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<v Speaker 1>the news from the Australian. From The Australian, I'm Claire Harvey.

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<v Speaker 1>A special bonus episode of The Front for you today.

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<v Speaker 1>It's the third in a special series of essays penned

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<v Speaker 1>by a handful of extraordinary Australians. We've asked them to

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<v Speaker 1>reflect on the defining themes of the past six decades

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<v Speaker 1>in honor of The Australian's sixtieth anniversary. In today's episode,

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<v Speaker 1>Australian Tamil lawyer and author Shankri Chandren on feminism, womanhood

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<v Speaker 1>and identity growing up between the expectations of her traditional

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<v Speaker 1>Tamil culture and Australian suburbia. Have shared Hunkri Children's perspective

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<v Speaker 1>on what it means to be a woman. That's today's episode.

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<v Speaker 2>As a teenager, I vividly remember my father showing me

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<v Speaker 2>the door of the family surgery. There was a sign

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<v Speaker 2>that bore his name, my mother's and their medical qualifications

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<v Speaker 2>earned despite ethnic conflict, forced migration and the challenges of

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<v Speaker 2>a new country.

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<v Speaker 1>This is Chunkri Chandren reading an excerpt from an essay

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<v Speaker 1>she's written for The Australian.

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<v Speaker 2>He said, pointing to the sign there's space for you two.

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<v Speaker 2>My mother smiled and nodded her agreement. While this is

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<v Speaker 2>obviously a lot of pressure to place on a thirteen

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<v Speaker 2>year old and an approach not recommended in today's parenting handbooks,

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<v Speaker 2>I remember my heart expanding with pride. My parents thought

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<v Speaker 2>I could do anything. In their minds, gender would not

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<v Speaker 2>limit the fulfillment of my potential.

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<v Speaker 1>Born in the late seventies, Schunkri Chandren is the child

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<v Speaker 1>of Tamil Sri Lankan immigrants who came to Australia via

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<v Speaker 1>London and settled in Canberra. After earning a degree from

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<v Speaker 1>the University of New South Wales, Children headed back to

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<v Speaker 1>London and worked as a human rights lawyer for the

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<v Speaker 1>next two decades, formulating assistance for people facing some of

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<v Speaker 1>humanity's greatest challenges. Children now lives in Sydney with her family,

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<v Speaker 1>her husband, three sons and one daughter. These days she

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<v Speaker 1>writes novels. Her third Chai Time at Cinnamon Gardens, was

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<v Speaker 1>published in twenty twenty two and won the prestigious Miles

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<v Speaker 1>Franklin Literary Award. A year later. Song of the Sun God,

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<v Speaker 1>published back in twenty seventeen, is being given the TV

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<v Speaker 1>treatment in an adaptation starring Bridgeton's truthra children only hope

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<v Speaker 1>they like me. All you have to do this evening

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<v Speaker 1>is remember what it is you're looking for, someone charming

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<v Speaker 1>and handsome. Of course, for all her challenges and achievements,

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<v Speaker 1>Shunkri Chundren says, surviving year nine is up there. It's

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<v Speaker 1>a perfect storm of hormones and gossip and popularity. To

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<v Speaker 1>use her word, it's a shit show. But it's also

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<v Speaker 1>the year when the realization dawned on children that she

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<v Speaker 1>had a foot in two worlds.

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<v Speaker 2>My generation was the first to be raised in the

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<v Speaker 2>refuge of Australian My family was the migrant paradox. Came

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<v Speaker 2>to contribute to their new home, to fit in and

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<v Speaker 2>remain unnoticed. They were also afraid that we would completely assimilate.

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<v Speaker 2>They often clung to cultural practices, including the gendered ones

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<v Speaker 2>that even in Sri Lanka have been changed or discarded.

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<v Speaker 2>We existed in a cultural time capsule.

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<v Speaker 1>Somewhere in the middle was her fledgling definition of womanhood.

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<v Speaker 2>And so it became an unhappy time. It became a

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<v Speaker 2>time where I was almost afraid to go to school

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<v Speaker 2>and unsure of how to be myself because myself was

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<v Speaker 2>so different from the experiences of my friends. Myself and

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<v Speaker 2>my experience of my life was culturally insular and yet

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<v Speaker 2>culturally rich. So we were isolated from in many ways

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<v Speaker 2>from our white Australian friends and the evolutions that they

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<v Speaker 2>were going through. And at the same time, whilst being

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<v Speaker 2>culturally isolated, it was full of my own culture.

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<v Speaker 1>Chankrije hundred believes it's the friendships that survived that hellish

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<v Speaker 1>year that have since helped her define her identity and

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<v Speaker 1>define her womanhood.

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<v Speaker 2>And so these girls that I had such a fraught

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<v Speaker 2>relationship with in year nine, they are also the most

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<v Speaker 2>abiding and deepest friendships of my life and the ones

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<v Speaker 2>that have enabled me and supported me to be my

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<v Speaker 2>kind of woman. And so they accept me for my feminism,

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<v Speaker 2>for my womanhood, for my motherhood, and for my professional accomplishments.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm going to try it to cry because I love

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<v Speaker 2>them so much and I think it's it is incredible,

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<v Speaker 2>and I really I wish one of the many things

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<v Speaker 2>that I wish for my children is that they have

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<v Speaker 2>friends like that.

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<v Speaker 1>The author's upbringing has made her uniquely aware of the

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<v Speaker 1>successes and the shortcomings of mainstream feminism.

