WEBVTT - Aussies Are Wasting $1.9B A Year On This Everyday Expense 0:00:01.600 --> 0:00:03.920 Getting morning every day. 0:00:04.240 --> 0:00:08.959 Adelaides, Welcome to the podcast. A quick question for you. 0:00:09.240 --> 0:00:11.560 Do you have a gym membership? You do good for you? 0:00:11.920 --> 0:00:13.319 Now do you actually go? 0:00:13.720 --> 0:00:16.680 I think part of it it's all psychological. With buying 0:00:16.720 --> 0:00:17.440 a gym membership. 0:00:17.440 --> 0:00:19.279 People are like, I'm going to make a change, and 0:00:19.320 --> 0:00:20.960 once I've brought it, they're like, well, I've done it. 0:00:21.040 --> 0:00:23.439 Yeah, along with buying Jim gear. Yeah, I almos going 0:00:23.480 --> 0:00:24.960 to go out and splurge around the Bucks and all 0:00:24.960 --> 0:00:28.040 this fancy Nike gear that will get me into gym mode. 0:00:28.200 --> 0:00:30.160 Yeah, that's cute that you think women are wearing Nike. 0:00:30.240 --> 0:00:32.040 It's more sort of Lorna Jane. 0:00:31.800 --> 0:00:36.440 Territory, you know. No, I thought it was all Brooks, fer. 0:00:36.280 --> 0:00:39.400 All Brooks and Filer Philas still getting around, I think so. 0:00:39.600 --> 0:00:41.960 I think they're hanging in man, that's that right, because 0:00:42.080 --> 0:00:44.360 I'd on really look at wearing Feeler if I wanted 0:00:44.400 --> 0:00:45.320 a tennis racket. 0:00:45.520 --> 0:00:47.960 Yeah, yeah, if I wanted to look like Mark Fuller 0:00:48.000 --> 0:00:50.800 Piosas Back in the day, the scud didn't put. 0:00:50.600 --> 0:00:52.919 Filler on the map, didn't good work. 0:00:53.000 --> 0:00:57.160 Scud one point nine billion dollars in wasted money for 0:00:57.200 --> 0:01:00.360 gym memberships let's talk about that. Let's talk all things 0:01:00.560 --> 0:01:03.880 gym because Joe's, as we know, you are a genuine 0:01:03.920 --> 0:01:04.520 gym rat. 0:01:04.840 --> 0:01:05.040 Live. 0:01:05.120 --> 0:01:13.080 Look at Jodie in the gym, just doing my work. 0:01:13.760 --> 0:01:14.720 A thousand raps. 0:01:14.880 --> 0:01:19.280 Yeah, I love the gym. However, Australians are spending an 0:01:19.400 --> 0:01:23.280 eye watering one point nine billion dollars a year on 0:01:23.360 --> 0:01:29.320 gym memberships they don't even use. So find Her have 0:01:29.440 --> 0:01:32.400 done this survey and they've come out and said, look, 0:01:32.400 --> 0:01:34.560 in order to get value out of your gym membership, 0:01:34.600 --> 0:01:35.840 you actually have to go once. 0:01:35.680 --> 0:01:38.920 A week, yes, minimum, minimum once a week. 0:01:38.959 --> 0:01:40.520 That rules you out producers a week. 0:01:40.920 --> 0:01:42.760 When you said, hey, you coming here for a circondar, 0:01:42.920 --> 0:01:43.880 I see where this is going. 0:01:44.600 --> 0:01:48.560 So what about painter an even further picture and draw 0:01:48.560 --> 0:01:50.240 the curtains back behind the scenes and all that sort 0:01:50.240 --> 0:01:53.520 of stuff. Every time I call Zoe, never answers, never answers, 0:01:53.840 --> 0:01:56.520 unless when she answers almost instantly, I know she's. 0:01:56.360 --> 0:02:00.480 At the gym, just so she can say, oh, talk 0:02:00.520 --> 0:02:01.080 about the gym. 0:02:01.200 --> 0:02:02.600 No, no, no no, So she gonna be like she's 0:02:02.680 --> 0:02:05.720 got an excuse to stop. Only gets to the gym. 0:02:05.880 --> 0:02:07.960 She'd be like ah, and a couple of times spoken. 