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Speaker 1: Appogiae Production. Welcome back to another episode of Am I

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Speaker 1: a Bad Mum? Podcast? Three times a week? We complained about.

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Speaker 2: I said check in, you say complain. There's a mixture

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Speaker 2: of both on this. Absolutely we're getting to the point

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Speaker 2: end of the year. Katie and I have decided at

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Speaker 2: the end of the year to start emailing the teacher,

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Speaker 2: both teachers, because both my children I feel like have

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Speaker 2: like conspired against me, and one just blatantly says she

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Speaker 2: didn't feel like doing our homework, and then the other

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Speaker 2: one that says to me, oh, no, we definitely don't

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Speaker 2: have homework. I was like, you know what I'm going

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Speaker 2: to do. I'm going to email your teachers. I'm going

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Speaker 2: to get the teacher to come back and talk to you,

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Speaker 2: because I know that you're both lying to me, like, well,

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Speaker 2: one of them's not lying, one of them is being

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Speaker 2: blatantly lazy. She's just outrightly telling me she's not doing it,

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Speaker 2: and then the other one is, you know, trying to

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Speaker 2: hide the fact. I said, surprise, surprise, Katie, I read

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Speaker 2: the email last week from the teacher and it said

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Speaker 2: that you had and she.

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Speaker 1: Was like, what the hell? You never read these?

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Speaker 2: She goes you never read the email. I said, well,

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Speaker 2: I read the email and it said homework is out

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Speaker 2: this week. I said, And you're sitting here telling me

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Speaker 2: your teacher doesn't give you homework. Who's lying? And she's like, oh,

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Speaker 2: you never emailed I'm email a teacher. I sat there

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Speaker 2: and emailed the teacher. Why am I waiting to like

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Speaker 2: the end of the year, to pretend to like I've

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Speaker 2: actually taken notice about what homework's being done.

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Speaker 1: It's so interesting that you bring this up, because that

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Speaker 1: is actually my topic for today. And this morning I

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Speaker 1: called the teacher. I had a conversation on my phone.

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Speaker 2: I have not called them.

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Speaker 1: I think I've only spoken to a teacher on the

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Speaker 1: phone for their entire school life maybe twice, and this

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Speaker 1: morning was one of them.

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Speaker 2: What that is crazy?

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Speaker 1: We're on the same on everyone's the same. Sorry, teachers

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Speaker 1: have I a bad mum for not understanding them.

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Speaker 2: I think that's a daily routine for most parents of

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Speaker 2: all ages. I was going to say, of your age

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Speaker 2: in particular, like your girls are sixteen now, they're like

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Speaker 2: foreign objects.

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Speaker 1: I just don't understand. I'm trying to think back to

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Speaker 1: when I was a teenager, when that whole work ethic,

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Speaker 1: not wanting to leave stuff till the last minute thing

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Speaker 1: clicks in and the conversation I had with the teacher

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Speaker 1: this morning, I actually emailed her last night. I was

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Speaker 1: so frustrated. I was frustrated with there were two assigns.

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Speaker 1: So at the end of the term, Towards the end

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Speaker 1: of the term, the girls have exams and assignments. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: so there's revision that needs to be done for the exams,

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Speaker 1: and then there's obviously work that needs to be done

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Speaker 1: for the assignments. Everything gets handed in and then you know,

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Speaker 1: they get the results and then onto the next year.

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Speaker 1: I spoke to the teacher this morning and basically I

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Speaker 1: ended up apologizing and saying sorry, I've just realized I

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Speaker 1: really just needed to rent to you about all of

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Speaker 1: this because I need to help. I need your help,

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Speaker 1: and I need your help because my kids don't listen

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Speaker 1: to me. And I think probably nine times out of

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Speaker 1: ten after school, I will say, do you have any

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Speaker 1: homework that you need to do? And nine times out

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Speaker 1: of ten they will say to me, no, no, And

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Speaker 1: I know that's not true, same as you. I know

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Speaker 1: that is not true. There is always work for them

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Speaker 1: to do. What so you don't need to be revising

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Speaker 1: for something like there's literally nothing. No, there's nothing. And

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Speaker 1: so then I'll then say a few things like I

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Speaker 1: know that's not true. Blah blah blah blah blah. He

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Speaker 1: could be doing that. No one does that. It's a

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Speaker 1: case and we talk about it often. But it's just

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Speaker 1: that whole thing about they think we know nothing nothing.

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Speaker 1: Parents know absolutely enough. You've never to you, no, you've

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Speaker 1: never done it. And I'm like, we did the exact

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Speaker 1: same thing. We had the exact same problems, the exact

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Speaker 1: same dramas. The only difference is technology these days, there's

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Speaker 1: the only difference, the change in technology.

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Speaker 2: Still learning all the same shit that we learn.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean sadly yes, sadly yes, still learning algebra

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Speaker 1: that they will never need that we never needed. So

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Speaker 1: sadly yes, doing that some of the stuff that they

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Speaker 1: come home about, like is exactly that that I go,

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Speaker 1: I even in the girls ages, like I look at

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Speaker 1: it and go, why are you still learning that?

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Speaker 2: Why it's not even it's not relevant to this time

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Speaker 2: and you know, going forward with that, But yeah, we've

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Speaker 2: just got no idea, Katie.

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Speaker 1: We're fools for.

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Speaker 2: Thinking like we do know what they're going through.

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Speaker 1: So I said to this teacher, I was like, please,

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Speaker 1: can there be repercussions for them leaving it so last minute?

