Speaker 1: We got get morning every day every la adelaides. Sometimes
Speaker 1: theft can be funny only sometimes. Bloke by the name
Speaker 1: of Adam Spencer. This was reported by the BBC. He's
Speaker 1: forty years old. He was arrested by officers in Nottingham
Speaker 1: Share Shire. Sure, yeah, you've had some England experience, is
Speaker 1: it shy? I've lived there, Nottingham Share, Nottingham Share on Tuesday.
Speaker 1: He was charged with two counts of burglary and three
Speaker 1: counts of theft. Police said Spencer committed series of theft
Speaker 1: across May and April, starting on the eleventh of April
Speaker 1: at Tesco, then hitting an Asta on seventeenth of April.
Speaker 1: During one of these thefts, he took seventeen tubes of pringles,
Speaker 1: and during questioning told police once you pop, you can't stop.
Speaker 1: That's what it's all about, yes, Adam, because you can
Speaker 1: only imagine that at that stage the place will like clever, Adam, Yeah, clever,
Speaker 1: Off you go.
Speaker 2: It's so keep going. I don't disagree with him. Pringles
Speaker 2: of very difficult to just have one or two.
Speaker 1: It feels like that could be a genuine excuse as
Speaker 1: to why you would steal springles because you're right, I
Speaker 1: can get through seventeen to twenty tubes, no problems at all. Tubes. Tubes,
Speaker 1: tubes too. They're quite skinny now yeah, yeah, they've decreased
Speaker 1: a little bit so you can fit more. En I assume.
Speaker 3: What about the ones on the plane, the little baby springles.
Speaker 4: Yeah, they're no good.
Speaker 2: Yeah, they're dangerous to you once the kids have attacked them.
Speaker 2: It's like the crumbs left at the bottom for mum.
Speaker 2: That is no good.
Speaker 1: They're also about seven bucks of pop. Yeah, they're playing.
Speaker 1: They're ridiculous.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 1: I would like to rob a Nike store. And then
Speaker 1: as I'm getting arrested and the place like why why
Speaker 1: why did you get in this path? And I said,
Speaker 1: and I just look at him in the face and go,
Speaker 1: just do it, plice, go go and.
Speaker 2: Get into I wonder if there's ever been any bank
Speaker 2: robberies through the history of the time where you've got
Speaker 2: the getaway car driver sitting there waiting for the robber
Speaker 2: to come out, and the robber comes out and just
Speaker 2: yells out.
Speaker 6: Stop the card.
Speaker 1: Brilliant. Do we get that on Bodycare?
Speaker 2: Yes?
Speaker 1: That's how about this for a headline? South Korean millennials
Speaker 1: are using pet rocks to combat loneliness and burn out.
Speaker 1: It's both funny and sad all at the same TIMEGIC
Speaker 1: South Korea's unique trend involves buying rocks online and treating
Speaker 1: them like pets, dressing them up, painting faces on them,
Speaker 1: and giving them names and beds.
Speaker 3: Why are they little for all? Why are they so
Speaker 3: lonely in South Korea?
Speaker 1: That's a good question. This transfergs during the COVID nineteen
Speaker 1: pandemic as a coping mechanism for loneliness, stress, and burnout.
Speaker 1: Some companies in South Korea are now sell these pet
Speaker 1: rocks price between five and eleven dollars, with some selling
Speaker 1: hundreds per month. You've just got to beat those youngster blues,
Speaker 1: don't you.
Speaker 3: It can be very lonely growing.
Speaker 1: Up, it can be. I was born on a farm. Yeah,
Speaker 1: born Raisland farm. I went to there was sixteen kids.
Speaker 1: I was the only one of my years. Had some
Speaker 1: lonely dimes, sure, but I never wear down that level.
Speaker 1: I never had pet pet rats.
Speaker 2: You would have, I was going to say, you would
Speaker 2: have found solace in the animals around you.
Speaker 1: Yeah, sheep, cattle, had horses as well. But I genuinely
Speaker 1: a couple of pet rats as well, did you. I
Speaker 1: still think about the rats occasionally. It brings me to
Speaker 1: you though, because back in the Nine Day nineties, just
Speaker 1: one of these specific in tazzy in a bygone era, Yes,
Speaker 1: be the lonely lonely well.
Speaker 3: I used to collect Oh no, here we.
Speaker 1: Go, just just a warning. Joe's about to say something
Speaker 1: about rageous. Just got to make you shake your head
Speaker 1: and put your head into your hands.
Speaker 3: I used to collect erases.
Speaker 1: Collect what erases? Like rubbers? Oh what does that even mean?
Speaker 2: I was a small child, but I used Some people
Speaker 2: collected barbies or ca whig?
Speaker 6: Was I collected a racist?
Speaker 1: Where'd you get them from? When people donate them to you?
Speaker 1: Would you find them in?
Speaker 3: Being the news agents?
Speaker 2: And I remember once I stole one because it's pretty
Speaker 2: so lonely another one from my collection?
Speaker 3: Coolleen about it, which she made me take it back.
Speaker 1: You know I've said it before, I'll say it again.
Speaker 1: Hashtag tazzy things.
Speaker 6: Now, that's a job.
Speaker 1: That was a joke. That's a joke, job, a terrible job.
Speaker 1: Monday Joe's we said that.
Speaker 3: Yeah, sorry? And you know who's great in this space?
Speaker 2: He?
Speaker 1: Is there anyone better? Randall Paulus to use the abbey.
Speaker 6: Thank you, good morning.
