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Speaker 3: Welcome to the Grow and Glow Podcast. I'm Ashy, I'm Kiara.

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Speaker 1: Nothing is off the table with Grow and Glow and

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Speaker 1: we're here to be your expander. Welcome back to Grow

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Speaker 3: Welcome back, guys, Welcome back.

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Speaker 1: Got a very uplifting, positive, like feel good moving episode.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, five things that have really shifted our mindset or

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Speaker 3: our perspective.

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Speaker 1: Things can really help shift yours as well. Before we

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Speaker 1: get into the episode, As always our Monday episodes, we

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Speaker 1: have the Share of the Week. I wish them would

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Speaker 1: actually like write up a document of all of our

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Speaker 1: shares of the week.

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Speaker 3: Remember that one girl did it in the forum that time.

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Speaker 1: Yeah she did too. Yes, good shares I know, but

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Speaker 1: mine at the moment is beef tallow. I was telling

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Speaker 1: Kia about this on the way up. So I love

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Speaker 1: cooking at the moment and now I'm not working as much.

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Speaker 1: It's just a way that I just look after my

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Speaker 1: family and I love cooking a beautiful meal for Steve.

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Speaker 1: And I'm obsessed with steak at the moment. It's all

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Speaker 3: How good do you feel like the next day after

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Speaker 3: having a steak for dinner? Too?

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Speaker 1: So good? That's feel good with like meat in general,

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Speaker 1: high protein diet, my body thrives. I was just looking

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Speaker 1: at different oils and I had a tub of like

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Speaker 1: and then I saw a random video pop up a

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Speaker 1: beef tallow, and I thought I'll get some to try.

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Speaker 1: It is so tasty. And the good thing about beef

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Speaker 1: tallow same with coconut oil and olive oil to a

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Speaker 1: or canola oil or sunflower oil, any kind of vegetable

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Speaker 1: and it's really inflammatory for your body. With coconut oil

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Speaker 1: doesn't get damage when it's heated. Olive oil doesn't to

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Speaker 1: a certain degree, but if it gets really hot, it

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Speaker 1: will beef tallow does not. It stays you're good saturated

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Speaker 1: it stays stable for you. And it's just delicious. And

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Speaker 1: another thing that I've been seeing all over my TikTok

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Speaker 1: your skin feel so hydrated. And the transformations I've seen

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Speaker 1: Anything that's packaged just probably not paleo. It's your meats, fruits, nuts, vegetables, seeds,

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Speaker 3: So I'm just like pulling back listening to your body.

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Speaker 3: I've started eating a lot more eggs again lately.

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Speaker 3: How funny that we do this stuff. We don't talk

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Speaker 3: And lately I've just been like, I'm just craving more

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Speaker 1: Bacon and eggs now, and I do get with avocado too.

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Speaker 3: I can't believe that we're both in that's And.

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Speaker 1: The avocado is just perfect like cherry on top the

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Speaker 3: Just so fullward it does, it really does.

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Speaker 3: It was always going to be worth it, ye true.

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Speaker 3: What's yours so mine? Is actually a video that I

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Speaker 3: It's basically this lady talking about sitting and how much

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Speaker 4: As you may have heard in pop culture, sitting is

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Speaker 4: sitting is actually bad for you and it can increase

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Speaker 4: a ninety percent higher risk of death from heart disease,

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Speaker 4: any fifty percent higher risk from death overall. All to

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Speaker 3: Ting. Is that so interesting?

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Speaker 3: more because I just like heard that and I was like, wow.

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Speaker 1: Interesting, Hey, I'm definitely not sitting as much now. I

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Speaker 1: That makes me feel better. But Steve is at a

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Speaker 1: The workplaces are supporting that anyway for them, Yeah, I

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Speaker 1: So we're just one from one, we've both got one each.

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Speaker 3: Sure, sure? So the first one is that our brains

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Speaker 1: Case Smorry, isn't it.

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Speaker 3: It's really hard because if you're just going along life

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Speaker 3: and you're not somebody who's listening to this podcast that's

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Speaker 3: consciously trying to become more aware of themselves, you would

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Speaker 3: be feeling in vital flight a lot of the time.

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Speaker 1: The world's going to kill you.

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Speaker 3: All the time. Well, a lot of us do feel

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Speaker 3: and yeah, it's literally just our natural response to try

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Speaker 1: It makes so much sense.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, if you live, you're right.

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Speaker 1: If you're not aware of it, you just think the

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Speaker 1: world's against you, everyone's against you. Things are always going to

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Speaker 1: And even with my second surgery that I need to

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00:18:20,360 --> 00:18:22,440
Speaker 1: go through, like, I don't quite know what that's teaching

436
00:18:22,481 --> 00:18:24,401
Speaker 1: me yet, but I know there'll be something I look

437
00:18:24,441 --> 00:18:25,720
Speaker 1: back on and be like, that's why I had to

438
00:18:25,721 --> 00:18:28,161
Speaker 1: go through that. Yeah, it might just be to help

439
00:18:28,201 --> 00:18:30,120
Speaker 1: one other person. I don't know what it'll be, but

440
00:18:30,160 --> 00:18:32,480
Speaker 1: I just know I would do anything not to have

441
00:18:32,521 --> 00:18:34,441
Speaker 1: to go through that surgery again. But I know it's

442
00:18:34,441 --> 00:18:36,280
Speaker 1: happening for me. What's happening to save my life at

443
00:18:36,281 --> 00:18:38,720
Speaker 1: the end of the day, that's a big reason. But

444
00:18:38,880 --> 00:18:41,161
Speaker 1: just yeah, whenever you get stuck or go through something

445
00:18:41,160 --> 00:18:43,920
Speaker 1: really hard, just have that trust that you know this

446
00:18:43,961 --> 00:18:44,921
Speaker 1: is happening.

447
00:18:44,640 --> 00:18:48,721
Speaker 3: And the universe always pulls through, doesn't It always pulls through.

448
00:18:48,761 --> 00:18:51,720
Speaker 3: No matter what we have gone through, things will just

449
00:18:51,761 --> 00:18:56,001
Speaker 3: pop up at it go around. I'm like, ah, always.

450
00:18:55,761 --> 00:18:58,681
Speaker 1: Has your back, always has your back, and we've got

451
00:18:58,761 --> 00:19:01,640
Speaker 1: so much evidence that it has our back because you

452
00:19:01,681 --> 00:19:04,281
Speaker 1: look back on your past and it's always worked out,

453
00:19:04,400 --> 00:19:06,361
Speaker 1: always hard. Maybe it wasn't the way that you planned,

454
00:19:06,481 --> 00:19:08,441
Speaker 1: maybe it looked a little bit different. Maybe you haven't

455
00:19:08,481 --> 00:19:10,761
Speaker 1: found the lesson yet, maybe you're still in the thick

456
00:19:10,801 --> 00:19:13,960
Speaker 1: of it right now, but it's worked out. Yeah, you're okay,

457
00:19:14,201 --> 00:19:18,760
Speaker 1: you're alive, you got through. So yeah, that's just one

458
00:19:18,801 --> 00:19:20,721
Speaker 1: that's been so life changing, so true.

