WEBVTT - The 7 Traits All Successful Couples Have

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<v Speaker 1>We got get morning every day every la adelaides. Sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>theft can be funny only sometimes. Bloke by the name

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<v Speaker 1>of Adam Spencer. This was reported by the BBC. He's

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<v Speaker 1>forty years old. He was arrested by officers in Nottingham

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<v Speaker 1>Share Shire. Sure, yeah, you've had some England experience, is

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<v Speaker 1>it shy? I've lived there, Nottingham Share, Nottingham Share on Tuesday.

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<v Speaker 1>He was charged with two counts of burglary and three

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<v Speaker 1>counts of theft. Police said Spencer committed series of theft

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<v Speaker 1>across May and April, starting on the eleventh of April

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<v Speaker 1>at Tesco, then hitting an Asta on seventeenth of April.

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<v Speaker 1>During one of these thefts, he took seventeen tubes of pringles,

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<v Speaker 1>and during questioning told police once you pop, you can't stop.

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<v Speaker 1>That's what it's all about, yes, Adam, because you can

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<v Speaker 1>only imagine that at that stage the place will like clever, Adam, Yeah, clever,

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<v Speaker 1>Off you go.

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<v Speaker 2>It's so keep going. I don't disagree with him. Pringles

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<v Speaker 2>of very difficult to just have one or two.

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<v Speaker 1>It feels like that could be a genuine excuse as

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<v Speaker 1>to why you would steal springles because you're right, I

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<v Speaker 1>can get through seventeen to twenty tubes, no problems at all. Tubes. Tubes,

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<v Speaker 1>tubes too. They're quite skinny now yeah, yeah, they've decreased

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<v Speaker 1>a little bit so you can fit more. En I assume.

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<v Speaker 3>What about the ones on the plane, the little baby springles.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, they're no good.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, they're dangerous to you once the kids have attacked them.

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<v Speaker 2>It's like the crumbs left at the bottom for mum.

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<v Speaker 2>That is no good.

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<v Speaker 1>They're also about seven bucks of pop. Yeah, they're playing.

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<v Speaker 1>They're ridiculous.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>I would like to rob a Nike store. And then

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<v Speaker 1>as I'm getting arrested and the place like why why

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<v Speaker 1>why did you get in this path? And I said,

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<v Speaker 1>and I just look at him in the face and go,

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<v Speaker 1>just do it, plice, go go and.

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<v Speaker 2>Get into I wonder if there's ever been any bank

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<v Speaker 2>robberies through the history of the time where you've got

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<v Speaker 2>the getaway car driver sitting there waiting for the robber

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<v Speaker 2>to come out, and the robber comes out and just

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<v Speaker 2>yells out.

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<v Speaker 6>Stop the card.

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<v Speaker 1>Brilliant. Do we get that on Bodycare?

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<v Speaker 2>Yes?

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<v Speaker 1>That's how about this for a headline? South Korean millennials

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<v Speaker 1>are using pet rocks to combat loneliness and burn out.

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<v Speaker 1>It's both funny and sad all at the same TIMEGIC

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<v Speaker 1>South Korea's unique trend involves buying rocks online and treating

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<v Speaker 1>them like pets, dressing them up, painting faces on them,

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<v Speaker 1>and giving them names and beds.

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<v Speaker 3>Why are they little for all? Why are they so

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<v Speaker 3>lonely in South Korea?

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<v Speaker 1>That's a good question. This transfergs during the COVID nineteen

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<v Speaker 1>pandemic as a coping mechanism for loneliness, stress, and burnout.

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<v Speaker 1>Some companies in South Korea are now sell these pet

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<v Speaker 1>rocks price between five and eleven dollars, with some selling

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<v Speaker 1>hundreds per month. You've just got to beat those youngster blues,

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<v Speaker 1>don't you.

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<v Speaker 3>It can be very lonely growing.

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<v Speaker 1>Up, it can be. I was born on a farm. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>born Raisland farm. I went to there was sixteen kids.

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<v Speaker 1>I was the only one of my years. Had some

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<v Speaker 1>lonely dimes, sure, but I never wear down that level.

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<v Speaker 1>I never had pet pet rats.

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<v Speaker 2>You would have, I was going to say, you would

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<v Speaker 2>have found solace in the animals around you.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, sheep, cattle, had horses as well. But I genuinely

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<v Speaker 1>a couple of pet rats as well, did you. I

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<v Speaker 1>still think about the rats occasionally. It brings me to

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<v Speaker 1>you though, because back in the Nine Day nineties, just

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<v Speaker 1>one of these specific in tazzy in a bygone era, Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>be the lonely lonely well.

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<v Speaker 3>I used to collect Oh no, here we.

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<v Speaker 1>Go, just just a warning. Joe's about to say something

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<v Speaker 1>about rageous. Just got to make you shake your head

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<v Speaker 1>and put your head into your hands.

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<v Speaker 3>I used to collect erases.

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<v Speaker 1>Collect what erases? Like rubbers? Oh what does that even mean?

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<v Speaker 2>I was a small child, but I used Some people

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<v Speaker 2>collected barbies or ca whig?

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<v Speaker 6>Was I collected a racist?

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<v Speaker 1>Where'd you get them from? When people donate them to you?

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<v Speaker 1>Would you find them in?

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<v Speaker 3>Being the news agents?

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<v Speaker 2>And I remember once I stole one because it's pretty

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<v Speaker 2>so lonely another one from my collection?

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<v Speaker 3>Coolleen about it, which she made me take it back.

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<v Speaker 1>You know I've said it before, I'll say it again.

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<v Speaker 1>Hashtag tazzy things.

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<v Speaker 6>Now, that's a job.

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<v Speaker 1>That was a joke. That's a joke, job, a terrible job.

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<v Speaker 1>Monday Joe's we said that.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, sorry? And you know who's great in this space?

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<v Speaker 2>He?

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<v Speaker 1>Is there anyone better? Randall Paulus to use the abbey.

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<v Speaker 6>Thank you, good morning.

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<v Speaker 2>So on the on the blue scale this morning, Where

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<v Speaker 2>does your jokes? No, mine's quite PG actually yeah, all right,

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<v Speaker 2>which is interesting.

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<v Speaker 1>Well mine's a little bit blue. Okay, do you want

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<v Speaker 1>to kick things off? It's a really sort of interesting direction. Okay, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>let's go. Why couldn't the lizard get a girlfriend? I

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<v Speaker 1>couldn't lose because he had reptile dysfunction. It happens, though,

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<v Speaker 1>it happens to the best of you.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, all right, question for you, what's the difference between

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<v Speaker 2>a piano account of tuna and a tube of glue?

