WEBVTT - We've hit a new milestone!

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<v Speaker 1>Apogae Production, Welcome back to you another episode of am

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<v Speaker 1>I of ad Mum podcast. This is a weird one too,

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<v Speaker 1>because the next school holidays is the big long summer holidays,

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<v Speaker 1>and that's generally the holiday where parents take some time

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<v Speaker 1>off work over Christmas.

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<v Speaker 2>Yea.

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<v Speaker 3>I found that this year in particular, the more people

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<v Speaker 3>that I spoke to that do have school age kids

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<v Speaker 3>that were like, I'm just so exhausted, we just needed

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<v Speaker 3>a couple of weeks home.

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<v Speaker 2>And so then that leads you into term four.

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<v Speaker 3>Because term four naturally is busy for majority of you

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<v Speaker 3>know grades, whether it's grade twelve or grade one, it's

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<v Speaker 3>a busy time. Christmas all the rest comes into play.

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<v Speaker 3>Speaking of that, you've got birthdays up in that.

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<v Speaker 1>Ye yeah, And I just as I'm looking at you,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, I have done absolutely nothing for Christmas. I've

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<v Speaker 1>done absolutely nothing for Birthday either.

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<v Speaker 3>I need to probably bring that up in another podcast

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<v Speaker 3>because I think I have a feeling I have to

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<v Speaker 3>address before Christmas Santa issues.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 3>Unless you've got any advice as to how to have

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<v Speaker 3>that discussion, please send it to us on Instagram. But

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<v Speaker 3>otherwise I'll give you the wrap. Up of the Santa

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<v Speaker 3>discussion post having it.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, wish me luck, good luck? Am I a bad

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<v Speaker 1>mum for in doing the tough time?

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<v Speaker 3>Just one one tough time or lots? It like an

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<v Speaker 3>ongoing saga.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, actually, I'm gonna start this with a positive okay.

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<v Speaker 1>And this is so it's a wild thing to be

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<v Speaker 1>saying after we've done this podcast for so many years

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<v Speaker 1>and our kids were so little. I think Elsie was two,

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<v Speaker 1>she was.

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<v Speaker 3>Just three, remember, because I was like, it's not terrible twos,

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<v Speaker 3>it's those horrible threes. I got through the two's generally okay, yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>and then the threes hit and it was just like, so.

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<v Speaker 1>Our four kids were about three, five, and ten.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah yeah, yeah, And.

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<v Speaker 1>So now navigating teenagers is a whole different Kellorfish. But

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<v Speaker 1>this is a real milestone. Both of my kids now

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<v Speaker 1>have jobic.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh that is so good. That is so good.

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<v Speaker 3>We were talking about it, like the last conversation, we

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<v Speaker 3>were just going too bad, it's so sad, you need

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<v Speaker 3>to do it.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not paying for a cecent.

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<v Speaker 1>I got to a point where I was threatening so much.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, when you're sixteen, you have phone bills

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<v Speaker 1>not being paid you be cut off to start paying rent.

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<v Speaker 1>Like I went all in whatever with the threats. They

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<v Speaker 1>both have jobs now, and I was like, I'm happy

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<v Speaker 1>to pay their phone bill because what I wanted to

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<v Speaker 1>see was the effort, you know, the first time that

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<v Speaker 1>Actually it was a really nice moment when Amelia got

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<v Speaker 1>paid for the first time and none of us really

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<v Speaker 1>knew when paid they was for her, but she got

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<v Speaker 1>an alert that money had gone into a bank and

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<v Speaker 1>she had I've been paid, and she was so excited.

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<v Speaker 1>And what she said was, which is like, we've been

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<v Speaker 1>saying this, like we've been banging on about this feeling,

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<v Speaker 1>and just they couldn't have possibly understood it until they

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<v Speaker 1>actually went through it. But she went, it just feels

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<v Speaker 1>so nice that I've got money in my bank that

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<v Speaker 1>I've actually made that I haven't had to ask you for.

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<v Speaker 1>I haven't had to, you know, say please, please please,

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<v Speaker 1>can I do this? And you say no, I've just

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<v Speaker 1>got the money in there. I was like, see, that's

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<v Speaker 1>the feeling. It's the nice thing knowing that your hard

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<v Speaker 1>work is actually paid off and you've got a job.

