Speaker 1: Apod Shape Production.
Speaker 2: Welcome back to another episode of Am I A Bad Mom?
Speaker 1: Podcast?
Speaker 3: I did your trick where you say, put their lunch bags,
Speaker 3: you know, like the proper like lunch bags. Put them
Speaker 3: in the dishwasher like you said to do, like just
Speaker 3: put a load on and all the rest.
Speaker 4: Now they came out alright.
Speaker 1: I put them in the washing machine.
Speaker 4: Oh I think you told me, dishwasher. That's hats fuck
Speaker 4: well Sam, dish washer. It came up still good.
Speaker 1: Okay, Well, lunch doesn't take.
Speaker 3: The mold out of them, though, the mold spots, like
Speaker 3: the tiny little when I'm saying mold, I don't send
Speaker 3: my kids with mold inside. But it was just like
Speaker 3: the fabric on the outside of a lunch bag. It
Speaker 3: had tiny little spots on it, and I was hoping
Speaker 3: that that maybe it would have come out in the
Speaker 3: washing machine.
Speaker 4: But do you know what I did? Threw it out,
Speaker 4: so bad of me, and then I got them one
Speaker 4: for a Christmas present.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I do that.
Speaker 2: Christmas is so bloody expensive, and then there's still stuff
Speaker 2: you need to but I put it underwear, nickers and socks,
Speaker 2: and they're stocking every.
Speaker 4: Year every year.
Speaker 3: I feel like that's a present that's like almost generations
Speaker 3: like handed down. You just knew that you didn't have
Speaker 3: to buy if you were running short on undies towards
Speaker 3: the back end of the year, you knew you didn't
Speaker 3: have to buy any because Mum would have always bought it. Like,
Speaker 3: no matter what age.
Speaker 4: One still does it. It's random.
Speaker 3: She brought me two pairs of undies and put them
Speaker 3: in my I was like, why did you buy me undies?
Speaker 3: Because we just It's always something that you need.
Speaker 2: But it's also something that you don't buy for yourself.
Speaker 2: I remember reading something recently and it said, don't worry
Speaker 2: about that cute little outfit for your kid.
Speaker 1: You need a new bra.
Speaker 4: I know.
Speaker 3: I've got a friend she was saying that her husband
Speaker 3: has worn these pair of undies for twelve years.
Speaker 4: They've lasted twelve years. Comfortable, that's what he calls them. Comfy.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and it's like this on joke because they're like
Speaker 3: they've got holes in them onsides, like wear his hips up.
Speaker 4: We still won't give them up to twelve years.
Speaker 3: Yeah, nothing has held You might as well just wear
Speaker 3: nothing because nothing's being held together.
Speaker 1: Want a return on your investment, though, twelve twelve years.
Speaker 4: Twelve years. I'm all for paying more at the start.
Speaker 3: If you are going to get more of aware out
Speaker 3: of them, not just knickers, but like anything. But twelve
Speaker 3: years out of one pery drugs, that's a solid effort.
Speaker 2: I've got some pretty horrible underwear now I think about it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's comfortable.
Speaker 5: How old are they where I am aut am?
Speaker 2: I bad mum for not having any sympathy. As we know,
Speaker 2: it took me about two years to convince my girls
Speaker 2: to actually try and get a job, and now they
Speaker 2: both have part time jobs smackers. Ye Holly, I'm finding
Speaker 2: really builds it up before she has a shift, she
Speaker 2: gets anxious, she gets worried about it. I said to
Speaker 2: her on a couple of occasions, if you don't like
Speaker 2: it there and you don't want to do that job,
Speaker 2: you need to find another job first. When you get
Speaker 2: offered that role, you can then quit this one. Yeah,
Speaker 2: you don't just quit after a few months. I had
Speaker 2: to do the whole chat about how it looks on
Speaker 2: your CV if you've gone to do a job and
Speaker 2: then three weeks later you've left, and all the rest
Speaker 2: of it, and the fact that it's so much easier
Speaker 2: to get a job when you're in a job. I've
Speaker 2: had all those conversations. I think what it turned out
Speaker 2: to be was that she didn't really want any job.
