Speaker 1: Apod Shaped Production. Welcome back to another episode of Am
Speaker 1: I A Lad? Podcast? Continuously, we asked the same question,
Speaker 1: there's quite a lot of shame involved in parenting. Yes,
Speaker 1: there is, especially at the moment I'm like shaming myself
Speaker 1: for things like could I have done that better?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Should I not be doing that in front of them?
Speaker 1: Or whatever it might be.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 3: I I was only talking to someone that has a
Speaker 3: little boy and he's only nineteen months old, and I
Speaker 3: was chatting with her because it's her first and she
Speaker 3: was like, oh gosh, and he was sick, and then
Speaker 3: I went, oh, should I send him shake here or
Speaker 3: shouldn't I?
Speaker 2: And then I have to take work off and did
Speaker 2: it like sin? She was, it was a really big thing.
Speaker 3: Said, I just feel like, you know, the mother guilt
Speaker 3: is just so heavy. And I was like, yeah, it's
Speaker 3: only your first one too. Like it does not go away,
Speaker 3: I said, if it makes you feel better mine at
Speaker 3: ten and twelve, I said, And I still tend to
Speaker 3: get it. I said, I just don't beat myself up
Speaker 3: as much as what I probably did when they were younger, Like.
Speaker 2: I clearly have to say, hand on heart, I.
Speaker 3: Don't beat myself up as much over the small you know,
Speaker 3: the whole don't sweat the small stuff.
Speaker 2: Otherwise I'd be a head case.
Speaker 3: I mean I have moments where I'm probably you know,
Speaker 3: I would be on the tendency of a head case.
Speaker 2: But like that's just because of my kids.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I bad mum or embarrassing them.
Speaker 2: This is a standard.
Speaker 1: This is something that happened a couple of weeks ago
Speaker 1: when we were at the races, Big Girls say, out of.
Speaker 3: The races, Big Girls day Out.
Speaker 1: Can I just say just on that quickly For people
Speaker 1: listen to this podcast for a while, they'll know that
Speaker 1: I'm the one that likes to have one more drink
Speaker 1: and I'm the one that's like, I'll stay out later. Yes,
Speaker 1: and Rachel's very much the I'm done off, I go
Speaker 1: send myself to bed.
Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, this particular.
Speaker 1: Day, you were on mighty fine form, thank you. So
Speaker 1: I had agreed to do a charity bike ride the
Speaker 1: next morning seven am.
Speaker 2: Yes, Rizzy, to debate. Good on you. I love that.
Speaker 3: I have to give you a salute for that because
Speaker 3: that was a mighty fine effort to be able to
Speaker 3: back up and do that the next day.
Speaker 1: Yeah, definitely was a struggle, but got in the Maxi
Speaker 1: taxi yes, and got to our house and I think
Speaker 1: a couple of the people said, we're.
Speaker 2: All getting out.
Speaker 1: We're going to go go in the house and we're
Speaker 1: going to have read before bed drink. Everyone said just one,
Speaker 1: and I went, yeah, I think that's a great idea.
Speaker 1: I look at JJ's like, no, no, no, absolutely not.
Speaker 1: If they come in from one more drink, which won't
Speaker 1: be one more drink, it will be five. We are
Speaker 1: never getting up and doing that ride in the morning.
Speaker 1: Rachel ends up at.
Speaker 2: The pub shuts. Yeah.
Speaker 3: Look, I wish I was doing the ride the next
Speaker 3: day because I was seeing you like you were giving
Speaker 3: me like the updates. I still just couldn't even take
Speaker 3: the donner off my head. I was just like laying
Speaker 3: in bed like I'd had delegated everything out to everyone else. Katie, Sam, Sorry,
Speaker 3: you'll need to take your daughter to this. You'll need
Speaker 3: to take your other daughter to this. Oh yeah, it's
Speaker 3: also my nephew's birthday party. Could you go to that
Speaker 3: on behalf of all?
Speaker 2: I wish I went home when you did.
Speaker 1: Yeah, well you didn't. You partied on But what happened
Speaker 1: during the day is I had asked the girls if
Speaker 1: they could do a couple of jobs.
Speaker 2: Yea.
Speaker 1: One of the jobs included vacuuming the house. We've recently
Speaker 1: got a new vacuum. Because it doesn't matter how many
Speaker 1: of those fucking cordless dysons I try and buy and
Speaker 1: invest in because they're not cheap.
Speaker 2: They never work.
Speaker 1: I use them for maybe a month or a couple
Speaker 1: of months, and then they stop working. They stop sucking.
Speaker 1: I honestly r I changed the filter.
Speaker 2: Yeah, what's going on? Why? I don't know, but the
Speaker 2: onlys okay, yeap will digress.
Speaker 1: Okay, they hate me, So I've gone back to old school.
Speaker 1: Plug it in the electricity, Oh yeah, great, yeah, because
Speaker 1: then you know they're gonna suck. And you're chatting to
Speaker 1: somebody at this moment, and I've come and interrupted you
Speaker 1: because I am face timing my sixteen.
