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Speaker 1: The Relatables podcast is hosted by myself, Audie Clark aka Mummy,

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Speaker 1: and my partner in crime is the Jake Craig aka Daddy,

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Speaker 1: who's still not here, but we're just thinking about it.

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Speaker 1: I think this is the longest break we've ever had

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Speaker 1: will be the first episode back as this episode is

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Speaker 1: still another trip down memory lane. I really liked the

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Speaker 1: last one and how it turned out, I guess just

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Speaker 1: a bit of reflection and today's episode Jake has actually picked.

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Speaker 1: But before we get into that, I just want to

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Speaker 1: a week or two. But getting to the episode today, guys,

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Speaker 1: Jake has picked it. He said, we were talking about

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Speaker 1: it and he said, I was like, oh, what's a

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Speaker 1: good episode that like you really remember, like left the

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Speaker 1: mark in your brain, And he said, the first time

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Speaker 1: we did the Bare Minimum four men. So this episode

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Speaker 1: came out in twenty twenty four on the thirteenth of May,

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Speaker 1: so it's a long time ago. And this kind of

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Speaker 1: started a bit of a snowball effect because the Bare

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Speaker 1: minim for men went super viral for us, which we

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Speaker 1: are very grateful for. And I think we got a

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Speaker 1: lot of new listeners from that. So we owe quite

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Speaker 1: a bit to the Bare Minimum four Men. And also,

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Speaker 1: I just guess the concept itself is I guess, sort

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Speaker 1: of putting men in their place, but also uplifting them

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Speaker 1: and telling them to raise their standards, like come on,

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Speaker 1: come on, so Battis, we will see you next week

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Speaker 1: back in our normal studio, but please enjoy the Bare

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Speaker 1: Minimum for Men. Coming up on relatables was the bare

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Speaker 1: minimum for the modern man being there for cuddle time.

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Speaker 2: Ooh, I like that as much as we aren't. I mean,

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Speaker 2: I actually liked so. The bare minimum for the modern

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Speaker 2: woman is it's okay to be the big experience, sometimes.

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Speaker 1: Relatable. You are listening to relatables. Welcome back, everybody to

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Speaker 1: another episode today. I am joined on my right by

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Speaker 1: my better looking, shorter mister Jake Craig. That's started so good.

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Speaker 2: And to my left is the non car door opening

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Speaker 2: for his girlfriend Oddie class Hey, don't expose me, I

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Speaker 2: for dinner, Oddie.

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Speaker 1: My girlfriend.

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Speaker 2: Sorry, yeah, Oddie, his girlfriend, me, my girlfriend, and some

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Speaker 3: We were leaving, okay, I could see. I could see

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Speaker 1: I had to.

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Speaker 2: Called him out.

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Speaker 1: That's how did to help?

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Speaker 1: See what I did?

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Speaker 2: So you jump in and open it through the other side,

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Speaker 2: you sucking cheat?

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Speaker 1: Still did it? Wow? I do do it when I

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Speaker 1: picked up a puppy, yes the other day, and we

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Speaker 1: Give you that? Yeah, how fun. I'll get better. But Jake, today,

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Speaker 1: I wanted to start things with what's the bare minimum

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Speaker 2: Think there's there is some some women out there that

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Speaker 2: more than the bare minimum. Right, So we would like

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Speaker 2: to give you, guys, guys and girls the bare minimum

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Speaker 1: And more exactly. Yeah, you want to start on me,

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Speaker 1: you go first. Okay, what's the bare minimum for the

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Speaker 2: Hey? I like that simple. It's not hard, it's not hard.

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Speaker 2: TikTok nice nice restaurants wherever you live in my area.

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Speaker 1: And who doesn't like nice food? I love the.

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Speaker 2: Act of actually going out, getting dressed up together, looking

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Speaker 2: I've got a couple. I've got a few simple ones

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Speaker 1: Love it? Yeah? Simple? And again I've got the similar

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Speaker 2: And it's always like, yeah, but what's she gonna get me?

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Speaker 2: What's the guy version of flowers?

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Speaker 1: You know what?

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Speaker 2: Fucking nothing? We don't need that ship.

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Speaker 1: That's a great point.

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Speaker 2: Honestly, we've done it before. We've asked everyone what's the

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Speaker 1: Just fair? I like that one. What's the bare minimum

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Speaker 2: Oh when she's venting. No logical solutions, all right, no

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Speaker 2: logical solutions. Be there emotionally, yes, be there emotionally bare

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Speaker 2: minimum for the modern man. Look at what face creams

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Speaker 2: and other ship she uses. All right, and buy her

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Speaker 2: a double to have in your bathroom. Wow, pack atoletry's

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Speaker 2: bagge all the time.

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Speaker 1: That's so smart, that's all. Imagine you did that, and

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Speaker 2: Your bathroom she's You're at her house, maybe she's packing

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Speaker 2: my house for you. The only thing with that. Sometimes

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Speaker 2: it's very very expensive that stuff. I'm talking just like

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Speaker 2: face creams, like face wash.

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Speaker 2: Look, I'm thinking like if it's if it's over thirty bucks, if.

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Speaker 1: You really loves it, some of those creams get us

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you got that Keels. Shit, I'm not paying I'm

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Speaker 2: not playing for keels.

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Speaker 1: What's the bare minimum for the modern man kind of

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Actually, yeah, sometimes it's a little scary. I think

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Speaker 2: because I don't want to word it improperly. Oh you

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Speaker 2: Yeah, agreed, agreed, bare minimum for the modern man went

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Speaker 2: at a restaurant pull her chair out for her?

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Speaker 1: Is that it? That's it? Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Just agree, gentlemen being a gentleman and pull the chair.

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Speaker 2: When you're going up as a dude. I don't know

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Speaker 1: But I knew the thing of romantics, Like you pull

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Speaker 2: I don't think I've ever been afraid to do that.

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Speaker 2: I think I just always forget. I've never I've never

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Speaker 2: I don't think I was never afraid. I was just

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's funny.

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Speaker 2: It's also a little bit awkward as all, because it's like,

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Speaker 2: so when you pull it out and she sits down,

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Speaker 2: do you then help her push it back in or

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Speaker 2: do you just let her scooch in on her own.

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Speaker 1: I've seen Russ from friends do it and he like

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Speaker 1: scooches you back in and it looks so awkward. We

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Speaker 1: don't want to be like, what's the bare minimum for

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Speaker 1: the modern man being there for cuddle time? Oh?

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Speaker 2: I like that as much as we aren't.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I actually like that cuddle, so I'm hidden

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Speaker 1: miss Yeah, I'm sometimes there for it, sometimes not, but

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Speaker 1: It's sort of the thing they grow fonder when they're together. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: Oh no, bad boy overrules. The cheapness was the bare

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Speaker 1: Giving them all this like you're going to be with me,

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Speaker 1: I'm proud of you. I'm proud to be your boyfriend.

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Speaker 2: I admire you all that different stuf. Yeah, yeah, I

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Speaker 1: Bare minimum for the modern man. Send her funny memes. Yes, yes,

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Speaker 2: You should have put that one. Reply to her memes

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm pretty Look, I'm pretty good at it.

