: the show notes for you, do yourself a favor and
Speaker 1: click play on that after this, and I would fill
Speaker 1: my mind with positivity and possibility before the world had
Speaker 1: a chance to tell me who I needed to be
Speaker 1: and what I needed to do that day. Even something
Speaker 1: as simple as waking up and saying today is going
Speaker 1: to be a great day. That affirmation. It sounds so basic,
Speaker 1: but it works because what we focus on expands, and
Speaker 1: when you start your day looking for joy and gratitude
Speaker 1: and possibility, you often find more of it. Another thing
Speaker 1: is dancing, Honestly, dance more, not once a year at
Speaker 1: a wedding, not only when you're at a concert. Dance
Speaker 1: in your kitchen, Dance when you're cleaning the house, Dance
Speaker 1: in the shower, dance with your kids to Dora the
Speaker 1: Damn Explorer, dance with your dog, and dance badly if
Speaker 1: you have to. I used to dance all the time
Speaker 1: in my twenties, and then somewhere along the way, because
Speaker 1: I stopped going out to places where dancing happened, I
Speaker 1: realized I'd stop dancing all together, and I missed it.
Speaker 1: I missed the joy of dancing. It shifts your energy,
Speaker 1: It gets you out of your head and back into
Speaker 1: your body. And now I dance wherever I can I'm
Speaker 1: not waiting for a party invitation anymore? And another one.
Speaker 1: Tell people that you love them all the time. Don't
Speaker 1: save it for the wedding speech, don't save it for
Speaker 1: the milestone birthday, and most importantly, please don't save it
Speaker 1: for the eulogy at the funeral. Tell your friends you
Speaker 1: appreciate them. Tell your parents you love them, Tell your
Speaker 1: children you're proud of them. Tell your partner they matter
Speaker 1: to you. We're often so quick to think loving thoughts
Speaker 1: but not actually say them out loud. And the truth
Speaker 1: is we never really know how much time we have.
Speaker 1: None of us do so, say or do the thing now.
Speaker 1: Life is not waiting for us to reach some perfect
Speaker 1: point before we deserve joy. Joy is actually available to
Speaker 1: us right now, in the mess, in the mundane, in
Speaker 1: the middle of hard seasons, in the very ordinary days.
Speaker 1: Today is worth celebrating too. Do you agree? Let me
Speaker 1: know what you think of this and I hope it
Speaker 1: helped you feel a little bit more positive today. Share
Speaker 1: it with someone who you think might enjoy listening to
Speaker 1: this too, and maybe if it made you feel good,
Speaker 1: play it tomorrow and the next morning and the next morning.
Speaker 1: Big love to you and thanks for being here for
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