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Speaker 1: I'll get a team. Welcome to another installment, the new project.

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Speaker 1: I almost forgot the name of mind Joe hang on,

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Speaker 1: let me just check. Yep, do you hang on? Let

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Speaker 1: me just look it up again, Capital T what yep?

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Speaker 1: You project? Hi tiv I harps. I'm stumbling towards Christian.

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Speaker 1: I'm getting my words muddled, My mort's waddled.

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Speaker 2: Your brain's clocked off, your brain's gone on holidays.

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Speaker 1: It can't clock off. You know why I can't clock off? Well, one,

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Speaker 1: it's twelve thirty six and I've got a forty five

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Speaker 1: minutes or so. Do you chat to you and the

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Speaker 1: lovely doctor Lillian. But then it's fifteen hundred, which is

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Speaker 1: two and a half hours away. I've got like a

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Speaker 1: really big UNI meeting with all my supervisors, and I'm

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Speaker 1: very I'm very scared. I'm thinking of taking some kind

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Speaker 1: of stimulant ten minutes beforehand, can you two recommend anything? Lilian,

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Speaker 1: got anything that I can take that's going to improve

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Speaker 1: my IQ by about thirty points?

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Speaker 3: No, Well, take some responsibility and just deal with it.

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Speaker 1: Fucking the hell.

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Speaker 4: That's a good stimulants of responsibility for you.

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Speaker 1: Take a cup of hardened the fuck up hops.

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Speaker 2: She's only today cheap too, doctor Lilliam, even more than normal.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, what have you got planned for Chrissy? Doc?

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Speaker 1: We are it's the twentieth that's Frauday, so with five

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Speaker 1: days out, but we're going to talk about chrisy. But

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Speaker 1: is it a big deal in your family or do

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Speaker 1: you just sail through it quietly?

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Speaker 3: No, it's always been a big deal in our family

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Speaker 3: and in Australia. This year, I actually have my mother here,

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Speaker 3: so she's come from the States.

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Speaker 1: Oh awesome. And is she here already? Yeah, she's been here.

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Speaker 3: For almost three weeks since she'll be here for another.

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Speaker 1: Three And what is she Has she been here before?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, she's been This is her ninth time.

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Speaker 1: Oh wow, Wow, I've been.

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Speaker 3: Here for thirty years? Did you know?

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Speaker 1: Wow? That is a long time, and you've lost none

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Speaker 1: of that accent?

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Speaker 3: I know. I know people still ask like when I

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Speaker 3: moved and when I like, I don't usually say thirty years.

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Speaker 3: I usually like a really long time.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, well you know, it's been a minute. It's been

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Speaker 3: But they're like, oh, it sounds like you just got here.

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Speaker 3: I'm like, well, it's actually really hard to imitate the

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Speaker 3: Australian accent. I don't know if well, you probably know

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Speaker 3: that because a lot of actors try to do it

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Speaker 3: and they can't. Uh, and I definitely cannot it either.

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Speaker 1: A lot of a lot of really good Hollywood actors

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Speaker 1: and famous actors are terrible at doing Some do, some

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Speaker 1: can pull it off, but yeah, very few. I've never

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Speaker 1: heard any that that sound completely Australian, like you couldn't

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Speaker 1: pick it. Whereas like we grow up around American accents.

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Speaker 1: I've probably heard more American accents definitely on television than

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Speaker 1: Australian when I was growing up, because all the all

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Speaker 1: the comedies I watched, all this, you know, all the

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Speaker 1: kind of series that I watched, were I never watched.

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Speaker 1: I'm probably quite unpatriotic in that I've never watched one

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Speaker 1: episode of Neighbors or what's the other one really, Home

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Speaker 1: and Away. I don't know why I never watched, do

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Speaker 1: you know what. I've tried quite a few casts members

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Speaker 3: The first show I ever saw that was an Australian

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Speaker 3: show was Home and Away. I was actually in London. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: And we just we just thought it was really funny

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Speaker 3: dramatic and like unrealistic and like, you know, just crazy

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Speaker 3: you know, Like it was just very like regular life stuff.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, oh, I got a new pair of socks. What

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Speaker 1: do you think of my socks?

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Speaker 3: And now an ad and the theme song was great too.

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Speaker 3: We memorize the theme song. We were like really into it.

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Speaker 1: We were talking this is probably not what we're going

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Speaker 1: to talk about, but we'll talk the other day. All

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Speaker 1: the boys in the gym about all the all the

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Speaker 1: and all the youngies are like, no idea what you're

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Speaker 1: don't know what Gilligan's Island is or The Brady Bunch

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Speaker 3: even though those were like slightly before our time, even

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Speaker 3: and then you know they don't watch TV anymore.

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Speaker 1: That's why, Well, that's true. TV is dying. So traditional media,

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Speaker 1: know FREDDA in normal FM, AM radio, and old school television. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it's definitely on the decline. And you're right. Kids basically

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Speaker 3: And the thing is, because of the advent of things

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but I've actually because I've always loved television and

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Speaker 3: And we've always had like family television show that either

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Speaker 3: And my daughter and I watched, for instance, the whole

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Speaker 3: now we're watching a real like a ninety show, The OC.

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Speaker 1: You told me about The Gilmore Girls a couple of

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Speaker 1: It wasn't terrible, But it's like old. It's like started

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Speaker 1: mind a little bit of do you know what I like?

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Speaker 1: I like watching stuff that doesn't make me think particularly hard.

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Speaker 1: It doesn't make me feel anxious because there's it's fucking

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Speaker 3: Well, look, I think that could be fun. A lot

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Speaker 3: of people think that's fine. I don't mind a little

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's beautiful, like a bit baby.

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Speaker 1: Hey, I don't want to go over something we've spoken

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Speaker 1: wanted to touch on something that David Gillespie, who's a

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Speaker 1: And so the statistic that's in published in the Lancet

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Speaker 1: Psychiatry is that three out of four, or obviously seventy

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Speaker 3: it would. It must be significantly more for that to

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Speaker 3: have been published in the lanset. But I think overall,

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Speaker 3: youth anxiety is growing.

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Speaker 1: You think maybe there's also a relationship because we were

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Speaker 1: I don't know if we were the number one, but

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Speaker 3: For Yeah, it was like almost a year.

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Speaker 1: It was like a yearish where kids couldn't be kids essentially, well,

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Speaker 1: There were cage kids for a year. That's going to

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Speaker 1: be especially you know, like if you're five years old,

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Speaker 1: that's twenty percent of your life like that year.

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Speaker 3: It's not even just the fact that children were not

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Speaker 3: but they were also in homes with stressed out parents.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's true.

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Speaker 3: So you have this kind of you know, exposure to

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Speaker 3: anxiety and stress at a level that we've as a

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Speaker 1: Yes.

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Speaker 3: And when I think of like some of my clients

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Speaker 1: You know what I used to do? Eat and know this, Tiff.