459
00:19:20,721 --> 00:19:23,121
Speaker 3: And when you can think from that place too, it's

460
00:19:23,160 --> 00:19:26,001
Speaker 3: such a nice, pleasant place to be and isn't it Yeah,

461
00:19:26,600 --> 00:19:28,681
Speaker 3: living out a gratefulness gratitude.

462
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Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, I think I heard that from him when

463
00:19:30,801 --> 00:19:32,880
Speaker 1: I was like nineteen. It's just stuck with me ever since.

464
00:19:33,561 --> 00:19:36,521
Speaker 1: One of his best quotes I reckon, yeah, yeah, life

465
00:19:36,561 --> 00:19:38,641
Speaker 1: happens for you, not to you. That's his one. Yeah.

466
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Speaker 3: Yeah, amen. Learning that everyone is doing the best that

467
00:19:42,561 --> 00:19:44,920
Speaker 3: they can with the tools that they have. When you

468
00:19:44,961 --> 00:19:47,801
Speaker 3: come from compassion and understanding, rather than getting annoyed at

469
00:19:47,840 --> 00:19:50,001
Speaker 3: them for not meeting you where you are at, life

470
00:19:50,001 --> 00:19:52,880
Speaker 3: feels a lot nicer. So true, that was a hard

471
00:19:52,921 --> 00:19:55,641
Speaker 3: one for me. I feel like once I shifted that

472
00:19:55,801 --> 00:19:58,681
Speaker 3: and I went from like, oh wow, I can see

473
00:19:58,721 --> 00:20:01,240
Speaker 3: why they're that way because of this, or why are

474
00:20:01,241 --> 00:20:04,001
Speaker 3: they feeling like that? Like, rather than being annoyed questioning

475
00:20:04,001 --> 00:20:10,080
Speaker 3: it compassion, more understanding, and just low expectations for the

476
00:20:10,120 --> 00:20:13,160
Speaker 3: way other people react. I guess to a point. We

477
00:20:13,201 --> 00:20:15,880
Speaker 3: always talk about this for sure, boundaries too. Yeah, But

478
00:20:15,921 --> 00:20:18,761
Speaker 3: then that's the thing. You can still hold compassion and

479
00:20:18,840 --> 00:20:22,600
Speaker 3: understanding for people from afar, yes, and still have your

480
00:20:22,600 --> 00:20:25,281
Speaker 3: boundaries in place, but you don't have to be annoyed.

481
00:20:25,481 --> 00:20:26,760
Speaker 3: You don't have to let it rock you.

482
00:20:27,041 --> 00:20:29,281
Speaker 1: I was telling you about a conversation Levi and I had.

483
00:20:29,761 --> 00:20:33,041
Speaker 1: I think it was about someone that takes recreational drugs,

484
00:20:33,481 --> 00:20:35,440
Speaker 1: and we were talking how it's not an alignment with

485
00:20:35,521 --> 00:20:38,521
Speaker 1: our way of living. I suppose yes, But the way

486
00:20:38,640 --> 00:20:41,521
Speaker 1: leave I worded this, I thought was just really really beautiful.

487
00:20:41,600 --> 00:20:44,001
Speaker 1: Because I have someone in my life who uses recreational

488
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Speaker 1: drugs quite often. I see the negative effect it has

489
00:20:47,201 --> 00:20:49,720
Speaker 1: on their life. However I still love on them. And

490
00:20:49,761 --> 00:20:51,520
Speaker 1: I had another friend be like, I don't know why

491
00:20:51,561 --> 00:20:53,200
Speaker 1: you still hang out with that person. They're really not

492
00:20:53,241 --> 00:20:55,240
Speaker 1: aligned with you and your values and your health and

493
00:20:55,321 --> 00:20:57,440
Speaker 1: like all that kind of stuff. I said, yeah, I know,

494
00:20:57,640 --> 00:21:00,080
Speaker 1: but I still really love that person. And I see

495
00:21:00,080 --> 00:21:02,721
Speaker 1: they're struggling, they don't have the tools, they're not ready

496
00:21:02,761 --> 00:21:04,400
Speaker 1: to change it. But doesn't mean I don't have to

497
00:21:04,441 --> 00:21:07,600
Speaker 1: love them. And yeah, it's not the person I choose

498
00:21:07,600 --> 00:21:09,281
Speaker 1: to spend all of my time with, but I will

499
00:21:09,360 --> 00:21:11,321
Speaker 1: always have their back and I always love them. From

500
00:21:11,321 --> 00:21:13,840
Speaker 1: Afart and he was saying the same thing. He was like, yeah,

501
00:21:13,880 --> 00:21:16,361
Speaker 1: they can be doing things that you would never ever do,

502
00:21:16,521 --> 00:21:19,161
Speaker 1: but you can still love that person. You just when

503
00:21:19,201 --> 00:21:21,680
Speaker 1: you have that compassion for where they're at. And you

504
00:21:21,681 --> 00:21:23,480
Speaker 1: don't expect people to be where you are at, or

505
00:21:23,521 --> 00:21:25,321
Speaker 1: doing the work that you're doing, or beat the level

506
00:21:25,360 --> 00:21:28,160
Speaker 1: that you are. You can still have beautiful connections. You

507
00:21:28,160 --> 00:21:31,201
Speaker 1: can still have a beautiful, solid friendship. Yeah, and they

508
00:21:31,241 --> 00:21:33,561
Speaker 1: need to love the most they really do. They need

509
00:21:33,600 --> 00:21:36,201
Speaker 1: the support, they need the love, and especially they need

510
00:21:36,481 --> 00:21:39,361
Speaker 1: no judgment. Have they ever not loved on you? No,

511
00:21:40,120 --> 00:21:43,241
Speaker 1: This one person has always shown up for me, always

512
00:21:43,281 --> 00:21:45,761
Speaker 1: supports me, even the little things like one of the

513
00:21:45,761 --> 00:21:48,521
Speaker 1: first people that she always comments and likes and shares

514
00:21:48,561 --> 00:21:50,801
Speaker 1: my stuff, like just little things like that. She's just

515
00:21:51,041 --> 00:21:53,440
Speaker 1: such a solid friend. So just because she makes different

516
00:21:53,481 --> 00:21:55,801
Speaker 1: choices to me, it doesn't mean I love her any less.