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<v Speaker 3>Um? You know you can tune a piano, but you

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<v Speaker 3>can't piano a tuna.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, yeah, why didn't you ask to where.

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<v Speaker 3>The glue comes in?

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<v Speaker 1>Where's the glue coming?

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<v Speaker 2>People get stuck on that.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a double mate different lay.

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<v Speaker 6>But also you did stop like you could have continued.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, No, that's not how jokes work. When we were quiet.

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<v Speaker 2>We were quiet, so you could have then said the

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<v Speaker 2>next bit. Didn't either one of you didn't it occur

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<v Speaker 2>to you to say, hey, what about the glue?

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<v Speaker 1>All right, get your thinking, get your thinking it's nice.

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<v Speaker 6>Ready.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>A guy goes to an ice cream van and says

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<v Speaker 2>large cone please, in quite a croaky voice. The vendor

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<v Speaker 2>says raspberry syrup. Yes, please, replies the bloke with the

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<v Speaker 2>same painful sounding voice. Crushed nuts, says the vendor. No,

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<v Speaker 2>says the bloke, pointing to his throat laryngitis.

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<v Speaker 6>That was very PG.

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<v Speaker 1>That was very PG. Nice, Well deliver it. That's good,

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<v Speaker 1>thoughts Jo.

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<v Speaker 2>No, I just I'm stuck in the crush nuts bit,

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<v Speaker 2>just digesting that.

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<v Speaker 1>Really, Yeah, do you know what? We'll speak about it

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<v Speaker 1>in this song? Let's talk in a monologue?

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<v Speaker 2>Can we?

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<v Speaker 1>This is a strange new space for me. Would you

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<v Speaker 1>believe it? And it turns out not everyone has an

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<v Speaker 1>internal monologue and you Studies revealed that those who do

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<v Speaker 1>not have one may struggle to perform certain memory tests

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<v Speaker 1>and you studies reveal that those who do not have

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<v Speaker 1>one may perform you certain I already said that, but

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<v Speaker 1>I've already it. See what I'm talking about here? This

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<v Speaker 1>is crazy. So in this study published in the Journal

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<v Speaker 1>of Psychological Science, great journal, by the way, really good journal.

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<v Speaker 3>Half all the journals that I read, shelf half.

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<v Speaker 1>Of the participants had very little in a voice, while

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<v Speaker 1>the other half had a very strong inner speech. There

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<v Speaker 1>was a small percentage that didn't have one at all.

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<v Speaker 1>Joe's I think on one of those people, where do

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<v Speaker 1>you sit? I don't think I have an internal monologue? Right,

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<v Speaker 1>so explain to me quite quickly. And what even isn't

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<v Speaker 1>in a monologue?

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<v Speaker 2>So it's basically, if you have a thought in your head,

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<v Speaker 2>can you hear it?

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<v Speaker 1>No? I can't hear anything.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, what's going on? All right?

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<v Speaker 1>Is that bad?

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<v Speaker 2>So there's no in a voice in your head saying hey, Andrew,

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<v Speaker 2>don't run that red light.

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<v Speaker 3>There's no audible voice.

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<v Speaker 1>You know exactly what's going on in my head. This

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<v Speaker 1>you've got two options. In fact, you've probably got three options.

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<v Speaker 1>Of course, you've got the little monkey playing symbols. There is.

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<v Speaker 3>Do you have a name?

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<v Speaker 1>He shall remain nameless, because how could you put a

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<v Speaker 1>name on such a thing of beauty?

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<v Speaker 3>Anonymous?

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<v Speaker 1>There's a little bit of a theme song when I'm

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<v Speaker 1>walking around, and then sometimes it to combine beautifully, and

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<v Speaker 1>that's I think that's mine too, A monolold two yes,

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<v Speaker 1>And I think that's the extent of my internal monolog

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<v Speaker 1>and that's it, And is is that normal?

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<v Speaker 3>No?

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<v Speaker 1>What's going on in your head?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I'm a woman, so at any given time there

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<v Speaker 2>are I reckon approximately fifteen thousand, eight hundred and seventy

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<v Speaker 2>six thoughts going on at the same time.

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<v Speaker 1>All sort of clashing over the top of each other.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah. They range from what are the kids doing? What

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<v Speaker 3>are we having for dinner? What am I saying on

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<v Speaker 3>the radio? What's happening in Channel ten? Should I be

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<v Speaker 3>in the news? Am I on the news?

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<v Speaker 1>That sort of vibe, you know, Okay, what about you

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<v Speaker 1>news reader? Have you you just over analyzing everything? And

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<v Speaker 1>what's your internal monolold saying right.

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<v Speaker 2>Here, Hers, I know hers, I hate everyone and everything.

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<v Speaker 3>That's it, full stop.

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<v Speaker 2>No. On the other side of that, it's oh they

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<v Speaker 2>don't like me. Oh they just looked at me. Oh

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<v Speaker 2>they think I'm ugly. Oh they think I'm this. It's

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<v Speaker 2>constantly constantly going, I need to do this. When I

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<v Speaker 2>finish where I'm going to do this. Oh I need

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<v Speaker 2>to do that. Hastangan tories tank waking up this morning.

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<v Speaker 1>He's getting old and you hearing that back in your

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<v Speaker 1>voice because your voice, you're hearing that.

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<v Speaker 3>Back constantly what's wrong with me? Can you just do

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<v Speaker 3>the simple thing again?

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<v Speaker 1>It's peaceful.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't want to be out of my head, you know, at.

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<v Speaker 1>Least jump into my brain and let's go for a

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<v Speaker 1>nice let's move right, shall we.

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<v Speaker 3>It's good because it would be relaxing.

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<v Speaker 1>Wouldn't it. No deep thoughts here.

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<v Speaker 3>I never thought I would say this, Abs. I really

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<v Speaker 3>want to.

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<v Speaker 2>Be a man.

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<v Speaker 6>I know, I know.

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<v Speaker 2>We'll leave you at this ready, R Let's talk about

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<v Speaker 2>your muffin, Abby, excuse.

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<v Speaker 6>Me very very much?

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<v Speaker 3>What about this story?

