Speaker 1: The routines you create.
Speaker 2: It needs to be realistic for the worst version of you,
Speaker 2: because otherwise you're just setting yourself up for failure.
Speaker 1: And this is why a lot of people always.
Speaker 2: Talk about I can't see things through, I can't do
Speaker 2: have its, I fall the bandwagon. It's because you're not
Speaker 2: setting yourself up for success for every day. A couple
Speaker 2: of years ago, I was plodding around the house and
Speaker 2: I walked past a mirror in our bedroom, and my
Speaker 2: pipheral vision I caught the glimpse of a woman, and
Speaker 2: sadly I no longer recognized her anymore. On that day,
Speaker 2: I was wearing my token uniform, which was leggings and
Speaker 2: an old red Hot Chili Peppers T.
Speaker 1: Shirt, which I love, by the way.
Speaker 2: And it wasn't what I was wearing or my attire,
Speaker 2: but it was just the sunken look on my face.
Speaker 1: It's like I was there, but I.
Speaker 2: Wasn't really there, and I had didn't even realize, but
Speaker 2: I had someone else's whippicks on my smeared across my top.
Speaker 2: And that wasn't the only thing I stopped noticing. It
Speaker 2: was the fact that I had well and truly co
Speaker 2: signed on my own burnout. I thought, you know, for
Speaker 2: the first few years of my girl's lives, that being
Speaker 2: a mother meant not needing at all. So you know,
Speaker 2: I did the things and I showed up, and you know,
Speaker 2: I thought it was okay, because that's what you do
Speaker 2: when you love people, or so I thought. But then
Speaker 2: I realized, as the girls got older recently, that the
Speaker 2: whole time they were watching me and learning, they were
Speaker 2: learning that women don't get to come first. And I
Speaker 2: didn't want that for them, and I didn't want that
Speaker 2: for me. And that was the day I decided that
Speaker 2: I needed to start giving a shit again. I just
Speaker 2: started giving a shit about myself. You know, I disappeared
Speaker 2: into motherhood without even realizing it happened.
Speaker 1: And it happens to most of us. When there's small.
Speaker 2: People, other people that need you more than you realize,
Speaker 2: it does make it hard to be anywhere on your
Speaker 2: to do list at all. And this is when I
Speaker 2: decided to go through a doable glow up. So today
Speaker 2: I'm going to be giving you the ten changes or
Speaker 2: ten rules that I've done over the last two years
Speaker 2: to go through this doable glow up. Now I know
Speaker 2: we see glow ups all over Instagram, all over TikTok,
Speaker 2: and usually it involves, you know, getting up at four
Speaker 2: o'clock in the morning and like putting that snail goo
Speaker 2: on your face. I'm not going to be telling you
Speaker 2: to do any of those things, but I will say
Speaker 2: I have bought that snail.
Speaker 1: Goo and it actually is pretty good.
Speaker 2: But this is just like my health and fitness journey
Speaker 2: that I've spoken about before. I knew for this it
Speaker 2: had to be realistic, it had to be sustainable. And
Speaker 2: I know when you hear glow up, you tend to think,
Speaker 2: you know, the person's just after the aesthetics or of
Speaker 2: the you know, it's more of a superficial thing. But
Speaker 2: this was truly just putting myself on my to do
Speaker 2: list again. And I know, like any of us, it's
Speaker 2: only human too. When you feel put together on the outside,
Speaker 2: you naturally feel better on the inside. You feel more confident,
Speaker 2: you feel like you can take on anything like it's nothing.
Speaker 2: There's nothing worse that you know, when you have to
Speaker 2: duck down to wool Worth speaking from experience, and you
Speaker 2: look like an absolute dag, like you just I remember
Speaker 2: the other the other week, I literally went in with
Speaker 2: no shoes on and no socks because I was just
Speaker 2: ducking like dropping the kids off at their friend's house,
Speaker 2: and I was like, I don't need to get out
Speaker 2: of the car. And then I had to go buy food,
Speaker 2: and I was just like whatever. But then the one
Speaker 2: time you go to wool Worst and you you just
Speaker 2: look disheveled, with like a bird's nest on your head.
Speaker 2: You see, it's like it's a bloody high school reunion
Speaker 2: and you see everyone you've ever met in your life
Speaker 2: of suddenly in wool Worse. And look, it's not like
Speaker 2: a vain thing, but it is human nature just to
Speaker 2: feel you just feel like you can take on anything.
Speaker 2: And I have an amazing hack at the end of
Speaker 2: these ten rules or ten changes that will literally make
Speaker 2: you feel put together that every single day by doing
Speaker 2: two things, and you'll always feel ready for anything. But
Speaker 2: I'm not going to just be giving you these changes
Speaker 2: that I've done. I want to be actually telling you why,
Speaker 2: like why each one of these is equally as important
Speaker 2: as the last for your doable glow up. And there's
Speaker 2: nothing wrong with wanting to be healthier, hottier, and there's
Speaker 2: nothing wrong with wanting to be happier, healthier and hotter.
Speaker 1: Mind you as well.
