1 00:00:00,320 --> 00:00:03,040 Speaker 1: So you're gonna have to drop him, girl, and if not, 2 00:00:03,120 --> 00:00:05,320 Speaker 1: message his friend Johnny. 3 00:00:05,320 --> 00:00:14,200 Speaker 2: Yeah, the other guy? Why not Yellow? Hi, guys, welcome 4 00:00:14,240 --> 00:00:18,239 Speaker 2: back to Just for Girls. We are one week out 5 00:00:18,360 --> 00:00:20,120 Speaker 2: from getting on the plane to coach Hello. 6 00:00:20,200 --> 00:00:23,040 Speaker 1: When we record this, and as you're listening, we'll be 7 00:00:23,120 --> 00:00:25,239 Speaker 1: on the fucking we're at the airport. If you're listening 8 00:00:25,280 --> 00:00:27,639 Speaker 1: as soon as it comes out, or if you're just 9 00:00:27,640 --> 00:00:29,400 Speaker 1: listening it to on Tuesday. 10 00:00:29,680 --> 00:00:32,600 Speaker 2: We're on the fucking plane. I'm like, so dying. Send 11 00:00:32,680 --> 00:00:36,600 Speaker 2: us thoughts and prayers. Yeah, not a good flyer over here. 12 00:00:36,840 --> 00:00:37,560 Speaker 2: We'll neither, babe. 13 00:00:37,600 --> 00:00:39,839 Speaker 1: You'll be in business. You'd be living life. I will be. 14 00:00:39,920 --> 00:00:41,519 Speaker 2: But if the plane goes down, it doesn't matter if 15 00:00:41,560 --> 00:00:44,640 Speaker 2: I'm in business, does it? The plane comes, it goes down. 16 00:00:45,720 --> 00:00:48,800 Speaker 2: I was on a miniplane last week. It was like 17 00:00:49,640 --> 00:00:52,360 Speaker 2: not the smallest plane I've ever been on. One seat 18 00:00:52,840 --> 00:00:55,240 Speaker 2: for one row and then two seats across the aisle 19 00:00:55,800 --> 00:00:57,880 Speaker 2: and the back row. Hannah was sitting in it, and 20 00:00:57,880 --> 00:00:59,600 Speaker 2: it was funny. It was like a bus, you know how, 21 00:00:59,720 --> 00:01:02,000 Speaker 2: like you'll have the aisle and there's one seat that's 22 00:01:02,080 --> 00:01:04,360 Speaker 2: like facing down the whole aisle because the whole back 23 00:01:04,440 --> 00:01:06,639 Speaker 2: road is like full of seats like a bus. Hannah 24 00:01:06,760 --> 00:01:08,920 Speaker 2: was on that. Anyway, it was, it was okay, It 25 00:01:09,040 --> 00:01:12,039 Speaker 2: was okay. I lived and Cairo gave me a piece 26 00:01:12,040 --> 00:01:14,559 Speaker 2: of fluff out of her soft toy that she said 27 00:01:14,640 --> 00:01:16,960 Speaker 2: when someone goes like this is good luck, even if 28 00:01:16,959 --> 00:01:18,640 Speaker 2: it's not good luck and it's never been good luck 29 00:01:18,680 --> 00:01:21,080 Speaker 2: to them before, if you tell me something's good luck, 30 00:01:21,120 --> 00:01:22,640 Speaker 2: I'm now like, well I have to keep it then, 31 00:01:23,240 --> 00:01:25,880 Speaker 2: so I still have her fluff in my handbag. So 32 00:01:26,200 --> 00:01:29,480 Speaker 2: thanks guy, that's cute. But yeah, what have you been 33 00:01:29,560 --> 00:01:31,959 Speaker 2: up to? You had a huge week in Sydney shooting 34 00:01:32,000 --> 00:01:34,920 Speaker 2: something really exciting. Yes, was in. 35 00:01:36,560 --> 00:01:39,199 Speaker 1: May and June. You guys will see it all in store. 36 00:01:39,200 --> 00:01:39,800 Speaker 1: I'm not allowed to. 37 00:01:39,760 --> 00:01:41,880 Speaker 2: Say what it is yet, but yeah, how was the 38 00:01:42,480 --> 00:01:43,840 Speaker 2: How was shooting it? 39 00:01:44,120 --> 00:01:47,120 Speaker 1: It was so much fun? I think like more props 40 00:01:47,240 --> 00:01:49,600 Speaker 1: need to need to go to models, Like how fucking 41 00:01:49,720 --> 00:01:52,200 Speaker 1: tiring it is? Like the whole time was like five 42 00:01:52,280 --> 00:01:54,400 Speaker 1: am and you're like sitting there in your makeup chair. 43 00:01:54,600 --> 00:01:55,200 Speaker 2: What with the hours? 44 00:01:55,280 --> 00:01:59,520 Speaker 1: Like it was five am and then wrapped up at twelve. 45 00:01:59,800 --> 00:02:04,520 Speaker 1: But it's like they time certain outfits for certain videos, 46 00:02:04,600 --> 00:02:07,000 Speaker 1: so like you've got a certain time, and then they're 47 00:02:07,000 --> 00:02:09,280 Speaker 1: a videographer camera, like you're on the go, go, go go, 48 00:02:09,480 --> 00:02:11,560 Speaker 1: Like there is so much going on and you're like 49 00:02:12,000 --> 00:02:15,840 Speaker 1: being touched, like not like inappropriately, but like there is 50 00:02:15,960 --> 00:02:17,960 Speaker 1: just no personal space, Like they're grabbing your boobs, they're 51 00:02:17,960 --> 00:02:21,040 Speaker 1: talking the bra into this bad It's like you have 52 00:02:21,160 --> 00:02:23,880 Speaker 1: to be okay with being touched all day like. 53 00:02:23,960 --> 00:02:25,480 Speaker 2: That all day. I feel like you need to not 54 00:02:25,600 --> 00:02:26,760 Speaker 2: mind a little bit of intention. 55 00:02:27,080 --> 00:02:29,239 Speaker 1: Yeah no, no, And like where we were shooting in 56 00:02:29,280 --> 00:02:30,799 Speaker 1: the middle of the city, so it's not like you're 57 00:02:30,800 --> 00:02:35,040 Speaker 1: shooting in the studio like changing out yeah yeah, oh yeah, 58 00:02:35,800 --> 00:02:38,679 Speaker 1: and we're like right near the Sydney people Regni. No. 59 00:02:39,120 --> 00:02:40,679 Speaker 1: I was like in a part of Sydney that's like 60 00:02:41,160 --> 00:02:44,600 Speaker 1: business y, business but also very touristy, not like locals 61 00:02:44,639 --> 00:02:45,280 Speaker 1: don't go there. 62 00:02:45,560 --> 00:02:47,600 Speaker 2: Okay, so you were fine and yeah that would have 63 00:02:47,639 --> 00:02:48,519 Speaker 2: been really embarrassing. 64 00:02:48,840 --> 00:02:50,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, and like you change in the middle of the street. 65 00:02:50,880 --> 00:02:53,840 Speaker 1: But it was so fucking tiring, Like I woke up 66 00:02:53,880 --> 00:02:56,280 Speaker 1: with like four point thirty because you you can't just 67 00:02:56,360 --> 00:02:58,880 Speaker 1: walk up and go don't like let the makeup artist in, 68 00:02:59,000 --> 00:03:02,400 Speaker 1: Like you need a present, a shower, like yeah, brush 69 00:03:02,440 --> 00:03:05,880 Speaker 1: your teeth, and then I finished at twelve and then 70 00:03:06,520 --> 00:03:08,720 Speaker 1: went straight to the airport, bought it a flight at 71 00:03:08,760 --> 00:03:12,360 Speaker 1: one point thirty, came back, got off the plate. 72 00:03:12,720 --> 00:03:17,920 Speaker 2: Your moving house during this week to me is mind's buggering? Yeah, stress, 73 00:03:18,080 --> 00:03:19,359 Speaker 2: I feel for you. 74 00:03:19,880 --> 00:03:20,280 Speaker 1: Thanks. 75 00:03:20,840 --> 00:03:22,760 Speaker 2: Where how's that going? Well? 76 00:03:22,840 --> 00:03:24,960 Speaker 1: Yeah? And then I got home, went to a birthday. 77 00:03:25,040 --> 00:03:28,000 Speaker 1: Then all weekend I packed my house. My house is 78 00:03:28,040 --> 00:03:30,519 Speaker 1: still somehow a fucking pig stye because it's like you 79 00:03:30,600 --> 00:03:33,239 Speaker 1: also have to live in it while so then it's. 80 00:03:33,080 --> 00:03:34,480 Speaker 2: Like there's certain things that you're like, I can't pack 81 00:03:34,560 --> 00:03:35,360 Speaker 2: that because I need that. 82 00:03:35,760 --> 00:03:38,800 Speaker 1: Yes, and then I'm also packing for America because I'm like, 83 00:03:38,880 --> 00:03:41,000 Speaker 1: I don't want to be trying to find shit once. 84 00:03:41,280 --> 00:03:43,160 Speaker 2: You move on the weekend and then we leave on Tuesday. 85 00:03:43,360 --> 00:03:46,120 Speaker 1: Yes, that is so I'm like, I'm packing for America, 86 00:03:46,200 --> 00:03:48,000 Speaker 1: so I'm not I'm putting certain things in my suit. 87 00:03:48,040 --> 00:03:49,960 Speaker 2: So you're kind of you'll basically be packed for America. 88 00:03:49,960 --> 00:03:52,440 Speaker 2: But yes, you move. Yeah, that's at least one positive. 89 00:03:52,440 --> 00:03:54,120 Speaker 2: Once you move out, at least you can then be like, 90 00:03:54,720 --> 00:03:56,320 Speaker 2: well you have to unpack out. 91 00:03:56,520 --> 00:03:59,839 Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, so it's going to be a big couple. 92 00:04:00,800 --> 00:04:02,880 Speaker 2: Yeah, Well you're killing it once you get in that 93 00:04:02,960 --> 00:04:06,400 Speaker 2: plane and everything's I'll be good done have one. 94 00:04:06,720 --> 00:04:09,160 Speaker 1: Also, having booked my accommodation, I don't need to do. 95 00:04:09,640 --> 00:04:13,200 Speaker 2: So. It is also April first, April Fool's Day, and 96 00:04:13,440 --> 00:04:14,680 Speaker 2: they've just pranked me. 97 00:04:15,120 --> 00:04:18,919 Speaker 1: Yeah. Easy came a little bit later and kitsch Blake 98 00:04:19,000 --> 00:04:23,239 Speaker 1: and I were like, whose idea was that mine? Because 99 00:04:23,279 --> 00:04:25,240 Speaker 1: they told me something and I was like, better, I'll 100 00:04:25,279 --> 00:04:27,760 Speaker 1: be lying to be. It's because it's April first, And. 101 00:04:27,800 --> 00:04:29,680 Speaker 2: Now I think about it, I knew it was April first. 