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<v Speaker 2>During the week, it was reported a young man was

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<v Speaker 2>taken by surprise when he discovered he had been charged

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<v Speaker 2>a one dollar standard heating fee for the seven dollar

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<v Speaker 2>muffin he had ordered to have with a coffee at

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<v Speaker 2>a Melbourne cafe.

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<v Speaker 6>Oh my god, very Melbourne, isn't it.

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<v Speaker 2>He took to Facebook and he said they just added

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<v Speaker 2>to the bill without telling you, adding he would have

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<v Speaker 2>had the muffin cold if he had known he was

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<v Speaker 2>going to.

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<v Speaker 3>Be charged for its warming.

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<v Speaker 2>Hey, onduce, that was already seven dollars. Yes, that's just

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<v Speaker 2>an expensive muffet to be like a steak muffin. They're

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<v Speaker 2>like the ones at Woolworth they're like this white chocolate

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<v Speaker 2>and raspberry and they come in a four pack and

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<v Speaker 2>they're really expensive, so only eat and when mum busn't.

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<v Speaker 3>But they're so much. Oh my god, oh my god.

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<v Speaker 2>You're a woman in your mid thirties who has to

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<v Speaker 2>wait for your mum to buy the expensive.

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<v Speaker 6>Reference because they're so expensive.

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<v Speaker 2>But anyway, yeah, outrageous little fees that they just add

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<v Speaker 2>in every now and then. So we were in Melbourne

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<v Speaker 2>actually and we went to a restaurant and they didn't

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<v Speaker 2>have table service. It was just a QR code, which

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<v Speaker 2>you know how I feel about justice, you love because

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<v Speaker 2>you are, And there was a surcharge of two dollars

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<v Speaker 2>for using the QR coach. Most of them do that,

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<v Speaker 2>what Yeah, most of them have like a service fee

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<v Speaker 2>on there, which I don't understand because you're not getting getting.

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<v Speaker 6>A human over to serve you. No, they're getting it

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<v Speaker 6>through the kitchen.

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<v Speaker 2>The kitchen's doing it and it's coming straight out, so

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<v Speaker 2>they're cutting out a person. Not just that I'm doing

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<v Speaker 2>the ordering myself. It's why am I paying a two

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<v Speaker 2>dollar search charge?

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<v Speaker 1>On thirteen twenty fourteen. These little ripoffs that are slowly

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<v Speaker 1>ruining your life. Yeah, it's their little paper cuts, aren't they?

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<v Speaker 1>Slowly but surely the little paper cuts. I still wonder

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<v Speaker 1>if there's places out there where you buy a pie

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<v Speaker 1>and they try and charge you extra for sauce.

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<v Speaker 6>That is so UnAustralian.

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<v Speaker 1>That should be stock standard. And here's the other thing.

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<v Speaker 1>Breakfast extras, Yes, okay, shouldn't be shouldn't be more than

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<v Speaker 1>about four bucks. This is so if it's an extra bacon,

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<v Speaker 1>I understand four bucks, avocado smashed avocado four bucks, but

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<v Speaker 1>everything else, no way more than four dollars.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, I still think four dollars for extra avocado.

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<v Speaker 2>Du Yeah, yeah, because the whole avocado in like the

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<v Speaker 2>markets is what a dollar each?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, it's ridiculous.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, So what about.

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<v Speaker 3>Don't start on ship at avocado?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, what absolute little terrorists they are? What

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<v Speaker 1>about halloomi?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>How much would that be?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh? Halluomy's good cheese, good cheese, and it is in

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<v Speaker 2>the supermarkets like six or seven bucksky, so hallomi, Yeah

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<v Speaker 2>you can have.

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<v Speaker 1>It okay for four bucks yep. But things like tomato

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<v Speaker 1>beans one hash bran should be like two dollars fifty

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<v Speaker 1>or three dollars.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, even less than that. I reckon a dollar.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, there you go.

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<v Speaker 2>Thirteen twenty four to ten gives us a call this morning.

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<v Speaker 2>Those sneaky little hidden costs that are getting you. I

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<v Speaker 2>think that they shouldn't charge extra for different milk.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, that's a good one.

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<v Speaker 2>So I get lactose free. Usually I'm not lactose intolerant.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm just a blanker.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, what about your milk?

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<v Speaker 2>But it does it makes you feel better. It just

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<v Speaker 2>makes me let my tummy feel better. And so it

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<v Speaker 2>goes from Then you go and get a medium coffee

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<v Speaker 2>and say it's six dollars or six fifty, and all

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<v Speaker 2>of a sudden you're paying seven dollars from eating coffee

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<v Speaker 2>because it's fifty cents extra for the milk. So I'm

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<v Speaker 2>about to be introduced to this world because I think

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<v Speaker 2>my daughter is is Celiac for you, no more gluten?

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<v Speaker 3>So do they charge you extra for gluten free?

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<v Speaker 6>Yes, gluten free is even though it's a medical condition. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 6>it's extra.

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<v Speaker 2>And if you go to the shops like gluten free bread,

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<v Speaker 2>it's smaller and it's more expensive.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah that's true.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, everything gluten free is usually more expensive. But in

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<v Speaker 2>saying that, hell, food aisle. Great, some great things down there.

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<v Speaker 2>I love that aisle. By the end of this I'll

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<v Speaker 2>be giving that child to another loving family.

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<v Speaker 1>Seven dollars for a muffin in Melbourne, extra one dollar

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<v Speaker 1>to heat it up, eight bucks in total. That is

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<v Speaker 1>an absolute disgrace.

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<v Speaker 2>Outrageous, isn't it? So we're taking your calls thirteen twenty

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<v Speaker 2>four ten. Those little hidden extra charges and costs, what

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<v Speaker 2>are they?

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<v Speaker 3>Let's go to Julie for morning Julie, Hi, Jody, Hi,

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<v Speaker 3>what happened?

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<v Speaker 7>They seemed to be a theme here with hot drinks.

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<v Speaker 7>But oh it to Adelaide Oval recently to see the

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<v Speaker 7>Crows game, and I went to a little coffee card

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<v Speaker 7>at halftime to get my coffee and a hot chocolate.

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<v Speaker 7>And when I want to pay, I thought that seems

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<v Speaker 7>a lot, because I like my coffee extra hot, so

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<v Speaker 7>I'd asked for extra hot. And I said to the guy, Oh,

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<v Speaker 7>that seems like I'm not sure he've charged me correctly.

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<v Speaker 7>And he said, I know, we charged an extra dollar

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<v Speaker 7>for extra hot.