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Speaker 1: I'm good at it.

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Speaker 2: The person I'm not good at it with is my sister.

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Speaker 2: I kind of want just making an effort of you

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Speaker 1: I guess it's not just being there, being present.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, if they have no friends and come lucky,

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Speaker 2: I'm our only friend.

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Speaker 1: My last one is bare minimum for the modern man.

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Speaker 2: Just use your brain, use your just in the situation

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Speaker 1: Please. It's there for a reason.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you have it for a reason. You know right

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Speaker 2: from wrong? You know what's disrespectful? You know what's going

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Speaker 2: to make her happy, you know what's going to make

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Speaker 1: Just use it. That's funny. Jake's last one was kind

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Speaker 2: Oh? Yeah, hopefully, hopefully.

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Speaker 1: Try try That's all you can do. Okay. Up next

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Speaker 1: is girl next Door or man eater? Jake, I wanted

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Speaker 1: to ask you to clarify what is a man eater?

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Speaker 1: What is a man eater? Okay?

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Speaker 2: A man eater is someone that looks like they're gonna

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Speaker 2: eat you up, spit you out, and break your heart.

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Speaker 1: All right, That's what a man eater is.

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Speaker 2: And the girl next door is a girl next door

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Speaker 2: is like I would say, you know that there's a song,

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Speaker 2: I wear T shirts, She's cheer captain and I'm on

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Speaker 2: the bleachers. In that song, Taylor Swift is the girl

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Speaker 2: next door and she.

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Speaker 1: Is the man eater.

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Speaker 2: The girl that she says is she's describing and what

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Speaker 2: we do on YouTube, it's get send in a couple

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Speaker 2: So if you want some visuals, head on over to YouTube.

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Speaker 2: Otherwise the episode is going to be the same throughout. Okay,

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Speaker 2: our next contestant is there's no way I'm pronouncing that.

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Speaker 1: We've got as that can't be her name. There's no way.

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Speaker 2: Alf half Papa do Polu half half Papa Dopolu. Let's

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Speaker 2: call it Papa, Let's call it Papa. Papa said absolutely

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Speaker 2: love the podcast. Have my permission to use my instuaff

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Speaker 2: a Girl next Door versus man Eater?

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Speaker 1: Picture one, Picture one, hmmm, spicy the dress? Is that

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Speaker 1: what stands out for me? What's it called? Wing? The

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Speaker 1: stuff on top of your eyelid shadow vibes chuck it

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Speaker 1: ere like that orange eye shadow. Don't you reckon?

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Speaker 2: I feel like slick back with the ponies. I slip

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Speaker 2: back bun yeah, less man, need to slip back. Ponytail

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Speaker 1: I'm reading all the signs, the eye shadow, that little

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Speaker 2: Picture one, Picture two, this is matrix is fun.

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Speaker 1: Let me tell it. It's the leather jacket. I've never

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Speaker 1: seen anything not gonna lie. I really like that. I

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Speaker 2: If I asked around on a date, she'd she'd be

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Speaker 2: expecting five stars, you know, she'd be expecting me to

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Speaker 2: bring her like a fucking bracelet, like a guoccy bracelet

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Speaker 2: as a gear. It's the black and Black goals, black

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Speaker 2: matrix I'm coming. And Picture three it's a bit of

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Speaker 1: Like the flowers on the front. Were they flowers? What

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Speaker 1: do you call it? Like it's called like a tinsel. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: she's giving me like Russian model vibes. You know what

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna say, man Eater All three was that our

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Speaker 2: first sweep?

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Speaker 1: I think it is a clean sweep, clean sweep of

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Speaker 1: man Eater the whole way, Papa or sorry, but we're

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Speaker 1: looking in manaid. The caption was Merry Christmas, you feel

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Speaker 1: the animals. That's man Ata as fuck. Agreed, Agreed, belave.

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Speaker 2: It to that. You know what to do if you

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Speaker 2: want to get rated. Submitted on Instagram.

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Speaker 1: Okay up. Next is the lemmas sent in by you guys,

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Speaker 1: and this one's title is juicy Tea Alert. Last year

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Speaker 1: my brother's twenty first I got tipsy and ended up

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Speaker 1: hooking up with a mutual friend. Before things he got heated.

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Speaker 1: Now he occasionally messages me begging for a repeat performance

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Speaker 1: until recently. Fast forward till today. He and his girlfriend

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Speaker 1: So do I spill the tea and tell his girlfriend

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Speaker 1: of it. I have zero interest in him sexually anymore,

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Speaker 1: but I can't help but wonder if I'm the only

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Speaker 2: WHOA wait?

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Speaker 1: Okay, are they're not together anymore, the guy and the girl. No,

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Speaker 2: Look, because they're not together. Depending on how it ended,

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Speaker 2: and it's ended. I would say, does this girl say

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Speaker 1: No? I ah, okay? Should she just stay out of it?

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Speaker 1: You slept with him on a night out.

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Speaker 2: You didn't know we had a girlfriend, and then it

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Speaker 2: of if you were going to tell her, you really

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Speaker 2: could have should have told her then? Yeah, exactlytead of

437
00:21:24,640 --> 00:21:25,480
Speaker 2: waiting till now.

438
00:21:26,119 --> 00:21:27,399
Speaker 1: But does she have a right to know? Is the

439
00:21:27,440 --> 00:21:30,600
Speaker 1: girlfriend who's having her baby his baby? I mean, because

440
00:21:30,640 --> 00:21:36,240
Speaker 1: they're not together. No, she just sit on it? Should

441
00:21:36,240 --> 00:21:39,760
Speaker 1: she sit on it again? I'm kidding, I'm kidding, Im

442
00:21:39,800 --> 00:21:42,960
Speaker 1: kidding on gidding, on gidding. Should she sip on the

443
00:21:43,040 --> 00:21:47,639
Speaker 1: tea as she would say if I was her?

444
00:21:47,720 --> 00:21:49,879
Speaker 2: Okay, So I've just had sex with this guy and

445
00:21:50,240 --> 00:21:52,840
Speaker 2: as he would say, round of applause, was great.

446
00:21:56,359 --> 00:21:58,200
Speaker 1: He's asking to do it again. I'm like, no, you're

447
00:21:58,240 --> 00:22:00,520
Speaker 1: taking like this is the wrong thing to do. And out.

448
00:22:00,720 --> 00:22:03,520
Speaker 1: Fast forward. I find out they've broken up and they're

449
00:22:03,520 --> 00:22:05,600
Speaker 1: having a kid together. But I feel like there's something

450
00:22:05,600 --> 00:22:07,000
Speaker 1: in me that just wants to tell this girl what

451
00:22:07,080 --> 00:22:08,960
Speaker 1: a dad of the child's going to has been doing.

452
00:22:11,920 --> 00:22:14,320
Speaker 1: Maybe maybe if you should tell her in case they

453
00:22:14,320 --> 00:22:17,159
Speaker 1: do get back together in the future, I say leave it.

454
00:22:17,560 --> 00:22:18,239
Speaker 1: You can leave it.

