WEBVTT - Lauren’s dad disappeared, parents banging and a letter to Sofia 0:00:00.040 --> 0:00:02.320 Ad a lady, ad a lady and a lady A 0:00:02.560 --> 0:00:05.120 lady unfiltered. Welcome to the show where we give up 0:00:05.160 --> 0:00:07.400 on life. My names Haylee and I am Lauren. 0:00:07.920 --> 0:00:09.600 We can't give up now. You've got to give up 0:00:09.600 --> 0:00:10.560 in like ten minutes time. 0:00:10.720 --> 0:00:13.560 Yeah, okay, thirty five minutes time. All right? 0:00:14.680 --> 0:00:16.720 Do you know who I want to be? I want 0:00:16.720 --> 0:00:19.919 to be David Pemberthy, him and his family, David Bowie. 0:00:20.760 --> 0:00:23.279 David Pembethe revived double As movie to Spain for six 0:00:23.320 --> 0:00:24.120 months with his family. 0:00:24.760 --> 0:00:28.120 David Pemberthy, it is Pemberthy. It sounds like you're doing 0:00:28.120 --> 0:00:28.800 the wrong inflection. 0:00:30.000 --> 0:00:32.520 I am the wrong inflection on the wrong salable. 0:00:32.720 --> 0:00:33.720 Is he going to Spain? 0:00:34.040 --> 0:00:34.479 Yeah? 0:00:34.560 --> 0:00:35.239 I just read it. 0:00:35.159 --> 0:00:37.760 Before and I'd love to do that with his wife 0:00:37.800 --> 0:00:40.839 and the kids. Oh they're just going to have like 0:00:41.920 --> 0:00:43.560 drinks and food and live. 0:00:43.440 --> 0:00:45.760 Their best and you can do that here. But it's Spain. 0:00:46.000 --> 0:00:47.240 It's Spain anyway. 0:00:47.320 --> 0:00:50.560 We're unfiltered. We are besties. We're business partners. Where the 0:00:50.720 --> 0:00:54.840 creators of ad Lady hollow I say, hay loosy Media 0:00:54.880 --> 0:00:59.960 and we do everything together except bang, start with a shot, 0:01:01.080 --> 0:01:02.560 don't a pistel. 0:01:02.600 --> 0:01:04.880 I've got a bissol. I can clean the couch. Okay, 0:01:05.040 --> 0:01:07.520 what you do, You're gonna have a bistle with a 0:01:07.520 --> 0:01:08.160 five year old? 0:01:08.319 --> 0:01:09.640 God, I need a bistle all right. 0:01:09.680 --> 0:01:12.320 Shopping list today, my friend, as you sip on your 0:01:12.319 --> 0:01:15.240 coffee that Millie just handed you because you can't move now, I. 0:01:15.240 --> 0:01:17.440 Literally said to Millie, MILLI, can you have me my coffee? 0:01:17.480 --> 0:01:19.240 It was sitting on that table, But then I thought 0:01:19.240 --> 0:01:20.800 she could stand there and be like a stand for me. 0:01:20.840 --> 0:01:22.800 That would be you're like the guy in the whale now, 0:01:22.959 --> 0:01:27.640 not saying you're a whale, but a whale. Frendon Frasier 0:01:27.800 --> 0:01:31.280 and he sits there and he's so like you're pregnant obviously, 0:01:31.360 --> 0:01:33.399 and you can't know what it's like to move, but 0:01:33.440 --> 0:01:34.480 you just cannot move. 0:01:34.520 --> 0:01:36.600 The thought of moving is that you need a crane 0:01:36.680 --> 0:01:37.240 to lift you up. 0:01:37.920 --> 0:01:41.000 And I'm comfortable, so the thought of moving and they're 0:01:41.040 --> 0:01:43.600 not being at this comfort level in the next twelve 0:01:43.600 --> 0:01:45.640 minutes or however long we do this podcast for, yeah, 0:01:45.800 --> 0:01:47.880 really got to me. So Milly just had him in 0:01:47.880 --> 0:01:48.920 my coffee. It was really nice. 0:01:48.960 --> 0:01:52.040 That's really nice. Shopping list, shopping list, We've. 0:01:51.920 --> 0:01:55.800 Got a couple of mems, yeah, and then you're gonna 0:01:55.800 --> 0:01:57.640 talk about I'm. 0:01:57.440 --> 0:01:58.760 Gonna talk about Sophia. 