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Speaker 1: So they had to do an assignment and I was

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Speaker 1: actually I was really disappointed because Holly had such a

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Speaker 1: great idea for this assignment. So it was history. It

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Speaker 1: was on Clipatra and they had to I don't know

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Speaker 1: exactly what the brief was, but Holly decided to do

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Speaker 1: a podcast. She's like, I want to do a podcast.

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Speaker 1: I'm going to do four episodes. It's going to be

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Speaker 1: you know, this message that needed to get out about

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Speaker 1: Clipatra and it was something to do with being like

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Speaker 1: one of the first females to be a leader or

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Speaker 1: something like that.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, Anyway, the teachers come back and said no,

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Speaker 2: no podcast.

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Speaker 1: No, No. It was all good. Like the teacher was like,

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Speaker 1: that's a great idea. It's a lot of work. Do

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Speaker 1: you know that it's a lot of work doing a podcast,

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Speaker 1: And Holly was like, yes, well, my parents know a

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Speaker 1: lot about podcasts, and I think I'll be fine. She

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Speaker 1: came up with this plan about what the episodes were

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Speaker 1: going to be. I was so impressed. The weekend came

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Speaker 1: and she still hadn't written her episodes, recorded them, edited them, nothing,

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Speaker 1: And she kept banging on about how much work she

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Speaker 1: had to do on that weekend. That wasn't the only work.

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Speaker 1: She had other stuff going on. And I was like,

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Speaker 1: well, we need to set your alime. You need to get up.

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Speaker 1: But it's my weekend too. I'm like, if you've left

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Speaker 2: But you've also left it too late. This is the thing.

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Speaker 2: So you've left it to the last minute. It's not

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Speaker 2: my problem.

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Speaker 1: No, to be honest, I'm talking about They both did this.

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Speaker 1: They both like it. Then they had a friend come

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Speaker 1: over on Sunday afternoon early evening. But I was like,

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Speaker 1: what are you doing. They're all in bikinis. They're like,

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Speaker 1: we're going in the pool. What do you mean you're

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Speaker 1: going on the pool. You haven't finished your work. It's Sunday.

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Speaker 1: You could get the word done it was due on Tuesday.

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Speaker 1: Oh you know, it will be fine. We're just gonna

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Speaker 1: have a quick swim. We deserve to have a break.

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Speaker 1: It's the weekend, okay, all right, And there's a there's

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Speaker 1: a part of me that's like, okay, let them have

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Speaker 1: that freedom of deciding for themselves when they're going to

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Speaker 1: do it. I'm also losing my ship inside because I'm like,

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Speaker 1: you know, anyway, what happened. The friend had to stay

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Speaker 1: over on the Sunday night, which was pre organized. Her

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Speaker 1: mum was away. That was fine. Nothing got done, nothing

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Speaker 1: got Monday. I was in Sydney all days to Sydney

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Speaker 1: all day. They got the bus to and from school.

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Speaker 1: I look at the cameras because we get an alert

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Speaker 1: when our side cameras if someone spotted. I'm looking on

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Speaker 1: the cameras. They're going for a swim again. I was like,

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Speaker 1: what the hell. They've literally got tonight to finish this off,

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Speaker 2: They deserve it. What they deserve a break. I've been

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Speaker 1: That they've done is break. That's all they've done. So anyway,

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Speaker 1: long story short, I've got Amelia up late that night

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Speaker 1: trying to finish it off. Then fuck, I hate myself

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Speaker 1: for even saying this. Jay and I are then on

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Speaker 1: the computer helping her edit it and helping her finish

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Speaker 1: it off. Holly is sick because she's had such a

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Speaker 1: late night the night before that told me she went

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Speaker 1: to bed at ten. Ended up being one of them said, oh,

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Speaker 1: you know, she came into my room at like twelve thirty,

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Speaker 1: had to get up super early for school the next day. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: so she's sick. She's gone to bed at seven pm,

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Speaker 1: hasn't even finished us. When I spoke to the teacher,

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Speaker 1: I said, could there please be repercussions and she said, yep.

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Speaker 1: I'll have a chat with both of them, And just

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Speaker 1: to let you know, Holly will have tension on Friday

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Speaker 1: for not sending in her assignments. Assignments, she didn't hand

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Speaker 1: it in on Tuesday, No, And she said that will

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Speaker 1: be punishment to her, and I went, well, yeah, in theory,

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Speaker 1: I said, but what happens is that Friday afternoons they

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Speaker 1: on Friday, I have to pick her up. She loves

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Speaker 1: the fact that she doesn't have to get the bus home,

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Speaker 1: so I said, actually, it's more of a punishment for me.

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Speaker 2: So she's not doing detention.

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Speaker 1: No, she is, but the whole way I'm like, I

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Speaker 1: suggested setting your alarm to get up at six on

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Speaker 1: decided to go for a walk. I was an hour.

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Speaker 1: I got back after an hour. She sat on her

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Speaker 1: phone on TikTok, you've had an hour hour I allowed

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Speaker 1: my Friday nights to I'm like, made you can lead

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Speaker 2: Order baffles me.

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Speaker 1: It absolutely baffles me.

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Speaker 2: Honestly, I don't understand it, but I feel if I

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Speaker 2: was to sort of look into the future, I have

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Speaker 2: a feeling I've got one that's similar and one that

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Speaker 2: will probably won't ever do a not sure or no

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Speaker 2: hand in, but it might be last minute.

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Speaker 1: It's funny because when I was on the phone to

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Speaker 1: the teacher, I said, they just don't listen to me,

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Speaker 1: like I just don't understand what it's going to kick in.

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Speaker 1: They just think I know absolutely nothing. She said, well,

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Speaker 1: I'll have a word with them. She said, I've also

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Speaker 1: got teenagers and they think I know nothing, So maybe

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Speaker 1: you could have a word with them. I was like, sure,