Speaker 2: So that's her, and Amelia just gets on with it
Speaker 2: and goes.
Speaker 3: Can we just talk about like the part that comes
Speaker 3: with that, Katie is for someone that has sat and
Speaker 3: watched your girls grow. It's so funny to hear you
Speaker 3: say that, because in my hair.
Speaker 1: It'd be the other way.
Speaker 4: I had the roles reversed, right.
Speaker 3: I had meals being a little bit more reserved, probably
Speaker 3: not loving it, don't want to really go, I don't
Speaker 3: want to get dirty.
Speaker 4: Kind of vibe. Holly would never have picked it, I know.
Speaker 1: Do you know what's so interesting?
Speaker 2: Because I was exactly the same, and you would think
Speaker 2: that by looking at the differences in them, that is
Speaker 2: what you would assume. When they were in prep in
Speaker 2: primary school, they were in class together, and I remember
Speaker 2: they said, grade one, do you want to split them up?
Speaker 2: And that was important to me because they're identical twins,
Speaker 2: so no one really knew which one they were, and
Speaker 2: they kind of didn't have their own identity, and I
Speaker 2: thought they'd be able to have their own friends. You know,
Speaker 2: they'd be able to see what individually they're good at
Speaker 2: and all the rest of it.
Speaker 1: And so I agree, and I was exactly the same.
Speaker 1: I was like, Amelia is going to really struggle.
Speaker 2: Colly's teacher said she walked in that day and she
Speaker 2: just clung onto the bookcase and wouldn't move. She was
Speaker 2: so overwhelmed by the fact that her sister wasn't there.
Speaker 2: It was so interesting to me because she doesn't come
Speaker 2: across as that person. She comes across as the more
Speaker 2: confident one.
Speaker 3: When they're together and you put the two of them
Speaker 3: together and they're dynamic, I would say that Hollywood come
Speaker 3: across as being more dominant one. She was the one
Speaker 3: that was happy to be the jokest, like step up
Speaker 3: and like really when they're together in that dynamic, So
Speaker 3: to even like think which is good, just means she's
Speaker 3: growing and finding herself and doing all that stuff.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: So they've come home from work one day, They've both
Speaker 2: had a shift, and they said to me, oh my god, mom,
Speaker 2: that was so stressful. It was so stressful.
Speaker 1: I was like, what job were you on? Fries?
Speaker 2: Oh it's stressful, really, Yeah, because everybody wants fries. Every
Speaker 2: customer that comes in they want fries, so you have
Speaker 2: to keep up with the orders.
Speaker 1: Jay has looked at me and gone.
Speaker 2: So you take the frozen fries out of the freezer,
Speaker 2: You put them in the fryer, you press the button
Speaker 2: for it to start. It finishes after thirty seconds or
Speaker 2: whatever it is, and then you hand them to them
Speaker 2: in a cup. This is gonna be the least stressful
Speaker 2: thing that you do. This is the least stressful job
Speaker 2: you will ever have.
Speaker 1: They argue with me, Rach, I've got no idea.
Speaker 2: I was like, mate, I did chips on quiz night
Speaker 2: at the local pub Juesday night. I know what it's
Speaker 2: like to make fries for everyone, and you go home
Speaker 2: and you stink and you have to wash your hair
Speaker 2: because it smells like fried oil.
Speaker 4: But I was like this, you got no idea. I've
Speaker 4: got no idea. I was like, mate, I've never had
Speaker 4: anything stressful in your life.
Speaker 2: I have done so many jobs like that part time job.
Speaker 3: I just love that you're still explaining yourself about having
Speaker 3: no idea, Like, why do they think at that point
Speaker 3: You've got no idea?
Speaker 4: You've done nothing stressful.
Speaker 3: You only raised two identical twins till at the age
Speaker 3: of sixteen.