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<v Speaker 1>That's not a thing.

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<v Speaker 7>No, I am not kidding.

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<v Speaker 1>Outrageous, So then how did you go? Then?

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<v Speaker 5>Like?

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<v Speaker 1>Did you was there? Two and fourth from that? Did

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<v Speaker 1>you guys settle on something or did you just pay

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<v Speaker 1>it and leave?

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<v Speaker 7>Well he kind of had already wrung it up on

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<v Speaker 7>the I have my card, you know, hanging over it,

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<v Speaker 7>ready to go. I thought, what do I do?

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<v Speaker 2>So I say that, Yeah, you sound like a people

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<v Speaker 2>pleaser like me, jorly, I'll just pay it, just not

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<v Speaker 2>to make a fo Yeah, I know what do you do?

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<v Speaker 7>But I have to I have to agree with Abby

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<v Speaker 7>the war wors mphons are with But there's six dollars

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<v Speaker 7>for four muffins asby, like, come.

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<v Speaker 2>On, come on, more expensive than that, way more expensive

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<v Speaker 2>than that stores for four muffins.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, these ones are like fifteen bucks or something.

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<v Speaker 3>It's ridiculous.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, how would you know your parents pay?

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<v Speaker 2>How do you know your mummy still takes you to

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<v Speaker 2>woolwork to buy your grocery?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, let's got a c biggest rip off, Karen. What

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<v Speaker 1>do you got o get easy?

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<v Speaker 4>I get up at five am and head off to work,

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<v Speaker 4>and anytime I stop into a server, I've been charged

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<v Speaker 4>up to fifty.

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<v Speaker 5>Cents for sauce.

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<v Speaker 1>With my sausage roll. In the morning, I get out

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<v Speaker 1>of here not.

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<v Speaker 7>A miss, and not just one particular So it could

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<v Speaker 7>be any given servo right and up to fifty cents.

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<v Speaker 1>It is absolutely ridiculous, absolutely insane.

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<v Speaker 2>And I don't want to sound like your mother here,

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<v Speaker 2>but are you actually having a sausage roll for breakfast.

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<v Speaker 3>On the way to work? Absolutely?

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<v Speaker 2>I am.

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<v Speaker 1>How you get the day started? There we go. It's

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of good points at Karan ras.

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<v Speaker 2>Wash that down with a fifteen dollar muffin from all

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<v Speaker 2>worse than away?

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<v Speaker 3>You go, you're on, let's go to Jackie. What's the

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<v Speaker 3>subtle little charge.

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<v Speaker 7>Of going out for lunch or dinner on a Sunday

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<v Speaker 7>and you get the twenty percent charge?

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<v Speaker 1>Twenty percent is a lot.

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<v Speaker 7>Of the course of the time bill Sunday day.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh yeah, awesome, spam take that.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>And I think the argument is, though, is that don't

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<v Speaker 2>they have to pay like double time on a Sunday.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, yes, they've got to pay wages.

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<v Speaker 1>Which I understand, but Sunday versus a public holiday, when

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<v Speaker 1>it's a public holiday surcharge, I can absolutely understand it.

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<v Speaker 1>The other thing as well is that sometimes you're in there,

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<v Speaker 1>you've had a meal or whatever, and then you don't

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<v Speaker 1>understand that there's a twenty percent surcharge until you go

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<v Speaker 1>to pay towards the end, and that can really sting

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<v Speaker 1>your pocket.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, sure can, especially for someone like you who can

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<v Speaker 3>be a little bit tidy.

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<v Speaker 1>Excuse me very much.

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<v Speaker 3>It's got to g O delicious. Hello good, No, we're good.

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<v Speaker 3>Hell get slugged for g O.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh. You know when you've sat down, you've had a

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<v Speaker 1>nice meal, but you've over ordered, and then you asked

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<v Speaker 1>for a takeaway container and that gets slipped on the bill.

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<v Speaker 1>Dollar two dollars. Does that happen, Joe? I've never really

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<v Speaker 1>noticed that, because, yeah, I definitely want to take stuff

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<v Speaker 1>home if there's spare food there, there's at It's.

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<v Speaker 4>Not definitely, not all the time, but sometimes it's just like,

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<v Speaker 4>oh wow, okay, thank you, that's ridiculous.

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<v Speaker 2>Refer to my previous point about you being a bit tidy.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, we had.

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<v Speaker 6>A team lunch yesterday and Hazy just ate off everyone else's.

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<v Speaker 1>That is not true.

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<v Speaker 3>Actually did.

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<v Speaker 2>And then this morning I had a toasted sandwich and

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<v Speaker 2>you went, can I have a bar to that? And

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<v Speaker 2>I said, yes, absolutely here how huh oh.

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<v Speaker 1>God, this is just I'm not sure gaslighting is, but

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<v Speaker 1>maybe I said to you you said you on to

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<v Speaker 1>one and I said, look, if you can't finish it,

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<v Speaker 1>I tried to gaslight you and say I'll do you

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<v Speaker 1>a favor and finish.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, I know, but having said that, you never share

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<v Speaker 2>your food with me.

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<v Speaker 3>Ever.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, let's talk about relationships for justin one moment. Can

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<v Speaker 2>we have you ever looked at that old couple that

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<v Speaker 2>are walking down the street and they're holding hands and

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<v Speaker 2>they've been together for sixty years and you go, how'd

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<v Speaker 2>you guys do it? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>And cheese. They've both got some stories to tell.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, So a couple's therapist has noticed seven signs of

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<v Speaker 2>couples who made it. So these are the qualities that

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<v Speaker 2>got people to the other side of the marriage battleground,

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<v Speaker 2>if you will. So there's seven things here, and as

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<v Speaker 2>I say them, I want you to mentally tick them

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<v Speaker 2>off and see if that's what you're doing in your marriage.

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<v Speaker 2>To Kara and play along at home, please have a

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<v Speaker 2>think about, oh, okay, do we do that or do

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<v Speaker 2>we not do that? And and for the purposes of

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<v Speaker 2>this exercise, I've brought in producer Zoe who's only in

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<v Speaker 2>her twenties, but it's just been through a relationship breakup.

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<v Speaker 2>So here's a few hints and tips for you to get.

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<v Speaker 3>I really appreciate.

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<v Speaker 1>It to be here.

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<v Speaker 3>You soon tell me if it's too so, well, we're here.

