1 00:00:00,520 --> 00:00:04,800 Speaker 1: I get again. I hope you're great. Happy Sunday if 2 00:00:04,800 --> 00:00:06,680 Speaker 1: you're listening to this on the day it comes out, 3 00:00:06,720 --> 00:00:12,639 Speaker 1: Happy Sunday or insert the day of your choice, whatever 4 00:00:12,720 --> 00:00:16,799 Speaker 1: day it is. So at Saturday night, it is. What 5 00:00:16,960 --> 00:00:20,080 Speaker 1: is it? I'm squinting because my eyes are sixty one, 6 00:00:20,760 --> 00:00:25,200 Speaker 1: as is the rest of me. It's the nineteenth of July. 7 00:00:26,200 --> 00:00:29,600 Speaker 1: It's six seventeen in the PM. It's been a big day. 8 00:00:30,680 --> 00:00:32,960 Speaker 1: By the way, thanks for sticking around all of you 9 00:00:33,040 --> 00:00:34,519 Speaker 1: over the years. A lot of you been here for 10 00:00:34,560 --> 00:00:37,600 Speaker 1: a long time. We're stumbling like a piss bloke and 11 00:00:37,640 --> 00:00:40,560 Speaker 1: a bar towards two thousand episodes. Some of them been good, 12 00:00:40,600 --> 00:00:43,160 Speaker 1: some of them great, some of them shit. It's been 13 00:00:43,200 --> 00:00:47,360 Speaker 1: a steep learning curve, I'll say that. And you are 14 00:00:48,600 --> 00:00:51,400 Speaker 1: many of you have been very loyal for a long time, 15 00:00:51,520 --> 00:00:56,600 Speaker 1: so I appreciate that. Now, before I get too sloppy, 16 00:00:59,440 --> 00:01:02,680 Speaker 1: I wanted to share with you some By the way, 17 00:01:02,680 --> 00:01:05,120 Speaker 1: for the rest of the week, we've got lots of 18 00:01:05,160 --> 00:01:08,119 Speaker 1: great guests. But tonight I want to well, whenever you're 19 00:01:08,160 --> 00:01:10,120 Speaker 1: hearing this, but tonight for me, I want to share 20 00:01:10,120 --> 00:01:14,120 Speaker 1: with you just some stuff. I think that it's important 21 00:01:14,120 --> 00:01:16,560 Speaker 1: that we all know stuff that I didn't know at 22 00:01:16,640 --> 00:01:18,800 Speaker 1: one stage of my life, and either somebody taught me, 23 00:01:19,000 --> 00:01:22,880 Speaker 1: or I learned, or life taught me, or experience or 24 00:01:22,880 --> 00:01:26,319 Speaker 1: the situation unfolded before my eyes, and there it was 25 00:01:26,400 --> 00:01:29,640 Speaker 1: the lesson me being the perpetual student or trying to 26 00:01:29,680 --> 00:01:36,440 Speaker 1: be life being the ultimate classroom, and every experience and 27 00:01:36,520 --> 00:01:40,360 Speaker 1: every person and every situation and every problem and every 28 00:01:40,880 --> 00:01:45,440 Speaker 1: outcome is a potential teacher. And while that sounds cheesy, 29 00:01:45,840 --> 00:01:48,400 Speaker 1: it's also very true. It's also very true. So I 30 00:01:48,440 --> 00:01:51,240 Speaker 1: want to share with you some things that I think 31 00:01:51,280 --> 00:01:57,960 Speaker 1: are just handy and potentially powerful and transformational. I'm not 32 00:01:58,000 --> 00:02:00,240 Speaker 1: going to go into great detail, because I don't this 33 00:02:00,240 --> 00:02:02,520 Speaker 1: is to be a one and a half hour extravaganza, 34 00:02:02,720 --> 00:02:06,240 Speaker 1: so I'm going to keep it concise and just give you. 35 00:02:07,000 --> 00:02:09,280 Speaker 1: Actually wrote at the top of my page ten things 36 00:02:09,280 --> 00:02:11,120 Speaker 1: I want you to know, and then I proceeded to 37 00:02:11,160 --> 00:02:15,680 Speaker 1: write down fucking seventeen or something anyway, so I don't 38 00:02:15,720 --> 00:02:18,760 Speaker 1: know how many it is, but i'll probably the title 39 00:02:18,760 --> 00:02:20,840 Speaker 1: will probably be fifteen things I want you to know, 40 00:02:20,919 --> 00:02:22,600 Speaker 1: but don't count them because I think there's going to 41 00:02:22,600 --> 00:02:27,400 Speaker 1: be more at no extra cost. So things I think 42 00:02:28,520 --> 00:02:30,840 Speaker 1: are important for all of us to know. And this 43 00:02:30,960 --> 00:02:33,920 Speaker 1: might be something you might want to share with somebody 44 00:02:34,520 --> 00:02:37,480 Speaker 1: in your life or your world or your orbit that 45 00:02:38,240 --> 00:02:40,440 Speaker 1: you think it would be good for them to know this. 46 00:02:41,320 --> 00:02:43,320 Speaker 1: So one of the things we're always dealing with as 47 00:02:43,560 --> 00:02:49,000 Speaker 1: humans is disappointment, among many other things, of course, but 48 00:02:49,080 --> 00:02:53,679 Speaker 1: disappointment is interesting because, like many things, it is an 49 00:02:53,840 --> 00:02:58,160 Speaker 1: individual response. So that's an internal thing, an individual response. 50 00:02:58,280 --> 00:03:02,400 Speaker 1: I am disappointed, I feel this disappointed, I got disappointed. 51 00:03:02,880 --> 00:03:09,000 Speaker 1: I'm having a disappointing experience or moment. And that internal 52 00:03:09,080 --> 00:03:14,760 Speaker 1: response is generally a byproduct of, or we think it's 53 00:03:14,800 --> 00:03:18,920 Speaker 1: because of something happening in our external world. So something 54 00:03:19,040 --> 00:03:22,080 Speaker 1: happened around us or to us, or despite us or 55 00:03:22,120 --> 00:03:24,880 Speaker 1: because of us, there was a result, there was an 56 00:03:24,919 --> 00:03:28,919 Speaker 1: outcome we didn't want. Somebody did something or said something, 57 00:03:29,919 --> 00:03:33,360 Speaker 1: or didn't do something or didn't say something, and the 58 00:03:33,400 --> 00:03:37,440 Speaker 1: byproduct of that was disappointment. And I guess one of 59 00:03:37,480 --> 00:03:40,960 Speaker 1: the classics is that we many of us, get disappointed 60 00:03:40,960 --> 00:03:45,680 Speaker 1: by the same person often, and we know that the 61 00:03:45,680 --> 00:03:50,680 Speaker 1: best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. So I 62 00:03:50,720 --> 00:03:53,440 Speaker 1: wrote quite a sweary post about this, which I won't 63 00:03:53,440 --> 00:03:56,440 Speaker 1: repeat on here, but a sweary post about this, alluding 64 00:03:56,480 --> 00:03:59,320 Speaker 1: to the fact that if Brian behaved a certain way 65 00:03:59,400 --> 00:04:03,280 Speaker 1: the last four or one hundred times, all three or 66 00:04:03,320 --> 00:04:06,800 Speaker 1: two hundred or even fifty times. But if Brian or 67 00:04:06,840 --> 00:04:10,360 Speaker 1: whomever behaved a certain way, acted a certain way, treated 68 00:04:10,400 --> 00:04:12,840 Speaker 1: you a certain way, spoke to you a certain way 69 00:04:14,400 --> 00:04:18,720 Speaker 1: the last however many times, then more than likely he's 70 00:04:18,760 --> 00:04:20,680 Speaker 1: going to do that. He's going to be that, he's 71 00:04:20,720 --> 00:04:22,160 Speaker 1: going to talk like that, he's going to be a 72 00:04:22,240 --> 00:04:26,479 Speaker 1: version of that this time. So one of the curious 73 00:04:26,520 --> 00:04:29,800 Speaker 1: things about us is each time Brian, whoever Brian is, 74 00:04:30,600 --> 00:04:34,040 Speaker 1: does that thing, even though he's done it one hundred 75 00:04:34,040 --> 00:04:39,640 Speaker 1: times in a row, we still somehow get disappointed because, 76 00:04:42,120 --> 00:04:45,440 Speaker 1: although it's understandable, we want him to be different. But 77 00:04:45,640 --> 00:04:50,680 Speaker 1: expecting him to be different based on his history is 78 00:04:50,720 --> 00:04:56,120 Speaker 1: not a logical expectation. It's an irrational expectation based on 79 00:04:56,640 --> 00:05:01,120 Speaker 1: an emotion. That is, we feel that he should or 80 00:05:01,160 --> 00:05:05,200 Speaker 1: we want him to. It's not based on rationale or logic. Right, 81 00:05:05,320 --> 00:05:11,159 Speaker 1: So the disappointment comes from our expectation, not so much 82 00:05:11,279 --> 00:05:16,120 Speaker 1: of his in this example behavior. So disappointment is a 83 00:05:16,160 --> 00:05:21,000 Speaker 1: byproduct of my expectations and yours not their behavior. We 84 00:05:21,080 --> 00:05:24,040 Speaker 1: know that the best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. 