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Speaker 1: not your mother, I'm not your teacher. I'm not your guidance.

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Speaker 1: I'm your girlfriend. I'm not teaching you. You should teach yourself. Hi, guys,

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Speaker 1: just little old me checking in from London. How are

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Speaker 1: we all? I thought you guys would just like appreciate

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Speaker 1: just an episode from me. My last two weeks have

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Speaker 1: they were such fun episodes. But we have so much

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Speaker 1: catching up to do. I've done a few trips since

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Speaker 1: I last talked to you, guys. There were trips of

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Speaker 1: a lifetime, might I add I got very sick after them.

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Speaker 1: But yeah, I just thought we would do a little

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Speaker 1: chit chat, talk about my favorite things at the moment,

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Speaker 1: and do with the trend of bare minim or princess treatment.

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Speaker 1: I asked over on my Instagram about like King treatment,

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Speaker 1: bare minimum, like your no negotiables and relationships because like

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Speaker 1: I'm a bit clucky for relationships at the moment. I'm

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Speaker 1: in a really good place. Don't want to leak too

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Speaker 1: many things because I'm just really enjoying being private, but

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Speaker 1: want to talk about it because I don't know this

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Speaker 1: that just like makes me not want to share any

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Speaker 1: in such a negative light, which like it shouldn't be

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Speaker 1: a negative light, Like who cares about people's dating life

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Speaker 1: So then like sharing parts of like a romantic relationship

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Speaker 1: to then throw at me, and it's just like not nice.

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Speaker 1: But like I feel like it's a safe space on

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Speaker 1: the podcast, So just no, I'm really happy. It's nice.

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Speaker 1: It's nice like feeling like a princess. I'm being treated

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Speaker 1: I really really like it. That's all I'm gonna tell

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Speaker 1: guys to tea because there's so much law behind it

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Speaker 1: and is good. Is good? But yeah, I went to Greece.

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Speaker 1: I went to Michanos with Bella, and the way Bella

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Speaker 1: But like, I'm not one to really expect a lot,

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Speaker 1: the first date, well it should be bare minimum, but

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Speaker 1: the first drink. Bare minimum, he should be paying for

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Speaker 1: to go expensive and all out, just don't do a dinner,

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Speaker 1: bare minimum, bare minimum. When I had a boyfriend and

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Speaker 1: Bare minimum, bare minimum, princess treatment, saying good morning every

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Speaker 1: I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry. I'm an independent queenie.

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Speaker 1: get them a little Koxiz it's three dollars on top

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Speaker 1: bare minimum. Making me breakfast every day and not just cereal.

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Speaker 1: It's eggs, bacon, hashbreads, finage, princess treatment. If it's every

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Speaker 1: Or you're both making it together, bare minimum. Come on,

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Speaker 1: if I'm also working full time and you're working full time,

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Speaker 1: bare minimum. A date doesn't have to be a boogie

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Speaker 1: And my parents have been married for like thirty three

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Speaker 1: that is like so important that I think that they

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Speaker 1: got to get out, like never. You should always date

428
00:21:58,640 --> 00:22:01,199
Speaker 1: your partner and treat your like you could lose them

429
00:22:01,240 --> 00:22:03,640
Speaker 1: the next day. So every day up, not every day

430
00:22:03,680 --> 00:22:07,280
Speaker 1: has to be a beautiful romantic sunset in the park

431
00:22:07,560 --> 00:22:11,200
Speaker 1: like and everything like that. But you should always intentionally

432
00:22:11,440 --> 00:22:14,120
Speaker 1: continue to date your partner, continue to get to know them.

433
00:22:14,400 --> 00:22:16,879
Speaker 1: Your lives and our lives are so crazy all the

434
00:22:16,920 --> 00:22:20,280
Speaker 1: single all the time that it's like you should intentionally

435
00:22:20,320 --> 00:22:22,880
Speaker 1: always want to be dating your partner, making them feel seen,

436
00:22:23,000 --> 00:22:25,320
Speaker 1: making them feel heard, because at the end of the day,

437
00:22:25,359 --> 00:22:27,560
Speaker 1: they should be the most important person in your life.

438
00:22:27,840 --> 00:22:30,040
Speaker 1: Why are we going to push them aside to prioritize

439
00:22:30,080 --> 00:22:32,040
Speaker 1: other people in our life and to make other people

440
00:22:32,040 --> 00:22:35,080
Speaker 1: feel special. Make your partner feel heard for us, Make

441
00:22:35,119 --> 00:22:37,040
Speaker 1: your partner feel special, And if that's taking them on

442
00:22:37,080 --> 00:22:40,560
Speaker 1: a date once a fortnight and going to your local

443
00:22:40,920 --> 00:22:42,560
Speaker 1: fish and chip shop and eat it, then eating it

444
00:22:42,600 --> 00:22:45,600
Speaker 1: in the park, like that's a date someone goes. If

445
00:22:45,640 --> 00:22:48,040
Speaker 1: you accept the bare minimum, you're accepting to be treated

446
00:22:48,080 --> 00:22:50,720
Speaker 1: that way one hundred percent. I think in especially in

447
00:22:50,760 --> 00:22:53,120
Speaker 1: like the talking stages of the start of your relationship,

448
00:22:53,240 --> 00:22:55,720
Speaker 1: there should be a standard set and you should always

449
00:22:55,800 --> 00:22:59,080
Speaker 1: vocalize what you want out of a relationship and what

450
00:22:59,119 --> 00:23:02,439
Speaker 1: you expect out of relationship, because again, everyone's expectations and

451
00:23:02,640 --> 00:23:04,800
Speaker 1: a way to be treated, a way to feel seen

452
00:23:04,920 --> 00:23:09,320
Speaker 1: and heard in relationships are so vastly different that one,

453
00:23:09,480 --> 00:23:11,720
Speaker 1: he may not know that you want that in a

454
00:23:11,800 --> 00:23:16,040
Speaker 1: relationship and he can't read your mind, and two like

455
00:23:16,119 --> 00:23:17,960
Speaker 1: vice versa, like you need to know what he likes,

456
00:23:17,960 --> 00:23:19,639
Speaker 1: and that's a conversation that you should be having in

457
00:23:19,680 --> 00:23:23,600
Speaker 1: the early months of your relationship. Is establishing a standard

458
00:23:23,640 --> 00:23:26,080
Speaker 1: of what you need in a relationship to feel loved,

459
00:23:26,119 --> 00:23:30,000
Speaker 1: to feel heard, to feel appreciated, and then go from there,

460
00:23:30,080 --> 00:23:34,480
Speaker 1: because you can't read each other's minds. And if you

461
00:23:34,560 --> 00:23:36,639
Speaker 1: accept the bare minimum at the start, and then six