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<v Speaker 2>The first one that the therapist noticed about these couples

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<v Speaker 2>is that they were friends and they genuinely enjoyed each other's.

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<v Speaker 1>That's the most important.

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<v Speaker 2>And they genuinely enjoyed each other's company, and they were

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<v Speaker 2>excited to come home and hear about each other's day.

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<v Speaker 3>So that's the first one that I had that So, okay,

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<v Speaker 3>we'll see where I lack.

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<v Speaker 2>They had difficult conversations or you had a difficult conversation.

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<v Speaker 3>It was like this is done.

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<v Speaker 2>No, So they didn't cope by avoiding or denying that

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<v Speaker 2>anything was wrong.

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<v Speaker 3>So they hit things head on.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that's hard, and that's really hard for your stock

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<v Speaker 1>stand a bloke to wipen up and talk about what's

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<v Speaker 1>exactly on your feelings and you know you're at the

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<v Speaker 1>jumpman and say, that's me to an absolute tea. My

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<v Speaker 1>wife will say as well, she said the other day,

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<v Speaker 1>she'd be like, I'll speak to you week after week,

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<v Speaker 1>is what's going on? What's going nothing? Nothing? Nothing, And

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<v Speaker 1>then one night maybe after a beer and a half,

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<v Speaker 1>I'll be like, hey, I'm ready to talk for an

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<v Speaker 1>hour and a half.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, where did they come from? And she's like, I

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<v Speaker 2>want to watch the Housewives Atlanta?

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<v Speaker 1>I just want to watch the football.

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<v Speaker 3>This is a good one. They take the mickey out

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<v Speaker 3>of each other, so you make light of each other's quirks.

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<v Speaker 2>So you might get annoyed by them sometimes, and let's

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<v Speaker 2>be honest, when you first start out in a relationship,

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<v Speaker 2>everything they do is cute.

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<v Speaker 3>But after six seven years it's like.

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<v Speaker 2>That is so annoying, but you can still take the

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<v Speaker 2>PI double five out of it, which is important as well.

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<v Speaker 2>They let each other be themselves, so they didn't want

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<v Speaker 2>to change the other person. That's really important.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, yeah, absolutely, because if you go into a relationship,

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<v Speaker 1>and this is from a guy who's searching an expert

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<v Speaker 1>in relationship, don't you just if you have a relationship

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<v Speaker 1>thinking that there's an ideal person that your partner could be,

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<v Speaker 1>and you think that you could mentually change them over time,

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<v Speaker 1>you probably won't. Yeah, you probably won't be able to change.

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<v Speaker 2>And you fell in love with that person because of

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<v Speaker 2>who they are, right, So I don't know why you

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<v Speaker 2>would ever going with the intention of changing someone.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't change us because we are who we are, do

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<v Speaker 1>you know what I mean?

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<v Speaker 2>He once a horse, always a horse. The next one

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<v Speaker 2>is they fight, so you get frustrated sometimes, but you

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<v Speaker 2>learn how to navigate that frustration by actually getting into it.

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<v Speaker 3>But navigating conflict well just through our.

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<v Speaker 1>Painting a picture here. This is not a visual MENI.

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<v Speaker 1>But Jodey goes you know, they learn to get into it.

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<v Speaker 1>And you did that little thing you do with your

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<v Speaker 1>fish like someone, So what are you talking?

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<v Speaker 2>That's the best way to resolve a conflict of anyway.

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<v Speaker 1>To a formal ice hockey player as well, the amount

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<v Speaker 1>of times are Jo's and Greg gott you have had

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<v Speaker 1>an issue and it ends up with Jody with her

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<v Speaker 1>shirt over her back ice hockey style. It drops the

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<v Speaker 1>mittens into it.

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<v Speaker 6>There we go.

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<v Speaker 2>They have boundaries with families, so you don't venture the

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<v Speaker 2>family or the kids about how mum and dad annoy

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<v Speaker 2>each other. That's a big one too, and they do

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<v Speaker 2>what's best for their partnership and the relationship. And the

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<v Speaker 2>last one is they've been through dark times. This one

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<v Speaker 2>almost makes me cry it because it's those people that

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<v Speaker 2>have been at the crossroads, and you've even had second

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<v Speaker 2>thoughts and you've thought, do I want to continue in this,

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<v Speaker 2>but you've.

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<v Speaker 3>Decided, yes, I choose to stay. I choose to be

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<v Speaker 3>with you. And that they say the experts builds trust.

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<v Speaker 2>So if you've been to war with someone and you

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<v Speaker 2>got through that war and you say I still want

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<v Speaker 2>to fight alongside.

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<v Speaker 3>You, then there you go.

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<v Speaker 1>There you go. That's really nice. It's quite it's quite profound.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, my wife and Kara and I have right

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<v Speaker 1>now as well, and it was her idea because the

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<v Speaker 1>most testing time I think possibly in a relationship. What

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<v Speaker 1>I found is when you've got kids and you're trying

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<v Speaker 1>to work out what sort of parents you are, and

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<v Speaker 1>I know that my wife is an excellent parent, so

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sort of trying to get tips on how to

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<v Speaker 1>do it from her as well at the same time,

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<v Speaker 1>but you get sort of angry, and you get sort

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<v Speaker 1>of snarky, and sometimes you take out your aggression on

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<v Speaker 1>each other. But it's clearly it's a kids, that's honest.

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<v Speaker 1>So now we've got this, it's almost like a safe word,

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<v Speaker 1>which is trenches. Really we're in the trenches. This is

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<v Speaker 1>when you're in the trenches, so I just no, and

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<v Speaker 1>then straight away so I need a safe word from cars,

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<v Speaker 1>She says, just trenches. I go, yes, all right, I

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<v Speaker 1>am taking out on you and vice versa.

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<v Speaker 3>No one saw that coming from you. No one saw

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<v Speaker 3>all was going on.

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<v Speaker 1>He's crying, leaky ego, let's go on.

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<v Speaker 2>God that.

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<v Speaker 1>This emotion? How Good's pretty.

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<v Speaker 2>Parents of children who have been bullied on social media

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<v Speaker 2>will be punching the air at the news that Peter

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<v Speaker 2>Malinowskis wants to ban children under fourteen from all of

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<v Speaker 2>the platforms. So we're talking Facebook, TikTok, YouTube, Snapchat, Instagram

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<v Speaker 2>and x So it would be Australia first legislation that

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<v Speaker 2>will be proposed by mister Malinowskis, and if it goes through,

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<v Speaker 2>that will go through by the twenty twenty sixth election.