517
00:21:55,880 --> 00:21:57,640
Speaker 1: It just kind of ties into it, you said nicely.

518
00:21:57,921 --> 00:22:01,761
Speaker 1: Just to always have an understanding, compassionate way of viewing

519
00:22:01,801 --> 00:22:04,521
Speaker 1: people and being there for them. Yeah. The stories you

520
00:22:04,561 --> 00:22:08,041
Speaker 1: tell yourself are not always true. In fact, a lot

521
00:22:08,041 --> 00:22:11,041
Speaker 1: of them are actually bullshit. The stories that you've been

522
00:22:11,080 --> 00:22:13,761
Speaker 1: told how you've been conditioned or you haven't explored other

523
00:22:13,801 --> 00:22:15,880
Speaker 1: ways to be or do things. So now you've attached

524
00:22:15,880 --> 00:22:18,401
Speaker 1: yourself to that story. And like you were saying before,

525
00:22:18,600 --> 00:22:20,721
Speaker 1: some stories we tell we just tell it. So often

526
00:22:20,761 --> 00:22:22,801
Speaker 1: we've been told since we're a little girl, it becomes

527
00:22:22,801 --> 00:22:25,761
Speaker 1: our truth. You fully, wholeheartedly believe it. That someone tries

528
00:22:25,761 --> 00:22:28,200
Speaker 1: to challenge you on it, you might get activated or

529
00:22:28,241 --> 00:22:29,640
Speaker 1: like treat you from it, and you're like, no, this

530
00:22:29,761 --> 00:22:32,160
Speaker 1: is how it was because of X y Z. But

531
00:22:32,160 --> 00:22:33,960
Speaker 1: then when if you can get centered and actually like

532
00:22:34,080 --> 00:22:37,241
Speaker 1: unpack it, you're like, hm, is that actually the truth?

533
00:22:37,840 --> 00:22:40,840
Speaker 1: And this story also may be there to keep you safe,

534
00:22:40,880 --> 00:22:44,360
Speaker 1: and it might also be helping you justify something. Yeah.

535
00:22:44,600 --> 00:22:47,360
Speaker 1: And Myles's story was that I'm just really, really dumb,

536
00:22:47,521 --> 00:22:49,681
Speaker 1: and anytime I got a new opportunity, I got offered

537
00:22:49,721 --> 00:22:51,440
Speaker 1: a new job, I saw a job I want to

538
00:22:51,441 --> 00:22:54,120
Speaker 1: apply for, even like going for my manual license, I

539
00:22:54,160 --> 00:22:55,920
Speaker 1: didn't know it from my automatic because I had a

540
00:22:55,961 --> 00:22:58,801
Speaker 1: story I was too dumb. Was that the truth? Definitely not?

541
00:22:59,281 --> 00:23:01,961
Speaker 1: Am I slower learner than others? Probably it's like there's

542
00:23:01,961 --> 00:23:04,721
Speaker 1: always someone rich, smarter, prettier than you. Doesn't mean I

543
00:23:04,761 --> 00:23:06,600
Speaker 1: wasn't capable of doing it. If I actually put my

544
00:23:06,640 --> 00:23:08,321
Speaker 1: mind to it and studied hard, I'm sure I could

545
00:23:08,321 --> 00:23:11,680
Speaker 1: have done it. But I let that story become my truth.

546
00:23:12,041 --> 00:23:13,840
Speaker 1: So I said no to things without even giving them

547
00:23:13,840 --> 00:23:15,960
Speaker 1: a go. Yeah. So it's just so cool to be

548
00:23:16,001 --> 00:23:18,240
Speaker 1: aware of what you're telling yourself and say to yourself, like,

549
00:23:18,880 --> 00:23:20,521
Speaker 1: is that actually the truth? Because a lot of the

550
00:23:20,521 --> 00:23:21,120
Speaker 1: time it's not.

551
00:23:21,441 --> 00:23:24,160
Speaker 3: And when you start to actually like do this and

552
00:23:24,281 --> 00:23:27,601
Speaker 3: question things more or like say, something activates or triggers

553
00:23:27,640 --> 00:23:30,480
Speaker 3: you and you start to unpack it, it's like every single

554
00:23:30,561 --> 00:23:34,160
Speaker 3: thing you can start to see from so many different angles. Yes,

555
00:23:34,400 --> 00:23:37,281
Speaker 3: but it's so funny because it's like tunnel vision initially,

556
00:23:37,801 --> 00:23:39,241
Speaker 3: like ton of vision, and then you start like questioning

557
00:23:39,281 --> 00:23:44,240
Speaker 3: different things and you're like, oh oh ah. It's like

558
00:23:44,281 --> 00:23:46,961
Speaker 3: all these little moments of like oh wow, I never

559
00:23:47,001 --> 00:23:48,801
Speaker 3: would have looked at it from that perspective if I

560
00:23:48,801 --> 00:23:50,600
Speaker 3: didn't just like take a second to be like, hang on,

561
00:23:51,400 --> 00:23:52,281
Speaker 3: it's just the pause.

562
00:23:52,321 --> 00:23:55,521
Speaker 1: Hey. Yes, And it's funny with that story too, that

563
00:23:55,600 --> 00:23:58,240
Speaker 1: I'm too dumb one. My mom's like, it's actually interesting

564
00:23:58,281 --> 00:24:00,001
Speaker 1: now you've said that, Like, I don't think you're dumb.

565
00:24:00,120 --> 00:24:02,960
Speaker 1: I think you're not interested. Just like the subjects that

566
00:24:03,001 --> 00:24:05,521
Speaker 1: you were interested in you passed with flying color. The

567
00:24:05,521 --> 00:24:10,000
Speaker 1: subjects that you didn't pass, which was like science, mass,

568
00:24:10,041 --> 00:24:12,521
Speaker 1: like biology, all that kind of stuff, because you had

569
00:24:12,561 --> 00:24:14,641
Speaker 1: no interest in it, But the ones that you were

570
00:24:14,640 --> 00:24:17,161
Speaker 1: really interested in, you wanted to, like study, you did

571
00:24:17,201 --> 00:24:19,361
Speaker 1: really well. So when you say I'm not dumb, try

572
00:24:19,481 --> 00:24:23,160
Speaker 1: changing that language to be I'm not interested. That's very true.

573
00:24:23,281 --> 00:24:24,641
Speaker 3: That's really cool language.