0:01:59.040 --> 0:02:03.480 You're little Sophia because you're about to have baby number two, and. 0:02:04.880 --> 0:02:06.520 I want to tell you how much the fear means 0:02:06.560 --> 0:02:06.760 to me. 0:02:07.600 --> 0:02:10.200 Oh, and I think I might get emotional because I 0:02:10.280 --> 0:02:13.120 never realized I could love someone that much who I 0:02:13.120 --> 0:02:13.960 didn't give birth to. 0:02:14.440 --> 0:02:16.600 You're lucky that I'm not emotional at the moment. So 0:02:16.800 --> 0:02:19.520 you know you're a rock. Yeah, I'm a rock. Yeah. 0:02:19.720 --> 0:02:21.320 Why you cried from time to time? 0:02:21.639 --> 0:02:23.880 I know, right, people say that a lot about me. 0:02:25.160 --> 0:02:28.080 I am cold. And I'm going to talk to you 0:02:28.240 --> 0:02:31.079 about something I did yesterday with my family and it 0:02:31.160 --> 0:02:33.799 really it was really lovely, and I'm going to ask 0:02:33.840 --> 0:02:38.280 you some questions about me emotionally. I like this. 0:02:38.520 --> 0:02:39.360 We're on the couch. 0:02:39.440 --> 0:02:41.120 We're on the couch. I literally want to lie on 0:02:41.160 --> 0:02:43.679 the couch. I did some deep diving off myself, which 0:02:43.680 --> 0:02:45.160 I don't like to do. Let's be honest. 0:02:45.400 --> 0:02:48.560 I like, I know, Oh, this is good and we 0:02:48.600 --> 0:02:50.360 can all use it as a tool for our own life. 0:02:50.400 --> 0:02:53.400 Yeah, okay, let's start with your men. 0:02:55.320 --> 0:02:59.000 So yesterday I was at my brother's house and we 0:02:59.080 --> 0:03:01.720 get a call from Mom. She goes, your dad went 0:03:01.840 --> 0:03:04.240 to get a massage at three o'clock and at six 0:03:04.400 --> 0:03:08.200 thirty it is not home. Listen to Pod six. 0:03:08.280 --> 0:03:09.840 I think it was when you find out what happens 0:03:09.880 --> 0:03:10.560 at massages. 0:03:11.440 --> 0:03:13.639 Yeah, look, my dad is wild. I mean last week 0:03:13.639 --> 0:03:16.200 we were learning he's doing tai chi. He's all about 0:03:16.200 --> 0:03:19.799 fitness and keeping up like his appearances. And he gets 0:03:19.840 --> 0:03:21.360 his nails done. Yeah, he gets his nails in a 0:03:21.360 --> 0:03:24.960 petty like it's so funny. Anyway, so at six thirty, 0:03:25.040 --> 0:03:27.520 I'm like, well, where'd he go. Mom's like, he went 0:03:27.560 --> 0:03:30.320 to Mitcham. He's got his guy and he went at 0:03:30.360 --> 0:03:32.320 three o'clock. And at six thirty, I'm cooking dinner and 0:03:32.360 --> 0:03:34.880 I'm worried. I'm like, yeah, And she always whenever she 0:03:34.920 --> 0:03:37.200 says I'm worried, like now that being pregnant, she goes, 0:03:37.240 --> 0:03:38.760 I don't mean to put this on you, but I'm worried. 0:03:38.800 --> 0:03:39.400 But I'm worried. 0:03:39.760 --> 0:03:42.440 Well, now I'm worried. To protect me, you're supposed to 0:03:42.480 --> 0:03:44.240 hop in the car and drive. But anyway, so Alex 0:03:44.280 --> 0:03:46.880 and I my brother, hopped in the car and we 0:03:46.960 --> 0:03:49.360 drove to Mitcham and we're driving down. Is it grange? 