462
00:23:36,720 --> 00:23:38,080
Speaker 1: months down the line, you'll be like, well, I need

463
00:23:38,080 --> 00:23:40,760
Speaker 1: this to feel loved. He might not be able to

464
00:23:40,800 --> 00:23:43,199
Speaker 1: accept that, and he might not even be capable of it,

465
00:23:43,240 --> 00:23:45,359
Speaker 1: and he might then be confused because he's like, well,

466
00:23:45,400 --> 00:23:47,520
Speaker 1: I haven't done that for six months and you're still

467
00:23:47,600 --> 00:23:49,480
Speaker 1: dating me. So it's like, I feel like you always

468
00:23:49,480 --> 00:23:52,520
Speaker 1: got to establish those boundaries, like from the store, Bare

469
00:23:52,520 --> 00:23:55,560
Speaker 1: minimum or Princess Treatment. Keeping you updated on a night

470
00:23:55,600 --> 00:23:57,840
Speaker 1: out with their friends bare minimum. If you want a

471
00:23:57,840 --> 00:24:00,040
Speaker 1: happy girlfriend and you want to come home on a

472
00:24:00,119 --> 00:24:02,119
Speaker 1: night out and you don't want to have an argument,

473
00:24:02,560 --> 00:24:05,040
Speaker 1: all you have to do is keep them updated with

474
00:24:05,080 --> 00:24:08,800
Speaker 1: your movements. Hey, I'm going to this pub. Hey we're here.

475
00:24:09,040 --> 00:24:11,119
Speaker 1: I'm with this and this person and we're having drinks.

476
00:24:11,160 --> 00:24:12,840
Speaker 1: You just need to send one message, and you don't

477
00:24:12,840 --> 00:24:15,000
Speaker 1: have to text them twenty four to seven throughout the night,

478
00:24:15,080 --> 00:24:17,040
Speaker 1: like text them every ten minutes. But just keep them

479
00:24:17,080 --> 00:24:19,199
Speaker 1: updated with your movements if you go to a different bar,

480
00:24:19,480 --> 00:24:21,439
Speaker 1: if you join a group of friends, just like let

481
00:24:21,520 --> 00:24:24,359
Speaker 1: them know is their mind so they're not sitting in

482
00:24:24,400 --> 00:24:27,840
Speaker 1: their head like going crazy. You're gonna end up with

483
00:24:27,840 --> 00:24:29,879
Speaker 1: a happier girlfriend and then you're probably gonna have a

484
00:24:29,880 --> 00:24:33,800
Speaker 1: better night. It's bare minimum, really, bare minimum or Princess treatment.

485
00:24:33,800 --> 00:24:39,800
Speaker 1: Paying for your nail appointments. Every guy I've dated loves backticles.

486
00:24:40,320 --> 00:24:42,720
Speaker 1: Every guy I love loves back scratches, and he likes

487
00:24:42,760 --> 00:24:45,480
Speaker 1: them with nails with Claus, they obviously feel way better.

488
00:24:45,640 --> 00:24:48,320
Speaker 1: I feel like it's like men just love it. I

489
00:24:48,359 --> 00:24:55,080
Speaker 1: don't know why. But with that comes maintenance. I have

490
00:24:55,440 --> 00:24:57,880
Speaker 1: had my nails pay for a few times. I don't

491
00:24:57,880 --> 00:25:00,879
Speaker 1: think it's like you must pay for every ointment, but

492
00:25:01,119 --> 00:25:02,879
Speaker 1: like every once in a while, I feel like it

493
00:25:02,880 --> 00:25:06,199
Speaker 1: would be nice to get like seventy bucks transferred and

494
00:25:06,200 --> 00:25:08,720
Speaker 1: be like, go get your nails done, Like that's just

495
00:25:08,760 --> 00:25:11,280
Speaker 1: a little appreciation. Go get your nails done, because I

496
00:25:11,280 --> 00:25:13,960
Speaker 1: love backtackles and everything like that. I feel like it's

497
00:25:13,960 --> 00:25:16,240
Speaker 1: a nice thing, like every once in a while, like flowers,

498
00:25:16,520 --> 00:25:18,639
Speaker 1: like you don't want the novelty to wear off. But

499
00:25:18,720 --> 00:25:20,879
Speaker 1: I feel like like a little surprise every once in

500
00:25:20,880 --> 00:25:23,040
Speaker 1: a while, every couple of months, when you go get

501
00:25:23,080 --> 00:25:25,639
Speaker 1: your nail appointment and he's like, it's on me this time.

502
00:25:25,960 --> 00:25:28,120
Speaker 1: That'd be nice. That is a bit princess treatment, though,

503
00:25:32,200 --> 00:25:33,840
Speaker 1: all right now we are going to move on to

504
00:25:33,880 --> 00:25:36,800
Speaker 1: bare minimum or king treatment. Now. I don't think a

505
00:25:36,800 --> 00:25:39,000
Speaker 1: lot of people really understood because like a lot of

506
00:25:39,000 --> 00:25:42,479
Speaker 1: guys just replied saying, like I deserve King treatment. I'm like, okay, mate,

507
00:25:42,800 --> 00:25:45,919
Speaker 1: I'm asking for examples. But bare minimum or King treatment

508
00:25:45,960 --> 00:25:49,000
Speaker 1: cooking dinner at his house catches you don't live there

509
00:25:49,119 --> 00:25:54,080
Speaker 1: or contribute to bills. I think that's bare minimum. I

510
00:25:54,200 --> 00:25:57,280
Speaker 1: dated someone who lived out of home, and I didn't.

511
00:25:57,640 --> 00:25:59,440
Speaker 1: I would stay there a couple of times a week.

512
00:26:00,040 --> 00:26:02,919
Speaker 1: I wouldn't contribute to the bills or paying stuff like

513
00:26:03,040 --> 00:26:05,240
Speaker 1: water and electricity and everything like that. But I think

514
00:26:05,280 --> 00:26:09,040
Speaker 1: it is fair to contribute to maybe groceries, like shouting groceries,

515
00:26:09,320 --> 00:26:10,840
Speaker 1: or a few nights a week, if you're eating there

516
00:26:10,840 --> 00:26:13,399
Speaker 1: all the time, not just like taking the food and

517
00:26:13,400 --> 00:26:15,080
Speaker 1: stuff like that all the time. I think it is

518
00:26:15,119 --> 00:26:17,400
Speaker 1: fair if you're like dinners on me tonight, I'll pay

519
00:26:17,400 --> 00:26:18,960
Speaker 1: for the groceries and we can cook it at yours.