574
00:24:24,880 --> 00:24:27,760
Speaker 1: Yeah. And then sometimes I have to catch myself out

575
00:24:27,801 --> 00:24:29,801
Speaker 1: from being lazy. If Steve's like, hey, can you like

576
00:24:30,160 --> 00:24:32,080
Speaker 1: do these documents and read this, I'm like, oh no,

577
00:24:32,281 --> 00:24:33,840
Speaker 1: paye Iro'm too dumb. Can't you just do it? And

578
00:24:33,880 --> 00:24:35,440
Speaker 1: he's like too dumb or can't be bothered? I'm like,

579
00:24:35,521 --> 00:24:38,121
Speaker 1: I can't be bothered. He's like, you are more than

580
00:24:38,160 --> 00:24:40,761
Speaker 1: capable of reading what that's about, you just don't want to.

581
00:24:40,840 --> 00:24:43,920
Speaker 1: I'm like, yeah. So sometimes I'm like, okay, what's the

582
00:24:43,961 --> 00:24:46,281
Speaker 1: actual truth behind this? I can't be fuck doing that.

583
00:24:46,521 --> 00:24:48,360
Speaker 1: I'm not interested in it. I don't want to learn

584
00:24:48,400 --> 00:24:50,400
Speaker 1: about that. No, Like, there's the truth.

585
00:24:50,481 --> 00:24:52,840
Speaker 3: And when you're really passionate about something, you want to

586
00:24:52,880 --> 00:24:56,640
Speaker 3: learn everything about it. Yeah, get honest with yourself now.

587
00:24:56,681 --> 00:24:58,480
Speaker 3: I'll literally be honest and say to Steve like, I

588
00:24:58,481 --> 00:25:00,281
Speaker 3: don't want to learn that, I'm not interested in it.

589
00:25:00,441 --> 00:25:02,600
Speaker 3: Just talk to me something about space. I used to

590
00:25:02,640 --> 00:25:05,641
Speaker 3: say it I'm too dumb. I can't absorb that information.

591
00:25:06,321 --> 00:25:08,961
Speaker 3: Now your language up too, Tom.

592
00:25:09,041 --> 00:25:11,321
Speaker 1: But now, but it's a compound. Now I'm saying, Babe,

593
00:25:11,360 --> 00:25:13,840
Speaker 1: I'm not interested in the space. I don't want to

594
00:25:13,880 --> 00:25:16,801
Speaker 1: learn about what's happening up there, have no plans, are

595
00:25:16,801 --> 00:25:20,360
Speaker 1: going to the moon? Talk about this with someone else,

596
00:25:20,761 --> 00:25:22,521
Speaker 1: or I'll listen to you. But I'm like, I have

597
00:25:22,600 --> 00:25:24,801
Speaker 1: no interest in learning it. Yes, because you're trying to

598
00:25:24,801 --> 00:25:27,041
Speaker 1: get me to watch something, I'm like, oh.

599
00:25:27,001 --> 00:25:30,041
Speaker 3: Some of that stuff can be very boring to watch. Yeah,

600
00:25:31,640 --> 00:25:34,481
Speaker 3: it's like rocket ship over my head.

601
00:25:34,481 --> 00:25:36,840
Speaker 1: It's like me getting you to watch something on contouring.

602
00:25:36,880 --> 00:25:41,640
Speaker 1: You're going to be like, yeah, watch, so language ships

603
00:25:41,721 --> 00:25:44,321
Speaker 1: so important? But yeah, are the stories that you're telling

604
00:25:44,321 --> 00:25:48,041
Speaker 1: yourself actually the truth or is there a way to

605
00:25:48,080 --> 00:25:49,761
Speaker 1: like shift it and break that story because a lot

606
00:25:49,801 --> 00:25:50,880
Speaker 1: of the times it's not going to be serving you,

607
00:25:50,961 --> 00:25:53,081
Speaker 1: and it's absolute bullshare that someone else has probably told

608
00:25:53,080 --> 00:25:54,681
Speaker 1: you along the way. And I look at the person

609
00:25:54,721 --> 00:25:56,881
Speaker 1: that told me as well, and I'm just like, that's

610
00:25:56,880 --> 00:25:59,961
Speaker 1: my stepdad. I have zero respect for him. I don't

611
00:26:00,241 --> 00:26:02,201
Speaker 1: like who he is, how he treats people, what he's

612
00:26:02,241 --> 00:26:04,400
Speaker 1: done in his life. Would I listen to you and

613
00:26:04,441 --> 00:26:06,201
Speaker 1: take that on board. Yeah, oh thank you.

614
00:26:06,840 --> 00:26:09,120
Speaker 3: That two people can live through the exact same event

615
00:26:09,160 --> 00:26:12,441
Speaker 3: and have two completely different stories attached to it. So

616
00:26:12,481 --> 00:26:16,120
Speaker 3: stop trying to understand how or why someone doesn't understand

617
00:26:16,281 --> 00:26:21,361
Speaker 3: you your values, your beliefs and standards. Our values, beliefs

618
00:26:21,400 --> 00:26:24,121
Speaker 3: and standards change with every scenario for each of us.

619
00:26:24,360 --> 00:26:27,041
Speaker 3: What someone thinks is totally fine and okay, another person

620
00:26:27,080 --> 00:26:29,600
Speaker 3: would never let someone else do to them. But that's

621
00:26:29,640 --> 00:26:32,561
Speaker 3: also what makes life interesting, everyone having their own opinions

622
00:26:32,561 --> 00:26:34,561
Speaker 3: and personalities. Nothing is right or wrong.

623
00:26:34,481 --> 00:26:37,281
Speaker 1: Just what we think it is, oh so well said.

624
00:26:37,160 --> 00:26:40,280
Speaker 3: Even you know, going through the exact same situation, Like

625
00:26:40,360 --> 00:26:41,720
Speaker 3: you know, how you spoke about when your mom came

626
00:26:41,761 --> 00:26:43,880
Speaker 3: on with your brothers and your childhood and how all

627
00:26:43,921 --> 00:26:46,080
Speaker 3: of your perspectives and how you felt was so different

628
00:26:46,080 --> 00:26:49,161
Speaker 3: because that's been the different experience because you had experienced

629
00:26:49,160 --> 00:26:49,721
Speaker 3: a lot of the heat.

630
00:26:49,801 --> 00:26:52,640
Speaker 1: And we interpreted things differently too, that's it. Yeah, And

631
00:26:52,640 --> 00:26:54,561
Speaker 1: we take information to make up our own stories and

632
00:26:54,600 --> 00:26:56,000
Speaker 1: attach different things to it.

633
00:26:56,241 --> 00:26:59,241
Speaker 3: Definitely, and like even you know, when different things happen,

634
00:26:59,321 --> 00:27:01,241
Speaker 3: or like saving if her friend acts a certain way,

635
00:27:01,241 --> 00:27:02,641
Speaker 3: like another friend might be like oh I didn't really

636
00:27:02,640 --> 00:27:03,041
Speaker 3: notice that.

637
00:27:03,321 --> 00:27:03,960
Speaker 1: What's she like that?