0:02:08.080 --> 0:02:09.919 It's been on the phone for like twenty minutes. You're like, oh, well, 0:02:09.960 --> 0:02:11.080 you know, I was in the gym, but I might 0:02:11.120 --> 0:02:11.919 as well go home now. 0:02:13.120 --> 0:02:14.920 I was in the zone and you've got me out now. 0:02:15.760 --> 0:02:16.000 Yeah. 0:02:16.280 --> 0:02:19.400 The amount of the sheer volume of times that you've 0:02:19.440 --> 0:02:22.320 said to me brought my gym gear in again today. 0:02:22.360 --> 0:02:24.400 I'm like, well, what's the point mate, You don't use it. 0:02:25.080 --> 0:02:27.480 You don't you don't actually physically go. 0:02:27.720 --> 0:02:29.000 Yeah, I'm part of the statistic. 0:02:29.280 --> 0:02:30.960 When you think about it as well, one time a 0:02:31.000 --> 0:02:34.120 week gets to your value, it does act because my 0:02:34.200 --> 0:02:36.680 gym is sixteen dollars a week. Sixteen dollars for one workout. 0:02:36.720 --> 0:02:39.040 My goodness. It's not that it's not that expensive. For 0:02:39.160 --> 0:02:40.560 if you went in and bought one. 0:02:40.400 --> 0:02:44.080 Session, that's what one session would cost sixteen bucks? 0:02:44.080 --> 0:02:47.840 Would it absolutely about twenty twenty five? But to encourage 0:02:47.840 --> 0:02:49.280 you to get the membership, they make it more. 0:02:50.520 --> 0:02:52.919 I go to the Victor Harbor YMCA every now and 0:02:53.000 --> 0:02:55.320 then to use their gym on that and that's that's 0:02:55.360 --> 0:02:59.440 eighteen bucks upon Victor Harbor. I am the youngest person 0:02:59.480 --> 0:03:01.600 in men by thirty seven years. 0:03:01.639 --> 0:03:04.480 All the weights match up. Are you pushing at twelve 0:03:04.520 --> 0:03:05.160 and a half in a ten. 0:03:07.240 --> 0:03:08.920 It's actually really really good. 0:03:09.840 --> 0:03:10.359 Shut up. 0:03:11.680 --> 0:03:14.040 I just you don't like to hang out at wife. 0:03:16.320 --> 0:03:21.440 Village. People there as well doing the dancing. Two years 0:03:21.720 --> 0:03:23.440 when I moved down here, so I was signed up 0:03:23.440 --> 0:03:25.840 to a fitness company in Sydney, so it was seventy 0:03:25.919 --> 0:03:28.799 nine ninety five a month, and then when I moved 0:03:28.840 --> 0:03:32.120 down here, forgot to cancel it for two years. They 0:03:32.160 --> 0:03:34.480 stung me. And it's on me because I'm such an 0:03:34.480 --> 0:03:36.080 idiot that I didn't notice it was coming out of 0:03:36.080 --> 0:03:38.440 my bank account. But yeah, and I called him. I said, 0:03:38.440 --> 0:03:40.280 what's going on? I said no, no, no, no, no no. I 0:03:40.320 --> 0:03:44.040 said it was twelve month membership. I said, no, champion. 0:03:44.040 --> 0:03:46.720 I think they champion too. I said it's a minimum 0:03:46.760 --> 0:03:48.880 twelve months, so that means you can't cancel in. So 0:03:49.040 --> 0:03:51.160 the first twelve months you can cancel afterwards, but you've 0:03:51.200 --> 0:03:53.080 got to cancel otherwise we just keep on taking out. 0:03:53.080 --> 0:03:54.800 And I said, well, didn't you notice that I haven't 0:03:55.200 --> 0:03:58.280 logged in for two years? And basically I said, yeah, Well, 0:03:58.880 --> 0:04:01.120 as I say in the classics, tough titties. 