WEBVTT - How Do You Navigate A Toxic Friendship Break Up? 0:00:00.480 --> 0:00:10.560 We got get you the morning every day Adelaides seal section. 0:00:12.000 --> 0:00:13.680 This is a chance so maybe cover off some of 0:00:13.720 --> 0:00:17.200 those topics which are a little bit taboo. It's Jodyotty, 0:00:17.480 --> 0:00:21.720 it's tip Worm from ten years first, and it's myself Beny. 0:00:22.200 --> 0:00:25.200 Every week we've got a particular topic. Welcome to you, 0:00:25.280 --> 0:00:25.680 tip Worm. 0:00:25.840 --> 0:00:27.320 Oh hey, I'm a good Thanks. 0:00:28.920 --> 0:00:29.680 How are you feeling? 0:00:29.960 --> 0:00:30.680 I'm razzed. 0:00:31.520 --> 0:00:33.920 I feels like you even sounded surprised that you were here. 0:00:34.800 --> 0:00:37.800 You thought we have got just a black dots? What 0:00:37.880 --> 0:00:38.320 am I doing? 0:00:38.360 --> 0:00:38.400 You? 0:00:38.520 --> 0:00:41.840 This is not your dream Welcome. I'll sure get straight 0:00:41.840 --> 0:00:43.600 into it. Yes, please, let's see what's in the envelope 0:00:43.600 --> 0:00:49.800 here where we got to help? Okay, what have we 0:00:49.840 --> 0:00:50.200 got here? 0:00:50.280 --> 0:00:50.599 All right? 0:00:50.680 --> 0:01:05.400 Well, this one's interesting. The topic is toxic friends, your friends, Thank. 0:01:05.240 --> 0:01:08.240 You toxic friends. Well this is quite topical at the 0:01:08.280 --> 0:01:12.119 moment because of White Lotus. So I know you guys 0:01:12.120 --> 0:01:16.399 haven't seen it. Please I will try not to spoil it. 0:01:16.400 --> 0:01:17.240 It's for you. 0:01:17.959 --> 0:01:18.440 I can say. 0:01:18.440 --> 0:01:22.440 It's set in Thailand, looks absolutely stunny and apparently apparently 0:01:22.480 --> 0:01:24.399 the resort where it's set is now booked out for 0:01:24.400 --> 0:01:27.880 the next like ten years because of White lotus anyway, 0:01:27.959 --> 0:01:30.240 that's by the by. Let's talk about toxic friends, because 0:01:30.240 --> 0:01:33.080 there are three women on there who have been childhood 0:01:33.120 --> 0:01:36.399 friends since they were nine, and there are several scenes 0:01:36.640 --> 0:01:39.920 depicted when they're all together, and there's this is real 0:01:40.040 --> 0:01:45.200 jealousy bubbling away and also like passive aggressive sort of 0:01:45.360 --> 0:01:46.920 compliments and that sort of thing. 0:01:47.560 --> 0:01:50.000 It's really yucky. Have a listen if you haven't heard it. 0:01:50.720 --> 0:01:52.760 Jack, you look amazing. 0:01:53.360 --> 0:01:56.520 You look amazing, but you look incredible. 0:01:56.640 --> 0:01:58.760 You look same as you did twenty years ago. 0:01:59.080 --> 0:02:00.640 Okay, you both do. 0:02:01.000 --> 0:02:02.760 Yeah, but you look like you just got pushed out 0:02:02.760 --> 0:02:03.120 of a berth. 0:02:03.160 --> 0:02:03.480 Gonna know. 0:02:03.760 --> 0:02:05.840 Oh God, who's your darkness? 0:02:05.880 --> 0:02:06.440 Shut up? 0:02:06.480 --> 0:02:07.400 Who's your doctor? 0:02:07.440 --> 0:02:08.960 I don't know why you'd want to know, because it's 0:02:09.040 --> 0:02:11.680 not as good as your doctor. I haven't done anything 0:02:11.760 --> 0:02:12.600 so much fakery. 