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Speaker 1: Sitsy and with her with Kate Ritchie podcast.

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Speaker 2: This is an unbelievable ghosting story and we have to

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Speaker 2: get a local girl on. Her name is Isabelle Glastonbury

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Speaker 2: is her name, and she joins us. Now, Isabelle, thanks

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Speaker 2: for coming on the show.

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Speaker 1: Thank you for having me.

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Speaker 2: Now, Isabelle, we want to talk about Michael. You met

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Speaker 2: Michael over in the States, in Dallas, Texas in twenty fifteen,

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Speaker 2: and you fell head over hills for this man, didn't you?

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Speaker 1: Yes, yes I did.

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Speaker 2: So it was how quickly did you get engaged, Isabelle?

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Speaker 2: When after you met him? So?

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Speaker 3: I met him in December of twenty fifteen and we

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Speaker 3: got engaged in November twenty sixteen, so eleven month.

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Speaker 4: Okay, so yeah, it wasn't a very long courting period.

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Speaker 5: Was he He was American? He's American.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, he's American from Texas.

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Speaker 2: Okay, So but he did he always want to come

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Speaker 2: to Australia because you guys moved a couple of years later,

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Speaker 2: but he always wanted to come here.

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Speaker 3: Actually, no, I was the one that wanted to move

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Speaker 3: back home to Australia. I missed my family, so I

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Speaker 3: kind of pulled the trigger on that one. Yeah, he

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Speaker 3: did not show any interest in coming over here until

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Speaker 3: he got here.

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Speaker 2: Right, So he got here, and did he fall in

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Speaker 2: love with Sydney?

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Speaker 1: I assume? So now yeah, looking bad?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? So okay, So you guys you're engaged. You got

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Speaker 2: married at a beautiful wedding up in Palm Beach at

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Speaker 2: the boathouse in Palm Beach. Who and your parents helped

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Speaker 2: me out obviously with the wedding. It was a beautiful day.

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Speaker 2: You thought this was the man of your dreams.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, he was my best friend, my ride or die.

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Speaker 3: I never had any doubts, like I thought that he would, yeah,

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Speaker 3: ride or die for me forever.

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Speaker 5: Yeah. And was that the plan?

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Speaker 4: Moved to Australia, get married, perhaps start a family, settle

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Speaker 4: on the northern beaches.

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Speaker 5: Is that where you're from?

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Speaker 1: No, I'm actually from the inner western Sydney.

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Speaker 3: I guess the plan was for us to both get

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Speaker 3: our VSA for each country so we could live and

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Speaker 3: work in between both of them.

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Speaker 1: So that was really the plan all along.

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Speaker 2: So he finally got he's after How long was it

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Speaker 2: after you got married, Isabelle that he got his visa?

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Speaker 1: So it was two years and four months.

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Speaker 3: So we got married November twenty eighteen, and he got

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Speaker 3: his visa January twenty twenty one.

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Speaker 2: Okay, and can you tell everyone what happened the day

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Speaker 2: after he got his visa.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so he got his visa. I think it was

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Speaker 3: a Thursday. We went out for dinner with my mom celebrate.

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Speaker 3: We had been waiting obviously a really long time. And

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Speaker 3: then the next day we both went to work and

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Speaker 3: I got home and everything of his was gone, all

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Speaker 3: his clothes.

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Speaker 1: There was only a couple of things left in the house. Obviously.

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Speaker 3: I tried to call him, text him, and I was

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Speaker 3: blocked on his phone so I couldn't get through. And

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Speaker 3: so that's when I kind of had that sinking feeling

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Speaker 3: that something's very wrong. And yeah, after he left, it

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Speaker 3: had come out that he was having an affair with

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Speaker 3: someone from work and that's who he's with still now.

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Speaker 3: But yeah, he completely disappeared for a long time.

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Speaker 5: And where is he now or where are they now?

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Speaker 1: So still in Australia.

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Speaker 3: They I think they got married almost a year to

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Speaker 3: the day of our divorce date.

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Speaker 2: Oh my gosh. Now can you tell everyone as well?

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Speaker 2: Is it true that your parents paid for him? Quite

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Speaker 2: a bit and looked after him while you guys were together.

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Speaker 3: One hundred percent My parents welcomed him with open arms.

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Speaker 3: Everyone loved him, very charismatic. But yes, they definitely helped

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Speaker 3: us kind of foot the bill for that partner visa.

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Speaker 1: It's around ten thousand dollars.

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Speaker 2: Oh, Isabel in this In moments like these, I just

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Speaker 2: want answers. I would want an answer, And I know

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Speaker 2: sometimes people like to walk away. But have you were

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Speaker 2: you like, did you were the urgency to get an

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Speaker 2: answer from him? Have you had that opportunity to talk

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Speaker 2: to him about it?