0:04:03.240 --> 0:04:06.520 Dear man, ridiculous, let's get involved here. Thirteen twenty four ten. 0:04:06.560 --> 0:04:08.480 What have you wasted your money on? And what are 0:04:08.520 --> 0:04:10.360 you still wasting your money on? Are you one of 0:04:10.360 --> 0:04:12.480 those people that's got a gym membership? And how long 0:04:12.600 --> 0:04:13.920 since you've actually been? 0:04:14.240 --> 0:04:17.720 Yeah? I remember when I was nineteen years old. Yeah, 0:04:17.760 --> 0:04:20.279 I was at the Sheaf Hotel in Sydney and I 0:04:20.320 --> 0:04:22.440 had fifty dollars in my pocket and I said, you 0:04:22.520 --> 0:04:24.480 know what, it's time to make some money. And I 0:04:24.600 --> 0:04:27.320 slotted it into the poker machine you have and it 0:04:27.440 --> 0:04:31.000 chewed up my money with no reward. I genuinely, as 0:04:31.000 --> 0:04:32.760 a nineteen year old, you've got no money whatsoever. 0:04:32.839 --> 0:04:33.279 Oh my god. 0:04:33.520 --> 0:04:35.440 I don't remember going home looking in the mirrorm and. 0:04:35.520 --> 0:04:40.279 Like what I'll get that fifty? 0:04:40.640 --> 0:04:41.400 Oh man. 0:04:41.480 --> 0:04:43.480 We used to go to the casino on the Gold Coast, 0:04:43.480 --> 0:04:45.640 same thing. You'd have like fifty bucks to your name, 0:04:45.720 --> 0:04:47.479 and you know what, I can double. 0:04:47.480 --> 0:04:49.680 It's just red or black. There's fifty to fifty. I 0:04:49.680 --> 0:04:51.040 can do this. And when you. 0:04:50.960 --> 0:04:54.320 Lose it, it's like your whole world helps crumbling. 0:04:53.839 --> 0:04:55.000 Down, doesn't it? 0:04:55.080 --> 0:04:55.839 Reaching for the heavens. 0:04:57.040 --> 0:04:58.680 Good morning to Reza. 0:04:58.240 --> 0:04:59.560 Good morning, Girl'll tell you today? 0:04:59.640 --> 0:05:00.960 Good what are you wasting your money on? 0:05:01.160 --> 0:05:01.480 Well? 0:05:01.640 --> 0:05:03.680 I kind of lied to my daughter and told her 0:05:03.680 --> 0:05:05.919 I was going to the gym every day, and she 0:05:05.960 --> 0:05:08.280 didn't believe me. So what she did she rang up 0:05:08.320 --> 0:05:11.479 the gym, pretended to with me and said, I'm sorry, 0:05:11.480 --> 0:05:13.280 I just can't remember the last time I went. I'm 0:05:13.360 --> 0:05:15.720 keeping track and it was like one and a half years. 0:05:18.920 --> 0:05:20.680 Where the detective work from your daughter. 0:05:21.680 --> 0:05:24.920 Oh she's a smart girl, got to be a criminologist. 0:05:25.000 --> 0:05:26.400 So yeah, still, well. 0:05:27.000 --> 0:05:28.480 And what would you do? Would you? Would you come home? 0:05:28.560 --> 0:05:30.880 You're like, oh, good, session of the gym, come yourself 0:05:30.920 --> 0:05:31.240 in water. 0:05:32.040 --> 0:05:33.640 I just come home in my gym gear. And so 0:05:33.720 --> 0:05:37.000 they were automatically assumed I never die. Yeah, I came home, 0:05:37.320 --> 0:05:38.880 year didn't anything. 0:05:38.720 --> 0:05:40.400 Just omitted the key facts. 0:05:40.600 --> 0:05:45.080 I haven't been to the gym for nearly two years. Good, 0:05:46.279 --> 0:05:48.720 let's go to rod. Okay, what are you wasting your 0:05:48.720 --> 0:05:49.080 money on? 0:05:49.480 --> 0:05:52.000 So every time I take Adventure out to go to 0:05:52.080 --> 0:05:54.800 Bunnings every single weekend, well that's what it seems like, 0:05:55.440 --> 0:05:57.760 at least twenty bucks down from the sausages. So I 0:05:57.839 --> 0:06:02.080 complained that it's one two fifty, then three, now three fifty. Yeah, 0:06:02.160 --> 0:06:04.640 so I'm never going to do it. Yeah, I don't 0:06:04.640 --> 0:06:06.800 waste millions of dollars lock you guys do at the gym. 0:06:06.800 --> 0:06:10.159 But I'll tell you what I would waste probably hundreds, 0:06:10.200 --> 0:06:12.120 if not thousands by the time my life's over. 0:06:12.279 --> 0:06:17.360 Not to mention if the kids were here, I know, 0:06:17.440 --> 0:06:19.840 the guys cooking the snags and they're like, oh, he 0:06:19.960 --> 0:06:20.600 comes Rod. 0:06:23.279 --> 0:06:25.360 That's Rod, just so clear. How many are you buying 0:06:25.400 --> 0:06:25.839 at a time? 0:06:26.320 --> 0:06:28.000 At least three for me? 0:06:27.640 --> 0:06:32.200 You know, that's the thing with it, like one as one, 0:06:32.200 --> 0:06:34.839 it's what two fifty, which is fine, but no one's 0:06:34.880 --> 0:06:36.240 ever satisfied after just one. 0:06:36.279 --> 0:06:36.520 Money. 0:06:36.920 --> 0:06:38.719 Not to mention if the kids are with me yours? 0:06:39.360 --> 0:06:40.680 Yeah, it's true. 0:06:41.320 --> 0:06:44.160 Mortgage, you know when your past as well, right, you've 0:06:44.160 --> 0:06:45.640 got to get yourself a little drink as well. 0:06:46.000 --> 0:06:47.159 Exactly, Thanks Rod. 0:06:48.480 --> 0:06:50.880 I just love Rod's like, yeah, what about you idiots 0:06:50.880 --> 0:06:52.719 wasting money exercising at the gym. 0:06:52.839 --> 0:06:56.160 That's got a good point, very good point. Good morning 0:06:56.240 --> 0:06:56.760 to you, Kylie. 0:06:57.040 --> 0:06:57.559 Good money. 0:06:57.800 --> 0:06:58.880 It's a gym membership for. 0:06:58.800 --> 0:07:03.400 You, and it's a big way of money. It's been 0:07:03.440 --> 0:07:05.599 about fifteen months and I haven't been. 0:07:05.520 --> 0:07:10.760 Yet, but do you feel better? 0:07:13.160 --> 0:07:15.320 And the worst thing is it's right next to the 0:07:15.360 --> 0:07:16.360 door from my work. 0:07:16.760 --> 0:07:17.480 Oh my god. 0:07:17.960 --> 0:07:20.720 Yeah, okay, so you git your running out of excuses? 0:07:21.560 --> 0:07:25.400 I really am. Oh Carly, goodness made. Do you plan 0:07:25.520 --> 0:07:26.560 to go anytime soon? 0:07:28.160 --> 0:07:30.920 I'm planning on going in today or tomorrow and canceling 0:07:30.960 --> 0:07:31.480 my memori. 0:07:34.280 --> 0:07:36.880 There you go. This is almost therapeutic. 0:07:37.040 --> 0:07:40.080 Yeah, God, good luck Kyl getting out of your contract. 0:07:40.160 --> 0:07:40.920 Yeah, good stuff. 0:07:41.040 --> 0:07:41.240 Yeah. 0:07:42.320 --> 0:07:44.160 Kylie walks in there and she's like, I'm sorry, it's 0:07:44.240 --> 0:07:44.880 just like it's. 0:07:44.680 --> 0:07:47.560 Too inconvenient for me to get here. I'm gonna have 0:07:47.560 --> 0:07:49.160 to cancel talk around. 0:07:49.920 --> 0:07:50.800 Are you sure? 0:07:53.320 --> 0:07:55.600 If you've been waiting to skip the school holiday crowns 0:07:55.600 --> 0:07:57.400 for your next trip, now is your chance. 0:07:57.360 --> 0:07:59.920 You take a sneaky weekend with what if? 0:08:00.560 --> 0:08:02.480 Just imagine all those empty beaches. 0:08:02.240 --> 0:08:04.520 Full coordation and more on the what if that happens 0:08:04.760 --> 0:08:06.200 if it's Ozzy for travel. 0:08:06.200 --> 0:08:09.320 From the newsroom is in for all things frog Chat 0:08:11.520 --> 0:08:13.239 About time is what the people are saying. 0:08:13.320 --> 0:08:15.040 It is about time because I feel that there's a 0:08:15.080 --> 0:08:18.120 lot to talk about this story. Basically, I sent this 0:08:18.160 --> 0:08:19.640 through to the group chat yesterday and so we have 0:08:19.680 --> 0:08:21.880 to discuss this. But there's a story that's come out 0:08:21.960 --> 0:08:26.520 or a study that's happened, and essentially women frogs or 0:08:26.560 --> 0:08:31.800 female frogs, I should say, pretend to be dead so 0:08:31.880 --> 0:08:36.199 that they don't have to deal with male tension for affection. 