102 00:04:29,720 --> 00:04:31,680 Speaker 2: I've seen all these pranks, Like a friend of mine 103 00:04:31,720 --> 00:04:34,279 Speaker 2: like started doing a prank yesterday on a them organic 104 00:04:34,360 --> 00:04:36,640 Speaker 2: page and I'm like, I know it's April Fools, yet 105 00:04:36,640 --> 00:04:38,400 Speaker 2: today I just rock up and I believe fucking everything 106 00:04:38,440 --> 00:04:38,760 Speaker 2: they say. 107 00:04:38,839 --> 00:04:41,599 Speaker 1: And they told me that the visas were Trump canceled 108 00:04:41,640 --> 00:04:42,279 Speaker 1: all love visas. 109 00:04:42,520 --> 00:04:45,000 Speaker 2: Trump like isn't letting anyone into America unless they're like 110 00:04:45,080 --> 00:04:50,120 Speaker 2: Americans returning home, meaning our fucking month in Americans are 111 00:04:50,320 --> 00:04:53,360 Speaker 2: fucked anyway, But it's a lie, and we're going and 112 00:04:53,480 --> 00:04:55,960 Speaker 2: we can't fucking wait. And no, I'm not packed, No 113 00:04:56,080 --> 00:04:59,440 Speaker 2: I'm not organized. I will probably only be organized on 114 00:04:59,560 --> 00:05:02,000 Speaker 2: Monday night. What time do we get to the airport, 115 00:05:02,200 --> 00:05:04,000 Speaker 2: we leave at eleven fifty five am. 116 00:05:04,440 --> 00:05:07,200 Speaker 1: Oh okay, yeah, I haven't had my flight detail something 117 00:05:07,200 --> 00:05:07,400 Speaker 1: to me. 118 00:05:07,600 --> 00:05:10,440 Speaker 2: I booked my own flat. Probably should get onto that, 119 00:05:11,000 --> 00:05:13,320 Speaker 2: all right, guys. But this week we're doing dilemmas, and 120 00:05:13,440 --> 00:05:15,240 Speaker 2: it's been a little while. I think since we have 121 00:05:15,520 --> 00:05:17,120 Speaker 2: done that, we wanted to change it up a little 122 00:05:17,120 --> 00:05:20,279 Speaker 2: bit because we got into the rhythm. We love dilemmas, 123 00:05:20,320 --> 00:05:22,000 Speaker 2: so we were doing them so much. But you know what, 124 00:05:22,160 --> 00:05:22,679 Speaker 2: don't fret. 125 00:05:22,960 --> 00:05:25,599 Speaker 1: Yeah, we're back and we're going to split this episode 126 00:05:25,680 --> 00:05:28,280 Speaker 1: over two weeks, so you guys can hear some of 127 00:05:28,400 --> 00:05:32,320 Speaker 1: the other dilemmas next week because obviously we're in America 128 00:05:32,360 --> 00:05:33,840 Speaker 1: at the time, and there was so much going on 129 00:05:33,920 --> 00:05:36,240 Speaker 1: and it's really chaotic, and I think last time we 130 00:05:36,400 --> 00:05:39,719 Speaker 1: learnt the hard way of like it's to range. Yeah, 131 00:05:39,880 --> 00:05:43,320 Speaker 1: So where won't be recording episodes while we're over there. 132 00:05:43,839 --> 00:05:46,160 Speaker 1: There will be some best of episodes and also some 133 00:05:46,320 --> 00:05:48,760 Speaker 1: dilemmas that will be going out while we're there, just 134 00:05:48,800 --> 00:05:50,880 Speaker 1: so we can really enjoy the time and be present 135 00:05:51,040 --> 00:05:51,919 Speaker 1: while we're in America. 136 00:05:52,080 --> 00:05:54,240 Speaker 2: So make sure you guys still get your weekly dose 137 00:05:54,320 --> 00:05:57,960 Speaker 2: of Salmonis that fret. All right, let's get into the 138 00:05:58,720 --> 00:06:09,839 Speaker 2: cool question of the week. Okay, Sam, what is one 139 00:06:09,960 --> 00:06:13,760 Speaker 2: thing your cats could say that would completely ruin your 140 00:06:13,800 --> 00:06:14,880 Speaker 2: image if they could? 141 00:06:15,520 --> 00:06:19,200 Speaker 1: Oh, my fucking god, I say this all the time, Vinnie. 142 00:06:19,279 --> 00:06:24,120 Speaker 1: If he could speak, he would be he'd ruin my life. Yeah. Wait, 143 00:06:24,160 --> 00:06:25,000 Speaker 1: but I don't want to say. 144 00:06:26,800 --> 00:06:29,360 Speaker 2: I don't want to tell them because it would ruin, 145 00:06:29,760 --> 00:06:30,280 Speaker 2: It would ruin. 146 00:06:31,000 --> 00:06:34,480 Speaker 1: Well, he can't speak for a reason. I think he 147 00:06:34,640 --> 00:06:38,119 Speaker 1: would out me for the people that come into my house. 148 00:06:38,760 --> 00:06:40,520 Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, that's a good one. 149 00:06:40,720 --> 00:06:44,440 Speaker 1: Yeah, because he's like, I know you shouldn't be here. Yeah, yeah, 150 00:06:44,480 --> 00:06:46,880 Speaker 1: I think he'd I think if he had a burner account. 151 00:06:47,560 --> 00:06:49,760 Speaker 1: So there there is one burner account on TikTok that 152 00:06:49,839 --> 00:06:51,600 Speaker 1: outed me on the weekend. 153 00:06:51,720 --> 00:06:52,280 Speaker 2: What did they say? 154 00:06:54,120 --> 00:06:55,920 Speaker 1: I may have may not gone through the Maca's drive 155 00:06:56,000 --> 00:06:56,240 Speaker 1: through with. 156 00:06:56,320 --> 00:06:59,920 Speaker 2: Someone okay, or may not have meaning you I did. 157 00:07:01,400 --> 00:07:06,000 Speaker 1: At midnight on Saturday night, okay, And I locked eyes 158 00:07:06,080 --> 00:07:08,159 Speaker 1: with one girl and I knew when she looked. 159 00:07:08,040 --> 00:07:10,160 Speaker 2: Me in the eyes, she knew exactly. She was like 160 00:07:10,320 --> 00:07:10,720 Speaker 2: who you were? 161 00:07:11,000 --> 00:07:12,400 Speaker 1: You don't want to be seen here? 162 00:07:12,520 --> 00:07:14,160 Speaker 2: And I was like, no, I don't. 163 00:07:14,720 --> 00:07:16,680 Speaker 1: And yep, why is it it on TikTok now, so 164 00:07:17,000 --> 00:07:18,800 Speaker 1: thank you very much. Take rand Mackers. 165 00:07:19,080 --> 00:07:24,200 Speaker 2: Yeah fair, I think my cat. I think they would 166 00:07:24,200 --> 00:07:26,160 Speaker 2: out my sleep schedule. I lied to my friends a 167 00:07:26,200 --> 00:07:30,920 Speaker 2: lot about like I wake up? What times you worke 168 00:07:30,960 --> 00:07:33,760 Speaker 2: up today? I'm like eleven, No, it was three thirty. 169 00:07:34,000 --> 00:07:36,160 Speaker 2: But no one needs to know that except my cat. 170 00:07:36,520 --> 00:07:40,320 Speaker 2: I don't really think there's much My cat doesn't really 171 00:07:40,400 --> 00:07:41,720 Speaker 2: like me that much right now, so I don't really 172 00:07:41,720 --> 00:07:44,480 Speaker 2: think she hangs outround me too much. So but I 173 00:07:44,560 --> 00:07:46,400 Speaker 2: just think it would more be what you say, who 174 00:07:46,480 --> 00:07:47,760 Speaker 2: you talk to, what goes on. 175 00:07:48,040 --> 00:07:50,680 Speaker 1: The debriefs in the living room with my housemates would 176 00:07:50,680 --> 00:07:54,080 Speaker 1: definitely like shouldn't go need the internet, so I. 177 00:07:54,120 --> 00:07:55,840 Speaker 2: Think because I don't live with house like I live 178 00:07:55,840 --> 00:07:57,720 Speaker 2: with my sister. Yes, but like I wouldn't say we 179 00:07:58,720 --> 00:08:00,840 Speaker 2: particularly debrief mut like it's kind of. 180 00:08:00,920 --> 00:08:02,520 Speaker 1: Just like the first thing there. 181 00:08:02,520 --> 00:08:04,200 Speaker 2: I'm more key to myself. I'll call my friends if 182 00:08:04,200 --> 00:08:07,160 Speaker 2: I have something going on, like Raley's just there, love your. 183 00:08:07,720 --> 00:08:09,840 Speaker 1: Right, No, see, like we come home and we're like 184 00:08:10,000 --> 00:08:10,560 Speaker 1: what's the tea? 185 00:08:10,960 --> 00:08:14,040 Speaker 2: Yeah? Yeah, like what what tea do you have for me? 186 00:08:14,280 --> 00:08:16,800 Speaker 2: It would just be the classic girl bitching and drama. 187 00:08:16,920 --> 00:08:19,280 Speaker 1: To be honest, I feel like it's that's so normal 188 00:08:19,400 --> 00:08:20,240 Speaker 1: under your roof. 189 00:08:20,600 --> 00:08:25,320 Speaker 2: It's so normal, and I feel like people you're a 190 00:08:25,480 --> 00:08:29,000 Speaker 2: normalized like sort of venting or I'm like, but that's 191 00:08:29,120 --> 00:08:30,440 Speaker 2: just what we do. And if you're doing it to 192 00:08:30,480 --> 00:08:32,480 Speaker 2: eat someone like your sister or like your best friend, 193 00:08:32,640 --> 00:08:34,800 Speaker 2: sometimes you just need to get it out to be fair. 194 00:08:34,880 --> 00:08:36,560 Speaker 2: So I don't think it's all that big a deal. 195 00:08:36,720 --> 00:08:38,440 Speaker 1: You're saying it in the comfort of your home as well. 196 00:08:38,520 --> 00:08:39,640 Speaker 1: It's not like you're gossiping. 197 00:08:40,160 --> 00:08:41,679 Speaker 2: You're just meant to be real if you don't do 198 00:08:41,720 --> 00:08:45,000 Speaker 2: what you're lying. So if I'm yeah, I'm. 199 00:08:44,920 --> 00:08:47,839 Speaker 1: Also what the fuck is this Aussie content house thing? 200 00:08:48,400 --> 00:08:54,679 Speaker 1: B I'm just confused. So obviously, like where where's the content? 201 00:08:55,720 --> 00:08:58,400 Speaker 2: Yeah, you're not actually pumping out content like you should be. 202 00:08:58,440 --> 00:09:01,000 Speaker 2: If you're actually in a place that called the content house, 203 00:09:01,000 --> 00:09:03,600 Speaker 2: you would think that'll be posting like twelve videos a day, 204 00:09:03,760 --> 00:09:06,120 Speaker 2: like working with brands, you know. But they're all just 205 00:09:06,200 --> 00:09:07,880 Speaker 2: posting weird little videos of each other. 206 00:09:09,040 --> 00:09:10,080 Speaker 1: And I'm confused. 