520
00:26:19,440 --> 00:26:21,919
Speaker 1: But I think if you're staying there quite regularly, I

521
00:26:21,960 --> 00:26:24,800
Speaker 1: think it's just like polite to do that. So I

522
00:26:24,800 --> 00:26:27,480
Speaker 1: would say that's bare minimum. Making his lunch every day

523
00:26:27,520 --> 00:26:29,920
Speaker 1: for work, King treatment. Do you don't know how to meal?

524
00:26:29,960 --> 00:26:33,520
Speaker 1: Prepmate on the Sunday buy some taco mints? That is

525
00:26:33,600 --> 00:26:37,080
Speaker 1: King treatment one hundred percent every day, maybe once in

526
00:26:37,080 --> 00:26:40,600
Speaker 1: a while, But Mitch, if I'm working full time, I

527
00:26:40,600 --> 00:26:44,359
Speaker 1: ain't making you lunch. I'm making myself lunch. What are

528
00:26:44,359 --> 00:26:48,040
Speaker 1: you doing for me? Heyna? Bare minimum or King treatment?

529
00:26:48,119 --> 00:26:50,480
Speaker 1: Giving the guy compliments that we give girls. I think

530
00:26:50,480 --> 00:26:54,840
Speaker 1: that's bare minimum. Everyone loves a compliment. Everyone wants their

531
00:26:54,920 --> 00:26:58,520
Speaker 1: partner to compliment them. So even if you're a guy, girls,

532
00:26:58,520 --> 00:27:00,600
Speaker 1: we should be complimenting our man and we should be

533
00:27:00,640 --> 00:27:03,760
Speaker 1: telling him how beautiful he looks. We should be reassuring him,

534
00:27:03,800 --> 00:27:06,879
Speaker 1: giving him that validation. Everyone loves a compliment, whether you're

535
00:27:06,920 --> 00:27:09,480
Speaker 1: a guy or you're a girl, everyone loves a compliment.

536
00:27:09,520 --> 00:27:13,040
Speaker 1: Everyone wants a compliment. So compliment your man, give him that,

537
00:27:13,280 --> 00:27:15,760
Speaker 1: give him that hypo hop that he needs. He loves it.

538
00:27:15,840 --> 00:27:19,120
Speaker 1: He loves that shit, Like, fuck your hype, your man up.

539
00:27:19,160 --> 00:27:21,639
Speaker 1: Bare minimum. Let's let's make everyone as world feel good

540
00:27:21,640 --> 00:27:25,800
Speaker 1: about themselves. Someone says, giving a sloppies King treatment dead

541
00:27:26,920 --> 00:27:30,000
Speaker 1: Sometimes I don't want to do that all the time. Bro.

542
00:27:31,320 --> 00:27:34,119
Speaker 1: If I'm giving you that, you got to give me that.

543
00:27:35,119 --> 00:27:37,240
Speaker 1: I ain't giving you that shit and I'm not getting

544
00:27:37,240 --> 00:27:41,399
Speaker 1: anything else. Fuck that, bro, bare minimum. You go and

545
00:27:41,440 --> 00:27:43,959
Speaker 1: support them watching their sport I think that's just like

546
00:27:44,720 --> 00:27:46,920
Speaker 1: you're showing up for them. You're showing that you care

547
00:27:46,960 --> 00:27:49,520
Speaker 1: for them, their passions and stuff that you're really into.

548
00:27:49,880 --> 00:27:51,560
Speaker 1: You want to support them in that. Even if it's

549
00:27:51,560 --> 00:27:54,840
Speaker 1: like forty on a Sunday, like I think, just bring

550
00:27:54,880 --> 00:27:57,520
Speaker 1: your friends there, have a drink, have a chit chat,

551
00:27:57,600 --> 00:27:59,080
Speaker 1: just catch up with your friends. But like at least

552
00:27:59,119 --> 00:28:01,480
Speaker 1: you being there. I think that's bare minimum because you

553
00:28:01,560 --> 00:28:04,280
Speaker 1: want to show that you support them. I think it's

554
00:28:04,320 --> 00:28:07,520
Speaker 1: really important bare minimum or king treatment writing a card

555
00:28:07,640 --> 00:28:11,119
Speaker 1: or a big message on their but they are anniversary again.

556
00:28:11,800 --> 00:28:14,560
Speaker 1: Men need to be appreciated. I feel like, yeah, it

557
00:28:14,640 --> 00:28:17,000
Speaker 1: is really important to like make your girl feel seen,

558
00:28:17,080 --> 00:28:19,720
Speaker 1: make your girl feel special. But like girls, we also

559
00:28:19,720 --> 00:28:21,200
Speaker 1: can shar up for our man and we could also

560
00:28:21,240 --> 00:28:23,919
Speaker 1: make our man feel special. If we're making our man

561
00:28:23,960 --> 00:28:26,440
Speaker 1: feel special and we're making them feel love and supported,

562
00:28:26,480 --> 00:28:28,560
Speaker 1: they will want to do the same for you. So like,

563
00:28:28,680 --> 00:28:31,879
Speaker 1: always do what you want to them, and they should

564
00:28:31,880 --> 00:28:35,399
Speaker 1: be showing it back. And that's how relationships work. Like

565
00:28:35,440 --> 00:28:36,960
Speaker 1: we should all be doing it for each other. Like

566
00:28:37,040 --> 00:28:40,640
Speaker 1: I always wrote like messages to let them know how

567
00:28:40,680 --> 00:28:43,080
Speaker 1: much I loved and appreciated them because they love to

568
00:28:43,120 --> 00:28:46,440
Speaker 1: hear it. They love validation. They love a warm fuzzy

569
00:28:46,520 --> 00:28:49,000
Speaker 1: Like who doesn't love a warm fuzzy. Yeah, they could

570
00:28:49,000 --> 00:28:51,040
Speaker 1: be all matrum Man and acting all Mattros like they

571
00:28:51,080 --> 00:28:53,280
Speaker 1: don't care, but they do. They love it. They love

572
00:28:53,360 --> 00:28:55,120
Speaker 1: that shit. They love that shit. They might not tell

573
00:28:55,120 --> 00:28:58,040
Speaker 1: their maids, but they love that shit. Bare minimum or

574
00:28:58,120 --> 00:29:02,160
Speaker 1: king treatment, buying him flat. I saw this thing once

575
00:29:02,960 --> 00:29:06,440
Speaker 1: that sometimes the first time and man ever sees flowers

576
00:29:06,440 --> 00:29:10,400
Speaker 1: in his life is at his funeral, Like he received

577
00:29:10,400 --> 00:29:12,360
Speaker 1: flowers and that's the first time he ever is at

578
00:29:12,400 --> 00:29:15,560
Speaker 1: his funeral, and he won't even know, Like so fucking sad.