0:08:37.000 --> 0:08:40.600 Right wait, I told you so, told you we were 0:08:40.600 --> 0:08:41.560 all connected to the frog. 0:08:41.760 --> 0:08:45.200 Apparently, mating season in the in the frog world is 0:08:45.440 --> 0:08:45.880 full on. 0:08:46.400 --> 0:08:46.679 Right. 0:08:47.400 --> 0:08:48.200 The males are like. 0:08:48.520 --> 0:08:51.600 We're talking, well, we're talking mansions back in the day, 0:08:51.760 --> 0:08:55.040 like Marble, they're heavy on. 0:08:55.960 --> 0:08:58.840 So the men just go The males just go, what 0:08:58.880 --> 0:09:00.800 do I keep saying? Women and men? Anyway? 0:09:00.960 --> 0:09:05.840 The male frogs just go absolutely mental mental. It's like 0:09:05.920 --> 0:09:08.960 it's on, let's go, let's move. I've got to be 0:09:09.120 --> 0:09:11.960 with as many female frogs as possible and like. 0:09:12.360 --> 0:09:14.600 A princess, let's get married kids come on. 0:09:14.720 --> 0:09:14.920 Yeah. 0:09:15.200 --> 0:09:18.000 Yeah, So the females are just like, you know what, 0:09:18.120 --> 0:09:20.760 stuff this, and so they pretend to be dead so 0:09:20.840 --> 0:09:22.040 that they don't have to deal with it. 0:09:22.120 --> 0:09:25.360 Now, I'm not saying that I do that, but I 0:09:25.400 --> 0:09:25.800 do that. 0:09:28.360 --> 0:09:30.120 I actually sent this story to my ex last night, 0:09:30.160 --> 0:09:31.880 and I said I sent the thing to him, and 0:09:31.920 --> 0:09:33.720 he goes, yeah, you do like to get creative? 0:09:36.400 --> 0:09:37.760 It's how you feel this night. 0:09:39.000 --> 0:09:42.280 Yeah, roll over and pretend I'm asleep, and bad luck, 0:09:42.320 --> 0:09:43.960 I get up early, so you're not getting any But 0:09:44.040 --> 0:09:46.560 how funny is that? You just you just I'm going 0:09:46.640 --> 0:09:48.480 to pretend to be dead so you stay away from me. 0:09:48.640 --> 0:09:49.360 That's amazing. 0:09:49.480 --> 0:09:51.679 What do you do similar? Joy? 0:09:51.760 --> 0:09:51.880 Oh? 0:09:51.880 --> 0:09:54.440 I know, I'm very much like, are you kidding me? 0:09:54.600 --> 0:09:57.600 There are children all through his house? Like that's normally 0:09:57.640 --> 0:10:01.560 my go to excuse. And I get a whiff that 0:10:01.640 --> 0:10:02.800 he's getting a whiff. 0:10:03.280 --> 0:10:03.680 Then I. 0:10:05.600 --> 0:10:09.360 Probably invited kid or two. Hey Paeyton, what's going on? 0:10:09.440 --> 0:10:11.800 Yeah? How about half as? I want to leave my 0:10:11.840 --> 0:10:12.199 own bed. 0:10:12.320 --> 0:10:15.040 Mum, no, no, no, no, stay with us. 0:10:15.160 --> 0:10:19.080 No mummy wants cuddles from you. 0:10:21.160 --> 0:10:24.760 There's a wedge between us friends. That's crazy. Yeah, yeah, 0:10:24.760 --> 0:10:26.760 that makes so much sense. I just don't be surprised 0:10:26.800 --> 0:10:28.480 if you're trying to look for some news updates and 0:10:28.600 --> 0:10:38.640 you get this. Let's try that. 0:10:42.880 --> 0:10:46.800 Really, it is so time for it. 0:10:48.120 --> 0:10:54.640 Let's go girl, I need chick chat too. Welcome back, ladies, Thank. 0:10:54.440 --> 0:10:56.240 You, got abby from the newsroom. 