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Speaker 3: I talked to him about a month and a half

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Speaker 3: after he disappeared. He said that he just needed to

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Speaker 3: be single and that's what was going to happen.

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Speaker 1: Closure. No, I haven't gotten any.

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Speaker 3: I've just had to kind of find that within myself

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Speaker 3: and kind of take the high road there.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, were there ever any signs that this might happen

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Speaker 4: or that he was that you thought? I mean, I

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Speaker 4: don't even know what to ask you, because, first of all,

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Speaker 4: the shock of coming home the day after a visa

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Speaker 4: is approved to a somewhat empty house. Were there things

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Speaker 4: was he saying things to you that made you think

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Speaker 4: all things aren't great, but we can make it okay.

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Speaker 1: Like, was there anything that?

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Speaker 3: I mean, our marriage was definitely not perfect, no one's ears,

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Speaker 3: but I would never have expected it to end up

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Speaker 3: like this. I think probably about six months before this happened,

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Speaker 3: I definitely started to think that there was something up,

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Speaker 3: Like there was disappearing at night times, not coming home,

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Speaker 3: that kind of thing. That was definitely red flags for me.

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Speaker 3: But we were married, so I wanted to work through it.

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Speaker 3: In hindsight's twenty twenty?

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Speaker 1: For sure?

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Speaker 2: Do you do you get close to his family at all?

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Speaker 2: Do you speak to his family at all?

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Speaker 1: I was super close with his family obviously.

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Speaker 3: I used to see them a lot when I lived

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Speaker 3: in Texas and we remained quite close after this all

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Speaker 3: went down.

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Speaker 2: Are they disappointed in him?

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Speaker 1: I mean, I don't want to speak for them.

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Speaker 3: I know I would say so, but you know, at

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Speaker 3: the end of the day, that's their son, and I'm

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Speaker 3: sure that they are going to support him no matter what.

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Speaker 4: Do you think he deserved a little bit more than that,

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Speaker 4: you know, Isabelle, I think that, like you said, no

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Speaker 4: marriage is no marriage is perfect, and you can't make

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Speaker 4: someone be with you if they don't want to, But

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Speaker 4: the least you deserve is a conversation or some kind

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Speaker 4: of communication. I mean, especially to leave someone without answers,

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Speaker 4: it's very hard to move on.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, for sure, I don't think anyone deserves that at all.

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Speaker 3: I would rather have had just an upfront conversation, like

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Speaker 3: if you didn't want to be married anymore, that's fine.

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Speaker 3: But yeah, unfortunately, I think some people are just cowards

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Speaker 3: the money.

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Speaker 2: Have you asked for any of the money back or

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Speaker 2: your parents asked for any of the money back? What's

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Speaker 2: his response to that?

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Speaker 3: I know we haven't spoken about that. I haven't even

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Speaker 3: gone there with him. It's better just to walk away

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Speaker 3: from that cut my losses point.

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Speaker 2: There is a there is a good story to this, though,

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Speaker 2: isn't there Isabelle? Because after you did, after he left you,

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Speaker 2: you went back to a high school sweetheart. Is that correct? Yeah?

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Speaker 3: So I wanted to be single for a while, and

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Speaker 3: my high school sweetheart had well, we were dating in

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Speaker 3: high school for a couple of months, and we remained

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Speaker 3: best friends throughout this whole time. So he was even

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Speaker 3: at my wedding, and so we kind of rekindled last year,

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Speaker 3: which has been a blessing.

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Speaker 1: So I've come out on top, that's for sure.

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Speaker 5: Well, yeah, congratulations, thank you. I hope you.

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Speaker 4: I hope you're doing well because it's such a such

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Speaker 4: a tough thing to come up against.

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Speaker 5: Credit to you, whatever it is you're doing now.

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Speaker 1: Well, thank you. I appreciate that for sure. Thank you.

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Speaker 2: Maybe there's still furniture in the house at the moment

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Speaker 2: you're sure your high school sweetheart hasn't got left you.

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Speaker 5: Don't bring up the trauma fits.

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Speaker 2: You're a mother now as well, aren't you.

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Speaker 3: Yes, yeah, an four months ago, which is a bit

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Speaker 3: of a change, but yeah, it's good.

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Speaker 2: That sounds like there's something going on in the background there.

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Speaker 2: That must be a lawnmle of going off, is that correct?

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Speaker 1: Renovations comestairs?

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Speaker 2: Sorry, well known Isabelle. Thanks for coming on the show.

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Speaker 1: Thank you so much for having me.

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Speaker 5: With Kate.

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