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Speaker 1: getting a few endorphins and a bit of dopamine because

433
00:22:48,000 --> 00:22:50,840
Speaker 1: they're running around in the sand and running some stairs

434
00:22:50,880 --> 00:22:53,800
Speaker 1: and doing some body weight stuff and saying hello to

435
00:22:53,840 --> 00:22:57,119
Speaker 1: a whole bunch of people. And yeah, I just remember

436
00:22:57,200 --> 00:23:00,159
Speaker 1: what an amazing day, or what an amazing start to

437
00:23:00,200 --> 00:23:02,880
Speaker 1: the day that was. And a lot of people back then,

438
00:23:03,680 --> 00:23:05,360
Speaker 1: you know, they would come to me and say, this

439
00:23:05,400 --> 00:23:07,560
Speaker 1: is actually the best part of my Christmas Day because

440
00:23:07,560 --> 00:23:09,359
Speaker 1: of the rest of the day is not great for me,

441
00:23:09,520 --> 00:23:13,600
Speaker 1: and they really appreciated that, you know, that early morning

442
00:23:13,840 --> 00:23:16,680
Speaker 1: energy and fun and everybody who needed it got a

443
00:23:16,680 --> 00:23:18,200
Speaker 1: bit of a harg and a bit of a high five.

444
00:23:18,280 --> 00:23:21,040
Speaker 1: And that are idea.

445
00:23:21,240 --> 00:23:22,360
Speaker 3: That's a great idea.

446
00:23:22,400 --> 00:23:24,520
Speaker 1: I loved it. I would do that now, but you're

447
00:23:24,560 --> 00:23:27,600
Speaker 1: not allowed to. You can't. I can't just meet you know.

448
00:23:27,640 --> 00:23:30,879
Speaker 1: The funny thing is, I can't meet a bunch of

449
00:23:30,920 --> 00:23:34,080
Speaker 1: people at the beach in this area where I live

450
00:23:34,200 --> 00:23:36,280
Speaker 1: and just train them. And I get it, you know,

451
00:23:36,359 --> 00:23:38,160
Speaker 1: it's all that. But it was in the old days

452
00:23:38,200 --> 00:23:39,879
Speaker 1: when you could just do that and no one. No

453
00:23:39,960 --> 00:23:43,560
Speaker 1: one was running around going what about the council regulations

454
00:23:43,560 --> 00:23:46,040
Speaker 1: and what about lawsuits? And what about our health and

455
00:23:46,119 --> 00:23:48,840
Speaker 1: safety and what about We're all just fucking running and

456
00:23:48,920 --> 00:23:51,520
Speaker 1: laughing nobody. Everybody was just having a good time. But

457
00:23:51,600 --> 00:23:54,359
Speaker 1: now we've got to fucking bring nine lawyers to the

458
00:23:54,359 --> 00:23:57,200
Speaker 1: beach with us. You know, it's fucking ridiculous.

459
00:23:58,119 --> 00:24:00,359
Speaker 3: That is a shame. But I think you bring up

460
00:24:00,359 --> 00:24:03,600
Speaker 3: a good point that you know, if we're we're sourceful,

461
00:24:04,640 --> 00:24:07,560
Speaker 3: which I think is a great skill to have. There

462
00:24:07,600 --> 00:24:10,000
Speaker 3: are lots of ways that you can meet with like

463
00:24:10,040 --> 00:24:13,199
Speaker 3: minded people on the day, Like yeah, you know, or

464
00:24:13,240 --> 00:24:16,080
Speaker 3: even online if you don't want to meet people in person,

465
00:24:16,280 --> 00:24:18,679
Speaker 3: there would be I haven't looked into it myself, but

466
00:24:18,720 --> 00:24:22,040
Speaker 3: maybe this is something I should do as well as

467
00:24:22,440 --> 00:24:24,359
Speaker 3: you know, what are the Facebook groups around? What are

468
00:24:24,359 --> 00:24:25,000
Speaker 3: the meetups?

469
00:24:25,040 --> 00:24:25,239
Speaker 4: You know?

470
00:24:25,359 --> 00:24:25,439
Speaker 1: Like?

471
00:24:25,600 --> 00:24:28,080
Speaker 3: What can people actually do on the day that is

472
00:24:28,119 --> 00:24:32,240
Speaker 3: not Christmas focused? Yes, and that will you know lift

473
00:24:33,800 --> 00:24:35,800
Speaker 3: their spirits are just you know, like make it a

474
00:24:35,800 --> 00:24:38,320
Speaker 3: good day, not you know, it's just another Wednesday, but

475
00:24:38,320 --> 00:24:39,920
Speaker 3: it could be a really great Wednesday.

476
00:24:40,400 --> 00:24:43,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, I wonder if I wonder, I'm just wondering, Tiff,

477
00:24:43,560 --> 00:24:47,320
Speaker 1: maybe I could do a six thirty. Can't. I can't

478
00:24:47,320 --> 00:24:49,719
Speaker 1: get mad at you for going for a Christmas morning

479
00:24:49,760 --> 00:24:52,080
Speaker 1: walk with one hundred people and if you.

480
00:24:52,240 --> 00:24:55,760
Speaker 2: Just happen to drop down, and I mean you can't.

481
00:24:55,480 --> 00:24:58,800
Speaker 1: Stop if people decide to fucking jog through the sand

482
00:24:58,840 --> 00:25:01,040
Speaker 1: a little bit because there are a bit crazy, if

483
00:25:01,080 --> 00:25:04,840
Speaker 1: people want to do some burpies and some wall squats

484
00:25:04,880 --> 00:25:07,680
Speaker 1: and if people fuck I can't. I wouldn't suggest it.

485
00:25:07,720 --> 00:25:13,440
Speaker 1: But if people just spontaneously break into exercise, I mean,

486
00:25:13,600 --> 00:25:15,640
Speaker 1: who am I to get in the way. I mean,

487
00:25:15,680 --> 00:25:18,480
Speaker 1: it's not a cult or anything. People are free to

488
00:25:18,520 --> 00:25:25,240
Speaker 1: do what they want wow, So stand by, everybody stand by.

489
00:25:25,280 --> 00:25:28,040
Speaker 1: That might happen. That might be announced. It may or

490
00:25:28,040 --> 00:25:30,760
Speaker 1: may not, but it might be announced on the New

491
00:25:30,840 --> 00:25:33,679
Speaker 1: Project Facebook page. If you're not a member, become a member.

492
00:25:34,240 --> 00:25:37,159
Speaker 1: But now I wonder it would probably just be you

493
00:25:37,240 --> 00:25:41,719
Speaker 1: and me, cook, you and me and the dog, You,

494
00:25:41,920 --> 00:25:43,280
Speaker 1: me and Luna.

495
00:25:44,240 --> 00:25:46,240
Speaker 2: Were you're coming second? Then if Luna is going to

496
00:25:46,240 --> 00:25:48,320
Speaker 2: be in the race, I'm coming.

497
00:25:48,440 --> 00:25:50,480
Speaker 1: I mean, if there's three of us, you, me, and Luna,

498
00:25:50,520 --> 00:25:53,320
Speaker 1: I'm fucking so far up the back. It's embarrassing.