0:03:49.440 --> 0:03:49.640 Road. 0:03:49.680 --> 0:03:53.280 We're sitting next to KFC and in the distance I 0:03:53.320 --> 0:03:55.720 saw my dad's car sitting there, the only car in 0:03:55.760 --> 0:03:57.720 the car park. Where does my brain go? 0:03:57.840 --> 0:04:01.480 This is weird. Yeap, he's he's dead. He's dead. 0:04:01.640 --> 0:04:05.240 Yeah, so we jumped out of the car. Yeah, I 0:04:05.320 --> 0:04:07.840 parked horizontal a next Adad's car like barely stopped. I 0:04:07.840 --> 0:04:10.480 almost crashed into his car, and I made Alex look 0:04:10.520 --> 0:04:11.800 in because I didn't want to look in. 0:04:11.920 --> 0:04:13.200 He thought he was gonna be DoD in the car. 0:04:13.560 --> 0:04:15.880 Yeah, I didn't know. I'm sorry if you go to 0:04:15.920 --> 0:04:19.760 a massage at three o'clock and the shopping center shuts 0:04:19.800 --> 0:04:23.919 at five o'clock doing so, then we looked around the 0:04:23.960 --> 0:04:25.880 car and started looking around the car park because we're like, 0:04:25.880 --> 0:04:28.400 he's been mugged or something's happened. And then we're trying 0:04:28.400 --> 0:04:31.640 to get into the center. We've called it a million times, 0:04:31.680 --> 0:04:35.120 going to message bank, message bank. I met Now, Okay, 0:04:35.880 --> 0:04:38.480 so we're checking in all the doors, can't get into Mitcham. 0:04:38.520 --> 0:04:41.920 We've checked around, and then I call Burgo, my partner, 0:04:41.960 --> 0:04:43.880 and he's like, you need to call security. We need 0:04:43.880 --> 0:04:45.839 to get in there. We need to check bathrooms. So 0:04:45.880 --> 0:04:48.320 we're having a panic. We've called all my other brothers. 0:04:48.680 --> 0:04:50.599 By all my other brothers, I mean too yeah, because 0:04:50.640 --> 0:04:53.279 it's four of us. Yea, is he have you heard 0:04:53.279 --> 0:04:58.000 from him? Nothing? Calling mom? Still stressed. Then my phone rings. 0:04:58.040 --> 0:04:59.520 I'm at the door. I'm at the door. You know 0:04:59.560 --> 0:05:01.680 where Walla. I'm just at the door, about to run 0:05:01.720 --> 0:05:06.680 in start checking bathrooms. It's dad. Ah, Oh, my phone died. 0:05:07.600 --> 0:05:08.880 What excuse me? 0:05:09.240 --> 0:05:14.160 Ah? I mean you're getting a massage deal? Oh? I say, hello, what? 0:05:14.160 --> 0:05:16.719 What's six thirty at night? Why is he still getting 0:05:16.720 --> 0:05:19.600 a message? Because whatever his name is, the guy had 0:05:19.600 --> 0:05:21.560 to like tend to someone else and do something else. 0:05:21.560 --> 0:05:23.640 And by the time he started, it was like ten 0:05:23.720 --> 0:05:27.000 to five, and I've got nott similar Why are you here? 0:05:27.200 --> 0:05:28.360 Why are you stressed? 0:05:28.800 --> 0:05:29.080 Oh? 0:05:29.120 --> 0:05:32.440 My god? And I, Alex and I are looking Dad 0:05:32.800 --> 0:05:36.400 what And he goes, what are you doing? And we're 0:05:36.440 --> 0:05:39.120 like are you? Are you joking? But also they kick 0:05:39.200 --> 0:05:42.400 you out at five third They're done. Nah, Dad's supreme 0:05:42.440 --> 0:05:45.080 gold gold customer. I think is that they kept going 0:05:45.360 --> 0:05:46.800 working on his night. Cheat. 0:05:46.960 --> 0:05:48.320 This is cheap cheat. 0:05:48.320 --> 0:05:51.440 And then he goes, I have to go. Your Mum's 0:05:51.440 --> 0:05:54.400 cooked me the dinner and Alex and I are still 0:05:54.400 --> 0:05:57.960 looking at him blankly, going, do you understand? Like my 0:05:58.200 --> 0:06:01.960 heart when I saw his car, we're morbid. We've always 0:06:01.960 --> 0:06:02.880 had morbid brains. 0:06:03.000 --> 0:06:05.280 Only car in the car park, only. 0:06:05.040 --> 0:06:07.479 Car sitting under a spotlight. It was like something you 0:06:07.520 --> 0:06:09.719 see in a movie. And I was like, Alex, he goes, 0:06:09.720 --> 0:06:12.000 don't say it, Do not say it to me. So 0:06:12.040 --> 0:06:14.560 we've had a full panic attack. My heart was in 0:06:14.600 --> 0:06:17.880 my mouth, and then I've never been more excited to 0:06:17.920 --> 0:06:19.680 hear my dad's voice, but also like I wanted to 0:06:19.680 --> 0:06:22.560 punch him, but hug him. It was a lot of emotions. 