Speaker 2: So on the on the blue scale this morning, Where
Speaker 2: does your jokes? No, mine's quite PG actually yeah, all right,
Speaker 2: which is interesting.
Speaker 1: Well mine's a little bit blue. Okay, do you want
Speaker 1: to kick things off? It's a really sort of interesting direction. Okay, okay,
Speaker 1: let's go. Why couldn't the lizard get a girlfriend? I
Speaker 1: couldn't lose because he had reptile dysfunction. It happens, though,
Speaker 1: it happens to the best of you.
Speaker 2: Yes, all right, question for you, what's the difference between
Speaker 2: a piano account of tuna and a tube of glue?
Speaker 3: Um? You know you can tune a piano, but you
Speaker 3: can't piano a tuna.
Speaker 2: Okay, yeah, why didn't you ask to where.
Speaker 3: The glue comes in?
Speaker 1: Where's the glue coming?
Speaker 2: People get stuck on that.
Speaker 1: It's a double mate different lay.
Speaker 6: But also you did stop like you could have continued.
Speaker 2: Okay, No, that's not how jokes work. When we were quiet.
Speaker 2: We were quiet, so you could have then said the
Speaker 2: next bit. Didn't either one of you didn't it occur
Speaker 2: to you to say, hey, what about the glue?
Speaker 1: All right, get your thinking, get your thinking it's nice.
Speaker 6: Ready.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: A guy goes to an ice cream van and says
Speaker 2: large cone please, in quite a croaky voice. The vendor
Speaker 2: says raspberry syrup. Yes, please, replies the bloke with the
Speaker 2: same painful sounding voice. Crushed nuts, says the vendor. No,
Speaker 2: says the bloke, pointing to his throat laryngitis.
Speaker 6: That was very PG.
Speaker 1: That was very PG. Nice, Well deliver it. That's good,
Speaker 1: thoughts Jo.
Speaker 2: No, I just I'm stuck in the crush nuts bit,
Speaker 2: just digesting that.
Speaker 1: Really, Yeah, do you know what? We'll speak about it
Speaker 1: in this song? Let's talk in a monologue?
Speaker 2: Can we?
Speaker 1: This is a strange new space for me. Would you
Speaker 1: believe it? And it turns out not everyone has an
Speaker 1: internal monologue and you Studies revealed that those who do
Speaker 1: not have one may struggle to perform certain memory tests
Speaker 1: and you studies reveal that those who do not have
Speaker 1: one may perform you certain I already said that, but
Speaker 1: I've already it. See what I'm talking about here? This
Speaker 1: is crazy. So in this study published in the Journal
Speaker 1: of Psychological Science, great journal, by the way, really good journal.
Speaker 3: Half all the journals that I read, shelf half.
Speaker 1: Of the participants had very little in a voice, while
Speaker 1: the other half had a very strong inner speech. There
Speaker 1: was a small percentage that didn't have one at all.
Speaker 1: Joe's I think on one of those people, where do
Speaker 1: you sit? I don't think I have an internal monologue? Right,
Speaker 1: so explain to me quite quickly. And what even isn't
Speaker 1: in a monologue?
Speaker 2: So it's basically, if you have a thought in your head,
Speaker 2: can you hear it?
Speaker 1: No? I can't hear anything.
Speaker 3: Okay, what's going on? All right?
Speaker 1: Is that bad?
Speaker 2: So there's no in a voice in your head saying hey, Andrew,
Speaker 2: don't run that red light.
Speaker 3: There's no audible voice.
Speaker 1: You know exactly what's going on in my head. This
Speaker 1: you've got two options. In fact, you've probably got three options.
Speaker 1: Of course, you've got the little monkey playing symbols. There is.
Speaker 3: Do you have a name?
Speaker 1: He shall remain nameless, because how could you put a
Speaker 1: name on such a thing of beauty?
Speaker 3: Anonymous?
Speaker 1: There's a little bit of a theme song when I'm
Speaker 1: walking around, and then sometimes it to combine beautifully, and
Speaker 1: that's I think that's mine too, A monolold two yes,
Speaker 1: And I think that's the extent of my internal monolog
Speaker 1: and that's it, And is is that normal?
Speaker 3: No?
Speaker 1: What's going on in your head?
Speaker 2: Well, I'm a woman, so at any given time there
Speaker 2: are I reckon approximately fifteen thousand, eight hundred and seventy
Speaker 2: six thoughts going on at the same time.
Speaker 1: All sort of clashing over the top of each other.
Speaker 3: Yeah. They range from what are the kids doing? What
Speaker 3: are we having for dinner? What am I saying on
Speaker 3: the radio? What's happening in Channel ten? Should I be
Speaker 3: in the news? Am I on the news?
Speaker 1: That sort of vibe, you know, Okay, what about you
Speaker 1: news reader? Have you you just over analyzing everything? And
Speaker 1: what's your internal monolold saying right.
Speaker 2: Here, Hers, I know hers, I hate everyone and everything.
Speaker 3: That's it, full stop.
Speaker 2: No. On the other side of that, it's oh they
Speaker 2: don't like me. Oh they just looked at me. Oh
Speaker 2: they think I'm ugly. Oh they think I'm this. It's
Speaker 2: constantly constantly going, I need to do this. When I
Speaker 2: finish where I'm going to do this. Oh I need
Speaker 2: to do that. Hastangan tories tank waking up this morning.
Speaker 1: He's getting old and you hearing that back in your
Speaker 1: voice because your voice, you're hearing that.
Speaker 3: Back constantly what's wrong with me? Can you just do
Speaker 3: the simple thing again?