85 00:05:24,560 --> 00:05:27,440 Speaker 1: So that doesn't mean when I expect someone who's treated 86 00:05:27,480 --> 00:05:30,919 Speaker 1: me poorly the last hundred times, when I expect that 87 00:05:31,040 --> 00:05:33,520 Speaker 1: to happen, or I expect them to be rude, I 88 00:05:33,600 --> 00:05:36,720 Speaker 1: expect them to be inconsiderate, I expect them to be thoughtless, 89 00:05:36,800 --> 00:05:39,680 Speaker 1: I expect them to be selfish. That doesn't mean I'm 90 00:05:39,760 --> 00:05:42,200 Speaker 1: condoning it. That doesn't mean I like it or I 91 00:05:42,320 --> 00:05:48,880 Speaker 1: support it. It just means that I'm aware and I'm practical, 92 00:05:49,480 --> 00:05:54,840 Speaker 1: and I'm realistic that this guy or this girl, this person, 93 00:05:54,920 --> 00:05:58,279 Speaker 1: this individual that's behaved a certain way probably is not 94 00:05:58,320 --> 00:06:01,960 Speaker 1: going to be different today. The point of knowing this, well, 95 00:06:02,160 --> 00:06:05,239 Speaker 1: the real value in knowing this is that it stops 96 00:06:05,320 --> 00:06:11,919 Speaker 1: us getting disappointed repeatedly. Like I said, expecting somebody to 97 00:06:12,000 --> 00:06:16,680 Speaker 1: be how they've been is logical. Expecting them to probably 98 00:06:17,160 --> 00:06:21,720 Speaker 1: be rude or thoughtless or inconsider it is not what 99 00:06:21,760 --> 00:06:28,000 Speaker 1: we want. We don't want that, but we intellectually can 100 00:06:28,080 --> 00:06:30,600 Speaker 1: understand that that's probably what's coming. And so that's really 101 00:06:30,680 --> 00:06:37,240 Speaker 1: a self protection mechanism or practice. Number two is and 102 00:06:37,279 --> 00:06:40,200 Speaker 1: I've spoken about this a bit, so thing I want 103 00:06:40,279 --> 00:06:43,599 Speaker 1: you to know too. People are going to be bothered 104 00:06:44,440 --> 00:06:49,680 Speaker 1: some people by your success. I spoke about a thing 105 00:06:49,880 --> 00:06:51,960 Speaker 1: once or twice on the show, and I've written about 106 00:06:51,960 --> 00:06:58,360 Speaker 1: it called schadenfreuder, which is a German word, not surprisingly 107 00:06:58,480 --> 00:07:04,719 Speaker 1: sharden or schadenfreut, And it just means that some people 108 00:07:05,960 --> 00:07:11,520 Speaker 1: enjoy your pain. You're suffering your failure some people and 109 00:07:11,560 --> 00:07:14,920 Speaker 1: will go into this at some stage perhaps but not tonight, 110 00:07:15,400 --> 00:07:19,200 Speaker 1: not today. Some people take delight in seeing you fail. 111 00:07:20,760 --> 00:07:26,560 Speaker 1: And also conversely, some people are really bothered when you succeed. 112 00:07:27,360 --> 00:07:30,440 Speaker 1: So one they're happy when you fail, and two they're 113 00:07:30,560 --> 00:07:34,400 Speaker 1: unhappy when you succeed. And I wouldn't call myself a 114 00:07:34,560 --> 00:07:40,320 Speaker 1: raving success story, but I've done enough cool things and 115 00:07:40,840 --> 00:07:43,160 Speaker 1: I'm very and there's no ego in this because I've 116 00:07:43,160 --> 00:07:46,320 Speaker 1: fucked up more than i've won in inverted commas. But 117 00:07:46,400 --> 00:07:49,320 Speaker 1: I've had some wins, and I've succeeded with some things, 118 00:07:49,320 --> 00:07:54,239 Speaker 1: and I've done for my very mediocre and insignificant level 119 00:07:54,280 --> 00:08:00,040 Speaker 1: of talent. I've done alright. And I'm well aware of 120 00:08:00,800 --> 00:08:04,120 Speaker 1: numerous people that used to be but are not anymore 121 00:08:04,160 --> 00:08:11,080 Speaker 1: in my orbit. That really, let's just say the emotion 122 00:08:11,320 --> 00:08:14,440 Speaker 1: that they had around my success or me doing well 123 00:08:14,520 --> 00:08:18,720 Speaker 1: or me getting or building or creating something that worked, 124 00:08:20,400 --> 00:08:25,800 Speaker 1: and opportunities that I created, and that really fucking bothered people. 125 00:08:25,920 --> 00:08:28,360 Speaker 1: And I mean, I shouldn't say what I'm going to say, 126 00:08:28,360 --> 00:08:32,040 Speaker 1: but fucking I'm going to say, leanin. I would love 127 00:08:32,160 --> 00:08:37,000 Speaker 1: to do a whole podcast on this because and it 128 00:08:37,040 --> 00:08:40,960 Speaker 1: happens to many people, but the amount of people that 129 00:08:41,040 --> 00:08:45,400 Speaker 1: have been bothered and I could name names. I would 130 00:08:45,440 --> 00:08:48,280 Speaker 1: never name names, of course, but I find it fucking 131 00:08:48,440 --> 00:08:56,400 Speaker 1: hilarious and interesting and fascinating that, you know, the the 132 00:08:56,400 --> 00:09:00,520 Speaker 1: the amount of people that do not want you to 133 00:09:00,559 --> 00:09:03,560 Speaker 1: do well. Of course, there are people that do want 134 00:09:03,559 --> 00:09:06,240 Speaker 1: you to do well, let's not make this too negative, 135 00:09:07,360 --> 00:09:10,320 Speaker 1: but also a surprising number of people who are bothered 136 00:09:10,360 --> 00:09:12,880 Speaker 1: by your success. So that's nothing to worry about, nothing 137 00:09:12,920 --> 00:09:15,720 Speaker 1: to dread, nothing lose sleep over, just something to be 138 00:09:15,760 --> 00:09:18,720 Speaker 1: aware of. And of course there will always be amazing, 139 00:09:18,840 --> 00:09:22,080 Speaker 1: hopefully in your life, amazing, beautiful, kind people who want 140 00:09:22,120 --> 00:09:26,400 Speaker 1: the best for you, irrespective of what's going on in 141 00:09:26,440 --> 00:09:29,240 Speaker 1: their life. All right, next thing, I want you to know, 142 00:09:30,120 --> 00:09:31,480 Speaker 1: you know what I'm going to say, So I'm not 143 00:09:31,520 --> 00:09:33,160 Speaker 1: going to dwell on this or you don't know what 144 00:09:33,160 --> 00:09:34,800 Speaker 1: I'm going to say, but you've heard me say this, 145 00:09:35,240 --> 00:09:38,439 Speaker 1: and that is that people don't think like you. Now, 146 00:09:38,480 --> 00:09:42,520 Speaker 1: when I say that, I mean some people might think 147 00:09:42,559 --> 00:09:46,400 Speaker 1: similarly to you, But nobody's thinking like you twenty four 148 00:09:46,440 --> 00:09:49,120 Speaker 1: to seven. Nobody's looking through the you lens. Nobody is 149 00:09:49,200 --> 00:09:53,280 Speaker 1: experiencing or dissecting or interpreting the world and all the 150 00:09:53,320 --> 00:09:57,120 Speaker 1: events of that world. They're not. They don't have your 151 00:09:57,240 --> 00:09:59,840 Speaker 1: data processor, they don't