WEBVTT - You are Mum, you know nothing!

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<v Speaker 1>Apod Shape Production.

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<v Speaker 2>Welcome back to another episode of Am I A Bad Mom?

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<v Speaker 1>Podcast?

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<v Speaker 3>I did your trick where you say, put their lunch bags,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, like the proper like lunch bags. Put them

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<v Speaker 3>in the dishwasher like you said to do, like just

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<v Speaker 3>put a load on and all the rest.

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<v Speaker 4>Now they came out alright.

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<v Speaker 1>I put them in the washing machine.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh I think you told me, dishwasher. That's hats fuck

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<v Speaker 4>well Sam, dish washer. It came up still good.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, Well, lunch doesn't take.

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<v Speaker 3>The mold out of them, though, the mold spots, like

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<v Speaker 3>the tiny little when I'm saying mold, I don't send

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<v Speaker 3>my kids with mold inside. But it was just like

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<v Speaker 3>the fabric on the outside of a lunch bag. It

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<v Speaker 3>had tiny little spots on it, and I was hoping

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<v Speaker 3>that that maybe it would have come out in the

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<v Speaker 3>washing machine.

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<v Speaker 4>But do you know what I did? Threw it out,

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<v Speaker 4>so bad of me, and then I got them one

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<v Speaker 4>for a Christmas present.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I do that.

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<v Speaker 2>Christmas is so bloody expensive, and then there's still stuff

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<v Speaker 2>you need to but I put it underwear, nickers and socks,

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<v Speaker 2>and they're stocking every.

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<v Speaker 4>Year every year.

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<v Speaker 3>I feel like that's a present that's like almost generations

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<v Speaker 3>like handed down. You just knew that you didn't have

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<v Speaker 3>to buy if you were running short on undies towards

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<v Speaker 3>the back end of the year, you knew you didn't

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<v Speaker 3>have to buy any because Mum would have always bought it. Like,

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<v Speaker 3>no matter what age.

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<v Speaker 4>One still does it. It's random.

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<v Speaker 3>She brought me two pairs of undies and put them

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<v Speaker 3>in my I was like, why did you buy me undies?

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<v Speaker 3>Because we just It's always something that you need.

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<v Speaker 2>But it's also something that you don't buy for yourself.

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<v Speaker 2>I remember reading something recently and it said, don't worry

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<v Speaker 2>about that cute little outfit for your kid.

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<v Speaker 1>You need a new bra.

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<v Speaker 4>I know.

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<v Speaker 3>I've got a friend she was saying that her husband

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<v Speaker 3>has worn these pair of undies for twelve years.

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<v Speaker 4>They've lasted twelve years. Comfortable, that's what he calls them. Comfy.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, and it's like this on joke because they're like

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<v Speaker 3>they've got holes in them onsides, like wear his hips up.

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<v Speaker 4>We still won't give them up to twelve years.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, nothing has held You might as well just wear

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<v Speaker 3>nothing because nothing's being held together.

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<v Speaker 1>Want a return on your investment, though, twelve twelve years.

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<v Speaker 4>Twelve years. I'm all for paying more at the start.

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<v Speaker 3>If you are going to get more of aware out

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<v Speaker 3>of them, not just knickers, but like anything. But twelve

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<v Speaker 3>years out of one pery drugs, that's a solid effort.

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<v Speaker 2>I've got some pretty horrible underwear now I think about it.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it's comfortable.

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<v Speaker 5>How old are they where I am aut am?

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<v Speaker 2>I bad mum for not having any sympathy. As we know,

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<v Speaker 2>it took me about two years to convince my girls

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<v Speaker 2>to actually try and get a job, and now they

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<v Speaker 2>both have part time jobs smackers. Ye Holly, I'm finding

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<v Speaker 2>really builds it up before she has a shift, she

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<v Speaker 2>gets anxious, she gets worried about it. I said to

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<v Speaker 2>her on a couple of occasions, if you don't like

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<v Speaker 2>it there and you don't want to do that job,

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<v Speaker 2>you need to find another job first. When you get

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<v Speaker 2>offered that role, you can then quit this one. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>you don't just quit after a few months. I had

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<v Speaker 2>to do the whole chat about how it looks on

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<v Speaker 2>your CV if you've gone to do a job and

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<v Speaker 2>then three weeks later you've left, and all the rest

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<v Speaker 2>of it, and the fact that it's so much easier

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<v Speaker 2>to get a job when you're in a job. I've

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<v Speaker 2>had all those conversations. I think what it turned out

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<v Speaker 2>to be was that she didn't really want any job.