499
00:25:54,240 --> 00:25:56,399
Speaker 3: I love how you're like. Lilian's not going to show up.

500
00:25:56,480 --> 00:25:57,639
Speaker 3: It's too early for her.

501
00:25:58,400 --> 00:25:59,720
Speaker 1: If I do it, will you show up?

502
00:26:00,080 --> 00:26:07,440
Speaker 5: Probably not exactly, exactly exactly arrest arrest my case.

503
00:26:07,280 --> 00:26:09,960
Speaker 1: Too early, it's too early.

504
00:26:10,240 --> 00:26:11,280
Speaker 3: I want to be invited.

505
00:26:12,840 --> 00:26:14,480
Speaker 1: Well, I'm not going to invite you if you're not

506
00:26:14,520 --> 00:26:16,719
Speaker 1: going to turn up. So if you're going to turn up,

507
00:26:16,760 --> 00:26:19,920
Speaker 1: you're invited. If you just want to be invited because

508
00:26:19,920 --> 00:26:23,240
Speaker 1: your self esteem needs a boost, you're not invited.

509
00:26:23,680 --> 00:26:27,359
Speaker 3: Hey, this whole idea came about because of our conversation.

510
00:26:27,080 --> 00:26:29,840
Speaker 1: So that's true. That's true. I'm going to give that

511
00:26:29,920 --> 00:26:32,600
Speaker 1: some thought. I mean, it's one o three on Friday

512
00:26:32,720 --> 00:26:35,600
Speaker 1: on the twentieth, So it may not happen, but I'm

513
00:26:35,640 --> 00:26:38,200
Speaker 1: definitely going to give that. I'm definitely going to give

514
00:26:38,200 --> 00:26:41,439
Speaker 1: that some thought. So so keep talking to us about

515
00:26:41,480 --> 00:26:44,440
Speaker 1: this time of the year in general. It's not just Christmas,

516
00:26:44,440 --> 00:26:47,560
Speaker 1: it's New Years, it's when people is it a good

517
00:26:47,560 --> 00:26:50,000
Speaker 1: time of the year. You know, I'm not one on

518
00:26:50,080 --> 00:26:54,480
Speaker 1: news resolutions. Everyone knows, but I guess it depends. I

519
00:26:54,480 --> 00:26:57,320
Speaker 1: guess it depends how it's Starmach can work. But you're going,

520
00:26:57,480 --> 00:26:59,719
Speaker 1: is this a good time to reflect and plan or

521
00:27:00,200 --> 00:27:01,120
Speaker 1: is that kind of bullshit?

522
00:27:02,400 --> 00:27:06,439
Speaker 3: Well it can be bullshit. It depends on what you

523
00:27:06,480 --> 00:27:08,200
Speaker 3: do with it. But I feel like when we talk

524
00:27:08,240 --> 00:27:11,480
Speaker 3: about this time of year, the main thing that comes

525
00:27:11,560 --> 00:27:13,560
Speaker 3: up for me and for a lot of people that

526
00:27:13,640 --> 00:27:17,280
Speaker 3: I'm around, is it's really stressful. The end of the

527
00:27:17,359 --> 00:27:23,199
Speaker 3: year is stressful, and I think I think there's a

528
00:27:23,200 --> 00:27:25,280
Speaker 3: lot of reasons for that. I always find like just

529
00:27:25,320 --> 00:27:27,480
Speaker 3: before I go on a holiday of any kind, any

530
00:27:27,520 --> 00:27:30,560
Speaker 3: time of year, it's the just before the holiday that's

531
00:27:30,600 --> 00:27:34,200
Speaker 3: the most stressful time because you're trying to tie up

532
00:27:35,119 --> 00:27:37,679
Speaker 3: things so that you are able to take that time

533
00:27:38,400 --> 00:27:43,119
Speaker 3: off and have like you know, actual rest and relaxation,

534
00:27:43,200 --> 00:27:45,000
Speaker 3: don't have to worry about work, which is hard when

535
00:27:45,000 --> 00:27:49,879
Speaker 3: you own your own businesses as well. And so this

536
00:27:50,000 --> 00:27:52,240
Speaker 3: is like a big version of that. Right, It's like

537
00:27:52,440 --> 00:27:56,560
Speaker 3: everyone's taking almost everyone is taking at least a couple,

538
00:27:56,640 --> 00:27:58,360
Speaker 3: you know, one or two weeks off at this time

539
00:27:58,400 --> 00:28:00,679
Speaker 3: of year. So everyone's kind of trying to tie up

540
00:28:00,680 --> 00:28:03,520
Speaker 3: all their loose ends at the end of the year

541
00:28:05,200 --> 00:28:07,600
Speaker 3: or try to get as much done as humanly possible

542
00:28:07,600 --> 00:28:10,919
Speaker 3: so they can actually have a break and be ready

543
00:28:11,000 --> 00:28:13,800
Speaker 3: for whatever's coming on the other side of that break.

544
00:28:14,520 --> 00:28:17,719
Speaker 3: And then the other complicating factor of just being in

545
00:28:17,720 --> 00:28:19,639
Speaker 3: this country, let's say versus where I grew up in

546
00:28:19,640 --> 00:28:22,120
Speaker 3: the US, is it's also the end of the school year.

547
00:28:22,160 --> 00:28:25,119
Speaker 3: So if you're a parent, you have that extra layer

548
00:28:25,320 --> 00:28:29,480
Speaker 3: of busyness. There's all like when the kids were in

549
00:28:29,480 --> 00:28:31,800
Speaker 3: primary school, it was like, well, there's a Christmas show

550
00:28:31,800 --> 00:28:34,480
Speaker 3: that everyone has to go to, right, and there's there's

551
00:28:35,200 --> 00:28:38,440
Speaker 3: different parents will have holiday get togethers, and you know,

552
00:28:38,520 --> 00:28:41,000
Speaker 3: their friends will want to get together and all this

553
00:28:41,040 --> 00:28:43,080
Speaker 3: sort of stuff that happened. Also, your kids are little,

554
00:28:43,080 --> 00:28:46,600
Speaker 3: so they you know, if you celebrate Christmas, they're very

555
00:28:46,600 --> 00:28:48,600
Speaker 3: excited about it. And so you try to make it

556
00:28:48,640 --> 00:28:50,920
Speaker 3: really special and get the things that they want and

557
00:28:50,960 --> 00:28:52,800
Speaker 3: you know all of you know, all of that sort

558
00:28:52,800 --> 00:28:57,080
Speaker 3: of stuff that goes into it. And when your kids

559
00:28:57,080 --> 00:28:59,800
Speaker 3: are older, like my kids mine are fifteen and just

560
00:29:00,040 --> 00:29:03,840
Speaker 3: at eighteen and just graduated from high school, may then

561
00:29:03,880 --> 00:29:08,080
Speaker 3: you thank you. Then you have all of that, Like

562
00:29:08,200 --> 00:29:11,480
Speaker 3: all the end of you know, the whole year's stressful

