1 00:00:05,921 --> 00:00:24,961 Speaker 1: Apod Shaped Production. Welcome back to another episode of Am 2 00:00:24,961 --> 00:00:29,521 Speaker 1: I A Lad? Podcast? Continuously, we asked the same question, 3 00:00:30,081 --> 00:00:32,841 Speaker 1: there's quite a lot of shame involved in parenting. Yes, 4 00:00:33,281 --> 00:00:37,321 Speaker 1: there is, especially at the moment I'm like shaming myself 5 00:00:37,361 --> 00:00:39,481 Speaker 1: for things like could I have done that better? 6 00:00:39,801 --> 00:00:40,161 Speaker 2: Yeah? 7 00:00:40,161 --> 00:00:42,480 Speaker 1: Should I not be doing that in front of them? 8 00:00:42,561 --> 00:00:43,521 Speaker 1: Or whatever it might be. 9 00:00:43,760 --> 00:00:44,160 Speaker 2: Yeah. 10 00:00:44,281 --> 00:00:46,161 Speaker 3: I I was only talking to someone that has a 11 00:00:46,161 --> 00:00:49,201 Speaker 3: little boy and he's only nineteen months old, and I 12 00:00:49,241 --> 00:00:51,200 Speaker 3: was chatting with her because it's her first and she 13 00:00:51,361 --> 00:00:53,480 Speaker 3: was like, oh gosh, and he was sick, and then 14 00:00:53,480 --> 00:00:55,761 Speaker 3: I went, oh, should I send him shake here or 15 00:00:55,840 --> 00:00:56,401 Speaker 3: shouldn't I? 16 00:00:56,521 --> 00:00:58,521 Speaker 2: And then I have to take work off and did 17 00:00:58,561 --> 00:01:00,840 Speaker 2: it like sin? She was, it was a really big thing. 18 00:01:01,801 --> 00:01:04,521 Speaker 3: Said, I just feel like, you know, the mother guilt 19 00:01:04,601 --> 00:01:06,640 Speaker 3: is just so heavy. And I was like, yeah, it's 20 00:01:06,681 --> 00:01:09,481 Speaker 3: only your first one too. Like it does not go away, 21 00:01:09,481 --> 00:01:11,000 Speaker 3: I said, if it makes you feel better mine at 22 00:01:11,041 --> 00:01:13,001 Speaker 3: ten and twelve, I said, And I still tend to 23 00:01:13,041 --> 00:01:15,761 Speaker 3: get it. I said, I just don't beat myself up 24 00:01:15,881 --> 00:01:19,880 Speaker 3: as much as what I probably did when they were younger, Like. 25 00:01:19,961 --> 00:01:22,280 Speaker 2: I clearly have to say, hand on heart, I. 26 00:01:22,280 --> 00:01:25,440 Speaker 3: Don't beat myself up as much over the small you know, 27 00:01:25,481 --> 00:01:27,000 Speaker 3: the whole don't sweat the small stuff. 28 00:01:27,041 --> 00:01:28,321 Speaker 2: Otherwise I'd be a head case. 29 00:01:28,360 --> 00:01:30,521 Speaker 3: I mean I have moments where I'm probably you know, 30 00:01:30,601 --> 00:01:32,200 Speaker 3: I would be on the tendency of a head case. 31 00:01:32,241 --> 00:01:34,041 Speaker 2: But like that's just because of my kids. 32 00:01:34,721 --> 00:01:49,481 Speaker 1: Yeah, I bad mum or embarrassing them. 33 00:01:50,121 --> 00:01:51,201 Speaker 2: This is a standard. 