WEBVTT - #1991 Design & Life Experience - Geoff Jowett 0:00:00.480 --> 0:00:01.160 I got a team. 0:00:01.200 --> 0:00:03.720 It's it's you know who, it's the it's the bloody 0:00:03.760 --> 0:00:07.800 only child with a croaky voice. Yeah, a little under 0:00:07.800 --> 0:00:11.280 the weather, still fighting my way out of it because 0:00:11.280 --> 0:00:12.680 I'm a fucking soldier. 0:00:14.960 --> 0:00:15.920 Feeling a bit shite. 0:00:16.000 --> 0:00:20.840 So there'll be no potty, no new potty today, So 0:00:20.960 --> 0:00:22.560 I'm going to have a little bit of a reshare. 0:00:22.600 --> 0:00:25.160 But I think tomorrow I'm going to be good. That's 0:00:25.280 --> 0:00:28.480 my that's my prediction, and I'll be back with some 0:00:28.600 --> 0:00:32.720 freshies for you. Apologies that it's been a little haphazard lately, 0:00:32.840 --> 0:00:37.199 but I haven't been you know, haven't been my best 0:00:37.320 --> 0:00:38.360 optimal self. 0:00:38.680 --> 0:00:41.040 So but I'm on the ment. I feel better. 0:00:41.640 --> 0:00:43.800 A few people have reached out and gone get better, 0:00:43.840 --> 0:00:48.479 you old fuck as my friends and followers do because 0:00:48.479 --> 0:00:50.879 they're all loving anyway. 0:00:50.600 --> 0:00:53.400 Appreciate you. Hope this finds you well. 0:00:53.800 --> 0:00:56.360 I'm on the mend. Thanks for your support and love, 0:00:56.680 --> 0:00:59.000 love all of you back. I'll see you very soon. 0:01:00.840 --> 0:01:03.400 Team It's Harps, It's Jeff Row, It's Tiffany and Cook, 0:01:03.440 --> 0:01:06.800 it's the You Project. It's a pleasure chatting to you. 0:01:06.840 --> 0:01:10.720 We appreciate you, we love your your patronage. If that's 0:01:10.760 --> 0:01:13.880 the right word. We love your listenership, we love the feedback. 0:01:13.959 --> 0:01:17.399 If you're not on our Facebook page, which is the 0:01:17.520 --> 0:01:21.720 U Project Podcast, become a member. You know why cost nothing. 0:01:22.360 --> 0:01:25.000 That's one. Two, we don't sell you anything. There's no 0:01:25.040 --> 0:01:28.680 fucking upsell on sale side cell that's always good. And 0:01:28.760 --> 0:01:32.120 three it's a community of people who are fucking great, 0:01:32.680 --> 0:01:37.039 like minded, awesome, supporty, lovey, dovey, slap you on the back, 0:01:37.720 --> 0:01:41.399 support you, encourage you, and empower you towards your best 0:01:41.560 --> 0:01:45.560 version of you, which sounds cheesy, but fuck, it's what 0:01:45.600 --> 0:01:49.840 we all want. Tiff is the life force. She's the 0:01:49.880 --> 0:01:53.760 blood that flows along with Melissa through the typ veins. 0:01:54.760 --> 0:01:57.560 Hi, Tiff, Hi, I'm there. I'm in the group. I'm 0:01:57.600 --> 0:02:00.200 in the Facebook group. You're a chatty Kathy in the 0:02:00.200 --> 0:02:01.880 group too. I know I got a badge. 0:02:01.960 --> 0:02:04.120 I was like, oh, bloody should have a badge. Yeah. 0:02:04.120 --> 0:02:06.160 If you want to connect with Tiff, just going there. 0:02:06.160 --> 0:02:08.480 She's always sitting in the bloody shadow if it's around, 0:02:08.480 --> 0:02:11.440 waiting for someone to wave cyberwave at me. 0:02:11.800 --> 0:02:12.000 Yeah. 0:02:12.040 --> 0:02:15.360 She needs a little love and attention. She she loves 0:02:15.360 --> 0:02:19.920 somebody talking to her. Jeff Jowder, you're a member of 0:02:19.960 --> 0:02:23.160 the U Project podcast Facebook group. 0:02:23.720 --> 0:02:26.160 Mate, I'm literally going to jump on that straight after 0:02:26.200 --> 0:02:28.679 this podcast. If you beat me to it. I knew 0:02:28.680 --> 0:02:30.320 you were going to throw me straight under the bus. 0:02:30.360 --> 0:02:34.360 But I'll be rest assured. As soon as we wrap 0:02:34.480 --> 0:02:40.400 up this bit of compelling podcast information for one of 0:02:40.440 --> 0:02:42.600 a better term, I'll be straight on that Facebook group. 