0:02:12.880 --> 0:02:13.280 Yeah. 0:02:13.280 --> 0:02:15.639 So two of them are very very very attractive, and 0:02:15.680 --> 0:02:17.919 they always talk each other up. But then the third one, 0:02:17.919 --> 0:02:21.120 who's potentially a little less attractive, is just standing over 0:02:21.120 --> 0:02:23.360 in the corner smashing her wines like yeah, O just 0:02:23.880 --> 0:02:25.880 oh you know what myself over here? 0:02:26.000 --> 0:02:28.440 Oh? 0:02:28.480 --> 0:02:30.800 But I think the key thing in all of this 0:02:31.120 --> 0:02:34.240 is when the two of them are left together that's 0:02:34.240 --> 0:02:34.799 when they. 0:02:34.760 --> 0:02:37.320 Start about the other one. 0:02:37.400 --> 0:02:38.359 It's not very nice. 0:02:38.400 --> 0:02:39.840 It's not nice at all, is it. 0:02:39.960 --> 0:02:41.919 I think everyone's been involved in a situation not that 0:02:42.720 --> 0:02:45.280 sometimes you need to maybe stop yourself. But then other 0:02:45.320 --> 0:02:46.840 times you get to a certain age where you're like 0:02:47.760 --> 0:02:49.760 enough with the toxicity. 0:02:49.360 --> 0:02:50.720 Enough thing very much. 0:02:51.120 --> 0:02:55.200 I feel like and this is my very big red flag. 0:02:55.560 --> 0:02:57.600 If I get up and walk away from a table 0:02:57.919 --> 0:03:01.120 or a group of friends and my mind goes to, 0:03:01.240 --> 0:03:03.079 I wonder what they're going to say about me when 0:03:03.080 --> 0:03:05.880 I walk away, that's when it's got to be done. 0:03:06.240 --> 0:03:08.280 So nine times out of ten, yeah, they are talking 0:03:08.320 --> 0:03:10.040 stuck about you behind your back. If you feeling like. 0:03:10.040 --> 0:03:11.520 That, which friends are you talking about? 0:03:11.520 --> 0:03:12.160 Which ones. 0:03:13.760 --> 0:03:14.760 The bathroom? 0:03:15.480 --> 0:03:17.799 And then you really quick she would actually, I'm not 0:03:17.800 --> 0:03:19.440 going to go because you thought hazy, and I'm going 0:03:19.440 --> 0:03:20.120 to lay into you. 0:03:20.240 --> 0:03:22.160 And we did and we were, oh, thank you, sus 0:03:22.160 --> 0:03:23.000 We're the pretty one. 0:03:23.080 --> 0:03:30.959 What hello? Why don't I just go? You know what? 0:03:31.160 --> 0:03:32.040 Well, do you know what? 0:03:32.200 --> 0:03:32.360 You are? 0:03:32.400 --> 0:03:34.120 The two people on this planet that I know that 0:03:34.120 --> 0:03:36.000 if I walked away, you would defend me in any 0:03:36.080 --> 0:03:37.200 situation with anyone. 0:03:37.240 --> 0:03:39.360 And that's the sort of comfort you have any friendship. 0:03:39.600 --> 0:03:41.520 If you don't have that, then I don't think it's 0:03:41.560 --> 0:03:43.279 worth being friends forach sister. 0:03:43.200 --> 0:03:45.960 Have you ever had to cut someone off tif morn? 0:03:47.840 --> 0:03:50.360 Even if I had do, I wouldn't because I'm a coward. 0:03:51.280 --> 0:03:53.120 So if you had to end something, you just wouldn't 0:03:53.200 --> 0:03:54.160 like stop contact. 0:03:54.240 --> 0:03:57.600 I would bring my dad and tell him, and he 0:03:57.640 --> 0:04:00.800 would say, Tiff, flush them, And I can't flush them, 0:04:01.000 --> 0:04:03.120 but they would have to. I wouldn't flush them, but 0:04:03.160 --> 0:04:05.240 I've told Dad and then you're done. So from there 0:04:05.280 --> 0:04:06.600 on out, you have to know where the thoughts that. 0:04:06.600 --> 0:04:09.280 Alan hates you. Okay, Alan doesn't like you anymore? 0:04:09.400 --> 0:04:09.600 Yeah? 0:04:09.720 --> 0:04:11.360 Right, you might not, not from me, but my dad 0:04:11.360 --> 0:04:11.880 will never. 0:04:11.800 --> 0:04:13.400 And that's spiritual and that's beautiful. 0:04:13.440 --> 0:04:15.680 Can you remember when I'm justin Bieber saying my muma 0:04:15.720 --> 0:04:17.000 don't like you and she likes everyone. 0:04:17.120 --> 0:04:18.679 Yes, that's different. 