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<v Speaker 1>I have to disagree rather with a move like this.

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<v Speaker 5>There's been much examination and consequential evidence to suggest that

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<v Speaker 5>addictive algorithms are being used to draw young people in

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<v Speaker 5>in a way that they're developing minds are just not

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<v Speaker 5>capable to be able to deal with, and that in

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<v Speaker 5>term causes them great vulnerability to mental health issues.

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<v Speaker 2>My god, social media is dangerous, and I don't think

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<v Speaker 2>think this is the first generation that we will see

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<v Speaker 2>the full impact of social media down the track on

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<v Speaker 2>our mental health. Now, it is no coincidence that the

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<v Speaker 2>rise in mental health problems coincides with the introduction of

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<v Speaker 2>all of these platforms. What annoys me no end about

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<v Speaker 2>these people that make an absolute fortune from these social

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<v Speaker 2>media platforms is that there is zero regulation. Anyone can

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<v Speaker 2>jump on the Internet and say anything about anyone else

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<v Speaker 2>without there being any hint of defamation. And I just

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<v Speaker 2>don't understand how they can get away with it, can you?

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<v Speaker 7>No?

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<v Speaker 1>It is mind boggling. So, I mean, the easy thing

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<v Speaker 1>to say in situation like this, particularly in this hate

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<v Speaker 1>that comes through, is just ignore it and things like that.

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<v Speaker 1>But that's so much easy said than done. And the

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<v Speaker 1>first time, the first time you actually see some hateful

0:25:46.400 --> 0:25:50.680
<v Speaker 1>comments come towards you. And I used to write our show,

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<v Speaker 1>as you know, with cane corns who turn it into

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<v Speaker 1>a i'd say, a positive situation. He do mean tweets

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<v Speaker 1>and all these types of things, but he had to

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<v Speaker 1>learn how to handle it. And the first time some

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<v Speaker 1>comments came towards me, it's like genuinely it's hard to process. Yeah,

0:26:04.840 --> 0:26:07.120
<v Speaker 1>and eventually you do get used to it, but that's

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<v Speaker 1>coming from someone who's in their mid thirties. We're processing

0:26:10.440 --> 0:26:13.560
<v Speaker 1>that which is still trying to develop your own sort

0:26:13.560 --> 0:26:15.920
<v Speaker 1>of brain everything that comes with it, and then you're

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<v Speaker 1>dealing with hateful comments. It's disgusting.

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<v Speaker 2>We're human beings and we're conditioned to be want to

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<v Speaker 2>be liked and want to be loved, so it goes

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<v Speaker 2>against everything that we're wired to do. But also, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>trying to teach my girls to be kind people. And

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<v Speaker 2>it's not just the other kids that are nasty, it's

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<v Speaker 2>when they jump on social media and they see other

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<v Speaker 2>adults being horrible to each other.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, what sort of standard are we setting.

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<v Speaker 2>When we've got keyboard warriors just deliberately going online to

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<v Speaker 2>troll other people like it's not a nice space, and

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<v Speaker 2>unless it gets cleaned up.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't want kids under fourteen on there.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't want their young, developing, sensitive brains to be

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<v Speaker 2>explode exposed to the hate from other kids and or.

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<v Speaker 1>Adults, particularly mid teens. That is such of unrelage for

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<v Speaker 1>self development. Confidence issues can start at any age, but

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<v Speaker 1>particularly there where you're genuinely trying to find yourself work

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<v Speaker 1>yourself out, and you're dealing with external pressure like that

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<v Speaker 1>is just it's ridiculous.

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<v Speaker 2>And that's not even that hasn't even touched on the

0:27:13.800 --> 0:27:16.720
<v Speaker 2>predators online who are praying on young girls and young

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<v Speaker 2>boys and pretending to be someone else. We need to

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<v Speaker 2>clean all this stuff up before we even think about

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<v Speaker 2>letting children get on the internet.

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<v Speaker 1>It's got full votes here. I think there's anyone here

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<v Speaker 1>in this room that doesn't agree with what Peter mallenows

0:27:28.119 --> 0:27:29.760
<v Speaker 1>because is trying to put in thirteen and twenty four

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<v Speaker 1>ten do you think a social media band will work?

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<v Speaker 1>And also have you already implemented something like this at

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<v Speaker 1>your house? What's your social media policy? It do an't?

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<v Speaker 2>I'm super keen to know because I had my eleven

0:27:40.240 --> 0:27:42.960
<v Speaker 2>year old begging me for Snapchat on the weekend and

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, absolutely not, just like why not all

0:27:45.440 --> 0:27:47.720
<v Speaker 2>the other kids have got it? Like I am doing

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<v Speaker 2>this for your own good and I am trying to

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<v Speaker 2>protect you from social media and one day you will

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<v Speaker 2>thank me, yes, just not tomorrow, no, the next day,

0:27:55.640 --> 0:27:57.040
<v Speaker 2>but one day you'll thank me.

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<v Speaker 1>It's just another hurdle, I think for a lot of

0:27:59.160 --> 0:28:02.679
<v Speaker 1>parents tackling social media at an early age. Your social

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<v Speaker 1>media policy, give us a call. Thirteen twenty four to ten.

0:28:05.920 --> 0:28:09.720
<v Speaker 1>Peter Malanowskis has implemented something which I think so many

0:28:09.720 --> 0:28:11.200
<v Speaker 1>parents will very much connect with it.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, he hasn't just yet, but he's trying to.

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<v Speaker 2>It would be an Australian first legislation proposed by Mali

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<v Speaker 2>saying that social media platforms will require users to be

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<v Speaker 2>at least thirteen to start an account.

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<v Speaker 3>Such a good thing.

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<v Speaker 2>I think the longer you can hold off your kids

0:28:27.800 --> 0:28:29.879
<v Speaker 2>being exposed to social media, the better off will all be.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean it's a broader The broader one is just

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<v Speaker 1>tablets in general, screen time, even YouTube and things like

0:28:35.160 --> 0:28:38.880
<v Speaker 1>that where there's genuine interaction. I mean, the good old days.

0:28:38.960 --> 0:28:41.200
<v Speaker 1>Joe's social media didn't sort of come into my life

0:28:41.280 --> 0:28:43.360
<v Speaker 1>until around the age of sort of twenty three twenty four.