0:02:42.840 --> 0:02:43.000 Now. 0:02:43.080 --> 0:02:45.600 You know what, you don't need to and I tell 0:02:45.639 --> 0:02:48.239 you why because I know you don't do social media, 0:02:48.360 --> 0:02:52.520 and it's like me just tempting you with a fucking 0:02:52.560 --> 0:02:53.480 beer or something. 0:02:53.520 --> 0:02:56.040 We don't need that, so you stay off and. 0:02:56.200 --> 0:03:00.400 We'll look out of pure respect and what not. I 0:03:00.400 --> 0:03:02.080 would have signed up to it, never looked at it, 0:03:02.120 --> 0:03:04.280 because I don't look at any social media, but I 0:03:04.280 --> 0:03:05.360 would have done what I said. 0:03:05.400 --> 0:03:07.480 There you go, Yeah, you don't need to, but I 0:03:07.520 --> 0:03:09.440 will tell you you don't need to look. I will 0:03:09.480 --> 0:03:12.839 tell you that we get constantly good feedback about you 0:03:13.000 --> 0:03:15.320 and towards you, and. 0:03:15.520 --> 0:03:18.399 Mate, you've got a great audience. Like leadership driven fish 0:03:18.480 --> 0:03:20.360 rots from the head or grows from the head, and 0:03:20.360 --> 0:03:24.040 that's you, champion, and you get what you are. That's mate. 0:03:24.040 --> 0:03:27.480 You're a wealth of knowledge and high integrity, all of 0:03:27.520 --> 0:03:29.880 the good stuff. And that's why you've got such pedigree 0:03:30.520 --> 0:03:33.520 listeners and members. There's no coincidence or fluke at all, 0:03:33.600 --> 0:03:35.960 and I enjoy being a part of it whenever I 0:03:36.200 --> 0:03:36.960 get around it. 0:03:37.720 --> 0:03:39.960 Well, we appreciate you, mate. I want to talk to 0:03:39.960 --> 0:03:42.560 you today about this very broad topic and we'll just 0:03:42.720 --> 0:03:45.360 go where we go. But I want to talk about 0:03:46.000 --> 0:03:53.720 a couple of things, so self awareness, self regulation, self management, 0:03:54.240 --> 0:03:57.800 me managing me, me, managing my mind, my body, my emotion, 0:03:58.080 --> 0:04:00.720 my relationships. This is big, by the way, my career, 0:04:00.880 --> 0:04:04.920 my dough my intentions, my goals. I feel like the 0:04:05.560 --> 0:04:09.080 ever present challenge for humans is how do I manage me? 0:04:09.920 --> 0:04:12.000 How do I get the most out of me? How 0:04:12.000 --> 0:04:14.520 do I get the most out of my genetics and 0:04:14.600 --> 0:04:18.359 my skill and my potential and my resources. How do 0:04:18.440 --> 0:04:23.560 I optimize me? And what does that mean for me? So, 0:04:23.640 --> 0:04:27.320 how do you when it comes to you managing you? 0:04:27.480 --> 0:04:32.960 Because you've changed your operating system, You've changed your paradigm completely. 0:04:33.800 --> 0:04:35.400 You had a red hot crack at. 0:04:35.240 --> 0:04:38.159 The becoming a billionaire, which you got pretty close to 0:04:38.279 --> 0:04:41.719 and working like a crazy person and doing all the 0:04:41.760 --> 0:04:44.080 drugs and all the booze and all the craziness and 0:04:44.120 --> 0:04:48.120 you've turned yourself around. What does self regulation and management 0:04:48.160 --> 0:04:48.880 look like for you? 0:04:49.000 --> 0:04:49.279 Now? 0:04:50.680 --> 0:04:56.560 Excellent question, albeit very long. Sorry lovey, I've got the 0:04:56.560 --> 0:05:00.359 memory of an elephant. All right, here we go. So 0:05:01.400 --> 0:05:04.159 it's a great question. And as you know, because I 0:05:04.160 --> 0:05:05.839 was going to jump on last week, I took last 0:05:05.839 --> 0:05:09.359 week off right self management. I am a dead set, 0:05:09.560 --> 0:05:12.680 open book, mate. If you'll see CTV out, what you 0:05:12.720 --> 0:05:14.960 see is what you get. Like last week, I was flat. 0:05:15.000 --> 0:05:17.640 I took a week off. You got it like for me? 0:05:17.920 --> 0:05:21.279 It's about but it's self