have your brain, they don't have 152 00:09:59,880 --> 00:10:02,640 Speaker 1: you your mind. They don't have your values and beliefs 153 00:10:02,679 --> 00:10:07,400 Speaker 1: and ideas and culture and experiences and history. So people 154 00:10:07,480 --> 00:10:11,679 Speaker 1: don't think like you, or they don't think Probably they 155 00:10:11,679 --> 00:10:15,679 Speaker 1: don't think the same. Some people will think similarly, of course, 156 00:10:15,720 --> 00:10:18,040 Speaker 1: And that's why, by the way, that's how we end 157 00:10:18,120 --> 00:10:21,439 Speaker 1: up in all these different thought cults, because we love 158 00:10:21,520 --> 00:10:24,960 Speaker 1: to gravitate towards people who think like us. That's why 159 00:10:25,600 --> 00:10:30,640 Speaker 1: echo chambers exist. That's why behavioral and sociological and cultural 160 00:10:30,679 --> 00:10:35,000 Speaker 1: and religious cults exist, where we just hang out in 161 00:10:36,120 --> 00:10:41,719 Speaker 1: groups and rooms where people are you know, telling us 162 00:10:41,760 --> 00:10:44,319 Speaker 1: basically whatever we think is right, and we're doing the 163 00:10:44,400 --> 00:10:47,640 Speaker 1: same to them. But in general terms, when we're out 164 00:10:47,679 --> 00:10:50,680 Speaker 1: and about It's called the false consensus effect. By the way, 165 00:10:51,640 --> 00:10:55,000 Speaker 1: when we think that what is coming out of our mouth, 166 00:10:55,120 --> 00:11:00,240 Speaker 1: for example, our intention will be that person's experience. I 167 00:11:00,320 --> 00:11:04,160 Speaker 1: think this, therefore they will think this. That's an erroneous assumption. 168 00:11:04,360 --> 00:11:09,000 Speaker 1: It's an interpersonal faux pa. It's a fuck up. And 169 00:11:09,120 --> 00:11:13,439 Speaker 1: assuming that people think like you when we're just in general, 170 00:11:13,520 --> 00:11:20,400 Speaker 1: life creates interpersonal issues, confusion, disconnection, conflict, offense, misunderstanding, and 171 00:11:20,440 --> 00:11:25,600 Speaker 1: a myriad of shit that you don't want. So assume 172 00:11:25,679 --> 00:11:31,080 Speaker 1: that they might not think like you a little bit 173 00:11:31,800 --> 00:11:36,280 Speaker 1: through to they think nothing like you. Don't assume that 174 00:11:36,280 --> 00:11:40,120 Speaker 1: they're picking up what you're putting down. Next thing. I 175 00:11:40,200 --> 00:11:46,760 Speaker 1: want you to know the enlightened goal. The enlightened goal 176 00:11:47,720 --> 00:11:53,080 Speaker 1: is not to be perpetually happy. I feel like happiness 177 00:11:53,280 --> 00:12:02,040 Speaker 1: is held up as as the ultimate achievement. And of 178 00:12:02,040 --> 00:12:06,440 Speaker 1: course happiness is great. I recommend it, I use and 179 00:12:06,480 --> 00:12:11,320 Speaker 1: recommend happiness. But I don't think. I don't think the 180 00:12:11,520 --> 00:12:16,760 Speaker 1: goal of happiness or continuous happiness or you know, this 181 00:12:16,960 --> 00:12:22,040 Speaker 1: never ending series of happy moments and days and encounters. 182 00:12:23,960 --> 00:12:25,560 Speaker 1: Not only do I not think, I know it's not 183 00:12:25,640 --> 00:12:29,480 Speaker 1: it's not realistic. It's not practical. I think a much 184 00:12:29,520 --> 00:12:32,920 Speaker 1: more enlightened goal, or a much wiser goal, or practical 185 00:12:33,000 --> 00:12:37,160 Speaker 1: or achievable goal is to one to embrace that happiness 186 00:12:37,160 --> 00:12:41,559 Speaker 1: and embrace those moments of joy and navana and all 187 00:12:41,600 --> 00:12:44,720 Speaker 1: of that when it's around. But I think more importantly 188 00:12:44,800 --> 00:12:47,880 Speaker 1: to be really practical and go, you know what, life 189 00:12:47,920 --> 00:12:51,920 Speaker 1: is peaks and troughs. Life is light and shade. It's 190 00:12:51,920 --> 00:12:54,640 Speaker 1: black and white. It's good stuff, it's bad stuff. It's 191 00:12:54,800 --> 00:12:58,760 Speaker 1: it's tragedy, it's triumph, it's sadness, it's joy. So I 192 00:12:58,800 --> 00:13:02,319 Speaker 1: think our real challenge, our ultimate goal, is to be 193 00:13:02,400 --> 00:13:08,280 Speaker 1: able to successfully navigate all of that, to successfully navigate 194 00:13:08,320 --> 00:13:12,800 Speaker 1: the peaks and the troughs of being a human, you know, 195 00:13:12,920 --> 00:13:16,800 Speaker 1: and all the inevitable stuff that comes with that. And 196 00:13:16,960 --> 00:13:19,600 Speaker 1: if we're happy and joyful and things have gone great, 197 00:13:19,640 --> 00:13:23,000 Speaker 1: and if we're calm, and if we're in a beautiful place, 198 00:13:23,040 --> 00:13:26,240 Speaker 1: that's amazing. But if we wake up tomorrow and we 199 00:13:26,280 --> 00:13:28,839 Speaker 1: feel like dogshit, or we're a bit anxious, or we're 200 00:13:28,880 --> 00:13:31,080 Speaker 1: a bit sad or a bit flat, or we don't 201 00:13:31,080 --> 00:13:35,000 Speaker 1: have the same level of motivation, or we're not flying 202 00:13:35,040 --> 00:13:38,720 Speaker 1: on the happiness cloud, that's okay too. Because that means 203 00:13:38,760 --> 00:13:43,680 Speaker 1: you're human. That means you're normal, and that's all of us. 204 00:13:44,040 --> 00:13:49,520 Speaker 1: That's all of us. I've never met a person, and 205 00:13:49,559 --> 00:13:53,439 Speaker 1: I've met lots who's perpetually happy. I've met some people 206 00:13:53,480 --> 00:13:56,480 Speaker 1: that are happy a lot, and I've met some people 207 00:13:56,559 --> 00:13:59,840 Speaker 1: that are atypically happier than others. And I've met some 208 00:14:00,000 --> 00:14:02,160 Speaker 1: people who are sad a lot and flat a lot. Right, 209 00:14:02,640 --> 00:14:07,199 Speaker 1: But I've never met anyone who's twenty four to seven happy. 210 00:14:07,440 --> 00:14:12,400 Speaker 1: So I don't know that happiness as a goal is 211 00:14:12,440 --> 00:14:18,880 Speaker 1: a great goal. I think perhaps being functional and operational 212 00:14:19,120 --> 00:14:29,240 Speaker 1: and okay and accepting and what's the other word I 213 00:14:29,280 --> 00:14:33,080 Speaker 1: guess they'll do in the middle of the peaks and troughs. 214 00:14:33,200 --> 00:14:36,960 Speaker 1: I think that's the goal, is navigating the tough stuff 215 00:14:37,000 --> 00:14:41,280 Speaker 1: and being alright with it. Okay. My next one is this, 216 00:14:41,240 --> 00:14:44,960 Speaker 1: It is very Craig Harper. Life doesn't care about your feelings. 