563
00:29:11,520 --> 00:29:14,960
Speaker 3: because they're studying for their you know, exams, and then

564
00:29:15,280 --> 00:29:17,480
Speaker 3: they're waiting for their scores and there's a lot of

565
00:29:17,480 --> 00:29:19,360
Speaker 3: stress associated with that. And then you've got you know,

566
00:29:19,440 --> 00:29:21,960
Speaker 3: their graduation ceremonies, and then they're going to school is

567
00:29:22,000 --> 00:29:24,200
Speaker 3: and you have to worry about that, and then you know,

568
00:29:24,240 --> 00:29:27,120
Speaker 3: they have their dinners and so there's just so much

569
00:29:27,160 --> 00:29:31,560
Speaker 3: happening at this time of year. I think it can

570
00:29:31,600 --> 00:29:33,680
Speaker 3: be a really stressful time for people, and then you

571
00:29:33,760 --> 00:29:35,960
Speaker 3: kind of lose that spirit. Even if you had the

572
00:29:36,040 --> 00:29:39,520
Speaker 3: spirit for the holidays, yeah, you can't get there because

573
00:29:39,560 --> 00:29:43,120
Speaker 3: it takes so long to unwind from that stress that

574
00:29:43,240 --> 00:29:45,480
Speaker 3: you're not quite there yet on Christmas Day if you

575
00:29:45,520 --> 00:29:45,840
Speaker 3: want to be.

576
00:29:46,360 --> 00:29:47,880
Speaker 1: I don't know why I haven't really thought of this,

577
00:29:48,040 --> 00:29:50,440
Speaker 1: but it just dawned on me because I'm an idiot

578
00:29:50,440 --> 00:29:54,040
Speaker 1: and I'm a bit slow, But it dawned on me that, oh, yeah,

579
00:29:54,160 --> 00:29:58,680
Speaker 1: you guys don't have summer holidays when we do, so obviously,

580
00:29:59,760 --> 00:30:04,360
Speaker 1: but so how like Christmas New Year over here, like

581
00:30:04,400 --> 00:30:07,560
Speaker 1: a lot of like school is basically off for two months,

582
00:30:07,640 --> 00:30:10,320
Speaker 1: give'll take. How long do they have off school in

583
00:30:10,360 --> 00:30:11,800
Speaker 1: the States at this time of year.

584
00:30:12,880 --> 00:30:17,160
Speaker 3: Probably a couple of weeks, right, yeah.

585
00:30:16,520 --> 00:30:19,080
Speaker 1: And then they have like two months is ish through

586
00:30:19,200 --> 00:30:20,120
Speaker 1: summer our winter.

587
00:30:20,480 --> 00:30:22,520
Speaker 3: Well, when I was younger, it was like three three

588
00:30:22,520 --> 00:30:27,040
Speaker 3: and a half months, And in fact, it worked better

589
00:30:27,120 --> 00:30:32,000
Speaker 3: that way because there was no holiday to break up

590
00:30:32,040 --> 00:30:35,320
Speaker 3: that time. So it was like this long, slow, beautiful

591
00:30:35,520 --> 00:30:40,600
Speaker 3: summer holiday. Whereas what happens here is school that's out.

592
00:30:41,080 --> 00:30:45,080
Speaker 3: Everyone's in a rush to get everything sorted just before Christmas,

593
00:30:45,600 --> 00:30:48,959
Speaker 3: and then the holidays make everything go much more quickly,

594
00:30:49,040 --> 00:30:51,400
Speaker 3: so before you know it, you're back in school again,

595
00:30:51,520 --> 00:30:54,200
Speaker 3: you're back at work again. Whereas when you're a student

596
00:30:54,280 --> 00:30:57,080
Speaker 3: in the States, you have those two weeks of you know,

597
00:30:57,200 --> 00:31:01,120
Speaker 3: Christmas time, that's just Christmas time, yes, and then when

598
00:31:01,120 --> 00:31:04,240
Speaker 3: you're done with school, which is usually in May or June,

599
00:31:05,520 --> 00:31:08,840
Speaker 3: you don't go back until late August September. Wow, and

600
00:31:08,960 --> 00:31:11,440
Speaker 3: that time there's no holidays in that time, so it's

601
00:31:11,520 --> 00:31:14,480
Speaker 3: just for summer. And a lot of people also use that,

602
00:31:14,560 --> 00:31:16,719
Speaker 3: like if you're older, they use it to work, they

603
00:31:16,800 --> 00:31:19,560
Speaker 3: use it to do internships, they use it to travel

604
00:31:19,640 --> 00:31:22,840
Speaker 3: for extended periods of time, so you have a long

605
00:31:22,920 --> 00:31:24,800
Speaker 3: time to be able to do multiple things.

606
00:31:25,160 --> 00:31:27,680
Speaker 1: And is that why parents sent Now it makes sense

607
00:31:27,760 --> 00:31:30,720
Speaker 1: sending kids off to summer camp because that doesn't really

608
00:31:30,760 --> 00:31:31,680
Speaker 1: that's not a thing here.

609
00:31:32,320 --> 00:31:34,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's a huge in the state. So a lot

610
00:31:34,920 --> 00:31:38,040
Speaker 3: of people will send them to overnight camps, which are

611
00:31:38,040 --> 00:31:40,680
Speaker 3: like usually six weeks long, so it's half of the

612
00:31:40,720 --> 00:31:41,520
Speaker 3: summer holiday.

613
00:31:41,680 --> 00:31:42,080
Speaker 1: Wow.

614
00:31:42,560 --> 00:31:44,440
Speaker 3: Whereas I did never went to an over and I

615
00:31:44,520 --> 00:31:47,160
Speaker 3: went to like a local one.

616
00:31:46,880 --> 00:31:48,440
Speaker 1: So it was a program.

617
00:31:48,640 --> 00:31:52,680
Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, And I'd spend probably four weeks out of

618
00:31:52,680 --> 00:31:54,000
Speaker 3: the summer at a day camp.

619
00:31:54,400 --> 00:31:54,760
Speaker 1: Wow.

620
00:31:54,880 --> 00:31:56,800
Speaker 3: And then I became like one of the camp counselors

621
00:31:56,840 --> 00:31:59,560
Speaker 3: and I was like thirteen, of course you did, which

622
00:31:59,640 --> 00:32:02,920
Speaker 3: is fun. That's my first job a summer camp counselor.

623
00:32:03,240 --> 00:32:05,080
Speaker 1: Really, did you get paid.

624
00:32:05,200 --> 00:32:05,719
Speaker 3: The first year?

625
00:32:05,840 --> 00:32:05,880
Speaker 4: No?

626
00:32:07,040 --> 00:32:09,160
Speaker 3: Because I was too young. But then I think I

627
00:32:09,200 --> 00:32:11,280
Speaker 3: got paid when I because I did it for like

628
00:32:11,520 --> 00:32:13,480
Speaker 3: four years thirteen forty fifty sixteen.