optimization. I don't. I will 0:05:21.440 --> 0:05:25.400 never again rock up half half done. Flat, No, it 0:05:25.400 --> 0:05:29.240 doesn't happen. Right, So last week, bit of a it's 0:05:29.279 --> 0:05:32.160 not a bogy thing I made. I had to get 0:05:32.200 --> 0:05:34.760 the ears drained, ladies and gentlemen. It turns out I 0:05:34.800 --> 0:05:37.800 got narrow ear canals from surfing. That's a thing if 0:05:37.800 --> 0:05:41.520 you've ever surfed a lot. But I'd put off going 0:05:41.600 --> 0:05:43.760 to the doctor for a while, harps, because I moved 0:05:43.800 --> 0:05:47.039 out here in the rural areas. So asie, Jeff, this 0:05:47.160 --> 0:05:49.599 is a dead set, you know, for a smart blake 0:05:49.720 --> 0:05:52.000 does dumb things at times, or a bit of a 0:05:52.080 --> 0:05:53.960 back end, a compliment and a self there, but let's 0:05:54.040 --> 0:05:58.120 move on. But what I did, I did a bit 0:05:58.160 --> 0:06:02.200 of a diy job on unblocking the years and lo 0:06:02.400 --> 0:06:06.359 and be old made it fucking worse. Don't stick cotton 0:06:06.400 --> 0:06:08.520 buds in your ears. It's like this gym and it 0:06:08.560 --> 0:06:11.320 in there. We all know it. But I thought I 0:06:11.440 --> 0:06:13.320 was I thought I was better. I thought I could 0:06:13.440 --> 0:06:15.039 a guy for it, and I thought I could just 0:06:15.040 --> 0:06:17.640 get the angles right and hot water and this at 0:06:17.680 --> 0:06:20.240 motherfucking board. Next minute I'm underwater and the head's about 0:06:20.320 --> 0:06:23.240 to explode. And so I'd put off going to the 0:06:23.240 --> 0:06:24.960 doctor because I'd moved. I didn't have a new die 0:06:25.040 --> 0:06:26.600 that of bloody, I'm going to fill out the form 0:06:26.680 --> 0:06:30.279 Spanish inquisition, et cetera. Are we go? Love turns out 0:06:30.279 --> 0:06:33.640 lovely drained it boom, Happy days, rock and roll. So 0:06:33.680 --> 0:06:35.760 that was a big part of why I was a 0:06:35.760 --> 0:06:38.880 bit flat. And one of my dogs, Lucy bless her, 0:06:38.880 --> 0:06:41.560 the Scottish terrier full Moon. I think she thought it 0:06:41.600 --> 0:06:43.600 was daylight or there were lots of rabbits around that 0:06:43.720 --> 0:06:45.680 she could see at night, so she thought she'd go 0:06:45.760 --> 0:06:48.960 up to eight Fagan's Road and let them know what 0:06:49.040 --> 0:06:53.560 was going on at midnight. And so had a bit 0:06:53.600 --> 0:06:55.040 of all that going on to I'm having a week. 0:06:55.080 --> 0:06:57.280 I was going to recharge. I was getting that way anyway, 0:06:57.320 --> 0:06:59.800 and you just call it right. So me back in 0:07:00.000 --> 0:07:03.920 those days of vision, pt, body trim whatever, I literally thought, 0:07:04.000 --> 0:07:07.960 this is so it's madness. It's just madness. I thought 0:07:07.960 --> 0:07:09.960 I could never take a week off, like you've got 0:07:10.000 --> 0:07:12.720 to work a whole because you've got no life. I 0:07:12.760 --> 0:07:14.680 say business as a vehicle to build your life. It's 0:07:14.720 --> 0:07:17.160 not your life, but so many times it becomes your life, 0:07:17.160 --> 0:07:19.240 and it too. You are identity theft, I call it 0:07:19.280 --> 0:07:23.760 because it steals your identity and and but I just 0:07:23.800 --> 0:07:28.280 call it. And every every single plan of mine and 0:07:28.520 --> 0:07:32.000 speaking jobs that I had, I moved and whatnot. Everyone's 0:07:32.040 --> 0:07:36.000 got massive respect legend mate, like they take lessons and 0:07:36.080 --> 0:07:38.200 learnings out of that. If I'm not rocking up my best, 0:07:38.240 --> 0:07:41.720 I'm not rocking up. It's real fucking simple life. Well, 0:07:41.720 --> 0:07:44.120 I was thinking about this this morning making a coffee. Harps. 