34 00:01:51,721 --> 00:01:55,121 Speaker 1: This is something that happened a couple of weeks ago 35 00:01:55,281 --> 00:01:58,321 Speaker 1: when we were at the races, Big Girls say, out of. 36 00:01:58,241 --> 00:02:01,281 Speaker 3: The races, Big Girls day Out. 37 00:02:01,641 --> 00:02:04,801 Speaker 1: Can I just say just on that quickly For people 38 00:02:05,081 --> 00:02:07,881 Speaker 1: listen to this podcast for a while, they'll know that 39 00:02:08,001 --> 00:02:10,641 Speaker 1: I'm the one that likes to have one more drink 40 00:02:10,921 --> 00:02:14,521 Speaker 1: and I'm the one that's like, I'll stay out later. Yes, 41 00:02:14,800 --> 00:02:18,481 Speaker 1: and Rachel's very much the I'm done off, I go 42 00:02:19,441 --> 00:02:20,400 Speaker 1: send myself to bed. 43 00:02:20,520 --> 00:02:23,081 Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, this particular. 44 00:02:22,680 --> 00:02:28,240 Speaker 1: Day, you were on mighty fine form, thank you. So 45 00:02:28,601 --> 00:02:32,081 Speaker 1: I had agreed to do a charity bike ride the 46 00:02:32,081 --> 00:02:33,641 Speaker 1: next morning seven am. 47 00:02:33,800 --> 00:02:36,241 Speaker 2: Yes, Rizzy, to debate. Good on you. I love that. 48 00:02:36,361 --> 00:02:38,401 Speaker 3: I have to give you a salute for that because 49 00:02:38,441 --> 00:02:41,241 Speaker 3: that was a mighty fine effort to be able to 50 00:02:41,240 --> 00:02:42,601 Speaker 3: back up and do that the next day. 51 00:02:42,761 --> 00:02:45,881 Speaker 1: Yeah, definitely was a struggle, but got in the Maxi 52 00:02:46,041 --> 00:02:51,601 Speaker 1: taxi yes, and got to our house and I think 53 00:02:51,641 --> 00:02:53,280 Speaker 1: a couple of the people said, we're. 54 00:02:53,121 --> 00:02:53,761 Speaker 2: All getting out. 55 00:02:53,881 --> 00:02:56,240 Speaker 1: We're going to go go in the house and we're 56 00:02:56,240 --> 00:03:00,281 Speaker 1: going to have read before bed drink. Everyone said just one, 57 00:03:01,041 --> 00:03:03,721 Speaker 1: and I went, yeah, I think that's a great idea. 58 00:03:03,721 --> 00:03:06,960 Speaker 1: I look at JJ's like, no, no, no, absolutely not. 59 00:03:07,721 --> 00:03:09,841 Speaker 1: If they come in from one more drink, which won't 60 00:03:09,841 --> 00:03:12,761 Speaker 1: be one more drink, it will be five. We are 61 00:03:12,841 --> 00:03:15,000 Speaker 1: never getting up and doing that ride in the morning. 62 00:03:15,321 --> 00:03:16,561 Speaker 1: Rachel ends up at. 63 00:03:16,441 --> 00:03:19,161 Speaker 2: The pub shuts. Yeah. 64 00:03:19,321 --> 00:03:22,321 Speaker 3: Look, I wish I was doing the ride the next 65 00:03:22,401 --> 00:03:25,441 Speaker 3: day because I was seeing you like you were giving 66 00:03:25,441 --> 00:03:28,201 Speaker 3: me like the updates. I still just couldn't even take 67 00:03:28,401 --> 00:03:31,560 Speaker 3: the donner off my head. I was just like laying 68 00:03:31,601 --> 00:03:37,241 Speaker 3: in bed like I'd had delegated everything out to everyone else. Katie, Sam, Sorry, 69 00:03:37,281 --> 00:03:39,161 Speaker 3: you'll need to take your daughter to this. You'll need 70 00:03:39,201 --> 00:03:41,241 Speaker 3: to take your other daughter to this. Oh yeah, it's 71 00:03:41,241 --> 00:03:43,641 Speaker 3: also my nephew's birthday party. Could you go to that 72 00:03:43,721 --> 00:03:44,521 Speaker 3: on behalf of all? 73 00:03:48,481 --> 00:03:50,041 Speaker 2: I wish I went home when you did. 74 00:03:50,361 --> 00:03:53,161 