629
00:32:13,760 --> 00:32:16,520
Speaker 1: Wow. I think if that was a thing in Australia,

630
00:32:16,600 --> 00:32:18,920
Speaker 1: Mary Ron would have definitely sent me away for the

631
00:32:19,160 --> 00:32:24,040
Speaker 1: entirety of the summer. I would have been just waving

632
00:32:24,120 --> 00:32:26,160
Speaker 1: me off from the front door. Yeah.

633
00:32:26,200 --> 00:32:28,200
Speaker 3: People who go to those camps they have the like,

634
00:32:28,320 --> 00:32:31,360
Speaker 3: really great experiences and their parents go off and traveled

635
00:32:31,360 --> 00:32:34,040
Speaker 3: in Europe, so they're having like this break as well.

636
00:32:34,080 --> 00:32:36,040
Speaker 3: Like it's kind of a cool setup.

637
00:32:36,560 --> 00:32:39,680
Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, I don't think it's worse. Like some of

638
00:32:39,680 --> 00:32:42,320
Speaker 1: my friends went to boarding schools, which kind of seems

639
00:32:42,360 --> 00:32:44,960
Speaker 1: like that would suck, and some of them hated it,

640
00:32:45,040 --> 00:32:48,480
Speaker 1: not many, a few, but most of them after the

641
00:32:48,520 --> 00:32:52,800
Speaker 1: initial adjustment, but they loved boarding school like they you know,

642
00:32:52,880 --> 00:32:56,320
Speaker 1: they loved it. Like I don't know that did you

643
00:32:56,400 --> 00:33:01,520
Speaker 1: ever think about that tip? Was that an option for you? Yeah?

644
00:33:01,560 --> 00:33:04,800
Speaker 1: But yeah, just running around really you were just free Ryan.

645
00:33:04,880 --> 00:33:09,480
Speaker 1: She wore a lot of chicken. Yeah. Well, I mean

646
00:33:09,600 --> 00:33:12,320
Speaker 1: it's not a big is a boarding schools things in

647
00:33:12,360 --> 00:33:14,160
Speaker 1: the States, so they I mean, I know they are,

648
00:33:14,200 --> 00:33:17,280
Speaker 1: but to any great extent or not not really.

649
00:33:18,160 --> 00:33:20,600
Speaker 3: I mean they're definitely around and people go to boarding schools,

650
00:33:20,720 --> 00:33:24,280
Speaker 3: but it's not like a massive thing. I would I

651
00:33:24,280 --> 00:33:27,760
Speaker 3: would have I would struggle with not being near my

652
00:33:27,840 --> 00:33:30,240
Speaker 3: kids all the time, so I probably wouldn't even consider

653
00:33:30,360 --> 00:33:32,720
Speaker 3: doing that. And I would have probably struggled with the

654
00:33:32,760 --> 00:33:37,120
Speaker 3: six six weeks at camp as well. I know, like

655
00:33:37,160 --> 00:33:39,720
Speaker 3: one of my one of my friends, her husband went

656
00:33:39,720 --> 00:33:43,240
Speaker 3: to camp for his childhoods. He wanted to send their kids,

657
00:33:43,680 --> 00:33:46,920
Speaker 3: and she was really like, how about that. But they

658
00:33:47,120 --> 00:33:50,480
Speaker 3: got used to it really quickly when they were going

659
00:33:50,520 --> 00:33:52,360
Speaker 3: to Europe for that time and they got the kids

660
00:33:52,360 --> 00:33:54,600
Speaker 3: got to go. You know, we're in there, you know,

661
00:33:54,640 --> 00:33:57,120
Speaker 3: and they enjoyed it. The kids enjoyed it, so she

662
00:33:57,200 --> 00:33:59,360
Speaker 3: got used to it, and yeah, that's kind of like

663
00:33:59,440 --> 00:34:01,560
Speaker 3: their life in simmer, which is really nice.

664
00:34:01,600 --> 00:34:03,720
Speaker 1: So you find it easy to step out of work

665
00:34:03,800 --> 00:34:06,760
Speaker 1: mindset into holiday mindset and then back.

666
00:34:09,560 --> 00:34:12,720
Speaker 3: It depends. I feel like when I was working for

667
00:34:13,040 --> 00:34:18,440
Speaker 3: an organization, I had no trouble with that, Like, you know,

668
00:34:18,480 --> 00:34:21,960
Speaker 3: I walk out, I've done my job, and I've got

669
00:34:22,000 --> 00:34:24,000
Speaker 3: nothing else to think about. But when you own your

670
00:34:24,040 --> 00:34:28,120
Speaker 3: own business or businesses, it's harder to do that. So

671
00:34:28,200 --> 00:34:32,600
Speaker 3: I find it easier with my clinical practice side of

672
00:34:32,640 --> 00:34:36,920
Speaker 3: my business because it is more like going into it's

673
00:34:37,000 --> 00:34:39,359
Speaker 3: kind of more like appointments, right, and you just don't

674
00:34:39,360 --> 00:34:44,200
Speaker 3: have appointments. And if I'm like, I'm always around and

675
00:34:44,640 --> 00:34:46,719
Speaker 3: I can't help but tell my clients like, if you

676
00:34:46,800 --> 00:34:49,840
Speaker 3: need me, like I'm around, you can text me. And

677
00:34:49,880 --> 00:34:52,760
Speaker 3: they're always like, I would never want to disrupt your holiday,

678
00:34:52,800 --> 00:34:55,440
Speaker 3: and I'm like, if you need me, I'm saying I

679
00:34:55,520 --> 00:34:59,600
Speaker 3: will be around, like you know. But it's the other

680
00:34:59,719 --> 00:35:03,640
Speaker 3: one that are the more of the digital businesses where

681
00:35:03,640 --> 00:35:06,600
Speaker 3: you feel like you always have to put in something

682
00:35:07,040 --> 00:35:10,399
Speaker 3: you can't just take a break from that. But yeah, look,

683
00:35:10,480 --> 00:35:14,560
Speaker 3: I'm very much somebody who takes breaks frequently. Like I

684
00:35:14,560 --> 00:35:18,040
Speaker 3: don't struggle with dut down time or relaxing or I

685
00:35:18,040 --> 00:35:20,719
Speaker 3: don't feel guilty about it. Yeah, I just feel like

686
00:35:20,760 --> 00:35:26,960
Speaker 3: I have a responsibility to my business and to some degree,

687
00:35:27,160 --> 00:35:30,839
Speaker 3: and so just from that side of things, I might

688
00:35:30,880 --> 00:35:35,160
Speaker 3: not completely switch off, but I'll switch off a lot,

689
00:35:35,560 --> 00:35:39,040
Speaker 3: like enough for me to enjoy my brain. Yeah.