207 00:09:10,200 --> 00:09:13,199 Speaker 2: It's not they're not like high quality videos, good videos, 208 00:09:13,280 --> 00:09:15,800 Speaker 2: none Like. I just I don't understand what the point 209 00:09:15,840 --> 00:09:18,840 Speaker 2: of it is. Except that there's been obviously a whole 210 00:09:18,880 --> 00:09:22,559 Speaker 2: fucking drama. But beyond that, I'm just confused at why 211 00:09:22,679 --> 00:09:25,280 Speaker 2: they've done it, how long they're there, what's the point? 212 00:09:25,320 --> 00:09:26,560 Speaker 1: Well, apparently it's over now. 213 00:09:26,960 --> 00:09:29,480 Speaker 2: Also it's been they would it was an Aussie condour 214 00:09:29,520 --> 00:09:33,480 Speaker 2: house for a weekend because number of high pouse they 215 00:09:33,520 --> 00:09:36,040 Speaker 2: actually lived there for years. 216 00:09:36,520 --> 00:09:39,439 Speaker 1: I the other day I was talking about it in 217 00:09:39,520 --> 00:09:43,000 Speaker 1: my close friends. I kind of said, like I am 218 00:09:43,240 --> 00:09:44,839 Speaker 1: like a lover of close friends and I was like, 219 00:09:44,960 --> 00:09:47,599 Speaker 1: what the fuck is this Aussie content house thing? Like 220 00:09:48,040 --> 00:09:50,320 Speaker 1: who the fuck is going on? This Spanish manager? 221 00:09:50,400 --> 00:09:52,959 Speaker 2: Yeah, I guess like apparently is there a brand that 222 00:09:53,080 --> 00:09:55,200 Speaker 2: was running it and organizing it that's getting any money 223 00:09:55,240 --> 00:09:57,920 Speaker 2: from it? Like I actually like who paid for the house? 224 00:09:58,360 --> 00:09:58,560 Speaker 1: Yeah? 225 00:09:58,640 --> 00:09:59,920 Speaker 2: I just I don't think. 226 00:10:00,160 --> 00:10:01,959 Speaker 1: I don't know who's the organizer of it. And I 227 00:10:02,120 --> 00:10:04,800 Speaker 1: just said, this is a recipe for a disaster. I 228 00:10:04,840 --> 00:10:06,679 Speaker 1: can see it going so wrong. And this was like 229 00:10:07,040 --> 00:10:09,199 Speaker 1: the night before it started, and I put that on 230 00:10:09,280 --> 00:10:12,600 Speaker 1: my main fucking story like a couple of monks. 231 00:10:12,960 --> 00:10:15,400 Speaker 2: Well, see my thing is what I noticed as well 232 00:10:15,440 --> 00:10:17,520 Speaker 2: as I came up on my Instagram and I had 233 00:10:17,559 --> 00:10:20,240 Speaker 2: to look at the page prior to all of it happening, 234 00:10:20,280 --> 00:10:21,600 Speaker 2: and like they showed a lot of people that are 235 00:10:21,600 --> 00:10:24,199 Speaker 2: meant to be going in. Half the people didn't actually 236 00:10:24,280 --> 00:10:26,080 Speaker 2: end up going in. I think because the moment they 237 00:10:26,160 --> 00:10:28,280 Speaker 2: saw it, they were like, yeah, no, this isn't going 238 00:10:28,360 --> 00:10:31,480 Speaker 2: to be anything good for me. It just seemed like 239 00:10:31,520 --> 00:10:33,240 Speaker 2: it was a weekend to have some drinks and hang 240 00:10:33,240 --> 00:10:33,960 Speaker 2: out with some friends. 241 00:10:34,040 --> 00:10:34,320 Speaker 1: But like. 242 00:10:36,400 --> 00:10:39,079 Speaker 2: The big Aussie content house, I don't get it. And 243 00:10:39,160 --> 00:10:41,760 Speaker 2: I think if you're going to create an Aussie content house, 244 00:10:42,559 --> 00:10:44,400 Speaker 2: to make it something that could be like the High 245 00:10:44,440 --> 00:10:45,959 Speaker 2: Pass or something, Look, it's never going to be that 246 00:10:46,000 --> 00:10:48,640 Speaker 2: because we're Australian and Australian just has a smaller reach. 247 00:10:49,200 --> 00:10:52,240 Speaker 2: It needs to be done so differently. I just think 248 00:10:52,360 --> 00:10:56,040 Speaker 2: considering they didn't even like last the period what they 249 00:10:56,080 --> 00:10:59,000 Speaker 2: were there for the weekend, weren't they it was and 250 00:10:59,080 --> 00:11:03,160 Speaker 2: now it clearly didn't work out the way they probably 251 00:11:03,200 --> 00:11:04,360 Speaker 2: wanted it to either. 252 00:11:04,440 --> 00:11:05,920 Speaker 1: So I just think there needed to be a lot 253 00:11:05,960 --> 00:11:09,439 Speaker 1: more planning and execution in more people as well, contracts 254 00:11:09,480 --> 00:11:10,640 Speaker 1: probably signed. 255 00:11:10,720 --> 00:11:14,760 Speaker 2: Brands involved. Yeah, we also had some a new part 256 00:11:14,920 --> 00:11:19,880 Speaker 2: of Michayla and Anna's thing come out, and a lot 257 00:11:19,920 --> 00:11:22,360 Speaker 2: of influencers were dragged into this one, which I don't 258 00:11:22,400 --> 00:11:25,920 Speaker 2: know whether. I almost feel quite bad that like insults 259 00:11:25,920 --> 00:11:29,400 Speaker 2: about them have been publicly said online, do you know 260 00:11:29,480 --> 00:11:30,959 Speaker 2: what I mean? I think it's a good thing that 261 00:11:31,040 --> 00:11:33,440 Speaker 2: everyone's aware of what was said about them by Anna, But. 262 00:11:33,960 --> 00:11:36,719 Speaker 1: I think I hope MICHAELA gave them a heads. 263 00:11:36,520 --> 00:11:40,679 Speaker 2: Up, yeah, because that's going out to millions, And if 264 00:11:40,920 --> 00:11:44,360 Speaker 2: like I had an insecurity, like my nose is my insecurity, 265 00:11:44,840 --> 00:11:47,120 Speaker 2: and if MICHAELA goes yeah, Anna Paul said easy as 266 00:11:47,120 --> 00:11:50,360 Speaker 2: the biggest nos and it went out to like millions 267 00:11:50,400 --> 00:11:52,319 Speaker 2: of people, I would have been a bit like, oh, 268 00:11:53,200 --> 00:11:55,920 Speaker 2: you know yeah in saying that, I get why she 269 00:11:56,000 --> 00:11:56,199 Speaker 2: did it. 270 00:11:56,440 --> 00:11:59,080 Speaker 1: I just don't think it's like sometimes it's like, especially 271 00:11:59,120 --> 00:12:01,080 Speaker 1: when your life isn't so social media and you post 272 00:12:01,120 --> 00:12:04,360 Speaker 1: a lot online, like letting people know in your inner 273 00:12:04,440 --> 00:12:08,000 Speaker 1: circle before the rest of your followers, I think is 274 00:12:08,040 --> 00:12:11,760 Speaker 1: a really important thing. And yeah, I feel really bad 275 00:12:11,840 --> 00:12:13,920 Speaker 1: for sof and Jack. 276 00:12:13,800 --> 00:12:17,360 Speaker 2: And cat Clark Cat Clark Cat Clark's response if you 277 00:12:17,400 --> 00:12:19,160 Speaker 2: haven't seen it, she did like a little Day in 278 00:12:19,200 --> 00:12:21,440 Speaker 2: the Life vlog, but the voiceovers like very much taking 279 00:12:21,520 --> 00:12:24,840 Speaker 2: hits at like everything that Anna had said or Anna does, 280 00:12:24,960 --> 00:12:27,400 Speaker 2: and it's actually really funny. Like I was like, that's 281 00:12:27,440 --> 00:12:30,840 Speaker 2: really witty, Like thought, it's good, right, But I do think, yeah, 282 00:12:31,440 --> 00:12:33,560 Speaker 2: it's good to know, especially for these people that they 283 00:12:33,600 --> 00:12:35,880 Speaker 2: supported Anna to know that she was speaking like that 284 00:12:36,080 --> 00:12:38,880 Speaker 2: about them. I'm glad they're aware, but yeah, I do 285 00:12:39,040 --> 00:12:41,640 Speaker 2: think it wouldn't have been nice to hear it that way, 286 00:12:41,720 --> 00:12:43,280 Speaker 2: So I do hope that they heard prior. 287 00:12:43,480 --> 00:12:52,200 Speaker 1: Anyway, should we dive straight into the diamers? Yeah, Hi, girls, 288 00:12:52,320 --> 00:12:54,360 Speaker 1: I was wondering if you had any advice or how 289 00:12:54,440 --> 00:12:57,679 Speaker 1: could get my flatmate to be interested in me. Oh, 290 00:12:58,559 --> 00:13:00,480 Speaker 1: I've just moved to UNI and I'm in a flat 291 00:13:00,520 --> 00:13:02,400 Speaker 1: and all of us at the same age. We don't 292 00:13:02,440 --> 00:13:05,000 Speaker 1: hang out as a flat or do group activities, but 293 00:13:05,120 --> 00:13:08,240 Speaker 1: everyone gets along with anyone anyway. One of the guys 294 00:13:08,400 --> 00:13:11,280 Speaker 1: is so attractive, exactly my type and he's very kind. 295 00:13:11,600 --> 00:13:14,679 Speaker 2: How fun would that be? So fun? Just even like 296 00:13:15,080 --> 00:13:18,040 Speaker 2: to me, crushes are something that like the best thing 297 00:13:18,080 --> 00:13:19,760 Speaker 2: in the world. I don't really get them much, and I, 298 00:13:20,200 --> 00:13:21,640 Speaker 2: like I said in a couple episodes, like I have 299 00:13:21,679 --> 00:13:25,480 Speaker 2: a crush right now, and it's like it's just exciting. Yea, 300 00:13:25,679 --> 00:13:27,439 Speaker 2: even in the sense of like the fact that you 301 00:13:27,480 --> 00:13:28,920 Speaker 2: would live with someone that you have a crush on 302 00:13:29,120 --> 00:13:30,800 Speaker 2: is like so so exciting. 303 00:13:31,040 --> 00:13:33,520 Speaker 1: I can't wait to have a crush again. Like I 304 00:13:33,640 --> 00:13:35,360 Speaker 1: hope that I go to London and I like, I 305 00:13:35,480 --> 00:13:37,280 Speaker 1: just keep on a crush on somewhere and I just 306 00:13:37,360 --> 00:13:40,400 Speaker 1: have a crush and and I just have a crush. 