0:06:22.640 --> 0:06:24.800 I would have called the TA. Wouldn't you just be 0:06:24.880 --> 0:06:26.880 at the pub next door? That's the first place I would. 0:06:26.720 --> 0:06:30.279 Bet on horses having a beer in his best life. No, 0:06:30.440 --> 0:06:32.680 I just, oh my gosh, I've never been. And we 0:06:32.760 --> 0:06:35.239 just hugged him and hugged him, and he goes, oh, 0:06:35.320 --> 0:06:41.720 how's work, how's that lady? How's Oh my, we're about 0:06:41.760 --> 0:06:43.720 to pass it. I'm about to go into labor, are you. 0:06:44.200 --> 0:06:46.080 Oh well, I gotta go. I wonder what your mom's 0:06:46.080 --> 0:06:46.719 cook for dinner. 0:06:46.880 --> 0:06:49.720 Oh my god, So that was last night. It's the fault, 0:06:49.720 --> 0:06:52.000 you know, how you brought up the Sandwich Generation a 0:06:52.000 --> 0:06:52.640 few weeks ago. 0:06:52.880 --> 0:06:55.120 That's that, Like, you're worrying about your parents at the 0:06:55.120 --> 0:06:57.200 same time your four year olds are five year olds 0:06:57.240 --> 0:06:59.360 at home. Yeah, having a tantrum like fight. 0:06:59.400 --> 0:07:00.400 You're in the middle it. 0:07:00.360 --> 0:07:02.640 And Alex and I just drove home in silence. He goes, 0:07:02.720 --> 0:07:05.719 I thought that was that was it, And I was 0:07:05.760 --> 0:07:09.479 like same. I was really scared that we love our parents. Hey, 0:07:09.840 --> 0:07:12.160 you and I are so close to our parents, and 0:07:12.200 --> 0:07:14.280 the fact that my dad is just so oblivious. I 0:07:14.280 --> 0:07:16.160 love him more than anything. But it was literally like, 0:07:16.720 --> 0:07:19.880 why are you here? Because Dad, all your family have 0:07:19.960 --> 0:07:21.760 called you like twenty seven times that we were about 0:07:21.760 --> 0:07:22.120 to call that. 0:07:22.240 --> 0:07:24.000 It's been three and a half hours since your message 0:07:24.200 --> 0:07:24.640 was meant to. 0:07:24.680 --> 0:07:26.440 Because it takes Dad three and a half hours to 0:07:26.440 --> 0:07:28.880 have an hour massage because he's so slow. 0:07:29.120 --> 0:07:31.040 That is just so freaking funny. 0:07:31.400 --> 0:07:34.320 Dino time. I've traveled overseas with Dino. He's on Dino time, 0:07:36.040 --> 0:07:41.960 Like surprisingly for a man that's quite like slow to 0:07:41.960 --> 0:07:45.000 get around. Buffet Breakfast. He was the first there every morning. 0:07:45.000 --> 0:07:47.600 Oh god, at seven o'clock in the morning, we are 0:07:47.640 --> 0:07:51.120 run up. At nine it's only six feet of bacon 0:07:51.240 --> 0:07:55.200 and coffee where bacon's involved. Don't get the way. Oh 0:07:55.200 --> 0:07:57.720 that's funny. Okay, I'm so glad that he is, okay, because 0:07:57.760 --> 0:07:58.440 I love him. 0:07:58.440 --> 0:07:59.440 He's like, oh you're dad. 0:07:59.640 --> 0:08:01.120 Yeah that was that was a lot. 0:08:01.400 --> 0:08:02.040 That is a lot. 0:08:02.200 --> 0:08:05.640 Okay. Funnily enough, my mem is also on my parents. 0:08:06.920 --> 0:08:09.120 This is okay, this that's the theme of today. Then 0:08:09.360 --> 0:08:10.800 it's our parents, it's our parents. 0:08:10.520 --> 0:08:11.280 It's our families. 0:08:12.320 --> 0:08:15.160 Oh it's a different kind of gear though, talking about 0:08:15.160 --> 0:08:16.040 what we're talking talking. 0:08:15.840 --> 0:08:18.440 We're about my dad having message massages, and we're talking 0:08:18.440 --> 0:08:19.680 about your dad banging. 