0:04:18.880 --> 0:04:20.080 My mom does like everyone. 0:04:20.279 --> 0:04:22.640 Yeah, but that's like the Allen test, isn't it? 0:04:22.640 --> 0:04:22.919 It is? 0:04:23.080 --> 0:04:23.800 Okay, what about you? 0:04:23.839 --> 0:04:24.080 Andrew? 0:04:24.080 --> 0:04:26.520 Has she had to cut off a girlfriend? 0:04:26.720 --> 0:04:26.840 Now? 0:04:26.839 --> 0:04:28.479 I feel like I feel like in the past that 0:04:28.560 --> 0:04:29.960 I have a bit of a people please and I 0:04:30.000 --> 0:04:32.200 will try and fix everything because the thought of you know, 0:04:32.279 --> 0:04:33.760 I think when you're young. The thought of people not 0:04:33.800 --> 0:04:36.640 liking it doesn't sit well. I'm thirty nine now, Yeah, 0:04:36.839 --> 0:04:37.480 I don't give it. 0:04:37.520 --> 0:04:37.880 You know what. 0:04:38.400 --> 0:04:40.440 So if all the people in my life and I'm 0:04:40.480 --> 0:04:42.200 talking to they are the people that I value, the 0:04:42.240 --> 0:04:45.479 people that I'm not talking to, I probably don't value them. 0:04:45.839 --> 0:04:48.000 In saying that as well, though, blokes are very different. 0:04:48.160 --> 0:04:50.159 I've got friends who haven't spoken to for years, which 0:04:50.200 --> 0:04:52.919 I know that we could just reconnect your later. Yeah, 0:04:53.560 --> 0:04:56.040 blokes are very very different creatures in this space. 0:04:56.240 --> 0:04:58.719 Yeah, and they're the best friends ever, aren't they. But 0:04:58.760 --> 0:05:00.840 I think the thing is that old friends you want 0:05:00.839 --> 0:05:02.720 to cling onto a little bit more because they know 0:05:02.800 --> 0:05:05.159 you so well and they and that can often be 0:05:05.240 --> 0:05:07.440 to your detriment. Just because you've been friends with someone 0:05:07.960 --> 0:05:10.080 for a long time, it doesn't make it a healthy relationship. 0:05:10.200 --> 0:05:13.000 They know all your nasty secrets, correct, Yeah, those really 0:05:13.000 --> 0:05:14.040 incriminating secrets. 0:05:14.120 --> 0:05:16.280 Okay, well what did you think of them? What do 0:05:16.320 --> 0:05:17.599 you think I got up to chasinate? 0:05:17.720 --> 0:05:18.159 What do you reckon? 0:05:18.720 --> 0:05:20.200 We know? 0:05:21.080 --> 0:05:22.400 Why did you move so much? 0:05:24.000 --> 0:05:28.160 Thirteen twenty four ten. Let's do this toxic friendships. Have 0:05:28.240 --> 0:05:29.800 you had to cut someone off and. 0:05:29.760 --> 0:05:30.479 How do you do it. 0:05:30.600 --> 0:05:32.159 How do you know telling your dad? 0:05:32.200 --> 0:05:32.560 What do you do? 0:05:32.839 --> 0:05:33.000 Good? 0:05:33.080 --> 0:05:35.520 Seizing theory like it's easy theory? Or just cut them 0:05:35.520 --> 0:05:37.840 off when you actually have to practice that. That's that's tough. 0:05:38.040 --> 0:05:39.960 Are you going to see them regularly? What are you 0:05:39.960 --> 0:05:40.279 to do? 0:05:40.880 --> 0:05:41.040 Oh? 0:05:41.080 --> 0:05:42.560 It's a mind, isn't it? 0:05:42.880 --> 0:05:44.520 Isn't it all right? Thirteen twenty four ten. 0:05:44.600 --> 0:05:47.760 Let's do it. Let's go to geolicious. 0:05:47.880 --> 0:05:50.280 Good morning, Good morning gods? 0:05:50.400 --> 0:05:51.120 How are you good? 0:05:51.320 --> 0:05:51.440 Is it? 0:05:51.920 --> 0:05:53.560 Andrew hos has just dropped a bombshell? 0:05:53.760 --> 0:05:54.359 Is that true? 0:05:54.480 --> 0:05:55.960 To blow spectru amount each time? 0:05:57.720 --> 0:06:01.240 Do we talk to mac on each other? But folks 0:06:01.279 --> 0:06:03.239 can be a bit bit cheap from time. 0:06:03.080 --> 0:06:07.200 To time sometimes sometimes that's that's. 0:06:07.240 --> 0:06:09.240 That's as hard as I'm going to say. You know, 0:06:09.240 --> 0:06:14.680 I don't want to be a toxic friends. 