217 00:14:45,760 --> 00:14:49,400 Speaker 1: Life's not fair. And I know that seems like maybe 218 00:14:49,480 --> 00:14:55,880 Speaker 1: an unnecessary thing to say, but it's kind of a 219 00:14:56,040 --> 00:15:02,360 Speaker 1: silly like when we it's almost like we anthropomorphize, that is, 220 00:15:02,520 --> 00:15:06,520 Speaker 1: humanize life, whereas life is what is life, Life is, 221 00:15:07,440 --> 00:15:10,640 Speaker 1: life is eighty years, Life is eighty five years. Life 222 00:15:10,680 --> 00:15:17,800 Speaker 1: is this myriad of ongoing events and happenings and situations 223 00:15:17,840 --> 00:15:21,240 Speaker 1: and circumstances and good and bad. And it's like life 224 00:15:21,320 --> 00:15:25,760 Speaker 1: is not a conscious entity, that's you know, watching you. 225 00:15:28,320 --> 00:15:34,200 Speaker 1: And so this idea that life's not fair, well, no shit, 226 00:15:34,880 --> 00:15:39,200 Speaker 1: I mean, but again, is that life being unfair or 227 00:15:39,240 --> 00:15:45,000 Speaker 1: is that just the human experience? Of course, some kids 228 00:15:45,080 --> 00:15:49,280 Speaker 1: get cancer. Of course, some bad people live till their 229 00:15:49,360 --> 00:15:53,280 Speaker 1: ninety five. Bad things happen to good people, good things 230 00:15:53,320 --> 00:15:57,760 Speaker 1: happen to bad people. Some people work really fucking hard 231 00:15:58,040 --> 00:16:01,880 Speaker 1: and it doesn't pay off. Some people are born with 232 00:16:02,000 --> 00:16:06,520 Speaker 1: phenomenal talent. Some people are born with a silver spoon 233 00:16:06,560 --> 00:16:09,360 Speaker 1: in their mouth. They've got all the re sources, all 234 00:16:09,400 --> 00:16:12,119 Speaker 1: the dough, they've got the cheer squad, they've got the situation, 235 00:16:12,200 --> 00:16:15,480 Speaker 1: they've got the home, they've got the private school education. 236 00:16:15,760 --> 00:16:19,480 Speaker 1: If that stuff matters, not sure. But of course people 237 00:16:19,560 --> 00:16:24,760 Speaker 1: are born into different situations and so kind of investing energy, 238 00:16:24,840 --> 00:16:28,040 Speaker 1: by the way, feeling that life's not fair or you know, 239 00:16:28,600 --> 00:16:31,160 Speaker 1: life doesn't care. I don't think this is a terrible thing. 240 00:16:31,240 --> 00:16:33,640 Speaker 1: I just think it's not a good use of your energy. 241 00:16:33,880 --> 00:16:35,800 Speaker 1: It's not a good use of your time. It's a 242 00:16:35,880 --> 00:16:39,520 Speaker 1: fucking pointless conversation. The amount of people will going, Oh, 243 00:16:39,600 --> 00:16:43,160 Speaker 1: life's not fair. Yep, sure, next, So in the middle 244 00:16:43,200 --> 00:16:45,280 Speaker 1: of the unfairness of life, what are you going to do? 245 00:16:45,800 --> 00:16:48,880 Speaker 1: I mean, this is the challenge. Like, we know that 246 00:16:49,160 --> 00:16:52,000 Speaker 1: life is messy, and life is unfair, and life is 247 00:16:52,080 --> 00:16:55,880 Speaker 1: peaks and troughs and all the stuff that I said before. 248 00:16:55,960 --> 00:16:58,280 Speaker 1: Good things happens to bad people, and bad things happen 249 00:16:58,280 --> 00:17:00,680 Speaker 1: to good people, all that shit. But really the question is, 250 00:17:00,680 --> 00:17:02,360 Speaker 1: in the middle of all of that stuff that you 251 00:17:02,400 --> 00:17:07,119 Speaker 1: and I can't control and didn't choose and don't determine, 252 00:17:07,119 --> 00:17:08,879 Speaker 1: in the middle of all of the stuff that we 253 00:17:09,000 --> 00:17:13,000 Speaker 1: can't control, what is it that you and I can control? 254 00:17:13,760 --> 00:17:16,200 Speaker 1: And what are you and I going to do about that? 255 00:17:16,440 --> 00:17:19,720 Speaker 1: The next thing I want you to know, and this 256 00:17:19,800 --> 00:17:22,760 Speaker 1: is this is just something to think about. This is 257 00:17:22,800 --> 00:17:25,240 Speaker 1: not a revelation, but you'll never have more time in 258 00:17:25,280 --> 00:17:29,680 Speaker 1: your life than you do the moment that you are 259 00:17:29,720 --> 00:17:35,560 Speaker 1: hearing these words. Now, think about every moment that passes by. 260 00:17:36,000 --> 00:17:41,080 Speaker 1: And this is not being fatalistic, but every moment, every minute, 261 00:17:41,160 --> 00:17:44,720 Speaker 1: every hour, every day, every week, month, year, is you 262 00:17:44,880 --> 00:17:48,040 Speaker 1: moving closer towards the finish line. And that's okay. That's 263 00:17:48,080 --> 00:17:52,560 Speaker 1: nothing to be terrified. That's something to acknowledge. I did 264 00:17:52,560 --> 00:17:55,320 Speaker 1: a podcast the other day called The Home Straight when 265 00:17:55,400 --> 00:17:57,840 Speaker 1: I spoke about my own mortality and I went, well, 266 00:17:57,880 --> 00:18:02,199 Speaker 1: I'm sixty two in September. I'm probably will put it 267 00:18:02,240 --> 00:18:05,560 Speaker 1: this way, if I'm the average Australian male in terms 268 00:18:05,600 --> 00:18:09,680 Speaker 1: of life expectancy, I'm past the three quarter mark. I'm 269 00:18:09,760 --> 00:18:12,639 Speaker 1: seventy five percent done. I'm well and truly on the 270 00:18:12,640 --> 00:18:15,920 Speaker 1: home straight. I mean I could live three more years 271 00:18:15,960 --> 00:18:19,000 Speaker 1: or three more decades, or less or more. I'm not sure, 272 00:18:20,040 --> 00:18:25,480 Speaker 1: but I know that for me at sixty one heading 273 00:18:25,520 --> 00:18:31,479 Speaker 1: towards sixty two, to sit around with my fucking hands 274 00:18:31,560 --> 00:18:35,520 Speaker 1: under my thighs waiting for the mystical, magical, mythical right 275 00:18:35,720 --> 00:18:39,360 Speaker 1: time to do stuff or to make a decision, or 276 00:18:39,400 --> 00:18:43,760 Speaker 1: to address that issue, or to have that conversation or 277 00:18:43,840 --> 00:18:47,600 Speaker 1: to address that shitty habit or and on and on 278 00:18:47,640 --> 00:18:50,800 Speaker 1: and on. It's like I will never have more time. 279 00:18:51,560 --> 00:18:56,280 Speaker 1: My time is only diminishing. You will never have more time. 280 00:18:56,840 --> 00:19:00,280 Speaker 1: Your clock is ticking down every day. That it's not 281 00:19:00,320 --> 00:19:03,119 Speaker 1: something to worry about. That's something to be aware of 282 00:19:03,200 --> 00:19:06,320 Speaker 1: and say all right, knowing that my time is ticking down, 283 00:19:06,920 --> 00:19:09,800 Speaker 1: knowing that this today is the most time that I'm 284 00:19:09,840 --> 00:19:11,959 Speaker 1: going to have for the rest of my life. Tomorrow 285 00:19:11,960 --> 00:19:15,040 Speaker 1: it will be a day less. Right, What are you 286 00:19:15,119 --> 00:19:17,760 Speaker 1: going to do with that? Because I feel like some 287 00:19:17,880 --> 00:19:23,639 Speaker 1: of us just have the mindset that I'm always going 288 00:19:23,680 --> 00:19:26,720 Speaker 1: to have time. I don't need to do it now. 289 00:19:26,760 --> 00:19:28,800 Speaker 1: I can put off. I can put it off. And truly, 290 00:19:28,880 --> 00:19:30,679 Speaker 1: some people have been saying a version of that for 291 00:19:30,760 --> 00:19:36,520 Speaker 1: ten years. I reckon some people more, some people more. So, 292 00:19:36,560 --> 00:19:38,320 Speaker 1: You're never going to have more time than you have now. 293 00:19:39,000 --> 00:19:44,159 Speaker 1: Next thing I want you to know is this, you 294 00:19:44,200 --> 00:19:50,720 Speaker 1: don't lack potential. You don't lack potential. I've never never 295 00:19:50,760 --> 00:19:56,360 Speaker 1: met a person who doesn't have potential. Some people have more, 296 00:19:56,440 --> 00:19:59,320 Speaker 1: some people have less. But I've never met a person 297 00:19:59,640 --> 00:20:04,520 Speaker 1: with zero potential to do, be, create or change something, 298 00:20:05,000 --> 00:20:08,879 Speaker 1: to achieve, something, to move the needle on, something to 299 00:20:08,920 --> 00:20:12,000 Speaker 1: do better on, something, to change their body in some way, 300 00:20:12,040 --> 00:20:14,840 Speaker 1: to