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<v Speaker 2>So that's her, and Amelia just gets on with it

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<v Speaker 2>and goes.

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<v Speaker 3>Can we just talk about like the part that comes

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<v Speaker 3>with that, Katie is for someone that has sat and

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<v Speaker 3>watched your girls grow. It's so funny to hear you

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<v Speaker 3>say that, because in my hair.

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<v Speaker 1>It'd be the other way.

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<v Speaker 4>I had the roles reversed, right.

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<v Speaker 3>I had meals being a little bit more reserved, probably

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<v Speaker 3>not loving it, don't want to really go, I don't

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<v Speaker 3>want to get dirty.

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<v Speaker 4>Kind of vibe. Holly would never have picked it, I know.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you know what's so interesting?

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<v Speaker 2>Because I was exactly the same, and you would think

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<v Speaker 2>that by looking at the differences in them, that is

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<v Speaker 2>what you would assume. When they were in prep in

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<v Speaker 2>primary school, they were in class together, and I remember

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<v Speaker 2>they said, grade one, do you want to split them up?

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<v Speaker 2>And that was important to me because they're identical twins,

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<v Speaker 2>so no one really knew which one they were, and

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<v Speaker 2>they kind of didn't have their own identity, and I

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<v Speaker 2>thought they'd be able to have their own friends. You know,

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<v Speaker 2>they'd be able to see what individually they're good at

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<v Speaker 2>and all the rest of it.

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<v Speaker 1>And so I agree, and I was exactly the same.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, Amelia is going to really struggle.

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<v Speaker 2>Colly's teacher said she walked in that day and she

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<v Speaker 2>just clung onto the bookcase and wouldn't move. She was

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<v Speaker 2>so overwhelmed by the fact that her sister wasn't there.

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<v Speaker 2>It was so interesting to me because she doesn't come

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<v Speaker 2>across as that person. She comes across as the more

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<v Speaker 2>confident one.

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<v Speaker 3>When they're together and you put the two of them

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<v Speaker 3>together and they're dynamic, I would say that Hollywood come

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<v Speaker 3>across as being more dominant one. She was the one

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<v Speaker 3>that was happy to be the jokest, like step up

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<v Speaker 3>and like really when they're together in that dynamic, So

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<v Speaker 3>to even like think which is good, just means she's

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<v Speaker 3>growing and finding herself and doing all that stuff.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>So they've come home from work one day, They've both

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<v Speaker 2>had a shift, and they said to me, oh my god, mom,

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<v Speaker 2>that was so stressful. It was so stressful.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, what job were you on? Fries?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh it's stressful, really, Yeah, because everybody wants fries. Every

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<v Speaker 2>customer that comes in they want fries, so you have

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<v Speaker 2>to keep up with the orders.

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<v Speaker 1>Jay has looked at me and gone.

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<v Speaker 2>So you take the frozen fries out of the freezer,

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<v Speaker 2>You put them in the fryer, you press the button

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<v Speaker 2>for it to start. It finishes after thirty seconds or

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<v Speaker 2>whatever it is, and then you hand them to them

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<v Speaker 2>in a cup. This is gonna be the least stressful

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<v Speaker 2>thing that you do. This is the least stressful job

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<v Speaker 2>you will ever have.

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<v Speaker 1>They argue with me, Rach, I've got no idea.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, mate, I did chips on quiz night

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<v Speaker 2>at the local pub Juesday night. I know what it's

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<v Speaker 2>like to make fries for everyone, and you go home

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<v Speaker 2>and you stink and you have to wash your hair

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<v Speaker 2>because it smells like fried oil.

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<v Speaker 4>But I was like this, you got no idea. I've

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<v Speaker 4>got no idea. I was like, mate, I've never had

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<v Speaker 4>anything stressful in your life.

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<v Speaker 2>I have done so many jobs like that part time job.

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<v Speaker 3>I just love that you're still explaining yourself about having

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<v Speaker 3>no idea, Like, why do they think at that point

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<v Speaker 3>You've got no idea?

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<v Speaker 4>You've done nothing stressful.