455
00:22:18,280 --> 00:22:20,000
Speaker 2: I say leave it because if they're a chance for

456
00:22:20,040 --> 00:22:21,960
Speaker 2: going to get back together in the future, that means

457
00:22:21,960 --> 00:22:23,679
Speaker 2: that kid's going to have a non broken family.

458
00:22:24,720 --> 00:22:26,199
Speaker 1: Good point. I would say, leave it.

459
00:22:26,640 --> 00:22:29,200
Speaker 2: I am agreeing it's unfortunately he's a shit dude, Yes,

460
00:22:29,520 --> 00:22:30,200
Speaker 2: but now there's.

461
00:22:30,000 --> 00:22:32,800
Speaker 1: A kid involved. I agree the benefit of the kid. Yeah,

462
00:22:32,920 --> 00:22:42,320
Speaker 1: leave it. Definitely leave it. Leave it, simple as that. Okay,

463
00:22:42,400 --> 00:22:45,919
Speaker 1: up next, Guys, we often preach for a man to

464
00:22:45,960 --> 00:22:49,160
Speaker 1: be in touch with their feelings and be an emotional

465
00:22:49,160 --> 00:22:51,200
Speaker 1: outlet for their girl. Yeah.

466
00:22:51,280 --> 00:22:54,080
Speaker 2: Notdy and I I wouldn't say we're the most in

467
00:22:54,080 --> 00:22:55,280
Speaker 2: touch of our feelings, but we do.

468
00:22:55,320 --> 00:22:58,040
Speaker 1: We do well. We preach trying and that's what we're

469
00:22:58,080 --> 00:23:00,280
Speaker 1: going to do right now. So we both going to

470
00:23:00,320 --> 00:23:03,960
Speaker 1: say a time when we've both been hurt in.

471
00:23:04,040 --> 00:23:07,280
Speaker 2: Life, and I would like to point out so we

472
00:23:07,400 --> 00:23:10,880
Speaker 2: get a lot of dilemmas about it. So I think

473
00:23:10,880 --> 00:23:13,640
Speaker 2: it's kind of like a cool It would be someone

474
00:23:13,680 --> 00:23:15,119
Speaker 2: that has a dilemma sitting that we may not have

475
00:23:15,160 --> 00:23:18,160
Speaker 2: read yet that's about them being hurt and maybe hearing

476
00:23:18,160 --> 00:23:21,320
Speaker 2: about us being hurt, and then how we dealt with

477
00:23:21,359 --> 00:23:22,480
Speaker 2: it or how we didn't deal.

478
00:23:22,400 --> 00:23:25,840
Speaker 1: With it good or or something. Yes, yeah, yeah, yea, yeah, yeah.

479
00:23:25,960 --> 00:23:28,560
Speaker 1: It's just opening up a little bit. And hopefully I've

480
00:23:28,560 --> 00:23:34,639
Speaker 1: never said mine. Really, he's going to go first. Yeah, thanks, Okay,

481
00:23:34,680 --> 00:23:38,320
Speaker 1: a time when I've been hurt. It's quite recent really,

482
00:23:38,359 --> 00:23:43,560
Speaker 1: So I've mentioned on the podcast before that my dad

483
00:23:43,600 --> 00:23:48,520
Speaker 1: has prostate cancer and there was a period of time

484
00:23:48,600 --> 00:23:52,440
Speaker 1: there where he wasn't looking that good. And however, right

485
00:23:52,480 --> 00:23:55,480
Speaker 1: now he's actually in remission and there's not many symptoms,

486
00:23:55,520 --> 00:23:58,280
Speaker 1: almost point zero, which is really really good. But there

487
00:23:58,320 --> 00:24:00,000
Speaker 1: was a period of time there where like it wasn't

488
00:24:00,040 --> 00:24:03,440
Speaker 1: looking good, and there on the cards were a timeframe

489
00:24:03,480 --> 00:24:06,280
Speaker 1: of how long you'd have left to live, and in

490
00:24:06,320 --> 00:24:11,480
Speaker 1: my head, I was I was thinking there's no I

491
00:24:11,520 --> 00:24:13,760
Speaker 1: was dwelling in my head that I might lose my dad.

492
00:24:13,800 --> 00:24:16,320
Speaker 1: And I don't think there's any way like any person

493
00:24:16,320 --> 00:24:19,880
Speaker 1: can ever prepare for that, and when I was really hurt,

494
00:24:19,840 --> 00:24:22,479
Speaker 1: it was just like thinking of what life would be

495
00:24:22,640 --> 00:24:25,560
Speaker 1: like without him. So my dilma hasn't really happened yet,

496
00:24:25,640 --> 00:24:27,960
Speaker 1: but it's something that every person will eventually have to

497
00:24:28,000 --> 00:24:29,919
Speaker 1: go through, and I don't think they can prepare for it.

498
00:24:30,680 --> 00:24:33,439
Speaker 1: And I don't think as a son, there's probably not

499
00:24:33,560 --> 00:24:36,359
Speaker 1: another man in the world I look up to rely

500
00:24:36,560 --> 00:24:39,640
Speaker 1: on and he's a shoulder to lean on other than

501
00:24:39,920 --> 00:24:43,719
Speaker 1: there's no other person I admire one dad, yeah, as

502
00:24:43,800 --> 00:24:46,440
Speaker 1: much as my dad, And I'd never have the I've

503
00:24:46,440 --> 00:24:49,240
Speaker 1: never had the thought before of like, what's my life

504
00:24:49,280 --> 00:24:51,119
Speaker 1: going to be like when my dad's not here? Do

505
00:24:51,200 --> 00:24:53,719
Speaker 1: you think about that? You know? And I was really

506
00:24:53,760 --> 00:24:55,760
Speaker 1: really sad, And every time I think about it even

507
00:24:55,800 --> 00:24:58,000
Speaker 1: brings my eyes to a little bit of a water

508
00:24:58,119 --> 00:25:02,480
Speaker 1: because I'm like reality, Yeah, it was nearly a reality,

509
00:25:02,480 --> 00:25:04,479
Speaker 1: and I'm not prepared for it, and I don't think

510
00:25:04,520 --> 00:25:06,119
Speaker 1: anyone ever can be prepared for it. And I was

511
00:25:06,160 --> 00:25:08,479
Speaker 1: just like, fuck, like this is just like life, Like

512
00:25:08,600 --> 00:25:10,600
Speaker 1: everyone goes through it and everyone gets through it, but

513
00:25:10,720 --> 00:25:13,160
Speaker 1: like I don't want to face that anytime soon.

514
00:25:14,400 --> 00:25:17,200
Speaker 2: Honestly, No, Yeah, that is ins I feel like, can

515
00:25:17,240 --> 00:25:20,760
Speaker 2: you even even let's say, when you're older, do you

516
00:25:20,800 --> 00:25:22,080
Speaker 2: reckon you're ever ready for it?

517
00:25:22,800 --> 00:25:25,359
Speaker 1: That's what I thought. I was like, surely everyone's parents

518
00:25:25,359 --> 00:25:28,560
Speaker 1: die and like when they're like thirty and then it happens.