307 00:13:40,559 --> 00:13:42,280 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's not even like you're going on dates or 308 00:13:42,280 --> 00:13:44,319 Speaker 2: anything yet, Like this is exciting where it's like what 309 00:13:44,440 --> 00:13:44,959 Speaker 2: could this be? 310 00:13:45,360 --> 00:13:48,079 Speaker 1: Yeah, and you just like romanticize everything in your head. 311 00:13:48,360 --> 00:13:48,560 Speaker 2: Yep. 312 00:13:49,320 --> 00:13:51,800 Speaker 1: Now one in my flat really uses common areas. I 313 00:13:51,960 --> 00:13:54,160 Speaker 1: only see him maybe three times a week in the flat, 314 00:13:54,240 --> 00:13:56,360 Speaker 1: and that's because I hear him in the kitchen. I 315 00:13:56,480 --> 00:13:58,280 Speaker 1: go out to pretend to feel like my water bottle 316 00:13:58,320 --> 00:14:01,280 Speaker 1: and start a conversation with which is always hey, how 317 00:14:01,360 --> 00:14:04,679 Speaker 1: are you. Usually only a few sentences are exchange. I 318 00:14:04,760 --> 00:14:08,080 Speaker 1: occasionally see him at lunch or dinners as we're catered. 319 00:14:08,559 --> 00:14:10,599 Speaker 1: Oh so they must be in like a this is 320 00:14:10,880 --> 00:14:12,240 Speaker 1: like a dorm like. 321 00:14:13,800 --> 00:14:17,400 Speaker 2: America in this Yeah, it's giving America more than and 322 00:14:17,520 --> 00:14:17,960 Speaker 2: I like. 323 00:14:18,000 --> 00:14:19,680 Speaker 1: I know that there's some people you can live in 324 00:14:19,760 --> 00:14:22,640 Speaker 1: a flat, but then you still have like sororities and 325 00:14:22,720 --> 00:14:24,440 Speaker 1: your stuff are catered that you can go down and 326 00:14:24,600 --> 00:14:27,600 Speaker 1: eat at. I've seen it in some people's logs on TikTok. 327 00:14:29,680 --> 00:14:31,560 Speaker 1: If I see him in public, I'll give him a wave, 328 00:14:31,640 --> 00:14:33,840 Speaker 1: but we don't ever stop and have a conversation, as 329 00:14:33,920 --> 00:14:36,240 Speaker 1: we always have places to be. We just aren't that close. 330 00:14:36,640 --> 00:14:38,800 Speaker 1: We take different courses and he isn't in any of 331 00:14:38,920 --> 00:14:42,000 Speaker 1: my classes. He always has a busy schedule with sports, 332 00:14:42,040 --> 00:14:45,040 Speaker 1: so he's really home. I have him on Instagram and Snapchat. 333 00:14:45,160 --> 00:14:47,120 Speaker 1: I added him on both and he always replies to 334 00:14:47,200 --> 00:14:49,960 Speaker 1: my snaps quickly and I get excited, even though there's 335 00:14:50,000 --> 00:14:53,720 Speaker 1: no real conversations in the snap. I've limited myself to 336 00:14:53,800 --> 00:14:55,840 Speaker 1: only snapping back once a day because. 337 00:14:55,600 --> 00:14:59,480 Speaker 2: I there's imitation some girl, I get it. 338 00:15:00,040 --> 00:15:02,280 Speaker 1: I've liven to myself to only snapping back once a day, 339 00:15:02,320 --> 00:15:03,880 Speaker 1: as I would always check my friend if he had 340 00:15:03,960 --> 00:15:07,920 Speaker 1: replied no. I'm not the type to say, hey, would 341 00:15:07,960 --> 00:15:09,680 Speaker 1: you grab a coffee with me? I just know I 342 00:15:09,720 --> 00:15:12,760 Speaker 1: would never physically do that, especially considering that I wouldn't 343 00:15:12,760 --> 00:15:15,240 Speaker 1: even say we're friends, just as fiight mates, so we're 344 00:15:15,680 --> 00:15:18,400 Speaker 1: coming friends as the first steps. Anyway, What can I do? 345 00:15:18,680 --> 00:15:20,680 Speaker 1: This guy's right at my alley I don't have any 346 00:15:20,800 --> 00:15:21,920 Speaker 1: ideas of how to he can. 347 00:15:22,000 --> 00:15:24,320 Speaker 2: I ask though, is becoming friends the first step or 348 00:15:24,480 --> 00:15:26,440 Speaker 2: is it better to just be like, would you want 349 00:15:26,440 --> 00:15:27,760 Speaker 2: to get a drink? Do you know what? I mean? 350 00:15:28,080 --> 00:15:31,960 Speaker 1: Well, she doesn't. I haven't done ask that. Obviously, there's 351 00:15:32,000 --> 00:15:34,520 Speaker 1: more than just you and her him in this flat. 352 00:15:34,760 --> 00:15:37,200 Speaker 1: I think you make a group chat and organize it 353 00:15:37,280 --> 00:15:39,600 Speaker 1: and be like, hey, guys, like I've noticed that we 354 00:15:39,680 --> 00:15:41,680 Speaker 1: haven't really all hung out and get to know each other. 355 00:15:42,000 --> 00:15:43,680 Speaker 1: I just thought it would really be fine, like maybe 356 00:15:43,680 --> 00:15:45,480 Speaker 1: we should all grab drinks on Friday night. 357 00:15:46,120 --> 00:15:48,000 Speaker 2: Or let's say she might be young, which is m 358 00:15:48,080 --> 00:15:50,600 Speaker 2: she's a coffee even, just be like let's all go, well, 359 00:15:50,640 --> 00:15:54,840 Speaker 2: they're using dinner together, and let's say you're not comfortable 360 00:15:55,040 --> 00:15:57,840 Speaker 2: doing it hopefully, or maybe there's a girl or a 361 00:15:57,920 --> 00:16:00,880 Speaker 2: friend within that same dorm that you're quite close to. 362 00:16:01,640 --> 00:16:03,080 Speaker 2: Maybe get her to do it. 363 00:16:03,360 --> 00:16:05,400 Speaker 1: Yeah, I reckon you go to the girl, Like, if 364 00:16:05,440 --> 00:16:07,920 Speaker 1: there's another girl in the flat, you could go. I 365 00:16:08,160 --> 00:16:10,760 Speaker 1: think like maybe we should do like trivia or something 366 00:16:10,840 --> 00:16:12,520 Speaker 1: that there's like an activity. 367 00:16:12,200 --> 00:16:14,560 Speaker 2: The games night within the flat. Yeah, I love games 368 00:16:14,640 --> 00:16:14,920 Speaker 2: nights and. 369 00:16:15,160 --> 00:16:17,320 Speaker 1: Like yeah, and be like I feel like we haven't 370 00:16:17,320 --> 00:16:18,880 Speaker 1: all gotten to know each other and get the other 371 00:16:18,960 --> 00:16:21,760 Speaker 1: girl on your side and be like make a group chat, 372 00:16:21,840 --> 00:16:22,200 Speaker 1: so it's like. 373 00:16:22,200 --> 00:16:23,840 Speaker 2: I don't even have to tell everyone. That's why you 374 00:16:23,880 --> 00:16:25,320 Speaker 2: want to do it. If you're not like close enough 375 00:16:25,400 --> 00:16:27,520 Speaker 2: her for that, like try and get her on board first, 376 00:16:27,560 --> 00:16:29,000 Speaker 2: and then you can be like, all right, so do 377 00:16:29,040 --> 00:16:30,160 Speaker 2: you want to make the group chat, and like I 378 00:16:30,240 --> 00:16:31,120 Speaker 2: can find the message. 379 00:16:31,480 --> 00:16:33,920 Speaker 1: Yeah, and then like you do all something as a group, 380 00:16:33,960 --> 00:16:35,240 Speaker 1: so you're all basically got to get a. 381 00:16:35,200 --> 00:16:38,200 Speaker 2: Whole flat close. Yeah, and then within that you'll be 382 00:16:38,240 --> 00:16:40,960 Speaker 2: closer and it'll make your experience living there better regardless 383 00:16:41,120 --> 00:16:42,280 Speaker 2: exactly if you're close. 384 00:16:42,080 --> 00:16:44,080 Speaker 1: With and then you can get his vibe and have 385 00:16:44,200 --> 00:16:45,120 Speaker 1: her like a little bit more of it. 386 00:16:45,160 --> 00:16:47,880 Speaker 2: And you can just direct all your questions to him. Yeah. 387 00:16:48,720 --> 00:16:50,280 Speaker 1: Perfect. I think that's a great I. 388 00:16:50,280 --> 00:16:52,080 Speaker 2: Think that's a great plan if you're not comfortable just 389 00:16:52,160 --> 00:16:55,440 Speaker 2: being like I personally don't think being friends versus is 390 00:16:55,720 --> 00:16:59,040 Speaker 2: an a necessary step in the situation at hand. 391 00:16:59,200 --> 00:17:01,120 Speaker 1: I think you quit and getting to know each other 392 00:17:01,280 --> 00:17:02,800 Speaker 1: is great without being friends, Like, and. 393 00:17:02,840 --> 00:17:04,639 Speaker 2: You want him to know you're interested or he might 394 00:17:04,760 --> 00:17:06,560 Speaker 2: just friend zone you, so. 395 00:17:07,240 --> 00:17:09,520 Speaker 1: Or just like even in the kitchen like if you 396 00:17:09,640 --> 00:17:11,680 Speaker 1: see him and you're like you're filling up your water bottle, 397 00:17:12,160 --> 00:17:13,560 Speaker 1: just be like, oh my god, that jumper looks so 398 00:17:13,640 --> 00:17:14,919 Speaker 1: good on you give. 399 00:17:14,800 --> 00:17:17,360 Speaker 2: A little flirt. You might be like, oh, she's interested. Yeah, 400 00:17:17,400 --> 00:17:19,040 Speaker 2: And the fact he's responding to your snap plots is 401 00:17:19,040 --> 00:17:21,560 Speaker 2: a good time. Yeah, you need to start responding to stories. 402 00:17:21,760 --> 00:17:27,120 Speaker 1: Well yeah, yeah, yeah, like oh they're so good. Yeah, 403 00:17:27,720 --> 00:17:29,960 Speaker 1: Like if he has like if he's gotten like takeout 404 00:17:30,080 --> 00:17:31,840 Speaker 1: or something, and be like, oh my god, that looks 405 00:17:32,080 --> 00:17:34,359 Speaker 1: like that butter chicken looks so good, Like where is it? 406 00:17:34,800 --> 00:17:37,119 Speaker 1: And he'd be like, oh, it's from this place down 407 00:17:37,160 --> 00:17:38,440 Speaker 1: the road. You'd be like, oh, no way, we'll have 408 00:17:38,520 --> 00:17:39,120 Speaker 1: to go one night. 