638
00:27:04,160 --> 00:27:06,400
Speaker 3: And you're like, like she was so oft today or

639
00:27:06,441 --> 00:27:07,920
Speaker 3: she was so true.

640
00:27:08,001 --> 00:27:12,801
Speaker 1: I thought that was really rude. Ah, like, yeah.

641
00:27:11,801 --> 00:27:12,521
Speaker 3: That's so true.

642
00:27:12,521 --> 00:27:14,521
Speaker 1: That's such a good example. I feel like my next

643
00:27:14,521 --> 00:27:18,400
Speaker 1: one's gonna ruffle a few feathers. And I kind of

644
00:27:18,400 --> 00:27:21,041
Speaker 1: contradict myself a little bit because sometimes I do say

645
00:27:21,321 --> 00:27:23,721
Speaker 1: I'm lucky or I feel lucky to have good friends

646
00:27:23,801 --> 00:27:26,840
Speaker 1: or whatever, but no one is lucky. I don't believe

647
00:27:26,880 --> 00:27:28,200
Speaker 1: in luck. I think it's a cop out word a

648
00:27:28,241 --> 00:27:30,201
Speaker 1: lot of people use because they can't be bother doing

649
00:27:30,201 --> 00:27:32,720
Speaker 1: the hard work to be successful. This is obviously like

650
00:27:32,761 --> 00:27:36,001
Speaker 1: in different situations. There's so many layers to this, and

651
00:27:36,041 --> 00:27:38,561
Speaker 1: I'm sure someone will argue that if someone means a

652
00:27:38,600 --> 00:27:41,041
Speaker 1: million dollars that they are lucky. But I'm generally speaking

653
00:27:41,120 --> 00:27:42,880
Speaker 1: day to day, when you see someone doing well or

654
00:27:42,921 --> 00:27:47,120
Speaker 1: having all the things like a solid relationship, healthy shiny things, holidays,

655
00:27:47,120 --> 00:27:51,041
Speaker 1: deep connections, fun, meaningful friendships, that it's not luck. It's

656
00:27:51,080 --> 00:27:56,321
Speaker 1: actually taken time, energy, effort, resources, sacrifice. And I do

657
00:27:56,400 --> 00:27:58,960
Speaker 1: believe that so true. It's like that quote the grass

658
00:27:59,001 --> 00:28:00,001
Speaker 1: is greener where you water it.

659
00:28:00,120 --> 00:28:02,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, and it's so true. It's like it's not greener

660
00:28:02,441 --> 00:28:03,801
Speaker 3: on the other side when you look someone else is like,

661
00:28:03,840 --> 00:28:05,600
Speaker 3: are you doing the things that they're doing? How are

662
00:28:05,640 --> 00:28:07,561
Speaker 3: you worrying your grass the same way they're watering their

663
00:28:07,600 --> 00:28:08,600
Speaker 3: grass to get greener.

664
00:28:08,721 --> 00:28:10,880
Speaker 1: I have people say not as much anymore. But I

665
00:28:10,921 --> 00:28:12,400
Speaker 1: used to have people say, oh, my gosh, you're so

666
00:28:12,521 --> 00:28:14,160
Speaker 1: lucky that you could launch a business because you have

667
00:28:14,201 --> 00:28:17,241
Speaker 1: such a big following, And I'm like, yes, that helps,

668
00:28:17,441 --> 00:28:20,400
Speaker 1: for sure, but don't forget the last ten to fifteen

669
00:28:20,481 --> 00:28:23,761
Speaker 1: years I have spent building that. Following last ten to

670
00:28:23,761 --> 00:28:26,600
Speaker 1: fifteen years, I've been negatively placed in the media that

671
00:28:26,681 --> 00:28:28,961
Speaker 1: I've had trolls, that I've had people turn up to

672
00:28:29,001 --> 00:28:30,640
Speaker 1: my house, that I've had death threats, that I've had

673
00:28:30,640 --> 00:28:33,481
Speaker 1: all this stuff happen, Like, that's not luck. There's been

674
00:28:33,561 --> 00:28:36,441
Speaker 1: so much time and sacrifice and money and effort put

675
00:28:36,481 --> 00:28:38,881
Speaker 1: into building the trust and building the numbers up. Yeah,

676
00:28:38,881 --> 00:28:40,921
Speaker 1: but it's like I get it all the time. With friendships,

677
00:28:41,081 --> 00:28:43,721
Speaker 1: I do have so many beautiful friends. We're so lucky

678
00:28:43,761 --> 00:28:46,561
Speaker 1: you have those friends. I do feel so lucky every

679
00:28:46,641 --> 00:28:49,440
Speaker 1: single day that I'm like, but I still pour so

680
00:28:49,601 --> 00:28:52,801
Speaker 1: much into my friendships and I always have at the moment.

681
00:28:52,841 --> 00:28:54,721
Speaker 1: Steve doesn't have a lot of close friends, but he's

682
00:28:54,721 --> 00:28:57,161
Speaker 1: like I also put no effort into them. He's like

683
00:28:57,321 --> 00:28:59,200
Speaker 1: my work, I'm with my family and I'm content with that.

684
00:28:59,561 --> 00:29:01,441
Speaker 1: He's like you, you know, since you're a little girl,

685
00:29:01,441 --> 00:29:03,921
Speaker 1: friendships have always been high on your priority list, and

686
00:29:03,961 --> 00:29:06,200
Speaker 1: you put so much into them because I genuinely value

687
00:29:06,201 --> 00:29:08,041
Speaker 1: it and I love it, so you can relate it

688
00:29:08,041 --> 00:29:09,841
Speaker 1: to anything in your life, and like where you're putting

689
00:29:09,881 --> 00:29:11,440
Speaker 1: your energy, it'll keep growing.

690
00:29:11,601 --> 00:29:13,761
Speaker 3: Do you know something I always say instead of like

691
00:29:13,841 --> 00:29:15,961
Speaker 3: I'm so lucky, I always say I'm so blessed, blessed. Yeah,

692
00:29:15,961 --> 00:29:17,200
Speaker 3: because it's like with the kids and that I'm like,

693
00:29:17,241 --> 00:29:19,281
Speaker 3: I'm so blessed to have them, I'm so blessed to

694
00:29:19,281 --> 00:29:20,720
Speaker 3: have the job I have. I haven't because it's not

695
00:29:20,721 --> 00:29:22,081
Speaker 3: like saying it was easy to get there, but I'm

696
00:29:22,121 --> 00:29:24,240
Speaker 3: so blessed I've got it. Yes, I really like that

697
00:29:24,321 --> 00:29:26,281
Speaker 3: instead of lucky, Like when people message me and go, oh,

698
00:29:26,281 --> 00:29:28,681
Speaker 3: you're so blessed to your life, like yeah, I am, yes, Yeah,

699
00:29:28,721 --> 00:29:30,681
Speaker 3: it doesn't take away from any of the hard work

700
00:29:30,761 --> 00:29:33,681
Speaker 3: you might have done or anything else, but it's still

701
00:29:33,761 --> 00:29:35,161
Speaker 3: finding gratitude for what you've got.