Speaker 4: So far and you got no idea.
Speaker 2: I've got no idea. It just blows my mind. And
Speaker 2: they're so sure of themselves. You've got no idea. No,
Speaker 2: you wouldn't have done this. I'm like, mate, you do
Speaker 2: three hour shifts, Wait until you do eight hours.
Speaker 4: Wait until you do eight hours.
Speaker 3: Were they both on fries at the same time, so
Speaker 3: don't even get me started.
Speaker 2: When they're on bev cell. That's next level stress apparently,
Speaker 2: And they will not hear me say this is the
Speaker 2: least stressful thing you're ever gonna do.
Speaker 3: I am not taking away because I understand that at
Speaker 3: their age and their brain capacity, this is huge for them.
Speaker 4: But gosh, it's just wonderful.
Speaker 2: I find it very amusing when they look at what
Speaker 2: shifts they've got for the next week and they go,
Speaker 2: oh my god, it's like three and a half hours
Speaker 2: that one. It seems so long.
Speaker 1: I'm like, does it?
Speaker 3: I imagine that three and a half hours if you
Speaker 3: left the money in your account long enough to be
Speaker 3: able to spend it over three and a half hours.
Speaker 4: Like, there's both sides of it. For me, I was
Speaker 4: so work.
Speaker 3: And money driven at their age, I was like, yeah, no,
Speaker 3: I gotta work because I love the money part of it,
Speaker 3: Like I loved that reward part, Like I always understood
Speaker 3: the reward part, but the stress lever I never really
Speaker 3: I don't know. I don't remember being super stressed at
Speaker 3: their age.
Speaker 2: I did say to them, I was like, really, if
Speaker 2: you look at the black and white of it, you're
Speaker 2: telling me that three hours making hot chips is stressful.
Speaker 4: I think resilience building.
Speaker 3: Go and take them on an excursion or a camp
Speaker 3: or like climbing the mountain.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think they need the second job. Yeah, it
Speaker 1: should have been.
Speaker 2: Am I a bad mum for not telling them about life?
Speaker 2: I worked in a supermarket on the checkout and did
Speaker 2: eight hour shifts?
Speaker 4: Yeah I did. I think probably, I don't want to
Speaker 4: say it. It might be illegal, but it's like I
Speaker 4: did twelve hour days.
Speaker 3: We did seven to seven on a Sunday because like
Speaker 3: Sundays were extra I would work seven am until seven
Speaker 3: pm at the cheesecake shop, solid because I was like,
Speaker 3: oh that's cash money for me. Yeah, but that was
Speaker 3: like the longest twelve hours of my life.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so boring, so boring, stressful.
Speaker 3: Cutting up cheesecakes, taking Pablo over out of the Ovenlike.
Speaker 2: One day you will wish you were doing a three
Speaker 2: hour shift on fries.
Speaker 3: Yeah, fries. Do you know the most stressful part of
Speaker 3: that for me? If I was on fries would be
Speaker 3: not to have one.
Speaker 4: That would be stressful. I'd be making there. I'd like,
Speaker 4: well for me, right, stress on not eating? That would
Speaker 4: be me.
Speaker 3: But if you had to do a three hour shift
Speaker 3: at mc donald's, what area would you be in?
Speaker 1: I'd want to make the burgers. Oh, no, drive three,
Speaker 1: drive through?
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't think I'd want to be in front
Speaker 3: counter because that would then include cleaning the toilets. And
Speaker 3: everybody knows that McDonald's toilets when like your kids are
Speaker 3: busting and they're like about to.
Speaker 4: Like shit their pants or something.
Speaker 3: Your lives are like McDonald's pull in quick and they
Speaker 3: destroy the toilet.
Speaker 1: Do you know what that job is called Keo's Coast.
Speaker 4: Yeah, Keio's Coast.
Speaker 2: They make it stressful, So good.
Speaker 4: Not doing that role.
Speaker 3: Oh, make burger's out the back face absolutely