Speaker 2: I feel like so many people I know now who
Speaker 2: are in their thirties are just honestly looking better than
Speaker 2: they ever have. And I think it's because that's sadly
Speaker 2: when we maybe wake up to ourselves that it is
Speaker 2: time for us to, you know, to care about you again.
Speaker 2: And I think the next time you really struggle to
Speaker 2: give time to yourself, I want you to pitch your
Speaker 2: eight year old self and try and say no to
Speaker 2: her and her needs, because I know you won't be
Speaker 2: able to. And I just like a little reminder that
Speaker 2: it's not vain, it's not selfish for wanting to focus
Speaker 2: on yourself again, you know, bringing a human being into
Speaker 2: the world, even for those on here listening right now
Speaker 2: who aren't mothers. Like society in the world needs so
Speaker 2: much of us, it seems. It could be work, could
Speaker 2: be family, could be friends, it could be all all
Speaker 2: these commitments showing up online like it's a lot and
Speaker 2: motherhood or not, we lose ourselves essentially now. I know
Speaker 2: for the other millennials out there too, when you think
Speaker 2: of a glow up, you do tend to think of like,
Speaker 2: you know, maya from Princess Diarus and there's Parloa and
Speaker 2: it comes in with his team and then he does
Speaker 2: like the whole makeover, and you see then and there
Speaker 2: that she does feel a lot.
Speaker 1: More confident afterwards.
Speaker 2: And I don't think it's a bad thing wanting to change,
Speaker 2: you know, certain things about yourself, as long as it's
Speaker 2: like it's for you, as long.
Speaker 1: As it's not for anyone else but for you.
Speaker 2: You don't have to be the Princess of Genovia to
Speaker 2: deserve a bit of a glow up. Now, these aren't
Speaker 2: like you know, this isn't going to cost hundreds of
Speaker 2: thats of dollars. This isn't going to cost hundreds of dollars.
Speaker 2: This is just small, repeatable habits that you can do
Speaker 2: every day. Included in these ten changes and rules is
Speaker 2: not just the physical stuff. It's also your environment and
Speaker 2: then also mindset shifts that honestly have changed my life.
Speaker 2: And I can't even tell you when I started this,
Speaker 2: like glow up journey. I look back at photos and
Speaker 2: I'm like, holy crap, Holy crap. And you're allowed to
Speaker 2: say You're allowed to feel good about yourself, you know,
Speaker 2: like we don't judge here so let's do it, all right, guys,
Speaker 2: So get your notebooks out, get your notesap out, and
Speaker 2: here are the ten things that we're going to change.
Speaker 1: For your doable blow up. All right.
Speaker 2: The first one is edit your wardrobe. So I ruthlessly
Speaker 2: edited the crap out of my wardrobe. This was like
Speaker 2: one of my first things I did. And this goes
Speaker 2: hand in hand with the next point, which they're linked obviously.
Speaker 2: But when you have multiple items of clothing that you
Speaker 2: don't feel good in, that is not going to be
Speaker 2: helpful for you, like day to day life with time
Speaker 2: trying to put outfits together, and also like so many
Speaker 2: of us hold onto items of clothing that just don't
Speaker 2: fit our current body. It fits a body that we
Speaker 2: had maybe five years ago. That's just like trying to
Speaker 2: keep a pair of shoes that you no longer fit into.
Speaker 2: You don't need to be reminded of, you know, the
Speaker 2: past every single morning if there's like a negative connotation
Speaker 2: with it. So if every morning you're going into your
Speaker 2: wardrobe and you're looking at a bunch of clothes you
Speaker 2: wore before you had babies, that's not going to like
Speaker 2: set you up for the best day. And if you've
Speaker 2: heard of anything like the capsule wardrobe. This is where
Speaker 2: you have pieces that you can mix and match. And
Speaker 2: this is I guarantee you you have most of this stuff.
Speaker 1: Already in your wardrobe. Now.
Speaker 2: It's having like basic things like maybe two or three
Speaker 2: T shirts in a certain colors that suit you, which
Speaker 2: is coming into my next point, singlers, and then like
Speaker 2: maybe two like a maxiskirts and pants and you can
Speaker 2: literally just mix them up every day. And one thing
Speaker 2: I've loved this is not sponsored, by the way, but
Speaker 2: I found this app called Alta Alta or something or alto.
Speaker 2: So Katie from SPP, she's my head of design, she
Speaker 2: told me about it. Basically, it's like this app and
Speaker 2: you take photos of everything that you own and it
Speaker 2: kind of aizs it and makes it into like a
Speaker 2: nice picture.
Speaker 1: So you could take a really shitty photo of like
Speaker 1: a T shirt.
Speaker 2: And it's going to make it look like it's on
Speaker 2: that shop website, if that makes sense. And what I
Speaker 2: love about this app too is there is it creates
Speaker 2: you like a little avatar that literally looks just like you,
Speaker 2: like full body avatar, and it can suggests like outfit
Speaker 2: combos and you can have a full calendar, and you
Speaker 2: can see what you're wearing for like every week, every.
Speaker 1: Month, and you can follow people on there.
Speaker 2: So I'll give you guys, if I could have a
Speaker 2: link to my own, I don't even know.