579
00:29:15,600 --> 00:29:17,560
Speaker 1: I think we need to normalize buying men flowers a

580
00:29:17,600 --> 00:29:20,479
Speaker 1: bit more. Not all the time, but like maybe if

581
00:29:20,480 --> 00:29:23,000
Speaker 1: he got like a work promotion, or he did really

582
00:29:23,040 --> 00:29:27,040
Speaker 1: well at sport, or I think just like buying him flowers,

583
00:29:27,120 --> 00:29:29,160
Speaker 1: Like yeah, maybe they don't appreciate it and they don't

584
00:29:29,240 --> 00:29:30,960
Speaker 1: love it as much as like what a girl does.

585
00:29:31,440 --> 00:29:33,880
Speaker 1: But like girls love flowers, so like men should love

586
00:29:33,880 --> 00:29:38,400
Speaker 1: flowers too. Bare minimum or king treatment, backrubs bare minimum. Sorry,

587
00:29:39,360 --> 00:29:42,320
Speaker 1: I love giving backrubs too, and I love receiving backrubs.

588
00:29:42,560 --> 00:29:44,360
Speaker 1: I think it's so comforting. It's like literally one of

589
00:29:44,400 --> 00:29:52,000
Speaker 1: my love languages bare minimum, bare minimum. All right, So

590
00:29:52,120 --> 00:29:56,040
Speaker 1: now we're moving on to your non negotiables in a relationship.

591
00:29:56,120 --> 00:29:58,720
Speaker 1: So this is like kind of tying together bare minimum

592
00:29:58,800 --> 00:30:00,680
Speaker 1: or princess treatment. And as I said before, I think

593
00:30:00,680 --> 00:30:03,440
Speaker 1: they should be established when you're in the early stages

594
00:30:03,480 --> 00:30:07,040
Speaker 1: of relationship, things that you do not tolerate, things that

595
00:30:07,080 --> 00:30:09,480
Speaker 1: you must have in your relationship for you to be

596
00:30:09,520 --> 00:30:13,040
Speaker 1: seen and feel hurt. So my friend Josh, my boxing

597
00:30:13,040 --> 00:30:15,360
Speaker 1: trainer Josh back at home Missi Josh says, always hear

598
00:30:15,400 --> 00:30:18,640
Speaker 1: each other out and listen to each other's feelings one

599
00:30:18,720 --> 00:30:21,840
Speaker 1: hundred percent. And another person said that I was reading

600
00:30:21,880 --> 00:30:25,000
Speaker 1: through before, is like working together as your problems as

601
00:30:25,000 --> 00:30:27,960
Speaker 1: a team instead of your problem, my problem, and we're

602
00:30:28,000 --> 00:30:30,440
Speaker 1: working against each other when you're fighting. It's like we

603
00:30:30,480 --> 00:30:33,320
Speaker 1: are a team where us it's not you, it's not me,

604
00:30:33,600 --> 00:30:36,240
Speaker 1: it's us, and working through it and talking to each

605
00:30:36,240 --> 00:30:39,600
Speaker 1: other's feelings because again, everyone has different feelings. Everyone hears

606
00:30:39,840 --> 00:30:43,520
Speaker 1: and feels things differently, everyone perceives things differently. I think

607
00:30:43,560 --> 00:30:45,800
Speaker 1: hearing each other out, even if you may not agree

608
00:30:45,840 --> 00:30:49,160
Speaker 1: with it, it is so important to hear that person's

609
00:30:49,160 --> 00:30:51,400
Speaker 1: side to hear why it made them feel that way.

610
00:30:51,840 --> 00:30:54,400
Speaker 1: You might not necessarily agree with that, but they're their

611
00:30:54,440 --> 00:30:57,080
Speaker 1: feelings and you shouldn't dismiss them. You shouldn't make them

612
00:30:57,080 --> 00:30:59,680
Speaker 1: feel bad for feeling that way. You shouldn't guilt trip

613
00:30:59,720 --> 00:31:02,160
Speaker 1: them for feeling that way. You shouldn't never use it

614
00:31:02,200 --> 00:31:05,680
Speaker 1: against them. Just like always hearing each other out if

615
00:31:05,800 --> 00:31:08,560
Speaker 1: you might not understand why that made them upset, but

616
00:31:08,640 --> 00:31:10,960
Speaker 1: you always have to hear why they feel that way.

617
00:31:11,120 --> 00:31:13,840
Speaker 1: And I think that that's definitely a non negotiable. No

618
00:31:13,880 --> 00:31:16,240
Speaker 1: negotiable is keeping the spark alive. Again, I said, I

619
00:31:16,280 --> 00:31:19,000
Speaker 1: think it's really important to always date each other. Yeah,

620
00:31:19,040 --> 00:31:21,440
Speaker 1: it's super easy to get comfortable in a relationship, but

621
00:31:21,840 --> 00:31:24,280
Speaker 1: always make the effort, always make that special effort. If

622
00:31:24,320 --> 00:31:26,240
Speaker 1: you're making plans with your friends, you can make a

623
00:31:26,280 --> 00:31:28,600
Speaker 1: plan with your girlfriend, and you can plan dates and

624
00:31:28,640 --> 00:31:31,960
Speaker 1: everything like that. I think it is definitely a non negotiable,

625
00:31:32,080 --> 00:31:34,440
Speaker 1: is to like keeping that spark alive, to always make

626
00:31:34,480 --> 00:31:38,760
Speaker 1: sure that you're putting effort into your relationship and putting

627
00:31:38,800 --> 00:31:42,920
Speaker 1: time and diverting time to that relationship because it's the

628
00:31:43,000 --> 00:31:45,440
Speaker 1: only thing that will keep it alive and non negotiable

629
00:31:45,480 --> 00:31:48,320
Speaker 1: for someone is that they have their own aspirations one

630
00:31:48,440 --> 00:31:51,760
Speaker 1: hundred percent. I think it's so easy to get lost

631
00:31:51,800 --> 00:31:54,160
Speaker 1: and to get all consumed by your relationship that you

632
00:31:54,280 --> 00:31:57,080
Speaker 1: forget who you are as an individual because you kind

633
00:31:57,080 --> 00:32:00,000
Speaker 1: of adapt your lifestyle around them, which is so normal

634
00:32:00,200 --> 00:32:02,120
Speaker 1: and like so fair. I feel like we all do it.

635
00:32:02,440 --> 00:32:04,920
Speaker 1: But I feel like for girls as well, especially, we

636
00:32:05,080 --> 00:32:08,840
Speaker 1: kind of lose a part of ourselves in relationships because

637
00:32:09,280 --> 00:32:12,200
Speaker 1: it's natural for us to want to give everything into

638
00:32:12,200 --> 00:32:14,840
Speaker 1: that relationship and to pour our whole heart into that relationship.