Speaker 1: Yeah, well you didn't. You partied on But what happened 75 00:03:53,361 --> 00:03:56,801 Speaker 1: during the day is I had asked the girls if 76 00:03:56,801 --> 00:03:58,081 Speaker 1: they could do a couple of jobs. 77 00:03:58,161 --> 00:03:58,321 Speaker 2: Yea. 78 00:03:58,361 --> 00:04:01,481 Speaker 1: One of the jobs included vacuuming the house. We've recently 79 00:04:01,481 --> 00:04:04,521 Speaker 1: got a new vacuum. Because it doesn't matter how many 80 00:04:04,641 --> 00:04:08,241 Speaker 1: of those fucking cordless dysons I try and buy and 81 00:04:08,441 --> 00:04:10,321 Speaker 1: invest in because they're not cheap. 82 00:04:10,881 --> 00:04:11,721 Speaker 2: They never work. 83 00:04:12,481 --> 00:04:14,681 Speaker 1: I use them for maybe a month or a couple 84 00:04:14,721 --> 00:04:16,721 Speaker 1: of months, and then they stop working. They stop sucking. 85 00:04:17,321 --> 00:04:20,641 Speaker 1: I honestly r I changed the filter. 86 00:04:20,841 --> 00:04:23,201 Speaker 2: Yeah, what's going on? Why? I don't know, but the 87 00:04:23,320 --> 00:04:25,840 Speaker 2: onlys okay, yeap will digress. 88 00:04:25,921 --> 00:04:28,081 Speaker 1: Okay, they hate me, So I've gone back to old school. 89 00:04:28,161 --> 00:04:30,960 Speaker 1: Plug it in the electricity, Oh yeah, great, yeah, because 90 00:04:30,961 --> 00:04:35,161 Speaker 1: then you know they're gonna suck. And you're chatting to 91 00:04:35,201 --> 00:04:38,241 Speaker 1: somebody at this moment, and I've come and interrupted you 92 00:04:38,281 --> 00:04:42,521 Speaker 1: because I am face timing my sixteen. 93 00:04:42,121 --> 00:04:44,041 Speaker 2: Year old and I'm having flashbacks. 94 00:04:44,121 --> 00:04:48,320 Speaker 1: You is trying to work out how you put the 95 00:04:48,401 --> 00:04:51,801 Speaker 1: vacuum together. So it's the pulling the cord out of 96 00:04:51,841 --> 00:04:57,841 Speaker 1: the and then it's the pieces together, tending the what 97 00:04:57,841 --> 00:04:58,641 Speaker 1: do you call that? 98 00:04:58,801 --> 00:05:00,520 Speaker 2: Yeah, the head of the vacuum. 99 00:05:00,681 --> 00:05:04,001 Speaker 1: Yeah, and then they're extending it and then furnishing it 100 00:05:03,361 --> 00:05:07,321 Speaker 1: to the hose thing yep, so that it's all together, 101 00:05:07,481 --> 00:05:10,041 Speaker 1: because it's been in the cupboard so it's been dismantled. 102 00:05:10,281 --> 00:05:13,481 Speaker 3: I'm concerned. I mean I'm concerned. I'm actually not that 103 00:05:13,601 --> 00:05:16,001 Speaker 3: person when that comes to that stuff. I go, oh, gosh, 104 00:05:16,041 --> 00:05:18,880 Speaker 3: that's all too hard. But it's actually it's so easy 105 00:05:18,880 --> 00:05:19,481 Speaker 3: to put together. 