Speaker 2: Year old and I'm having flashbacks.
Speaker 1: You is trying to work out how you put the
Speaker 1: vacuum together. So it's the pulling the cord out of
Speaker 1: the and then it's the pieces together, tending the what
Speaker 1: do you call that?
Speaker 2: Yeah, the head of the vacuum.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and then they're extending it and then furnishing it
Speaker 1: to the hose thing yep, so that it's all together,
Speaker 1: because it's been in the cupboard so it's been dismantled.
Speaker 3: I'm concerned. I mean I'm concerned. I'm actually not that
Speaker 3: person when that comes to that stuff. I go, oh, gosh,
Speaker 3: that's all too hard. But it's actually it's so easy
Speaker 3: to put together.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: So I'm on FaceTime and I'm at the races, drink
Speaker 1: in hand on FaceTime, trying to explain how you put
Speaker 1: the vacuum together, and it's made me giggle and I've gone, Rach,
Speaker 1: you're gonna die. Look, I'm on FaceTime trying to show
Speaker 1: her how to use the vacuum. I forget in this
Speaker 1: moment that I'm on FaceTime and she's hearing me say
Speaker 1: that to you. So she's got super upset. She's hung up.
Speaker 1: She sent me this missage. Oh my god. I read
Speaker 1: the message and I felt so bad laughing at me.
Speaker 1: I was just trying to do a good thing. I
Speaker 1: was like, oh my god, I feel terrible. No, so
Speaker 1: then I've sent a nice message back. Ah, I didn't
Speaker 1: know how to use that vacuum either, blah blah blah blah,
Speaker 1: and rage has decided to take my phone and send
Speaker 1: her this a video saying, so shall I play it?
Speaker 3: No, don't play it. I don't need to hear myself.
Speaker 3: I'll do a day of the races. I do now
Speaker 3: remember sending a video to say, I'm very sorry for
Speaker 3: laughing at you, but it's pretty funny.
Speaker 2: But it's like, but we get it.
Speaker 1: But the funny thing was she was she angrier after that. No,
Speaker 1: it was a nice video, and I was like, oh,
Speaker 1: that's a nice video, Like felt a bit better about
Speaker 1: the situation. What was funny is when I saw the
Speaker 1: video on my phone the next day in a sober
Speaker 1: LIGHTLD and I just went, hmmm. If I was a
Speaker 1: sixteen year old, I would be looking at that and
Speaker 1: I would roll my eyes and be like drunk mum.
Speaker 3: Drug mum's at the races. I thought I was tracking
Speaker 3: all right on that day. I thought by that stage
Speaker 3: I was. It all went downhill when we said a
Speaker 3: shim our way somehow into the members section, and that's
Speaker 3: where I felt like it went down. After that, we
Speaker 3: were still getting quite intact photos.
Speaker 1: My thing is, Holly actually said to me the other day.
Speaker 1: We said something about something was over eighteens, and she
Speaker 1: reminded me, oh, I'll be able to go there then
Speaker 1: next year, and I was like.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, next year.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And then I went, oh, it's going to be
Speaker 1: so much fun. We're going to go to retros together.
Speaker 1: She was like, I am not going to retros with
Speaker 1: you and your friends? Why not we.
Speaker 2: Get hanging with us? Were the cool cats.
Speaker 1: What's funny, though, is that it wasn't just Holly that
Speaker 1: didn't know how to use the vacuum. Because I asked
Speaker 1: Amelia to do some vacuuming the other day. She's bypassed
Speaker 1: the actual bit where the head is attached to you.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, whole part. Yeah, you just need to get
Speaker 2: a stick it and put the sticker on.
Speaker 3: And put one number one, stick number two, stick that,
Speaker 3: number three, stick that and just say put number one
Speaker 3: into number two into number three and they'll be fine.
Speaker 1: But what she's done is she's got the hose, the
Speaker 1: flexible hose part that's attached to the actual bloody into
Speaker 1: the head of the vaunt, know what the names of
Speaker 1: them are, The flexible hose part. She's put that straight
Speaker 1: in to you know, you get different attachments, different heads
Speaker 1: for it. Put that straight into the head, and then
Speaker 1: she's going, why is it so floppy?
Speaker 2: Why is it so ready? How do I get down
Speaker 2: and use that? It's just floppy.
Speaker 1: It's like you haven't put the actual, actual stiff part
Speaker 1: on it.
Speaker 3: That actually probably has a handle on it. Right If
Speaker 3: I'm thinking about my plugin dice in from home, it
Speaker 3: actually has a handle on it where you vacuum from And.
Speaker 1: I'm also very aware all the words we're using around
Speaker 1: vacuums because we don't know floppy, floppy, sucking, hard part.
Speaker 2: A vacuum cleaner, some up a vacuum cleaner.
Speaker 3: In ten words, floppy, sucky, hard, long, hard part, not
Speaker 3: very good, didn't do the job, doesn't suck anymore. It's
Speaker 3: like me, sounds like a marriage.