0:08:23.360 --> 0:08:27.960 Oh yeah, it's so gross. Okay, I have an issue 0:08:27.960 --> 0:08:28.280 with this. 0:08:29.200 --> 0:08:32.040 My mom and dad. I love that they love each other. 0:08:32.400 --> 0:08:36.040 They they have been married for fifty something years, and 0:08:36.160 --> 0:08:39.920 Dad will still say, oh, look how hot your mom 0:08:39.960 --> 0:08:43.160 looks right now, Look how beautiful she is, And we'll 0:08:43.160 --> 0:08:46.200 walk in somewhere, and she is, she's beautiful. Studying He 0:08:46.280 --> 0:08:49.120 sees her as the moment he fell in love with her. 0:08:49.120 --> 0:08:51.360 He sees her as a twenty one year old and 0:08:51.880 --> 0:08:54.240 like he loved her so much, and gets threatened by 0:08:54.240 --> 0:08:57.520 other men as well. Still, oh, he thinks other people 0:08:57.520 --> 0:08:59.120 are looking at her. Of course he does, because she's 0:08:59.160 --> 0:09:00.840 the most beautiful in the room. 0:09:01.120 --> 0:09:02.320 My god, I love the way. 0:09:02.840 --> 0:09:07.320 Anyway, So Dad also is not a normal dad, which 0:09:07.320 --> 0:09:13.040 I'm very grateful for. He is very open about everything. 0:09:13.200 --> 0:09:15.520 He's like he's like a mom like I can talk 0:09:15.520 --> 0:09:16.920 to him about anything. 0:09:17.160 --> 0:09:21.880 Right. So the other day we were at soccer. 0:09:22.000 --> 0:09:24.760 We all went to watch my son and son play soccer, 0:09:24.880 --> 0:09:26.520 and then we all I went to work. They went 0:09:26.559 --> 0:09:28.480 home and he was meant to cut my mom's hair 0:09:28.480 --> 0:09:30.680 in the afternoon, because you know, when you're retired, you 0:09:30.760 --> 0:09:32.240 have one thing during the day. 0:09:32.360 --> 0:09:33.000 I have one. 0:09:32.880 --> 0:09:35.160 Appointment going to the optometry. 0:09:35.240 --> 0:09:37.120 What else are you doing? That's half an hour? What else? 0:09:37.240 --> 0:09:38.480 How else are you? What else are you doing for 0:09:38.520 --> 0:09:40.719 the rest of the day day? So I said to him, Mom, 0:09:40.760 --> 0:09:42.319 the next day, so do you get your haircut? 0:09:42.480 --> 0:09:45.199 No? And then Dad, because they when I talked to 0:09:45.240 --> 0:09:46.560 them on the phone, that's always together. 0:09:46.600 --> 0:09:47.920 They're like the Sidefeld parents. 0:09:48.000 --> 0:09:50.080 One phone in my phone it's Wayne and Rosa. 0:09:50.240 --> 0:09:52.520 Yeah and no even this morning you call them and 0:09:52.720 --> 0:09:56.319 white White, I've got to put your mother on speakers. 0:09:56.360 --> 0:09:58.640 You'll get annoyed at me. All right, Then Mom's. 0:09:58.440 --> 0:10:02.199 Hi, and they're both Anyway, I said, so what did 0:10:02.200 --> 0:10:04.320 you do after soccer? Did you cut mom's hair? And 0:10:04.360 --> 0:10:09.280 he's like, oh, wouldn't you want to know? And my 0:10:09.400 --> 0:10:13.280 mom's silent. At this point, I'm like, Dad, why with 0:10:13.360 --> 0:10:16.240 the weird inflection, I just said, did you cut mom's hair? 0:10:16.400 --> 0:10:18.960 Oh? Yeah, no, we were too tired. If you know what, 0:10:19.240 --> 0:10:21.040 I know what I'm talking about, if you knew what 0:10:21.080 --> 0:10:21.680 we were doing. 