0:10:56.440 --> 0:10:58.640 We've got producers Zoe and the question I'm going to 0:10:58.720 --> 0:11:01.160 post to you both this morning, and let's be honest 0:11:01.160 --> 0:11:04.320 for a different phases in our life. I am a 0:11:04.440 --> 0:11:07.280 touch older than you both, just to touch and I 0:11:07.320 --> 0:11:11.000 have four children, and I have one and a half jobs. 0:11:10.920 --> 0:11:12.440 And so that's where I'm at. Zoe. 0:11:12.720 --> 0:11:16.199 You're in your twenty year, just turned twenty five, recently 0:11:16.200 --> 0:11:18.520 coupled in a new relationship yeap. 0:11:18.600 --> 0:11:19.400 And working here. 0:11:21.160 --> 0:11:23.800 And I'm thirty three and single as a preen girl. 0:11:23.920 --> 0:11:26.559 Oh this is speed dating right now. 0:11:26.559 --> 0:11:28.559 I do have two sausage jogs though, which could be 0:11:28.600 --> 0:11:31.120 classed as children. I'm a single mother essentially. 0:11:31.280 --> 0:11:34.600 Yeah, and from someone who's such a giant outsider in this, 0:11:35.000 --> 0:11:38.079 that's why this works for me. I got three very 0:11:38.200 --> 0:11:40.000 very different life Yes. 0:11:40.080 --> 0:11:41.760 So I want to pose the question to you both 0:11:41.800 --> 0:11:45.280 this morning. I've have very, very very firm views on it. 0:11:45.559 --> 0:11:46.439 Can women have it all? 0:11:48.120 --> 0:11:52.959 I'll start going absolutely categorically no, I don't know. 0:11:57.640 --> 0:12:00.400 You've got one job, and that's to press the that 0:12:00.520 --> 0:12:01.520 you No. 0:12:02.200 --> 0:12:04.120 I just think it's the biggest load of bs that 0:12:04.160 --> 0:12:09.079 we've been sold that we can be boss bitches, as 0:12:09.080 --> 0:12:11.760 you like to say, Zoe, in the workplace, we can 0:12:11.840 --> 0:12:13.679 dominate here, we can go as high as we want 0:12:13.720 --> 0:12:15.719 in our career, and yet also we can have the 0:12:15.760 --> 0:12:16.800 perfect home life. 0:12:16.880 --> 0:12:18.600 What a load of crap. 0:12:19.080 --> 0:12:22.000 And I, in my experience, have found over the journey. 0:12:22.800 --> 0:12:24.640 At one point, one of them is going to give, 0:12:24.920 --> 0:12:27.559 one of them is going to suffer. You cannot dominate 0:12:27.600 --> 0:12:31.040 at work, and then you cannot dominate at home and 0:12:31.200 --> 0:12:35.120 live like this parallel universe where everything's perfect. 0:12:35.200 --> 0:12:36.920 It's just it's a fallacy. 0:12:37.280 --> 0:12:41.079 Are you dominating at home and then bringing poor performances. 0:12:45.080 --> 0:12:46.040 Or Battle of the Bangers? 0:12:48.720 --> 0:12:48.880 Right? 0:12:49.320 --> 0:12:50.920 So no from you, Jody, And you're the one with 0:12:50.960 --> 0:12:51.920 the most life experience. 0:12:52.120 --> 0:12:55.600 Well, I just feel like we were sold this fantasy 0:12:55.840 --> 0:12:58.040 when we were allowed to go into the workplaces, like 0:12:58.080 --> 0:12:59.679 women can do what you want, you can be inpendent, 0:12:59.760 --> 0:13:01.760 you can go to work. However, you're still going to 0:13:01.800 --> 0:13:03.679 do all the stuff at home, like no one else 0:13:03.800 --> 0:13:05.520 is going to do that for you. You might have 0:13:05.559 --> 0:13:08.360 a really you know, committed partner who chips in, but 0:13:08.760 --> 0:13:11.400 let's be on a statistic shows that women do most 0:13:11.400 --> 0:13:12.880 of the heavy domestic lifting. 0:13:12.960 --> 0:13:18.560 Still yes, so oh no, actually certainly not in my house. 0:13:18.600 --> 0:13:18.840 He does. 0:13:19.679 --> 0:13:20.480 Greg's wonderful. 0:13:20.920 --> 0:13:21.360 How do you think? 