409 00:17:39,800 --> 00:17:44,800 Speaker 2: Ay, that's so good. But I also feel like responding 410 00:17:44,800 --> 00:17:46,920 Speaker 2: to stories since you do have him Instagram is better 411 00:17:47,000 --> 00:17:49,560 Speaker 2: because snapschut is just photo photo, photo photo, and then 412 00:17:49,560 --> 00:17:52,480 Speaker 2: if you write something it's always like pointless. I fucking 413 00:17:52,520 --> 00:17:54,359 Speaker 2: hate that pow honestly, I think I've used it in 414 00:17:54,440 --> 00:17:58,040 Speaker 2: three But if you respond to an Instagram story, you're 415 00:17:58,080 --> 00:18:01,399 Speaker 2: better off. Better, Like it's starting like a conversation and 416 00:18:01,520 --> 00:18:02,880 Speaker 2: then through that you become close. 417 00:18:03,160 --> 00:18:05,760 Speaker 1: I think like throwing in like little side comments of 418 00:18:05,880 --> 00:18:08,080 Speaker 1: like when you are in passing in the flat that 419 00:18:08,200 --> 00:18:10,720 Speaker 1: you want to do stuff with him will get the 420 00:18:10,760 --> 00:18:12,719 Speaker 1: idea in his head that like, oh maybe we can 421 00:18:12,760 --> 00:18:14,720 Speaker 1: be more than just like I start. 422 00:18:14,520 --> 00:18:16,800 Speaker 2: With the group trivia and let's say I couldn't even 423 00:18:16,840 --> 00:18:18,840 Speaker 2: beget to imagine how many people live there because I'm 424 00:18:18,840 --> 00:18:21,920 Speaker 2: gonna beit confused about the layout, like the situation. But 425 00:18:22,160 --> 00:18:24,800 Speaker 2: even if it's not everyone and there's like five or 426 00:18:24,840 --> 00:18:27,000 Speaker 2: ten of you, but if you should include everyone, if 427 00:18:27,000 --> 00:18:29,000 Speaker 2: you can. But I'm saying there's like fifty people that 428 00:18:29,080 --> 00:18:30,600 Speaker 2: live there, maybe you can just pick click ten. 429 00:18:31,080 --> 00:18:33,480 Speaker 1: Yeah, I agree, all right, I like that. 430 00:18:36,240 --> 00:18:38,920 Speaker 2: Hey, lovely ladies, I have a euro summer dilemma and 431 00:18:38,960 --> 00:18:41,639 Speaker 2: I need some advice. So my girlfriends and I decided 432 00:18:41,680 --> 00:18:43,840 Speaker 2: to finally book that euros are starting at the end 433 00:18:43,880 --> 00:18:47,159 Speaker 2: of June, ready for full on girl time, sprits in 434 00:18:47,280 --> 00:18:51,080 Speaker 2: hand and laying by the ocean every day. I did 435 00:18:51,160 --> 00:18:54,520 Speaker 2: this two years ago, and it was I miss it 436 00:18:54,600 --> 00:18:57,680 Speaker 2: every single day. I'm in a loving, happy, and fairly 437 00:18:57,800 --> 00:19:00,480 Speaker 2: new relationship with my boyfriend. When I told about the 438 00:19:00,480 --> 00:19:02,560 Speaker 2: euro trip, he was nervous but happy that I'm going 439 00:19:02,640 --> 00:19:04,359 Speaker 2: to have a trip of a lifetime with my best friends. 440 00:19:04,960 --> 00:19:07,840 Speaker 2: So recently, US girls booked a fly and fly out 441 00:19:07,880 --> 00:19:11,840 Speaker 2: trip to Abetha. From the start of booking the Europe trip, 442 00:19:11,880 --> 00:19:14,840 Speaker 2: he said he felt very uncomfortable if I went to Abetha. Well, 443 00:19:15,040 --> 00:19:17,560 Speaker 2: now we have booked non refundable tickets to Abetha for 444 00:19:17,640 --> 00:19:19,800 Speaker 2: twelve hours, and I'm very unsure how to break this 445 00:19:19,880 --> 00:19:22,160 Speaker 2: news to him and how he will handle it. Help. 446 00:19:22,280 --> 00:19:23,920 Speaker 2: I need it. You're somewhere with my girlfriends, but I 447 00:19:24,000 --> 00:19:28,639 Speaker 2: also want to keep our healthy and happy relationship. The 448 00:19:28,720 --> 00:19:31,560 Speaker 2: reason I Betha for people that don't know what that is, 449 00:19:32,080 --> 00:19:35,120 Speaker 2: it's like party town. It's a party town in Spain, 450 00:19:35,240 --> 00:19:37,879 Speaker 2: and that's pretty well all you go there for. But 451 00:19:38,000 --> 00:19:40,439 Speaker 2: I also think if you are just going with girls, 452 00:19:40,560 --> 00:19:42,800 Speaker 2: like I think that that isn't an issue for you 453 00:19:42,920 --> 00:19:44,520 Speaker 2: to be going on like a girl's trip to Ibetha. 454 00:19:44,560 --> 00:19:46,679 Speaker 2: I feel like, why can't you party with just your 455 00:19:46,720 --> 00:19:48,920 Speaker 2: girlfriend's there? But I do also understand the fear. 456 00:19:49,240 --> 00:19:52,280 Speaker 1: Yeah, I understand understand the uneasiness from him, but I 457 00:19:52,359 --> 00:19:53,960 Speaker 1: think you just delivered it in a way of like 458 00:19:54,400 --> 00:19:56,480 Speaker 1: the girls booked it, like I'm not going to stay 459 00:19:57,119 --> 00:20:00,600 Speaker 1: in a place random, a random place in Europe myself, 460 00:20:00,720 --> 00:20:01,680 Speaker 1: like I'm going along with you. 461 00:20:01,800 --> 00:20:04,119 Speaker 2: I want to go, I can't, but do it in 462 00:20:04,200 --> 00:20:06,920 Speaker 2: a place of understanding. I know that this, yeah makes 463 00:20:06,960 --> 00:20:09,640 Speaker 2: you like, don't be like I'm going and like there's 464 00:20:09,640 --> 00:20:11,480 Speaker 2: nothing you can do about it. Yeah, you've got to 465 00:20:11,520 --> 00:20:13,800 Speaker 2: be like I understand like how that this would make 466 00:20:13,840 --> 00:20:16,399 Speaker 2: you feel uncomfortable, but just know, like I will show you. 467 00:20:16,560 --> 00:20:18,879 Speaker 2: I prove to you that I can be trusted here. 468 00:20:18,960 --> 00:20:21,280 Speaker 2: And it's only twelve hours. We're just going to go 469 00:20:21,400 --> 00:20:23,200 Speaker 2: for the night. I'm there for the girls. That's what 470 00:20:23,320 --> 00:20:25,920 Speaker 2: this holiday is all about. And you just have to 471 00:20:25,960 --> 00:20:28,440 Speaker 2: be I guess understanding that he might not be happy 472 00:20:28,480 --> 00:20:31,560 Speaker 2: and he might be uncomfortable, but you also need to 473 00:20:31,600 --> 00:20:33,879 Speaker 2: live your life the way you want, regardless of the 474 00:20:33,960 --> 00:20:35,480 Speaker 2: fact that you have a partner. Yeah, you know, I 475 00:20:35,520 --> 00:20:35,840 Speaker 2: think just. 476 00:20:35,880 --> 00:20:39,160 Speaker 1: Being like super reassuring and like validating yet how he feels, 477 00:20:39,240 --> 00:20:40,800 Speaker 1: but then also just being like. 478 00:20:41,480 --> 00:20:42,760 Speaker 2: And times sooner other than later. 479 00:20:43,080 --> 00:20:46,159 Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm just like blame it on new girls, like 480 00:20:46,200 --> 00:20:48,200 Speaker 1: the girls really wanted to go, and then like, yeah. 481 00:20:48,280 --> 00:20:52,200 Speaker 2: Other girls won't mind on them. No, you know, I 482 00:20:52,359 --> 00:20:53,560 Speaker 2: just think I'll. 483 00:20:53,440 --> 00:20:55,280 Speaker 1: Always cop like the l if like they need to 484 00:20:55,320 --> 00:20:55,920 Speaker 1: get something else. 485 00:20:56,000 --> 00:20:57,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, And its bottom line is just because you have 486 00:20:57,800 --> 00:20:59,880 Speaker 2: a boyfriend doesn't mean you shouldn't be able to experience. 487 00:21:00,840 --> 00:21:04,119 Speaker 1: So I think if it's a healthy relationship, then he 488 00:21:04,240 --> 00:21:07,320 Speaker 1: should be she recept it to a point of understanding, 489 00:21:07,440 --> 00:21:10,960 Speaker 1: and I think if he doesn't, then there's another problem. 490 00:21:11,240 --> 00:21:13,560 Speaker 2: Yeah, so let's see how he goes. 491 00:21:13,920 --> 00:21:14,639 Speaker 1: Good luck with that one. 492 00:21:14,720 --> 00:21:16,119 Speaker 2: But good luck, girl, that's going to be the funnest 493 00:21:16,160 --> 00:21:18,639 Speaker 2: trip of your life, so I'm glad to experience it. 494 00:21:21,400 --> 00:21:25,040 Speaker 1: Submission number three. Hey, girls, love when the dilemma epps 495 00:21:25,080 --> 00:21:27,280 Speaker 1: come around, And this time I finally have a situation 496 00:21:27,440 --> 00:21:30,880 Speaker 1: needing your advice. Long story short, I became really close 497 00:21:30,920 --> 00:21:32,840 Speaker 1: to friends with this guy over the past year and 498 00:21:32,880 --> 00:21:35,200 Speaker 1: a half. Let's call him Jack. We get along like 499 00:21:35,240 --> 00:21:37,240 Speaker 1: a house on fire, and we are honestly the boy 500 00:21:37,280 --> 00:21:40,600 Speaker 1: girl version of each other. People have always said how 501 00:21:40,680 --> 00:21:43,120 Speaker 1: we'd be perfect together, but I've never had an attraction 502 00:21:43,240 --> 00:21:45,280 Speaker 1: towards him in the way that he is the opposite 503 00:21:45,280 --> 00:21:48,760 Speaker 1: to my physical type. He's blonde, blue eyes, lean surfer boy. 504 00:21:49,080 --> 00:21:52,960 Speaker 1: Sounds hot, yeah, but my usual type is brown hand, muscley, 505 00:21:53,000 --> 00:21:53,920 Speaker 1: tattered up, dark picture. 