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Speaker 1: Because it fits in with Katelyn podcast.

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Speaker 2: I just got a text from my mom's Yes.

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Speaker 3: Because I'm a textboat, A next boat a TEXTI write

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Speaker 3: my reply, Guys, this is actually I'm going to put

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Speaker 1: I mean, Wednesday's good, winning Wednesday, all that start. This

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Speaker 4: Write my reply.

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Speaker 2: Jeez, you get a boring on. No, even you put

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Speaker 1: Mean within the studio, actually, no, broadly in life.

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Speaker 2: Yes, okay, here we go. Ben is thirty and Cassie

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Speaker 2: is thirty two. They've been in a relationship for three years.

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Speaker 2: How beautiful over that time.

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Speaker 4: No, they've turned thirty both of the three years.

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Speaker 2: You're thinking about marriage after three years? Are you?

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Speaker 3: Well?

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Speaker 1: What about those people that date for like ten years,

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Speaker 2: True?

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Speaker 4: I mean, what a kick in the guts.

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Speaker 2: Isn't it? That does happen?

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Speaker 4: All it does?

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Speaker 1: Which I guess that proves that that person wasn't right

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Speaker 2: Over that time, Ben has Ben stacked on fifteen kilos.

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Speaker 2: He's recently quit his gym membership because he wasn't getting

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Speaker 2: results that Jim's letting me down. It's your bold Jim.

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Speaker 4: Don't blame me.

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Speaker 5: How long does it take you to write this reply?

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Speaker 2: What are you talking about? How does he reply to

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Speaker 2: this message from Cassie? So this is what Cassie has

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Speaker 4: No, I've got a bad feeling.

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Speaker 2: Hey, honey, I booked a doctor's appointment for you for Thursday.

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Speaker 2: I know I will be love you. Do you really reached?

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Speaker 4: Isn't well?

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Speaker 2: You've been together for three years. You're not betting around

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Speaker 4: I like it. I like the directness.

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Speaker 2: Me too, Me too.

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Speaker 1: I'm getting a good vibe about their relations About the openness.

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Speaker 4: Yeah about that? You know what?

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Speaker 1: I love you. I know you're off to the doctors.

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Speaker 1: Why don't you do this? It's it's going to be better.

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Speaker 5: So if a partner of yours said the same.

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Speaker 2: Directness, I challenge any bloke to say that to Kay Richie.

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Speaker 4: They'd only say it.

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Speaker 2: Why the concrete in these boots?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, that wouldn't that wouldn't pan out. It's just.

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Speaker 6: Guys don't like what Guys don't like being told what

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Speaker 6: it because every time you tell me what to manage,

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Speaker 2: To do, you love it. No, it's as if you're

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Speaker 2: suggesting to me that I don't have control of this situation,

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Speaker 2: me fat. Now for old mate.

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Speaker 4: Now, no, no, no, I need to I need to step

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Speaker 1: That's what you're reading because you feel inadequate and you

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Speaker 4: That's what you're hearing. But that's in your head. That

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Speaker 2: What about hey thinking about booking a doctor's appointment.

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Speaker 1: You're forgetting that they probably already had a conversation about it.

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Speaker 2: Well, you're treating him like he's an idiot because if

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Speaker 5: It's it is very full on. I've booked it for you,

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Speaker 5: and I suggest that you get as like you're.

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Speaker 2: Not even married. You don't have control of anything in

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Speaker 4: That's what this is about. Though. This is about you

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Speaker 5: Can I suggest that the directness is leading to him

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Speaker 2: Your spot on.

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Speaker 4: A single one in the room laughs out.

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Speaker 2: Loud, Yeah, because you know what, do you know what

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Speaker 4: Oh what do they do?

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Speaker 2: They get to a boiling point, and they get to

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Speaker 4: That his girlfriend.

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Speaker 4: You you're what you're.

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Speaker 1: Saying is she's going to make him cheap.

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Speaker 4: I'll tell you this, I'll tell you this.

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Speaker 2: Pushing him into another woman.

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Speaker 1: Literally, if men wanted cheat pants, they will they make

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Speaker 2: I'm telling you men, she.

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Speaker 1: Regardless of what you do.

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Speaker 4: Women do not make men.

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Speaker 2: Yes, they do cheat This woman, this woman, this woman

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Speaker 4: Give us a call because did you leave?

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Speaker 2: Did you leave? Did you find yourself a cheatera that

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Speaker 1: Question is thirteen twenty four ten? Has your partner blamed

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Speaker 2: Or you're gas lighting? Now do you.

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Speaker 5: And this is just about a bloke, that's what cagees

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Speaker 5: and now we've turned it into this.

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Speaker 2: Do you know what? This is where you should never

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Speaker 2: be if someone's on a holiday, you should never have

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Speaker 4: No, they hang up and cheap.

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Speaker 2: Then the guy might find himself running through an open

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Speaker 2: field canceled. We'll not canceled Saturday, right, it's just an opinion, Jess.