Speaker 1: It's kind of like a little social media thing. I
Speaker 1: feel it's so cool.
Speaker 2: But one thing I love about this app too is
Speaker 2: I'm going to get into culing your wardrobe in a second,
Speaker 2: but I love this because I pretty much told myself
Speaker 2: everything I have in my wardrobe I have to take
Speaker 2: a photo of and put it.
Speaker 1: Into this app. And if I've picked up a piece
Speaker 1: of clothing and.
Speaker 2: I just didn't want to do that, that usually indicated
Speaker 2: to me that A I didn't love it and B
Speaker 2: I wasn't going to wear it, and see, I need
Speaker 2: to get rid of it. So it's having that extra
Speaker 2: filter on top to like make sure every piece of
Speaker 2: clothing you have is intentional. It makes you feel good,
Speaker 2: it makes like it's comfortable, you can wear it like
Speaker 2: even on your worst days. That's the things you want
Speaker 2: in your wardrobe. So here's everything I did to edit
Speaker 2: my wardrobe. You need to pull absolutely everything out and
Speaker 2: you can do this in categories and I do recommend
Speaker 2: doing this in categories because that's like a whole other
Speaker 2: extra bit of mental load for us is just sorting things.
Speaker 1: So, for example, I did a bunch of my jeans
Speaker 1: the other week.
Speaker 2: I had all these pairs of jeans that didn't even
Speaker 2: fit me anymore, and they were like the tight jeans
Speaker 2: that I never loved, but they were in fashion, and
Speaker 2: I'm like, you know what if they come back in fashion,
Speaker 2: I don't even care.
Speaker 1: I don't want to wear these anymore.
Speaker 2: I love the bag of jeans, I love the flares,
Speaker 2: so I got rid of them. And you know, there's
Speaker 2: deep pop now, so it's not like you're just like,
Speaker 2: you know, obviously you can donate it, but you can
Speaker 2: put things on deepop and make money from it. And
Speaker 2: I do love deep hop in general. Now, I want
Speaker 2: you to ask these questions. These are your wardrobe editing questions.
Speaker 2: The first question is does this fit the body I
Speaker 2: have right now, not three years ago. The second question
Speaker 2: is do I feel good in this? And the third
Speaker 2: question is have I worn this in the last six
Speaker 2: to eight months? Because of course we've got seasonal changes,
Speaker 2: but six to eight months generally you can tell if
Speaker 2: you're going to wear something or not. And this next
Speaker 2: question is the one that really helped me. If I
Speaker 2: saw this in a shop right now, would I bite?
Speaker 2: And if you're not sure, that's a no. And if
Speaker 2: you're really really stark, the best question is if I
Speaker 2: had to downsize into a smaller house or a unit
Speaker 2: and I had a very small wardrobe, would this come
Speaker 2: with me? That one helps a lot. So that's the
Speaker 2: first change I made in my dor book blow up.
Speaker 2: The next one is related to this, and that is
Speaker 2: and if you guys follow me on socials, you would
Speaker 2: know what I'm about to say.
Speaker 1: Learned about my color season.
Speaker 2: Honestly, finding out what colors actually suit me was the
Speaker 2: biggest glow up tip out of everything, and it makes
Speaker 2: shopping so much easier. And if you've never gone down
Speaker 2: this rabbit hole yet, which is the color seasons of autumn, summer, winter, spring,
Speaker 2: and then there's sub seasons within it. So there's like
Speaker 2: soft autumn, what is it like warm autumn and deep autumn?
Speaker 2: And I'm a soft autumn. But basically, these are the
Speaker 2: seasons that naturally like will make you look good and alive.
Speaker 2: And you know how some colors you'll put on it
Speaker 2: just makes you look washed out and a little bit dead. Well,
Speaker 2: once I figured out my color season, which I'm actually
Speaker 2: going to get an amazing color season professional on the
Speaker 2: on the show. So I'm really really excited for that
Speaker 2: because honestly, I can't tell you how much this has
Speaker 2: actually changed my life.
Speaker 1: And it also made me.
Speaker 2: Realize why my hair looked better as like this copper
Speaker 2: color than what it was blonde, because it's in my
Speaker 2: color season and I never realized that. And you can
Speaker 2: get swatches of your season. So say, once you get
Speaker 2: your color season analysis done, it literally will tell you
Speaker 2: if you like what jury is a better for you,
Speaker 2: like what hair colors, what make up everything?
Speaker 1: And it is.
Speaker 2: It just makes it's like a cheat sheet for life.
Speaker 2: And so once you use the editing questions I just
Speaker 2: told you about, plus use your color season when you
Speaker 2: go shopping, I literally will only go to certain colors
Speaker 2: now and look, if there's a color that's not in
Speaker 2: your season that you.
Speaker 1: Love, wear it anyway, like whatever floats your boat.
Speaker 2: Like I'm not saying I only stick to these things
Speaker 2: because it makes you look good. I think it really
Speaker 2: is about what makes you happy as well. So I'm
Speaker 2: a soft autumn, which means I'm better in warm, muted tones.
Speaker 1: But I also have I think a sub season of spring.