519
00:25:28,600 --> 00:25:30,399
Speaker 1: But I don't think you can prepare for it. Yeah,

520
00:25:30,480 --> 00:25:33,240
Speaker 1: Like I'm twenty four almost and I'm just like twenty

521
00:25:33,280 --> 00:25:35,440
Speaker 1: fourth too early. Yeah, I think so, But it happens

522
00:25:35,440 --> 00:25:37,000
Speaker 1: to a lot of people. We've had friends who's lost

523
00:25:37,000 --> 00:25:37,920
Speaker 1: their parents.

524
00:25:38,080 --> 00:25:42,120
Speaker 2: We've got yeah, we've got quite a few actually, think

525
00:25:42,240 --> 00:25:45,199
Speaker 2: like five friends, I think so. Some of them have

526
00:25:45,280 --> 00:25:47,080
Speaker 2: lost their parents and then some of them have parents

527
00:25:47,119 --> 00:25:47,439
Speaker 2: with it.

528
00:25:48,000 --> 00:25:49,639
Speaker 1: And I was just I was just thinking to myself.

529
00:25:49,680 --> 00:25:51,760
Speaker 1: I was like, there's no possible way I can ever

530
00:25:51,800 --> 00:25:54,800
Speaker 1: be ready for this. No, And it made me really

531
00:25:54,880 --> 00:25:56,679
Speaker 1: sad to like what life would be like without this

532
00:25:56,720 --> 00:26:01,760
Speaker 1: man in my life. Yeah. Fuck man. My message would takeaway.

533
00:26:01,840 --> 00:26:03,960
Speaker 1: Just tell the people around you love them, and make

534
00:26:04,000 --> 00:26:05,359
Speaker 1: the most of them while they're here, because they're not

535
00:26:05,359 --> 00:26:07,720
Speaker 1: here forever. Get your prostate checked. Yeah, yeah, that's a

536
00:26:07,720 --> 00:26:08,920
Speaker 1: good thing for men, even though we don't have a

537
00:26:08,960 --> 00:26:11,040
Speaker 1: lot of men listening. Get checked early. I'm going to

538
00:26:11,080 --> 00:26:13,160
Speaker 1: have to because it's genetic it's a genetic thing. Yeah,

539
00:26:13,160 --> 00:26:14,959
Speaker 1: so when when will you get checked? When you get

540
00:26:15,000 --> 00:26:16,800
Speaker 1: checked at thirty, But I even might get it earlier.

541
00:26:16,920 --> 00:26:17,160
Speaker 1: I could.

542
00:26:17,280 --> 00:26:21,040
Speaker 2: I could have sworn that it was up to like fifty.

543
00:26:21,119 --> 00:26:25,200
Speaker 2: Now really I could be wrong, but.

544
00:26:25,160 --> 00:26:26,840
Speaker 1: All the a lot of things we can'cer if you

545
00:26:26,840 --> 00:26:29,360
Speaker 1: get it early, you can treat it, you can yeah

546
00:26:29,800 --> 00:26:31,400
Speaker 1: yeah yeah, so.

547
00:26:31,840 --> 00:26:35,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, right, well that's see, that's that's something you know

548
00:26:35,840 --> 00:26:37,840
Speaker 2: about Audi now this is Yeah, that's the thing. We

549
00:26:37,920 --> 00:26:39,480
Speaker 2: kind of I feel like we wanted to be some

550
00:26:39,480 --> 00:26:43,879
Speaker 2: some sort of personal on the podcast. Yeah, mine would

551
00:26:43,880 --> 00:26:48,119
Speaker 2: be this is it's also very personal. It's like but

552
00:26:48,240 --> 00:26:49,840
Speaker 2: it's like I don't know, it's kind of like.

553
00:26:49,800 --> 00:26:54,240
Speaker 1: Part of I guess my life, and.

554
00:26:55,920 --> 00:26:59,200
Speaker 2: Like because it also happened to me, I think it's

555
00:26:59,280 --> 00:27:03,080
Speaker 2: like I should be allowed to talk about it. I'm

556
00:27:03,080 --> 00:27:05,120
Speaker 2: going to go in like a series of events almost.

557
00:27:05,920 --> 00:27:09,720
Speaker 2: So Audio and I went traveling up I think I

558
00:27:09,760 --> 00:27:12,720
Speaker 2: think I've told you you're gonna know what I'm saying

559
00:27:12,720 --> 00:27:14,120
Speaker 2: for the first bit, and I think I have told

560
00:27:14,160 --> 00:27:17,680
Speaker 2: you the second bit. So Audio and I went traveling

561
00:27:18,880 --> 00:27:21,960
Speaker 2: up the East Coast, Australia.

562
00:27:21,200 --> 00:27:24,280
Speaker 1: And when we left they had a girlfriend and.

563
00:27:26,200 --> 00:27:29,359
Speaker 2: I was just like probably pretty young, pretty dumb, pretty immature,

564
00:27:30,640 --> 00:27:34,280
Speaker 2: and I just wanted to go traveling with body, and

565
00:27:34,320 --> 00:27:37,640
Speaker 2: then also didn't like want to have a time frame

566
00:27:37,680 --> 00:27:39,840
Speaker 2: and when I'd be home. And so this is what

567
00:27:39,880 --> 00:27:41,600
Speaker 2: I was telling her as well, like I was being

568
00:27:41,640 --> 00:27:45,359
Speaker 2: pretty fucking bad boyfriend of the sense of like I'm leaving.

569
00:27:45,080 --> 00:27:48,600
Speaker 1: And I don't know when I'm coming back, and.

570
00:27:50,040 --> 00:27:53,479
Speaker 2: COVID was happening pretty heavily down here where we are,

571
00:27:53,960 --> 00:27:55,639
Speaker 2: and we were running away from it almost we were

572
00:27:55,640 --> 00:27:59,000
Speaker 2: getting pretty lucky, and so we were traveling and then

573
00:27:59,600 --> 00:28:01,560
Speaker 2: I don't I stayed together for the first couple of weeks,

574
00:28:02,040 --> 00:28:03,720
Speaker 2: and then we got to a place up in ne

575
00:28:03,720 --> 00:28:07,680
Speaker 2: thear Early Beach or up pretty fun north somewhere, and.

576
00:28:09,320 --> 00:28:11,400
Speaker 1: She ended up giving me an ultimatum like either either

577
00:28:11,440 --> 00:28:13,560
Speaker 1: come home or we're fucking breaking up. And so I

578
00:28:13,600 --> 00:28:16,720
Speaker 1: was like, well, I don't want to come home, and

579
00:28:16,720 --> 00:28:18,400
Speaker 1: and so then for the first so.

580
00:28:18,359 --> 00:28:20,399
Speaker 2: We broke up, and like I think I was like

581
00:28:20,440 --> 00:28:22,520
Speaker 2: I was like sad, but also like our relationship had

582
00:28:22,560 --> 00:28:24,400
Speaker 2: slowly been coming to an end, like I look back

583
00:28:24,400 --> 00:28:26,800
Speaker 2: at it now and I don't like, I mean, I

584
00:28:26,800 --> 00:28:28,520
Speaker 2: wouldn't say a cringe, but I just look back at

585
00:28:28,520 --> 00:28:29,320
Speaker 2: it now and I'm just like.