639
00:32:14,840 --> 00:32:18,520
Speaker 1: But I think from a man's perspective, it's really really

640
00:32:19,240 --> 00:32:22,000
Speaker 1: attractive when a girl has her own goals, her own dreams,

641
00:32:22,040 --> 00:32:24,640
Speaker 1: her own aspirations, and she wants to do things for herself.

642
00:32:25,000 --> 00:32:27,160
Speaker 1: So never give up on your dream, Never give up

643
00:32:27,160 --> 00:32:29,320
Speaker 1: on what you want to achieve, where you want to

644
00:32:29,360 --> 00:32:32,200
Speaker 1: go in life, like, never give up on that. Because

645
00:32:32,440 --> 00:32:36,080
Speaker 1: it's most likely attractive to a man that you're hard

646
00:32:36,120 --> 00:32:39,000
Speaker 1: to get your hard to get attention from, your always busy,

647
00:32:39,040 --> 00:32:40,960
Speaker 1: You're always doing your own thing, You're always filling up

648
00:32:40,960 --> 00:32:43,880
Speaker 1: your own cup. Men love that. Men want to find

649
00:32:43,920 --> 00:32:45,920
Speaker 1: a way that they can fit themselves into your life.

650
00:32:45,960 --> 00:32:48,440
Speaker 1: So having your own aspirations I think is so important.

651
00:32:48,840 --> 00:32:50,920
Speaker 1: We still need to have our own lives and friends.

652
00:32:51,000 --> 00:32:53,760
Speaker 1: That goes tie and tie with that, like having your

653
00:32:53,800 --> 00:32:57,080
Speaker 1: own aspirations, not conjoining your lives. I think it's so

654
00:32:57,120 --> 00:33:00,000
Speaker 1: fun when you can come together with friendship groups here

655
00:33:00,080 --> 00:33:02,880
Speaker 1: and there, but having your own life, making sure you're

656
00:33:02,880 --> 00:33:05,280
Speaker 1: still doing your own plans, like seeing your own friends,

657
00:33:05,560 --> 00:33:08,720
Speaker 1: going on trips with your girlfriends is so important. And

658
00:33:08,880 --> 00:33:12,800
Speaker 1: to maintain that throughout your relationship is so good because

659
00:33:13,120 --> 00:33:15,560
Speaker 1: then you don't feel consumed and all so consumed by

660
00:33:15,560 --> 00:33:18,719
Speaker 1: your relationship. And the biggest thing I always preach is

661
00:33:18,760 --> 00:33:22,400
Speaker 1: that date your partner, love your partner, be in a relationship,

662
00:33:22,480 --> 00:33:25,760
Speaker 1: all good, but always make sure that if you broke

663
00:33:25,880 --> 00:33:29,640
Speaker 1: up with your partner tomorrow that you'll still be fine

664
00:33:29,920 --> 00:33:31,920
Speaker 1: without them. You still have your own friends, you still

665
00:33:31,960 --> 00:33:34,880
Speaker 1: have your own financial especially in dating in early twenties,

666
00:33:34,920 --> 00:33:37,640
Speaker 1: you're not financially dependent on them if you like obviously,

667
00:33:38,000 --> 00:33:40,120
Speaker 1: if you have kids and everything like that, it's different.

668
00:33:40,160 --> 00:33:44,320
Speaker 1: But have your own financial stability, have your own friends,

669
00:33:44,360 --> 00:33:46,920
Speaker 1: have your own goals, have your own aspirations, because you

670
00:33:47,040 --> 00:33:49,680
Speaker 1: never know what can change and how quickly it can

671
00:33:49,760 --> 00:33:51,680
Speaker 1: change that you don't want to feel like you're in

672
00:33:51,680 --> 00:33:54,200
Speaker 1: a situation where you're trapped and that you can't get

673
00:33:54,200 --> 00:33:56,840
Speaker 1: out of it because you either rely on them financially

674
00:33:57,160 --> 00:34:01,160
Speaker 1: or you have the same friends and you do everything together.

675
00:34:01,200 --> 00:34:03,520
Speaker 1: And then it's more the fact of like you're worried

676
00:34:03,520 --> 00:34:06,760
Speaker 1: about losing your life instead of losing that person. This

677
00:34:06,840 --> 00:34:09,080
Speaker 1: guy says, tell me what you're feeling. If you're upset

678
00:34:09,160 --> 00:34:11,200
Speaker 1: or angry. I trust you. If you say you're good,

679
00:34:11,239 --> 00:34:14,120
Speaker 1: I trust that. Don't lie. Don't lie and say you're

680
00:34:14,120 --> 00:34:16,680
Speaker 1: good when you're really upset, and then it just bubbles

681
00:34:16,719 --> 00:34:19,120
Speaker 1: up for days and weeks. I one hundred percent agree.

682
00:34:20,120 --> 00:34:23,959
Speaker 1: I think it's really hard and everyone just like thinks.

683
00:34:24,000 --> 00:34:26,000
Speaker 1: People and mind readers, boys and girls. I think that

684
00:34:26,040 --> 00:34:28,520
Speaker 1: they should be able to read their minds. And sometimes

685
00:34:28,520 --> 00:34:30,799
Speaker 1: I agree on that whole saying of like, if they

686
00:34:30,840 --> 00:34:33,919
Speaker 1: wanted to, they would, but if they don't know, they're

687
00:34:33,920 --> 00:34:36,680
Speaker 1: not going to. You need to communicate what you expect

688
00:34:36,680 --> 00:34:39,120
Speaker 1: from a relationship, what you want, what makes you upset,

689
00:34:39,120 --> 00:34:41,359
Speaker 1: what doesn't make you upset, And if you communicate that

690
00:34:41,560 --> 00:34:44,239
Speaker 1: and they continue to do those things, then that's when

691
00:34:44,280 --> 00:34:46,880
Speaker 1: the problem arises. But if you're bottling up all this

692
00:34:46,920 --> 00:34:49,560
Speaker 1: stuff inside, and you're not telling them that that certain

693
00:34:49,600 --> 00:34:53,240
Speaker 1: action makes them upset or that certain behavior makes them upset,

694
00:34:53,520 --> 00:34:55,440
Speaker 1: And then you just bottle it up inside and they

695
00:34:55,480 --> 00:34:58,319
Speaker 1: continue and continue and continue to do that action, and

696
00:34:58,360 --> 00:35:01,520
Speaker 1: you get continually more pieced off, and then you blow

697
00:35:01,600 --> 00:35:04,120
Speaker 1: up one day. That's kind of on you because you

698
00:35:04,120 --> 00:35:06,680
Speaker 1: didn't communicate that. I think if you communicate that and

699
00:35:06,719 --> 00:35:08,640
Speaker 1: you set a boundary and they continue to do it,

700
00:35:08,680 --> 00:35:11,319
Speaker 1: then that's on them. But I think you need to

701
00:35:11,360 --> 00:35:15,840
Speaker 1: tell them first. So if they ask you why you're upset,

702
00:35:16,360 --> 00:35:19,520
Speaker 1: fucking tell them. But also, boys provide a safe space

703
00:35:19,520 --> 00:35:21,480
Speaker 1: for the girls to feel like they can say that

704
00:35:21,520 --> 00:35:24,120
Speaker 1: and don't always like get your back up about it. Again,

705
00:35:24,160 --> 00:35:26,359
Speaker 1: it's their feelings. They have a certain way for feeling that.