0:07:44.760 --> 0:07:47.280 Think about your thread astare to your lovely head of 0:07:47.320 --> 0:07:49.240 hair that you've got at nearly sixty. And I was 0:07:49.240 --> 0:07:52.240 thinking about this as well. I was thinking that life 0:07:52.320 --> 0:07:58.920 can be absolutely beautiful magic if we do not if 0:07:58.960 --> 0:08:03.200 we do not break a few a few rules. If 0:08:03.200 --> 0:08:05.280 you say you're going to do something, even if it's 0:08:05.320 --> 0:08:07.800 in passing, you fucking do it. Doesn't have to be 0:08:07.840 --> 0:08:10.920 a contract, doesn't need to be written in blood, but 0:08:10.960 --> 0:08:14.320 you do it. You don't break some absolute rules, and 0:08:14.400 --> 0:08:16.400 life gets better and better and better and better. You 0:08:16.480 --> 0:08:19.440 never compromise your integrity. You're playing to an audience of 0:08:19.480 --> 0:08:21.480 one yourself. If you say you're going to do it, 0:08:21.560 --> 0:08:23.280 you do it. If you're not at your best, you 0:08:23.320 --> 0:08:24.960 don't do it. You put your hand up and your 0:08:24.960 --> 0:08:27.280 life gets better and better. But you start to compromise 0:08:27.400 --> 0:08:30.000 that kind of what you said sort of but not 0:08:30.120 --> 0:08:34.840 really or what not, life gets really hard, really fast. 0:08:35.840 --> 0:08:37.760 And your business might still be growing, and then it 0:08:37.760 --> 0:08:41.160 gets even harder because it's not built right. And one 0:08:41.160 --> 0:08:43.920 of the keys on that for me is so the 0:08:43.960 --> 0:08:47.360 self managing monitoring thing is all about awareness and how 0:08:47.400 --> 0:08:50.440 you're tracking and where you're at and for me, what 0:08:50.480 --> 0:08:52.720 are we in may I've been at it for a bit. 0:08:53.800 --> 0:08:55.959 It's a time for a week off anyway, recharge and 0:08:56.040 --> 0:08:59.000 now brand new, and that's great, but like you've got 0:08:59.040 --> 0:09:01.680 to do that because you if you rock up underdone 0:09:02.360 --> 0:09:05.320 like you're not doing anyone any favors. And I'm sort 0:09:05.360 --> 0:09:07.680 of not really defined by anything. But if I was 0:09:07.720 --> 0:09:10.600 to be defined by something, it'd be being at my best. 0:09:10.640 --> 0:09:14.800 When I commit to doing something that's critical, right, the 0:09:14.840 --> 0:09:17.440 rest takes care of itself. Like the better I am today, 0:09:17.920 --> 0:09:21.679 the better my life tomorrow. Not the shitter today the 0:09:21.679 --> 0:09:25.280 better tomorrow. It's contradiction in terms, right, So we've got 0:09:25.320 --> 0:09:27.000 to be better where we are. It's like building a 0:09:27.080 --> 0:09:29.880 house into a village each brick. If you do it 0:09:29.920 --> 0:09:32.880 really well, which I assume you should or would, then 0:09:33.080 --> 0:09:34.600 the wall will be good, the house will be good, 0:09:34.600 --> 0:09:37.040 the village you'll be meant. But if you're good frustrated 0:09:37.080 --> 0:09:39.080 that you've got to build houses to get the village done, 0:09:39.080 --> 0:09:41.000 the old thing is going to fucking fall down on you, 0:09:41.920 --> 0:09:44.160 like brick by brick, without a doubt, as silly as 0:09:44.200 --> 0:09:46.880 it sounds, but we forget that in the relentless pursuit 0:09:46.920 --> 0:09:48.360 of more destination addiction. 0:09:49.040 --> 0:09:51.920 Yeah, yeah, do you know what I love about you? 0:09:52.000 --> 0:09:55.200 I love a lot about you. But you know, before 0:09:55.200 --> 0:10:00.959 we went live, I'm like, ah, ok, because you were 0:10:01.040 --> 0:10:02.640 so fucking laid back. 0:10:03.600 --> 0:10:05.160 You're so laid back, you're. 0:10:05.040 --> 0:10:09.360 So comfortable in your own skin, and then then we 0:10:09.400 --> 0:10:12.240 start and then it's like and now I'm here, I'm 0:10:12.280 --> 0:10:15.640 on a podcast. It's like a switch flix and there's 0:10:15.679 --> 0:10:16.960 nothing disingenuous. 