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<v Speaker 3>You only raised two identical twins till at the age

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<v Speaker 3>of sixteen.

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<v Speaker 4>So far and you got no idea.

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<v Speaker 2>I've got no idea. It just blows my mind. And

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<v Speaker 2>they're so sure of themselves. You've got no idea. No,

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<v Speaker 2>you wouldn't have done this. I'm like, mate, you do

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<v Speaker 2>three hour shifts, Wait until you do eight hours.

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<v Speaker 4>Wait until you do eight hours.

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<v Speaker 3>Were they both on fries at the same time, so

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<v Speaker 3>don't even get me started.

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<v Speaker 2>When they're on bev cell. That's next level stress apparently,

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<v Speaker 2>And they will not hear me say this is the

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<v Speaker 2>least stressful thing you're ever gonna do.

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<v Speaker 3>I am not taking away because I understand that at

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<v Speaker 3>their age and their brain capacity, this is huge for them.

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<v Speaker 4>But gosh, it's just wonderful.

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<v Speaker 2>I find it very amusing when they look at what

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<v Speaker 2>shifts they've got for the next week and they go,

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<v Speaker 2>oh my god, it's like three and a half hours

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<v Speaker 2>that one. It seems so long.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, does it?

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<v Speaker 3>I imagine that three and a half hours if you

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<v Speaker 3>left the money in your account long enough to be

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<v Speaker 3>able to spend it over three and a half hours.

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<v Speaker 4>Like, there's both sides of it. For me, I was

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<v Speaker 4>so work.

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<v Speaker 3>And money driven at their age, I was like, yeah, no,

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<v Speaker 3>I gotta work because I love the money part of it,

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<v Speaker 3>Like I loved that reward part, Like I always understood

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<v Speaker 3>the reward part, but the stress lever I never really

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know. I don't remember being super stressed at

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<v Speaker 3>their age.

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<v Speaker 2>I did say to them, I was like, really, if

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<v Speaker 2>you look at the black and white of it, you're

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<v Speaker 2>telling me that three hours making hot chips is stressful.

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<v Speaker 4>I think resilience building.

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<v Speaker 3>Go and take them on an excursion or a camp

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<v Speaker 3>or like climbing the mountain.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I think they need the second job. Yeah, it

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<v Speaker 1>should have been.

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<v Speaker 2>Am I a bad mum for not telling them about life?

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<v Speaker 2>I worked in a supermarket on the checkout and did

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<v Speaker 2>eight hour shifts?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah I did. I think probably, I don't want to

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<v Speaker 4>say it. It might be illegal, but it's like I

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<v Speaker 4>did twelve hour days.

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<v Speaker 3>We did seven to seven on a Sunday because like

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<v Speaker 3>Sundays were extra I would work seven am until seven

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<v Speaker 3>pm at the cheesecake shop, solid because I was like,

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<v Speaker 3>oh that's cash money for me. Yeah, but that was

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<v Speaker 3>like the longest twelve hours of my life.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, so boring, so boring, stressful.

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<v Speaker 3>Cutting up cheesecakes, taking Pablo over out of the Ovenlike.

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<v Speaker 2>One day you will wish you were doing a three

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<v Speaker 2>hour shift on fries.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, fries. Do you know the most stressful part of

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<v Speaker 3>that for me? If I was on fries would be

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<v Speaker 3>not to have one.

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<v Speaker 4>That would be stressful. I'd be making there. I'd like,

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<v Speaker 4>well for me, right, stress on not eating? That would

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<v Speaker 4>be me.

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<v Speaker 3>But if you had to do a three hour shift

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<v Speaker 3>at mc donald's, what area would you be in?

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<v Speaker 1>I'd want to make the burgers. Oh, no, drive three,

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<v Speaker 1>drive through?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I don't think I'd want to be in front

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<v Speaker 3>counter because that would then include cleaning the toilets. And

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<v Speaker 3>everybody knows that McDonald's toilets when like your kids are

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<v Speaker 3>busting and they're like about to.

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<v Speaker 4>Like shit their pants or something.

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<v Speaker 3>Your lives are like McDonald's pull in quick and they

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<v Speaker 3>destroy the toilet.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you know what that job is called Keo's Coast.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, Keio's Coast.

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<v Speaker 2>They make it stressful, So good.

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<v Speaker 4>Not doing that role.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh, make burger's out the back face absolutely