0:06:15.440 --> 0:06:17.320 I will say, jeeralistius, I've never had a bad word 0:06:17.320 --> 0:06:18.680 to say about you. Ever, it goes. 0:06:19.080 --> 0:06:22.320 It's quite opposite, one hundred both ways. 0:06:22.279 --> 0:06:23.800 Except I didn't get into Singapore live. 0:06:25.880 --> 0:06:30.920 You know, it's all right. So look, have you had 0:06:30.920 --> 0:06:32.200 to cut off a toxic friends? 0:06:33.240 --> 0:06:36.240 Well, look, I had a whole life of friends that 0:06:36.320 --> 0:06:40.960 I lost when I separated, So basically fifteen years worth 0:06:41.000 --> 0:06:44.240 of friendship, and I was saying to producer Josh that 0:06:44.400 --> 0:06:46.599 the thing about the I think one of the reasons 0:06:46.600 --> 0:06:49.880 why toxics friends are allowed to be toxic is because 0:06:50.000 --> 0:06:53.320 the more time you invest in them, they're more you're 0:06:53.360 --> 0:06:55.800 prepared to put up with because you're like, I've invested 0:06:55.800 --> 0:06:58.320 so much. I don't want to you know, I don't 0:06:58.320 --> 0:07:01.920 want to accept that it's going bad. Particularly you know, 0:07:02.360 --> 0:07:05.200 it's the longer, the longer ones who do who knows 0:07:05.800 --> 0:07:08.960 the most, the ones who ultimately can be the worst. 0:07:09.000 --> 0:07:11.000 I mean, fine, it just meet you and your talk smack. 0:07:11.040 --> 0:07:14.400 It's like, well, I haven't lost anything. You've invested all 0:07:14.440 --> 0:07:15.560 your time, and that gets. 0:07:15.360 --> 0:07:18.559 Brutal true and if that's true words, and there's also 0:07:18.680 --> 0:07:20.960 don't you reckon hazy a bit of romance around your 0:07:20.960 --> 0:07:23.520 older friendships. It's like, you know, we've been friends for 0:07:23.600 --> 0:07:29.000 twenty years, but if it's become stale and hurtful and toxic, 0:07:29.040 --> 0:07:29.840 you've got to let it go. 0:07:30.120 --> 0:07:32.400 Sometimes you outgrow your friends, and maybe vice versas all 0:07:32.480 --> 0:07:36.080 Sometimes friends outgrow you. Who knows, but I think that 0:07:36.240 --> 0:07:38.640 is the dream, isn't it. Because you see TV shows, 0:07:38.680 --> 0:07:41.880 you see movies where they're lifelong friends. Et cetera. But 0:07:42.200 --> 0:07:44.680 it's not always that easy. 0:07:44.680 --> 0:07:45.800 He's got a lot to answer. 0:07:45.840 --> 0:07:49.800 Call good morning, Ashley, good morning, good morning. 0:07:49.800 --> 0:07:50.840 Have you been in this situation? 0:07:51.840 --> 0:07:52.040 Well? 0:07:52.080 --> 0:07:54.119 I have, but I've been on the other ends where 0:07:54.200 --> 0:07:57.720 I had a friend and we were like best friends, 0:07:58.240 --> 0:08:01.240 caught up quite regularly, and then the text one day 0:08:01.400 --> 0:08:04.080 just saying I don't want to be friends anymore. 0:08:05.480 --> 0:08:06.200 How confronting. 0:08:06.480 --> 0:08:07.360 Was there any reason? 0:08:07.440 --> 0:08:09.440 Yeah, did you feel blind sided? Ashley? 0:08:09.800 --> 0:08:12.760 I did, Yeah, because I actually thought that she was 0:08:12.800 --> 0:08:17.480 like my best friend, and yeah, and then she didn't 0:08:17.480 --> 0:08:19.480 want to talk about it. I didn't want to catch up, 0:08:20.080 --> 0:08:20.840 just as like, that's it. 0:08:21.160 --> 0:08:22.080 Did she get a reason? 