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Speaker 1: Seeing with Kate Richie podcast. If you've struggled a little

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Speaker 1: bit socially and there's some people out there that you

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Speaker 1: know find it hard to fit in at times, and

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Speaker 1: I think we've all questioned how we fit into our community,

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Speaker 1: our friendship group, our society at some stage in our life.

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Speaker 1: A doctor has come out and revealed fifteen things that

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Speaker 1: you can do to become more popular.

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Speaker 2: Is it important to be popular? We put too much

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Speaker 2: pressure on tribe.

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Speaker 1: It's a really interesting point fit in. Ok everyone wants

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Speaker 1: to be more popular, and I think they do. You've

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Speaker 1: got a bit of popular in the system there.

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Speaker 2: I think I think they want Okay, I think that

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Speaker 2: I think there's a difference between wanting a sense of

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Speaker 2: belonging that they want to belong and be part of

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Speaker 2: a tribe and being popular. I think that's popular is

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Speaker 2: I think has negative connotation.

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Speaker 1: Everybody wants to be accepted by everyone.

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Speaker 2: You want everyone to think of.

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Speaker 1: What you're saying, Kate, because it means changing the person

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Speaker 1: you are to try and fit in with something.

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Speaker 2: If you have healthy self steam, you don't need other

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Speaker 2: people to like you, just need to love yourself.

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Speaker 1: One of the first points is let go of trying

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Speaker 1: too hard here the game. Now, that would be a

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Speaker 1: good one for you me, How okay, let go. You

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Speaker 1: don't have to say something, just sort of cruise in.

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Speaker 1: Feel comfortable in a room and comfortable in yourself. Now

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Speaker 1: we can work on that next one. This would help

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Speaker 1: you too. Crack a joke.

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Speaker 2: Surprisingly funny. Apparently that's what you told me. Oh my

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Speaker 2: friend said that you were surprisingly funny.

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Speaker 1: It's scope to the right environment as well.

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Speaker 2: You just can't come in and go you know what's

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Speaker 2: worse to eat, Amanda, And you can't. You just can't

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Speaker 2: drop a joke like that and think that everyone's going

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Speaker 2: to just go, oh, he's popular. It's right moment.

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Speaker 1: Then he brackets, says fits and not the same one

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Speaker 1: over and over again. So that rules you out. Be

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Speaker 1: generous with your time, everybody you meant the same joke, Yes,

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Speaker 1: well you met the Amanda in Amanda, you meant different,

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Speaker 1: amhandas did you. Be busy boy, Be generous with your

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Speaker 1: time as we are here. Develop emotional intelligence. Now. I

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Speaker 1: think when it comes to emotional intelligence that probably equals empathy,

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Speaker 1: and that also you need the skills to be a

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Speaker 1: better listener.

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Speaker 2: You can't teach it though, it's either in you or not.

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Speaker 2: Can I what's the definition of emotional intelligence?

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Speaker 1: Well, being aware, aware of your standing emoment. How are

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Speaker 1: you smarter than other people when it comes to emotions.

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Speaker 2: No, it doesn't mean that you are smarter or more intelligent.

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Speaker 2: What it means is that you have an understanding of

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Speaker 2: your emotions, what they mean for you, what they mean

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Speaker 2: for others. That yeah, and.

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Speaker 1: An ability to absorb, isn't it, Which comes back to

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Speaker 1: listening again, Kate.

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Speaker 2: Oh mate, I spend my lifeless.

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Speaker 1: Here's something, here's something you've never done. Boost up others,

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Speaker 1: get behind that, give a bit of a left, say

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Speaker 1: well done, that's awesome. My whole life's boosting others master

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Speaker 1: the art of conversation and.

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Speaker 2: Their success and being happy.

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Speaker 1: Congratulations again on your spot on the show Master the

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Speaker 1: art of conversation. So this is about understanding rhythm, isn't it.

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Speaker 1: It's a dance that you do. So when you're talking

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Speaker 1: with somebody, you feel the flow, you feel the tempo

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Speaker 1: of the conversation, you feel the understanding of the conversation

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Speaker 1: and the nature of it, and you reciprocate.

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Speaker 2: Don't you. Well, I don't know. You tell us because

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Speaker 2: I have.

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Speaker 1: A view so that you're not reciprocating.

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Speaker 2: I feel that having a conversation with you is everybody

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Speaker 2: else in the room realizing that they're not going to

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Speaker 2: get a word in.

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Speaker 1: Now you've gone.

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Speaker 2: When they start something, you've missed it, They're going to

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Speaker 2: be interrupted.

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Speaker 1: So you've got to think, Fits, you've gone straight to anger.

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Speaker 2: Now I'm I am not angry. I'm just speaking in

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Speaker 2: a different tone. So you listen for a change when

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Speaker 2: you think this show is going to get some flow.

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Speaker 1: Okate another one who's positive body language. So when we

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Speaker 1: sit in meetings and you're there with your arm crossed

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Speaker 1: and that resting space, you know you've got a kind

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Speaker 1: of you've got to move on from that and realize

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Speaker 1: that you're in a team now, all right.

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Speaker 2: You know, we had a very important meeting yesterday and

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Speaker 2: I was going to save it for content tomorrow, but

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Speaker 2: why don't we just say it here? Fits? He did

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Speaker 2: you notice that when we were having a very very

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Speaker 2: very important meeting with a department in the building, YEP,

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Speaker 2: which is very important and very important that we're all

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Speaker 2: across all of the rules and the codes and all

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Speaker 2: of that stuff talking down. Do you know what Whipper

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Speaker 2: was doing no watching his CCTV or the cameras at

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Speaker 2: his house, flicking between the bird box and the trades

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Speaker 2: with their shirts off in the back. He was absorbing.

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Speaker 2: He was absorbing the affair that he was his wife

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Speaker 2: was having with a plumber, watching Lisa have the best

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Speaker 2: day of her life getting the Feller's chicken rolls.

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Speaker 1: Okay, the number one thing, Kate and I would grab

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Speaker 1: your pen right now. Write this down. In fact, make

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Speaker 1: it your ring tone. Create authenticity. Now, you know when

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Speaker 1: you win. When we see the cake from Campbelltown, that's

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Speaker 1: when you win. We see real, We see Catherine Lee Richard.

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Speaker 1: We don't see Eastern Suburbs gold LOGI TV star girl,

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Speaker 1: I wonders listening when we get real, Kate, Heather, You're

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Speaker 1: not what I'm talking about.

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Speaker 2: It. Can't stand you already, Heather, because.

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Speaker 1: We love the real cake. All right, you be Jenny

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Speaker 1: from the block.

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Speaker 2: Heather's going to snipe you when you get out of

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Speaker 2: work to up straight at the shoulder. What was that.

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Speaker 1: We've got a big day ahead, don't.

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Speaker 2: We get them all day today?

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Speaker 1: Straight? Hotel's Association Awards.

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Speaker 2: Right, thank you, We'll not work on that. Thank you.

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Speaker 2: For making me a better person.

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