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<v Speaker 1>But it's just the interesting part and this is where

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<v Speaker 1>and enjoying the tough time was because I've spoken very

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<v Speaker 1>openly kids in general, I feel like need to do

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<v Speaker 1>a tough job to start with. They get everything handed

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<v Speaker 1>to them on a plate. These days, kids, they get

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<v Speaker 1>so spoil and if you look back to when we

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<v Speaker 1>were kids, we did the hard graft, we did all

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<v Speaker 1>that shit stuff. And so they're working in a fast

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<v Speaker 1>food place, wonderful. And Amelia's first shift was just you know, learn, learn,

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<v Speaker 1>being shown around all that kind of stuff. Second shift,

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<v Speaker 1>I went, what did you do today? Like, how was it?

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<v Speaker 1>And she was like, she comes in like she's been

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<v Speaker 1>at war. She comes in in a little uniform, which

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<v Speaker 1>is so funny because it's like I've been banging on

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<v Speaker 1>about them being old enough to get a job for

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<v Speaker 1>so long, and then when you see your child in

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<v Speaker 1>a work uniform, it's like, oh wow, she's actually just

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<v Speaker 1>a little girl in.

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<v Speaker 2>A uniform, so so good when.

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<v Speaker 1>She comes in and then what you have to do?

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<v Speaker 3>She went, I was on fries, on fries, just one section,

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<v Speaker 3>just on fries for how long?

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<v Speaker 1>Three hours?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my god? Yeah, she's still like fries.

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<v Speaker 1>And then and then she came home and she comes

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<v Speaker 1>in and then she's gone, yeahs on fries like telling

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<v Speaker 1>me about it, and I went, you stink, you absolutely stink,

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<v Speaker 1>and she was like, oh know. And it was just

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<v Speaker 1>like that when I say enjoying the tough time. It

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<v Speaker 1>was like, this is resilience, right, this is needed, This

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<v Speaker 1>is necessary for life and work ethic and everything that

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<v Speaker 1>goes with it. But it's it was almost like the

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<v Speaker 1>fact that she's stunk. I was like, this is brilliant.

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<v Speaker 2>Did she actually smell like fries?

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<v Speaker 1>Fries? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 3>I wonder if you get to that point, Like I

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<v Speaker 3>remember my first job was at the cheesecake shop, and

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<v Speaker 3>I got to the point where I was like, if

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<v Speaker 3>I have to smell so sweet again, like just that sweet,

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<v Speaker 3>sweet sweetness, Like I'd go home and I'd literally smell

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<v Speaker 3>like my hair smell like cheesecake, and because you'd be

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<v Speaker 3>obviously serving out the front, but not only that, I

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<v Speaker 3>had to help out with like getting stuff out of

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<v Speaker 3>the ovens and like moving boxes of like you know,

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<v Speaker 3>Pavlovas and things like that. So super sweet. But I

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<v Speaker 3>was like I got to the point where I was

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<v Speaker 3>like I am so oversweet. Yeah, whereas like for the girls,

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<v Speaker 3>it's gonna be like fries or like yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Because I ve half the time. How are they going

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<v Speaker 2>to go cooking burgers with people?

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<v Speaker 1>No? You know what happens? And this is I honestly

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<v Speaker 1>because I've got a friend.

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<v Speaker 2>Are you going to scar me to the point that

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not going to ever eat it again?

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<v Speaker 3>No?

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<v Speaker 1>But I've got a friend who used to work at

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<v Speaker 1>the same place when she was a kid. So whatever,

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<v Speaker 1>that was twenty whatever. Yeah, thinking I'm trying to do

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<v Speaker 1>the math in my head, thinking.

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<v Speaker 2>Twenty younger than we are.

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<v Speaker 1>And she said at the time it was girls out

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<v Speaker 1>front and the boys were in the back. And we

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<v Speaker 1>had a chat about it. I was like, oh, there's

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<v Speaker 1>no way that would happen now, of course that wouldn't

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<v Speaker 1>be allowed. Yeah, still the same girls out front, so

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<v Speaker 1>she doesn't have to make the burgers. Thats the boys

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<v Speaker 1>out the back.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my gosh.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you know what else happened? Rachel and I couldn't.

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<v Speaker 2>Help, but smart I had to clean the toilet.

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<v Speaker 1>No, she had take the bins out, you know, not

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<v Speaker 1>fun but dressful. Whatever. Was a woman. There was a

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<v Speaker 1>woman that went through the drive through. So she was

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<v Speaker 1>on the drive through this particular day because they learned

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<v Speaker 1>it all the woman that went through the drive through,

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<v Speaker 1>and she was so mad about her order taking too

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<v Speaker 1>long that she turned around to Amelia and stuck her

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<v Speaker 1>fingers up at her. What really is telling me?