690
00:35:39,160 --> 00:35:41,719
Speaker 1: Yeah, I really like my life and I like where

691
00:35:41,760 --> 00:35:46,160
Speaker 1: I live. But I have this minor fantasy which can't

692
00:35:46,200 --> 00:35:49,200
Speaker 1: happen in the next six months while I finish my study,

693
00:35:49,200 --> 00:35:52,319
Speaker 1: but maybe one day in the next five years. I

694
00:35:52,360 --> 00:35:57,160
Speaker 1: feel like I would like to go away for six

695
00:35:57,239 --> 00:36:01,080
Speaker 1: months and do everything that I do, but do it

696
00:36:01,120 --> 00:36:04,799
Speaker 1: in another country. Obviously, the face to face gigs would

697
00:36:04,800 --> 00:36:07,480
Speaker 1: have to go on hold, which would be not a

698
00:36:07,480 --> 00:36:10,279
Speaker 1: great part of it, but probably worth it. But all

699
00:36:10,320 --> 00:36:12,520
Speaker 1: the you know, all the other stuff, all the coaching

700
00:36:12,680 --> 00:36:17,840
Speaker 1: or a lot of the coaching online gigs, workshops, seminars, podcasts,

701
00:36:18,200 --> 00:36:21,560
Speaker 1: you know, I can. I mean, it's almost like we

702
00:36:21,640 --> 00:36:24,200
Speaker 1: live in a time now where you can depending on

703
00:36:24,360 --> 00:36:26,200
Speaker 1: what your job is, there are a lot of jobs

704
00:36:26,200 --> 00:36:29,719
Speaker 1: where you can kind of do it anywhere in the world, absolutely,

705
00:36:29,840 --> 00:36:32,960
Speaker 1: and so I would love to. Yeah, I'd love to

706
00:36:33,080 --> 00:36:36,200
Speaker 1: go live somewhere else and just you know, be in

707
00:36:36,239 --> 00:36:40,280
Speaker 1: it just a completely different energy and geography and climate

708
00:36:40,440 --> 00:36:44,680
Speaker 1: and culture and just not that I'm well known, but

709
00:36:44,800 --> 00:36:47,840
Speaker 1: just where I'm never going to bump into anyone that

710
00:36:48,000 --> 00:36:50,680
Speaker 1: knows me, and yeah, I'd be surprised.

711
00:36:52,239 --> 00:36:55,279
Speaker 3: Well maybe, Yeah, that's a great I think that's an

712
00:36:55,320 --> 00:37:00,160
Speaker 3: amazing idea. That's one of my you know, ideal where

713
00:37:00,160 --> 00:37:01,799
Speaker 3: I'd like to be in the future, you know, when

714
00:37:01,840 --> 00:37:03,759
Speaker 3: my kids are done with high school and they're in

715
00:37:03,920 --> 00:37:06,600
Speaker 3: union and they have their own adult lives. That's definitely

716
00:37:06,600 --> 00:37:08,839
Speaker 3: on our radar. My husband and I like just go

717
00:37:09,120 --> 00:37:11,120
Speaker 3: because we can both do our jobs. Like you said,

718
00:37:11,200 --> 00:37:13,400
Speaker 3: you can, we can do that from anywhere.

719
00:37:13,719 --> 00:37:18,120
Speaker 6: Yeah, where would you go to if if you had

720
00:37:18,160 --> 00:37:20,920
Speaker 6: to go, Well, it doesn't have to be one place,

721
00:37:20,960 --> 00:37:22,880
Speaker 6: but if you were going to travel for six months

722
00:37:23,640 --> 00:37:25,920
Speaker 6: and do your podcast and do this stuff with me?

723
00:37:26,160 --> 00:37:31,520
Speaker 1: And what While you're thinking of that, I'll tell your mine.

724
00:37:31,560 --> 00:37:35,960
Speaker 1: So mine mine would probably be nobody would guess this, well,

725
00:37:36,080 --> 00:37:39,040
Speaker 1: people who know me might, but it would probably be Ireland. Oh,

726
00:37:39,960 --> 00:37:44,200
Speaker 1: my grandmother was Irish. Her name was Molly Malone and

727
00:37:44,239 --> 00:37:47,719
Speaker 1: my grandma died giving birth to my mum, so I

728
00:37:47,760 --> 00:37:52,200
Speaker 1: never met her. But like, I've only been to Ireland

729
00:37:52,239 --> 00:37:55,000
Speaker 1: once to do some work. I literally went to Ireland

730
00:37:55,040 --> 00:37:57,359
Speaker 1: to do a three hour workshop. How funny is that?

731
00:37:59,280 --> 00:38:02,799
Speaker 1: But and I had no expectation, Like there was no

732
00:38:02,840 --> 00:38:05,160
Speaker 1: story in my head about oh this is you know,

733
00:38:05,239 --> 00:38:07,480
Speaker 1: this is going to be amazing. I'm going to feel something,

734
00:38:07,600 --> 00:38:09,360
Speaker 1: there's going to be this. I didn't. There's nothing. I

735
00:38:09,360 --> 00:38:11,279
Speaker 1: was just going to do. I was excited to go

736
00:38:11,320 --> 00:38:14,280
Speaker 1: to a place I've never been, but there was something

737
00:38:15,960 --> 00:38:20,880
Speaker 1: for me inexplicably familiar about the place and the people

738
00:38:21,160 --> 00:38:29,879
Speaker 1: and the accent and like I felt like, oh, I

739
00:38:29,920 --> 00:38:33,160
Speaker 1: almost felt like I belonged there more than I belong here,

740
00:38:33,560 --> 00:38:36,560
Speaker 1: which I don't. But it's it's like, oh, I don't

741
00:38:36,560 --> 00:38:38,839
Speaker 1: know why. And I've been I love the States. I've

742
00:38:38,880 --> 00:38:40,960
Speaker 1: been to the States like a dozen times. I love it.

743
00:38:41,360 --> 00:38:44,000
Speaker 1: And while I think it's amazing, I know I'm not

744
00:38:44,040 --> 00:38:46,160
Speaker 1: from there and I don't feel like I belong there,

745
00:38:46,160 --> 00:38:49,040
Speaker 1: but I love it. It's amazing, right, And I've been

746
00:38:49,080 --> 00:38:51,240
Speaker 1: to England and I've been to a bunch of places,

747
00:38:51,239 --> 00:38:53,520
Speaker 1: but when I went to Ireland, I'm like, oh, there

748
00:38:53,600 --> 00:38:57,040
Speaker 1: is some familiarity about this, and I think it's in

749
00:38:57,080 --> 00:38:59,640
Speaker 1: my genes. I think it's in my DNA. It's like

750
00:38:59,719 --> 00:39:03,759
Speaker 1: my DNA knows this place. My DNA is like comfortable here.

751
00:39:04,200 --> 00:39:08,040
Speaker 1: I was so comfortable there. I so loved everyone. The

752
00:39:08,080 --> 00:39:12,080
Speaker 1: people were like yeah, ridiculous. I mean they were the

753
00:39:12,239 --> 00:39:15,799
Speaker 1: nicest people as just a collection of humans that I've

754
00:39:15,800 --> 00:39:20,280
Speaker 1: met ever on any trip. Wow, Like crazy, Yeah.

755
00:39:20,160 --> 00:39:22,680
Speaker 3: So I've actually heard that about Ireland.