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<v Speaker 1>Even then, I mean we're to sort of get around

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<v Speaker 1>the Facebook.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, all I did is a child, was just

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<v Speaker 2>etch things on the side of a cave, not on it.

0:28:51.120 --> 0:28:53.080
<v Speaker 2>I know, I felt like getting first before you did

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<v Speaker 2>any hashtag tas.

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<v Speaker 1>He thing just sort of grunt, you know, Yeah.

0:28:58.080 --> 0:29:00.240
<v Speaker 2>I think I was the last generation of not having

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<v Speaker 2>social media at home, like going like going home, and

0:29:04.120 --> 0:29:04.520
<v Speaker 2>you know, if.

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<v Speaker 6>You were bullied at school, it was just school.

0:29:06.320 --> 0:29:07.720
<v Speaker 2>And then you went home and you could cut Like

0:29:07.800 --> 0:29:09.960
<v Speaker 2>there wasn't it didn't extend on to social media.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, even on mesa and things like that, there wasn't

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<v Speaker 1>much because you would only connect with the people that

0:29:14.680 --> 0:29:16.520
<v Speaker 1>you would want to connect with, so there wasn't any

0:29:16.560 --> 0:29:19.520
<v Speaker 1>bullying or anything like that. It was generally quite a

0:29:19.560 --> 0:29:22.440
<v Speaker 1>really low in terms of just how fancy it was,

0:29:22.520 --> 0:29:23.320
<v Speaker 1>but it's quite whole.

0:29:23.480 --> 0:29:24.480
<v Speaker 3>She blows my mind.

0:29:24.520 --> 0:29:28.600
<v Speaker 2>It absolutely blows my mind that people can be aholes

0:29:28.600 --> 0:29:31.760
<v Speaker 2>on the internet and your photo is there, and your

0:29:31.800 --> 0:29:34.880
<v Speaker 2>place of work is there, and they're quite often pictures

0:29:34.880 --> 0:29:36.920
<v Speaker 2>of people with their family on there. Well, a lot

0:29:36.960 --> 0:29:39.320
<v Speaker 2>of people are content with being mean, a lot a

0:29:39.320 --> 0:29:41.640
<v Speaker 2>lot of people are getting themselves in trouble because people

0:29:41.680 --> 0:29:44.120
<v Speaker 2>see their workplace, they ring the workplace and say, hey,

0:29:44.160 --> 0:29:47.160
<v Speaker 2>this is what this person's been saying and it's crossing

0:29:47.200 --> 0:29:48.640
<v Speaker 2>over into their everyday life.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I've seen a lot of that happen.

0:29:50.480 --> 0:29:52.080
<v Speaker 1>M mean, that stupid.

0:29:52.320 --> 0:29:52.560
<v Speaker 3>I know.

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<v Speaker 2>Seriously, let's go to Megan, because we're asking the questions

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<v Speaker 2>morning once to the social media.

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<v Speaker 3>Media policy with your kids? What do you do with

0:29:59.800 --> 0:30:00.520
<v Speaker 3>your Megan?

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<v Speaker 4>So we've got no social media policy as well. She's

0:30:07.040 --> 0:30:09.880
<v Speaker 4>got her stone for the first time, which I was

0:30:09.960 --> 0:30:12.600
<v Speaker 4>even here to give it to her as well, but

0:30:12.680 --> 0:30:15.440
<v Speaker 4>all her friends had it. So we've agreed to a phone.

0:30:15.480 --> 0:30:19.680
<v Speaker 4>But there's no Snapchat, there's no Instagram, there's no Facebook

0:30:20.120 --> 0:30:24.040
<v Speaker 4>and all of those platforms us you know the agreement,

0:30:24.120 --> 0:30:26.200
<v Speaker 4>and you know, we said to her that she gets

0:30:26.280 --> 0:30:28.640
<v Speaker 4>caught with it, then she loses her phone. She'll just

0:30:28.680 --> 0:30:30.800
<v Speaker 4>have the phone for going to the shop when you

0:30:30.840 --> 0:30:32.040
<v Speaker 4>know she wants to go to a shop on her

0:30:32.040 --> 0:30:33.440
<v Speaker 4>own and to have a look at something and I'll

0:30:33.440 --> 0:30:37.719
<v Speaker 4>be able to contact her. We're trying to encourage an

0:30:37.800 --> 0:30:42.240
<v Speaker 4>incentive of no social media until she's seventeen. Okay, with

0:30:42.360 --> 0:30:44.840
<v Speaker 4>the incentive of car, but we go hard to the car.

0:30:44.920 --> 0:30:47.680
<v Speaker 4>Howbout we go hard in the car. You stay social

0:30:47.720 --> 0:30:49.520
<v Speaker 4>media and you a greet and no social media into

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<v Speaker 4>you're seventeen, we'll go hard to the Car's good, but yeah,

0:30:53.480 --> 0:30:55.560
<v Speaker 4>it's really it's really hard when all of the friends

0:30:55.600 --> 0:30:59.040
<v Speaker 4>have it. But the key thing for me was speaking

0:30:59.040 --> 0:31:02.520
<v Speaker 4>to a family friend that's a police officer, and they

0:31:02.600 --> 0:31:05.680
<v Speaker 4>said that hackers these days, I've actually gotten really really

0:31:05.720 --> 0:31:08.800
<v Speaker 4>clever with bypassing all the security settings off there. Even

0:31:08.800 --> 0:31:12.080
<v Speaker 4>if you have locations they's turned off. A really good

0:31:12.120 --> 0:31:16.440
<v Speaker 4>hacker can actually bypass those security settings and pinpoint where

0:31:16.480 --> 0:31:21.960
<v Speaker 4>your child is right down to the street name, horror number, everything. Yes,

0:31:22.720 --> 0:31:24.680
<v Speaker 4>and you know that. That was my argument to my

0:31:24.760 --> 0:31:26.520
<v Speaker 4>daughter of you know, you can turn those things off,

0:31:27.200 --> 0:31:29.240
<v Speaker 4>but if a hiker really wants to find you, they can,

0:31:29.560 --> 0:31:31.200
<v Speaker 4>and you know that's just not cool.

0:31:31.440 --> 0:31:34.840
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, absolutely, Megan, Well done, Thank you. Let's go to Angelove.

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<v Speaker 2>Your thoughts on social media with your kids.