706
00:35:26,640 --> 00:35:28,319
Speaker 1: It might be the way they grew up, it might

707
00:35:28,360 --> 00:35:30,480
Speaker 1: be a little bit of an insecurity or everything like that.

708
00:35:30,840 --> 00:35:33,319
Speaker 1: Make it a safe space and allow for them to

709
00:35:33,400 --> 00:35:37,279
Speaker 1: feel safe to open up. No negotiable emotional intelligence. Thank you.

710
00:35:37,840 --> 00:35:41,319
Speaker 1: I will neaver date someone my age now I'm like

711
00:35:42,000 --> 00:35:44,799
Speaker 1: two or three years above me, because I feel like

712
00:35:44,920 --> 00:35:48,160
Speaker 1: then they've gone through enough stuff. Like I'm twenty three,

713
00:35:48,560 --> 00:35:51,480
Speaker 1: I feel like there's a big emotional development from like

714
00:35:51,520 --> 00:35:53,080
Speaker 1: a twenty two to twenty three year old man to

715
00:35:53,120 --> 00:35:56,239
Speaker 1: a twenty six year old man. And I'm not looking

716
00:35:56,239 --> 00:35:59,160
Speaker 1: to teach someone emotional intelligence. I'm not your mother, I'm

717
00:35:59,200 --> 00:36:02,160
Speaker 1: not your teacher. I'm not your guidance. I'm your girlfriend.

718
00:36:02,440 --> 00:36:05,640
Speaker 1: I'm not teaching you. You should teach yourself confidence. Don't

719
00:36:05,640 --> 00:36:09,000
Speaker 1: project your insecurities unto me. I think like a man

720
00:36:09,040 --> 00:36:12,680
Speaker 1: can have insecurities and he can voice those insecurities, but

721
00:36:12,880 --> 00:36:16,400
Speaker 1: he shouldn't make those insecurities your fault. Like I'm not

722
00:36:16,440 --> 00:36:18,279
Speaker 1: here to fix you. I'm not here to cure you.

723
00:36:18,360 --> 00:36:22,000
Speaker 1: I'm not here to be a therapist. But what you

724
00:36:22,080 --> 00:36:24,040
Speaker 1: carry on and the baggage that you carry on, you

725
00:36:24,080 --> 00:36:26,920
Speaker 1: are taking that on for when you date that partner,

726
00:36:26,920 --> 00:36:29,279
Speaker 1: and you should be aware of those things. But don't

727
00:36:29,280 --> 00:36:31,719
Speaker 1: make me feel bad that you have those things. I'm

728
00:36:31,719 --> 00:36:33,560
Speaker 1: here to work through them with you. I'm not here

729
00:36:33,600 --> 00:36:35,600
Speaker 1: to fix them, but I'm here to be there for

730
00:36:35,680 --> 00:36:37,560
Speaker 1: you because it does make that person who they are.

731
00:36:37,680 --> 00:36:42,200
Speaker 1: Really Quality time over quantity time one hundred percent. Like

732
00:36:42,320 --> 00:36:45,120
Speaker 1: I always say, a long distance relationship would work really

733
00:36:45,120 --> 00:36:47,960
Speaker 1: really well for me because I don't need to spend

734
00:36:48,000 --> 00:36:50,040
Speaker 1: every waking second with you. I don't need to speak

735
00:36:50,080 --> 00:36:52,080
Speaker 1: to you every single day. I don't need to know

736
00:36:52,160 --> 00:36:54,400
Speaker 1: what meal you had for dinner, Like I don't need

737
00:36:54,440 --> 00:36:56,200
Speaker 1: to know all of that stuff. But when we're together,

738
00:36:56,600 --> 00:36:59,840
Speaker 1: we're present, our phones are away, we're getting to know

739
00:37:00,040 --> 00:37:03,040
Speaker 1: each other. We're spending quality time with you, And I'd

740
00:37:03,120 --> 00:37:06,120
Speaker 1: rather spend three good days of quality time with you

741
00:37:06,560 --> 00:37:09,600
Speaker 1: instead of spending three weeks with you and we're barely

742
00:37:09,880 --> 00:37:14,200
Speaker 1: communicating through that. If he pays for only fans, I'm out. Okay,

743
00:37:14,880 --> 00:37:19,360
Speaker 1: if he's single, I don't see the problem with buying

744
00:37:19,360 --> 00:37:22,239
Speaker 1: only fans and the subscribing to someone's only fans. At

745
00:37:22,280 --> 00:37:24,680
Speaker 1: the end of the day, they're supporting creators. That's that

746
00:37:24,880 --> 00:37:27,799
Speaker 1: creator's job and everything like that. Like girls have got

747
00:37:27,840 --> 00:37:29,600
Speaker 1: to make their money. And if he's wanting to see

748
00:37:29,600 --> 00:37:31,560
Speaker 1: that girl and he finds her attractive and he's supporting

749
00:37:31,600 --> 00:37:34,200
Speaker 1: her and paying her for stuff while he's single, I

750
00:37:34,239 --> 00:37:37,000
Speaker 1: completely get that. During dating, you shouldn't be subscribing to

751
00:37:37,000 --> 00:37:39,319
Speaker 1: someone's only fans. To me, I think that's cheating. But like,

752
00:37:39,680 --> 00:37:41,840
Speaker 1: if he's single, like he has all the right to

753
00:37:41,880 --> 00:37:44,319
Speaker 1: do that, But when you're dating, you should stop. Never

754
00:37:44,400 --> 00:37:46,479
Speaker 1: pay each other back, just pay it forward next time.

755
00:37:46,600 --> 00:37:48,879
Speaker 1: I completely agree. It's like, oh, don't be like, hey,

756
00:37:48,880 --> 00:37:51,040
Speaker 1: can you transfer me twenty five dollars for the groceries.