756
00:39:22,840 --> 00:39:26,120
Speaker 1: Crazy nicest people in the world. Yeah. And just like

757
00:39:26,239 --> 00:39:30,440
Speaker 1: I had strangers constantly offering me to stay with him,

758
00:39:30,960 --> 00:39:33,479
Speaker 1: like you know, come and stay with oh, you don't

759
00:39:33,480 --> 00:39:35,759
Speaker 1: stand Ah, don't be standing in a hotwn come and stay

760
00:39:35,760 --> 00:39:38,480
Speaker 1: with us. Oh no, you won't be standing there, You'll

761
00:39:38,480 --> 00:39:43,600
Speaker 1: be stand with us. I'm like, oh, I'm good. I've

762
00:39:43,640 --> 00:39:46,799
Speaker 1: got to know. Thank you, thank you. But yes, so

763
00:39:47,280 --> 00:39:50,920
Speaker 1: and like they was so, it was so funny. I

764
00:39:50,960 --> 00:39:55,359
Speaker 1: did a gig in this little place and and they

765
00:39:55,400 --> 00:40:02,520
Speaker 1: were so so grateful that I came. Yeah, because nobody

766
00:40:02,560 --> 00:40:03,920
Speaker 1: comes here. Thank you. You know.

767
00:40:04,320 --> 00:40:06,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, there was something about your roots and you know,

768
00:40:07,000 --> 00:40:13,440
Speaker 3: your history, intergenerational history. Yeah, and we don't often know

769
00:40:13,480 --> 00:40:16,560
Speaker 3: a lot about it, but like if we did, we

770
00:40:17,080 --> 00:40:21,160
Speaker 3: probably connect so much more to you know, like what

771
00:40:21,200 --> 00:40:24,279
Speaker 3: you're saying, you have this like inexplicable connection to this

772
00:40:24,360 --> 00:40:26,439
Speaker 3: country that you've never lived in and you only spend

773
00:40:26,480 --> 00:40:29,240
Speaker 3: a few hours. And I'm sure, but there's a reason

774
00:40:29,320 --> 00:40:32,880
Speaker 3: why that is. Do you know a lot about your

775
00:40:32,880 --> 00:40:33,560
Speaker 3: family history?

776
00:40:34,280 --> 00:40:38,480
Speaker 1: No, I actually do not, Like my I shouldn't say this,

777
00:40:38,640 --> 00:40:42,319
Speaker 1: but my family is a bit weird. Everyone says that,

778
00:40:42,400 --> 00:40:46,440
Speaker 1: but like, my dad's one of six boys, so six kids.

779
00:40:46,520 --> 00:40:49,880
Speaker 1: A mum is one of six kids, so twelve right

780
00:40:50,520 --> 00:40:55,640
Speaker 1: between their immediate families, and I really there's a couple

781
00:40:55,719 --> 00:40:58,480
Speaker 1: of uncles and aunties that I know a bit, but

782
00:40:59,040 --> 00:41:01,560
Speaker 1: for the most part, I don't. You know, I don't

783
00:41:01,600 --> 00:41:04,799
Speaker 1: know how many cousins I have, probably eighty. I think

784
00:41:04,840 --> 00:41:08,000
Speaker 1: I know I know two or three of them. I

785
00:41:08,040 --> 00:41:09,359
Speaker 1: was going to say two or three of them. Well,

786
00:41:09,360 --> 00:41:11,279
Speaker 1: but even then, I haven't seen him for ten years. Like,

787
00:41:11,320 --> 00:41:14,279
Speaker 1: I really don't know anyone well. And it's funny, my

788
00:41:14,520 --> 00:41:19,120
Speaker 1: family like never spent much like you know how families

789
00:41:19,160 --> 00:41:22,080
Speaker 1: get together big Christmases or the brothers and sisters and

790
00:41:22,080 --> 00:41:25,479
Speaker 1: the kids and the aunties that never happened. I've never

791
00:41:25,560 --> 00:41:29,760
Speaker 1: had one of those ever, So yeah, it's for whatever reason.

792
00:41:29,840 --> 00:41:32,680
Speaker 1: And that's not a slight on mom and dad, but yeah,

793
00:41:32,760 --> 00:41:35,200
Speaker 1: they both come from really big families, and I'm an

794
00:41:35,239 --> 00:41:39,799
Speaker 1: only child. Yet I don't know anyone really. I've got

795
00:41:39,880 --> 00:41:42,560
Speaker 1: one auntie and uncle that I know quite well. Shout

796
00:41:42,600 --> 00:41:45,480
Speaker 1: out to Trep and die, but other than that, nobody.

797
00:41:45,760 --> 00:41:48,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, do you know the stories even if you don't

798
00:41:48,080 --> 00:41:50,879
Speaker 3: know the people, Like, do you know any like good

799
00:41:50,960 --> 00:41:54,840
Speaker 3: stories about like challenges or like things that happened and

800
00:41:55,480 --> 00:41:56,799
Speaker 3: mothers or your father's side.

801
00:41:56,880 --> 00:41:59,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, a little bit, a little bit, And when

802
00:41:59,080 --> 00:42:02,080
Speaker 1: you kind of you know, it's like I had this

803
00:42:02,480 --> 00:42:04,800
Speaker 1: well I didn't have a revelation I was actually somebody

804
00:42:04,840 --> 00:42:08,040
Speaker 1: who was smarter than me, kind of and wiser than me.

805
00:42:09,239 --> 00:42:12,440
Speaker 1: Years ago when I was having this conversation about like

806
00:42:12,560 --> 00:42:14,160
Speaker 1: my mum and dad and I don't know how we

807
00:42:14,200 --> 00:42:16,360
Speaker 1: got here, but my mum and dad and I, it

808
00:42:16,440 --> 00:42:19,000
Speaker 1: was always like I lived with these two adults that

809
00:42:19,040 --> 00:42:22,000
Speaker 1: were really good people, and we all got on really well.

810
00:42:22,280 --> 00:42:24,160
Speaker 1: It was like just two grown ups that I knew,

811
00:42:24,200 --> 00:42:26,400
Speaker 1: and we all lived in the same house. It was

812
00:42:26,480 --> 00:42:28,359
Speaker 1: like I lived with an auntie and uncle that were

813
00:42:28,400 --> 00:42:33,840
Speaker 1: pretty fond of me. Right. It was not like parenting

814
00:42:33,920 --> 00:42:37,880
Speaker 1: one oh one. Like I rarely got parented, you know

815
00:42:37,880 --> 00:42:40,200
Speaker 1: what I mean when like my old man never said

816
00:42:40,239 --> 00:42:41,920
Speaker 1: to me, all right, look, I want to have a

817
00:42:42,000 --> 00:42:43,440
Speaker 1: chat with you. That never happened.

818
00:42:44,120 --> 00:42:44,319
Speaker 4: You know.