0:08:23.480 --> 0:08:25.440 Just that out morals and balis out of line? 0:08:26.160 --> 0:08:31.920 And also that's a whack. That's my morals are superior 0:08:31.960 --> 0:08:35.040 to your morals. That's what work, isn't it. 0:08:35.280 --> 0:08:35.640 Yeah. 0:08:35.679 --> 0:08:38.000 So then but then it kind of got worse where 0:08:38.800 --> 0:08:42.360 we were part of like a a Facebook group, and 0:08:42.480 --> 0:08:45.280 I was in that Facebook book group, and I sort 0:08:45.280 --> 0:08:47.840 of thought it had been quiet for a while, and 0:08:47.880 --> 0:08:51.559 then and then they had all like the whole Facebook 0:08:51.600 --> 0:08:56.599 group had started with her and made a new Facebook 0:08:56.600 --> 0:09:01.040 group without me in it. And then we're organizing catch 0:09:01.120 --> 0:09:03.640 ups and things, and then I saw them one day 0:09:03.720 --> 0:09:05.120 or catch you up, and I thought, oh, maybe I 0:09:05.240 --> 0:09:10.160 just missed the the like the message on Facebook, and 0:09:10.200 --> 0:09:12.840 then I realized that I. 0:09:15.679 --> 0:09:17.400 Think the title of the group was give was called 0:09:17.400 --> 0:09:23.800 the Now Ashley Club. I'm just trying to make a 0:09:23.840 --> 0:09:26.719 lot of the situation. 0:09:27.720 --> 0:09:30.000 It's been a little while since. Like at the time, 0:09:30.080 --> 0:09:33.400 it was really sort of heartbreaking and really tough, but 0:09:33.480 --> 0:09:35.160 now I look back and think, you know what, like 0:09:35.840 --> 0:09:39.400 it's probably in that group. They're pretty nasty to me. 0:09:39.559 --> 0:09:41.480 Yeah that's the thing. 0:09:41.520 --> 0:09:43.760 You better without them if they're going to behave like that, 0:09:44.120 --> 0:09:47.920 And yeah, you can question and values there Ashley. All right, 0:09:47.920 --> 0:09:49.400 I'm going to try and make you feel better because 0:09:49.480 --> 0:09:51.280 Andrew has just made you feel infinitely worse. 0:09:52.080 --> 0:09:54.240 That's a family pastor a big wedgie. 0:09:54.920 --> 0:09:56.079 Oh that would be amazing. 0:09:56.200 --> 0:09:56.440 Thanks. 0:09:56.480 --> 0:09:59.200 You Are you going to take along any anyone from 0:09:59.200 --> 0:09:59.560 that group? 0:09:59.679 --> 0:10:05.959 Orse, I'll take my husband and my kids perfect. 0:10:05.760 --> 0:10:06.640 Unless the kids are toxic. 0:10:06.679 --> 0:10:09.400 Don't take that. That is true. Morning, Michaela. 0:10:09.520 --> 0:10:10.559 What happened with you, Mikayla? 0:10:10.679 --> 0:10:11.760 Did you have a toxic friend? 0:10:12.720 --> 0:10:12.920 Oh? 0:10:13.040 --> 0:10:17.200 It was the whole friend group. It was very very recent. 0:10:18.240 --> 0:10:20.520 So we do this thing every year where we kind 0:10:20.520 --> 0:10:22.880 of get together, like around Christmas time, do a little 0:10:22.880 --> 0:10:27.320 secret sanna have dinner together, all of that kind of stuff. 0:10:28.280 --> 0:10:31.120 And in the group chat, there was no message, no 0:10:31.280 --> 0:10:33.760 information about a dinner, and I just thought, oh, look 0:10:34.120 --> 0:10:37.520 like that's okay. Like I was busy anyway, I conveniently 0:10:37.559 --> 0:10:42.520 got COVID the week before. But then I was scrolling 0:10:42.559 --> 0:10:46.000 through Instagram a couple of weeks later, and one of 0:10:46.000 --> 0:10:50.520 my friends have posted like a December dump and as 0:10:50.520 --> 0:10:53.280 I was scrolling through it, I stopped and there's a 0:10:53.320 --> 0:10:55.880 photo of all of them sitting at the table having 0:10:55.960 --> 0:10:57.160 a Christmas dinner together. 