Speaker 1: It's peaceful.
Speaker 3: I don't want to be out of my head, you know, at.
Speaker 1: Least jump into my brain and let's go for a
Speaker 1: nice let's move right, shall we.
Speaker 3: It's good because it would be relaxing.
Speaker 1: Wouldn't it. No deep thoughts here.
Speaker 3: I never thought I would say this, Abs. I really
Speaker 3: want to.
Speaker 2: Be a man.
Speaker 6: I know, I know.
Speaker 2: We'll leave you at this ready, R Let's talk about
Speaker 2: your muffin, Abby, excuse.
Speaker 6: Me very very much?
Speaker 3: What about this story?
Speaker 2: During the week, it was reported a young man was
Speaker 2: taken by surprise when he discovered he had been charged
Speaker 2: a one dollar standard heating fee for the seven dollar
Speaker 2: muffin he had ordered to have with a coffee at
Speaker 2: a Melbourne cafe.
Speaker 6: Oh my god, very Melbourne, isn't it.
Speaker 2: He took to Facebook and he said they just added
Speaker 2: to the bill without telling you, adding he would have
Speaker 2: had the muffin cold if he had known he was
Speaker 2: going to.
Speaker 3: Be charged for its warming.
Speaker 2: Hey, onduce, that was already seven dollars. Yes, that's just
Speaker 2: an expensive muffet to be like a steak muffin. They're
Speaker 2: like the ones at Woolworth they're like this white chocolate
Speaker 2: and raspberry and they come in a four pack and
Speaker 2: they're really expensive, so only eat and when mum busn't.
Speaker 3: But they're so much. Oh my god, oh my god.
Speaker 2: You're a woman in your mid thirties who has to
Speaker 2: wait for your mum to buy the expensive.
Speaker 6: Reference because they're so expensive.
Speaker 2: But anyway, yeah, outrageous little fees that they just add
Speaker 2: in every now and then. So we were in Melbourne
Speaker 2: actually and we went to a restaurant and they didn't
Speaker 2: have table service. It was just a QR code, which
Speaker 2: you know how I feel about justice, you love because
Speaker 2: you are, And there was a surcharge of two dollars
Speaker 2: for using the QR coach. Most of them do that,
Speaker 2: what Yeah, most of them have like a service fee
Speaker 2: on there, which I don't understand because you're not getting getting.
Speaker 6: A human over to serve you. No, they're getting it
Speaker 6: through the kitchen.
Speaker 2: The kitchen's doing it and it's coming straight out, so
Speaker 2: they're cutting out a person. Not just that I'm doing
Speaker 2: the ordering myself. It's why am I paying a two
Speaker 2: dollar search charge?
Speaker 1: On thirteen twenty fourteen. These little ripoffs that are slowly
Speaker 1: ruining your life. Yeah, it's their little paper cuts, aren't they?
Speaker 1: Slowly but surely the little paper cuts. I still wonder
Speaker 1: if there's places out there where you buy a pie
Speaker 1: and they try and charge you extra for sauce.
Speaker 6: That is so UnAustralian.
Speaker 1: That should be stock standard. And here's the other thing.
Speaker 1: Breakfast extras, Yes, okay, shouldn't be shouldn't be more than
Speaker 1: about four bucks. This is so if it's an extra bacon,
Speaker 1: I understand four bucks, avocado smashed avocado four bucks, but
Speaker 1: everything else, no way more than four dollars.
Speaker 3: Well, I still think four dollars for extra avocado.
Speaker 2: Du Yeah, yeah, because the whole avocado in like the
Speaker 2: markets is what a dollar each?
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's ridiculous.
Speaker 1: Okay, So what about.
Speaker 3: Don't start on ship at avocado?
Speaker 1: Oh my god, what absolute little terrorists they are? What
Speaker 1: about halloomi?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 1: How much would that be?
Speaker 2: Oh? Halluomy's good cheese, good cheese, and it is in
Speaker 2: the supermarkets like six or seven bucksky, so hallomi, Yeah
Speaker 2: you can have.
Speaker 1: It okay for four bucks yep. But things like tomato
Speaker 1: beans one hash bran should be like two dollars fifty
Speaker 1: or three dollars.
Speaker 3: Yes, even less than that. I reckon a dollar.
Speaker 1: Yeah, there you go.
Speaker 2: Thirteen twenty four to ten gives us a call this morning.
Speaker 2: Those sneaky little hidden costs that are getting you. I
Speaker 2: think that they shouldn't charge extra for different milk.
Speaker 1: Oh, that's a good one.
Speaker 2: So I get lactose free. Usually I'm not lactose intolerant.
Speaker 2: I'm just a blanker.
Speaker 3: Yeah, what about your milk?
Speaker 2: But it does it makes you feel better. It just
Speaker 2: makes me let my tummy feel better. And so it
Speaker 2: goes from Then you go and get a medium coffee
Speaker 2: and say it's six dollars or six fifty, and all
Speaker 2: of a sudden you're paying seven dollars from eating coffee
Speaker 2: because it's fifty cents extra for the milk. So I'm
Speaker 2: about to be introduced to this world because I think
Speaker 2: my daughter is is Celiac for you, no more gluten?
Speaker 3: So do they charge you extra for gluten free?
Speaker 6: Yes, gluten free is even though it's a medical condition. Yeah,
Speaker 6: it's extra.
Speaker 2: And if you go to the shops like gluten free bread,
Speaker 2: it's smaller and it's more expensive.