586
00:28:29,280 --> 00:28:31,080
Speaker 1: We knew, one hundred percent.

587
00:28:31,160 --> 00:28:34,280
Speaker 2: We knew, and it's just funny to think how young

588
00:28:34,320 --> 00:28:36,920
Speaker 2: and done we were to hold onto it and not realize.

589
00:28:37,160 --> 00:28:38,440
Speaker 1: But this is what you do it. You always do

590
00:28:38,520 --> 00:28:39,960
Speaker 1: that when what you hold onto it for as long

591
00:28:40,000 --> 00:28:40,479
Speaker 1: as possible.

592
00:28:40,480 --> 00:28:42,120
Speaker 2: I suppose that's just what you do. Yeah, first love,

593
00:28:42,200 --> 00:28:45,320
Speaker 2: first proper love. Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, I definitely thought so.

594
00:28:46,200 --> 00:28:46,840
Speaker 1: Ah.

595
00:28:47,880 --> 00:28:51,640
Speaker 2: So then after a few weeks of us breaking up,

596
00:28:52,480 --> 00:28:55,960
Speaker 2: I didn't even know, like I was sweet for a while,

597
00:28:57,400 --> 00:29:02,160
Speaker 2: and then I can't say how it happened, but I

598
00:29:02,360 --> 00:29:05,680
Speaker 2: just it's like a fucking literal switch in my brain

599
00:29:05,720 --> 00:29:11,320
Speaker 2: flicked all of a sudden, missed her, and then I

600
00:29:11,360 --> 00:29:13,680
Speaker 2: have a feeling what happened was. I think she just

601
00:29:13,720 --> 00:29:15,920
Speaker 2: messaged me by saying like hey, after a couple of weeks,

602
00:29:15,920 --> 00:29:18,400
Speaker 2: like hey, how are you, and the like that's what

603
00:29:19,040 --> 00:29:20,840
Speaker 2: I must I guess must have flicked the switch.

604
00:29:21,320 --> 00:29:24,120
Speaker 1: I remember, like your demeanor was a complete shift, like

605
00:29:24,360 --> 00:29:27,200
Speaker 1: it was weird, happy and bubbly, like traveling, and then

606
00:29:27,240 --> 00:29:29,440
Speaker 1: you're like, oh fuck, and I could see it. I

607
00:29:29,440 --> 00:29:30,240
Speaker 1: saw the change in you.

608
00:29:30,400 --> 00:29:34,760
Speaker 2: Yeah. It was just I cannot even explain it, because

609
00:29:34,800 --> 00:29:37,240
Speaker 2: so then all of a sudden, I had this feeling

610
00:29:37,280 --> 00:29:41,200
Speaker 2: of missing her and thinking I fucked up. And then

611
00:29:41,560 --> 00:29:43,640
Speaker 2: and like randomly was like I'd rather be traveling, like

612
00:29:43,640 --> 00:29:46,360
Speaker 2: I don't know, I'd rather fucking her, like fly up,

613
00:29:46,720 --> 00:29:47,200
Speaker 2: I don't know.

614
00:29:47,520 --> 00:29:48,040
Speaker 1: It was dumb.

615
00:29:48,320 --> 00:29:52,400
Speaker 2: And then and then so I called my step mom

616
00:29:53,240 --> 00:29:55,000
Speaker 2: and I was talking to her about it because I've

617
00:29:55,120 --> 00:29:57,760
Speaker 2: grown up with divorced parents, so I've had this skew

618
00:29:57,800 --> 00:30:01,320
Speaker 2: if view on it for the longest time, and like

619
00:30:01,320 --> 00:30:02,600
Speaker 2: if you're marriage and all that, and I thought that

620
00:30:02,600 --> 00:30:04,320
Speaker 2: I didn't want to be with anyone forever. I had

621
00:30:04,320 --> 00:30:06,240
Speaker 2: that whole thought process that we get dilemmas all the

622
00:30:06,240 --> 00:30:08,160
Speaker 2: time of like, oh, do I need to break up

623
00:30:08,200 --> 00:30:09,680
Speaker 2: with the person I'm with now because it doesn't really

624
00:30:09,680 --> 00:30:12,000
Speaker 2: work out when you're young in twenty and then do

625
00:30:12,000 --> 00:30:13,480
Speaker 2: I need to be alone for a while and grow

626
00:30:13,520 --> 00:30:15,120
Speaker 2: and then get in a relationship when I'm later in

627
00:30:15,160 --> 00:30:17,640
Speaker 2: my twenties and and then that's going to work out

628
00:30:17,640 --> 00:30:19,600
Speaker 2: because I have more life experience, Like that's what That's

629
00:30:19,600 --> 00:30:22,120
Speaker 2: what my mindset was. And so then I think she

630
00:30:22,560 --> 00:30:23,920
Speaker 2: like I was on the phone with my step mom

631
00:30:24,040 --> 00:30:27,000
Speaker 2: was crying and she was just like, hey, you just

632
00:30:27,040 --> 00:30:28,360
Speaker 2: got to do what you fucking want to do, Like,

633
00:30:28,360 --> 00:30:29,600
Speaker 2: if you want to get back together, whether just say

634
00:30:29,600 --> 00:30:30,760
Speaker 2: you want to get back together, what do whatever you

635
00:30:30,760 --> 00:30:31,040
Speaker 2: want to do.

636
00:30:31,080 --> 00:30:33,200
Speaker 1: She was like, she was good about it, and so.

637
00:30:33,200 --> 00:30:36,000
Speaker 2: Then I I think I told my girlfriend I want

638
00:30:36,040 --> 00:30:36,640
Speaker 2: to get back together.

639
00:30:37,200 --> 00:30:40,080
Speaker 1: She was like, oh, I don't know. My ex girlfriend sod.

640
00:30:40,080 --> 00:30:41,280
Speaker 2: I told my ex girlfriend I will get back to

641
00:30:41,280 --> 00:30:43,400
Speaker 2: She's like, oh, I don't know. And I was like, well,

642
00:30:43,440 --> 00:30:45,160
Speaker 2: I'll come home and I don't want to see you.

643
00:30:45,200 --> 00:30:46,240
Speaker 2: So I just de said to Oddie, don't want to

644
00:30:46,240 --> 00:30:48,600
Speaker 2: go home, which sucked. And then Audi was fucking so

645
00:30:48,680 --> 00:30:49,239
Speaker 2: good about it.

646
00:30:50,000 --> 00:30:51,000
Speaker 1: And then.

647
00:30:52,200 --> 00:30:55,120
Speaker 2: I went home, like, drove back down, went home.

648
00:30:55,160 --> 00:30:56,200
Speaker 1: And then when I.

649
00:30:56,200 --> 00:30:59,800
Speaker 2: Got home, I told her I was home and she

650
00:30:59,880 --> 00:31:03,880
Speaker 2: was like, oh, I'm going through COVID. She was staying

651
00:31:03,920 --> 00:31:05,680
Speaker 2: at a family friend's place that she'd known since she

652
00:31:05,760 --> 00:31:07,720
Speaker 2: was like born and.