0:10:22.040 --> 0:10:25.240 And then Mom's like, ohh Wayne, don't she doesn't need 0:10:25.280 --> 0:10:28.000 to know that. And then and then Mom goes he's 0:10:28.120 --> 0:10:32.600 just joking and goes, no, I'm not. I'm like, I 0:10:32.600 --> 0:10:34.480 love that you love each other, but I don't want 0:10:34.480 --> 0:10:36.160 to know no about you. 0:10:36.200 --> 0:10:37.680 I don't want to know that you're having sex during 0:10:37.679 --> 0:10:39.440 the day as well. Why are you having sex during 0:10:39.440 --> 0:10:41.400 the day. I can't wait to be retired and have 0:10:41.559 --> 0:10:44.360 like a twelve o'clock back. We have to wait until 0:10:44.360 --> 0:10:46.080 we're tired until eight o'clock at night. 0:10:46.280 --> 0:10:49.760 But then it gets worse because I put this on 0:10:49.840 --> 0:10:52.480 social media as a video because I was so traumatized 0:10:52.480 --> 0:10:56.280 by it, and then Dad decided to inbox you. 0:10:56.760 --> 0:10:57.439 Oh I've got that. 0:10:57.840 --> 0:11:01.079 I got a message, and this makes it so much worse. 0:11:02.679 --> 0:11:04.880 But you know what I love, he knows that he's 0:11:04.920 --> 0:11:06.880 messaging me, because I was kind of like, are you 0:11:06.960 --> 0:11:09.480 messaging Hailey? Or because I didn't know whether he knew 0:11:09.480 --> 0:11:10.920 what he was messaging. He was on the unfiltered he 0:11:10.960 --> 0:11:13.959 was on the unfiltered page. Where's Wayne? So you did 0:11:14.000 --> 0:11:16.040 a video on it? And he goes, ha ha, Haley, 0:11:16.200 --> 0:11:18.760 how do you think you got here? An immacular conception? 0:11:19.240 --> 0:11:23.440 Love you low? So I replied, I saw it pop 0:11:23.480 --> 0:11:26.960 up like him, Wayne, it's Lauren, You're so funny. 0:11:26.720 --> 0:11:28.560 To which Wayne encourage him. 0:11:28.760 --> 0:11:31.079 I just was expected like a love heartbag. But I 0:11:31.080 --> 0:11:34.360 get hi, lovely Lauren. It's so funny. When your parents 0:11:34.360 --> 0:11:38.160 talk about still having sex, their kids always say how disgusting. 0:11:38.600 --> 0:11:42.400 Funnily enough, the pleasure of intimacy and the love for 0:11:42.480 --> 0:11:44.800 each other is not just for the young to enjoy. 0:11:45.080 --> 0:11:47.240 It keeps on going until it doesn't. 0:11:47.640 --> 0:11:49.880 Ah, pleasure. 0:11:50.120 --> 0:11:52.560 He used the word he used to pleasure, and I 0:11:52.640 --> 0:12:00.560 just went I went, okay, bye Wayne, Bye see let Wayne? Yeah, Dad, 0:12:00.679 --> 0:12:04.320 that's too much. I didn't know what to say. What 0:12:04.360 --> 0:12:07.120 am I gonna say? Well, keep on pleasure, have fun, Wayne, 0:12:07.160 --> 0:12:07.800 have a great week. 0:12:07.840 --> 0:12:11.720 Oh god, See, everybody is cringing in here right. Nobody 0:12:11.720 --> 0:12:14.520 wants to know that it's so nice that they love 0:12:14.559 --> 0:12:14.920 each other. 0:12:14.920 --> 0:12:15.800 But I don't want to know that. 0:12:15.880 --> 0:12:18.480 Don't tell you, and don't tell my friends, and use 0:12:18.520 --> 0:12:20.319 the word intimacy and pleasure. 0:12:20.559 --> 0:12:22.480 But it was very like thought out, like it was 0:12:22.520 --> 0:12:26.120 a lovely message, like he was nice about it, love. 0:12:26.000 --> 0:12:27.720 That you didn't even like it, you were just like 0:12:28.559 --> 0:12:28.880 I just. 0:12:28.800 --> 0:12:30.280 Saw it and then put my phone in the bin 0:12:30.360 --> 0:12:34.559 and then went to sleep. No, And we've all got 0:12:34.559 --> 0:12:37.080 a memory of catching our parents and it literally sticks 0:12:37.080 --> 0:12:38.120 with you for life. 0:12:38.480 --> 0:12:40.040 Tell me about the moment you caught your pis. 0:12:40.080 --> 0:12:41.880 I've never seen a man. I've never seen a man 0:12:41.960 --> 0:12:46.760 fly through the air quicker dad, like Superman through the air. 0:12:46.800 --> 0:12:49.560 And then was like this, didn't you walk. 0:12:49.360 --> 0:12:52.160 Into go and get breakfast or something? I wear my eggs. 0:12:54.400 --> 0:12:56.480 I've always been demanding, see you think it's a thing now, 0:12:56.720 --> 0:12:57.440 ten year old? Wrong? 