702
00:29:35,281 --> 00:29:38,240
Speaker 1: I'm guilty. I've definitely caught myself out sometimes where I thought, oh,

703
00:29:38,281 --> 00:29:41,961
Speaker 1: they're lucky they've got this. I'm like, oh, hang on,

704
00:29:42,161 --> 00:29:44,641
Speaker 1: why are you saying that? Yeah, and I'll unpacking and like, yeah,

705
00:29:44,721 --> 00:29:45,801
Speaker 1: catch myself out in it.

706
00:29:46,001 --> 00:29:46,281
Speaker 2: Yeah.

707
00:29:46,481 --> 00:29:49,281
Speaker 1: Sometimes I'm jealous about something it could arise, but I

708
00:29:49,321 --> 00:29:51,881
Speaker 1: catch myself pretty quickly. So just yeah, be aware when

709
00:29:51,921 --> 00:29:54,121
Speaker 1: you say that next time, Like you probably haven't seen

710
00:29:54,161 --> 00:29:56,041
Speaker 1: what's gone on behind the scenes for them to get

711
00:29:56,081 --> 00:29:57,240
Speaker 1: that thing that you're wanting.

712
00:29:57,361 --> 00:29:59,761
Speaker 3: Yeah, and we all naturally have those thought processes. Yes,

713
00:29:59,881 --> 00:30:01,841
Speaker 3: like we're all going to actually have like things or

714
00:30:01,841 --> 00:30:03,961
Speaker 3: feelings or things like you know, but.

715
00:30:03,921 --> 00:30:06,161
Speaker 1: It's it's doing too even if you're jealous, it's just

716
00:30:06,281 --> 00:30:08,480
Speaker 1: highlighting what you feel like you're lacking or what you

717
00:30:08,481 --> 00:30:11,001
Speaker 1: would like more of. Yeah. So whenever I feel a

718
00:30:11,081 --> 00:30:14,281
Speaker 1: jealous feeling come up, and I don't like feeling jealous,

719
00:30:14,281 --> 00:30:16,841
Speaker 1: but I'm like, ah, you're wanting more of that, Yeah,

720
00:30:16,921 --> 00:30:17,720
Speaker 1: how can you get that?

721
00:30:17,921 --> 00:30:19,521
Speaker 3: Or are you prepared to do.

722
00:30:19,481 --> 00:30:21,481
Speaker 1: What it takes to get that? That's it and wanting

723
00:30:21,481 --> 00:30:24,121
Speaker 1: to sacrifice that to have that, And then sometimes it

724
00:30:24,241 --> 00:30:26,401
Speaker 1: like diminishes that feeling, so I'm like, no, I don't

725
00:30:26,401 --> 00:30:27,881
Speaker 1: actually want that, So I don't want to have to

726
00:30:27,921 --> 00:30:28,521
Speaker 1: do that to get that.

727
00:30:28,841 --> 00:30:32,041
Speaker 3: No, that's it when you think about the hard work. Yeah,

728
00:30:32,401 --> 00:30:35,321
Speaker 3: someone has like, actually not.

729
00:30:35,321 --> 00:30:37,521
Speaker 1: You can have that internal I still have moments where

730
00:30:37,521 --> 00:30:39,881
Speaker 1: I see people with an active read business and I

731
00:30:40,001 --> 00:30:42,521
Speaker 1: might get the slight feeling of like, oh, just in

732
00:30:42,561 --> 00:30:45,961
Speaker 1: my gut, and then I'm like, no, I don't want

733
00:30:46,001 --> 00:30:48,321
Speaker 1: that anymore. I decided I didn't want that, and I

734
00:30:48,361 --> 00:30:51,281
Speaker 1: love my life without the stress of that. So it's

735
00:30:51,361 --> 00:30:53,720
Speaker 1: normal for those feelings and emotions to come up. You've

736
00:30:53,721 --> 00:30:56,841
Speaker 1: gotta have so many internal conversations with yourself. Honestly, I

737
00:30:56,881 --> 00:30:59,401
Speaker 1: talk to myself all the time. Sometimes I'm like, someone's

738
00:30:59,401 --> 00:31:00,761
Speaker 1: to see me in my car and I'm full on

739
00:31:00,841 --> 00:31:03,960
Speaker 1: having a conversation. But I think it's really cool to

740
00:31:04,001 --> 00:31:04,280
Speaker 1: do that.

741
00:31:04,401 --> 00:31:05,801
Speaker 3: Yeah, this ain't she We'll just sit you on your

742
00:31:05,801 --> 00:31:08,361
Speaker 3: phone things in there. Yeah that's true.

743
00:31:08,361 --> 00:31:10,841
Speaker 1: Actually, who cares what they think anyway? Yeah, that's it.

744
00:31:11,321 --> 00:31:14,961
Speaker 3: I probably not even think about your probably will life

745
00:31:14,961 --> 00:31:19,601
Speaker 3: does not revolve around you. Actually, Okay, my last one,

746
00:31:19,961 --> 00:31:23,401
Speaker 3: this is kind of similar to yours, only you can

747
00:31:23,521 --> 00:31:26,480
Speaker 3: do the work. I think I heard this a lot,

748
00:31:26,681 --> 00:31:28,720
Speaker 3: but have really felt it. With the inner work of

749
00:31:28,841 --> 00:31:32,601
Speaker 3: learning to slow down and tapping into my feminine energy more,

750
00:31:32,841 --> 00:31:36,321
Speaker 3: only you can force yourself to create more space and

751
00:31:36,441 --> 00:31:38,561
Speaker 3: stop the things that are no longer serving you. Hard

752
00:31:38,601 --> 00:31:40,761
Speaker 3: truth but also one hundred percent correct.

753
00:31:40,921 --> 00:31:41,961
Speaker 1: Ah, so good.

754
00:31:42,161 --> 00:31:44,481
Speaker 3: Any area of life, whatever doesn't feel aligned, whatever it's

755
00:31:44,521 --> 00:31:46,081
Speaker 3: not feeling right, You're.

756
00:31:45,881 --> 00:31:47,200
Speaker 1: The only one image you.

757
00:31:47,161 --> 00:31:47,641
Speaker 3: Can change it.

758
00:31:47,681 --> 00:31:49,521
Speaker 1: As much as we want to have a night in

759
00:31:49,561 --> 00:31:51,161
Speaker 1: shiving armor, come and save us.