change their lifestyle, their life, their habits, their thinking, 301 00:20:14,880 --> 00:20:18,960 Speaker 1: their behavior. Every person I've ever met has some potential, 302 00:20:19,640 --> 00:20:23,480 Speaker 1: some maybe a little bit, maybe a fuck load that 303 00:20:23,520 --> 00:20:27,879 Speaker 1: they are not exploiting. For me, I truly believe, and 304 00:20:27,960 --> 00:20:31,480 Speaker 1: this is one of my passions, which is why I 305 00:20:31,520 --> 00:20:37,920 Speaker 1: am so committed to helping people to understand their own possibilities, power, 306 00:20:37,960 --> 00:20:41,000 Speaker 1: and potential. I believe the problem is that most people 307 00:20:41,040 --> 00:20:45,360 Speaker 1: don't understand how much potential they have. One. So that's 308 00:20:45,400 --> 00:20:48,880 Speaker 1: problem number one. Problem number one is they don't understand 309 00:20:48,880 --> 00:20:52,240 Speaker 1: how much potential they have. Problem number two is they 310 00:20:52,280 --> 00:20:59,240 Speaker 1: may have been around people who somewhat eroded their self 311 00:20:59,240 --> 00:21:02,720 Speaker 1: belief and confidence. Right, that's cool, we've all had a 312 00:21:02,720 --> 00:21:08,040 Speaker 1: bit of that. Move on. That's number two. Number three 313 00:21:08,400 --> 00:21:14,280 Speaker 1: is the shit that we really need to do to 314 00:21:15,240 --> 00:21:18,440 Speaker 1: move the needle and to tap into that and exploit 315 00:21:18,520 --> 00:21:23,800 Speaker 1: that potential is quite often going to be uncomfortably and 316 00:21:23,840 --> 00:21:28,520 Speaker 1: convenient and painful, right, all things we don't want. So 317 00:21:29,560 --> 00:21:33,600 Speaker 1: I've never met you most of you listening to this personally, 318 00:21:33,680 --> 00:21:36,879 Speaker 1: I've never met you. Some of you have, but I 319 00:21:36,920 --> 00:21:42,560 Speaker 1: would be extremely surprised. In fact, i'd be in fact, 320 00:21:42,600 --> 00:21:46,800 Speaker 1: I wouldn't believe it. If you have zero potential left 321 00:21:46,840 --> 00:21:52,680 Speaker 1: to exploit, I would be absolutely dumbfounded. That doesn't mean 322 00:21:52,720 --> 00:21:55,320 Speaker 1: we can all do everything. Doesn't mean that I can't 323 00:21:55,400 --> 00:21:57,000 Speaker 1: go you know what, I'm going to run a marathon 324 00:21:57,040 --> 00:21:59,359 Speaker 1: in two hours. I'm going to run one hundred meters 325 00:21:59,359 --> 00:22:02,439 Speaker 1: in ten second. Look out, gout, gout, I'm fucking coming 326 00:22:02,480 --> 00:22:05,160 Speaker 1: for you. That's not happening, right. We know that I'm 327 00:22:05,200 --> 00:22:09,080 Speaker 1: not going to win a Grammy. I'm fucking singing. There's 328 00:22:09,119 --> 00:22:11,000 Speaker 1: a bunch of shit I can't do. But do I 329 00:22:11,160 --> 00:22:14,320 Speaker 1: at sixty one, the bloke who's done a whole lot 330 00:22:14,320 --> 00:22:17,119 Speaker 1: of stuff and really pushes himself. Do I still have 331 00:22:17,200 --> 00:22:20,199 Speaker 1: potential that I haven't used or exploited or opened the 332 00:22:20,200 --> 00:22:24,520 Speaker 1: door on? Yes? I do. So if crusty old Jumbo can, 333 00:22:25,240 --> 00:22:29,200 Speaker 1: then so can you. The next thing I want you 334 00:22:29,280 --> 00:22:32,280 Speaker 1: to know, and you know this, but this is just 335 00:22:32,320 --> 00:22:34,879 Speaker 1: a thing to be aware of, so I'll be brief. 336 00:22:35,720 --> 00:22:39,760 Speaker 1: I want you to remember day to day that you 337 00:22:39,920 --> 00:22:42,400 Speaker 1: think the way that you do, You behave the way 338 00:22:42,440 --> 00:22:44,560 Speaker 1: that you do, you see the world the way that 339 00:22:44,600 --> 00:22:48,320 Speaker 1: you do. You maybe have the ideas and beliefs and 340 00:22:48,480 --> 00:22:52,880 Speaker 1: values that you do, at least in part, because you've 341 00:22:52,880 --> 00:22:59,120 Speaker 1: been programmed. Since you could think, since you could process data, 342 00:22:59,160 --> 00:23:02,760 Speaker 1: since you could interpret the world around you and people 343 00:23:02,800 --> 00:23:07,720 Speaker 1: around you, and the various stimuli media, social media, book, school, friends, family, 344 00:23:07,800 --> 00:23:11,639 Speaker 1: all that you have been programmed. You've been influenced and 345 00:23:11,920 --> 00:23:16,800 Speaker 1: possibly manipulated, possibly controlled up to this point in time, 346 00:23:17,280 --> 00:23:20,320 Speaker 1: and you're still being programmed by all the stuff that 347 00:23:20,480 --> 00:23:25,479 Speaker 1: you pay attention to. Me too, Am I influenced and 348 00:23:25,640 --> 00:23:30,800 Speaker 1: somewhat programmed or affected by everything I listen to, I watch, 349 00:23:31,040 --> 00:23:34,120 Speaker 1: I read, I pay attention to. Of course I am. 350 00:23:34,240 --> 00:23:37,960 Speaker 1: You know why because brains and minds are very programmable. 351 00:23:39,720 --> 00:23:42,359 Speaker 1: Now if I think, oh, no, I'm not, I'm not 352 00:23:42,480 --> 00:23:48,080 Speaker 1: influenced by that. I'm completely objective, I'm completely totally independent 353 00:23:48,160 --> 00:23:51,359 Speaker 1: in my critical thinking. Well, one I'm lying to you, Two, 354 00:23:51,440 --> 00:23:55,560 Speaker 1: I'm full of shit, and three it's not possible. So 355 00:23:55,840 --> 00:23:59,520 Speaker 1: it's not that we're trying to undo all the programming. 356 00:23:59,560 --> 00:24:02,399 Speaker 1: It's that we're trying to be aware of the programming, 357 00:24:03,000 --> 00:24:07,479 Speaker 1: which for us is self limiting. What's the thing that 358 00:24:07,560 --> 00:24:10,680 Speaker 1: I've learned in inverted commas that's fucking me up, that's 359 00:24:10,680 --> 00:24:14,680 Speaker 1: getting in my way, that's inhibiting my thought processes. That's 360 00:24:14,720 --> 00:24:18,840 Speaker 1: a form of self sabotage. The next thing I want 361 00:24:18,880 --> 00:24:20,879 Speaker 1: you to know that not a lot of us think about, 362 00:24:21,280 --> 00:24:25,840 Speaker 1: is that your brain. Your brain. Okay, So what I'm 363 00:24:25,840 --> 00:24:29,240 Speaker 1: about to share with you is broscience, but it's essentially true. 364 00:24:29,400 --> 00:24:32,560 Speaker 1: Your brain is kind of like your biceps, or your glutes, 365 00:24:32,640 --> 00:24:36,040 Speaker 1: or your CODs, or your deltoids or your triceps in 366 00:24:36,080 --> 00:24:41,159 Speaker 1: that in that your brain needs to be worked out 367 00:24:41,560 --> 00:24:44,679 Speaker 1: if you want it to work well as you age, 368 00:24:44,840 --> 00:24:49,000 Speaker 1: If you want your brain to function well, to be 369 00:24:49,240 --> 00:24:52,760 Speaker 1: in inverted commas, if you want it to be strong 370 00:24:52,880 --> 00:24:59,280 Speaker 1: and functional and operational and adaptable and resilient, just like 371 00:24:59,359 --> 00:25:01,800 Speaker 1: you want your muscles to be as you get older, 372 00:25:02,320 --> 00:25:05,040 Speaker 1: so that you can be healthy and functional as you 373 00:25:05,119 --> 00:25:08,000 Speaker 1: move into your sixties, seventies, eighties, or fifties or whatever. 