0:13:22.040 --> 0:13:23.720 Yeah, I think it's a tough one. Like I was 0:13:23.840 --> 0:13:26.760 saying to you guys before that, growing up, I think 0:13:26.760 --> 0:13:29.920 particularly my generation, it was very much like, let's go 0:13:30.160 --> 0:13:32.720 be a boss woman. You want to have the best 0:13:32.720 --> 0:13:35.480 career and be killing it and everyone wants to envy 0:13:35.520 --> 0:13:36.960 you and blah blah blah, that's kind of what you're 0:13:37.000 --> 0:13:39.400 aspiring for. So at twenty five, Yeah, I've got a 0:13:39.400 --> 0:13:40.800 partner for the first time in a long time, but 0:13:40.840 --> 0:13:44.760 I haven't even thought about a family. I don't want 0:13:44.800 --> 0:13:46.600 to have kids because I don't think I can have 0:13:46.679 --> 0:13:49.240 it all if I have got kids, So I think 0:13:49.280 --> 0:13:51.840 you can't have it all other unfortunately, but also in 0:13:51.880 --> 0:13:55.880 this new landscape of whatever the world looks like now, 0:13:55.880 --> 0:13:58.040 I think having it all has got to be redefined anyway, 0:13:58.080 --> 0:13:58.959 Like what is having it all? 0:13:59.040 --> 0:13:59.280 You know? 0:13:59.760 --> 0:14:00.400 Is how I think at all? 0:14:00.440 --> 0:14:02.440 Having the perfect job and family and husband and all 0:14:02.440 --> 0:14:04.600 of it, Or is having it all just killing your 0:14:04.600 --> 0:14:08.040 career or just having the family side or whatever it is. 0:14:08.080 --> 0:14:09.520 I don't think it's possible to have both. 0:14:09.600 --> 0:14:12.480 Yeah, and that expression, oh you're a superwoman because you 0:14:12.480 --> 0:14:13.040 can do all. 0:14:12.880 --> 0:14:15.840 That, Yeah, please give it a rest. I don't know. 0:14:15.960 --> 0:14:18.000 I don't know any women who have fully got it 0:14:18.040 --> 0:14:19.760 together and are fully thriving. 0:14:19.880 --> 0:14:22.320 Yeah, And maybe the problem is that shouldn't be the 0:14:22.320 --> 0:14:23.720 expectation anyway, exactly. 0:14:23.800 --> 0:14:26.960 Yeah, Yeah, I which weirdly I'm going to admit on 0:14:27.040 --> 0:14:29.840 this topic am kind of an optimist, which I'm not 0:14:29.920 --> 0:14:31.920 in other parts. 0:14:34.160 --> 0:14:35.640 I know people will be shocked with that. 0:14:35.800 --> 0:14:37.760 I would like to think, yes, you can have it all, 0:14:37.840 --> 0:14:40.080 but I think there's got to be things in place, 0:14:40.120 --> 0:14:42.120 like you've got to have a partner who steps up. 0:14:42.160 --> 0:14:44.040 You've got to have it that they say, you know, 0:14:44.120 --> 0:14:48.120 raising kids, it takes a village. So I think for me, yes, 0:14:48.200 --> 0:14:50.200 I would love to still have a career and then 0:14:50.520 --> 0:14:52.520 you know, down the track, meet someone and have babies 0:14:52.520 --> 0:14:53.200 and things like that. 0:14:53.320 --> 0:14:55.240 But yeah, it's a catch twenty two. 0:14:55.320 --> 0:14:58.840 I've also recently, instead of being we talk about, you know, 0:14:58.920 --> 0:15:02.680 i'll be happy when I'll be happy when I speak 0:15:02.720 --> 0:15:06.640 a lot about being content, So changing that perspective of 0:15:07.000 --> 0:15:09.880 I'll be happy when I'm in my career, I've got kids, 0:15:09.880 --> 0:15:13.720 I'm married, whereas being more content maybe is better for us. 0:15:13.760 --> 0:15:15.200 Can I pull you up on something? Though? Of course, 0:15:15.200 --> 0:15:16.160 who's got a village? 