757
00:37:51,080 --> 00:37:53,439
Speaker 1: It's like, you grab the groceries this time, I'll grab

758
00:37:53,480 --> 00:37:55,560
Speaker 1: the groceries next time. I agree with that one. That's

759
00:37:55,560 --> 00:37:57,279
Speaker 1: a good one needs to be in touch with his

760
00:37:57,440 --> 00:38:01,759
Speaker 1: feminine side. I completely agree with this. I think the

761
00:38:01,800 --> 00:38:04,359
Speaker 1: big matro man mentality is so big in this day

762
00:38:04,360 --> 00:38:06,880
Speaker 1: and age, like with the fucking Andrew Tate shit and

763
00:38:06,920 --> 00:38:08,960
Speaker 1: everything like that. But a guy who is in touch

764
00:38:08,960 --> 00:38:11,319
Speaker 1: with his feelings, a guy who is in touch with

765
00:38:11,360 --> 00:38:14,239
Speaker 1: his feminine side, who can embrace that and is not

766
00:38:14,280 --> 00:38:18,560
Speaker 1: embarrassed about that, is super super attractive to a female,

767
00:38:19,000 --> 00:38:21,239
Speaker 1: super attractive. Like we love that shit, We love that

768
00:38:21,280 --> 00:38:23,840
Speaker 1: you can embrace that and just like go along with

769
00:38:23,880 --> 00:38:26,719
Speaker 1: it and be okay with it, like it's someone says

770
00:38:26,800 --> 00:38:29,239
Speaker 1: it's not fifty to fifty, it's one hundred, one hundred.

771
00:38:29,800 --> 00:38:32,640
Speaker 1: I fucking love this. I didn't realize this, and I

772
00:38:32,680 --> 00:38:35,000
Speaker 1: didn't think ever think about this. But everyone goes, oh,

773
00:38:35,400 --> 00:38:37,239
Speaker 1: you put in fifty percent. I put in fifty percent.

774
00:38:37,239 --> 00:38:39,040
Speaker 1: We make up a hundred. No, you could be putting

775
00:38:39,040 --> 00:38:41,360
Speaker 1: your best foot forward one hundred percent, showing up for

776
00:38:41,360 --> 00:38:43,879
Speaker 1: that person one hundred percent always, and that's how you're

777
00:38:43,880 --> 00:38:45,520
Speaker 1: going to be there for one another. It's one hundred

778
00:38:45,520 --> 00:38:48,080
Speaker 1: percent showing up as your hundred percent self every single

779
00:38:48,160 --> 00:38:50,840
Speaker 1: day for your partner. Is how your relationship is going

780
00:38:50,920 --> 00:38:53,280
Speaker 1: to work. Not fifty to fifty, one hundred, one hundred.

781
00:38:53,600 --> 00:38:56,160
Speaker 1: Both putting in the effort, both putting in the time,

782
00:38:56,960 --> 00:38:59,800
Speaker 1: both loving each other unconditionally is what a relationship is

783
00:38:59,800 --> 00:39:02,360
Speaker 1: going to work. A big non negotiable for me is

784
00:39:02,440 --> 00:39:05,000
Speaker 1: like introducing each other to a friendship group. I don't

785
00:39:05,040 --> 00:39:09,400
Speaker 1: want to be I don't mind private. I respect people's

786
00:39:09,440 --> 00:39:11,320
Speaker 1: private lives, but I don't want to be a secret

787
00:39:11,360 --> 00:39:13,360
Speaker 1: to your friends. I don't want you to be embarrassed

788
00:39:13,360 --> 00:39:15,000
Speaker 1: to me about your friends. I don't like when they

789
00:39:15,080 --> 00:39:17,520
Speaker 1: like shy away from you when they're on their phone

790
00:39:17,600 --> 00:39:20,279
Speaker 1: speaking to their mates, like or go into another room

791
00:39:20,280 --> 00:39:21,920
Speaker 1: to go on a phone call with their mate. Like

792
00:39:22,080 --> 00:39:24,279
Speaker 1: A big thing is just like communication and to be

793
00:39:24,480 --> 00:39:26,680
Speaker 1: proud of me. I don't want you to like do

794
00:39:26,800 --> 00:39:29,319
Speaker 1: dedicated posts for me on Instagram, but I think just

795
00:39:29,320 --> 00:39:31,359
Speaker 1: being proud of your partner and being proud of your

796
00:39:31,360 --> 00:39:33,719
Speaker 1: girlfriend is like a big non negotiable for me. I

797
00:39:33,760 --> 00:39:36,360
Speaker 1: want you to feel proud that you're dating me. And

798
00:39:36,440 --> 00:39:38,040
Speaker 1: to end this episode, I ask you guys over on

799
00:39:38,080 --> 00:39:40,240
Speaker 1: my Instagram to to give me the best and worst

800
00:39:40,280 --> 00:39:43,239
Speaker 1: compliments you guys have ever received. I was reading these

801
00:39:43,239 --> 00:39:45,160
Speaker 1: and some of these are actually fucked up, Like I

802
00:39:45,160 --> 00:39:47,600
Speaker 1: actually can't believe you girls or you guys have like

803
00:39:48,120 --> 00:39:51,640
Speaker 1: had this. It's fucked Someone said to me, you're the

804
00:39:51,640 --> 00:39:54,360
Speaker 1: most amazing girl I've ever met, and literally five minutes

805
00:39:54,440 --> 00:40:00,279
Speaker 1: later he said, you have huge arms. You fucked like, bro,

806
00:40:00,520 --> 00:40:03,000
Speaker 1: Sometimes you don't need to say everything that's on your mind,

807
00:40:03,440 --> 00:40:06,160
Speaker 1: like literally shut up, Like, I don't want to be

808
00:40:06,200 --> 00:40:07,960
Speaker 1: told I have huge arms. In what way am I

809
00:40:08,000 --> 00:40:10,439
Speaker 1: ever gonna like that? What way am I ever going

810
00:40:10,480 --> 00:40:12,480
Speaker 1: to like? Fuck? Yeah, this guy just thought I had

811
00:40:12,600 --> 00:40:14,680
Speaker 1: huge arms. If you want to be ghosted, tell me

812
00:40:14,719 --> 00:40:16,719
Speaker 1: I have huge arms. If you want to unlock an

813
00:40:16,719 --> 00:40:18,959
Speaker 1: insecurity for the rest of my life, what is wrong

814
00:40:19,000 --> 00:40:21,439
Speaker 1: with you? You remind me of my ex. Don't worry,

815
00:40:21,480 --> 00:40:23,680
Speaker 1: it's a good thing. Okay, we'll go data, go get

816
00:40:23,680 --> 00:40:25,840
Speaker 1: her back. I don't want to remind you of your ex.

817
00:40:26,000 --> 00:40:31,040
Speaker 1: I'm me I'm Sam, I'm Betty. Don't bring up your ex.