374 00:25:08,960 --> 00:25:12,760 Speaker 1: Your brain needs to be trained. You need to. You know, 375 00:25:12,840 --> 00:25:15,119 Speaker 1: one of the funny things that I see, not funny 376 00:25:15,200 --> 00:25:21,639 Speaker 1: sad things is that you know, people who will either 377 00:25:21,880 --> 00:25:25,760 Speaker 1: do no exercise at all have a completely unhealthy life style, 378 00:25:26,600 --> 00:25:28,520 Speaker 1: and not only do they not do anything for their 379 00:25:28,560 --> 00:25:31,280 Speaker 1: body or their brain, but they actually do things to 380 00:25:31,480 --> 00:25:35,159 Speaker 1: their body which fucks up their brain, like alcohol like booze, 381 00:25:35,320 --> 00:25:41,480 Speaker 1: like drugs, like inadequate sleep, like not managing you know, stress, 382 00:25:41,520 --> 00:25:43,639 Speaker 1: and all of these things. Some are harder than others 383 00:25:43,720 --> 00:25:47,720 Speaker 1: to address. I know, but your brain needs to be 384 00:25:47,800 --> 00:25:51,760 Speaker 1: looked after. And because we don't see it in inverted commas, 385 00:25:51,800 --> 00:25:53,920 Speaker 1: like we see our ass or we see our arms, 386 00:25:54,000 --> 00:25:57,879 Speaker 1: or we see our whatever, we tend not to worry 387 00:25:57,920 --> 00:26:01,280 Speaker 1: about it, or perhaps worry is not the right word, 388 00:26:01,320 --> 00:26:08,639 Speaker 1: but concern ourselves with its health. Your brain will decline. 389 00:26:09,359 --> 00:26:12,639 Speaker 1: That's not a maybe, that's a definite. Your brain will decline. 390 00:26:13,640 --> 00:26:16,640 Speaker 1: Your cognitive function will go down, your memory will go down, 391 00:26:16,680 --> 00:26:20,520 Speaker 1: your mental acuity will drop, your focus will go down. 392 00:26:21,160 --> 00:26:28,560 Speaker 1: Your ability to solve problems will decrease. But here's the butt. 393 00:26:29,480 --> 00:26:34,800 Speaker 1: When that happens, and how quickly that happens, and to 394 00:26:34,920 --> 00:26:40,199 Speaker 1: what level that happens is something that you can manipulate. 395 00:26:43,320 --> 00:26:45,199 Speaker 1: I've said this many times, and I don't want to 396 00:26:45,240 --> 00:26:48,879 Speaker 1: bore you, but and I can't prove this or measure it, 397 00:26:48,920 --> 00:26:52,479 Speaker 1: but hopefully you trust me. I feel like at sixty 398 00:26:52,520 --> 00:26:54,800 Speaker 1: one my brain works at least as well as when 399 00:26:54,840 --> 00:26:58,760 Speaker 1: I was thirty. I could be wrong, but I'm very 400 00:26:58,840 --> 00:27:02,080 Speaker 1: grateful that I'm doing things like this, where I am 401 00:27:02,160 --> 00:27:04,600 Speaker 1: talking in a room by myself on a Saturday night. 402 00:27:05,200 --> 00:27:07,119 Speaker 1: I've got to use my brain. I've got to concentrate, 403 00:27:07,119 --> 00:27:11,360 Speaker 1: I've got a string words together. Hear that. I've got 404 00:27:11,359 --> 00:27:13,880 Speaker 1: to be articulate. I've got to think in real time. 405 00:27:13,920 --> 00:27:16,480 Speaker 1: I've got to try to use words and build rapport 406 00:27:16,520 --> 00:27:20,399 Speaker 1: and connection talking about you know, the same thing, but 407 00:27:20,560 --> 00:27:23,720 Speaker 1: connecting with thousands of people who are not the same. 408 00:27:23,840 --> 00:27:26,639 Speaker 1: So this is a real cognitive exercise that I am 409 00:27:26,640 --> 00:27:29,879 Speaker 1: in the middle of right now doing my research and 410 00:27:29,960 --> 00:27:33,720 Speaker 1: my study university is a cognitive exercise. All the things 411 00:27:33,760 --> 00:27:36,119 Speaker 1: that I write on the whiteboard every time I stand 412 00:27:36,160 --> 00:27:39,720 Speaker 1: in front of an audience, a three D audience in 413 00:27:39,840 --> 00:27:43,600 Speaker 1: real time, in real life, it's a cognitive exercise every 414 00:27:43,640 --> 00:27:47,800 Speaker 1: time I commit to learning something new, whatever that is, 415 00:27:47,840 --> 00:27:51,479 Speaker 1: whether it's in an academic setting or not, it is 416 00:27:51,840 --> 00:27:57,560 Speaker 1: really important. I believe that you train your brain, that 417 00:27:57,640 --> 00:28:03,520 Speaker 1: you do things consciously and intensely, not incidentally, not accidentally 418 00:28:04,160 --> 00:28:07,800 Speaker 1: just hoping that your brain works optimally when you're seventy 419 00:28:07,880 --> 00:28:13,159 Speaker 1: or sixty or ninety, but that you consciously and intentionally 420 00:28:13,880 --> 00:28:20,440 Speaker 1: do intelligent things, smart things, proactive things to keep your 421 00:28:20,440 --> 00:28:24,200 Speaker 1: brain working. My next one is really backs that up. 422 00:28:24,280 --> 00:28:26,720 Speaker 1: So they kind of butt into each other, and that 423 00:28:26,880 --> 00:28:33,440 Speaker 1: is how you age is optional. So aging not optional, 424 00:28:33,480 --> 00:28:35,639 Speaker 1: of course, I mean, you're just going to keep aging 425 00:28:35,720 --> 00:28:38,000 Speaker 1: until you die. So let's assume and hope that's not 426 00:28:38,520 --> 00:28:42,040 Speaker 1: in the near future for all of us. But you know, 427 00:28:42,080 --> 00:28:46,760 Speaker 1: of course, the chronological clock just keeps ticking. So my 428 00:28:46,960 --> 00:28:52,360 Speaker 1: chronological age will be sixty two in September. September twenty eight, 429 00:28:52,440 --> 00:28:55,160 Speaker 1: don't get anything, don't get any trouble, just something big 430 00:28:55,200 --> 00:29:00,280 Speaker 1: and expensive. So chronologically, my age just keeps going, going 431 00:29:00,440 --> 00:29:05,360 Speaker 1: up until it doesn't. And that's linear, that's a constant, 432 00:29:06,000 --> 00:29:10,520 Speaker 1: that's the same. It doesn't change every year. I'm exactly, 433 00:29:10,760 --> 00:29:16,120 Speaker 1: you're ready one year older, exactly. But the rate at 434 00:29:16,160 --> 00:29:20,560 Speaker 1: which my body and my mind and my brain in particular, 435 00:29:21,520 --> 00:29:25,120 Speaker 1: my muscles, my bone, my ligaments, my tendons, my cells, 436 00:29:25,240 --> 00:29:28,480 Speaker 1: my cellular health, my organs, my nervous system, my heart, 437 00:29:28,520 --> 00:29:31,520 Speaker 1: my lungs, the way that all of that stuff ages 438 00:29:32,360 --> 00:29:39,680 Speaker 1: is largely about my behavior. My choice, is my lifestyle, 439 00:29:39,800 --> 00:29:43,160 Speaker 1: the things that I do. It's not entirely because of 440 00:29:43,160 --> 00:29:50,960 Speaker 1: course there's an unavoidable component and a genetic component, but 441 00:29:51,080 --> 00:29:55,560 Speaker 1: the way that we age can definitely be manipulated for 442 00:29:55,600 --> 00:29:58,960 Speaker 1: the better. Okay, my next thing that I want to 443 00:29:59,000 --> 00:30:01,400 Speaker 1: share with you, let's do couple more, and that is 444 00:30:01,440 --> 00:30:05,680 Speaker 1: that I want to talk about this more in the 445 00:30:05,720 --> 00:30:09,160 Speaker 1: next few weeks maybe. But this thing I want you 446 00:30:09,240 --> 00:30:14,720 Speaker 1: to know is that sometimes logic is illogical. What we 447 00:30:14,840 --> 00:30:19,480 Speaker 1: call logic is really just a story that we tell 448 00:30:19,640 --> 00:30:26,280 Speaker 1: ourselves based on what we think, we understand, how we think, 449 00:30:27,720 --> 00:30:31,440 Speaker 1: and what we think we know. So when I look 450 00:30:31,480 --> 00:30:38,000 Speaker 1: at something, I might have no idea how that something works. 