0:10:17.000 --> 0:10:20.520 It's all real. But it's you being what you need 0:10:20.520 --> 0:10:24.080 to be for a half hour or so. 0:10:23.160 --> 0:10:26.360 So that you can teach and coach and expire inspire 0:10:26.440 --> 0:10:29.640 thousands of people. And then you finish and then you're like, 0:10:29.840 --> 0:10:32.880 and now I'm done. You know, Like, I love the 0:10:32.920 --> 0:10:37.120 ability that you have to manage your energy that way, 0:10:37.480 --> 0:10:38.040 And that's. 0:10:37.840 --> 0:10:39.880 What it is. That's what it is, Harps, You've just 0:10:39.920 --> 0:10:43.080 nowed it. Like you know, we spoke last week, I 0:10:43.080 --> 0:10:45.720 think it was, and you know, he said person not 0:10:45.840 --> 0:10:50.839 persona like like if I not that I you're one 0:10:50.880 --> 0:10:53.720 of probably the person of everyone, Like not that I 0:10:53.760 --> 0:10:56.920 am with anyone anymore, but I'm not. I've got zero 0:10:57.120 --> 0:11:00.880 need to be hyper motivated up for just to chat, 0:11:01.160 --> 0:11:03.400 Like there's no need. We're just chatting about a few 0:11:03.400 --> 0:11:06.000 bits and pieces. But when you're on a podcast and 0:11:06.040 --> 0:11:10.360 you have a platform to invoke change in others, that's 0:11:10.400 --> 0:11:13.360 totally different. So I can serve my energy to deliver 0:11:13.559 --> 0:11:16.440 optimally to that platform at that time. 0:11:16.880 --> 0:11:22.439 Yeah, how much when you are you know, you've made 0:11:22.480 --> 0:11:24.760 some big changes in your life, so have I? Like 0:11:24.840 --> 0:11:28.760 I got to the point, which obviously wasn't a quick journey, 0:11:28.760 --> 0:11:32.080 but over years where I went from this is what 0:11:32.160 --> 0:11:35.040 I'm built for, training people, creating this energy up here, 0:11:35.080 --> 0:11:39.520 building this culture, leading this team of trainers and fitness professionals, 0:11:39.559 --> 0:11:42.160 and building this empire too. I don't want to do 0:11:42.200 --> 0:11:45.080 this anymore at all. I don't want to count reps. 0:11:45.080 --> 0:11:46.959 I don't want to hand one more person of fucking 0:11:47.080 --> 0:11:48.960 dumbbell and I'm done. 0:11:49.000 --> 0:11:49.440 I'm good. 0:11:49.480 --> 0:11:51.280 It's not bad, It's just not what I want to 0:11:51.320 --> 0:11:56.720 do right, And I've made significant changes, as have you. 0:11:57.160 --> 0:12:00.840 For you, how much of how much of. 0:12:00.800 --> 0:12:02.720 Deciding what you're going to do and where you're going 0:12:02.760 --> 0:12:07.680 to go next is strategic and how much is just intuitive? 0:12:08.160 --> 0:12:10.600 Is like just based on what you're feeling? 0:12:12.040 --> 0:12:19.800 Mate? Great question, A few layers to it, ultimately, and 0:12:19.840 --> 0:12:23.000 it's something I've been playing around with lately. And I 0:12:23.040 --> 0:12:26.200 was chopping down a few trees the other day, not 0:12:26.320 --> 0:12:29.280 gum trees. They're actually big weeds that grew into trees. 0:12:29.360 --> 0:12:32.920 But Ozzie, Jeff, just beside, I'll share this story because 0:12:33.160 --> 0:12:35.920 it's quite relevant. I took the week. 0:12:35.720 --> 0:12:39.680 Off and the only guest we ever have that talks 0:12:39.679 --> 0:12:41.360 about himself in the third person. 