Speaker 3: Yeah that's true.
Speaker 2: Yeah, everything gluten free is usually more expensive. But in
Speaker 2: saying that, hell, food aisle. Great, some great things down there.
Speaker 2: I love that aisle. By the end of this I'll
Speaker 2: be giving that child to another loving family.
Speaker 1: Seven dollars for a muffin in Melbourne, extra one dollar
Speaker 1: to heat it up, eight bucks in total. That is
Speaker 1: an absolute disgrace.
Speaker 2: Outrageous, isn't it? So we're taking your calls thirteen twenty
Speaker 2: four ten. Those little hidden extra charges and costs, what
Speaker 2: are they?
Speaker 3: Let's go to Julie for morning Julie, Hi, Jody, Hi,
Speaker 3: what happened?
Speaker 7: They seemed to be a theme here with hot drinks.
Speaker 7: But oh it to Adelaide Oval recently to see the
Speaker 7: Crows game, and I went to a little coffee card
Speaker 7: at halftime to get my coffee and a hot chocolate.
Speaker 7: And when I want to pay, I thought that seems
Speaker 7: a lot, because I like my coffee extra hot, so
Speaker 7: I'd asked for extra hot. And I said to the guy, Oh,
Speaker 7: that seems like I'm not sure he've charged me correctly.
Speaker 7: And he said, I know, we charged an extra dollar
Speaker 7: for extra hot.
Speaker 1: That's not a thing.
Speaker 7: No, I am not kidding.
Speaker 1: Outrageous, So then how did you go? Then?
Speaker 5: Like?
Speaker 1: Did you was there? Two and fourth from that? Did
Speaker 1: you guys settle on something or did you just pay
Speaker 1: it and leave?
Speaker 7: Well he kind of had already wrung it up on
Speaker 7: the I have my card, you know, hanging over it,
Speaker 7: ready to go. I thought, what do I do?
Speaker 2: So I say that, Yeah, you sound like a people
Speaker 2: pleaser like me, jorly, I'll just pay it, just not
Speaker 2: to make a fo Yeah, I know what do you do?
Speaker 7: But I have to I have to agree with Abby
Speaker 7: the war wors mphons are with But there's six dollars
Speaker 7: for four muffins asby, like, come.
Speaker 2: On, come on, more expensive than that, way more expensive
Speaker 2: than that stores for four muffins.
Speaker 6: Yeah, these ones are like fifteen bucks or something.
Speaker 3: It's ridiculous.
Speaker 1: Well, how would you know your parents pay?
Speaker 2: How do you know your mummy still takes you to
Speaker 2: woolwork to buy your grocery?
Speaker 1: Oh, let's got a c biggest rip off, Karen. What
Speaker 1: do you got o get easy?
Speaker 4: I get up at five am and head off to work,
Speaker 4: and anytime I stop into a server, I've been charged
Speaker 4: up to fifty.
Speaker 5: Cents for sauce.
Speaker 1: With my sausage roll. In the morning, I get out
Speaker 1: of here not.
Speaker 7: A miss, and not just one particular So it could
Speaker 7: be any given servo right and up to fifty cents.
Speaker 1: It is absolutely ridiculous, absolutely insane.
Speaker 2: And I don't want to sound like your mother here,
Speaker 2: but are you actually having a sausage roll for breakfast.
Speaker 3: On the way to work? Absolutely?
Speaker 2: I am.
Speaker 1: How you get the day started? There we go. It's
Speaker 1: a lot of good points at Karan ras.
Speaker 2: Wash that down with a fifteen dollar muffin from all
Speaker 2: worse than away?
Speaker 3: You go, you're on, let's go to Jackie. What's the
Speaker 3: subtle little charge.
Speaker 7: Of going out for lunch or dinner on a Sunday
Speaker 7: and you get the twenty percent charge?
Speaker 1: Twenty percent is a lot.
Speaker 7: Of the course of the time bill Sunday day.
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, awesome, spam take that.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: And I think the argument is, though, is that don't
Speaker 2: they have to pay like double time on a Sunday.
Speaker 3: Yes, yes, they've got to pay wages.
Speaker 1: Which I understand, but Sunday versus a public holiday, when
Speaker 1: it's a public holiday surcharge, I can absolutely understand it.
Speaker 1: The other thing as well is that sometimes you're in there,
Speaker 1: you've had a meal or whatever, and then you don't
Speaker 1: understand that there's a twenty percent surcharge until you go
Speaker 1: to pay towards the end, and that can really sting
Speaker 1: your pocket.
Speaker 3: Yeah, sure can, especially for someone like you who can
Speaker 3: be a little bit tidy.
Speaker 1: Excuse me very much.
Speaker 3: It's got to g O delicious. Hello good, No, we're good.
Speaker 3: Hell get slugged for g O.
Speaker 1: Oh. You know when you've sat down, you've had a
Speaker 1: nice meal, but you've over ordered, and then you asked
Speaker 1: for a takeaway container and that gets slipped on the bill.
Speaker 1: Dollar two dollars. Does that happen, Joe? I've never really
Speaker 1: noticed that, because, yeah, I definitely want to take stuff
Speaker 1: home if there's spare food there, there's at It's.
Speaker 4: Not definitely, not all the time, but sometimes it's just like,
Speaker 4: oh wow, okay, thank you, that's ridiculous.
Speaker 2: Refer to my previous point about you being a bit tidy.
Speaker 1: Okay, we had.
Speaker 6: A team lunch yesterday and Hazy just ate off everyone else's.
Speaker 1: That is not true.