Speaker 2: But again I haven't done been done professionally, so I'm
Speaker 2: excited for I actually might get our color season professional
Speaker 2: to even like analyze me on the podcast, and you know,
Speaker 2: I might be completely wrong and I will cry and
Speaker 2: I'll be very confused. But once I'm like ninety percent
Speaker 2: sure I'm a soft autumn. But then there's like, you know,
Speaker 2: your sister season. So I also look okay in spring colors,
Speaker 2: which I'm wearing like this bluish top like today and
Speaker 2: it doesn't look half bad.
Speaker 1: So I do better with gold jewry.
Speaker 2: I do better with like when it comes to whites,
Speaker 2: it's better if I wear ivory than like a stark white,
Speaker 2: because stark white makes me look really washed out and
Speaker 2: also black shi just the no no for me. Now,
Speaker 2: Change number three is edit your space just as ruthlessly
Speaker 2: as you did your wardrobe. Now, of course this isn't
Speaker 2: technically our body or our physical appearance, but we all
Speaker 2: know we are a reflection of our environment. And when
Speaker 2: you're waking up every day to mess and like clutter,
Speaker 2: that's going to affect your stress levels and in turn, yes,
Speaker 2: it's going to affect things like your digestion, your skin,
Speaker 2: so many different things. So we're doing like a full
Speaker 2: doable glow up for all the areas of our life.
Speaker 2: There is a Princeton study on this as well, so
Speaker 2: so visual clutter competes for the exact same part of
Speaker 2: your brain you use for focus and self control. So
Speaker 2: your scattered house is quietly draining the same battery you're
Speaker 2: trying to use to function. And I know, you know,
Speaker 2: trying to edit your environment, so like decluttering, organizing, finding
Speaker 2: the best storage can super overwhelming. But with anything like this,
Speaker 2: I want I don't want you to think of the
Speaker 2: whole house. I want you to think of that draw,
Speaker 2: that bench, that corner of the house, and start in
Speaker 2: the areas that you know that you're in a lot
Speaker 2: or that.
Speaker 1: You feel that really affects you.
Speaker 2: So usually it's things like the kitchen, like your bedroom,
Speaker 2: your bathroom, things like that that need to be functional.
Speaker 2: They're the ones that are also going to probably annoy
Speaker 2: you the most if they're not working well. So I
Speaker 2: want you just to choose one era in your house
Speaker 2: that you can focus on, and honestly, I feel like
Speaker 2: even if your bedrooms a good place to start, it's
Speaker 2: where you wake up every day.
Speaker 1: It's how you start your day.
Speaker 2: And I also have my thirty day de clutter challenge
Speaker 2: to you guys because it breaks down literally all the
Speaker 2: things you need to do clutter.
Speaker 1: But it's only a little bit per day.
Speaker 2: It could literally take you five minutes, not even a day,
Speaker 2: and you tick it off. And as obviously that's dopamine,
Speaker 2: so I'll give you guys a link for that below
Speaker 2: as well. Now this next change, even if you do
Speaker 2: this alone, if you can do one thing for this
Speaker 2: doable glob, this honestly is the key. This is the
Speaker 2: one thing that I feel has the biggest domino effect.
Speaker 2: And for me, this has really helped me with you know, energy,
Speaker 2: my skin, my mood, everything, and that is having thirty
Speaker 2: grams of protein with your breakfast and that's before coffee.
Speaker 1: I know, I know, not fun.
Speaker 2: But once you do this and even do it after
Speaker 2: one day, and you feel you have like energy for
Speaker 2: longer and also you just have more patience, Like my
Speaker 2: mood's better, my brain functions better. And there's a lot
Speaker 2: of reasons for this, like there's actually obviously science and
Speaker 2: things to this.
Speaker 1: But so they say this is obviously with studies.
Speaker 2: They've said smoother energy, So protein slows the absorption of caffeine,
Speaker 2: providing a steady release of energy rather than a sudden
Speaker 2: spike and crash. There's balanced blood sugar, which alone, if
Speaker 2: you struggle with acne still like meat, blood sugar regulation
Speaker 2: is actually so important and I had no idea about that.
Speaker 2: And I'm going to talk more about skin a bit later,
Speaker 2: but starting with protein helps prevent the jitter inducing cortisole
Speaker 2: spikes caused by black cops on an empty stomach or
Speaker 2: not black coffee or ice slattes. There's also enhanced brain functions,
Speaker 2: so amino acids in protein support the production of neurotransmitters
Speaker 2: like dopamine and serotonin, boosting focus and mental clarity. So
Speaker 2: also the team will love me more as well and
Speaker 2: my kids. If the others didn't convince you, this one will.
Speaker 2: So this one also it says you will get better digestion.
Speaker 2: Now there's another thing that's linked to my digestion massively,
Speaker 2: which I want to talk about in another step. But
Speaker 2: coffee on an empty stomach can increase acidity for some,
Speaker 2: So eating protein first creates a buffer in your stomach lining,
Speaker 2: so it just gives you a.
Speaker 1: Little extra cushion. You know, I struggle with acid. Acid.