106 00:05:19,681 --> 00:05:20,200 Speaker 2: Yeah. 107 00:05:20,241 --> 00:05:24,081 Speaker 1: So I'm on FaceTime and I'm at the races, drink 108 00:05:24,121 --> 00:05:27,241 Speaker 1: in hand on FaceTime, trying to explain how you put 109 00:05:27,281 --> 00:05:31,080 Speaker 1: the vacuum together, and it's made me giggle and I've gone, Rach, 110 00:05:31,241 --> 00:05:35,401 Speaker 1: you're gonna die. Look, I'm on FaceTime trying to show 111 00:05:35,440 --> 00:05:38,841 Speaker 1: her how to use the vacuum. I forget in this 112 00:05:38,961 --> 00:05:42,801 Speaker 1: moment that I'm on FaceTime and she's hearing me say 113 00:05:42,841 --> 00:05:46,721 Speaker 1: that to you. So she's got super upset. She's hung up. 114 00:05:46,961 --> 00:05:49,401 Speaker 1: She sent me this missage. Oh my god. I read 115 00:05:49,401 --> 00:05:53,440 Speaker 1: the message and I felt so bad laughing at me. 116 00:05:54,001 --> 00:05:56,361 Speaker 1: I was just trying to do a good thing. I 117 00:05:56,401 --> 00:06:00,400 Speaker 1: was like, oh my god, I feel terrible. No, so 118 00:06:00,481 --> 00:06:03,161 Speaker 1: then I've sent a nice message back. Ah, I didn't 119 00:06:03,201 --> 00:06:06,121 Speaker 1: know how to use that vacuum either, blah blah blah blah, 120 00:06:06,161 --> 00:06:12,001 Speaker 1: and rage has decided to take my phone and send 121 00:06:12,121 --> 00:06:16,921 Speaker 1: her this a video saying, so shall I play it? 122 00:06:17,161 --> 00:06:19,801 Speaker 3: No, don't play it. I don't need to hear myself. 123 00:06:19,841 --> 00:06:21,681 Speaker 3: I'll do a day of the races. I do now 124 00:06:21,880 --> 00:06:24,281 Speaker 3: remember sending a video to say, I'm very sorry for 125 00:06:24,361 --> 00:06:25,681 Speaker 3: laughing at you, but it's pretty funny. 126 00:06:25,721 --> 00:06:27,121 Speaker 2: But it's like, but we get it. 127 00:06:27,880 --> 00:06:30,641 Speaker 1: But the funny thing was she was she angrier after that. No, 128 00:06:30,801 --> 00:06:32,841 Speaker 1: it was a nice video, and I was like, oh, 129 00:06:32,880 --> 00:06:35,441 Speaker 1: that's a nice video, Like felt a bit better about 130 00:06:35,440 --> 00:06:38,561 Speaker 1: the situation. What was funny is when I saw the 131 00:06:38,681 --> 00:06:42,481 Speaker 1: video on my phone the next day in a sober 132 00:06:43,121 --> 00:06:48,760 Speaker 1: LIGHTLD and I just went, hmmm. If I was a 133 00:06:48,841 --> 00:06:52,121 Speaker 1: sixteen year old, I would be looking at that and 134 00:06:52,161 --> 00:06:56,520 Speaker 1: I would roll my eyes and be like drunk mum. 135 00:06:56,440 --> 00:06:59,840 Speaker 3: Drug mum's at the races. I thought I was tracking 136 00:06:59,841 --> 00:07:02,320 Speaker 3: all right on that day. I thought by that stage 137 00:07:02,361 --> 00:07:04,761 Speaker 3: I was. It all went downhill when we said a 138 00:07:04,761 --> 00:07:08,161 Speaker 3: shim our way somehow into the members section, and that's 139 00:07:08,161 --> 00:07:11,001 Speaker 3: where I felt like it went down. After that, we 140 00:07:11,001 --> 00:07:13,521 Speaker 3: were still getting quite intact photos. 141 00:07:13,841 --> 00:07:15,881 Speaker 1: My thing is, Holly actually said to me the other day. 142 00:07:16,081 --> 00:07:19,761 Speaker 1: We said something about something was over eighteens, and she 143 00:07:19,961 --> 00:07:21,961 Speaker 1: reminded me, oh, I'll be able to go there then 144 00:07:22,041 --> 00:07:23,561 Speaker 1: next year, and I was like. 145 00:07:23,601 --> 00:07:26,081 Speaker 2: Oh my god, next year. 146 00:07:26,561 --> 00:07:28,001 Speaker 1: Yeah, And then I went, oh, it's going to be 147 00:07:28,041 --> 00:07:30,321 Speaker 1: so much fun. We're going to go to retros together. 