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Speaker 1: With fifteen books to her name. On the topic of parenting,

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Speaker 1: I'd say our next guest, there's somewhat of an expert.

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Speaker 2: You never know who you're going to get with your child.

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Speaker 2: It's like a puzzle. We can't see the picture. But

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Speaker 2: I wanted you just be reassured that all every child

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Speaker 2: actually wants is to be loved, accepted and valid as

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Speaker 2: they are.

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Speaker 1: God, che's good, Please, welcome to the show.

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Speaker 3: Maggie Dance Maggie, Dan's good morning.

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Speaker 4: Hi guy, how are you?

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Speaker 1: Where do you want to start?

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Speaker 5: Jason, Maggie, Why did I have three children and put

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Speaker 5: myself in this situation?

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Speaker 4: No, no, look, no worries. Look I think you know

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Speaker 4: when there were days I locked myself on the toilet,

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Speaker 4: So what was I thinking? Like, what the heck? Did

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Speaker 4: I know what's going to be this hard? And then

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Speaker 4: I just said four paral voice like yeah, so that's normal, right,

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Speaker 4: because raising little humans who are unpredictable and developmentally unable

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Speaker 4: to be the compliant, beautiful, well behaved children we thought

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Speaker 4: the world was. You know, if you said my kids

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Speaker 4: are never going to do.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, right, Like, so I've got a eleven, nine and

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Speaker 3: daughters and they're like, we're in the tough years now

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Speaker 3: for daughters. Yeah, well, I think boys by the time

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Speaker 4: That's if we can get them up the screen nowadays though,

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Speaker 4: so and that's the other challenge we have. The world

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Speaker 4: has kind of I think I put a thing up

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Speaker 4: the other day on my Facebook page about how we've

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Speaker 4: stolen boyhood off boys here we have because we've made

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Speaker 4: them have to be safer and actual fact, natural consequences

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Speaker 4: of boys falling out of trees and falling off their

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Speaker 4: bikes and you know, all of that is how they

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Speaker 4: learned not to make that choice next time, and now

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Speaker 4: we aren't letting them do it. For their capacity to

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Speaker 4: take risks, and that was really one of the things

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Speaker 4: on I think episode three isn't as developed and they're

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Speaker 4: not as resilient. You know, we've still got biological wiring

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Speaker 4: and the testosterone means they're still supposed to be out

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Speaker 5: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: I was explaining to one of my boys who's nine

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Speaker 3: the other day. I'm like, mate, I used to go

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Speaker 3: that's me no idea, ray Am, I'd come back because

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Speaker 3: And I'm just watching his little mind blind like really like.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, And they're probably looking at you, going how

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Speaker 4: dangerous was that?

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Speaker 5: D Yes, Yes, I'm like, I'm encouraging you to do it.

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Speaker 5: Get out of here.

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Speaker 4: So it's called safetyism, and it's one of the things

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Speaker 4: that we keep on challenging. And that's one of the

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Speaker 4: things I love in this episode to you know, remind

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Speaker 4: everybody that they're meant to be doing risky stuff as

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Speaker 4: they navigate through childhood so that they're able to navigate

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Speaker 4: fire later, they're able to hear they're in a warning

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Speaker 4: system that says, no, mate, last time you jumped off

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Speaker 4: I think, you know, this is one of the challenges.

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Speaker 4: We want to overprotect them because that's our job, because

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Speaker 4: you look like the lousy parent when your kids right

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Speaker 5: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: Nowadays, man, man, the judgment.

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Speaker 1: Now the role of a life time parenting is and

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Speaker 1: I hope that I become a dad one day, right, Jay, soon,

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Speaker 1: I've got I've got a question for you. I mean, clearly,

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Speaker 1: it is the role in the honor of a lifetime,

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Speaker 1: right yep. But it's hard.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, it's exhausting. Yeah, it is exhausting.

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Speaker 3: But then there'll be moments like yesterday, you know, we're

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Speaker 3: when you get those moments, it's my wife and I

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Speaker 3: you know what I mean, Like one minute, I'm just

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Speaker 4: That's exactly what it is. And it's always been like that.