0:12:57.600 --> 0:12:58.600 Money? What you just want? 0:12:59.480 --> 0:13:02.160 I want to your Dad's like I'm already like a 0:13:02.160 --> 0:13:03.160 pancake on your mum. 0:13:04.000 --> 0:13:06.520 Stop. Stop. It's funny when it's your dad, but it's 0:13:06.559 --> 0:13:07.120 not funny when. 0:13:07.000 --> 0:13:11.960 It's Oh, you don't want to know about your dad. Okay, 0:13:12.080 --> 0:13:13.800 there's a rule we won't talk about that. We don't 0:13:13.840 --> 0:13:16.120 talk about parents bagging. But then the funny thing is 0:13:16.640 --> 0:13:19.120 they would feel the same about us. Like I swear 0:13:19.160 --> 0:13:22.360 to God, my dad protective. You were in virginal until 0:13:22.360 --> 0:13:24.520 I was like, I'm pregnant, and I remember his face. 0:13:24.600 --> 0:13:26.680 He just looked at me, yeah, and looked at my 0:13:26.760 --> 0:13:29.000 belly and I could see his little clocks. 0:13:28.800 --> 0:13:31.920 Going, holy shit, I a thirty year old. No, I'm 0:13:31.960 --> 0:13:33.600 thirty two, has had sex. 0:13:33.640 --> 0:13:36.120 Our dads are so protective, and that's how protect. 0:13:36.160 --> 0:13:37.720 How I get him back, I just say, well, you 0:13:37.760 --> 0:13:40.120 know that your daughter also does that stuff. 0:13:40.160 --> 0:13:41.720 Yeah, and that kills him. 0:13:41.760 --> 0:13:43.880 So I never forget Berger coming because I was living 0:13:43.880 --> 0:13:45.560 at home at the time. I'd move back home and 0:13:45.600 --> 0:13:48.920 I was thirty and Bergio had his little suitcase and 0:13:48.920 --> 0:13:51.760 walked through the kitchen and Dad just goes, you fucking thinks, 0:13:51.760 --> 0:13:56.760 so do you? And Berger like and yeah, and it 0:13:56.920 --> 0:14:01.320 just like runs into my room. Everybody. 0:14:02.240 --> 0:14:04.120 Jimmy was the first person that was allowed to sleep 0:14:04.160 --> 0:14:06.480 in my room, and I was twenty one before that. 0:14:06.880 --> 0:14:09.200 We had to have chairs if we were to go 0:14:09.280 --> 0:14:11.920 anywhere in my room, we had to have chairs with 0:14:12.000 --> 0:14:14.600 the door open, so if anyone will pass, we could 0:14:14.800 --> 0:14:17.800 Who's gonna sit on his loundroom dining room chair and 0:14:17.840 --> 0:14:18.520 your bedroom. 0:14:19.120 --> 0:14:21.640 Anyway, all right, enough of that, enough of our parents, 0:14:21.640 --> 0:14:24.320 We love you, love you. No more banging talk about 0:14:24.320 --> 0:14:24.760 our parents. 0:14:25.160 --> 0:14:28.720 Let's go into your big session. This is a therapy 0:14:28.760 --> 0:14:29.920 session for everyone, right, This. 0:14:30.000 --> 0:14:31.800 Is a bit of a therapy session because I think 0:14:31.920 --> 0:14:35.680 in our busy lives, with our phones, we forget to 0:14:35.760 --> 0:14:38.680 just stop and just think about our mental health. And 0:14:38.720 --> 0:14:41.880 our mental health is so important to us, and we 0:14:41.960 --> 0:14:46.920 just keep going, especially with kids, kids, family, partners, work, 0:14:47.280 --> 0:14:50.840 everything's going. And then I find, especially at the end 0:14:50.880 --> 0:14:53.680 of the day, I've got nothing left. And what Burge 0:14:53.680 --> 0:14:56.040 and I will do is we'll scroll. You sit in 0:14:56.080 --> 0:14:58.520 bed and you scroll in your phone. And I just 0:14:59.200 --> 0:15:02.120 I think that needs to change. I just it's not 0:15:02.160 --> 0:15:05.000 a healthy way of life. But we're all in this trap. 0:15:05.040 --> 0:15:06.680 We've got our phones next to our bed, We've got 0:15:06.680 --> 0:15:09.200 our phones in the kitchen, wherever we are, we've got 0:15:09.200 --> 0:15:09.600 our phone. 