653
00:31:09,120 --> 00:31:10,360
Speaker 1: Never thought of him as a threat, by the.

654
00:31:10,360 --> 00:31:19,000
Speaker 2: Way, and so she goes, okay, like cool, whatever, and

655
00:31:19,040 --> 00:31:20,760
Speaker 2: she went and she was staying there for the week.

656
00:31:20,880 --> 00:31:22,440
Speaker 2: So I got home for a full week I didn't

657
00:31:22,440 --> 00:31:27,000
Speaker 2: see her, and then she finally came home and we

658
00:31:27,040 --> 00:31:29,719
Speaker 2: saw each other blah blah blah hung out and then

659
00:31:29,920 --> 00:31:31,840
Speaker 2: in the end, like it was, she just was like

660
00:31:32,040 --> 00:31:33,920
Speaker 2: she just didn't want to and so I ended up

661
00:31:33,920 --> 00:31:37,920
Speaker 2: being like really heartbreaking from it from the breakup. And

662
00:31:37,960 --> 00:31:41,400
Speaker 2: then I think we were home for a while just fucking.

663
00:31:41,400 --> 00:31:45,200
Speaker 2: It was maybe a month had maybe a month after

664
00:31:45,240 --> 00:31:47,240
Speaker 2: I was home or something like that, and I do

665
00:31:47,360 --> 00:31:51,880
Speaker 2: remember this is what happened. Someone had messaged me on

666
00:31:51,920 --> 00:31:55,320
Speaker 2: Instagram as in like a kind of like it wasn't her,

667
00:31:55,360 --> 00:31:57,160
Speaker 2: it was just like a girl he had messed with Instagram,

668
00:31:57,440 --> 00:32:00,520
Speaker 2: and I was messaging you about it and I said,

669
00:32:00,560 --> 00:32:02,160
Speaker 2: I'm just not sure if I want to go through

670
00:32:02,160 --> 00:32:05,400
Speaker 2: with anything yet out of respect for X person max girlfriend.

671
00:32:05,640 --> 00:32:08,760
Speaker 2: And then Audie goes, I think, I don't know if

672
00:32:08,760 --> 00:32:10,080
Speaker 2: you said this, but he was kind of like, noah,

673
00:32:10,120 --> 00:32:10,640
Speaker 2: fuck that bitch.

674
00:32:10,640 --> 00:32:14,680
Speaker 1: I got something to tell you. I remember that. He

675
00:32:14,760 --> 00:32:16,400
Speaker 1: was like, oh no, I don't remember.

676
00:32:16,840 --> 00:32:18,640
Speaker 2: He was like, she's been sleeping this guy from Sydney,

677
00:32:19,000 --> 00:32:19,920
Speaker 2: and I was like.

678
00:32:19,800 --> 00:32:23,280
Speaker 1: Oh no, I was so because I found out. I

679
00:32:23,400 --> 00:32:25,400
Speaker 1: found out and I didn't tell you because I knew

680
00:32:25,400 --> 00:32:28,280
Speaker 1: it would break her. And then this girl, like this

681
00:32:28,280 --> 00:32:30,000
Speaker 1: pretty girl, like I said, she wanted to hang out

682
00:32:30,000 --> 00:32:31,080
Speaker 1: with you and you're like, oh, I can't do it

683
00:32:31,120 --> 00:32:36,160
Speaker 1: out of respect, and then I was like fuck yeah,

684
00:32:36,560 --> 00:32:37,480
Speaker 1: I'm telling him.

685
00:32:37,840 --> 00:32:39,320
Speaker 2: And so then he told me, you know, I was

686
00:32:39,600 --> 00:32:42,520
Speaker 2: made it worse. I was like heartbroken, heartbroken. I needed

687
00:32:42,520 --> 00:32:45,280
Speaker 2: to hear it obviously. I was like I was like heartbroken, heartbroken,

688
00:32:45,600 --> 00:32:51,120
Speaker 2: and so and then after it was like that was

689
00:32:51,560 --> 00:32:54,440
Speaker 2: really I would say, that's like the most heartbroken I've bin.

690
00:32:55,240 --> 00:32:58,240
Speaker 2: I remember telling my parents and like, because I just

691
00:32:58,320 --> 00:32:59,520
Speaker 2: knew that there was no way I was going to

692
00:32:59,520 --> 00:33:02,360
Speaker 2: be able to like how fucking depressed I felt. And

693
00:33:02,440 --> 00:33:03,880
Speaker 2: so I remember telling my parents what happened, and they

694
00:33:03,960 --> 00:33:07,160
Speaker 2: was sturdy new and then it was just kind of

695
00:33:07,200 --> 00:33:08,840
Speaker 2: like they were just like, yeah, fuck, it is what

696
00:33:08,880 --> 00:33:10,800
Speaker 2: it is. Like they were supportive, and I was just like,

697
00:33:10,840 --> 00:33:12,880
Speaker 2: you're actually is what it is. And so I just

698
00:33:13,000 --> 00:33:15,920
Speaker 2: ended up going about my days or whatever and I

699
00:33:16,080 --> 00:33:19,640
Speaker 2: just and it was just like fucking I just would like,

700
00:33:20,280 --> 00:33:25,760
Speaker 2: it's the most heart wrenching thing. And then so a

701
00:33:25,800 --> 00:33:28,120
Speaker 2: few months went by and we got up to Christmas

702
00:33:28,720 --> 00:33:30,760
Speaker 2: and I was still.

703
00:33:30,480 --> 00:33:31,440
Speaker 1: Like getting over it.

704
00:33:32,320 --> 00:33:37,400
Speaker 2: Ah, I definitely was nowhere near over her. This is

705
00:33:37,400 --> 00:33:44,360
Speaker 2: twenty twenty war and so twenty twenty one, and then

706
00:33:46,200 --> 00:33:48,040
Speaker 2: I found out that she started dating the guy and

707
00:33:48,080 --> 00:33:49,600
Speaker 2: I was like, holy shit. I was like, how did

708
00:33:49,640 --> 00:33:51,440
Speaker 2: you move on so quick? I was like, this is crazy.

709
00:33:51,480 --> 00:33:53,000
Speaker 2: I was like in my head, I was like, you

710
00:33:53,040 --> 00:33:54,080
Speaker 2: know what, fuck, I hope that does.

711
00:33:54,080 --> 00:33:54,800
Speaker 1: Not work out for you.

712
00:33:55,360 --> 00:33:57,120
Speaker 2: I was like, it doesn't work out. I was like,

713
00:33:57,120 --> 00:33:58,920
Speaker 2: you moved on too quick. I doesn't work out for you.

714
00:33:59,000 --> 00:33:59,840
Speaker 1: Blah blah blah.

715
00:34:00,320 --> 00:34:03,160
Speaker 2: So basically I was like heartbroken. I couldn't sleep for

716
00:34:03,200 --> 00:34:05,520
Speaker 2: the longest time because the heartbroken the first time, and

717
00:34:05,560 --> 00:34:06,760
Speaker 2: then I was starting to get good and then I

718
00:34:06,760 --> 00:34:08,799
Speaker 2: find out she starts dating this guy again. I went

719
00:34:08,800 --> 00:34:10,320
Speaker 2: through a few weeks of just shitty sleep.