148 00:07:30,721 --> 00:07:34,881 Speaker 1: She was like, I am not going to retros with 149 00:07:35,041 --> 00:07:38,161 Speaker 1: you and your friends? Why not we. 150 00:07:38,121 --> 00:07:39,961 Speaker 2: Get hanging with us? Were the cool cats. 151 00:07:40,081 --> 00:07:42,881 Speaker 1: What's funny, though, is that it wasn't just Holly that 152 00:07:42,921 --> 00:07:45,121 Speaker 1: didn't know how to use the vacuum. Because I asked 153 00:07:45,121 --> 00:07:49,241 Speaker 1: Amelia to do some vacuuming the other day. She's bypassed 154 00:07:49,361 --> 00:07:52,361 Speaker 1: the actual bit where the head is attached to you. 155 00:07:52,681 --> 00:07:56,201 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, whole part. Yeah, you just need to get 156 00:07:56,201 --> 00:07:57,921 Speaker 2: a stick it and put the sticker on. 157 00:07:58,001 --> 00:08:01,761 Speaker 3: And put one number one, stick number two, stick that, 158 00:08:01,881 --> 00:08:04,001 Speaker 3: number three, stick that and just say put number one 159 00:08:04,001 --> 00:08:06,561 Speaker 3: into number two into number three and they'll be fine. 160 00:08:06,761 --> 00:08:10,081 Speaker 1: But what she's done is she's got the hose, the 161 00:08:10,161 --> 00:08:14,561 Speaker 1: flexible hose part that's attached to the actual bloody into 162 00:08:14,601 --> 00:08:17,001 Speaker 1: the head of the vaunt, know what the names of 163 00:08:17,001 --> 00:08:20,801 Speaker 1: them are, The flexible hose part. She's put that straight 164 00:08:20,921 --> 00:08:24,321 Speaker 1: in to you know, you get different attachments, different heads 165 00:08:24,361 --> 00:08:27,401 Speaker 1: for it. Put that straight into the head, and then 166 00:08:27,481 --> 00:08:29,441 Speaker 1: she's going, why is it so floppy? 167 00:08:31,441 --> 00:08:33,921 Speaker 2: Why is it so ready? How do I get down 168 00:08:33,921 --> 00:08:35,441 Speaker 2: and use that? It's just floppy. 169 00:08:35,521 --> 00:08:39,081 Speaker 1: It's like you haven't put the actual, actual stiff part 170 00:08:39,161 --> 00:08:39,481 Speaker 1: on it. 171 00:08:39,601 --> 00:08:42,401 Speaker 3: That actually probably has a handle on it. Right If 172 00:08:42,401 --> 00:08:45,521 Speaker 3: I'm thinking about my plugin dice in from home, it 173 00:08:45,561 --> 00:08:49,041 Speaker 3: actually has a handle on it where you vacuum from And. 174 00:08:49,001 --> 00:08:52,921 Speaker 1: I'm also very aware all the words we're using around 175 00:08:53,041 --> 00:08:57,761 Speaker 1: vacuums because we don't know floppy, floppy, sucking, hard part. 176 00:09:00,081 --> 00:09:02,681 Speaker 2: A vacuum cleaner, some up a vacuum cleaner. 177 00:09:02,721 --> 00:09:09,201 Speaker 3: In ten words, floppy, sucky, hard, long, hard part, not 178 00:09:09,561 --> 00:09:16,441 Speaker 3: very good, didn't do the job, doesn't suck anymore. It's 179 00:09:16,561 --> 00:09:22,041 Speaker 3: like me, sounds like a marriage.