0:10:58.000 --> 0:10:59.640 I have no idea about it. 0:11:00.360 --> 0:11:01.439 Did you feel crushed? 0:11:02.800 --> 0:11:05.040 Honestly? Like I did at first? 0:11:05.120 --> 0:11:07.520 But then I thought, like, you know what, this has 0:11:07.679 --> 0:11:10.040 just really shown all their true colors. And now I'm like, 0:11:10.120 --> 0:11:14.520 I'm very glad that I just ignored it. And look, 0:11:14.640 --> 0:11:18.080 my partner has never really liked my friends, and I 0:11:18.120 --> 0:11:22.680 think but probably kind of shown why. But yeah, that's 0:11:22.840 --> 0:11:24.000 it's pretty awful. 0:11:23.840 --> 0:11:25.120 Bitch like mel Robbins. 0:11:25.240 --> 0:11:31.320 Let them theory, isn't it, Let them express themselves. They Yeah, MICHAELA, 0:11:31.440 --> 0:11:33.240 let's send you along to the big wedge as well. 0:11:33.280 --> 0:11:36.040 If that's okay, Oh, thank you, that'd be amazing. How 0:11:36.040 --> 0:11:39.760 are you going to take I'll probably take my siblings. 0:11:39.760 --> 0:11:41.840 I reckon love that because they're. 0:11:41.640 --> 0:11:42.360 All quite little. 0:11:43.600 --> 0:11:45.920 Oh that's lovely, all right, thank you so much, Mikayla. 0:11:46.080 --> 0:11:48.080 Thank you after all the calls this morning us. 0:11:48.200 --> 0:11:50.560 Nothing worse than when you click on social media and 0:11:50.600 --> 0:11:52.040 see something that you haven't made invited. 0:11:52.600 --> 0:11:55.520 I want to jump scale. It is true the window 0:11:55.520 --> 0:11:57.840 when that happens. 0:11:56.840 --> 0:11:59.079 In that moment though, It is true when it's a 0:11:59.080 --> 0:12:02.000 shocking moment, but you do like long term, you know, 0:12:02.080 --> 0:12:03.800 it's the best thing. It's the best no abnue to 0:12:03.840 --> 0:12:07.960 go down because it's clearly toxic. Absolutely, So yeah, thank 0:12:07.960 --> 0:12:10.200 you to everyone who called this morning and shared some 0:12:10.240 --> 0:12:13.000 pretty deep feelings. I'd say, yeah, it's not an easy topic. 0:12:12.800 --> 0:12:14.880 Is it. 0:12:15.040 --> 0:12:17.199 Saturday mornings will never be the same again. They were 0:12:17.240 --> 0:12:19.880 not far, but in a good way because I've entered 0:12:19.880 --> 0:12:22.520 the world of school sport and I've been looking forward 0:12:22.520 --> 0:12:24.160 to this for a long time. My son is six 0:12:24.240 --> 0:12:27.640 years old and now Saturday mornings we play cricket. 0:12:27.840 --> 0:12:31.200 Oh could you have picked a longer sport? 0:12:31.559 --> 0:12:34.120 Well, that's the thing, that's the thing, so right, now 0:12:34.280 --> 0:12:37.920 because it's basically an introduction to cricket. It's basically canker cricket, 0:12:38.360 --> 0:12:40.760 and it goes for an hour, right, so we're eight 0:12:40.800 --> 0:12:43.240 thirty to nine thirty, and strictly nine thirty because there's 0:12:43.240 --> 0:12:45.800 other games happening on that ground, so you've got to 0:12:45.800 --> 0:12:48.280 get out of there. Oh that's even if you're behind, 0:12:48.360 --> 0:12:51.440 they sort of kick you off. So and our max 0:12:51.440 --> 0:12:53.960 for cricket you'd never thought you'd see it, and you 0:12:54.000 --> 0:12:56.800 won't see it ever again, particularly in my lifetime, because 0:12:56.840 --> 0:12:59.040 it just gets longer and longer if it keeps on 0:12:59.080 --> 0:13:01.760 playing cricket. Eventually it'll be a two day across Saturday 0:13:01.800 --> 0:13:03.120 