818
00:40:31,760 --> 00:40:33,840
Speaker 1: Just be like, oh, you have a great personality. He

819
00:40:33,920 --> 00:40:35,400
Speaker 1: told me to walk home because it looks like I

820
00:40:35,400 --> 00:40:39,239
Speaker 1: could lose in the extra calories. Men never comment on

821
00:40:39,280 --> 00:40:42,040
Speaker 1: a woman's body. Never comment on a woman's body. Never

822
00:40:42,080 --> 00:40:43,640
Speaker 1: tell a woman she goes should go on a diet,

823
00:40:43,719 --> 00:40:45,120
Speaker 1: Never tell a woman she needs to work out, and

824
00:40:45,120 --> 00:40:47,280
Speaker 1: never tell a woman she needs to lose a few pounds.

825
00:40:47,440 --> 00:40:51,640
Speaker 1: Shut it, shut it please. He grabbed my tummy while

826
00:40:51,680 --> 00:40:54,080
Speaker 1: on top and said, I've put on weight since last time.

827
00:40:55,560 --> 00:40:59,719
Speaker 1: Men never grab a woman's stomach. It's probably the worldwide universally.

828
00:40:59,760 --> 00:41:02,160
Speaker 1: I can think we all agree that a women's like

829
00:41:02,360 --> 00:41:04,920
Speaker 1: for women, our stomach is like one of the biggest

830
00:41:04,920 --> 00:41:08,520
Speaker 1: insecurities of ours because society and everything is like ever

831
00:41:08,600 --> 00:41:10,479
Speaker 1: have a fat tummy, have a six pack, and YadA

832
00:41:10,520 --> 00:41:13,600
Speaker 1: YadA YadA, and like achieving that as a woman is

833
00:41:13,640 --> 00:41:15,680
Speaker 1: really really hard. We've got organs in there, We've got

834
00:41:15,960 --> 00:41:18,880
Speaker 1: extra fat around our stomach because we carry your kid,

835
00:41:19,200 --> 00:41:21,960
Speaker 1: so we have fat around there. Do not grab my

836
00:41:22,040 --> 00:41:26,200
Speaker 1: stomach fat and jiggle it. I've had so many men

837
00:41:26,320 --> 00:41:29,000
Speaker 1: grab my legs and jiggle my legs and go, you

838
00:41:29,000 --> 00:41:32,640
Speaker 1: have really big legs. Oh, thank you sir, Thank you sir,

839
00:41:32,640 --> 00:41:35,040
Speaker 1: because I wanted to be told I had good big legs.

840
00:41:36,719 --> 00:41:38,439
Speaker 1: Someone goes, you're so nice. I feel like we could

841
00:41:38,440 --> 00:41:41,720
Speaker 1: fight around each other. It was our second date. Okay,

842
00:41:41,800 --> 00:41:44,560
Speaker 1: Like something's don't be said. You're actually smarter than I thought.

843
00:41:44,600 --> 00:41:47,600
Speaker 1: Your Instagram made me think you were dumb. How does

844
00:41:47,640 --> 00:41:50,839
Speaker 1: a photo make someone look dumb or smart? And that's

845
00:41:50,880 --> 00:41:52,920
Speaker 1: something I really face as well, obviously, because I'm an

846
00:41:52,960 --> 00:41:55,400
Speaker 1: influencer and I'm in like the creative field, and I

847
00:41:55,600 --> 00:41:57,759
Speaker 1: like take photos and do content and stuff for a living.

848
00:41:58,360 --> 00:42:00,719
Speaker 1: Like they always think I'm really dumb, but it's like

849
00:42:01,560 --> 00:42:04,600
Speaker 1: I'm actually not, Like I actually did pretty well at school,

850
00:42:05,280 --> 00:42:07,640
Speaker 1: Like I can critically think, and like I can go

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Speaker 1: to UNI if I want to. Like, yeah I'm not

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Speaker 1: at UNI, and yeah I don't have a degree, but

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Speaker 1: that doesn't make me dumb. You don't only get a

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Speaker 1: job in influencing because you're dumb. Like I know so

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Speaker 1: many people that are influencing too. I have like full

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Speaker 1: law and psychology degrees, but they're just like an influencer.

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Speaker 1: Someone says, why didn't you wear makeup? Except me? For who?

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Speaker 1: I am. Your eyes are kind of far apart, but

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Speaker 1: it's okay because they're green. Like again, you could just

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Speaker 1: say you have really nice green eyes like well in

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Speaker 1: the backhand like man, we need to stop doing these

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Speaker 1: backhanded compliments. Stop it place, stop it place, all right, guys,

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Speaker 1: I feel like we should wrap it up here. This

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Speaker 1: is such a fun episode, you guys. I don't like

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Speaker 1: the worst compliment you've ever received, or like the worst

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Speaker 1: comment you've ever been told by a guy like that

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Speaker 1: that wasn't nice, but so nice chatting with you, guys.

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Speaker 1: I love you all so so much. Gonna end the

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Speaker 1: episode with a hard truth. Let's pull up, all right.

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Speaker 1: I feel like this goes right up par with a

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Speaker 1: little bit of like the Men and the Women and

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Speaker 1: the dating scene, the bare minimum of the Princess treatment.

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Speaker 1: Your hard truth for today is there are two types

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Speaker 1: of haters. So if you have a hater in your life,

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Speaker 1: if you have someone who's constantly hating on you, bringing

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Speaker 1: you down, I got quite a few, But there are

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Speaker 1: two types of haters. One men that couldn't be with

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Speaker 1: you and two girls who can't be you. Men, all

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Speaker 1: the men that call me this town bike that hate

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Speaker 1: on me and my comments. I wouldn't look at twice

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Speaker 1: at So that's why I'm like, don't give them the

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Speaker 1: time of day because I'm like, you're sad you can't

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Speaker 1: pull me, mate, that's a fucking joke before we all

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Speaker 1: get our tits up in a storm. And girls who

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Speaker 1: can't be you. A girl wouldn't need to hate on

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Speaker 1: you and bring you down if she could be that

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Speaker 1: and if she wanted to be that. So just like,

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Speaker 1: don't listen to girls who are constantly bringing you down

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Speaker 1: and constantly trying to shit on everything that you're doing,

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Speaker 1: because I'm not hating on you for doing you, so

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Speaker 1: don't hate on me. We all have different dreams, we

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Speaker 1: all have different aspirations, So like, if I wanted to

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Speaker 1: be you, I'm not gonna hate on you. I'm just

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Speaker 1: gonna want to get there. I'm gonna use you as inspiration.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna use you as motivation to get myself on

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Speaker 1: a slight level that you were on. But yeah, I

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Speaker 1: for thought that was it. I hope you guys enjoyed

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Speaker 1: today's episode. We had a nice little chit chat, a

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Speaker 1: little catch up. I love you guys allso much, and

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Speaker 1: I will speak to you next week. Bye, love you,