506 00:21:54,080 --> 00:21:57,040 Speaker 2: So that's right time completely. But if a hot, blonde, 507 00:21:57,080 --> 00:22:00,720 Speaker 2: blue eyed surfer boy waltz into my life was exactly 508 00:22:00,920 --> 00:22:03,359 Speaker 2: like me. I wouldn't compie, I wouldn't give a fuck. 509 00:22:04,000 --> 00:22:06,439 Speaker 1: You get the just here, we get the just. As 510 00:22:06,480 --> 00:22:08,800 Speaker 1: our connection as friends grew stronger, I started to grow 511 00:22:08,840 --> 00:22:10,800 Speaker 1: a little crush on him, as did he. In the 512 00:22:10,840 --> 00:22:13,199 Speaker 1: span of two weeks, we went to having our first kifs, 513 00:22:15,000 --> 00:22:17,520 Speaker 1: then spending most nights together, which continued for a couple 514 00:22:17,600 --> 00:22:20,720 Speaker 1: more weeks after that. Side note, I loved being single 515 00:22:20,760 --> 00:22:23,000 Speaker 1: and was planning on not getting into relationship for a 516 00:22:23,040 --> 00:22:24,639 Speaker 1: few years, as I want to travel the world and 517 00:22:24,800 --> 00:22:29,040 Speaker 1: experience come yeah, living in my early twenties or while 518 00:22:29,080 --> 00:22:32,400 Speaker 1: being single. But then there came Jack. I really didn't 519 00:22:32,440 --> 00:22:34,840 Speaker 1: want a relationship in general due to those reasons, but 520 00:22:35,000 --> 00:22:37,560 Speaker 1: as well as concerns about getting into relationship with him 521 00:22:37,600 --> 00:22:40,800 Speaker 1: since he's not my physical type. I know it sounds superficial, 522 00:22:40,840 --> 00:22:42,520 Speaker 1: but I want to be obsessed with my man and 523 00:22:42,800 --> 00:22:44,919 Speaker 1: always have the urge to rip his clothes off, especially 524 00:22:44,920 --> 00:22:46,200 Speaker 1: if I'm going to be with him for the rest 525 00:22:46,280 --> 00:22:49,000 Speaker 1: of my life. Now, don't get me wrong, a physical 526 00:22:49,040 --> 00:22:52,560 Speaker 1: attraction towards him did grow as our emotional connection, true, 527 00:22:52,600 --> 00:22:55,439 Speaker 1: but no more than surface level attraction. We ended up 528 00:22:55,480 --> 00:22:57,840 Speaker 1: making it official. I went into the relationship with a 529 00:22:57,960 --> 00:23:00,320 Speaker 1: yolo mindset, and it's okay to have a boy friend 530 00:23:00,359 --> 00:23:03,160 Speaker 1: and then be your future husband, and I'll just break 531 00:23:03,240 --> 00:23:06,920 Speaker 1: up with him when I'm ready to be single again. Okay, 532 00:23:07,840 --> 00:23:10,560 Speaker 1: I mean like, couldn't be me, but I respect that. 533 00:23:11,600 --> 00:23:13,520 Speaker 1: We ended up dating for six months, and as time 534 00:23:13,600 --> 00:23:15,600 Speaker 1: went on, I felt more and more in love with him. 535 00:23:15,680 --> 00:23:18,600 Speaker 1: With our connection that grew stronger than ever, I still 536 00:23:18,760 --> 00:23:22,160 Speaker 1: liked a strong physical attraction. He's the most soft, caring 537 00:23:22,280 --> 00:23:24,359 Speaker 1: and loving human and exactly what you would look for 538 00:23:24,440 --> 00:23:26,800 Speaker 1: in a future husband. I realized he's in it for 539 00:23:26,880 --> 00:23:29,560 Speaker 1: the long run and is very serious about us. As 540 00:23:29,600 --> 00:23:31,399 Speaker 1: time went on, I was realizing that I was going 541 00:23:31,480 --> 00:23:33,720 Speaker 1: to break this man's heart as well as mine, because 542 00:23:33,720 --> 00:23:35,920 Speaker 1: I truly did fall in love with him. But I 543 00:23:36,000 --> 00:23:38,080 Speaker 1: still have so much I need to experience on my 544 00:23:38,200 --> 00:23:41,159 Speaker 1: own and the thought of never being single again terrifies me. 545 00:23:41,760 --> 00:23:44,119 Speaker 1: I always said to my best friend during the relationship, 546 00:23:44,240 --> 00:23:46,639 Speaker 1: I low key wish he did something to cross me 547 00:23:46,760 --> 00:23:48,159 Speaker 1: so I would have to break up with him and 548 00:23:48,240 --> 00:23:50,760 Speaker 1: not be the bad guy. Fast forward a few weeks, 549 00:23:50,800 --> 00:23:53,040 Speaker 1: he got into a situation with a girl and he 550 00:23:53,080 --> 00:23:55,160 Speaker 1: didn't know how to get out of it or speak 551 00:23:55,240 --> 00:23:57,480 Speaker 1: up to her, which is in his nature as he's 552 00:23:57,480 --> 00:24:00,199 Speaker 1: a usual, as he's a people pleaser. But I want 553 00:24:00,240 --> 00:24:01,480 Speaker 1: to be with a guy who doesn't know how to 554 00:24:01,520 --> 00:24:03,880 Speaker 1: tell a girl the fuck off. He's apologetic. 555 00:24:05,000 --> 00:24:05,840 Speaker 2: I like this girl. 556 00:24:06,080 --> 00:24:10,320 Speaker 1: She's very emotionally in check. Yeah, he's so apologetic, and 557 00:24:10,760 --> 00:24:12,960 Speaker 1: you can tell he's mortified over the thought of losing me. 558 00:24:13,280 --> 00:24:15,560 Speaker 1: But here it is, has a universe listened to me, 559 00:24:15,920 --> 00:24:18,159 Speaker 1: the opportunity for me to leave and not be the 560 00:24:18,200 --> 00:24:20,760 Speaker 1: bad person. But now that that train has actually pulled 561 00:24:20,840 --> 00:24:22,960 Speaker 1: up to the station with the doors wide open, I'm 562 00:24:23,000 --> 00:24:24,000 Speaker 1: having second thoughts. 563 00:24:24,280 --> 00:24:26,160 Speaker 2: God, I love the way this chick's written at You're 564 00:24:26,200 --> 00:24:26,639 Speaker 2: so smart. 565 00:24:26,840 --> 00:24:29,959 Speaker 1: Yeah, she's very on top of it. As much as 566 00:24:29,960 --> 00:24:32,560 Speaker 1: I'm scared about being single again and the fact that 567 00:24:32,640 --> 00:24:35,480 Speaker 1: he's not my type, I'm also terrified that I'm going 568 00:24:35,560 --> 00:24:39,080 Speaker 1: to lose the perfect guy and over a superficial reason. 569 00:24:39,520 --> 00:24:41,280 Speaker 1: What if I ended up getting married to the guy 570 00:24:41,320 --> 00:24:43,480 Speaker 1: who's my type but he's a piece of shit. What 571 00:24:43,560 --> 00:24:45,560 Speaker 1: if I never find a strong connection as we had. 572 00:24:45,920 --> 00:24:47,520 Speaker 1: What if I break up with him and it's too 573 00:24:47,600 --> 00:24:50,200 Speaker 1: late and realize he's the one I'm tad between taking 574 00:24:50,240 --> 00:24:52,880 Speaker 1: this opportunity while it's here, but not be the bad 575 00:24:52,960 --> 00:24:55,639 Speaker 1: guy so I can continue living my single life, or 576 00:24:55,680 --> 00:24:57,880 Speaker 1: stay with him and not risk losing the perfect guy. 577 00:24:58,400 --> 00:25:00,040 Speaker 1: My head is all over the place, but I I 578 00:25:00,040 --> 00:25:01,480 Speaker 1: would love your girl's advice or opinion. 579 00:25:01,600 --> 00:25:05,399 Speaker 2: Can I be honest? I feel like all of these thoughts. 580 00:25:05,520 --> 00:25:07,440 Speaker 2: The fact that you still say he's not my tie, 581 00:25:08,280 --> 00:25:10,520 Speaker 2: Like I think he's a problem in the way of like, 582 00:25:10,720 --> 00:25:13,040 Speaker 2: if this attraction has grown and it is your perfect man, 583 00:25:13,160 --> 00:25:16,199 Speaker 2: doesn't matter because this is He might not be your 584 00:25:16,320 --> 00:25:18,399 Speaker 2: usual type, but you clearly like him enough that it 585 00:25:18,520 --> 00:25:21,960 Speaker 2: is your type. Yeah, but I feel like you want 586 00:25:22,080 --> 00:25:25,120 Speaker 2: to be single in some aspect or another. The fact 587 00:25:25,119 --> 00:25:27,800 Speaker 2: that you're even considering this, Yeah, so I would say 588 00:25:28,520 --> 00:25:31,600 Speaker 2: even just maybe giving it, I think you I honestly 589 00:25:31,640 --> 00:25:33,440 Speaker 2: do think I would just say stay with the guy. 590 00:25:33,480 --> 00:25:35,399 Speaker 2: I feel like he seems like he's perfect. But I 591 00:25:35,520 --> 00:25:38,080 Speaker 2: think that that need. I haven't had this because I've 592 00:25:38,080 --> 00:25:40,480 Speaker 2: been lucky that I am single quite often, but a 593 00:25:40,560 --> 00:25:42,280 Speaker 2: lot of my friends have ended up breaking up with 594 00:25:42,320 --> 00:25:44,560 Speaker 2: people because that need to be single, and they'd rather 595 00:25:44,640 --> 00:25:46,920 Speaker 2: do it now than down the line. And I feel 596 00:25:46,960 --> 00:25:50,120 Speaker 2: like you still need that so whether having that now 597 00:25:50,280 --> 00:25:52,600 Speaker 2: I think might be smart and knowing that if this 598 00:25:52,720 --> 00:25:54,280 Speaker 2: guy is the guy for you, what will work out 599 00:25:54,320 --> 00:25:56,320 Speaker 2: in the end? Do you know what I mean? 600 00:25:56,520 --> 00:25:59,680 Speaker 1: Yeah, I know what you'll like. And I think especially 601 00:25:59,800 --> 00:26:03,960 Speaker 1: in this like social media world and the like now, 602 00:26:04,160 --> 00:26:06,200 Speaker 1: the days that the world is so connected, it's so 603 00:26:06,359 --> 00:26:08,520 Speaker 1: much easier to think is the grass greener? And that's 604 00:26:08,600 --> 00:26:11,399 Speaker 1: the back and forth like thoughts that you're having in 605 00:26:11,480 --> 00:26:13,280 Speaker 1: your brain, being like, well, what if and all that, 606 00:26:14,200 --> 00:26:16,320 Speaker 1: and that's so normal and I especially like in this 607 00:26:16,520 --> 00:26:20,359 Speaker 1: day and age. But coming from someone who absolutely was 608 00:26:20,600 --> 00:26:22,320 Speaker 1: completely and utterly in love and thought I was going 609 00:26:22,400 --> 00:26:23,760 Speaker 1: to spend the rest of my life with them, I'm 610 00:26:23,880 --> 00:26:28,399 Speaker 1: so glad it ended to experience life by myself and 611 00:26:28,560 --> 00:26:32,639 Speaker 1: I didn't think I would ever find love again, and YadA, YadA, YadA. 612 00:26:32,760 --> 00:26:36,760 Speaker 1: But like, I'm glad now that that I'm getting I'm 613 00:26:37,000 --> 00:26:39,600 Speaker 1: getting to experience life single, and I'm so glad I'm 614 00:26:39,640 --> 00:26:41,720 Speaker 1: not doing that when I'm like twenty six, twenty seven. 