0:12:41.800 --> 0:12:43.760 And I just want to tell you that Craig loves it. 0:12:44.400 --> 0:12:48.080 Ah, bless Ye're the best. Thank you, Thanks Craig, You're 0:12:48.120 --> 0:12:51.319 a champion, one of the greats. So Ozzie Jeff down 0:12:51.360 --> 0:12:54.640 at the damn last week and Alan, who owns the 0:12:54.679 --> 0:12:57.439 property with his lovely wife, he happened to say, you 0:12:57.480 --> 0:12:59.480 were down there together the other day and he was 0:12:59.520 --> 0:13:02.360 just showing me these massive weeds that they look like 0:13:02.400 --> 0:13:04.360 a tree, but they're a weed, right an old mate 0:13:04.360 --> 0:13:07.120 next door. Bless him. When the bloody wind blows all 0:13:07.160 --> 0:13:10.319 the shitty beads or whatever they are, the pedals or 0:13:10.320 --> 0:13:12.800 they blow into his joint, they start cropping up and 0:13:12.880 --> 0:13:15.839 they're a pest. And Alan said, make no pressure. But 0:13:15.880 --> 0:13:18.040 if you want to look, I know you love all 0:13:18.080 --> 0:13:19.680 that stuff made. I'll get rid of them. I'm having 0:13:19.679 --> 0:13:22.520 the week off. Boom down. I went anyway, So hi 0:13:22.600 --> 0:13:24.880 Achriever syndrome one O one went down to cut out 0:13:24.960 --> 0:13:27.840 three inverted commas trees, weeds whatever they are, with my 0:13:28.040 --> 0:13:31.520 trusty axe and Lucy by my side. And next minute 0:13:31.559 --> 0:13:36.319 of dead set cut down after Bilanglo State Forest. I've 0:13:36.320 --> 0:13:38.400 got to send you a photo, fucker now made. It's 0:13:38.440 --> 0:13:40.840 like high achieve syndrome one O one and on. But 0:13:40.960 --> 0:13:50.520 here's the thing, right, Yeah it was, and I was, yeah, 0:13:50.679 --> 0:13:52.120 oh you're a funny fuck. 0:13:52.600 --> 0:13:53.719 Don't go on. 0:13:55.480 --> 0:13:58.320 Because it was quite overgrowing over the back there. And 0:13:58.400 --> 0:14:01.360 I've got the whipper snipp of their heads, trim the acts, 0:14:01.480 --> 0:14:04.440 everything Lucy's got running around, Chase and rabbits. It's just 0:14:04.640 --> 0:14:08.440 the best. But it's like the deepest I call it 0:14:08.480 --> 0:14:11.880 a working meditation because my head is void of any 0:14:12.120 --> 0:14:15.720 thoughts other than the project I'm immersed in. And that, 0:14:15.880 --> 0:14:19.480 to me, is what I call purpose driven. Now. Now, 0:14:19.480 --> 0:14:22.640 the funny thing about that, is, right, is that I'm 0:14:22.640 --> 0:14:25.880 not a bloody tree lopper. I'm not getting paid to 0:14:25.880 --> 0:14:28.280 do it. I'm doing you know, I enjoy that stuff. 0:14:28.360 --> 0:14:30.320 Lucy gets to run around. It gives me a glimpse 0:14:30.360 --> 0:14:32.240 of what life was probably like hundreds of years ago, 0:14:32.320 --> 0:14:35.520 with your working dog by your side and bloody bliss. 0:14:35.600 --> 0:14:39.760 It's joy, it's gratitude, it's everything. But my brain is 0:14:39.880 --> 0:14:44.440 totally consumed in that project, in that task, and that 0:14:44.600 --> 0:14:46.960 this is what I've come to believe right that gives 0:14:47.000 --> 0:14:51.280 me deep meaning and purpose in my life at that moment. 0:14:51.800 --> 0:14:55.040 And we are we've been conditioned or definitely I read 0:14:55.080 --> 0:14:58.000 and heard and you know it's you've got to find 0:14:58.000 --> 0:15:00.880 your overarching purpose. I call bullsh on that, because we 0:15:00.920 --> 0:15:03.440 don't live in an overarching world. We live in now. 0:15:03.880 --> 0:15:05.880 And what I've come to believe is that when we 0:15:06.000 --> 0:15:08.680 learn how to find deep meaning and purpose in now 0:15:08.760 --> 0:15:12.760 with what we're doing by way of tasks and projects, 0:15:12.920 --> 0:15:17.320 that is the catalyst to give to build a purposeful life, 0:15:17.360 --> 0:15:21.480 a purpose driven life, not seeking purpose into the future, 0:15:21.480 --> 0:15:23.880 but finding it where you are. And it's in doing 0:15:23.920 --> 0:15:29.080 those things that I get in this incredibly deep sense 0:15:29.120 --> 0:15:31.280 of purpose and meaning in my life. And I get 0:15:31.320 --> 0:15:33.600 goosebumps when I talk about it, which to me says 0:15:33.640 --> 0:15:38.840 it's a profound truth. I believe that. And because you're 0:15:38.880 --> 0:15:41.280 so in it, you're not