and Sunday, and that's ten to five. 0:13:04.200 --> 0:13:06.160 All you can do is hope and pray that he 0:13:06.240 --> 0:13:09.360 hates cricket, yes, and that he's not very good at it. 0:13:09.440 --> 0:13:19.040 Well. Two from two really early signs. Early signs was 0:13:19.040 --> 0:13:20.480 a bit of an issue. I'll tell you what. I'm 0:13:20.559 --> 0:13:23.319 very thankful that the ICs wasn't as particular cricket match 0:13:23.320 --> 0:13:25.880 because there was a lot of suspicious actions from these youngsters, 0:13:25.920 --> 0:13:30.600 including my son, just as bantam as humanly possible. And 0:13:30.640 --> 0:13:32.920 then secondly he almost battered last and because he was 0:13:33.000 --> 0:13:35.560 up against it. He only faced like three balls and 0:13:35.559 --> 0:13:37.520 then he swapped over and the other kid couldn't hit 0:13:37.559 --> 0:13:40.640 it instead of swapping over each hand. Because I just 0:13:40.800 --> 0:13:44.120 fear like the guys in charge, their hearts weren't quite 0:13:44.120 --> 0:13:46.200 in it right. He didn't see as much batting as 0:13:46.200 --> 0:13:49.240 he could have, and Dad's in sideline getting frustrated, and 0:13:49.280 --> 0:13:52.280 he shouldn't get frustrated in this situation. It was just ridiculous. 0:13:52.559 --> 0:13:54.400 The other thing I noticed as well is that, like 0:13:54.440 --> 0:13:56.640 a lot of junior cricketers, and particularly me and my day, 0:13:57.040 --> 0:13:59.640 is there was one stage where Henry was facing the 0:13:59.640 --> 0:14:00.960 wrong way for three balls. 0:14:00.720 --> 0:14:04.920 In a row. Well do you mean facing the wrong way? 0:14:05.040 --> 0:14:07.400 He lost interest and he was looking at something off 0:14:07.440 --> 0:14:10.200 that wasn't involved in cricket at all. And I just 0:14:10.240 --> 0:14:12.440 watched and I thought, oh, I'm proud of his son. 0:14:12.480 --> 0:14:15.680 I remember those days. Oh yeah, I remember those days. Man, Like, 0:14:16.080 --> 0:14:19.000 am I into this? I'm not really sure? And that 0:14:19.040 --> 0:14:21.440 looks interesting? What's happening over that house over there? I'm 0:14:21.440 --> 0:14:22.840 just going to watch that for a good three to 0:14:22.880 --> 0:14:23.920 four minutes exactly. 0:14:25.440 --> 0:14:28.160 So you've only got one kid playing sport, right. So 0:14:28.560 --> 0:14:31.480 on Saturday morning, my husband and I nearly got divorced 0:14:31.480 --> 0:14:34.280 over school sport. I'm not even kidding. So this is 0:14:34.320 --> 0:14:37.680 the schedule Saturday morning just gone. Peyton had to be 0:14:37.720 --> 0:14:39.720 at volleyball at nine to twenty five, Harper had to 0:14:39.720 --> 0:14:41.480 be a dance at nine. Some of them had to 0:14:41.480 --> 0:14:44.840 be danced at eleven. And unbeknownst to me, Andrew Hayes 0:14:44.880 --> 0:14:48.520 and it makes me so very angry, my husband signed 0:14:48.600 --> 0:14:52.360 summer up to not only volleyball but also touch football. 0:14:52.480 --> 0:14:53.360 Surprise touch footy. 0:14:53.600 --> 0:14:54.400 That's where that was. 0:14:54.480 --> 0:14:57.800 Surprise Touch footy yues where Darwin Golden Growth. Oh, my 0:14:58.040 --> 0:14:59.520 very goodness. 0:14:59.240 --> 0:14:59.840 Was supposed to do. 0:15:00.200 --> 0:15:00.760 That's not close. 0:15:00.760 --> 0:15:03.000 I supposed to do all that for eleven o'clock. We 0:15:03.920 --> 0:15:07.000 had to get grandma involved in order to get all 0:15:07.080 --> 0:15:11.200 these children to all these different places. School sports sucks. 