0:15:16.440 --> 0:15:17.000 Well that's it. 0:15:17.480 --> 0:15:21.160 We're all paddling madly underwater, trying to keep our heads up. 0:15:21.400 --> 0:15:23.800 I don't have time to help my friends out. Yeah, 0:15:23.840 --> 0:15:26.080 you know, I don't have time to help my neighbor out. 0:15:26.360 --> 0:15:27.360 There is no village. 0:15:27.520 --> 0:15:28.840 Yeah, we're all just doing. 0:15:28.680 --> 0:15:30.440 It for ourselves at the moment, and we're all just 0:15:30.480 --> 0:15:31.760 trying to bloody survive. 0:15:32.680 --> 0:15:33.080 Sorry. 0:15:33.400 --> 0:15:35.800 Yeah, you were optimistic for the first time in your life, 0:15:36.600 --> 0:15:38.680 for the very first time. 0:15:39.320 --> 0:15:40.960 The visit I've killed my dream, Jodie. 0:15:41.680 --> 0:15:42.320 That's a good point of. 0:15:42.560 --> 0:15:43.080 Being a village. 0:15:43.080 --> 0:15:43.560 It's hard work. 0:15:43.680 --> 0:15:46.320 Being members of other people's villages is not actually easy. 0:15:46.440 --> 0:15:49.680 That's also time consuming and hard. But yeah, I think, yeah, 0:15:49.720 --> 0:15:51.920 that's where the redefinition comes from. Like for me, I 0:15:51.960 --> 0:15:53.480 will be a village member for most of the people 0:15:53.480 --> 0:15:55.320 in my life because I probably won't have kids of 0:15:55.360 --> 0:15:57.840 my own. I can help pick up some of the 0:15:57.840 --> 0:15:59.680 sack to help other people have it all. But then technically, 0:15:59.720 --> 0:16:01.520 under the real definition of it, I'm not having it all, 0:16:01.600 --> 0:16:03.240 you know, So it's got to change. The definition's got 0:16:03.840 --> 0:16:04.200 to shift. 0:16:04.240 --> 0:16:06.640 Absolutely. You're a wise little chicken, aren't you. 0:16:06.960 --> 0:16:10.440 What I love about you? Very very thoughtful thirteen twenty 0:16:10.440 --> 0:16:10.840 four to ten. 0:16:11.280 --> 0:16:12.080 Can we have it all? 0:16:12.400 --> 0:16:14.120 If you're a woman who's sitting there going, well, what 0:16:14.160 --> 0:16:16.360 are they talking about? I've got it all? I'd love 0:16:16.400 --> 0:16:19.240 to hear that, but I want to hear from you. 0:16:19.360 --> 0:16:24.520 It needs you could completely and utterly disagree with me 0:16:24.560 --> 0:16:25.440 Tano if you like. 0:16:26.320 --> 0:16:29.000 No, I'm not going to actually and I am not 0:16:29.080 --> 0:16:32.440 a spring chicken either, So but I agree with Zoe. 0:16:32.520 --> 0:16:36.240 I think honestly, how we define what it means to 0:16:36.520 --> 0:16:39.400 have it all and be successful into all those things 0:16:40.120 --> 0:16:43.800 needs to be re evaluated and looked at, because sometimes 0:16:43.880 --> 0:16:46.760 for me, it's just getting out of bed, or it's 0:16:46.800 --> 0:16:49.320 just getting through the day, or it's just you know, 0:16:49.600 --> 0:16:53.680 finishing one small, tiny task. And this idea and expectation 0:16:53.840 --> 0:16:55.840 that women have to give one hundred and fifty percent 0:16:55.880 --> 0:16:59.280 to everything all the time is completely outrageous, like that 0:16:59.400 --> 0:17:02.960 is not it is not achievable, But that's the expectation 0:17:03.040 --> 0:17:05.840 that's been set up for us by dare I say 0:17:05.880 --> 0:17:06.800 it's the patriarch. 0:17:06.960 --> 0:17:08.560 Let's have put it out there. 0:17:09.000 --> 0:17:12.159 Gender expectations, gender roles, hundreds of years of history have 0:17:12.280 --> 0:17:14.840