defined by it. It's not 0:15:41.320 --> 0:15:45.680 any nothing, no one, It just you are so consumed 0:15:45.720 --> 0:15:48.000 in it. And then you walk and then like you 0:15:48.120 --> 0:15:50.960 come and I'm sweating bullets or sweating coat bottles. You 0:15:50.960 --> 0:15:53.840 go down there with like gloves on burnies, two jumpers, whatever, 0:15:53.880 --> 0:15:58.120 twenty minutes it shirts off. I'm sweating bullets and I 0:15:58.200 --> 0:16:00.360 come up a few hours later, I'm walking up through 0:16:00.400 --> 0:16:03.680 the paddocks and one of my horses he tripped over 0:16:03.720 --> 0:16:06.400 a heel. I'm laughing at him, like fuck' good on 0:16:06.480 --> 0:16:09.200 you for I'm like just laughing looking he didn't fall over, 0:16:09.280 --> 0:16:12.000 but he just tripped and just was funny. And then 0:16:12.040 --> 0:16:16.120 I look over and there's Lucy full throttle, little Scottish 0:16:16.160 --> 0:16:18.280 terrier coming up because she I've been down there for 0:16:18.280 --> 0:16:20.640 three hours. She realized I left. She She's coming up 0:16:21.120 --> 0:16:24.960 full speed. She's low wheel based, the Scottish terrier full 0:16:24.960 --> 0:16:26.920 and she went to go under the bottom railing of 0:16:26.960 --> 0:16:30.320 the fence and clipped the head and it was like 0:16:30.400 --> 0:16:32.560 she was fine, but it was like in rugby league 0:16:32.600 --> 0:16:35.160 it's the HIA, the head injury assessment, so on there 0:16:35.160 --> 0:16:38.480 like Lucy's off to the HIA. I'm just laughing at 0:16:38.520 --> 0:16:41.200 my own jokes. It's probably why I'm a recluse, keep 0:16:41.280 --> 0:16:45.720 myself amused and over in a chuckle. And the horse 0:16:45.760 --> 0:16:47.800 tripped over and she hit her head and it's just there. 0:16:47.960 --> 0:16:51.080 Good's there. And I've been chopping down trees at most 0:16:51.120 --> 0:16:55.000 people go, oh fuck that No one's paying me spot 0:16:55.080 --> 0:16:58.400 the irony, folks, right, that's where the juice and the 0:16:58.560 --> 0:17:02.040 magic is. And something that I really short change myself 0:17:02.040 --> 0:17:03.920 when in my twenties and thirties because I was told 0:17:03.960 --> 0:17:07.800 to outsource all the low in the low dollar producing work. Sure, 0:17:07.840 --> 0:17:09.919 when you're scaling a business and you're the CEO, you're 0:17:09.960 --> 0:17:13.600 not planning the dunnies five times a day. Obviously captainN omnious, 0:17:14.400 --> 0:17:18.480 but to a point not your fault. If you outsource 0:17:18.640 --> 0:17:21.560 all of the manual tasks, you short change yourself on 0:17:21.680 --> 0:17:24.720 life and joy and purpose in the now because I 0:17:25.040 --> 0:17:27.920 because I get burnt out like I did the week before, laugh, 0:17:27.960 --> 0:17:32.600 when I'm doing too much thinking from across fifty businesses 0:17:32.640 --> 0:17:38.200 a week which I am strategically, like, my brain just breaks, 0:17:38.320 --> 0:17:40.359 it breaks. I couldn't turn off my head by the 0:17:40.440 --> 0:17:42.520 end of that week, Like I just need, like I 0:17:42.640 --> 0:17:45.439 need a week off throwing the blocked ears and whatnot. 0:17:45.440 --> 0:17:47.800 And it was tying of arrest. But like the thing is, 0:17:47.800 --> 0:17:50.400 you've got to do this stuff, and then you optimize 0:17:50.400 --> 0:17:54.679 yourself to be more effective in the high dollar producing work, 0:17:55.200 --> 0:17:58.639 but just all high dollar producing use of your time. 0:17:58.640 --> 0:18:02.359 In my humble opinion, is not what optimizes you. So 0:18:02.480 --> 0:18:03.920 I do a few bit now. If I was chopping 0:18:03.960 --> 0:18:06.920 down trees every day, it'll be horrible, But once every 0:18:06.960 --> 0:18:08.960 few months it's very, very rewarding. 