0:15:11.400 --> 0:15:15.600 Whoa, but you're shaping the future athletes. It's next generation. 0:15:17.360 --> 0:15:19.840 You think my children are going to be professional volleyballers 0:15:19.960 --> 0:15:22.920 or touch footballers? Is that? That was the question I 0:15:22.920 --> 0:15:25.760 asked my husband on the weekend. Why are we doing this? 0:15:26.120 --> 0:15:27.160 Why for what end? 0:15:27.720 --> 0:15:32.600 Two of the poorest sports. Imagine long terms of professional futures. Oh, 0:15:32.760 --> 0:15:35.680 what's your kid do? He is a professional touch football player. Well, 0:15:35.760 --> 0:15:39.480 you're right living in some big mansion somewhere. 0:15:39.640 --> 0:15:41.720 If it was golf, sure, go for it. 0:15:42.160 --> 0:15:44.120 Give me some sort of glimmer of hope. 0:15:44.160 --> 0:15:47.120 But touch football and volleyball, where are we headed. 0:15:47.280 --> 0:15:50.720 That's two disgruntled parents who were right in the midst 0:15:50.760 --> 0:15:51.440 of school sport. 0:15:52.320 --> 0:15:55.160 And I definitely wasn't paying attention when I went along 0:15:55.240 --> 0:15:58.000 to the school sport either. What's in that house that. 0:15:57.920 --> 0:16:01.760 Makes two of us and mature audiences only and may 0:16:01.800 --> 0:16:04.720 contain had all content, graphic language and nudity, not that 0:16:04.760 --> 0:16:07.320 you'll see it. If it easily offended, Well you're about 0:16:07.320 --> 0:16:08.600 to find out just how it easily. 0:16:09.880 --> 0:16:14.680 Your father he's on the money, Jody, and has six. 0:16:16.160 --> 0:16:19.240 It is a chance to get this sort of you know, interesting, 0:16:19.280 --> 0:16:22.080 sort of risky blue stuff out of our systems before 0:16:22.120 --> 0:16:24.280 we wholesome it up after seven o'clock. 0:16:24.520 --> 0:16:26.720 And I have seen what's on the agenda of six 0:16:26.720 --> 0:16:29.160 point forty this morning, and I'm super excited about it. 0:16:29.160 --> 0:16:31.400 Actually, should I just rip in? You might just rip in. 0:16:31.560 --> 0:16:31.720 Yeah. 0:16:31.920 --> 0:16:35.200 A college student central China is making headlines after he 0:16:35.240 --> 0:16:37.720 accidentally started a fight in his dorm. Well that's not good. 0:16:38.120 --> 0:16:41.920 It's crazy isn't it while trying to hide his sex 0:16:42.000 --> 0:16:47.480 dole from his roommates. Yeah, that's right. Who saw that 0:16:47.520 --> 0:16:48.480 twist and turn coming? 0:16:48.640 --> 0:16:49.080 Not me? 0:16:49.320 --> 0:16:52.680 And that just pivot a really really interesting direction. The 0:16:52.720 --> 0:16:58.640 student was home alone and had his inflatable girlfriend when 0:16:58.640 --> 0:17:01.480 his roommate came home surprised, so there's no evidence as 0:17:01.520 --> 0:17:03.200 to whether he was in the middle of a love session. 0:17:03.800 --> 0:17:06.800 It was pre or posts okay, who knows, but he 0:17:06.840 --> 0:17:08.399 didn't have ever put her out into the hallway to 0:17:08.400 --> 0:17:10.720 try and destroy the evidence by setting her on fire, 0:17:11.040 --> 0:17:15.000 and that's where things got really really exposed. According to reports, 0:17:15.040 --> 0:17:17.200 the hallway was filled with smoke, leading to the alarm 0:17:17.320 --> 0:17:19.720 systems going off, so instead of his roommate finding out, 0:17:20.000 --> 0:17:25.960 everyone in the college found out new dirty, dirty young man. 0:17:26.200 --> 0:17:28.880 I feel sorry for that doll because that doll has 0:17:28.920 --> 0:17:32.720