760
00:31:51,641 --> 00:31:53,480
Speaker 3: You got to do the work you do, really do.

761
00:31:53,521 --> 00:31:55,241
Speaker 1: You can put the support around you, but you still

762
00:31:55,281 --> 00:31:57,240
Speaker 1: have to like dig deep and do the hard tap reaction,

763
00:31:57,441 --> 00:32:02,201
Speaker 1: take the action, make the changes conscious. Yeah, that's beautiful.

764
00:32:02,681 --> 00:32:04,841
Speaker 1: We've sold a story that once you commit or decide

765
00:32:04,881 --> 00:32:07,001
Speaker 1: to do something, that you have to stick with it

766
00:32:07,121 --> 00:32:09,321
Speaker 1: and see it through, push through, and like, don't give up.

767
00:32:09,401 --> 00:32:11,280
Speaker 1: This has been so relevant to all the conversations has

768
00:32:11,321 --> 00:32:14,521
Speaker 1: been having lately. But I fully disagree. I just don't

769
00:32:14,801 --> 00:32:17,081
Speaker 1: think you have to do that anymore. I don't know

770
00:32:17,121 --> 00:32:19,281
Speaker 1: where along the way we got sold that story. I

771
00:32:19,321 --> 00:32:20,681
Speaker 1: don't know if it's in school. It's like you go

772
00:32:20,721 --> 00:32:23,000
Speaker 1: to school and you study, and you go to university

773
00:32:23,041 --> 00:32:25,121
Speaker 1: and you pick that one subject and you do your degree,

774
00:32:25,121 --> 00:32:27,761
Speaker 1: and like, see if that this whole physio degree is it?

775
00:32:27,761 --> 00:32:30,161
Speaker 1: You knowed for five years? He went them on the

776
00:32:30,201 --> 00:32:33,281
Speaker 1: job for a week and went, I don't like this, and.

777
00:32:33,241 --> 00:32:35,241
Speaker 3: I love when I find out for a I didn't

778
00:32:35,241 --> 00:32:37,121
Speaker 3: imagine if he felt like I'm stuck now because I've

779
00:32:37,121 --> 00:32:38,841
Speaker 3: done that, I'm so cool that he went like, oh,

780
00:32:38,841 --> 00:32:39,281
Speaker 3: I don't want to.

781
00:32:39,281 --> 00:32:40,761
Speaker 1: He's got this big debt to pay. But he's like, no,

782
00:32:40,801 --> 00:32:42,881
Speaker 1: I actually can't see myself doing this when I did

783
00:32:42,921 --> 00:32:44,161
Speaker 1: a PT coorse and behaving PT.

784
00:32:44,561 --> 00:32:48,001
Speaker 3: Wow, physio would have been handy for PT though, too right, Yeah, true, yeah,

785
00:32:48,041 --> 00:32:49,841
Speaker 3: And it's such letting me be so good.

786
00:32:49,721 --> 00:32:51,401
Speaker 1: At massage when I've got a sort neck or something.

787
00:32:51,441 --> 00:32:55,721
Speaker 1: I'm like, but like, you can change your mind in work,

788
00:32:55,801 --> 00:32:58,480
Speaker 1: in career, in business and friendships and relationships and what

789
00:32:58,521 --> 00:33:01,921
Speaker 1: you wear, what perfume you like, how you look, what

790
00:33:01,961 --> 00:33:05,001
Speaker 1: your opinions are, things like you can change your mind

791
00:33:05,161 --> 00:33:07,641
Speaker 1: and you should be Yeah. I look back at myself

792
00:33:07,641 --> 00:33:09,201
Speaker 1: five years ago and like, I don't want to say

793
00:33:09,201 --> 00:33:10,921
Speaker 1: cringe and put myself down because it's doing the best

794
00:33:10,921 --> 00:33:13,721
Speaker 1: I could. But I look back and I've changed so much. Yeah,

795
00:33:13,841 --> 00:33:16,161
Speaker 1: changed my whole life. My outlook, the way I've done things,

796
00:33:16,161 --> 00:33:18,281
Speaker 1: the way I think, the way I dress, Like, everything

797
00:33:18,321 --> 00:33:18,881
Speaker 1: has changed.

798
00:33:19,001 --> 00:33:21,401
Speaker 3: I didn't think year of growing Glow. We would listen

799
00:33:21,441 --> 00:33:23,321
Speaker 3: back and we'd disagree with a lot of the things

800
00:33:23,321 --> 00:33:26,281
Speaker 3: because I feel like we were more like work hard, hustle.

801
00:33:26,561 --> 00:33:28,881
Speaker 1: Yeah, well that was a season we were in. Yeah,

802
00:33:29,681 --> 00:33:31,361
Speaker 1: it all like, yes, we could do it all, but

803
00:33:31,401 --> 00:33:33,001
Speaker 1: could we do it well? And we're we happy we

804
00:33:33,041 --> 00:33:34,041
Speaker 1: were regulated when.

805
00:33:33,921 --> 00:33:37,201
Speaker 3: We exhausted, we were running off adrenaline.

806
00:33:36,841 --> 00:33:39,200
Speaker 1: One hundred and ten percent. Makes you always say that

807
00:33:39,241 --> 00:33:41,001
Speaker 1: to me because I said, since I've closed down baseline,

808
00:33:41,001 --> 00:33:44,161
Speaker 1: I've slowed down. I've never felt more tired, and I

809
00:33:44,241 --> 00:33:46,961
Speaker 1: expected to come out feeling so energized because I wasn't

810
00:33:47,001 --> 00:33:48,761
Speaker 1: working as much. She's like, yeah, but you've been running

811
00:33:48,761 --> 00:33:51,161
Speaker 1: off adrenaline, Like that's how you've run for the last

812
00:33:51,201 --> 00:33:55,081
Speaker 1: fifteen years. Now that you've actually stopped one, you're training

813
00:33:55,081 --> 00:33:57,001
Speaker 1: your body to feel safe to slow down. But like

814
00:33:57,081 --> 00:33:59,200
Speaker 1: it kind of all catches up on you. Yeah, it

815
00:33:59,321 --> 00:34:02,321
Speaker 1: was like that's so true. Yeah, so yeah, it is

816
00:34:02,361 --> 00:34:04,361
Speaker 1: okay to change your mind, get rid of that story

817
00:34:04,401 --> 00:34:06,361
Speaker 1: that you have to stick it out because you really don't,

818
00:34:06,401 --> 00:34:07,561
Speaker 1: and what are you sticking it out for?

819
00:34:07,601 --> 00:34:07,720
Speaker 3: What?