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<v Speaker 2>I was is wrong with these people? What did you do?

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<v Speaker 1>She was like, I just I didn't make eye contacts.

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<v Speaker 3>Imagine that she comes in and she's like, got fired today?

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<v Speaker 2>What force sticking up my finger? That's driving off? Who

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<v Speaker 2>was doing it to me?

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<v Speaker 3>Oh my gosh, that is so exciting. Now both of

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<v Speaker 3>them have got obviously a job, right. Yeah, So we're

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<v Speaker 3>just waiting on Holly's pay day to drop and then

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<v Speaker 3>it'll be full steam ahead for the car fund that

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<v Speaker 3>they're going to be looking at.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, so big plan to save lots of cash. So far,

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<v Speaker 1>Amelia has been paid twice and she owes us money

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<v Speaker 1>because she borrowed it before being paid.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my gosh. So the car fund is going well.

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<v Speaker 1>Not yeah, okay, I did say, because the rule was

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<v Speaker 1>spend half, save half.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, to be.

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<v Speaker 1>Able to do so you're still rewarded, like you still

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<v Speaker 1>feel like it's because not fun saving all your money.

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<v Speaker 1>But I said spend half, save half, and the first payday,

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<v Speaker 1>I said, just spend your first payday because like, that's exciting. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>both working, and you know that.

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<v Speaker 3>Is a milestone for all of you, everyone in the household.

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<v Speaker 1>And it's just so funny. You're seeing them come in

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<v Speaker 1>the door in the uniform and I'll be like, your

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<v Speaker 1>dinner's in the microwave.

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<v Speaker 2>They're like, oh, what a day. I'm so tired. Yeah. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>And the other thing that Amelia said the other day,

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<v Speaker 1>she's like, I feel so sorry for my manager, and

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<v Speaker 1>I went, why she went? She got there before I

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<v Speaker 1>started and she's still going to be there two hours

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<v Speaker 1>after I finished. And I was like, because she did

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<v Speaker 1>a three hour shift, mate, most people do.

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<v Speaker 2>Eights three hours? Is that all they work? Three hours

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<v Speaker 2>and they're out of there.

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's all they're allowed to do.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my gosh. Yeah, twelve hour days on a Sunday.

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<v Speaker 1>We're still protecting our kid, Oh gosh.

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<v Speaker 3>Anyway, I'm very proud of them, and I look forward

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<v Speaker 3>to hearing how they keep going with this car fund.

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<v Speaker 2>It's a very exciting time that they're coming into.

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<v Speaker 3>I can't wait until we start doing podcasts on how

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<v Speaker 3>the driving lessons are going, because they are gonna be

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<v Speaker 3>a hoot.

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<v Speaker 1>I said to the girls, you will definitely be doing

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<v Speaker 1>at least one, hopefully more than that, driving lessons before

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<v Speaker 1>you get in my car. Yeah, why everybody else's I said,

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<v Speaker 1>I'll tell you the reason why, because i will sit

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<v Speaker 1>there in the car with you, and I'm just basing

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<v Speaker 1>this off of everything else in our lives that we

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<v Speaker 1>talk about. You will turn around to me and you

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<v Speaker 1>will tell me that I've got no idea.

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<v Speaker 2>I was going to say, you're like one or two lessons.

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<v Speaker 3>I'd be like a month worth of lessons with somebody else,

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<v Speaker 3>because they listen better for somebody else than they do

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<v Speaker 3>for us. So a month worth of like lessons with

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<v Speaker 3>somebody else, and then you can get in my car

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<v Speaker 3>and drive with me, because then you've got a month's

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<v Speaker 3>worth of backing from somebody else. Like the classic stereotype

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<v Speaker 3>of a driving instructor in my head is like an

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<v Speaker 3>older gentleman who's sitting there and hand loves to drive

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<v Speaker 3>and just knows everything about the road and the rules

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<v Speaker 3>on the road, and you know, let him do those

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<v Speaker 3>early stoppy, starty jumpies one and then by the time

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<v Speaker 3>that they get into your car a month later, I

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<v Speaker 3>sitting Yeah, it might be a little bit more smooth

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<v Speaker 3>sailing Geez, they're going to be a good podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>Actually, what we might do

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<v Speaker 3>Is put a little recorder in your first one so

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<v Speaker 3>that everyone can listen to