Speaker 3: Actually did.
Speaker 2: And then this morning I had a toasted sandwich and
Speaker 2: you went, can I have a bar to that? And
Speaker 2: I said, yes, absolutely here how huh oh.
Speaker 1: God, this is just I'm not sure gaslighting is, but
Speaker 1: maybe I said to you you said you on to
Speaker 1: one and I said, look, if you can't finish it,
Speaker 1: I tried to gaslight you and say I'll do you
Speaker 1: a favor and finish.
Speaker 2: Yes, I know, but having said that, you never share
Speaker 2: your food with me.
Speaker 3: Ever.
Speaker 2: Okay, let's talk about relationships for justin one moment. Can
Speaker 2: we have you ever looked at that old couple that
Speaker 2: are walking down the street and they're holding hands and
Speaker 2: they've been together for sixty years and you go, how'd
Speaker 2: you guys do it? Yeah?
Speaker 1: And cheese. They've both got some stories to tell.
Speaker 2: Yes, So a couple's therapist has noticed seven signs of
Speaker 2: couples who made it. So these are the qualities that
Speaker 2: got people to the other side of the marriage battleground,
Speaker 2: if you will. So there's seven things here, and as
Speaker 2: I say them, I want you to mentally tick them
Speaker 2: off and see if that's what you're doing in your marriage.
Speaker 2: To Kara and play along at home, please have a
Speaker 2: think about, oh, okay, do we do that or do
Speaker 2: we not do that? And and for the purposes of
Speaker 2: this exercise, I've brought in producer Zoe who's only in
Speaker 2: her twenties, but it's just been through a relationship breakup.
Speaker 2: So here's a few hints and tips for you to get.
Speaker 3: I really appreciate.
Speaker 1: It to be here.
Speaker 3: You soon tell me if it's too so, well, we're here.
Speaker 2: The first one that the therapist noticed about these couples
Speaker 2: is that they were friends and they genuinely enjoyed each other's.
Speaker 1: That's the most important.
Speaker 2: And they genuinely enjoyed each other's company, and they were
Speaker 2: excited to come home and hear about each other's day.
Speaker 3: So that's the first one that I had that So, okay,
Speaker 3: we'll see where I lack.
Speaker 2: They had difficult conversations or you had a difficult conversation.
Speaker 3: It was like this is done.
Speaker 2: No, So they didn't cope by avoiding or denying that
Speaker 2: anything was wrong.
Speaker 3: So they hit things head on.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's hard, and that's really hard for your stock
Speaker 1: stand a bloke to wipen up and talk about what's
Speaker 1: exactly on your feelings and you know you're at the
Speaker 1: jumpman and say, that's me to an absolute tea. My
Speaker 1: wife will say as well, she said the other day,
Speaker 1: she'd be like, I'll speak to you week after week,
Speaker 1: is what's going on? What's going nothing? Nothing? Nothing, And
Speaker 1: then one night maybe after a beer and a half,
Speaker 1: I'll be like, hey, I'm ready to talk for an
Speaker 1: hour and a half.
Speaker 2: Yeah, where did they come from? And she's like, I
Speaker 2: want to watch the Housewives Atlanta?
Speaker 1: I just want to watch the football.
Speaker 3: This is a good one. They take the mickey out
Speaker 3: of each other, so you make light of each other's quirks.
Speaker 2: So you might get annoyed by them sometimes, and let's
Speaker 2: be honest, when you first start out in a relationship,
Speaker 2: everything they do is cute.
Speaker 3: But after six seven years it's like.
Speaker 2: That is so annoying, but you can still take the
Speaker 2: PI double five out of it, which is important as well.
Speaker 2: They let each other be themselves, so they didn't want
Speaker 2: to change the other person. That's really important.
Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, absolutely, because if you go into a relationship,
Speaker 1: and this is from a guy who's searching an expert
Speaker 1: in relationship, don't you just if you have a relationship
Speaker 1: thinking that there's an ideal person that your partner could be,
Speaker 1: and you think that you could mentually change them over time,
Speaker 1: you probably won't. Yeah, you probably won't be able to change.
Speaker 2: And you fell in love with that person because of
Speaker 2: who they are, right, So I don't know why you
Speaker 2: would ever going with the intention of changing someone.
Speaker 1: Don't change us because we are who we are, do
Speaker 1: you know what I mean?
Speaker 2: He once a horse, always a horse. The next one
Speaker 2: is they fight, so you get frustrated sometimes, but you
Speaker 2: learn how to navigate that frustration by actually getting into it.
Speaker 3: But navigating conflict well just through our.
Speaker 1: Painting a picture here. This is not a visual MENI.
Speaker 1: But Jodey goes you know, they learn to get into it.
Speaker 1: And you did that little thing you do with your
Speaker 1: fish like someone, So what are you talking?
Speaker 2: That's the best way to resolve a conflict of anyway.
Speaker 1: To a formal ice hockey player as well, the amount
Speaker 1: of times are Jo's and Greg gott you have had
Speaker 1: an issue and it ends up with Jody with her
Speaker 1: shirt over her back ice hockey style. It drops the
Speaker 1: mittens into it.
Speaker 6: There we go.
Speaker 2: They have boundaries with families, so you don't venture the
Speaker 2: family or the kids about how mum and dad annoy
Speaker 2: each other. That's a big one too, and they do
Speaker 2: what's best for their partnership and the relationship. And the
Speaker 2: last one is they've been through dark times. This one
Speaker 2: almost makes me cry it because it's those people that
Speaker 2: have been at the crossroads, and you've even had second
Speaker 2: thoughts and you've thought, do I want to continue in this,
Speaker 2: but you've.