Speaker 2: Wow, that sounds like I'm just having a rave every weekend. Okay,
Speaker 2: I don't struggle with acid. I just struggle with my
Speaker 2: stomach acid, and also says here for the low iron girlies,
Speaker 2: there's reduced iron interruptions. So coffee can sometimes interfere with
Speaker 2: iron absorbed and protein intake can help counteract this effect.
Speaker 2: So look, I'm giving you lots of reasons why. So
Speaker 2: for me, you know, with these glow ups and routines
Speaker 2: and things like that, you need to be okay with
Speaker 2: doing the bare minimum. So for me, I talk about
Speaker 2: lowering the bar, which is literally a step, and the
Speaker 2: routines you create, and you know, the life you want
Speaker 2: to lead, it needs to be realistic for the.
Speaker 1: Worst version of you.
Speaker 2: So if there's a version of you which is inevitable
Speaker 2: because we have a twenty eight day hormone cycle that
Speaker 2: wakes up and she's not feeling too crash hot, she's
Speaker 2: feeling sluggish, she needs to be able to be able
Speaker 2: to do this as well, because otherwise you're just setting
Speaker 2: yourself up for failure. And this is why a lot
Speaker 2: of people always talk about I can't see things through,
Speaker 2: I can't do habits, I fall off the bandwagon. It's
Speaker 2: because you're not setting your self ups for success for
Speaker 2: every day. So I want you to pitch your worst
Speaker 2: day and that version of you need to be able
Speaker 2: to do these things. So for me, you know, being
Speaker 2: able to have thirty grams of protein before coffee. If
Speaker 2: I've done that for the day, that's a win in
Speaker 2: my books, Like I've done my glow up step for
Speaker 2: the day.
Speaker 1: You know what I mean. So even if you can
Speaker 1: pick one of these, it's.
Speaker 2: This now number five. This is more of a look
Speaker 2: kind of vibe. This is fine your signature hairstyle. Now,
Speaker 2: I love a good mumbun. I love a mumbun I
Speaker 2: pump dry shampoo more than most people probably should because.
Speaker 1: I am an oily girl.
Speaker 2: But once you have a hairstyle that you can nail
Speaker 2: and it's low effort that takes you less than five minutes,
Speaker 2: that will make you feel so much put together.
Speaker 1: So I struggle with this for a long time. You
Speaker 1: have the GHD curls.
Speaker 2: They never just looked that great, and I learned it
Speaker 2: at makeup school, but it didn't make a difference. So
Speaker 2: years ago I grabbed myself the dice in air up,
Speaker 2: and I feel like people are either a love.
Speaker 1: Hate relationship with the Dyson.
Speaker 2: And at first I hate it because I didn't understand
Speaker 2: and it like whip your hair around, whip your hair
Speaker 2: back and forth, and my hair wouldn't really stay that well.
Speaker 2: But once I learned how to use it with like
Speaker 2: moose and you use it when your hair is like
Speaker 2: eighty percent dry, I just get this lovely, like lovely,
Speaker 2: this lovely blowout, and I can do that literally in
Speaker 2: under five minutes every day now, I'll do it for
Speaker 2: the gym, I'll do it for whatever, and it makes
Speaker 2: me feel just put together because I don't want to
Speaker 2: wear makeup every day, you know. So for you, it
Speaker 2: could be heatless curls, it could be a slickback butt.
Speaker 2: I personally don't do well with that one. I don't
Speaker 2: know if it annoys me a little bit, But so
Speaker 2: for me, I do the dice and air wrap curls.
Speaker 2: And there's hacks for this too, like if you do
Speaker 2: the dice and air rap, apparently if you put your
Speaker 2: hair in a high pony and you just curl like
Speaker 2: the ends and take it out.
Speaker 1: It does the same kind of tricks. So find your
Speaker 1: signature hairstyle.
Speaker 2: That you could do in your sleep, and you'll just
Speaker 2: notice you feel again. You'll just feel more confident for
Speaker 2: the day. And I really with this whole doable glow
Speaker 2: up thing. I have to say a bit of a
Speaker 2: mini storytime interruption, but when I had my girls, especially
Speaker 2: the carp of my first daughder, I had terrible postnatal depression.
Speaker 2: I was it was just absolutely brutal, Like you know,
Speaker 2: Ryan and I we wanted babies, we had the baby,
Speaker 2: and then I was like, why am I not happy?
Speaker 2: And I was just absolutely a mess. And then this
Speaker 2: is where I literally discovered my routines. And I talk
Speaker 2: about this in my book, like all of these things
Speaker 2: I'm talking about now is all from you know, my
Speaker 2: past experiences and things like that and what I've learned
Speaker 2: along the way. And I talk about all of this
Speaker 2: stuff in my book, but in more detail, and I
Speaker 2: guess the more why behind it. And I started trying
Speaker 2: out my first morning routine when Harper started sleeping through
Speaker 2: because she really did give me false hope and because
Speaker 2: Willow did not sleep through for a couple of years,
Speaker 2: but she started sleeping through, and I was like, you
Speaker 2: know what, you know, you know, when you have a baby,
Speaker 2: you're covered in like bloody milk and all crap and
Speaker 2: you just feel like so yuck most of the time.