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Speaker 4: And so what we keep I keep saying to parents,

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Speaker 4: and you know, when it's all it is is correcting

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Speaker 4: to say it's okay. It happens to wall of it.

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Speaker 1: So, Maggie, we talk so often about parents and hating

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Speaker 4: You know, there's a whole generation here that are in

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Speaker 1: It's escapism as opposed to independence.

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Speaker 4: In their view, they think they're more connected, but what

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Speaker 4: But it's all it's not all good, and it's not

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Speaker 4: I think if you watch, you'll get the smack in

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Speaker 3: You're just going back on what you're talking about before,

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Speaker 3: where it's like, you know, people would think I'm crazy

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Speaker 4: People, way more dangerous. And then, and I think that's

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Speaker 5: It's yeah, it's crazy, and it's the change.

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Speaker 3: I wanted to ask you about something that you brought

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Speaker 3: and they'll just melt down, won't they, Maggie. They're just

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Speaker 5: I'm like, God, you really just turned on me now, Maggie.

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Speaker 5: You've said in the past to look at it differently.

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Speaker 3: You've said, rather than looking at it and going, oh,

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Speaker 3: they're angry, you suggest looking at it in a way

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Speaker 4: Get yeah, So if we hold in all our biggest feelings,

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Speaker 4: you are still going to be able to love them

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Speaker 5: But I guess that's my question.

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Speaker 4: When we're calm, we come back in and so it

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Speaker 3: I guess, like you know, I was having an absolute

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Speaker 5: To comment, how lucky am I that I'm bringing yelled out?

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Speaker 3: And then I had to go, Okay, I'm going to

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Speaker 3: approach it like that, But how long do you let

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Speaker 5: Do you know what I mean? Surely it's telling that

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Speaker 4: No, no, no, that's the lens you're going through the

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Speaker 4: behaviorism lens. Aren't I rewarding that behavior? No, I'm showing

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Speaker 4: them that I am completely safe. However, what I'm going

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Speaker 4: I've said things I shouldn't have said, the repairing of

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Speaker 4: I've just you know, of course that's not the dad

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Speaker 4: I said to Jesture, kind of saying, wow, that was

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Speaker 4: a big blow up. Hey, once they're.

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Speaker 3: Calm, yeah, Like so do you think just walking away

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Speaker 3: adding distance at that point?

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Speaker 4: I think it depends. So when they're really calm, if

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Speaker 4: they look make Ifhyby a fly off like that again

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Speaker 4: to want me to stay there, yeah, right, walk away.

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Speaker 4: So in other words, we're going to use We're going

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Speaker 4: to work together to work out how do I support

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Speaker 4: you when your immature brain has flipped its lips right,

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Speaker 4: because they won't do it at school, Jason, hold it

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Speaker 4: in until they get home, right, and that's after the

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Speaker 4: boy's gone and had a pool. Before he can do that.

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Speaker 1: You need you need Maggie on speed dialing.

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Speaker 5: Oh, absolutely, forget that. Maggie. We've got a spare room.

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Speaker 5: I don't know if you're looking to get out of

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Speaker 4: Can I just start right there? You are manifesting his reality.

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Speaker 4: So I would say, he's just wonderful and see the change.

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Speaker 5: He's a wonderful liability.

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Speaker 1: Mag Let's rebatch him. Is the shining light of your life.

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Speaker 5: It's shining light. Let's keep that in mindment.

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Speaker 5: Should we do noodles or dumplings? And this is his

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Speaker 3: Now that you say, Now that you say they're like

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Speaker 5: Was like looking in a mirror, which is a terrifying Maggie,

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Speaker 5: congratulations on this series.

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Speaker 4: It is an absolute were back in the chair. But Juso,

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Speaker 4: I was really really excited to be a part of

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Speaker 4: organizing it. And most of my friends are in the show.

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Speaker 3: All right, there's some great people. Amana Keller, Cake, Richie.

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Speaker 3: It All on ABC I View Maggie, we love you.

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Speaker 4: Let's do it.

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Speaker 5: I'll give you three kids to take home.

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