Speaker 3: Decided, yes, I choose to stay. I choose to be
Speaker 3: with you. And that they say the experts builds trust.
Speaker 2: So if you've been to war with someone and you
Speaker 2: got through that war and you say I still want
Speaker 2: to fight alongside.
Speaker 3: You, then there you go.
Speaker 1: There you go. That's really nice. It's quite it's quite profound.
Speaker 1: You know, my wife and Kara and I have right
Speaker 1: now as well, and it was her idea because the
Speaker 1: most testing time I think possibly in a relationship. What
Speaker 1: I found is when you've got kids and you're trying
Speaker 1: to work out what sort of parents you are, and
Speaker 1: I know that my wife is an excellent parent, so
Speaker 1: I'm sort of trying to get tips on how to
Speaker 1: do it from her as well at the same time,
Speaker 1: but you get sort of angry, and you get sort
Speaker 1: of snarky, and sometimes you take out your aggression on
Speaker 1: each other. But it's clearly it's a kids, that's honest.
Speaker 1: So now we've got this, it's almost like a safe word,
Speaker 1: which is trenches. Really we're in the trenches. This is
Speaker 1: when you're in the trenches, so I just no, and
Speaker 1: then straight away so I need a safe word from cars,
Speaker 1: She says, just trenches. I go, yes, all right, I
Speaker 1: am taking out on you and vice versa.
Speaker 3: No one saw that coming from you. No one saw
Speaker 3: all was going on.
Speaker 1: He's crying, leaky ego, let's go on.
Speaker 2: God that.
Speaker 1: This emotion? How Good's pretty.
Speaker 2: Parents of children who have been bullied on social media
Speaker 2: will be punching the air at the news that Peter
Speaker 2: Malinowskis wants to ban children under fourteen from all of
Speaker 2: the platforms. So we're talking Facebook, TikTok, YouTube, Snapchat, Instagram
Speaker 2: and x So it would be Australia first legislation that
Speaker 2: will be proposed by mister Malinowskis, and if it goes through,
Speaker 2: that will go through by the twenty twenty sixth election.
Speaker 1: I have to disagree rather with a move like this.
Speaker 5: There's been much examination and consequential evidence to suggest that
Speaker 5: addictive algorithms are being used to draw young people in
Speaker 5: in a way that they're developing minds are just not
Speaker 5: capable to be able to deal with, and that in
Speaker 5: term causes them great vulnerability to mental health issues.
Speaker 2: My god, social media is dangerous, and I don't think
Speaker 2: think this is the first generation that we will see
Speaker 2: the full impact of social media down the track on
Speaker 2: our mental health. Now, it is no coincidence that the
Speaker 2: rise in mental health problems coincides with the introduction of
Speaker 2: all of these platforms. What annoys me no end about
Speaker 2: these people that make an absolute fortune from these social
Speaker 2: media platforms is that there is zero regulation. Anyone can
Speaker 2: jump on the Internet and say anything about anyone else
Speaker 2: without there being any hint of defamation. And I just
Speaker 2: don't understand how they can get away with it, can you?
Speaker 7: No?
Speaker 1: It is mind boggling. So, I mean, the easy thing
Speaker 1: to say in situation like this, particularly in this hate
Speaker 1: that comes through, is just ignore it and things like that.
Speaker 1: But that's so much easy said than done. And the
Speaker 1: first time, the first time you actually see some hateful
Speaker 1: comments come towards you. And I used to write our show,
Speaker 1: as you know, with cane corns who turn it into
Speaker 1: a i'd say, a positive situation. He do mean tweets
Speaker 1: and all these types of things, but he had to
Speaker 1: learn how to handle it. And the first time some
Speaker 1: comments came towards me, it's like genuinely it's hard to process. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and eventually you do get used to it, but that's
Speaker 1: coming from someone who's in their mid thirties. We're processing
Speaker 1: that which is still trying to develop your own sort
Speaker 1: of brain everything that comes with it, and then you're
Speaker 1: dealing with hateful comments. It's disgusting.
Speaker 2: We're human beings and we're conditioned to be want to
Speaker 2: be liked and want to be loved, so it goes
Speaker 2: against everything that we're wired to do. But also, I'm
Speaker 2: trying to teach my girls to be kind people. And
Speaker 2: it's not just the other kids that are nasty, it's
Speaker 2: when they jump on social media and they see other
Speaker 2: adults being horrible to each other.
Speaker 3: I mean, what sort of standard are we setting.
Speaker 2: When we've got keyboard warriors just deliberately going online to
Speaker 2: troll other people like it's not a nice space, and
Speaker 2: unless it gets cleaned up.
Speaker 3: I don't want kids under fourteen on there.
Speaker 2: I don't want their young, developing, sensitive brains to be
Speaker 2: explode exposed to the hate from other kids and or.
Speaker 1: Adults, particularly mid teens. That is such of unrelage for
Speaker 1: self development. Confidence issues can start at any age, but
Speaker 1: particularly there where you're genuinely trying to find yourself work
Speaker 1: yourself out, and you're dealing with external pressure like that
Speaker 1: is just it's ridiculous.
Speaker 2: And that's not even that hasn't even touched on the
Speaker 2: predators online who are praying on young girls and young
Speaker 2: boys and pretending to be someone else. We need to
Speaker 2: clean all this stuff up before we even think about
Speaker 2: letting children get on the internet.