Speaker 2: So I started, you know, getting her set up for
Speaker 2: the morning, and then I'd have a shower and I
Speaker 2: would literally just brush my hair back into a ponytails.
Speaker 2: It's like a low pony or a mum bum, but
Speaker 2: I would.
Speaker 1: Actually brush it. I put on a little bit of.
Speaker 2: Concealer or some balm, and I would put on something
Speaker 2: comfy but like cute. I'd open all the blinds, I'd
Speaker 2: play music like I started a full morning routine and
Speaker 2: it really did help so much. And that's when I realized, like,
Speaker 2: this is not superficial shit, like this is really powerful.
Speaker 1: And then more people can realize, like it's not vanity,
Speaker 1: it's none of that really can tap into this.
Speaker 2: So yes, try heatless curls. Personally, I suck at those.
Speaker 2: I can't do them to save my life. Try slip
Speaker 2: back bar and try your dice and whatever works for you.
Speaker 2: And yeah, have your signature hairstyle that you can do
Speaker 2: every day now Number six, which is to do with
Speaker 2: our skin. I've struggled with my skin for the longest time.
Speaker 2: So in high school i'd get, you know, your normal
Speaker 2: little breakouts like you know, more like the little hormonal ones.
Speaker 2: And then for years I didn't have it, the acne.
Speaker 2: And then I did comp prep, so I did those
Speaker 2: bikini competitions and I lost my period. It was it
Speaker 2: was a time. And when my period came back, which
Speaker 2: don't recommend that, by the way, my acne was horrific,
Speaker 2: like cystic acne along my cheeks on the jaw line,
Speaker 2: like where you get your hormonal acne. And ever since,
Speaker 2: I've had it on and off. And I know my
Speaker 2: skin is just very sensitive to things like fragrance and
Speaker 2: things I didn't realize.
Speaker 1: And I'm very.
Speaker 2: Oily, so I get clogged paws so easily, and that's
Speaker 2: what actually causes my acne now. And I've learnt a
Speaker 2: lot about my skin lately. And again I'm not a professional,
Speaker 2: but this is just what I've learned.
Speaker 1: For me, my.
Speaker 2: Luteal phase, I get very oily, so your oil production
Speaker 2: like you see when production ramps up in your luteal phase.
Speaker 2: And for me, because I'm already oily. Yeah, it's an
Speaker 2: oil factory, which leads to clogged paws, which leads to
Speaker 2: them turns into pimples.
Speaker 1: So for me, I have to do it. I have
Speaker 1: to alter my.
Speaker 2: Skin care routine for those ten days, like literally, but
Speaker 2: it makes a difference.
Speaker 1: But this step is simplifying your skin care.
Speaker 2: So I've done the fourteen step skin care routines and
Speaker 2: I had the worst skin in my life. Sometimes less
Speaker 2: is more, And you know, if you've just got your cleanser,
Speaker 2: some type of hydration serum, moisturize, SPF, you assorted, and
Speaker 2: like for me, I've added in now it's like acne friendly,
Speaker 2: like a peptide serum at nighttime. And I've also started
Speaker 2: using a zylic acid because it's like a lighter. It's
Speaker 2: like I think it's an exfoliant. Again, I'm not a dermatologist,
Speaker 2: but it helps with like acne fighting bacteria. And I
Speaker 2: just don't use actives all the time. So I started
Speaker 2: skin cycling, which I can do another I can do
Speaker 2: a full episode on my acne and things like that,
Speaker 2: and you know, just really researching the things you're using
Speaker 2: to make sure they don't have poor clogers.
Speaker 1: Now this is for people who get acne, of course,
Speaker 1: so look.
Speaker 2: Into everything that you put on your face, and even
Speaker 2: your hair products can cause acne on your cheeks when
Speaker 2: you're sleeping, and even your pillow cases. I have to
Speaker 2: change my pillow case every two days otherwise I will
Speaker 2: break out. So there's a lot, but less is more.
Speaker 2: So really just strip back the routine and go back
Speaker 2: to basics and you will honestly have much better skin
Speaker 2: for it. Now moving on to the next one, which
Speaker 2: is delete the habit that drains you. Now, for this
Speaker 2: you can do if you want. You can literally ride
Speaker 2: out your day step by step, and all your habits
Speaker 2: you'll do. Like maybe it could be having coffee before breakfast.
Speaker 2: It could be scrolling first thing in the morning. It
Speaker 2: could be wine every night. It could be for me
Speaker 2: working after five. And I want you to put like
Speaker 2: a plus or minus next to each one. So if
Speaker 2: something adds to it, gives you energy, makes you feel good,
Speaker 2: you put a plus next to it. Maybe it's reading,
Speaker 2: maybe it's having quality time with the kids, whatever it is,
Speaker 2: put a plus. And then everything that drains you or
Speaker 2: that you know affects you negatively, put a minus, and
Speaker 2: I want you to pick just you can pick just one.