819
00:42:45,280 --> 00:42:47,399
Speaker 1: It doesn't mean that we didn't do things together. We did,

820
00:42:47,440 --> 00:42:50,600
Speaker 1: But it was like mum and dad were not brilliant

821
00:42:50,640 --> 00:42:56,120
Speaker 1: communicators in this context, you know, so that those kinds

822
00:42:56,200 --> 00:42:58,759
Speaker 1: of hey, where the mum and dad, you're the kid,

823
00:43:00,080 --> 00:43:01,960
Speaker 1: have a chatch you about how the world works or

824
00:43:02,000 --> 00:43:05,680
Speaker 1: how life works, or relationships, or hey, let's talk about

825
00:43:05,680 --> 00:43:09,120
Speaker 1: school and beyond school, like we never I never had

826
00:43:09,160 --> 00:43:10,200
Speaker 1: those conversations.

827
00:43:10,680 --> 00:43:13,080
Speaker 3: I don't think many very many people did, though, Craig.

828
00:43:13,120 --> 00:43:15,760
Speaker 3: I feel like, you know, our parents and their parents'

829
00:43:15,800 --> 00:43:18,560
Speaker 3: generation didn't have those type of conversations. That's a believe

830
00:43:18,719 --> 00:43:21,680
Speaker 3: kind of coming around now where our kids are talking

831
00:43:21,800 --> 00:43:23,640
Speaker 3: to us more, we're talking to them more, we're giving

832
00:43:23,680 --> 00:43:26,239
Speaker 3: them a little bit more of an idea of what

833
00:43:26,280 --> 00:43:28,760
Speaker 3: their histories are. I just the reason I was asking

834
00:43:28,840 --> 00:43:32,879
Speaker 3: is because because my mother's here, I actually arranged. There's

835
00:43:32,920 --> 00:43:37,640
Speaker 3: this person that I know who had like this conversation

836
00:43:37,719 --> 00:43:42,439
Speaker 3: with his mother and she had just been diagnosed with

837
00:43:43,000 --> 00:43:47,960
Speaker 3: terminal cancer and he wanted to have like something that

838
00:43:48,360 --> 00:43:51,000
Speaker 3: where she could talk about you know, like their family

839
00:43:51,080 --> 00:43:53,000
Speaker 3: and history and it would be something that you know,

840
00:43:53,040 --> 00:43:56,040
Speaker 3: he could potentially have forever obviously, but also maybe show

841
00:43:56,080 --> 00:43:59,560
Speaker 3: to his future children and all of that. And from

842
00:43:59,600 --> 00:44:03,640
Speaker 3: that he's just decided to start a business called forever Cast,

843
00:44:03,640 --> 00:44:07,480
Speaker 3: where he provides the technology for other people to do that,

844
00:44:07,640 --> 00:44:10,080
Speaker 3: and so he just brings it to people's homes and

845
00:44:10,120 --> 00:44:13,120
Speaker 3: they can have that conversation with which, you know, with

846
00:44:13,160 --> 00:44:15,960
Speaker 3: their mother or their father or their grandfather, whoever it is,

847
00:44:16,680 --> 00:44:19,440
Speaker 3: and then it's a video and an audio keepsake and

848
00:44:20,400 --> 00:44:24,200
Speaker 3: you get to know your history more as well. So

849
00:44:25,520 --> 00:44:27,719
Speaker 3: I actually went when I was in I just went

850
00:44:27,760 --> 00:44:29,560
Speaker 3: to city with my mother for a few days for

851
00:44:29,719 --> 00:44:32,959
Speaker 3: like just some fun with her. And while we were there,

852
00:44:33,000 --> 00:44:36,120
Speaker 3: we went and we did one of these recordings, and

853
00:44:36,160 --> 00:44:38,200
Speaker 3: I got to do this interview with my mother and

854
00:44:38,239 --> 00:44:42,400
Speaker 3: ask her all these questions and get delve deeper into

855
00:44:42,440 --> 00:44:44,400
Speaker 3: some of the stories that I might have heard a

856
00:44:44,400 --> 00:44:46,719
Speaker 3: little bit but for good or don't know the details,

857
00:44:46,800 --> 00:44:50,360
Speaker 3: or like didn't really ask or wasn't maybe interested before.

858
00:44:50,640 --> 00:44:53,160
Speaker 3: You know, like sometimes you're not interested until you're older.

859
00:44:54,200 --> 00:44:57,439
Speaker 3: So it was really cool just to have that experience,

860
00:44:57,680 --> 00:45:00,239
Speaker 3: and then you know, I have this psychology for us

861
00:45:00,239 --> 00:45:03,120
Speaker 3: are from Emory, where I used where I went to school,

862
00:45:03,120 --> 00:45:06,200
Speaker 3: and he actually did research on how important it is

863
00:45:06,239 --> 00:45:09,320
Speaker 3: to know your family history and how it actually helps

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Speaker 3: children build their self esteem and resilience and overcome stress

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Speaker 3: and challenges throughout their lives. The more you know about

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Speaker 3: your family history, the more protective it is for the

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Speaker 3: rest of your life. So it's super interesting when we're

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Speaker 3: talking about youth anxiety at the beginning, it's like, well,

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Speaker 3: one of the things that we can all do to

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Speaker 3: help youth is to tell them about their history, because

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Speaker 3: what happens is they develop what's called like an intergenerational self.

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Speaker 3: So it's not just about them on their own, or

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Speaker 3: even them and just their immediate family. They actually belong

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Speaker 3: to generations of people who have had to overcome challenges,

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Speaker 3: who have lived interesting lives, and you kind of belong

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Speaker 3: to all of that now rather than just yeah.

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Speaker 1: That's so interesting. That's so interesting. Well, our time is up.

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Speaker 1: I hope you have a great Christmas. I hope you

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Speaker 1: have a good New Year. You do celebrate Christmas? Right?

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Speaker 3: We do?

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Speaker 1: Yes, you do, Tiff and I'll be at the beach

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Speaker 1: with one hundred losers at six There no not loses

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Speaker 1: at all, winners. It's the winners group, that's right. I

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Speaker 1: don't know about that. Doctor Lillian won't be there because

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Speaker 1: she's pretty lazy. Yes, I think that's the word. How

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Speaker 1: do people connect with you, Doc, Not in the next

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Speaker 1: couple of weeks, but after the next few weeks. How

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Speaker 1: do they connect with you?

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Speaker 3: Doctor lilliannajad dot com is a good spot. There's a

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Speaker 3: contact for them there. If you want to actually connect

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Speaker 3: with me, or if you just want to have a

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Speaker 3: browse through, feel free.

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Speaker 1: To do that.

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Speaker 3: I wish you both like a good holiday season, whatever

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Speaker 3: that is for you, and I hope that you do

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Speaker 3: do that thing on Wednesday, and it's super fun And

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Speaker 3: even though I probably won't come, I still expect an invitation.

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Speaker 1: You are formally invited. You're formally invited. You better just

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Speaker 1: check in on Tuesday as to whether or not is

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Speaker 1: actually happening. But now, Doc, thank you, We appreciate you.

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Speaker 1: Thanks for all your contribution for another year on the

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Speaker 1: You Project. You are a winner. Even if you don't

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Speaker 1: shoup on Wednesday.

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Speaker 3: Oh thanks, I appreciate that