0:15:09.680 --> 0:15:09.840 Yep. 0:15:10.200 --> 0:15:12.920 So yesterday all of my family were kind of sitting 0:15:12.960 --> 0:15:17.440 around and we were talking, and Bergo just said, why 0:15:17.440 --> 0:15:19.560 don't we do something where we write down five things 0:15:19.640 --> 0:15:21.760 we want to stop and five things we want to start. 0:15:21.800 --> 0:15:23.560 And I was like, all right, Oprah, can't be. 0:15:23.640 --> 0:15:30.000 Bother and I don't think of anything. My brain is blavy. No, 0:15:30.520 --> 0:15:31.760 like I can't think of anything. 0:15:31.800 --> 0:15:33.200 I want to know me either. 0:15:33.280 --> 0:15:36.640 I was like five. I was like, give me some ideas. Okay, 0:15:36.840 --> 0:15:39.320 I want to read your mind. They might be silly, 0:15:39.520 --> 0:15:43.120 that's okay, Okay. So the five things I want to 0:15:43.160 --> 0:15:48.000 stop is not being present, putting things before family, not 0:15:48.080 --> 0:15:51.480 putting Lauren as a priority, not eating well and drinking 0:15:51.560 --> 0:15:55.680 enough water, and feeling anxious about things you can't control. 0:15:55.840 --> 0:15:56.200 I e. 0:15:56.840 --> 0:16:00.400 Wars, taxes in Afghanistan because I viral. 0:16:00.560 --> 0:16:00.760 Yeah. 0:16:00.800 --> 0:16:03.120 Yeah, I look at these beautiful little girls overseas and 0:16:03.160 --> 0:16:04.920 I look at kids, and I look at wars and 0:16:04.920 --> 0:16:06.880 it physically. 0:16:06.720 --> 0:16:07.240 I know you do. 0:16:07.320 --> 0:16:09.640 You will send me stuff and I blocked that stuff 0:16:09.680 --> 0:16:10.760 because I can't let it. 0:16:10.880 --> 0:16:11.600 I can't change it. 0:16:11.720 --> 0:16:13.120 So painful. 0:16:13.240 --> 0:16:16.720 No, it's good to know that it exists, but not 0:16:16.760 --> 0:16:18.800 when it affects your own mental health. Here, there's nothing 0:16:18.880 --> 0:16:21.080 you can do about it. No, and in your own 0:16:21.160 --> 0:16:23.040 shit going on? Okay, let's start form number one again. 0:16:23.040 --> 0:16:23.440 What was it? 0:16:23.680 --> 0:16:24.440 Not being present? 0:16:25.720 --> 0:16:26.000 Yeah? 0:16:26.040 --> 0:16:28.960 This is a hard one because when you run a business, 0:16:28.960 --> 0:16:31.760 your brain is constantly ticking over and when you're having 0:16:31.760 --> 0:16:34.720 conversations with people. I'm guilty of this one hundred percent. 0:16:35.000 --> 0:16:36.600 So if I'm thinking of other things, if. 0:16:36.480 --> 0:16:39.680 I'm playing Barbies, yeah, I'm sitting there, Like last night, 0:16:39.760 --> 0:16:42.920 I'm sitting there playing with Sofia, and I go, oh, 0:16:43.000 --> 0:16:45.840 Long's tables coming up two weeks seating plan. Actually, I 0:16:45.840 --> 0:16:47.480 think I'm going to change this person to this person, 0:16:47.480 --> 0:16:49.440 and this table to this table, and I actually need 0:16:49.480 --> 0:16:52.560 to message this table about this and and the live auction. 0:16:52.680 --> 0:16:54.480 I had the live auction in my head. Also, Fia 0:16:54.520 --> 0:16:57.720 wants me to do is play Barbies in that ten 0:16:57.760 --> 0:16:59.920 minutes of time I'm thinking about. 0:16:59.920 --> 0:17:01.480 It's really hard. 0:17:01.640 --> 0:17:03.320