820
00:34:07,761 --> 00:34:10,161
Speaker 1: To prove a point to who, to mom and dad,

821
00:34:10,681 --> 00:34:13,921
Speaker 1: to your social media following, to yourself for what. Yeah,

822
00:34:13,921 --> 00:34:15,361
Speaker 1: you don't get a gold medal at the end of

823
00:34:15,401 --> 00:34:19,121
Speaker 1: a million bucks saying congratulations you've finished. You only go done.

824
00:34:19,161 --> 00:34:21,081
Speaker 1: You were unhappy for five years if you're life, but

825
00:34:21,201 --> 00:34:24,321
Speaker 1: good on you for pushing through. It's like, nah, no,

826
00:34:24,441 --> 00:34:26,321
Speaker 1: thank you. You want to get to your end your

827
00:34:26,361 --> 00:34:28,801
Speaker 1: life and know that you chose yourself and chose happiness.

828
00:34:28,921 --> 00:34:30,361
Speaker 1: I want to show my kids too, that they can

829
00:34:30,441 --> 00:34:33,961
Speaker 1: change their mind, Like I will constantly be encouraging my

830
00:34:34,041 --> 00:34:35,961
Speaker 1: children if they do not feel happy, that they can

831
00:34:36,001 --> 00:34:38,480
Speaker 1: switch up. Yeah, definitely. I hope they try a million

832
00:34:38,481 --> 00:34:40,761
Speaker 1: different things to figure out what they love. Because even

833
00:34:40,841 --> 00:34:42,401
Speaker 1: like the jobs you did when you were younger, like

834
00:34:42,721 --> 00:34:44,681
Speaker 1: whether it was you know, I was a checkout girl

835
00:34:44,681 --> 00:34:46,881
Speaker 1: for so many years. I love that. I love talking

836
00:34:46,881 --> 00:34:50,401
Speaker 1: to people. I learned a lot, I gained valuable life skills,

837
00:34:50,441 --> 00:34:53,281
Speaker 1: like nobody want to do forever. But like imagine if

838
00:34:53,321 --> 00:34:55,601
Speaker 1: I just was scared to try something else and stay

839
00:34:55,681 --> 00:34:58,121
Speaker 1: there just to be safe. Definitely, like I'm so glad

840
00:34:58,121 --> 00:34:59,601
Speaker 1: I've got to do everything I've got to do that's

841
00:34:59,641 --> 00:35:01,440
Speaker 1: led me to be exactly where I am right now.

842
00:35:01,521 --> 00:35:03,321
Speaker 3: Yeah, and it does feel scary each time you change.

843
00:35:03,321 --> 00:35:03,921
Speaker 3: Each has change.

844
00:35:03,921 --> 00:35:06,601
Speaker 1: A job no racking, yeah, and a relationship and the

845
00:35:06,641 --> 00:35:10,281
Speaker 1: friendship yeah, so scary, so uncomfortable. But it's like that

846
00:35:10,361 --> 00:35:12,681
Speaker 1: will choose your hard that's it. Is it harder to

847
00:35:12,681 --> 00:35:15,001
Speaker 1: stay in a job or a relationship to you absolutely

848
00:35:15,001 --> 00:35:17,241
Speaker 1: hate and it's making you miserable. It was it harder

849
00:35:17,281 --> 00:35:19,601
Speaker 1: to be uncomfortable for the first initial period and then

850
00:35:19,641 --> 00:35:22,921
Speaker 1: come out and like some change your life. Yeah, you

851
00:35:22,961 --> 00:35:24,681
Speaker 1: have to be brave at the end of the day.

852
00:35:25,321 --> 00:35:27,921
Speaker 1: It is not easy to make those big calls. It

853
00:35:28,001 --> 00:35:30,440
Speaker 1: really rattles your whole world, like you feel like you're

854
00:35:30,441 --> 00:35:34,761
Speaker 1: in turbulence. Yeah, but it smooths out. It does hang

855
00:35:34,801 --> 00:35:39,041
Speaker 1: on for the ride. PS. I want you to ask

856
00:35:39,081 --> 00:35:42,161
Speaker 1: you how you can turn your pain into power, passion,

857
00:35:42,361 --> 00:35:45,281
Speaker 1: or purpose. I really love p words. If you can't

858
00:35:45,321 --> 00:35:48,961
Speaker 1: tell this is actually going to be when I usiness, sorry,

859
00:35:50,001 --> 00:35:55,440
Speaker 1: well yeah I don't really killed my moments, so, oh

860
00:35:55,521 --> 00:35:58,561
Speaker 1: my goodness. Funny backstory when I was coming up with

861
00:35:58,561 --> 00:36:00,481
Speaker 1: the name basline. Whenever I'm trying to come up with

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Speaker 1: a new name. We call it a whiteboard meeting. Steve's

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Speaker 1: come up with this and we'll get a whiteboard and

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Speaker 1: just check up all words that like feel good to us,

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Speaker 1: that we feel like would fit. And before I came

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Speaker 1: out with the baseline, I wanted to have P four oh,

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Speaker 1: and have four P words that I really really loved. Passion, purpose, power,

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Speaker 1: and persistence. Yeah, but then there was P nation that

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Speaker 1: looked too similar, okay, and then my girlfriend Shane had

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Speaker 1: an active red brand and hers was called I think

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Speaker 1: P three, and then there was P something recovery around

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Speaker 1: the corner from me. I know, there was just too

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Speaker 1: many p's, But before baseline, I wanted to call it

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Speaker 1: P four active wear and then like those four words

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Speaker 1: would be how I storytell and like just gave the

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Speaker 1: brand so much like depth and so yeah, just I

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Speaker 1: want you to ask yourself how you can really turn

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Speaker 1: this difficult time into something amazing and how the darkness

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Speaker 1: can be turned into light. I think through all about pain,

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Speaker 1: we can find more purpose, more passion, be more empowered.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, definitely. PS Trauma says I have to over

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Speaker 3: explain myself to be understood and accepted. He says, I'm

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Speaker 3: learning to trust my own voice and be comfortable with

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Speaker 3: being misunderstood. My value is not determined by others perceptions

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Speaker 3: of me.

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Speaker 1: So good. That's a hard one. I've definitely been over

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Speaker 1: explained in my whole life. Yeah, I feel like I

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Speaker 1: don't Yeah, I don't understand. Or if I just tell

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Speaker 1: them the details and they won't be angry. Yeah, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: that's a tough one. That's a good one. It's good.

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Speaker 1: Hay ye.

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Speaker 3: Thanks so much for tuning in, guys.

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Speaker 1: You guys, don't forget if you want to leave us

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Speaker 1: support literally takes you out a couple of seconds, but

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Speaker 3: And we would love it if you did that.

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Speaker 1: Thank you. Otherwise, stay tuned for our Friday Bonus episode

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Speaker 1: Wednesday Wednesday see Wednesday Get ahead of Myself.