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Speaker 1: Hey, everyone, it's Carly Taylor here and welcome back to

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Speaker 1: you this week's Mojo Monday. So today I want to

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Speaker 1: talk about something that can really shift how we experience stress,

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Speaker 1: and that's whether we see it as a challenge or

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Speaker 1: whether we see it as a threat. And this comes

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Speaker 1: from the heartiness research that Paul has been doing for

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Speaker 1: many years now, and we actually did a podcast together

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Speaker 1: on the ninth of June on this very subject. So

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Speaker 1: if it does spark your interest, go back and have

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Speaker 1: a listen to it, because it's really interesting hearing it

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Speaker 1: from his perspective as well and from his research. But

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Speaker 1: here's the thing. Not all stress is bad, and it

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Speaker 1: may feel like it, but we actually need a certain

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Speaker 1: level of stress to create momentum in life. And stress

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Speaker 1: is simply your body gearing up to respond or whatever

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Speaker 1: situation that you're in. So you might feel your heart race,

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Speaker 1: or your breathing changes, or you have that rush of

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Speaker 1: adrenaline in your body. It's your system saying something important

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Speaker 1: is happening here, we need to do something. But how

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Speaker 1: you interpret that stress can make all the difference to

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Speaker 1: what you do next. And I've been really intentional about

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Speaker 1: applying this in my own life, and it really has

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Speaker 1: made such a difference with how I think about stressful

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Speaker 1: situations and also what I do so how I respond

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Speaker 1: to them. So if you see a situation as a threat,

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Speaker 1: so if it's something that feels overwhelming and it's out

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Speaker 1: of your control, or even if you feel that something

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Speaker 1: is danger to your dangerous to your self worth, you know,

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Speaker 1: your body tenses up, your thinking narrows, and you often

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Speaker 1: want to go into avoidance and it feels like the

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Speaker 1: situation is happening to you. It's like being stuck in quickstand.

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Speaker 1: But if you see it as a challenge, something tough

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Speaker 1: but worth engaging in because it helps you move forward,

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Speaker 1: it helps you learn and grow, your body still activates,

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Speaker 1: it still gets into that kind of mobilizing state, but

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Speaker 1: it's in a way that fuels you. So your focus sharpens,

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Speaker 1: you lean in rather than turn away, and you feel

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Speaker 1: more in control. So instead of the situation happening to you,

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Speaker 1: it becomes something you are choosing to meet head on.

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Speaker 1: And at the beginning of the year, I gave a

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Speaker 1: presentation to some year eight students about managing stress and

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Speaker 1: the lead up to exams, and I showed them a

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Speaker 1: video of a rollercoaster ride, So it was one of

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Speaker 1: those ones. Is the video was as if you were

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Speaker 1: actually sitting in the carriage of the roller coaster. And

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Speaker 1: then it was followed by a picture of two people.

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Speaker 1: So one of the girls in the picture looked absolutely

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Speaker 1: petrified and the other one looked completely exhilarated. So same situation,

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Speaker 1: totally different experience. So one person saw the roller coaster

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Speaker 1: as a threat and the other saw it as a challenge.

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Speaker 1: Or you think about giving a presentation at work or

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Speaker 1: at school. If you're in a critic pipes up with

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Speaker 1: what if I mess up? Or what if everybody thinks

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Speaker 1: I'm terrible, Everyone's going to judge me. That's going into

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Speaker 1: that threat mode. It can be automatic that critic will

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Speaker 1: just appear and we can't control that. But what we

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Speaker 1: can do is notice it and then reframe it. It's

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Speaker 1: an experience. I'm going to grow from this. Even if

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Speaker 1: I stuff up. That's challenge mode. So it's the same event,

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Speaker 1: but a different mindset. We may not be able to

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Speaker 1: control the automatic response, but we can control what we

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Speaker 1: do with it by choosing our attitude towards the stress.

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Speaker 1: And this really works when you apply it. So I

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Speaker 1: am living proof of this, and that's coming from someone

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Speaker 1: who has spent much of her life in threat mode.

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Speaker 1: And if that's you, please go back and listen to

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Speaker 1: that Mojo Monday on the ninth of June that I

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Speaker 1: did with Paul goes through about twenty six to six minutes.

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Speaker 1: And also, I just want to shamelessly plug Paul's book,

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Speaker 1: which is called The Heartiness Effect, and this is just

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Speaker 1: part of it, this challenge challenge versus threat, But it's

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Speaker 1: really brilliant and honestly, heartiness is something that we all

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Speaker 1: need right now and I'm becoming really passionate about it too.

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Speaker 1: That resilience is like the outcome. Heartiness is how we

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Speaker 1: get there. So here's your Mojo Monday mission for this week.

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Speaker 1: The next time you feel stressed, pause, ask yourself, am

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Speaker 1: I seeing this as a threat? Or am I approaching

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Speaker 1: this as a challenge? And if it feels like a threat,

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Speaker 1: just try flipping it. What can I learn here? How

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Speaker 1: much is this going to help me grow? What part

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Speaker 1: of this is within my control? And what strengths do

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Speaker 1: Is it determination? Is it fun? It's like even just

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Speaker 1: asking those questions can shift your mindset and your nervous

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Speaker 1: system from avoidance mode into full engagement. And you've got

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Speaker 1: to remember that choosing to see situations as a challenge

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Speaker 1: doesn't mean it's going to feel easy, and it often won't.

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Speaker 1: That discomfort is usually a sign that you really care

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Speaker 1: and that you're moving in the direction of growth. So

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Speaker 1: this week, just play with that lens. Notice where you

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Speaker 1: feel threat and see if you can gently reframe it

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Speaker 1: as a challenge. And over time, this practice builds hardiness,

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Speaker 1: and then that creates resilience and confidence, because confidence comes

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Speaker 1: from building skills and learning to trust yourself, and once

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Speaker 1: you have that, you know that you can handle life's challenges.

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Speaker 1: So I hope that has been valuable for you as

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Speaker 1: it has been for me. Have a beautiful Monday, enjoy

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Speaker 1: the rest of your week, and I will catch you

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Speaker 1: next week. See Yuah