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Speaker 5: God, have you done with Alice and Langdon yet? What

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Speaker 5: time are you on a current affair?

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Speaker 2: Tonight? Man love rat exposed? Sorry forgetting so every caller.

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Speaker 2: I don't even know what the question is. I lost it.

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Speaker 1: Did somebody blame you for their bad behavior? And why

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Speaker 1: are you still with them?

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Speaker 4: That's the question. Brendan and Camden?

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Speaker 1: You there, Yeah, what are your thoughts?

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Speaker 7: I agree with u K. I think I like that

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Speaker 7: I've failed on my own to stick to the gym

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Speaker 4: Thank you, Brendan.

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Speaker 7: I think if you have that mentality, the only way

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Speaker 7: gym and prove prove her wrong basically.

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Speaker 2: Well, and then would you get rid of it?

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Speaker 5: Would you in your mind would you get rid of

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Speaker 5: on my own. I didn't need you pushing me into it.

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Speaker 5: I'm going to find someone on my own.

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Speaker 7: Brendan, Well, but then what if you find someone who

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Speaker 4: I love your attitude, Brendan.

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Speaker 1: You're very I mean the fact that you're agreeing with

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Speaker 5: But to stay on the line, Brendan, we'll get your

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Speaker 5: details and pass them on the cake. Let's go to

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Speaker 5: Caroline now from Asquith. What do you think, Caroline?

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Speaker 8: Look, I don't think it matters what you do in

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Speaker 2: He had someone cheat on you, heaby Caroline. Ah, yeah,

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Speaker 2: what happened there?

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Speaker 8: Kaz So after sixteen years of marriage, never thought, never,

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Speaker 8: never disagreed with him, never said no, never, like he

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Speaker 4: Oh my, that came to him.

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Speaker 8: Yeah, yeah, he just accidentally booked a hotel room cash

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Speaker 8: First time I found out? Absolutely not the first time.

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Speaker 5: Probably, Oh, Carolina, serve him, Caroline, please tell me you

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Speaker 8: And the guy is absolutely gorgeous.

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Speaker 1: That's nice. Everything turns out well, Caroline, usually, but.

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Speaker 2: Sometimes hang in that cape, Caroline, can I ask? Also,

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Speaker 7: No?

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Speaker 8: I didn't know her, but she was married with two

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Speaker 2: A ruining lives, ruining lives, Carol. Christians are like that, Carol.

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Speaker 1: Did you hear that in Harroys at Christian Lady on

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Speaker 1: the Weird One.

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Speaker 5: Let's go to Ben there in Monterey, it says, big

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Speaker 5: Ben here, Now, Benny, whose side are you on here

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Speaker 7: I'm on the boy's side. The gay community love hard nosed, pushy,

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Speaker 7: Recruited onto my team.

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Speaker 2: Fantastic pushy women, pushy women turned men gay.

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Speaker 7: Absolutely recruitment.

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Speaker 4: On your posting.

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Speaker 2: It's working every day for you, mate. Been's like a

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Speaker 5: He's going, We've got more recruits coming in, guys, you

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Speaker 5: be to keep it up pushing women.

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Speaker 4: That's amazing, Ben.

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Speaker 5: So have you actually been with men who have actually

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Speaker 8: Absolutely, They've definitely helped me up my conversion rate.

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Speaker 4: You are hilarious.

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Speaker 2: That is great, Kate Richie, You're doing so much good

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Speaker 2: work for Ben. He really appreciates it. I'm not trying

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Speaker 2: to do all the gay community. All the guys out there,

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Speaker 2: they thank you. They collectively thank you this morning for

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Speaker 2: what you've done.

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Speaker 4: Next year it.

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Speaker 2: Fits in Whip with Kate Bridgie podcast. Can I run

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Speaker 2: this one past you? Guys? Just a bit of a

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Speaker 2: tricky situation one thing, and as we get to the

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Speaker 2: I've had six months of non judgmentalist or is this

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Speaker 2: It was a really strong lisp and speech.

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Speaker 1: I need to do it. You don't need to do it.

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Speaker 2: It's hard to say lisp without saying lisp. Isn't trying

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so what did you do? Did you make when

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Speaker 4: Your child to laugh at people?

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Speaker 2: Like? I really like the name Lily, and so did Lisa.

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Speaker 2: You know, does it really matter?

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Speaker 1: Do you think that Lisa would have thought about it

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Speaker 4: What are you talking? Oh, you mean the story story.

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Speaker 1: I thought i'd revealed something personal. Even my sister, my

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Speaker 4: Nervous to say. She asked me.

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Speaker 1: Whether it was o Kate to call her daughter Eiler

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Speaker 2: I'll give me a pray. That's but you do weird.

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Speaker 5: Some people are really picky with names, though, aren't they

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Speaker 2: because it wouldn't surprise me if kids born today after

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Speaker 4: Celebration go on saying it. Can you spell blue?

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