720
00:34:10,719 --> 00:34:14,200
Speaker 1: I was sleeping shit heartbroken. And then.

721
00:34:15,280 --> 00:34:24,279
Speaker 2: My sister came to visit Australia for Christmas. And this

722
00:34:24,360 --> 00:34:26,880
Speaker 2: is the part that I was unsure about telling on

723
00:34:26,880 --> 00:34:31,759
Speaker 2: the podcast. My mom, for like a lot of my life,

724
00:34:31,840 --> 00:34:32,640
Speaker 2: has struggled with.

725
00:34:34,360 --> 00:34:34,840
Speaker 1: Addiction.

726
00:34:36,480 --> 00:34:42,239
Speaker 2: And when my sister came for she came from Canada.

727
00:34:42,560 --> 00:34:46,520
Speaker 2: When she came, she came out and then just I remember, like,

728
00:34:46,920 --> 00:34:49,520
Speaker 2: so I was still kind of fresh heartbreak. It's for

729
00:34:49,560 --> 00:34:51,359
Speaker 2: the second round of it finding out she dating the guy,

730
00:34:51,719 --> 00:34:54,759
Speaker 2: and then my sister comes in. Like the day after

731
00:34:54,840 --> 00:34:56,279
Speaker 2: my sister comes, she comes out to where I was

732
00:34:56,280 --> 00:34:57,839
Speaker 2: stat we're both in at my parents' house. She comes

733
00:34:57,840 --> 00:35:00,200
Speaker 2: into my room, she was like, have you spoken.

734
00:34:59,840 --> 00:35:01,560
Speaker 1: A And I was like what.

735
00:35:02,480 --> 00:35:05,080
Speaker 2: I was like no, She's like, oh, I was messaging

736
00:35:05,120 --> 00:35:10,600
Speaker 2: her she's and she's like fucking going on about how

737
00:35:12,280 --> 00:35:15,080
Speaker 2: she misses us, and then she's so sorry for everything

738
00:35:15,160 --> 00:35:18,400
Speaker 2: she's done to us, and I was like what. And

739
00:35:18,440 --> 00:35:20,040
Speaker 2: then she goes. And then I tried to call her

740
00:35:20,040 --> 00:35:21,680
Speaker 2: and tell her everything's all good, but she won't answer.

741
00:35:22,239 --> 00:35:26,240
Speaker 2: She won't reply, and Johanna said that in the message,

742
00:35:26,280 --> 00:35:29,960
Speaker 2: she implied like she's going to miss us, and I

743
00:35:30,000 --> 00:35:33,479
Speaker 2: was like what. And so Johanna thinks that she's gonna

744
00:35:33,480 --> 00:35:37,719
Speaker 2: fucking kill herself, and so I started freaking out. And

745
00:35:37,840 --> 00:35:39,160
Speaker 2: for the longest time, I've had like a bit of

746
00:35:39,200 --> 00:35:41,040
Speaker 2: a broken relationship with her because I just have like

747
00:35:41,120 --> 00:35:43,520
Speaker 2: struggled to forgive, struggle to forget, and like I do

748
00:35:43,640 --> 00:35:45,400
Speaker 2: sometimes like I'm sure anyone that has the same thing.

749
00:35:45,440 --> 00:35:47,120
Speaker 2: He's like knows what I mean, But like you'd love

750
00:35:47,160 --> 00:35:48,640
Speaker 2: him because you love him, but sometimes you're just like

751
00:35:48,640 --> 00:35:49,680
Speaker 2: why the fuck can you not get it?

752
00:35:49,760 --> 00:35:50,280
Speaker 1: Under control.

753
00:35:51,080 --> 00:35:53,080
Speaker 2: But I remember trying to get a hold of my

754
00:35:53,120 --> 00:35:55,600
Speaker 2: mom and I was like fucking tried to call her

755
00:35:55,600 --> 00:35:57,239
Speaker 2: and call on her and coll on her Facebook and shit,

756
00:35:57,280 --> 00:36:00,560
Speaker 2: and she finally answered, she's like crying on the phone,

757
00:36:00,719 --> 00:36:04,080
Speaker 2: and I just remember being like I genuinely, genuinely was like,

758
00:36:04,600 --> 00:36:07,239
Speaker 2: oh fuck, like my mom's gonna kill herself because she's

759
00:36:07,320 --> 00:36:11,160
Speaker 2: just like relapsed and just can't handle it. And so

760
00:36:11,320 --> 00:36:12,759
Speaker 2: then eventually like we got a hold of my aunt

761
00:36:12,800 --> 00:36:14,080
Speaker 2: he that lives in the same town. She went over

762
00:36:14,120 --> 00:36:16,560
Speaker 2: there and she found her and like, my Mom's still alive, like.

763
00:36:16,520 --> 00:36:17,000
Speaker 1: She's all good.

764
00:36:17,120 --> 00:36:21,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, but like I just fucking remembered that mixed with

765
00:36:21,280 --> 00:36:25,759
Speaker 2: the heartbreak. I remember it breaking me and Joanna, my

766
00:36:25,800 --> 00:36:27,759
Speaker 2: older sister. She was kind of all good after that,

767
00:36:28,600 --> 00:36:31,400
Speaker 2: but I remember like I like was walking around, I

768
00:36:31,400 --> 00:36:33,719
Speaker 2: was like having like heart palpitations, and I went and

769
00:36:33,719 --> 00:36:35,680
Speaker 2: I sat down like in this weird like part of

770
00:36:35,680 --> 00:36:38,480
Speaker 2: my parents' yard, like hidden, and I just like fucking

771
00:36:38,600 --> 00:36:41,319
Speaker 2: cried for like ten minutes, and I was like, what

772
00:36:41,560 --> 00:36:43,520
Speaker 2: is going on? And then my dad eventually came around.

773
00:36:43,560 --> 00:36:44,840
Speaker 2: He was like, fuck, are you okay? And I just

774
00:36:44,920 --> 00:36:46,520
Speaker 2: was like I do I don't know how to take

775
00:36:46,560 --> 00:36:50,319
Speaker 2: this a it was like the weird I just couldn't anah,

776
00:36:50,480 --> 00:36:51,840
Speaker 2: and then I don't even know.

777
00:36:51,880 --> 00:36:52,399
Speaker 1: It's just like.

778
00:36:54,160 --> 00:36:56,520
Speaker 2: Why don't know. I went to therapy once and just

779
00:36:56,600 --> 00:36:57,440
Speaker 2: like haven't felt the need.

780
00:36:57,440 --> 00:36:59,560
Speaker 1: To go back. But that was years ago now, But

781
00:37:00,320 --> 00:37:00,680
Speaker 1: I don't know.

782
00:37:00,719 --> 00:37:04,160
Speaker 2: I just think like probably a good thing to air

783
00:37:04,280 --> 00:37:06,160
Speaker 2: out and people understand that.