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<v Speaker 8>Good morning, guys. Yeah, I like you, guys in full

0:31:39.840 --> 0:31:42.680
<v Speaker 8>agreement to this. I think it should be a fan

0:31:42.960 --> 0:31:46.440
<v Speaker 8>for the whole of schooling until the kids graduate. Our

0:31:46.480 --> 0:31:49.400
<v Speaker 8>agreement is that the kids can't have any social media

0:31:49.440 --> 0:31:52.400
<v Speaker 8>platforms until they finish school. They need to concentrate on schooling.

0:31:52.960 --> 0:31:55.400
<v Speaker 8>My husband and I are police officers and we've come

0:31:55.480 --> 0:31:57.840
<v Speaker 8>face to face with the tragedy that social media has

0:31:57.840 --> 0:32:01.840
<v Speaker 8>on families. It's ripped them apart. We are very honest

0:32:01.840 --> 0:32:06.520
<v Speaker 8>with our children. We do not hide this issue. And

0:32:07.320 --> 0:32:11.160
<v Speaker 8>when my kids are how they tackle, you know, the

0:32:11.200 --> 0:32:14.200
<v Speaker 8>pressures from school. Web said to them, tell them it's

0:32:14.240 --> 0:32:18.280
<v Speaker 8>not your parents staying though, you're staying no. You have

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<v Speaker 8>the power to say, I don't want to be on

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<v Speaker 8>social media. I want my safe based at home. I

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<v Speaker 8>don't want it. And so far, so good. Their friends

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<v Speaker 8>haven't pressured them, bullied them. If they want to get

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<v Speaker 8>in contact, they call like the old days or a text,

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<v Speaker 8>and it's so far it's working really well.

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<v Speaker 3>What's good?

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<v Speaker 8>Oh yeah, we're rounded kids with no mental health issues

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<v Speaker 8>and it seems to be working for us, and I

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<v Speaker 8>think it can work for everyone.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, thank you.

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<v Speaker 2>The one that always gets me in that space when

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<v Speaker 2>you talk about police officers is the Carlie Ryan one

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<v Speaker 2>And there's plenty of good resources on the Kylie Ryan

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<v Speaker 2>Carli Ryan Foundation website where it can help you get

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<v Speaker 2>your kids off social media. And if that is not

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<v Speaker 2>a tale of warning, then I don't know what is.

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<v Speaker 1>Jond's what I've noticed through parenthood and watching what my

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<v Speaker 1>lovely wife Kara does and how she brings up the kids,

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<v Speaker 1>is your parenting from the female perspective can be very,

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<v Speaker 1>very taxing. And I'm just going to say mentally, but

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<v Speaker 1>oh my gosh physically as well, in particular breastfeeding.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's like if you've got a parasite living inside

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<v Speaker 2>you and then it comes outside your body and it

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<v Speaker 2>attaches itself to you for another six months.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Wow, isn't it a beautiful isn't it a joy's and

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<v Speaker 2>breastfreading and beautiful thing?

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<v Speaker 1>What about this little exchange from a couple based in

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<v Speaker 1>New York, Surprise, surprise. A husband has texted his wife

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<v Speaker 1>that he wants to end their marriage because of an

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<v Speaker 1>outrageous reason. In an exchanging message, he accuses her of

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<v Speaker 1>incest over a disrespectful act shortly after she had given birth.

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<v Speaker 1>The disrespectful act is breastfeeding their son. He said, you

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<v Speaker 1>know how I feel about it. The couple whose name

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<v Speaker 1>is April and Jonathan on Twitter. He explained, you've been breastfeeding.

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<v Speaker 1>You know how I effing feel about this. April was

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<v Speaker 1>taken back and asked when her husband is coming to

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<v Speaker 1>get her. He then responds, I don't know if I

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<v Speaker 1>am the new mum then offered, if you don't like

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<v Speaker 1>seeing it, maybe I could just do it in a

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<v Speaker 1>different room. He said, you go behind my back and

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<v Speaker 1>do something I've stressed about not doing It's a proven

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<v Speaker 1>scientific fact that breast milk is no better than modern formula,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'll never be able to look at you the

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<v Speaker 1>same way again. I think you're a bad wife. I

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<v Speaker 1>think you don't respect me. I think you took a

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<v Speaker 1>joy away from me. I think a lot of things.

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<v Speaker 1>I enjoy your boobs. Now they've been another man's mouth.

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<v Speaker 1>I no longer enjoy your boobs.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh my gosh, Oh my god.

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<v Speaker 2>Do you know what my response to that would be.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't want your mouth on my boobs anymore. You're disgusting.

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<v Speaker 2>You're a vaulting human being, and you're also a bit

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<v Speaker 2>screwed up in.

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<v Speaker 1>The head one hundred percent. Imagine being jealous and fighting

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<v Speaker 1>effectively with a few day old babies.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I mean over what is the most natural act

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<v Speaker 2>in the world.

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<v Speaker 3>What a painut.

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<v Speaker 2>I've had some weird stuff in my time in radio,

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<v Speaker 2>but that is up there in the top three.

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<v Speaker 1>That's got to be. That's got to be. I was

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<v Speaker 1>going to say one in a million, that's got to

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<v Speaker 1>be almost one in a billion. Things like that. Surely

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<v Speaker 1>what I'm all on. I don't want to go too

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<v Speaker 1>far aggressively. The other way. But you know, I see

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<v Speaker 1>hear it, and quite seriously, I used to hear stories

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<v Speaker 1>about how women would say that if they saw a

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<v Speaker 1>man being a father, just how much would turn them on, Like,

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<v Speaker 1>quite seriously, I understand that now from a different perspective. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>when I watch my wife do what she does with

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<v Speaker 1>the kids and even things like breastfeeding, all these things

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<v Speaker 1>which he's so unbelievably good at, she's got the patience

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<v Speaker 1>of someone who's get tested to their core. I I'm

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<v Speaker 1>extremely turned on, like seriously watching her be a mother,

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<v Speaker 1>and because she's so good at it. Yeah, I tell

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<v Speaker 1>you what makes my ovaries pop.

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<v Speaker 3>Wow, that's so that's so very sweet inappropriate.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I mean, if you were to sit here and

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<v Speaker 2>say watching her breastfeed turns you on, I'd say that

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<v Speaker 2>would be a little bit strang.

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<v Speaker 3>But no, I get what you're saying.

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<v Speaker 2>You just it makes you love her more and mild

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<v Speaker 2>the aroused because she's such a good mother.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't think there's anything wrong with that. I think

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<v Speaker 3>that's beautiful.