Speaker 1: It's got full votes here. I think there's anyone here
Speaker 1: in this room that doesn't agree with what Peter mallenows
Speaker 1: because is trying to put in thirteen and twenty four
Speaker 1: ten do you think a social media band will work?
Speaker 1: And also have you already implemented something like this at
Speaker 1: your house? What's your social media policy? It do an't?
Speaker 2: I'm super keen to know because I had my eleven
Speaker 2: year old begging me for Snapchat on the weekend and
Speaker 2: I was like, absolutely not, just like why not all
Speaker 2: the other kids have got it? Like I am doing
Speaker 2: this for your own good and I am trying to
Speaker 2: protect you from social media and one day you will
Speaker 2: thank me, yes, just not tomorrow, no, the next day,
Speaker 2: but one day you'll thank me.
Speaker 1: It's just another hurdle, I think for a lot of
Speaker 1: parents tackling social media at an early age. Your social
Speaker 1: media policy, give us a call. Thirteen twenty four to ten.
Speaker 1: Peter Malanowskis has implemented something which I think so many
Speaker 1: parents will very much connect with it.
Speaker 3: Well, he hasn't just yet, but he's trying to.
Speaker 2: It would be an Australian first legislation proposed by Mali
Speaker 2: saying that social media platforms will require users to be
Speaker 2: at least thirteen to start an account.
Speaker 3: Such a good thing.
Speaker 2: I think the longer you can hold off your kids
Speaker 2: being exposed to social media, the better off will all be.
Speaker 1: I mean it's a broader The broader one is just
Speaker 1: tablets in general, screen time, even YouTube and things like
Speaker 1: that where there's genuine interaction. I mean, the good old days.
Speaker 1: Joe's social media didn't sort of come into my life
Speaker 1: until around the age of sort of twenty three twenty four.
Speaker 1: Even then, I mean we're to sort of get around
Speaker 1: the Facebook.
Speaker 2: I mean, all I did is a child, was just
Speaker 2: etch things on the side of a cave, not on it.
Speaker 2: I know, I felt like getting first before you did
Speaker 2: any hashtag tas.
Speaker 1: He thing just sort of grunt, you know, Yeah.
Speaker 2: I think I was the last generation of not having
Speaker 2: social media at home, like going like going home, and
Speaker 2: you know, if.
Speaker 6: You were bullied at school, it was just school.
Speaker 2: And then you went home and you could cut Like
Speaker 2: there wasn't it didn't extend on to social media.
Speaker 1: Yeah, even on mesa and things like that, there wasn't
Speaker 1: much because you would only connect with the people that
Speaker 1: you would want to connect with, so there wasn't any
Speaker 1: bullying or anything like that. It was generally quite a
Speaker 1: really low in terms of just how fancy it was,
Speaker 1: but it's quite whole.
Speaker 3: She blows my mind.
Speaker 2: It absolutely blows my mind that people can be aholes
Speaker 2: on the internet and your photo is there, and your
Speaker 2: place of work is there, and they're quite often pictures
Speaker 2: of people with their family on there. Well, a lot
Speaker 2: of people are content with being mean, a lot a
Speaker 2: lot of people are getting themselves in trouble because people
Speaker 2: see their workplace, they ring the workplace and say, hey,
Speaker 2: this is what this person's been saying and it's crossing
Speaker 2: over into their everyday life.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I've seen a lot of that happen.
Speaker 1: M mean, that stupid.
Speaker 3: I know.
Speaker 2: Seriously, let's go to Megan, because we're asking the questions
Speaker 2: morning once to the social media.
Speaker 3: Media policy with your kids? What do you do with
Speaker 3: your Megan?
Speaker 4: So we've got no social media policy as well. She's
Speaker 4: got her stone for the first time, which I was
Speaker 4: even here to give it to her as well, but
Speaker 4: all her friends had it. So we've agreed to a phone.
Speaker 4: But there's no Snapchat, there's no Instagram, there's no Facebook
Speaker 4: and all of those platforms us you know the agreement,
Speaker 4: and you know, we said to her that she gets
Speaker 4: caught with it, then she loses her phone. She'll just
Speaker 4: have the phone for going to the shop when you
Speaker 4: know she wants to go to a shop on her
Speaker 4: own and to have a look at something and I'll
Speaker 4: be able to contact her. We're trying to encourage an
Speaker 4: incentive of no social media until she's seventeen. Okay, with
Speaker 4: the incentive of car, but we go hard to the car.
Speaker 4: Howbout we go hard in the car. You stay social
Speaker 4: media and you a greet and no social media into
Speaker 4: you're seventeen, we'll go hard to the Car's good, but yeah,
Speaker 4: it's really it's really hard when all of the friends
Speaker 4: have it. But the key thing for me was speaking
Speaker 4: to a family friend that's a police officer, and they
Speaker 4: said that hackers these days, I've actually gotten really really
Speaker 4: clever with bypassing all the security settings off there. Even
Speaker 4: if you have locations they's turned off. A really good
Speaker 4: hacker can actually bypass those security settings and pinpoint where
Speaker 4: your child is right down to the street name, horror number, everything. Yes,
Speaker 4: and you know that. That was my argument to my
Speaker 4: daughter of you know, you can turn those things off,
Speaker 4: but if a hiker really wants to find you, they can,
Speaker 4: and you know that's just not cool.
Speaker 2: Yeah, absolutely, Megan, Well done, Thank you. Let's go to Angelove.
Speaker 2: Your thoughts on social media with your kids.