784
00:37:06,760 --> 00:37:09,759
Speaker 1: You know. I guess we have problems too, Yeah, we do.

785
00:37:10,520 --> 00:37:15,959
Speaker 1: We're not perfect by any means, no, yeah, just fucking yeah.

786
00:37:16,000 --> 00:37:18,160
Speaker 2: I think the hard I think giving advice on the

787
00:37:18,200 --> 00:37:21,080
Speaker 2: hard times is like we've been through them.

788
00:37:20,920 --> 00:37:24,600
Speaker 1: Too, I guess. Yeah, everyone has their own stories. What

789
00:37:24,640 --> 00:37:27,480
Speaker 1: we could open up about ours? Yours? Yeah, that's that's

790
00:37:27,520 --> 00:37:29,640
Speaker 1: a lot. And it's just a role on snowball effect

791
00:37:29,719 --> 00:37:30,040
Speaker 1: kind of thing.

792
00:37:30,480 --> 00:37:34,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, so what Yeah, it just made its heartbreaking than that,

793
00:37:34,120 --> 00:37:35,960
Speaker 2: And I was just like, holy sh it's like that thing.

794
00:37:35,960 --> 00:37:38,360
Speaker 1: It's always one thing after another when it rains a pause.

795
00:37:38,400 --> 00:37:40,839
Speaker 2: Yeah that's it. Yeah, out of the fucking yeah, you're right.

796
00:37:41,280 --> 00:37:43,400
Speaker 1: So sorry. If that was like a boring story, No,

797
00:37:43,480 --> 00:37:45,520
Speaker 1: I wasn't boring at all. Boring, But I just I

798
00:37:45,520 --> 00:37:47,919
Speaker 1: think it's struggle. I think it's admirable how you opened

799
00:37:48,000 --> 00:37:50,000
Speaker 1: up because I know that's a hard thing for a dude,

800
00:37:50,000 --> 00:37:52,960
Speaker 1: don't you. Yeah, especially the second part for the longest time.

801
00:37:53,000 --> 00:37:54,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, the breakup thing, I don't care if that's out there,

802
00:37:55,000 --> 00:37:56,960
Speaker 2: Like the other thing is just it's just like I

803
00:37:57,000 --> 00:37:58,880
Speaker 2: was a bit if you about airing out family drama.

804
00:37:59,560 --> 00:38:01,920
Speaker 1: But I don't know. I think it's just I guess

805
00:38:02,000 --> 00:38:04,600
Speaker 1: everyone has it. That's the part of my life. Everyone

806
00:38:04,600 --> 00:38:06,560
Speaker 1: has it. And I think the more you talk about

807
00:38:06,600 --> 00:38:09,640
Speaker 1: it and say that you're okay now and your mom's okay.

808
00:38:09,640 --> 00:38:11,719
Speaker 2: Yeah, definitely, And like I guess if I don't want

809
00:38:11,719 --> 00:38:13,680
Speaker 2: anyone to think, like fuck I hate Jake's mum without

810
00:38:13,680 --> 00:38:15,560
Speaker 2: knowing her, like like I love my.

811
00:38:15,560 --> 00:38:17,879
Speaker 1: Mom, Yeah, yeah, like I do. I love my mom.

812
00:38:17,920 --> 00:38:19,840
Speaker 2: And I'm going to Canada and all that, and in

813
00:38:21,280 --> 00:38:23,040
Speaker 2: I've been, I've been to Canada after that, and I'm

814
00:38:23,040 --> 00:38:24,439
Speaker 2: going again obviously in June this year.

815
00:38:26,120 --> 00:38:28,040
Speaker 1: And I don't know.

816
00:38:28,080 --> 00:38:31,439
Speaker 2: I think it's just like I guess, I guess anyone

817
00:38:31,480 --> 00:38:32,719
Speaker 2: else that does deal with something like that, it'd be

818
00:38:32,719 --> 00:38:35,000
Speaker 2: interesting to know how they deal with it. Actually, to

819
00:38:35,040 --> 00:38:36,560
Speaker 2: be honest with you, I assume there's some people out

820
00:38:36,600 --> 00:38:38,800
Speaker 2: there that have had parents with struggle, and I always

821
00:38:38,840 --> 00:38:41,880
Speaker 2: am really with the work that my sister does. I

822
00:38:41,920 --> 00:38:44,719
Speaker 2: always so with the work that my sister does. You

823
00:38:44,760 --> 00:38:47,520
Speaker 2: hear about a lot of bat you with families, and

824
00:38:47,640 --> 00:38:50,520
Speaker 2: now I am like, I'm very like I understand that

825
00:38:51,640 --> 00:38:53,680
Speaker 2: stuff that I've been through is hurtful, but I also

826
00:38:53,760 --> 00:38:57,040
Speaker 2: have like this mad like gratefulness after hearing some stuff,

827
00:38:57,120 --> 00:38:59,200
Speaker 2: like I've always had a rif of a mad always

828
00:38:59,200 --> 00:39:02,000
Speaker 2: had clothes, never been hungry, I've always felt love for

829
00:39:02,120 --> 00:39:04,600
Speaker 2: my family. Like the only hurt that I feel is

830
00:39:04,600 --> 00:39:08,120
Speaker 2: that my mum struggles with these addictions. And just like

831
00:39:08,200 --> 00:39:11,040
Speaker 2: the love for us kids doesn't fix the addiction. But

832
00:39:11,080 --> 00:39:13,280
Speaker 2: then you come to feel like the addiction is a disease.

833
00:39:13,760 --> 00:39:16,200
Speaker 2: And but like I've never like I've never been hit.

834
00:39:16,200 --> 00:39:19,040
Speaker 2: I've always been yeah, like I've had a great upbringing.

835
00:39:18,719 --> 00:39:22,280
Speaker 1: Where each problem has the same magnitude to each person. Yeah, yeah, yeah,

836
00:39:22,880 --> 00:39:25,759
Speaker 1: I think it's also it's good to normalize, Like, like

837
00:39:25,760 --> 00:39:27,920
Speaker 1: you said, we're not perfect. Everyone has. It's okay to

838
00:39:27,920 --> 00:39:30,840
Speaker 1: be hurt and it's good to talk about it. Yeah,

839
00:39:30,880 --> 00:39:32,960
Speaker 1: It's like it's just good to get it out of

840
00:39:32,960 --> 00:39:35,839
Speaker 1: your system. It's something so beautiful and when humans talk

841
00:39:35,880 --> 00:39:37,839
Speaker 1: and you feel better. It's like a weight lifted off

842
00:39:37,880 --> 00:39:42,279
Speaker 1: your heart, your chest, everything going on, but yeah, you

843
00:39:42,280 --> 00:39:50,960
Speaker 1: want to leave it on that yeah as well. Right,

844
00:39:51,000 --> 00:39:52,240
Speaker 1: Oh guys, thanks for listening.

845
00:39:52,239 --> 00:39:55,680
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846
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848
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849
00:40:03,960 --> 00:40:05,560
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00:40:05,239 --> 00:40:07,399
Speaker 2: Content is coming out of us. And finally, we will

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Speaker 1: Wednesday. Hope you like in the new shorter episodes. Love

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