451 00:30:38,640 --> 00:30:42,360 Speaker 1: And to me, based on my knowledge, my understanding, my 452 00:30:42,640 --> 00:30:46,240 Speaker 1: I'll go, that's fucking that can't happen. That's not real. 453 00:30:46,320 --> 00:30:50,520 Speaker 1: That's illogical. And to me, based on my knowledge and 454 00:30:50,560 --> 00:30:52,920 Speaker 1: my logic and my understanding of what is and what 455 00:30:53,040 --> 00:30:55,160 Speaker 1: is possible, and what we can and what we can't do, 456 00:30:55,280 --> 00:30:59,480 Speaker 1: and what can and can't happen, it's very possible that 457 00:30:59,600 --> 00:31:03,920 Speaker 1: the thing is real. But to me it's just illogical. 458 00:31:04,240 --> 00:31:08,560 Speaker 1: That's not logical. And if you think about historically, like 459 00:31:09,600 --> 00:31:12,400 Speaker 1: imagine like we've been around three hundred thousand years or 460 00:31:12,440 --> 00:31:16,760 Speaker 1: something as a species, imagine if you went back to 461 00:31:16,960 --> 00:31:20,400 Speaker 1: any time in history one hundred and fifty years ago 462 00:31:20,760 --> 00:31:25,760 Speaker 1: or more anytime between you know, then in Jesus or 463 00:31:26,640 --> 00:31:29,800 Speaker 1: way before that, and you said, do you know what, 464 00:31:29,920 --> 00:31:32,440 Speaker 1: one day in the not too distant future, there will 465 00:31:32,480 --> 00:31:37,360 Speaker 1: be people in a big metal tube that weighs hundreds 466 00:31:37,400 --> 00:31:41,200 Speaker 1: of tons, there'll be people in this big metal tube 467 00:31:41,520 --> 00:31:46,000 Speaker 1: flying through the sky. They will probably have burned you 468 00:31:46,040 --> 00:31:49,920 Speaker 1: at the stake, They might have thrown you in some 469 00:31:50,120 --> 00:31:54,400 Speaker 1: kind of confinement or isolation. They definitely would not have 470 00:31:54,600 --> 00:31:57,880 Speaker 1: thought on any level that you were being logical, rational, 471 00:31:58,000 --> 00:32:02,520 Speaker 1: or reasonable, because they based on what was possible, based 472 00:32:02,520 --> 00:32:07,520 Speaker 1: on understanding, based on science, based on knowledge at the time. 473 00:32:08,640 --> 00:32:11,320 Speaker 1: The idea of flying through the air in a metal tube. 474 00:32:11,320 --> 00:32:14,640 Speaker 1: For most of our evolutionary timeline, probably ninety nine point 475 00:32:14,720 --> 00:32:17,640 Speaker 1: nine nine percent of how long humans have been around, 476 00:32:17,920 --> 00:32:21,360 Speaker 1: that was a completely irrational and logical idea. That's fucking stupid. 477 00:32:21,360 --> 00:32:25,640 Speaker 1: That can't happen. And now, not only is it logical, 478 00:32:26,600 --> 00:32:28,520 Speaker 1: you know, we don't even think about it as you 479 00:32:28,600 --> 00:32:32,000 Speaker 1: go jump on a plane. I still don't know. I mean, 480 00:32:32,040 --> 00:32:33,960 Speaker 1: I'm not really great at physics. I'm sure I could 481 00:32:34,000 --> 00:32:36,880 Speaker 1: probably figure it out, but sometimes I look at those motherfuckers. 482 00:32:36,920 --> 00:32:41,960 Speaker 1: I'm thinking this is very big and very heavy. Anyway, 483 00:32:43,440 --> 00:32:48,880 Speaker 1: So the thing that you say, oh, that's not logical, 484 00:32:50,240 --> 00:32:55,000 Speaker 1: Maybe it's completely logical, but it's just that you don't understand, 485 00:32:55,680 --> 00:32:57,960 Speaker 1: like to me what I know it is. But you know, 486 00:32:58,000 --> 00:33:02,320 Speaker 1: what seems illogical to me at times where I'm on 487 00:33:02,400 --> 00:33:07,360 Speaker 1: a zoom call, I'm interviewing Bobby Capuccio, who's you all know, 488 00:33:08,600 --> 00:33:12,160 Speaker 1: and he's in New York or he's in San Diego. 489 00:33:12,200 --> 00:33:14,960 Speaker 1: It depends where he's at at the time, opposite coasts, 490 00:33:14,960 --> 00:33:18,160 Speaker 1: I know. But I'm looking at him, he's looking at me. 491 00:33:19,080 --> 00:33:21,040 Speaker 1: I don't know how many thousands of miles that is 492 00:33:21,240 --> 00:33:24,640 Speaker 1: a lot or kilometers, Like, let's go with a fuck load. 493 00:33:25,440 --> 00:33:28,520 Speaker 1: I'm looking at him, he's talking, I'm talking. I see him. 494 00:33:28,520 --> 00:33:35,400 Speaker 1: There's no lag, there's no delay. It makes no sense. 495 00:33:35,480 --> 00:33:40,840 Speaker 1: If you said to me, Craig, explain technically, explain how 496 00:33:40,880 --> 00:33:45,240 Speaker 1: that works. I couldn't even give it a stab. It's 497 00:33:45,320 --> 00:33:48,000 Speaker 1: not how my brain. That's not my area of expertise. 498 00:33:48,040 --> 00:33:50,440 Speaker 1: I'm sure I could go and learn, and I could 499 00:33:50,480 --> 00:33:52,240 Speaker 1: jump on here and explain it to you, but that 500 00:33:52,440 --> 00:33:54,680 Speaker 1: it ain't my wheelhouse. Or you could probably explain it 501 00:33:54,720 --> 00:33:59,120 Speaker 1: to me much better. So logic is just a story 502 00:33:59,160 --> 00:34:04,640 Speaker 1: that we tell ourselves sometimes. The next thing I want 503 00:34:04,640 --> 00:34:11,000 Speaker 1: you to know is that destination disappointment is real. I'll 504 00:34:11,040 --> 00:34:15,239 Speaker 1: say it again. Destination disappointment is real. That is, we 505 00:34:15,320 --> 00:34:18,759 Speaker 1: get where we wanted to go. Literally or metaphorically, financially 506 00:34:18,920 --> 00:34:23,680 Speaker 1: or health or business or career or relationship or whatever 507 00:34:23,680 --> 00:34:25,680 Speaker 1: it is. We get where we wanted to go. We 508 00:34:25,760 --> 00:34:28,640 Speaker 1: tick the box, we achieved the thing we wanted to achieve. 509 00:34:29,160 --> 00:34:32,600 Speaker 1: Bibertybobby Boo. I wanted X and Y. Now I've got 510 00:34:32,800 --> 00:34:38,000 Speaker 1: X and Y, and now I thought I'd be fulfilled 511 00:34:38,040 --> 00:34:41,520 Speaker 1: and happy and great, but I'm not. I'm actually disappointed 512 00:34:41,560 --> 00:34:45,040 Speaker 1: because I've got the thing, the external thing. And I 513 00:34:45,080 --> 00:34:48,360 Speaker 1: thought getting that external thing, the thing that everyone can see, 514 00:34:48,440 --> 00:34:50,960 Speaker 1: the achievement or the accolade or the money or the 515 00:34:50,960 --> 00:34:52,880 Speaker 1: car or the job or the thing that I wanted, 516 00:34:53,360 --> 00:34:59,440 Speaker 1: I thought that would create an corresponding internal thing that 517 00:34:59,480 --> 00:35:02,600 Speaker 1: would be bigger than the actual thing, and I'd be good. 518 00:35:02,680 --> 00:35:04,399 Speaker 1: But now I've got the thing, I've done the thing, 519 00:35:04,440 --> 00:35:06,439 Speaker 1: I've achieved the thing, I own the thing, I earn 520 00:35:06,480 --> 00:35:11,640 Speaker 1: the thing, and I'm still fucking sad. Oh ah, So 521 00:35:12,480 --> 00:35:15,680 Speaker 1: what is that about? What is that about? I think 522 00:35:16,680 --> 00:35:22,160 Speaker 1: I think it's because we expect the achievement or change 523 00:35:22,280 --> 00:35:26,600 Speaker 1: or doing or undoing of something in our external world, 524 00:35:26,600 --> 00:35:29,839 Speaker 1: our physical, three dimensional world, the scene world that we 525 00:35:29,920 --> 00:35:32,759 Speaker 1: live in, not the unseen world that lives in us. 526 00:35:32,800 --> 00:35:36,600 Speaker 1: But the scene world, the physical world, the three dimensional world. 