615 00:26:41,720 --> 00:26:43,879 Speaker 2: And I have full belief and faith that if it's 616 00:26:43,920 --> 00:26:46,160 Speaker 2: the right person for you will work itself out exactly 617 00:26:46,400 --> 00:26:48,440 Speaker 2: and you could think less almost. 618 00:26:48,640 --> 00:26:51,320 Speaker 1: Yeah, I always say, like perfect example, of my parents. 619 00:26:51,400 --> 00:26:53,600 Speaker 1: My parents broke up for two years in the early twenties, 620 00:26:53,640 --> 00:26:55,240 Speaker 1: and then they made their way back to each other 621 00:26:55,640 --> 00:26:58,800 Speaker 1: knowing that they were gonna grow old and have kids. 622 00:26:58,840 --> 00:27:01,520 Speaker 1: And they're so goodlad like grateful that they had the 623 00:27:01,600 --> 00:27:04,399 Speaker 1: experience of being apart for a while. If they're truly 624 00:27:04,520 --> 00:27:06,320 Speaker 1: meant for you, they'll never fully leave. 625 00:27:06,560 --> 00:27:09,520 Speaker 2: Yeah, And I think you clearly have that sort of 626 00:27:09,600 --> 00:27:11,440 Speaker 2: eating feeling in the back of your mind that being 627 00:27:11,720 --> 00:27:13,680 Speaker 2: single and being alone is something that you need to 628 00:27:13,760 --> 00:27:14,600 Speaker 2: experience again. 629 00:27:15,560 --> 00:27:17,440 Speaker 1: So but I also want to let you know that 630 00:27:17,560 --> 00:27:20,760 Speaker 1: it's not that good. I think you're romanticizing thing deafinitely. 631 00:27:20,800 --> 00:27:22,359 Speaker 2: You think the grass is greener, but the grass is 632 00:27:22,440 --> 00:27:25,280 Speaker 2: greener where you water it. And if you want the 633 00:27:25,359 --> 00:27:27,159 Speaker 2: relationship to work and you actually don't want to be 634 00:27:27,200 --> 00:27:32,040 Speaker 2: without this guy, then stay. But if you have those 635 00:27:32,119 --> 00:27:33,960 Speaker 2: inkling feelings where you're like, I do want to be 636 00:27:34,000 --> 00:27:36,040 Speaker 2: alone for a little bit, it's like, then clearly you 637 00:27:36,119 --> 00:27:38,320 Speaker 2: don't care like you you love him. I'm not saying 638 00:27:38,320 --> 00:27:40,280 Speaker 2: you don't love him, but you right now care a 639 00:27:40,320 --> 00:27:42,840 Speaker 2: little bit more about being alone. So experience that, and 640 00:27:42,920 --> 00:27:44,240 Speaker 2: if he's right for you, he'll still be there. 641 00:27:44,200 --> 00:27:46,720 Speaker 1: When you're ready, Yeah, follow, stop thinking so much in 642 00:27:46,760 --> 00:27:48,639 Speaker 1: the future and follow what feels right now. 643 00:27:48,960 --> 00:27:50,280 Speaker 2: Yeah, because it'll always work out. 644 00:27:50,600 --> 00:27:52,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, and you will find love again. There is not 645 00:27:53,160 --> 00:27:55,720 Speaker 1: one there's not only one person in this whole wide 646 00:27:55,760 --> 00:27:57,000 Speaker 1: world that is only meant for you. 647 00:27:57,240 --> 00:27:58,840 Speaker 2: But I also think you need to lay off the 648 00:27:58,880 --> 00:28:02,000 Speaker 2: whole type thing. Like my type in my mind has 649 00:28:02,040 --> 00:28:03,400 Speaker 2: always been brunette. 650 00:28:04,040 --> 00:28:04,920 Speaker 1: You dated a blonde. 651 00:28:04,960 --> 00:28:07,000 Speaker 2: I date My last boyfriend was blond, and I loved him. 652 00:28:07,000 --> 00:28:08,359 Speaker 2: I thought he was gorgeous. Do you know what I mean. 653 00:28:08,440 --> 00:28:10,959 Speaker 2: I think it's totally just you need to lay off 654 00:28:11,080 --> 00:28:13,600 Speaker 2: the type thing being so important because yes, this guy's 655 00:28:13,640 --> 00:28:14,920 Speaker 2: in your type, but you're in love with him and 656 00:28:14,960 --> 00:28:16,800 Speaker 2: you think he's amazing. So like, does it really matter? 657 00:28:17,280 --> 00:28:19,840 Speaker 2: It doesn't at all. Types to something. I think we 658 00:28:19,920 --> 00:28:22,960 Speaker 2: harp on way too much, So just follow it. Yeah, 659 00:28:23,000 --> 00:28:24,920 Speaker 2: stop thinking about what the future is going to hold 660 00:28:25,000 --> 00:28:27,960 Speaker 2: and think about how you feel now. Like, girl, you 661 00:28:28,040 --> 00:28:29,760 Speaker 2: can do it. Go go. We believe in you and 662 00:28:29,840 --> 00:28:31,520 Speaker 2: you're really smart, so you'll be fine anyway. 663 00:28:32,200 --> 00:28:33,080 Speaker 1: I like her analogy. 664 00:28:35,760 --> 00:28:38,440 Speaker 2: Okay, number four. Hey, girls, I'm kind of in a 665 00:28:38,480 --> 00:28:41,720 Speaker 2: tricky situation right now, so please help for context. In 666 00:28:41,800 --> 00:28:44,240 Speaker 2: July twenty twenty four, I went on vacation in Thailand 667 00:28:44,280 --> 00:28:47,440 Speaker 2: with my sister where we met some Australian guys. Even 668 00:28:47,480 --> 00:28:49,880 Speaker 2: though we only hung out two times at night in Sumber, 669 00:28:50,040 --> 00:28:52,479 Speaker 2: I really started liking one of the guys. Let's call 670 00:28:52,600 --> 00:28:55,160 Speaker 2: him Ben. Ben is twenty three and he lives in Sydney. 671 00:28:56,360 --> 00:28:59,720 Speaker 2: I'm assuming she doesn't live in Sydney, then probably Melbourne. 672 00:29:01,960 --> 00:29:04,120 Speaker 2: During the time we hung out, the conversations between me 673 00:29:04,160 --> 00:29:06,360 Speaker 2: and Ben really flowed naturally and we made out and 674 00:29:06,480 --> 00:29:09,280 Speaker 2: I still really enjoyed being with him. After my sister 675 00:29:09,320 --> 00:29:11,520 Speaker 2: and I left Thailand and flew back to Germany, which 676 00:29:11,560 --> 00:29:16,440 Speaker 2: is where I'm from. Ah, she's German. We just continued 677 00:29:16,480 --> 00:29:19,320 Speaker 2: messaging each other on Instagram every day, even though there 678 00:29:19,400 --> 00:29:20,920 Speaker 2: was a time difference of ten hours. 679 00:29:21,600 --> 00:29:23,960 Speaker 1: One thing I got wait side note, They're so cool 680 00:29:24,000 --> 00:29:25,640 Speaker 1: that we have someone in Germany listening to us. 681 00:29:25,920 --> 00:29:26,080 Speaker 2: Girl. 682 00:29:26,120 --> 00:29:30,240 Speaker 1: Thanks leving dilemma too. Wow, we're business walk ward. 683 00:29:30,320 --> 00:29:33,280 Speaker 2: We also blessed. One thing that bothered me was that 684 00:29:33,360 --> 00:29:35,920 Speaker 2: we only texted, no FaceTime, and only one phone call 685 00:29:36,040 --> 00:29:38,640 Speaker 2: during this time. I was so devastated and heartbroken over 686 00:29:38,680 --> 00:29:41,440 Speaker 2: the whole situation because I really liked him and thought 687 00:29:41,480 --> 00:29:44,720 Speaker 2: I'd never see him again. After a few months, I 688 00:29:44,840 --> 00:29:47,320 Speaker 2: decided I wanted to do a work and travel in Australia. 689 00:29:48,000 --> 00:29:49,920 Speaker 2: I just graduated from high school and didn't want to 690 00:29:49,920 --> 00:29:51,720 Speaker 2: go to UNI straight away, so it would be the 691 00:29:51,760 --> 00:29:54,320 Speaker 2: perfect opportunity. But I think subconsciously I just wanted to 692 00:29:54,320 --> 00:29:57,680 Speaker 2: see him again. That's so fair girl. About two months ago, 693 00:29:57,800 --> 00:30:00,080 Speaker 2: Feb twenty twenty five, I arrived here in Sydney and 694 00:30:00,240 --> 00:30:02,360 Speaker 2: I can count on one hand how often we've seen 695 00:30:02,400 --> 00:30:05,360 Speaker 2: each other. Four times. He is working during the week 696 00:30:05,440 --> 00:30:07,160 Speaker 2: so weekends are the only time we can hang out, 697 00:30:07,160 --> 00:30:08,960 Speaker 2: and he also has his friends and family here, so 698 00:30:09,040 --> 00:30:13,560 Speaker 2: it's kind of hard making plans. Twenty five, it's just 699 00:30:13,760 --> 00:30:16,320 Speaker 2: the Saturday April. Now, that's one month basically, well two, 700 00:30:16,560 --> 00:30:18,960 Speaker 2: depending on when she arrived. I don't think that's actually 701 00:30:19,040 --> 00:30:21,840 Speaker 2: that bad. No, it seems bad because I think you 702 00:30:21,920 --> 00:30:24,680 Speaker 2: come into it thinking like we're gonna fall in love, 703 00:30:24,680 --> 00:30:26,320 Speaker 2: we're gonna hang out, and we're gonna have sleepovers every 704 00:30:26,320 --> 00:30:28,960 Speaker 2: single night. But he's only just beginning. And if you 705 00:30:29,040 --> 00:30:30,840 Speaker 2: can only see him on weekends, I actually don't think 706 00:30:30,880 --> 00:30:32,240 Speaker 2: four times is that And you have. 707 00:30:32,320 --> 00:30:35,200 Speaker 1: To like, yeah, as you said, like he's got family, friends, work, 708 00:30:35,240 --> 00:30:37,560 Speaker 1: and everything. Here you've come into his life that's already 709 00:30:37,600 --> 00:30:41,560 Speaker 1: so existing, So like making time for someone can be 710 00:30:41,720 --> 00:30:43,640 Speaker 1: really hard when you've still got all of that going 711 00:30:43,680 --> 00:30:46,840 Speaker 1: on and he hasn't changed his environment exactly. 