WEBVTT - 3 Ways To Learn How To Celebrate Life Everyday with Maritza Barone

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to the Things you Can't Unhear podcast. I'm your host,

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<v Speaker 1>Maritza Barone. Get ready to hear moments that will help

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<v Speaker 1>you to see the world differently and inspire you to

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<v Speaker 1>become the happiest, healthiest and kindest version of you. Hello,

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<v Speaker 1>my friend, and welcome back to Things you Can't Unhear.

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<v Speaker 1>I hope you are doing well now. I want to

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<v Speaker 1>share a bit of a story with you because I

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<v Speaker 1>recently had one of those random conversations that really stayed

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<v Speaker 1>with me. It was the type of chat that almost

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<v Speaker 1>didn't happen because I felt tired that day and I

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<v Speaker 1>was distracted. I just wasn't in the mood for a chat.

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<v Speaker 1>But then it somehow ended up being exactly the conversation

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<v Speaker 1>that I needed to hear. So my mother in law

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<v Speaker 1>is staying with us the moment from Melbourne and she

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<v Speaker 1>wanted to buy some swimwears, so I took her down

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<v Speaker 1>to the local shop to look for something that she

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<v Speaker 1>liked and as soon as we walked in, we were

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<v Speaker 1>greeted by this very chirpy saleswoman. She was lovely, she

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<v Speaker 1>was super chatty, super friendly, lots of energy. But honestly,

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<v Speaker 1>this day I really couldn't be bothered. As I said,

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<v Speaker 1>I was feeling flat, and it was one of those

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<v Speaker 1>days where I really didn't want to make small talk.

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<v Speaker 1>I just wanted to get in, do the thing, and leave.

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<v Speaker 1>And I was there with my mother in law, as

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<v Speaker 1>I said, and my sixteen year old daughter, and as

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<v Speaker 1>my daughter and I were sitting outside the change room

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<v Speaker 1>while my mother in law was trying things on, we

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<v Speaker 1>had nowhere else to be, and the conversation just continued,

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<v Speaker 1>so I surrendered to it. I surrendered to the conversation

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<v Speaker 1>with the chirpy saleswoman, and funnily enough, it ended up,

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<v Speaker 1>like I said, being one of those chats that made

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<v Speaker 1>a big difference to me. We ended up talking for

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<v Speaker 1>close to half an hour. My mother in law got involved,

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<v Speaker 1>my daughter got involved, and now there were two saleswomen

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<v Speaker 1>chatting to us as well. We spoke about body confidence, age, milestones, life, birthdays.

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<v Speaker 1>One of the women, who was in her early sixties,

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<v Speaker 1>was talking about the plans she wanted to make for

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<v Speaker 1>her seventieth birthday. She wanted to plan a big party

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<v Speaker 1>with friends and family, making it a really big fun

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<v Speaker 1>event as many of us do, and we all said

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<v Speaker 1>how amazing. That sounded We're like, good on, you go

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<v Speaker 1>for it sounds great. Then the other saleswoman said something

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<v Speaker 1>that really struck a chord and it stayed with me.

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<v Speaker 1>She said, don't wait, and we all turned and looked

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<v Speaker 1>at her, and she said, don't wait until your seventieth birthday.

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<v Speaker 1>Have the damn party now. She told us that her

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<v Speaker 1>best friend died at thirty nine and her mum died

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<v Speaker 1>at sixty nine. Neither of them got to celebrate the

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<v Speaker 1>milestone birthdays they thought they would one day reach. And

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<v Speaker 1>she said, life isn't guaranteed. Celebrate it now. Don't wait

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<v Speaker 1>until you're retired, don't wait until the kids grow up,

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<v Speaker 1>don't wait until you lose the weight, don't wait until

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<v Speaker 1>you have more money, more confidence, more time. And we

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<v Speaker 1>all just stopped and thought about what she said, because

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<v Speaker 1>she was right. We spend so much of our lives waiting.