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<v Speaker 2>It's actually hugely validating for me writing this essay, but

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<v Speaker 2>then having other people, particularly I think women from migrant backgrounds,

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<v Speaker 2>read it, and I would love to engage with them

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<v Speaker 2>in a conversation about it, because I often feel that

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<v Speaker 2>my own experience is ignored, and more so than that,

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<v Speaker 2>I think the experience of vulnerable women, more women that

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<v Speaker 2>are far more vulnerable than me, is also completely ignored

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<v Speaker 2>from that public narrative and that public debate, and we

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<v Speaker 2>end up relying on fascinations women to advocate and to

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<v Speaker 2>do such heavy lifting, up expecting every woman of every

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<v Speaker 2>subgroup to do the heavy lifting and to do the

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<v Speaker 2>advocacy for their group, and at the same time don't

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<v Speaker 2>necessarily give them the platforms from which to advocate, because

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<v Speaker 2>those platforms for feminism and for women for womanhood are

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<v Speaker 2>already occupied and dominated by a certain kind of woman,

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<v Speaker 2>and therefore a certain kind of feminism coming up.

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<v Speaker 1>What's Star Wars got to do with feminism? The Australian

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<v Speaker 1>has been asking the tough questions for the past six

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<v Speaker 1>decades and subscribers get breaking news, lively commentary and in

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<v Speaker 1>depth analysis. First check us out at the Australian dot

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<v Speaker 1>Chankri Chandrin is a serious Star Wars fan. There are

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<v Speaker 1>four references to the iconic Space opera in the essay

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<v Speaker 1>she's written about feminism, womanhood and identity for The Australian.

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<v Speaker 2>If Princess Leiah could lead a rebellion, so could I.

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<v Speaker 1>That's a pretty impressive average for a two thousand word

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<v Speaker 1>essay that's not actually about Star Wars, but it does

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<v Speaker 1>serve a purpose. Her fandom is an important part of

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<v Speaker 1>her identity and it punctuates important points about womanhood and

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<v Speaker 1>the ways it intersects with her Tamil culture.

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<v Speaker 2>My husband, who undoubtedly married me for my mind, my

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<v Speaker 2>skill with a lightsaber, and my charming sense of humor,

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<v Speaker 2>did not enter our marriage with Tamil expectations of Tamil women.

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<v Speaker 1>I did. Becoming a wife and better mother has prompted

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<v Speaker 1>Shannkri children to reevaluate certain aspects of her culture that

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<v Speaker 1>don't gel with her personal definition of womanhood.

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<v Speaker 2>Over time, I've lent to deprogram and delete some of

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<v Speaker 2>these expectations of myself so that I do not pass

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<v Speaker 2>them on to my daughter.

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<v Speaker 1>Her daughter children rights is encouraged to attend temple on

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<v Speaker 1>any day of the month, except when a new Star

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<v Speaker 1>Wars film is released. In many Tamil temples around the world,

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<v Speaker 1>women are prohibited from worshiping while they're menstruating. But that's

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<v Speaker 1>not a restriction Shunkri Children feels is necessary for a

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<v Speaker 1>daughter who's engaged with her culture.

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<v Speaker 2>Women bleed and therefore we can conceive if old Hindu

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<v Speaker 2>men want more Hindu babies, then the singularly female ability

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<v Speaker 2>should be deified, not used to degrade us.

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<v Speaker 1>Chankri Chandren's daughter, born and raised in Australia but immersed

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<v Speaker 1>in her parents' Tamil heritage, has piercings, she has a tattoo.

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<v Speaker 1>She dresses in a way that's both on trend and

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<v Speaker 1>self expressive. Children writes that in her day this would

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<v Speaker 1>have triggered a nationwide auntie alarm.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my god, So the auntie alarm in the Sri

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<v Speaker 2>Lankan thumb Or community in Australia and probably everywhere in

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<v Speaker 2>the diaspora is absolutely incredible. It is a network of

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<v Speaker 2>aunties around the country and around the world who know

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<v Speaker 2>what you're doing at any given time, and so if

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<v Speaker 2>you break any social more, be aware that they will

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<v Speaker 2>be on the phone or now the internet immediately to

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<v Speaker 2>alert everyone and anyone that feels they have some parental

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<v Speaker 2>responsibility over you, whether they do or do not, and

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<v Speaker 2>they will intervene in your life or alert the necessary

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<v Speaker 2>Sri Lankan thumb will Auntie the next one over to

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<v Speaker 2>intervene in your life and to in their minds, save

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<v Speaker 2>you from irrevocable disaster, or just to make sure that

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<v Speaker 2>you stay on the straight and narrow as every Sri

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<v Speaker 2>Lankan thumble girl should.

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<v Speaker 1>Children doesn't begrudge the auntie's well intentioned meddling, but she

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<v Speaker 1>considers her daughter's modern, unconstrained expression of femininity to be

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<v Speaker 1>a beautiful thing.

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<v Speaker 2>When I look at my child, I am instead relieved

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<v Speaker 2>because I know her well enough to know that she

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<v Speaker 2>respects her body, she is comfortable with how she looks,

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<v Speaker 2>and I am inspired by her self expression. It has

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<v Speaker 2>been wondrous for me to see the confidence and with

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<v Speaker 2>which she has embraced her own identity and her place

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<v Speaker 2>in the world, and the curiosity with which she approaches

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<v Speaker 2>the world and the way that she recognizes that her

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<v Speaker 2>place has value and that she is important, and she

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<v Speaker 2>is comfortable with her body in a way that I

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<v Speaker 2>don't think I will ever be comfortable with my body,

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<v Speaker 2>and she asserts that comfort and confidence and expresses herself

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<v Speaker 2>beautifully whilst simultaneously respecting herself.

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<v Speaker 1>You can read Chunkri Chandren's essay on feminism, womanhood and

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<v Speaker 1>identity right now at the Australian dot com dot au.

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<v Speaker 1>This episode was produced by Kristin Amiot with support from

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<v Speaker 1>Bianca far Marcus