527 00:35:36,640 --> 00:35:40,439 Speaker 1: We do something and as we're heading towards doing that thing, 528 00:35:40,560 --> 00:35:43,480 Speaker 1: we think that that's going to change our psychologically and 529 00:35:43,520 --> 00:35:48,040 Speaker 1: emotionally and spiritually for the better. And it doesn't, or 530 00:35:48,080 --> 00:35:49,880 Speaker 1: it does, but it does it for three days and 531 00:35:49,880 --> 00:35:52,320 Speaker 1: then we're like, oh, so then we've got to reboot. 532 00:35:52,320 --> 00:35:54,880 Speaker 1: And we go, well, it must not be two hundred 533 00:35:54,920 --> 00:35:56,960 Speaker 1: grand a year. It must be three hundred grand a year. 534 00:35:57,840 --> 00:36:02,080 Speaker 1: Or it must be not seven inch arms. This sounds familiar, 535 00:36:02,440 --> 00:36:05,680 Speaker 1: and maybe it's got to be eighteen inch biceps, or 536 00:36:05,719 --> 00:36:08,680 Speaker 1: maybe it's got to be whatever. Maybe it's a million followers, 537 00:36:09,200 --> 00:36:11,960 Speaker 1: not half a million followers, or maybe it's whatever. So 538 00:36:12,000 --> 00:36:20,399 Speaker 1: we keep moving the goalposts, delusionally thinking that the external 539 00:36:20,400 --> 00:36:28,239 Speaker 1: achievement will guarantee the internal state we want. When you know, 540 00:36:28,440 --> 00:36:33,719 Speaker 1: sometimes it's really just about and you know, yell at 541 00:36:33,719 --> 00:36:36,319 Speaker 1: me through your fucking car or your phone, I get it. 542 00:36:36,800 --> 00:36:40,959 Speaker 1: But it really is about the journey. It's like who 543 00:36:41,000 --> 00:36:45,600 Speaker 1: am I becoming on the journey. It's about what am 544 00:36:45,600 --> 00:36:49,040 Speaker 1: I developing and learning and understanding and building. As I 545 00:36:49,239 --> 00:36:55,120 Speaker 1: climb the mountain, I'm building resilience and capacity and confidence 546 00:36:55,160 --> 00:36:59,400 Speaker 1: and skill and fitness and strength and balance and coordination 547 00:37:00,600 --> 00:37:04,759 Speaker 1: and a different kind of awareness as I'm climbing. Then 548 00:37:04,800 --> 00:37:06,520 Speaker 1: I get to the top of the hill, I'm like, okay, 549 00:37:06,560 --> 00:37:09,600 Speaker 1: it's the top of a hill because it really ain't 550 00:37:09,640 --> 00:37:12,640 Speaker 1: about the finish line. It's about the journey towards the 551 00:37:12,680 --> 00:37:17,359 Speaker 1: finish line. Yes, cliche, shoot me, I apologize, but it's 552 00:37:17,440 --> 00:37:25,920 Speaker 1: just true. It's just true. Let's do let's do one more. 553 00:37:27,160 --> 00:37:31,480 Speaker 1: I'm going to go with. Strength isn't always about winning. 554 00:37:33,719 --> 00:37:41,319 Speaker 1: In our culture, we're very much enamored with winning, with 555 00:37:41,480 --> 00:37:47,239 Speaker 1: being the best, with succeeding. Nothing wrong with any of that, 556 00:37:47,320 --> 00:37:53,920 Speaker 1: by the way, But sometimes strength is it's about Sometimes 557 00:37:53,920 --> 00:37:59,560 Speaker 1: strength is like really underwhelmingly unimpressive in a way. It's 558 00:37:59,560 --> 00:38:03,040 Speaker 1: like sometimes it's about just not losing your shit in 559 00:38:03,080 --> 00:38:06,080 Speaker 1: the middle of the thing that you used to lose 560 00:38:06,080 --> 00:38:09,320 Speaker 1: your shit in, like being the calm in the chaos. 561 00:38:09,920 --> 00:38:15,319 Speaker 1: It's not always about winning, or being in control, or 562 00:38:15,360 --> 00:38:18,880 Speaker 1: being the best, or even knowing what to do next. 563 00:38:18,960 --> 00:38:23,080 Speaker 1: Sometimes not knowing what to do and being okay is strength. 564 00:38:23,520 --> 00:38:31,720 Speaker 1: Sometimes being scared and being okay is strength. Sometimes being 565 00:38:32,000 --> 00:38:36,239 Speaker 1: uncertain and being in the middle of unfamiliarity and unpredictability, 566 00:38:37,120 --> 00:38:41,480 Speaker 1: and you being emotionally and psychologically fine in the middle 567 00:38:41,520 --> 00:38:47,080 Speaker 1: of what for many people would be distressing, somewhere between 568 00:38:47,280 --> 00:38:54,520 Speaker 1: mildly distressing and fucking overwhelming. I think that's what strength 569 00:38:54,600 --> 00:38:59,439 Speaker 1: is like. When I talk about high performance, I talk 570 00:38:59,480 --> 00:39:02,239 Speaker 1: about people getting the best out of themselves, whatever that is, 571 00:39:02,280 --> 00:39:05,480 Speaker 1: wherever they are for me, and yes, I can talk 572 00:39:05,520 --> 00:39:08,200 Speaker 1: about high performance in a business sense, or a creative sense, 573 00:39:08,280 --> 00:39:12,120 Speaker 1: or a sporting sense or but for me general, what 574 00:39:12,160 --> 00:39:15,360 Speaker 1: I would call high performance in life is just about 575 00:39:15,400 --> 00:39:17,279 Speaker 1: what you can do with what you've got, which is 576 00:39:17,320 --> 00:39:20,440 Speaker 1: why I've said before my favorite high performer in the 577 00:39:20,440 --> 00:39:23,560 Speaker 1: world as my mum, And of course I love her, 578 00:39:23,600 --> 00:39:25,759 Speaker 1: and I'm biased, of course, But here's this forty two 579 00:39:25,880 --> 00:39:30,239 Speaker 1: kilogram woman. Let's say that again, forty two kilograms. I 580 00:39:30,280 --> 00:39:32,800 Speaker 1: reckon she might be lying. I reckon, she might be forty. 581 00:39:32,840 --> 00:39:36,800 Speaker 1: But anyway, who's eighty six in a few months. Who's 582 00:39:36,840 --> 00:39:40,799 Speaker 1: looking after my dad, who's in worse shape than her her, 583 00:39:41,080 --> 00:39:46,280 Speaker 1: who's had cancer three times, and who's had a minor 584 00:39:46,280 --> 00:39:51,480 Speaker 1: heart attack, and who's had a myriad of challenges and 585 00:39:51,480 --> 00:39:56,200 Speaker 1: pretty much never complaints, pretty much just looks after people, 586 00:39:56,640 --> 00:40:01,000 Speaker 1: including me, so for me, for me, that is strength. 587 00:40:01,680 --> 00:40:05,680 Speaker 1: That's to me, that's impressive. Some dude in the gym 588 00:40:05,680 --> 00:40:08,799 Speaker 1: deadlifting six hundred pounds that doesn't impress me. Well done, 589 00:40:08,880 --> 00:40:11,520 Speaker 1: by the way, that's cool, that's a cool achievement. But 590 00:40:12,520 --> 00:40:16,320 Speaker 1: you know it's that ain't what I call the epitome 591 00:40:16,360 --> 00:40:19,719 Speaker 1: of strength. So strength sometimes is just about your capacity, 592 00:40:20,000 --> 00:40:23,080 Speaker 1: whoever you are, whatever you got to work with, just 593 00:40:23,120 --> 00:40:27,080 Speaker 1: to keep going. All right, team, Hope you got something 594 00:40:27,080 --> 00:40:31,239 Speaker 1: out of that. Appreciate you, Enjoy your Sunday if you're 595 00:40:31,239 --> 00:40:33,480 Speaker 1: listening to this on a Sunday or whatever day you're 596 00:40:33,480 --> 00:40:37,680 Speaker 1: listening to it, and you and I hopefully will hang 597 00:40:37,719 --> 00:40:38,719 Speaker 1: out together soon