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<v Speaker 1>We tell ourselves things like I'll book the trip next year,

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<v Speaker 1>I'll wear the outfit when I lose five kilos, I'll

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<v Speaker 1>celebrate when I hit that goal. I'll start living when

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<v Speaker 1>life feels a bit easier. But what if life is

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<v Speaker 1>happening right now? What if we are missing it while

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<v Speaker 1>we're waiting for something bigger and better and easier and

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<v Speaker 1>more impressive to show up. She was so right. Life

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<v Speaker 1>is not only meant to be celebrated in the huge

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<v Speaker 1>milestone moments. Of course, we celebrate birthdays and weddings and

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<v Speaker 1>anniversaries and graduations. But joy cannot only exist there. It

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<v Speaker 1>has to exist in the ordinary too. Not everyone gets

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<v Speaker 1>another year, not everyone gets another birth day, not everyone

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<v Speaker 1>gets another chance. And I know this sounds heavy, but

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<v Speaker 1>I actually find it incredibly freeing because it reminds us

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<v Speaker 1>to stop postponing joy, to stop acting like life is

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<v Speaker 1>something that starts later. So how do we celebrate life now?

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<v Speaker 1>I think it starts first thing in the morning. How

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<v Speaker 1>you begin your day matters. For a long time, when

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<v Speaker 1>I was trying to rewire my own brain and become

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<v Speaker 1>more positive, I made a conscious effort to protect my mornings,

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<v Speaker 1>no news, no social media, and instead I would listen

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<v Speaker 1>to five minutes of something uplifting, and for me, that

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<v Speaker 1>was often Abraham Hicks. And for those who don't know

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<v Speaker 1>Abraham Hicks, I'll put one of my favorite links in

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<v Speaker 1>the show notes for you, do yourself a favor and

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<v Speaker 1>click play on that after this, and I would fill

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<v Speaker 1>my mind with positivity and possibility before the world had

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<v Speaker 1>a chance to tell me who I needed to be

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<v Speaker 1>and what I needed to do that day. Even something

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<v Speaker 1>as simple as waking up and saying today is going

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<v Speaker 1>to be a great day. That affirmation. It sounds so basic,

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<v Speaker 1>but it works because what we focus on expands, and

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<v Speaker 1>when you start your day looking for joy and gratitude

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<v Speaker 1>and possibility, you often find more of it. Another thing

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<v Speaker 1>is dancing, Honestly, dance more, not once a year at

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<v Speaker 1>a wedding, not only when you're at a concert. Dance

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<v Speaker 1>in your kitchen, Dance when you're cleaning the house, Dance

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<v Speaker 1>in the shower, dance with your kids to Dora the

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<v Speaker 1>Damn Explorer, dance with your dog, and dance badly if

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<v Speaker 1>you have to. I used to dance all the time

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<v Speaker 1>in my twenties, and then somewhere along the way, because

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<v Speaker 1>I stopped going out to places where dancing happened, I

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<v Speaker 1>realized I'd stop dancing all together, and I missed it.

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<v Speaker 1>I missed the joy of dancing. It shifts your energy,

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<v Speaker 1>It gets you out of your head and back into

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<v Speaker 1>your body. And now I dance wherever I can I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not waiting for a party invitation anymore? And another one.

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<v Speaker 1>Tell people that you love them all the time. Don't

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<v Speaker 1>save it for the wedding speech, don't save it for

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<v Speaker 1>the milestone birthday, and most importantly, please don't save it

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<v Speaker 1>for the eulogy at the funeral. Tell your friends you

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<v Speaker 1>appreciate them. Tell your parents you love them, Tell your

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<v Speaker 1>children you're proud of them. Tell your partner they matter

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<v Speaker 1>to you. We're often so quick to think loving thoughts

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<v Speaker 1>but not actually say them out loud. And the truth

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<v Speaker 1>is we never really know how much time we have.

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<v Speaker 1>None of us do so, say or do the thing now.

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<v Speaker 1>Life is not waiting for us to reach some perfect

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<v Speaker 1>point before we deserve joy. Joy is actually available to

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<v Speaker 1>us right now, in the mess, in the mundane, in

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<v Speaker 1>the middle of hard seasons, in the very ordinary days.

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<v Speaker 1>Today is worth celebrating too. Do you agree? Let me

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<v Speaker 1>know what you think of this and I hope it

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<v Speaker 1>helped you feel a little bit more positive today. Share

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<v Speaker 1>it with someone who you think might enjoy listening to

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<v Speaker 1>this too, and maybe if it made you feel good,

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<v Speaker 1>play it tomorrow and the next morning and the next morning.

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<v Speaker 1>Big love to you and thanks for being here for

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