712 00:30:47,120 --> 00:30:49,320 Speaker 2: So I think I don't think that's that bad, but 713 00:30:49,520 --> 00:30:52,960 Speaker 2: we'll continue and see. There were two or three times 714 00:30:53,000 --> 00:30:54,600 Speaker 2: where we made plans and he said he would come 715 00:30:54,680 --> 00:30:56,520 Speaker 2: to see me on the weekend but then canceled on me, 716 00:30:56,640 --> 00:30:59,720 Speaker 2: which really upset me, especially because one time the reason 717 00:30:59,800 --> 00:31:03,720 Speaker 2: was that the boys spontaneously decided to have dinner together. Yeah, 718 00:31:03,760 --> 00:31:07,320 Speaker 2: that would piss me the fuck off. See sad note 719 00:31:07,360 --> 00:31:09,480 Speaker 2: say something about my ex that like used to fucking 720 00:31:09,480 --> 00:31:11,400 Speaker 2: annoy this shit out of me. My first boyfriend, so 721 00:31:11,440 --> 00:31:13,120 Speaker 2: we were young, but it would be like, oh, do 722 00:31:13,120 --> 00:31:14,360 Speaker 2: you want to hang out in the weekend, and he'd 723 00:31:14,400 --> 00:31:16,239 Speaker 2: be like, oh, well, I kind of have to keep 724 00:31:16,280 --> 00:31:18,120 Speaker 2: it open, like just in case the boys decide they 725 00:31:18,160 --> 00:31:20,800 Speaker 2: want to do something. I'm like, keep it open, like 726 00:31:20,880 --> 00:31:23,120 Speaker 2: I've just decided to make a plan with you. But 727 00:31:23,200 --> 00:31:25,080 Speaker 2: then it's like if I ask later, you'd be like, sorry, 728 00:31:25,160 --> 00:31:26,760 Speaker 2: I can't. The boys are doing something. So it's like 729 00:31:26,760 --> 00:31:29,800 Speaker 2: I've gotten it there first, you don't want to hang 730 00:31:29,840 --> 00:31:31,000 Speaker 2: out with me and you want to hang out with 731 00:31:31,040 --> 00:31:33,240 Speaker 2: the boys. Yeah, and I realized that far too late 732 00:31:33,560 --> 00:31:34,800 Speaker 2: that he didn't give a fuck about me. 733 00:31:34,920 --> 00:31:37,080 Speaker 1: Yeah, you want a priority, Yeah, and. 734 00:31:37,160 --> 00:31:39,960 Speaker 2: I wasn't one. He would apologize and tell me that 735 00:31:40,000 --> 00:31:41,800 Speaker 2: I am a priority to him and that we would 736 00:31:41,800 --> 00:31:43,880 Speaker 2: make time to see each other next weekend. The sad 737 00:31:43,960 --> 00:31:45,280 Speaker 2: thing is is that it falls through it and then 738 00:31:45,280 --> 00:31:46,600 Speaker 2: you have to wait a whole nother week. Yeah, it 739 00:31:46,600 --> 00:31:49,000 Speaker 2: would be really disappointing. So I get that. So it's 740 00:31:49,000 --> 00:31:50,600 Speaker 2: always a gamb believe we're going to see each other 741 00:31:50,720 --> 00:31:52,880 Speaker 2: or not. Whenever we do see each other, though, there 742 00:31:52,920 --> 00:31:55,560 Speaker 2: are times when awkward silence just crawls in and I 743 00:31:55,640 --> 00:31:57,720 Speaker 2: feel like from my side, I just can't fully open 744 00:31:57,800 --> 00:31:59,680 Speaker 2: up to him and be my true self, which is 745 00:31:59,720 --> 00:32:01,320 Speaker 2: weird because I really like him and I know he 746 00:32:01,440 --> 00:32:04,280 Speaker 2: really likes me. We're still texting every day and sending 747 00:32:04,320 --> 00:32:06,680 Speaker 2: each other funny reels and overtext were okay, but in 748 00:32:06,760 --> 00:32:10,160 Speaker 2: person idynamic is just kind of off. Sometimes I feel 749 00:32:10,200 --> 00:32:12,239 Speaker 2: like me not being able to open up to him 750 00:32:12,240 --> 00:32:14,440 Speaker 2: and ask barely getting to hang out is somehow related. 751 00:32:14,600 --> 00:32:16,560 Speaker 2: I don't want to end this because I really like him, 752 00:32:16,840 --> 00:32:19,000 Speaker 2: but I can't continue with whatever this is otherwise I 753 00:32:19,120 --> 00:32:21,840 Speaker 2: might crash out. I already did. Lol. Is it a 754 00:32:21,960 --> 00:32:24,040 Speaker 2: red flag that he is twenty three and I'm eighteen. 755 00:32:24,840 --> 00:32:27,280 Speaker 2: I'm still enjoying my time here in Australia and I'm 756 00:32:27,280 --> 00:32:29,480 Speaker 2: starting to love this place. I've met some amazing people. 757 00:32:29,880 --> 00:32:31,800 Speaker 2: But I don't know what to do with him. Should 758 00:32:31,840 --> 00:32:34,880 Speaker 2: I drop him? I love how puberty Blues coded that 759 00:32:35,000 --> 00:32:38,440 Speaker 2: saying is you're from Germany, so you may not know that, 760 00:32:38,640 --> 00:32:40,680 Speaker 2: but in puberty Blues and they break up with each other, 761 00:32:40,720 --> 00:32:43,880 Speaker 2: they'll be like, you got dropped? Should I drop him? 762 00:32:43,920 --> 00:32:45,600 Speaker 2: Should I try and work it out with him? Should 763 00:32:45,600 --> 00:32:47,600 Speaker 2: I have just left it to be a Thailand fling? 764 00:32:47,880 --> 00:32:48,520 Speaker 2: Please help. 765 00:32:49,200 --> 00:32:51,320 Speaker 1: I'm going to tell you what you need to hear, 766 00:32:51,360 --> 00:32:53,880 Speaker 1: not what you want to hear. You've completely romanticized this 767 00:32:53,960 --> 00:32:56,360 Speaker 1: guy in your head. You obviously had an amazing time 768 00:32:56,440 --> 00:32:58,240 Speaker 1: with Thailand, and then you went back to Germany and 769 00:32:58,320 --> 00:33:00,920 Speaker 1: you've had so much time to build up this what 770 00:33:01,080 --> 00:33:03,040 Speaker 1: you thought it was going to be, what you imagined 771 00:33:03,040 --> 00:33:04,680 Speaker 1: it to be when you got here. Yeah, and it's 772 00:33:04,920 --> 00:33:08,360 Speaker 1: just not that he's not your guy. He knows in 773 00:33:08,520 --> 00:33:10,200 Speaker 1: deep down in his head that you're only here for 774 00:33:10,240 --> 00:33:12,080 Speaker 1: a certain amount of time and he should be lapping 775 00:33:12,120 --> 00:33:13,400 Speaker 1: it up if he really did like you. 776 00:33:13,560 --> 00:33:15,880 Speaker 2: Therefore, he likes you as a pertentage of having someone 777 00:33:16,400 --> 00:33:18,600 Speaker 2: kind of fun from Germany to hang around with for 778 00:33:18,680 --> 00:33:20,760 Speaker 2: a bit, But if he thought it would become something 779 00:33:20,840 --> 00:33:22,960 Speaker 2: more serious, there would be more effort put in. Yeah, 780 00:33:23,080 --> 00:33:26,160 Speaker 2: and I think so many amazing guys in cityey country. 781 00:33:26,280 --> 00:33:29,400 Speaker 2: I personally haven't seen any of them yet, but you 782 00:33:29,800 --> 00:33:32,800 Speaker 2: will find someone else the moment you stop romanticizing this 783 00:33:32,880 --> 00:33:33,840 Speaker 2: guy because he's not one. 784 00:33:33,800 --> 00:33:35,760 Speaker 1: Hundred percent and you only have a short amount of 785 00:33:35,800 --> 00:33:38,320 Speaker 1: time here, allow yourself to be fully single and put 786 00:33:38,360 --> 00:33:41,680 Speaker 1: yourself out there and like really lap it up when 787 00:33:41,760 --> 00:33:43,840 Speaker 1: it comes to that shit, and like you will be 788 00:33:43,920 --> 00:33:46,240 Speaker 1: so grateful that you didn't waste your time and like 789 00:33:46,400 --> 00:33:48,440 Speaker 1: allowed yourself to be upset on the weekends because this 790 00:33:48,560 --> 00:33:49,680 Speaker 1: guy didn't. He didn't. 791 00:33:50,000 --> 00:33:51,640 Speaker 2: You're not a prioritie and the phrase we all know 792 00:33:51,760 --> 00:33:54,360 Speaker 2: and love. If you wanted to, he would, yeah, and 793 00:33:54,480 --> 00:33:57,240 Speaker 2: he's not doing it right. Yeah, So I think you 794 00:33:57,320 --> 00:33:59,000 Speaker 2: need to drop him to take advantage to go out 795 00:33:59,040 --> 00:34:01,160 Speaker 2: with all these new amazing fris you've met. Australia is 796 00:34:01,200 --> 00:34:03,880 Speaker 2: so fun. There's so many nice people around. You'll meet 797 00:34:03,920 --> 00:34:05,640 Speaker 2: someone better and you'd be glad you met them now 798 00:34:05,680 --> 00:34:07,440 Speaker 2: and not at the end of your trip. Yeah, so 799 00:34:08,280 --> 00:34:09,320 Speaker 2: you're gonna have to drop. 800 00:34:09,200 --> 00:34:12,560 Speaker 1: Him, girl, and if not, message his friend Johnny, Yeah, 801 00:34:12,680 --> 00:34:13,960 Speaker 1: the other guy, why not? 802 00:34:15,000 --> 00:34:15,280 Speaker 2: Yollo? 803 00:34:18,000 --> 00:34:21,719 Speaker 1: All right, guys, that's it for today's part of the Dilemmas. 804 00:34:21,719 --> 00:34:23,560 Speaker 1: Make sure you tune in next week as we're reading 805 00:34:23,600 --> 00:34:25,440 Speaker 1: the second half of the Dilemmas, and we'll see you. 806 00:34:25,600 --> 00:34:27,920 Speaker 2: They're also great and varied this week. Yeah, I love that. 807 00:34:28,160 --> 00:34:28,719 Speaker 1: They're really good. 808 00:34:28,880 --> 00:34:33,359 Speaker 2: Thanks to Blake sing through all of your dilemmas, which 809 00:34:33,400 --> 00:34:35,480 Speaker 2: we love. Thank you for sending them in again, and 810 00:34:35,560 --> 00:34:37,200 Speaker 2: hopefully we get around to yours one day. But we 811 00:34:37,280 --> 00:34:39,080 Speaker 2: love you, guys, and we will chat to you next 812 00:34:39,160 --> 00:34:40,200 Speaker 2: week already