0:18:09.400 --> 0:18:14.400 Yeah, I feel like when I first met you, when 0:18:14.440 --> 0:18:18.240 you were running a mark with business and life and people, 0:18:18.320 --> 0:18:22.800 and you were very your life was, among other things, 0:18:22.920 --> 0:18:26.920 very social, very very intertwined with a lot of other 0:18:27.119 --> 0:18:31.360 human beings, a lot of relationships, a lot of friendships, 0:18:31.359 --> 0:18:34.120 a lot of socializing, lot of dinners, a lot of lunches, 0:18:34.160 --> 0:18:37.440 a lot of partying, a lot of humans around you. 0:18:37.880 --> 0:18:41.600 And now your life is the opposite of that. Tell 0:18:41.720 --> 0:18:44.639 us a little bit about you that you now like 0:18:44.720 --> 0:18:47.320 because I mean and one of the other. Here's my 0:18:47.560 --> 0:18:50.520 next long winded question. Like we talk so much in 0:18:51.240 --> 0:18:54.119 mental health now about the importance of connection and the 0:18:54.160 --> 0:18:58.119 importance of having other people around us and feeling loved 0:18:58.119 --> 0:19:01.840 and valued and belonging. It almost seems like that doesn't 0:19:01.840 --> 0:19:02.399 apply to you. 0:19:04.000 --> 0:19:07.439 We might remember many, many a few years ago now, 0:19:07.520 --> 0:19:10.200 when I was at rock bottom and just rolling around 0:19:10.200 --> 0:19:12.880 in the mud working out what to do, putting out 0:19:12.880 --> 0:19:16.000 the chairs aa n A and roll call and open 0:19:16.040 --> 0:19:18.840 the bus that hit me on the way down. You 0:19:18.880 --> 0:19:24.240 said make it into a holding pattern, and you said 0:19:24.560 --> 0:19:26.840 when you walk through the spiritual door, there's no walk 0:19:26.880 --> 0:19:29.679 it turning back. And I don't like that works. It's 0:19:29.720 --> 0:19:31.520 such a bloody badge and I don't even use it 0:19:31.560 --> 0:19:34.800 other than for the sake of this sort of thing. 0:19:35.680 --> 0:19:40.480 It's a really interesting one because whatever you know, that 0:19:40.560 --> 0:19:44.400 word or anything of that ilk right, it changes everything 0:19:44.520 --> 0:19:50.399 because you know, there's nothing more lonely than being around 0:19:50.480 --> 0:19:53.280 people that you don't gel, that you're not aligned with. 0:19:53.400 --> 0:19:56.000 That's where your loneliness is. If you're not aligned, you 0:19:56.080 --> 0:19:59.720 got to be an alignment. The majority of people are 0:19:59.760 --> 0:20:03.119 in ahead thinking about yesterday and tomorrow and problems and 0:20:03.119 --> 0:20:06.080 what if scenario is right, there's no connection there anyway. 0:20:07.640 --> 0:20:11.359 So for me, you've got For me, it's got to 0:20:11.359 --> 0:20:16.679 be people who are aligned and are comfortable in themselves 0:20:16.720 --> 0:20:20.640 and that they're not like paralyzed by head noise and whatnot. 0:20:20.720 --> 0:20:25.000 And then that's great. But for me, I don't feel 0:20:25.040 --> 0:20:29.080 lonely because it's it's hard to talk about because it's 0:20:29.200 --> 0:20:31.400 it just gets there's so much bullshit in that sort 0:20:31.440 --> 0:20:35.800 of energy frequency spiritual world. Like I never really go 0:20:35.960 --> 0:20:38.320 into it because I just call bullshit on a lot 0:20:38.359 --> 0:20:42.200 of you know, people's behaviors that wax lyrical about it. 0:20:42.240 --> 0:20:47.040 But like you, I look at the animals. I just 0:20:47.080 --> 0:20:49.480 look at there's a lot. There's a life force and 0:20:49.680 --> 0:20:52.640 energy to life, and you're connected to that. Now, part 0:20:52.640 --> 0:20:55.360 of that are humans and human experiences, but that's part 0:20:55.400 --> 0:20:56.760 of it, it's not all of it. It's not all 0:20:56.800 --> 0:20:59.639 of it. And you know there's such there's an energy 0:21:00.359 --> 0:21:04.719 to this life human experience, and the more conscious I 0:21:04.720 --> 0:21:07.000