Speaker 2: We're not going to go full ham, but pick one
Speaker 2: of those habits that have a minus next to it,
Speaker 2: and I want you to delete that one because again,
Speaker 2: it has a huge effect. So for me, my big
Speaker 2: one at the moment is working after five pm. And hey,
Speaker 2: there is going to be days when you're not perfect,
Speaker 2: but you will notice a difference. For me, before I
Speaker 2: started focusing on this five pm one, for me, it
Speaker 2: was having caffeine before breakfast because it had a ripple effect.
Speaker 1: On my entire day.
Speaker 2: My mood was off, I felt crap, I was getting
Speaker 2: breakouts from the blood sugar regulation, all of that stuff.
Speaker 2: So just delete one habit now. This one's probably one
Speaker 2: of my favorites. Mine is like the color season one
Speaker 2: in the breakfast one. But number eight. The eighth change
Speaker 2: I made was I lowered the bar. Now when we
Speaker 2: set out to do a new routine and things like that,
Speaker 2: if we overload ourselves with we've got to do this,
Speaker 2: We've got to do that and absolutely change everything that
Speaker 2: we already do and have huge high expectations on ourselves.
Speaker 2: The more friction you have and the more pressure you have,
Speaker 2: the less likely you're going to follow through with the task. So,
Speaker 2: for example, I actually talked about this in a episode
Speaker 2: a couple of weeks ago. But I used to always
Speaker 2: aim for ten k steps and I never would hit them.
Speaker 2: So the afternoon would roll around, I was at two
Speaker 2: k steps. I wouldn't even bother So I rolled it
Speaker 2: back to six k steps and then I would just go.
Speaker 2: Then I would get to the afternoon and I was
Speaker 2: at two k steps, So I'm like, oh, I'll just
Speaker 2: go for a walk.
Speaker 1: So I closed the.
Speaker 2: Gap between the goal and the reality of what I
Speaker 2: can do. Now I just want you just to even
Speaker 2: like again, it's like lowering the bar of the expectations
Speaker 2: on yourself. So instead of choosing to delete six bad habits,
Speaker 2: delete one. And the same goes for exercise. If you
Speaker 2: were like going from no exercise and then you're like,
Speaker 2: I'm going to go to the gym six days a week,
Speaker 2: that's a massive gap. Let's just like before you can run,
Speaker 2: you need to learn to walk.
Speaker 1: So lower the bar. The less friction means actually doing
Speaker 1: the thing. Now.
Speaker 2: Number nine, Now this is a really really important mindset shift. Now,
Speaker 2: this is the change I made, is I kept the
Speaker 2: promises I made to myself.
Speaker 1: Now, this is underneath all of the others. This has
Speaker 1: honestly got.
Speaker 2: To do with every single one of these things I've
Speaker 2: talked about, because the real glob is keeping the promises
Speaker 2: you make to yourself. What people don't realize is that,
Speaker 2: you know, confidence, self esteem, things like that, they all
Speaker 2: come from doing the things you said you would.
Speaker 1: Because if you always do the things you said you would.
Speaker 2: You approving to yourself time and time again that you
Speaker 2: can rely on yourself to follow through. You know, people
Speaker 2: like it. Technically it's just like discipline, but it's just
Speaker 2: really breaking it down to sound like you are keeping
Speaker 2: promises to your best friend. So whether it's like having
Speaker 2: a big skull of water in the morning, maybe it's
Speaker 2: gone for a walk, taking your supplements, having your protein.
Speaker 2: If you prove to yourself that you can do these
Speaker 2: things and you can trust yourself, that's where you're going
Speaker 2: to get your confidence from. You're building that self trust
Speaker 2: to do the things you said you would.
Speaker 1: Honestly, when you think.
Speaker 2: About it self, trust is just a stack of kept promises,
Speaker 2: it's like, and confidence is just the receipts of these.
Speaker 2: And you also notice when things get really hard in life,
Speaker 2: you know, when life throws as curve balls, you being
Speaker 2: able to have this self trust and this confidence is
Speaker 2: really going to help you be able to navigate these
Speaker 2: hurdles as well, because your belief that you can handle
Speaker 2: your life doesn't come from pep talks or affirmations. It
Speaker 2: grows from track record, from the evidence that you do
Speaker 2: the things you said you would. So even with our
Speaker 2: children like I, you know, with the girls, when they're
Speaker 2: suffering with things a bit more like anxiety, Like one
Speaker 2: of the girls has been struggling with school lately with anxiety,
Speaker 2: and even in the morning, which is actually another episode
Speaker 2: I'm doing next week, I just tell her to do
Speaker 2: the hard thing first. And because she does it, she's
Speaker 2: proving to herself that she can do the things, she
Speaker 2: can do the hard thing, and she can trust herself
Speaker 2: that she can handle anything that life throws at her.
Speaker 2: So her getting to school that day is always so
Speaker 2: much easier and lucky.
Speaker 1: Last before, our bonus hack.
Speaker 2: Which is actually going to change your life as well,
Speaker 2: is do something, Just do one thing for you, just
Speaker 2: one thing. And the rule with this is the outcome
Speaker 2: doesn't get to be like money or anything like that
Speaker 2: it's just for you, just for fun. Now look bonus point,
Speaker 2: I guess for this if it is like, you know,
Speaker 2: you like to go for walks with your friends or something.