Speaker 8: Good morning, guys. Yeah, I like you, guys in full
Speaker 8: agreement to this. I think it should be a fan
Speaker 8: for the whole of schooling until the kids graduate. Our
Speaker 8: agreement is that the kids can't have any social media
Speaker 8: platforms until they finish school. They need to concentrate on schooling.
Speaker 8: My husband and I are police officers and we've come
Speaker 8: face to face with the tragedy that social media has
Speaker 8: on families. It's ripped them apart. We are very honest
Speaker 8: with our children. We do not hide this issue. And
Speaker 8: when my kids are how they tackle, you know, the
Speaker 8: pressures from school. Web said to them, tell them it's
Speaker 8: not your parents staying though, you're staying no. You have
Speaker 8: the power to say, I don't want to be on
Speaker 8: social media. I want my safe based at home. I
Speaker 8: don't want it. And so far, so good. Their friends
Speaker 8: haven't pressured them, bullied them. If they want to get
Speaker 8: in contact, they call like the old days or a text,
Speaker 8: and it's so far it's working really well.
Speaker 3: What's good?
Speaker 8: Oh yeah, we're rounded kids with no mental health issues
Speaker 8: and it seems to be working for us, and I
Speaker 8: think it can work for everyone.
Speaker 3: Yeah, thank you.
Speaker 2: The one that always gets me in that space when
Speaker 2: you talk about police officers is the Carlie Ryan one
Speaker 2: And there's plenty of good resources on the Kylie Ryan
Speaker 2: Carli Ryan Foundation website where it can help you get
Speaker 2: your kids off social media. And if that is not
Speaker 2: a tale of warning, then I don't know what is.
Speaker 1: Jond's what I've noticed through parenthood and watching what my
Speaker 1: lovely wife Kara does and how she brings up the kids,
Speaker 1: is your parenting from the female perspective can be very,
Speaker 1: very taxing. And I'm just going to say mentally, but
Speaker 1: oh my gosh physically as well, in particular breastfeeding.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like if you've got a parasite living inside
Speaker 2: you and then it comes outside your body and it
Speaker 2: attaches itself to you for another six months.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Wow, isn't it a beautiful isn't it a joy's and
Speaker 2: breastfreading and beautiful thing?
Speaker 1: What about this little exchange from a couple based in
Speaker 1: New York, Surprise, surprise. A husband has texted his wife
Speaker 1: that he wants to end their marriage because of an
Speaker 1: outrageous reason. In an exchanging message, he accuses her of
Speaker 1: incest over a disrespectful act shortly after she had given birth.
Speaker 1: The disrespectful act is breastfeeding their son. He said, you
Speaker 1: know how I feel about it. The couple whose name
Speaker 1: is April and Jonathan on Twitter. He explained, you've been breastfeeding.
Speaker 1: You know how I effing feel about this. April was
Speaker 1: taken back and asked when her husband is coming to
Speaker 1: get her. He then responds, I don't know if I
Speaker 1: am the new mum then offered, if you don't like
Speaker 1: seeing it, maybe I could just do it in a
Speaker 1: different room. He said, you go behind my back and
Speaker 1: do something I've stressed about not doing It's a proven
Speaker 1: scientific fact that breast milk is no better than modern formula,
Speaker 1: and I'll never be able to look at you the
Speaker 1: same way again. I think you're a bad wife. I
Speaker 1: think you don't respect me. I think you took a
Speaker 1: joy away from me. I think a lot of things.
Speaker 1: I enjoy your boobs. Now they've been another man's mouth.
Speaker 1: I no longer enjoy your boobs.
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, Oh my god.
Speaker 2: Do you know what my response to that would be.
Speaker 2: I don't want your mouth on my boobs anymore. You're disgusting.
Speaker 2: You're a vaulting human being, and you're also a bit
Speaker 2: screwed up in.
Speaker 1: The head one hundred percent. Imagine being jealous and fighting
Speaker 1: effectively with a few day old babies.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean over what is the most natural act
Speaker 2: in the world.
Speaker 3: What a painut.
Speaker 2: I've had some weird stuff in my time in radio,
Speaker 2: but that is up there in the top three.
Speaker 1: That's got to be. That's got to be. I was
Speaker 1: going to say one in a million, that's got to
Speaker 1: be almost one in a billion. Things like that. Surely
Speaker 1: what I'm all on. I don't want to go too
Speaker 1: far aggressively. The other way. But you know, I see
Speaker 1: hear it, and quite seriously, I used to hear stories
Speaker 1: about how women would say that if they saw a
Speaker 1: man being a father, just how much would turn them on, Like,
Speaker 1: quite seriously, I understand that now from a different perspective. Yeah,
Speaker 1: when I watch my wife do what she does with
Speaker 1: the kids and even things like breastfeeding, all these things
Speaker 1: which he's so unbelievably good at, she's got the patience
Speaker 1: of someone who's get tested to their core. I I'm
Speaker 1: extremely turned on, like seriously watching her be a mother,
Speaker 1: and because she's so good at it. Yeah, I tell
Speaker 1: you what makes my ovaries pop.
Speaker 3: Wow, that's so that's so very sweet inappropriate.
Speaker 2: Well, I mean, if you were to sit here and
Speaker 2: say watching her breastfeed turns you on, I'd say that
Speaker 2: would be a little bit strang.
Speaker 3: But no, I get what you're saying.
Speaker 2: You just it makes you love her more and mild
Speaker 2: the aroused because she's such a good mother.
Speaker 3: I don't think there's anything wrong with that. I think
Speaker 3: that's beautiful.