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Speaker 1: This is the Fitting in with Her with Kate Richie podcast.

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Speaker 1: Here's one for heading into the weekend. Guys.

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Speaker 2: Family situations, I mean they're made up of every combination

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Speaker 2: in twenty twenty five.

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Speaker 1: There's no rules or regulations.

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Speaker 2: And this is an interesting one because if you think

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Speaker 2: about what's going to happen in your marriage and half

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Speaker 2: of them and in divorce, well, obviously people move on,

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Speaker 2: but how you move on and your home setup.

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Speaker 1: There's no rules to any of this.

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Speaker 2: This mum's gone on to explain that she separated from

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Speaker 2: her husband. What's interesting is the husband, just for convenience

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Speaker 2: with the kids, still lives in the marital home or

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Speaker 2: whether they bought when they were together. Okay, that makes

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Speaker 2: sense to the point where they live such separate lives.

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Speaker 2: She now has a new boyfriend, which is now husband,

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Speaker 2: who also.

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Speaker 1: Lives in the house.

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Speaker 2: Oh so she has new husband in the house and

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Speaker 2: old husband in the house and kids.

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Speaker 3: How many kids?

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Speaker 1: Two kids in this family set up?

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Speaker 4: The new Okay, let's focus on the new bloke, right.

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Speaker 4: Imagine going around to your new partner's place and you've

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Speaker 4: got the ex sitting there and you're trying to converse

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Speaker 4: with the children and he's just looking at you.

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Speaker 1: Go and stay away from my kids. That's why kids,

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Speaker 1: you feel that my kids.

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Speaker 3: You couldn't.

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Speaker 4: You couldn't do this.

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Speaker 1: Well, I would find it strange too if it was her.

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Speaker 1: You know, when you're in.

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Speaker 2: Situations you're talking to your partner about something and then

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Speaker 2: you realize it was another girlfriend and you go, oh,

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Speaker 2: remember that time we went to Thailand? How good was

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Speaker 2: I never went to Thailand with you?

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Speaker 5: Oh?

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Speaker 1: Sorry, it was the wrong person.

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Speaker 5: She's in the kitchen making cup of tea, going Michael,

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Speaker 5: that was me, That was me, That was me. Well,

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Speaker 5: you know, I know all about the situation because it

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Speaker 5: is my situation.

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Speaker 3: And really I see it. The way that I see

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Speaker 3: it is.

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Speaker 5: Just listening to you fits talk about how, oh you

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Speaker 5: know the new man and is in there and you know.

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Speaker 3: All of that sort of stuff.

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Speaker 5: I just figure, like being a parent is its own

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Speaker 5: sort of territory of course, right, and what you do

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Speaker 5: together as parents with your children has nothing to do

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Speaker 5: with anyone, do you.

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Speaker 3: Know what I mean?

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Speaker 5: My past feel like that, but that would be very

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Speaker 5: clear in this in this setup.

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Speaker 3: But as you say, everybody is.

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Speaker 5: Different, and you know I am an unusual person.

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Speaker 4: Did your parents? Did your kids ask a lot of

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Speaker 4: questions when it was over with your with your with

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Speaker 4: your husband. Were they like, okay, so you and dad

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Speaker 4: are going to live in the same house together. But

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Speaker 4: it was a weed for them that you weren't together anymore.

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Speaker 3: It was literally no different, no.

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Speaker 1: Different at all, Okay.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, just friends, you know, Yeah, that's it. And parents, like,

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Speaker 5: we both take that so seriously of course. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: And I think also the way that.

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Speaker 5: You kind of you know, design your breakup or new

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Speaker 5: time in your life also has to do with your

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Speaker 5: own history. Like my parents split up when I was

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Speaker 5: very young, right and my dad. I've never lived in

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Speaker 5: the same city as my dad from the age of five,

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Speaker 5: so it was really important to me as their mother

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Speaker 5: and like as that they are the most important thing

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Speaker 5: in my life.

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Speaker 3: And I feel like.

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Speaker 5: You know, their well being is the most important thing

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Speaker 5: that I will ever achieve, I mean my life.

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Speaker 4: I commend you on actually doing it, Christy, because do

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Speaker 4: you reckon your mum and dad when they split could

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Speaker 4: have lived with each other or absolutely no chance?

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Speaker 5: Absolutely well look who knows, actually, I mean I'll never know,

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Speaker 5: because you know it was it was a classic eighties

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Speaker 5: you know, War of the Roses style divorce, and I

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Speaker 5: didn't want any part of that. And I also didn't

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Speaker 5: feel like it was my right to kind of make

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Speaker 5: a decision that would mean that my children didn't see

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Speaker 5: their father every day.

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Speaker 1: It would feel weird.

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Speaker 2: The other thing is too This girl goes on to say,

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Speaker 2: it's really great. I can be having lunch with Taylor

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Speaker 2: while my ex husband Michael's outside doing the gardening.

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Speaker 1: Oh, she's got them working for us. It's not always

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Speaker 1: like me.

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Speaker 5: I could not imagine anything worse. But you know, I

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Speaker 5: am a forever single and that part of my life

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Speaker 5: is over, and I'm thrilled about that. Just on my

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Speaker 5: own gardening.

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Speaker 3: Let's let's say just on gardening.

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Speaker 4: That could be another franchise from Jim Jim's.

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Speaker 2: Affairs where he just steps in as another person for.

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Speaker 3: You spit on the side.

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