Speaker 1: But do like a hobby.
Speaker 2: Like I want you to think about what did eight
Speaker 2: year old you love to do or teenage you love
Speaker 2: to do that she never got to really do, or
Speaker 2: maybe it's something you've stopped doing a long time ago.
Speaker 2: It could be reading fiction, it could be you know, sewing,
Speaker 2: it could be anything.
Speaker 1: So for me, I got.
Speaker 2: Into playing guitar last year and that really this makes me,
Speaker 2: I don't know, it just makes me feel more creative
Speaker 2: in my work at home, and it just makes me
Speaker 2: feel so so calm because as adults we stop having fun.
Speaker 2: We only do things for a certain outcome, like to
Speaker 2: make money, to get fitter, to have a cleaner house.
Speaker 1: But we don't do things just because we can.
Speaker 2: And this is where you get to actually celebrate yourself
Speaker 2: and your younger self and just do the things that
Speaker 2: you deserve, because like, life is so short, and you know,
Speaker 2: if we're always just living in our to do list,
Speaker 2: we're gonna like miss out on the view as well.
Speaker 2: So it could be you know, paint by numbers. It
Speaker 2: could be coloring in, it could be reading. It could
Speaker 2: be like I would love to start a monthly book club.
Speaker 2: I would absolutely love that.
Speaker 1: But just do one thing that's that's just for you.
Speaker 2: You know, as I said at the start of this
Speaker 2: pod episode that you know, I got lost in motherhood
Speaker 2: of you know, just you know, at the end of
Speaker 2: the day, I would sit down and I'd done everyone
Speaker 2: else's things, but my own. I didn't do one thing
Speaker 2: for myself. I didn't even think about myself once. And
Speaker 2: this is your chance to do, even if it's five
Speaker 2: or ten minutes a day, to just celebrate yourself and
Speaker 2: do something for you. All right, So here's a bonus
Speaker 2: hack that I promised. So this is a way for
Speaker 2: you to feel put together, even on the most feral
Speaker 2: days possible, when everyone hates each other and mercury.
Speaker 1: Isn't in Sorry, I always do this.
Speaker 2: I love for my own drug before would say it
Speaker 2: fuck and mercury is in the microwave again or in
Speaker 2: bloody the oven. Sometimes now when you are like just
Speaker 2: really strut for time and you're like, oh, maybe you
Speaker 2: don't even have time to do your signature hairstyle, I
Speaker 2: want you to pick two things from the following.
Speaker 1: List makeup, hair or cute outfit.
Speaker 2: Now, if you have two of these things, you will
Speaker 2: look put together always.
Speaker 1: So think about it.
Speaker 2: A day you don't want to put your makeup on,
Speaker 2: If you have your signature hairstyle and a cute set on,
Speaker 2: you're gonna look put together. Or maybe you can't do
Speaker 2: your hair. You put your hair and up in a barn,
Speaker 2: and you've got makeup on, You've got.
Speaker 1: A cute outfit. You look put together. You're wearing a
Speaker 1: potato sack for the day. You do your hair, you.
Speaker 2: Do your makeup, you still look half decent. People might
Speaker 2: question you, but you still look hot. And this is
Speaker 2: the thing that will like again. If you do just
Speaker 2: two things, you'll always look like you're intentional. You'll look
Speaker 2: like this look is intentional. I'm intentional with why I'm
Speaker 2: wearing a potato sack today because my head looks great.
Speaker 2: So when you look at this durable glow up, it's
Speaker 2: really just about being realistic. We don't want to give
Speaker 2: up our carbs or our personality. But underneath all of
Speaker 2: it there is a formula which is less friction less clutter,
Speaker 2: fewer decisions and more kept promises, which all of this
Speaker 2: together equals coming home to yourself and celebrating yourself again
Speaker 2: because you deserve that. Not one thing on that list
Speaker 2: that I've just told you is actually hard. Okay, maybe
Speaker 2: editing the wardrobe is debatable, but you can do that
Speaker 2: in sections. You can start with the tops and then
Speaker 2: do undies or whatever. And a few of them are
Speaker 2: literally you doing less on purpose and being less productive
Speaker 2: on purpose. So here's your challenge from this episode, and
Speaker 2: I would love if you could please tag me on
Speaker 2: Instagram and show me what one you picked. But I
Speaker 2: want you to do just one of these things from
Speaker 2: the Durable blow Up. You can focus on one per week,
Speaker 2: and as you do them, they will become habits and
Speaker 2: you can tick them off. So please just do one thing.
Speaker 2: Do recommend the protein one. It's just as big to
Speaker 2: advice because it will do your health a lot of good.
Speaker 2: But please, yeah, please let me know which one you
Speaker 2: peek to tag me on Instagram. I'd love to see it,
Speaker 2: And if you haven't yet, I would love if you
Speaker 2: guys could leave me a review. It helps me get
Speaker 2: seen by more people and also subscribe to the show.
Speaker 2: I love you guys, and I will and I will
Speaker 2: be in your ears next Monday.
Speaker 1: Bye.